ALL YOUR BURNING QUESTIONS TO MEN ANSWERED BY A SINGLE/SUPER HOT/SUPER NICE MAN

So, before we get started, I wanted to say that this is a bonus episode.

I did one earlier today,

and

I decided to do this super fun episode live from a place that I absolutely love here in LA called Better Than Sex.

It is a dessert and sexy drinks restaurant.

I love the atmosphere, it's definitely great for a date night, fabulous for a couple, but it's a really fun place as well.

well.

If you just want to go hang out with your friends, you know, have a sexy drink.

If you're single like me, it definitely puts you in the mood to go out and about after that.

And I love them so much.

I thought it was a very appropriate place to record this episode with a dear friend of mine, a guy that I just met a little while ago,

to answer all your burning questions that you send me.

for guys like i get questions every single week uh from girls asking why do men do that?

Why do men do that?

While so, and I'm since I'm not a guy, I decided I needed to bring a guy to answer guy questions.

So we did it live.

It was really fun from this great place, and I really hope you guys are enjoying it.

I'm putting the audio episode here, and I'm also going to do a mini video episode that will be available on Spotify only.

I hope you guys enjoy it.

I hope you have a great time.

Keep sending questions.

I love so much hearing from you.

And like we say on the episode, don't forget to

be out there.

Go mingle.

Go meet new people.

You never know.

I know dating apps are great, but sometimes you really never know who you're going to meet organically.

So put yourself out there, wear your best smile, and really just go for it.

Many, many kisses, and I'll see you guys soon.

Hope you enjoyed this episode.

Okay, so

this is a really fun, different episode of Cat on the Loose because we are doing it live from one of my favorite places in LA.

It's called Better Than Sex.

It's a dessert and sexy drinks restaurant.

And the vibe here, I wish you guys were here, but go to my Instagram and check out the place because it's so gorgeous and it's really sexy.

And I am here with a really cool guy that is willing to answer all the questions that you girls send me all the time about guys.

I'm a girl, obviously.

I like guys, obviously, but I don't know what men think.

So, here is my dear, really handsome friend Elliot.

Hi, Elliot.

Thank you for having me.

Thank you so much for doing this.

And we were saying before I got started, your game to answer

anything.

Let's do it.

So, we're armed with 10 million delicious desserts.

I have a plate of four gasm in front of me,

which is basically four fantastic pieces of delicious cake.

And you have the pumpkin.

Pumpkin pie made of pumpkin.

Pumpkin away.

And I have like this fantastic drink, which is like, it's so gooey, but it's so sexy.

It has like champagne and 10 million pounds of sugar in it.

And you were drinking whiskey.

Whiskey.

Called the penetration.

The penetration.

And it looks really nice and it looks sexy.

So we were saying this place, they advertise it as like the perfect place for dates.

But I think even if you want to come with your friends and to have fun and get you in the mood to go out there and flirt and

enjoy some sugar and dessert, it's it's a lot of fun, right?

Very much fun.

So far, so good.

I'm not a whiskey drinker, but I was telling you, I love guys that drink whiskey.

And that's how, so let's, before we talk, before we answer the questions, let's rewind the stape a little bit.

Do you want another drink?

Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah.

Are you going to order the same or are you going to order the same?

I don't know.

Is there another bourbon?

I didn't even see it.

I don't know.

You can check the menu.

If you find an we're gonna drink and eat at the same time.

And guys.

Oh my god.

These cakes are like insane.

Forget them.

You wanna try mine?

You can.

I am.

You wanna try mine?

I will.

Anyways,

we met

like what?

Two weeks ago or something?

Yeah, about two weeks ago.

We were at Wally's and a guy that we both know was kind of like it was so embarrassing because he tossed me.

He's like, go meet this guy, go meet this guy.

And the minute we met, you told me that your ex-wife's name is Catherine.

Yes, with a K.

So we looked at each other like, okay, I don't think we're gonna date.

Because you're probably a little traumatized.

Yeah.

Was she a bitch?

She's unforgiving.

You don't want to say anything bad about her.

Oh, that's very classy of you.

I love that.

I think it's a really red flag when guys say something bad about somebody they dated before.

Exactly.

And I believe in karma.

So you always just want to wish the best for

you.

Yeah.

1 million percent meets you.

I think it's very classy to not say anything bad about anybody that you dated before.

But you were at Wally's.

And I love that place because I love wine and it's a wine and cheese store.

I love sitting there and just you know drinking wine and eating a lot of cheese.

But you were buying like this crazy fancy expensive scotch.

I sure did so I'm very bougie about my about your whiskey.

Yeah and this this was scotch so it was the most expensive scotch they had.

You told me it was like 600 bottles.

650.

600 bucks a bottle.

What was it called again?

It's it's

I'm gonna forget, but it's aged 25 years.

So it's the oldest aged

scotch that they had imported from Ireland, earlier.

And plus, you buy it at Wally's, which is already overpriced.

It's like global damage.

I'm definitely paying their upmark.

However, I have to say, when I saw you buying the whiskey, not because of the price, but I like men that have good taste because I have good taste and I am bougie about my wine and my food.

I prefer quality as opposed to quantity.

I'm like, I want to be friends with this guy.

Even if we're not going to date, let's be friends.

And you are so sweet about doing the podcast, talking.

You're like just an all-around, really nice guy

and you were great by the way thank you likewise and another reason so the first question

so we met you're drinking wine drinking whiskey which i love but um you i'm younger than you No, yeah, I'm younger than you.

Yeah, you're younger than me.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I meant to say I'm older than you.

I mean, you look younger than me.

You look the same age.

Maybe.

Yeah, I know I look good for my age.

But I have a thing about dating younger guys.

You have a thing about it?

Like, Like, don't do it?

No, it's not my thing.

Because once in my life, I dated a younger guy, and it was a complete disaster.

I'm not saying you're like that, but I'm just saying I gave it a shot.

It was right after I divorced my husband, many years ago, before my ex-husband died.

And the guy had the mind of like an 86-year-old.

He was like more than 10 years younger than me.

So I was like, okay, whatever.

Let's see what he was.

He was a divorce, everything Everything like sex, and he was so boring, and he didn't want to go out.

He didn't want to socialize.

He didn't want to do anything.

And you know, I'm a very sociable person.

I love dancing.

I love going out.

I love going to restaurants.

And so after that, I was like, okay, maybe it's not for me.

Which should be different, right?

Because you would think if somebody's younger, they have even more energy than you do.

Maybe his life experiences.

Because that's it.

Yeah, I don't know.

It was really weird.

Yeah.

But when you told me your age, and I'm like, okay, I'm older than you.

Most women feel a little intimidated by dating younger guys.

How do you feel?

Because a lot of girls send this question: oh, should I date a younger guy?

Should I hit on a younger guy?

How do you, in general, you think you feel and men feel about dating older women?

I could tell you, men is you go off that old 90s song.

Yeah, age ain't number a number.

So with guys, what is the song?

It's funny.

I just ate like a piece of rose.

Sorry.

My drink has rose petals in it.

So, poor guys.

Can you sing a little bit again, please?

Yeah, AJ Namba Namba.

It's from Aaliyah.

She was a singer.

She's not around anymore.

But yeah,

she was a big RB singer in the 90s.

I know.

She was so pretty.

She died in the plane accent.

Yeah, I remember her.

Oh, yeah.

Tragedy.

So she had that song, and that

just makes perfect sense.

That's pretty much, she spoke to all men's hearts.

You think so?

So you totally date an older,

younger,

you have no prejudice.

It's more about vibes

when it comes to that.

I think you're right because I think ages are in the mind.

Like I said, maybe in the case with this guy that I dated,

he decided in his head he was old and boring.

And I think it's all about, like you said, about energy.

I think what keeps me young is I have crazy energy and I love doing a lot of things.

I'm super active physically.

I like having a lot of sex and I tell people that all the time on my podcast podcast because i think it keeps you young and healthy and i think women should own it right i don't think they should be embarrassed talking about it but it's big taboo in the united states yeah i know you go to brazil or any other country and it's not it's really open and it's really uh

out there in front there's nothing really too taboo no and i worked in the middle east for a little bit yeah where really huge uh i was in amin jordan really yeah i was stationed in afghanistan and iraq and Oh, yeah, can you tell people what you do first?

I forgot.

Retired.

I forgot to tell them.

I know what you do.

Yeah, and now I work in aerospace.

Awesome.

So, but you entered the army?

Yes.

And that's my way of getting out of,

you know, really ghetto Oakland.

That's really nice.

It was definitely a good outlet, you know.

Definitely allowed me to become a man.

And that took you to places all over the world.

And you saw the current show.

Yeah, it saw the world and and came back with a a good perspective you know i i feel for uh the soldiers that didn't really take that perspective they took the negative of it uh but i took it's it's tough positive yeah and you know it's a one-off yeah i i count myself very blessed and lucky to to

i'm sure

yeah

and to be here yeah you know all ten toes all ten fingers all the

body yeah amen all my everything's functional i know everything's is functional.

Girls, for the record.

Everything is in its right place.

Now, do you think, so you've seen other cultures, which is great, because I am from mixed cultures.

My dad was French, my mom was Brazilian.

I grew up here in LA.

I think, in general, Americans are very uptight.

We're talking like law in case there are more people the rest of you.

Americans are more uptight about sex.

They are.

You agree?

Oh, yeah.

And honestly, I think it makes them go darker

because they think they have to be sneaky about it.

When you say go darker, you mean like cheat?

Yeah, like swinger clubs or

clubs.

Yeah, I think it just adds that element of danger.

It adds that element of danger where they just think they're getting away with it.

Yeah.

Living this whole lifestyle.

Yeah, you shouldn't be able to.

But women, too, right?

I think women, and I'm not saying all of them, but I think in general,

like even my girlfriends, I have some American girls, you talk about like using a vibrator, or you talk about telling your guy what you like to do in bed, and they're like, oh my god,

or wearing like crazy sexy lingerie.

Everything is a problem for a lot of these girls, maybe because of how they're brought up.

I don't know if it's the culture.

It's the culture.

Have you dated American girls?

Was your ex-wife Catherine American girl?

Yeah.

Very, very sheltered, very old school Catholic raised.

And so that limit exploration,

especially in the bedroom.

I think, especially for a young couple, you really want to be adventurous and have this status of

in the relationship that it's going to always be progressive.

Yeah.

You know, because you don't want a dull relationship.

You know, you want to find ways to do that.

Yeah, I think if you don't, and it happens to a lot of couples, it becomes so boring.

Like you said, either you go cheat, like like a lot of guys do, unfortunately, or the marriage ends.

Oops, sorry, didn't I just take you?

Sorry, my knees are

he's crazy tall.

Like, how tall are you?

6'6.

6'6?

I am 5'4.

So I'm like, okay, I can wear my highest heels with this guy.

I love it.

Just pass my shoulders.

I know.

I love that you're very tall.

And yes, I'm going to put photos and videos of him on my social media because I know I'm going to get so many messages from girls asking me like

who is he?

Who is he?

Can I date?

Are you single for the record?

Yes, yeah.

So you're single.

So you were married?

Yes.

You got divorced, you have a kid.

And how long have you been divorced?

Almost five years.

Oh, a long time.

So what happened like during this five years?

So I retired from the military.

No, I just made sure I finished my career, finished my education, went to grad school, and yeah, and then started working on projects

on projects i'm telling him to speak a little louder

i thought my voice was uh authority from the offer

you have like a movie voice

uh but yeah i just made sure i focused on myself and and got back uh physically right yeah i wasn't fat or anything but I wasn't as in shape as I wanted to be so getting back into shape was really important.

So during that time I really got my body in shape, got my mind healthy, and just

pursued my career and it brought me out to LA.

And now you're working in

the aerospace industry.

That's crazy interesting.

Okay, so let's answer a few questions that girls send because I know, as interesting as it is, you know, I'm not an expert.

I do the podcast.

I got a few hairs on my chest, so I think I have to answer for some guys.

And a lot, many times when I go meet guys, they're like, oh, I'm not going to date an expert on sex.

And like, dude, it's the opposite.

I was married for 14 years.

Then you go back into the dating scene.

You're like, what the fuck is going on?

It was a culture shock.

It was a culture shock to me because I was like in this very protective.

You know, my...

ex-husband, my husband, now he's dead, but

he was very like more than protective.

He was very jealous, very controlling.

You know, I was kind of like a Barbie in a box, you know, like long story.

So then when I went back into the real world, it's like I'm learning

all of these things again.

Exactly.

And so, but dating nowadays is very different because 20 years ago, you would basically meet somebody at a bar, right?

Or through a friend.

Yeah, organically.

And like, okay, I like this person.

Now, we talk about it all the time on the podcast with all these dating apps.

It became like ordering fast food, right?

Yes, no, yes, no.

And a lot of men, I'm not saying it's your case, but if it's your case, it's fine.

They feel like, oh my God, there's so many options, so many hot girls, why am I going to pick just one?

So

even like older guys in their 40s, 50s, 60s, they become major players

because there's like all this easy, you know, situation of literally choosing people like you choose food.

So girls ask all the time, how is your experience?

Do you use dating apps?

Do you think it's possible to meet somebody serious on dating apps?

Or in general, man, let's be honest, they just want like a hookup.

Yeah, I think 90% of guys that are on apps are looking for a hookup.

Being on apps, 90%.

Yeah, like your friends tell you that.

Yeah, it's like, oh, and they have a lot of people.

I just want to bang someone.

Yeah.

And then they DTF down the puck.

You know, that is what's going on.

What's DTF?

Yeah, down to fuck.

Down to fuck.

Yeah, so that's.

They literally write it that down.

Yeah, they put it in their profile, or they don't put it in their profile, but when they have conversations with them, that's that's a lot of them lie too, right?

A lot of them lie.

Oh, yeah, hands down.

Like, oh, yeah, I do want a relationship.

Hands down.

But they really just want to.

It's just an old

saying, like, you say what you want them to hear, but it's not that.

Yeah.

Yeah, their intention is going to end.

I'll probably get beat up by a code

I can handle my own.

Listen, yeah, I know it's hard to beat you up,

but I'm just saying.

You're 6'6 and like whatever.

270, yeah.

270 pounds.

Work out a little bit.

But not of fat, by the way, of muscles.

That's right.

You're like the size of this table.

I feel very safe with you.

You should be.

Ain't nobody messing with us.

But you're telling like it is.

Most men are on dating apps to fuck around.

So they will lie.

They will tell you, oh, yeah, and it has happened to me.

I think it has happened to

the apps.

Yeah, I think it's a don't follow.

I think it has happened to all of my girlfriends, to probably almost all of my listeners.

It has happened to me in the past.

That guy's literally,

do you want to order an extra drink?

No one of those?

Yes.

He's ordering the same.

You said you wanted a different one.

Oh, you could do a different one.

No, you drink whatever you want.

Do you have another whiskey drink?

Whiskey would be My Hubby's Nuts.

My Hubby's Nuts.

Midnight Vixen.

And um...

What is the other one?

What was the other one?

Yeah, My Hubby's Nuts?

No, not that one.

The

Midnight Vixen.

Midnight Vixen.

Yeah, it's the one with Cherry shows you.

It's more of a...

It's not a sweet.

It's going to be one of our more alcoholic tasting drinks, but rather.

Shin Bing Red Six.

And you said you had a third one?

It would be the, I believe, the old one, too.

It's just an old-fashioned one.

Old one, too?

Yeah, it's just an old-fashioned one.

Is that just for the old people?

I mean, it's just people who like...

A name inspired by the love of our own.

People who order that are people who don't want to.

No, that's just a regular old-fashioned, right?

He wants an old-fashioned.

Let's do that.

He wants a whiskey.

A what?

A rim job?

Uh, what is that?

Is that a shop?

It's um, those things.

It kind of rim jobs.

So a rim.

Yeah, we'll just do traditional.

A rim job is like they put something yummy all over.

My drink has a white chocolate rim, and yours has like a peanutty.

Yeah, we love a bit rim jump here.

I love this place.

I'm like a regular now.

I come here like every week.

I'm going to do all the episodes.

I've got to speed up the exercises.

There's a whole corner for you, and then like we'll know like we'll use the green room back there.

Listen, you can put my name here, like Cat's Table.

We'll get the situation in this room.

There you go.

I'm going to bring all my guests here.

I like it.

We've got to speed up my workouts after eating all this sugar.

Thank God my dog Phoenix doesn't let me me like take a day off.

So, what was I?

Okay, we were talking about dating apps.

So, let's face it, most men we know they will bullshit.

It has happened to me in the past, it happens to many girls.

They say, Oh, yeah, I want a relationship.

I want to go out to dinner, la la la la.

But honestly, this is what I tell girls.

If you don't, it's completely fine if you just want to have sex, go have sex.

But if you are interested in something more, take your time and do your research about the person, right?

And find out what their real intentions are.

Because guys will be guys, right?

Boys will be boys.

Pretty much.

It's like a shit show in the dating apps, right?

Yeah, right.

But the door swings both ways.

So there's also women that are in the same boat too.

Their pictures are their best pictures, so when they show up, it's not really them.

That's the number one complaint that girls, that guys say, is that women alter their pictures so much.

So girls, seriously, stop doing that.

When you meet somebody, you want them to like you for what you are.

Why the fuck are you gonna change?

Like, you want the guy to be like, oh, disappointed, right?

That's the number one complaint.

And you know what the number one complaint of girls is?

Men lie about how high they are.

No way.

Seriously.

I don't.

I keep saying the same thing.

Stop freaking lying.

If you're five,

six, five, seven, five, eight, own it.

Yeah.

Say, yeah, I'm short.

Maybe you have other qualities, you know?

But men lie all the time, and girls complain because they show up at a date wearing like heels.

You're taller than them.

Yeah, I ideally, I like my guys to be much taller than me if possible, but at the very least the same height.

Thank you.

Old one, too, with an ice ball.

That looks very nice.

Enjoy.

That looks, I told you, I don't drink whiskey, but I am such a sucker.

Oh, I kicked you again.

I'm like crossing my legs under the table and kicking it.

I

changing the subject, we'll go back to the dating apps, but I think eating and drinking is a form of foreplay.

Like this whole restaurant is like, I don't think farplay should be only in bed.

It can be things that you do beforehand.

And Chami eating and drinking is major foreplay.

So always I love guys that drink whiskey because, and I'm not saying we're not on a date.

We're not on a date.

But it really turns me on.

The last guy I was dating, I remember on our third or fourth date, we had not even kissed.

He was taking his time and we were talking and I liked it because he was being a gentleman.

And then we went, I think, to the Soul House and he ordered whiskey.

And he was like, I think I want to kiss you.

Can you?

Can I?

And I'm like, yes, because I like

whiskey.

Do you have anything like that that turns you on if a girl drinks or eats or does when you're on a date?

Honestly, I like eye connection.

Like, look at me when I'm talking to you.

Nothing authoritative like that, but it it just makes you point because a lot with all today's distractions.

I know everyone's on their phone, someone's that would be crazy rude.

Like, can you imagine being on a date and being like, Excuse me, ta-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.

Did anybody ever do that to you?

Like, you're on

time, yeah, like in the middle of the day, they'll just be on their phone.

Come on, you're kidding me, yeah, that's super disrespectful.

They didn't even look like their picture either, so it's like,

I'm ready to go.

So, when you get there, okay, you met someone on the dating app,

you invite them to dinner or coffee or what?

Oh, coffee is my go-to now.

Yeah.

Okay, a lot of people are doing that.

Yeah, because dinner is expensive and it gets expensive.

Dating gets expensive.

And even if you weren't, like you said, let's say the person gets there and it's completely different from what you expected.

Then you gotta sit around there for like two, three hours like, oh, I want to leave home.

If you're not a man, like, if you're not a nice guy,

then you'll get up and leave.

But for me, being a nice guy, I'm going to

suck it up.

Yeah, and I'm going to, because I wouldn't want anybody to do that to me.

I know.

That was saying, do on to others, right?

I agree.

I tell you, I used to do only dinner dates because, I don't know, I thought it gives you time to get to know the person.

But like you said, so many times I went on dates and the minute I see the guy, like, yeah, he doesn't look like his pictures or he's so fucking boring or he's a vegetarian.

you know,

something.

Yeah, like, well, it's okay being short, but don't lie about it.

Yeah, they lie about it.

I have gone on dates with guys that they're like, oh, I'm 5'9, I'm 5'10, and then they show up and they're like 5'5 or 5'4.

Because I know my height.

So if I put a 3-inch heel, I know exactly I'm gonna be like 5'6 or 5'7, you know?

And then, yeah, then you gotta sit there forever with the person.

You're like, ugh, just get me out of here.

So I did agree to go on one coffee date.

It ended up being a total disaster, but I ended up dating the person for four months.

So

not sure.

Why four months?

Because after four months, that's a whole other episode.

I don't want to talk about him

because I already did the episode.

It didn't work out for whatever reason.

But we did date after the shitty date, after the shitty coffee date for four months.

But

I think I agree with you.

I think coffee is better.

And you can still have the same conversation as for, you know,

Throughout that time.

Yeah, but the only thing is not coffee during the day because if you go on coffee during the day,

I'm concentrated.

I'm thinking of work during the day.

To me, I don't have like the mood.

You know, I can't be like in a mood.

Oh, let me, you know, I'm not in the dating mood when I get it.

Saturday morning?

Yeah.

Saturday or Sunday?

Yeah.

Or maybe what do you feel about like one drink, like a happy hour day?

Happy hour, perfect.

I think so too.

because it's a little more relaxing right and if you really like the person you got like hey do you want to have another drink

if you don't like the person like oh my god I'm so sorry I planned dinner with my friends bye

I think that would be my first choice yeah but not here better than sex

this is gonna be your special style yeah I think this is no if even would you bring a first date here no me neither yeah I agree with you on that this would be like a fourth or fifth date when intimate CRA happens once.

And then now you come here to kind of spice it up just that little bit.

If you went on three, four dates and you still didn't have sex and you're like, come on, honey, let's go.

Yeah, there you go.

There's the door.

Let's have sex already.

If you don't score after you come to this place,

maybe you need to go home and regroup.

And like, oh my god, we're talking so much and I haven't even asked.

Okay, so we know the dating apps, yeah, uh, watch your back, basically, right?

If you're a girl, yeah, and vice versa.

I mean, it goes for everyone, but uh, but definitely female.

Uh, I think a comedian said it best: women are like always carrying around a hundred thousand dollars, you know, and and every guy wants part of that treasure.

So, it's the I

couldn't have a daughter because I would, any guy that looks at her hundred thousand dollars, I would just destroy it.

Bring him up to that, yeah.

So, I definitely, definitely give it more than him.

But do you think most guys, okay, that's what they want,

but so once they get it, that's it?

I think that

half the power goes away.

Always?

Yeah, almost every time.

So how do you stay in a nice

relationship?

You go to places like Better Than Sex.

You

keep it like you keep it to that 100.

What you got was just a taste of what I could do.

You know, not like the show.

This is what I was going to say.

I kind of disagree with you because I think, at least to me, once you have sex with someone, yeah, the first time it's fun, it's exciting.

But I think what makes it even better is the intimacy that you start building up with that person.

You get to know their body, you get to know what they like, and then you have the freedom to have these conversations like, oh, what are your fantasies?

What do you want to do with bed?

I think that's when the fun starts.

Yeah.

Because first time sex with someone can be really awkward, right?

You've never seen those parts before.

So

you end up saying, oh, what is that?

That's one question that girls send a lot.

Do you

yourself and do you think most men are very

anxious, apprehensive, like, oh, I'm dating this girl, I'm going to have sex with her the first time.

Are you all you're thinking is like, I'm going to have sex with this girl that I really like?

Or you're apprehensive, like, oh, how am I performance is going to be?

How is she going to be?

Is she going to come?

Or

that's the afterthought.

Yeah, the anxiety is the afterthought.

The initial thought is just, I just want to get it, get the nut off.

I just wanna fucking

end it.

But then, afterwards, you're like, you're thinking of your performance afterwards.

You're wondering, was I sweating on her?

Was I sweating?

Girls, oh my god, I'm so sorry.

I keep kicking you.

I keep like,

no, because

your legs are so long, so I keep like

crossing my legs.

Okay, so the first time sex is like a big...

Sorry, guys, if you listen to like extra noises because the restaurant is getting busy and people are ordering food next to us, but I think they can still hear it as well.

So the first time sex, do you think it's a lot more anxiety in terms of performance?

Or no, he's shaking his head.

No.

No.

You just want to do it.

Yeah.

It just.

And what do you think makes a guy say, oh, this was really good.

I want to keep dating her.

How fast he did.

How fast he busted a nut, yeah.

Really?

Oh, yeah.

I think, because that means he's really thinking about it

and his body's reacting to it.

And then it happens.

And if he's a two-second pump or a two-pump chunk or whatever

slogan that's out there,

he's in love.

Really?

Because he just thought about you.

Because listen, a lot of guys, they're very proud if they can last long to give the girl pleasure those are probably your indicators of players yeah yeah because then you know they're already in the they're more or even narcissistic behavior really yeah because they're not they're not thinking about her they're thinking of himself and how he looks doing this but do you think men in general or even you can speak for yourself when you're in bed with a girl especially the first time or or somebody that you just started meet dating are you worried like oh my god i'm can i make her come am i giving her pleasure

do you feel pressure it's an afterthought yeah it's after it's it's the morning yeah you if you're if you're still there in the morning then i'm kind of thinking about it maybe i can get that morning one in there

round two round two is good

most girls like round two by the way i think most girls are like me i'm gonna speak for myself but i know because women send me messages all the time this is for all of you guys if you're like the guy that oh I'm gonna have sex and sleep and snoring that's it and wake up and the girls don't like that you can rest for a few hours for sure but most girls love sex in the middle of the night like you know when you wake them up and they're not expecting most women love that and most women love having sex in the morning I just learned something new yes I promise you I promise you and very few guys do that I know but girls if you're like sleeping together and when they don't expect it and you like grab her body body and start all over again, I promise you, most women go crazy for that.

And most girls really enjoy morning sex.

Some guys like it, some guys don't.

But even if you're a guy that doesn't like it, try to remember that and you know, do a little something for her.

You know, yeah, because that's totally going to go from

her.

Exactly, exactly.

Because I know girls love that.

I'm a huge, huge morning.

That's one of the things that I miss about being in a relationship because I like, you know, sleeping with somebody and and having morning sex.

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Okay, we're back on a major sugar rush, alcohol rush.

What else is better, right?

We need to go work this out.

Work this off.

But I still have four pieces of cake.

You better help me.

Oh, my God.

I'm still pumping away at my pumpkin.

I'm like on the first

orgasm of the fourth.

It's supposed to be on your second one.

Right?

I'm taking a little bite bite of each one.

Hopefully,

it brings me luck.

So, we're talking a lot about sex because you girls send a lot of sex questions, but a really important one.

So, let's say you're not a player.

You meet somebody on a dating app because you want a relationship, okay?

And you're dating them for a few months.

How long

until you feel it's proper to delete your profile from the dating app?

I would say the second date.

Really already?

Oh my god, I kicked you again.

So sorry.

The second date already?

I think that's too soon.

You think that's too soon?

You don't think so?

I think, yeah, because you can always go back to the app.

I mean, it's not like it's going away.

True.

And sometimes renewing it is better because now you're new.

And they go to the back of your body.

You get it on your back.

You're fresh.

So if the second one and it went really well,

you're gonna focus your attention on that person.

So you think if somebody doesn't do that, I honestly, I think the second date is a little chewsome.

Like I would go on a few dates with a person, have sex with a person, you know, see if that's developing into something.

And then, yeah, respectfully, I'm like, that's what I did.

This guy that I was dating for for months, we went on date after date after date after date.

And I think on the fourth date, either the fourth or the fifth, I forgot, we had sex it was great and he kept he was very nice about like telling me he wanted to see me again which I love in men you know I don't like men that that keep you guessing because I think that's childish yeah so he kept planning date after date after date after date so it turned into you know many many dozens of dates so I think after 10 12 dates whatever it was we're becoming like part a part of each other I was like okay I told him, I said, I'm deleting the app because I felt it was respectful to him as a man.

I think most men would appreciate that.

Do you agree?

Oh yeah, hands down, right?

You guys are there and I think it's up to their preference.

Me, I wouldn't have, I wouldn't exert any control like that.

Right.

You know, it's up to you.

Yeah, me neither.

I would never ask.

Yeah.

But I feel like as a woman, especially maybe because of my job, because I do the sites podcast, I do a lot of Instagram posts, I don't want to feel, I don't want any guy that dates, makes you feel insecure, to feel like, you know, she's fucking around, she's looking at other guys.

So I thought I was doing the proper thing and I said, you know, I deleted the dating app.

Okay, I'm going to concentrate on this guy.

And then months into it, I found out he was still on the dating app.

But he told me that because he was married for 23 years and he had just separated for a year, la la la, it was for his ego.

Like that he was not.

I wish you guys saw his face now.

That's gotta be a lie.

That's a lie.

He said, oh, it's nice for my ego to know that all these women want to go out with me.

He kept saying to me, I'm only with you.

I really like you.

I like our relationship.

When he said that, he needs to delete it.

That's that's then now you're still playing the field.

He did say to me, I'll delete it if you want me to, but I was like, I don't want anybody to.

If you want me to, yeah, if you want me to.

He's trying to shift blame.

But I don't want anybody to do it for me.

You know, I want to do it for me.

It should be automatic.

Yeah, like, oh, she's worse.

This is the purpose of the app.

Exactly.

I don't need it anymore.

So, God's honest truth, because a lot of girls

asked me this question.

Like, they're dating someone.

One girl was dating a guy for like a year.

And he still had it up the whole year.

After a year, yeah.

What context could he have?

Yeah, so that's.

So it's all baloney, right?

If you're dating someone, you're like respectful, you're like, let's focus on each other, right?

And if it doesn't work out, then you go back on the app.

Yeah, girls, you heard it.

I agree.

And this is my problem with dating apps.

I think it makes people like fast food.

And I keep saying that on the podcast.

Because even if you meet somebody amazing and you're like, oh, I like what we have.

We have great sex.

We like the same things.

We're going out.

But the temptation to like, like this guy said, oh, let me see.

Well, I think that's so awful because instead of focusing on quality, you're focusing on everything else.

Exactly right.

And do you think that's what most guys do?

Hands down.

hands down yeah

yeah yeah if they're if they don't let that go but there's also just going back on that you know if it doesn't work out and and they uh

i think guys just

yeah they're tough yeah keep it legit keep it nice i agree keep i this is what i say for men all the time be truthful right be real keep it clean because like you said uh you don't have a daughter but a lot of them have daughters.

And if you don't have daughters, you maybe have a sister, but you have moms.

You have, you know.

So, think of women, how you would like a man to treat the women in your family.

I think if you want to, like, fuck around, just say, like you said, what was the thing that you said, guys, put there, like down to fuck?

Yeah, DTF.

Tell the truth.

If you want to want to understand, if you're playing the field, because they're out there,

you know, they just gotta play it.

Just be truthful

about what it is that you want to do.

I think that's as long as you're telling the truth, I think anything is forgetting.

What really bothers me is when people lie and play games behind each other's back.

That's what I think is disgusting.

You have that saying, you just want to tell them exactly what they want to hear so you can get what you want from them.

But that's not being truthful, right?

No, it's not.

Okay, that would be not a great choice.

But that's true.

I think, yeah,

but when

you are in the field that touches everybody, every human alive, you know, so yeah, you are going to see that.

And I know probably your experience has taught you that not every guy is going to be that honest.

Yeah, what happens to me in my experience, I was always a very picky person.

Like, I'm very picky about who I want, you know, to have a relationship with.

Like I told you, I think I'm a treasure.

That's how I feel, you know.

If girls want to fuck around, go for it.

It's a personal choice.

But of course, every time you get burned, you get pickier and pickier and peakier.

You know, every time I trust someone and something bad happens, I'm like, okay.

You know, now you're not even going to come inside my house.

Oh my god,

I'll give you like a dollar for each time.

I'm kicking him like there is no chamor because your legs are so

practical.

And I'm like very agitated by nature, so I apologize.

And you're so sweet.

but anyway so that's the problem a lot of girls that's what happens to them like me I get so pickier so like now this one relationship that didn't work out

every guy that wants to date me like oh okay like I want to do like an FBI background check

I don't know if it's dating fatigue because I'm I this is what I think Elliot if you give up on finding the right person if you give up on finding love all the bad people win yeah that makes sense That's smart.

Yeah, that makes sense.

Because I know a lot of people are like, oh, never again.

No.

And then the guy pays for all the sins of the guy for him.

I think, no, people are different.

There are wonderful people out there.

There are honest people.

And I think you should never give it up.

You know, having sex, having great dates, meeting nice people, and finding the right partner for you.

So I never give up.

I'm just...

much more cautious.

You know, like when they say something to me next time, I'm going to be like, uh-huh.

okay find balance you're walking from being cautious to making the guy pay for it yeah i agree that's a big difference right nobody should pay for the sins of whatever somebody else do that's a very good point i love so you're walking you're walking that far walking

no i don't want any guy to pay for the sins of any guy i just think we need to be careful because i think dating apps make everything fucked up yeah it does it it's uh you're looking for something that shakes the market right yeah exactly And that's what they did.

Moving on from dating apps, do you have any suggestions where you can meet nice people, nice guys other than dating apps?

Honestly, you have to manifest that.

You know, I really believe in that.

I think that you just go around and you talk and be friendly, be nice.

Yeah.

And

it just comes together for you.

I agree.

Because any venue, any place could be that place.

Totally.

But if you're up there and you have this cautious mind.

I know.

He pointed at me.

If you have this cautious mind, then that's...

It just dilutes it.

True.

Sometimes it's just being free and being happy and being nice.

It's funny, like,

I agree.

I manifest great things every single day.

I believe in gratitude.

I believe in calm.

I believe in energy.

I'm a huge believer in energy.

And I like meeting people organically.

I think it makes things more fun.

Yeah, like us.

We were like, our friend, like, he pushed me to, like, I'm like, what are you doing?

But

I think it's just tough.

Dating is like...

It's very tough.

You put yourself out there and all that you have and all that you will be.

You know, girls ask me that all the time.

Where do I meet nice guys?

I'm like,

like you said, go to a bar.

Put yourself, like you said, put yourself out there with a big smile.

Exactly.

Be yourself and don't put pressure on it.

I think a lot of people put pressure on it.

I have to find someone.

That's right.

And another thing that I heard that I agree completely, tell me if you agree.

Guys get attracted to women that love their lives.

Like,

men freak out if they think you're going to be needy, like you're unhappy with your life.

Like, let's say, if you see a woman and you see, like, oh, she's really, she loves her job, she loves her body, she loves her friends, she has an active life.

Usually men are attracted to that energy.

They're like, oh, she has everything going.

So the guy thinks I'm going be a part of her life, but I'm not gonna be like all of her life.

Do you think that that makes sense?

Yes, I think that that's wonderful to have.

I think that's a plus.

You don't want to take away from something, you want to add to something.

Yeah,

so hands down,

it's preferable.

That's the ideal situation.

Yeah, to be honest, I know, I agree.

Like, if I met a guy and he has nothing going on,

vice versa.

In between jobs, I'm watching watching TV.

I'm too lazy to work on it.

And a lot of guys, and girls too, be like, oh, I'm too lazy to work out after COVID.

I'm like, come.

You know, to me, that's like, okay, I'm done.

I like people that have a lot going on.

Yeah.

Because I have a lot going on.

I'm excited when people have like 10 million plans and 10 million projects.

You're living life.

That's how it should be.

Yeah.

So I hope you girls listen.

Like, don't make a guy all of your life.

Yeah, all of your life.

You know, don't do that awful.

Yeah, don't think like, oh, this guy is going to fix my problems.

I think somebody should complement your life.

You should do things together.

My last relationship ended because of that.

Yeah.

When did it end?

About a year ago.

Oh, yeah.

How long were we guys together?

We were together about eight, nine months.

And that's exactly where they relied on me for everything.

Really?

Yeah, it turned into that.

Like, she didn't have a life?

not

not uh she had a life but it wasn't a successful one it wasn't well i'll just hope to meet somebody who's financially secure so i could just sit at home and do what i want to do i was like wrong answer oh she wanted to depend on you yeah yeah i think

i worked hard for mine i'm not gonna give it up just but it's not even that i know i agree but you know i was married to my husband was a multi-millionaire so everybody used to think like oh she's the blonde bimbo that isn't gonna work

but it was actually the opposite because i worked my whole life i love working that's stereotypes and he yeah and he used to put me down like he didn't want me to work

yes seriously yes because he had so much money and he was so controlling so he used to say to me like oh you're not gonna go do that job because he was jealous of modeling he was jealous of acting he was jealous of everything so he used to oh why are you gonna do this modeling catalog?

I make more money in a day than you're going to make in a month.

Really?

Yeah, he used to.

That was a mind fuck.

Totally.

He used to totally, like, verbally abuse me, humiliate me.

Now I know, but at the time, you know, because he was so much older than me, I didn't understand what he was doing.

But nowadays, I tell girls all the time, don't sell yourself short and like, oh, I need a sugar daddy.

I'm going to depend on this guy because then what the fuck, you know, is your value.

Right?

Cheers.

cheers cheers yeah cheers I think money is of course money is great but not just to buy you things to give you security but it gives you a purpose

I want a man and I tell the guys that I date

I tell them what I do I still model I do the sex podcast I talk about sex I think it's completely fine I do sexy pictures I do all this shit I want a guy that is supportive of my work that is proud of my work you know I don't want a guy that tells me like oh no now you gotta stop everything You know, you got to be home.

I just can't stand men that I don't want to do.

It goes back to my earlier comment where I'm adding to, I'm not taking away.

The moment he's taking away anything, that's wrong.

That's

not worthy to be in a relationship.

And I think it's important that women hear from men like you

because a lot of girls think, oh, I'm pretty, he's going to take care of me, he's going to pay my bills.

Guys don't like this shit anymore.

It's nice for a while, but then it gets old.

Exactly.

After a while, like, you know, aren't you going to do something else more than like do your nails right or your hair right yeah have a purpose girls yeah make a sandwich

cook

at least cook right clean the house no i hope they

i really hope they do more than that right yeah

we're drinking and eating and talking at the same time another really important question before we run out of time see there's a lot i'm telling you

and you're so cool because you're like game transferring everything and like the coolest guy i met I'm not out there.

I appreciate it.

And like you said, the way we met was like hilarious and organic.

And I wasn't even going to stop there.

And it was just fun.

And we didn't put pressure.

Like, obviously, it wasn't a date, but we didn't put pressure.

Like, oh, I have to like him, it's July.

So it was really cool.

And I think that's.

I think the taboo is that you can't be friends with women.

And

you really can.

Just respectful, nice guy.

It's okay to meet you.

I've never got along better with guys for some reason.

I don't know if it's my energy or if it's my work.

in general like my two best friends in the world like they're my brothers I never had anything personal with them they've been my best friends for like 20 years and they're both guys yeah and all my clients are men

I don't have I've tried having girl clients of course I like working with women but for some reason

I don't know why guys feel comfortable with me the way I work you know they like my energy I always end up like gravitating

yeah and I think girls many times they're like catty and mean you know and nasty so judgmental yeah and i don't do that i'm like oh i do have a few girlfriends but i think in general girls are like you know like

and i don't have patience for that one more sex question okay yes this is a very deep one do you want another drink

okay

so let's talk about sexual fantasy as far as matter

well does it i hope not that's like for a a question for a girl, right?

It sure is.

I have answered that in past podcasts, and it's not the answer that most guys think it is.

It matters, but in a different way.

It's the motion of the ocean.

That's true, but it's not like, oh, the bigger, the better.

It's more like depends on the girl's body and how it makes them feel.

That's true.

Because I have girlfriends, like last year, I think I gathered like a group of 10 girls, super successful, hot as fuck girls, to do one episode.

So it was really cool.

And all of them said the same thing: like, sometimes the girl is really tiny, and you know, if the guy is really big, it hurts, or sometimes the opposite, you know, so

it matters, but like to the person.

Because I know guys with like tiny dicks, many times they're like very,

they freak out about it, right?

Because the dicks are like,

they get self-conscious about it, but hey, I'm sure you're gonna find a girl that likes you, or you know, you gotta figure it out, right?

You gotta do what you gotta do.

That's very true.

yeah but okay so

uh fan uh fantasies

you start dating someone and you're starting to develop intimacy with them when in the relationship because a lot of girls have fantasies in bed but they're too embarrassed to talk to their partner about it anything like whatever like I'll talk about an easy one like girls love using vibrators in bed a lot of men again they feel intimidated like oh she's bringing a vibrator in bed.

My tick is not enough for them.

But that's not what it means.

They just like to be playful with it.

Do you think guys feel comfortable when girls talk about their fantasies and what they want to do in bed?

Or when do you approach that?

You can talk, speak for yourself.

For myself,

I'm pretty laid-back where

I can listen to that.

It won't bother me, but I could see where guys have that angle that that would make them subconscious, and they would think, well, maybe I'm not enough.

And so, in that aspect, you know, maybe it's the guy because he's insecure.

And

I'm a very secure person.

So,

I think it's really up to that person.

Yeah, if he's insecure, and I think that characteristic is one characteristic that's very dominant and shows itself really early and very, very, uh, very pronounced, then yeah, that's going to be an issue.

But if you're like me and secured, you're like, let's go for it.

If you don't come, then that's it.

So, if you're dating someone,

do you feel comfortable telling them what you like to do?

How long

into the relationship?

I think it definitely not right off the bat.

Right, not right off the bat.

Something's very scary.

Yeah, take your time.

So, so definitely after you establish that you did a boyfriend, girlfriend,

that when you like,

okay, this is a relationship.

I think that's what I mean.

This is why I like relationships.

Because like I said, you know, you have sex and I think it just gets better and better and better.

Because every time you're with that person, you feel like, okay, maybe we should do more.

Maybe we should try more.

Maybe we should try more.

Maybe we should try more.

Sometimes things just become naturally

and it falls into that.

And then you're like, I don't even have to say anything.

We just kind of fell into it.

But even if you're like the shyest person in the world, maybe after you're with someone for like a few months, you bring it up.

Yeah.

Like the sex toys or whatever else you want to do in bed, you know, I'll tie me up.

Let's watch Grace.

What's the name thing?

The 50.

Most girls love choking.

Yeah, most girls love choking.

So just go for it.

But I strangled.

Don't keep it.

I have to watch this.

You have to be careful.

I can see you like strangling somebody with your hand.

With one hand.

You have to be careful.

You have to be careful.

But no, I think that's an easy one because I'm going to speak.

I think most women agree with me that like a little choking goes a long way.

Girls like that.

But I think like deeper things,

if you are with someone for a few months, you should feel comfortable asking your partner, even if it's something you don't want to do.

Yeah, if it's taboo.

I mean,

as long as you're not bringing animals,

you know, or both of them.

Oh, no, Starlight, please.

Yeah, no.

We're not talking about it.

No, we're talking about like normal kids.

Yeah, okay, thank you.

Normal kids.

Yeah, so yeah, there's parameters.

Believe it or not, a lot of girls, for example, I'll tell you like a super mild one wearing like crazy sexy slirty lingerie.

Believe it or not, a lot of women are embarrassed of doing that.

I'm sorry for them.

They're like, oh, I don't know.

What is my guy going to think about it?

What is my husband?

just throw it out there and see if it sticks you know no you know that's how that's how bad like that's bad that's why i think

so in do you think in general man like if a girl wears crazy sexy shit the guy's gonna go bananas right every time every time you go to bed but make it a yeah wear a little number

whatever you want or nothing i know i i actually said that yesterday on halloween like i i said you shouldn't wear this sexist lady things only on halloween do we don't have the freaking time right get the medibles out.

Wear the little apron with no underwear when he comes home to dinner.

You know, come up.

I mean, I can go on and on.

Dishes and let the dissolving underwear

get wet.

Oh, yeah.

There you go.

I'm the queen of coming up like with fun because I think you have to spice up the relationship.

Because if you don't, it becomes fucking boring.

And that's when people get tired.

I think if your sex life dies or if it becomes too boring, you become roommates.

And that's when people...

Roommates, yeah.

And that's when people

get separated or...

You start looking at flaws, you start making excuses.

You spice it up.

I think the way to, and that's another question, how do I make my man stay interested?

My opinion is keep spicing it up.

Make him tired.

Give him a ton of sex.

If they're happy and coming all the time, because guys can only come so many times,

if you have like a high sex drive, it's very likely they're going to stay.

True?

True.

Very true.

And a full belly.

And a full belly.

Oh, yeah.

So give them a lot of sex and bring them to better than sex.

Exactly.

Right?

That's a great.

You gotta feed them.

You gotta feed them.

So you like a girl that cooks?

Oh, yeah.

I mean, I cook myself.

I won some barbecue awards in Texas.

Oh, shit.

Yeah, I know how to throw that.

Okay, why aren't you throwing a barbecue in there?

I can do it right now.

I haven't had a barbecue in five years.

I don't have a grill.

I don't have a barbecue.

See?

Do you have a break?

Yeah, no, ever since I came out of California, there's no barbecue.

We gotta find a friend that has one.

I'll think about it.

I still have so many recipes in my mind right now.

I just want to.

I haven't had a barbecue in a long time.

Two really quick ones before I let you go because we're running out of time.

Threesomes.

Is it every guy's fantasy?

What's that?

Threesomes.

Is it every guy's fantasy?

Threesomes.

Threesomes?

Yeah.

I don't think so.

It's every guy's fantasy.

Or foursome.

Fours?

But no males.

Like you want to bring three girls and break?

Three girls.

You guys want two girls.

No, you're talking about three greens.

Yeah, I think you guys.

Have you done it?

No.

Yeah.

Have you done two girls?

No.

Never done threesome?

Are you serious?

No.

So it's like on top of every guy?

Did you ask your former partners to do that with you?

They brought it up.

And why did you do that?

The last two?

I don't know.

That's a good question.

It's just, it was, it was like, you get all the way up to the door and

you just don't walk in.

It's,

so it's mostly like knowing you can do it.

Like, guys are like little kids.

Yeah.

If you tell them, yeah, sure, you can do it.

Yeah.

They put it.

If you tell them, no, you can't, then they really want to do it.

Yeah, you go right away.

So you don't really know.

You just don't walk in.

Yeah.

You know, that's a perfect analogy.

I think three might be too much because you need to remember you gotta keep everybody happy.

I mean, they can work on themselves while I am

fixing a sandwich.

If I were you, I would try to.

One more question.

Women that are loud in bed, because there's two types of women, the women that like have sex and silence, and the women that are like really, really loud when they come, whenever they talk a lot, which one do you prefer?

In between.

Don't be too loud.

Yeah, don't be too loud, but don't be quiet.

Let me know I'm doing something.

So don't scream.

I need my eardrums.

I'm very loud and not on purpose.

I'm very loud and not on purpose.

I have been like really embarrassed.

Like, oh shit, my neighbors are listening to everything, and I can't

control it.

So that's why me and a lot of my friends ask, because for some reason, so earmuffs.

Huh?

You need earmuffs.

But most, I don't like men when they're like quiet in bed.

I like men that tell me what's going on.

Like talk dirty or make noises or something.

I don't like silence.

I'm definitely more like

at the point of climax is more like a beast, like grunting.

Yeah.

But do you think it's the culture?

Like Americans are very quiet in bed.

I know.

I think I don't.

That's one thing that's not culture.

They want to scream that to the heavens.

Yeah, really.

But it's just that

I think that

it can easily go over.

You know,

easily, like, once it hits a certain pitch, it's like, okay.

Shut the fuck up.

I know.

Are you all joking?

I got you.

I know.

I interviewed the lady a while ago and she's like all about the stantric sex, la la la.

And I asked her that question.

She was like, Catherine, maybe you should practice.

Have quiet sex.

Curring is

not bad.

If I'm having quiet sex, it means like I'm probably not enjoying it.

True.

Or it hurts.

So I don't know.

Focusing on getting to the pain.

Yeah, I don't know.

It should hurt, but in a good way, right?

Not in a bad way.

Yeah, it should be a little teasing.

Just a tip, like you said with the foursome here.

Yeah, that's

that.

That's a bit much.

Oh my god, this was so much fun.

Thank you so much.

i hope we answered a lot of your burning questions this was a very x-rated episode thank you for being such a fun sport

are you sugared out i am

i am sugared out if you guys are in the la area no kidding i highly recommend you come check this place out because the vibe here is so cool it's crazy sexy yes it's the perfect place for a date we would not say first date right elliot but no like for like like if you're in a relationship or dating for a few, for whatever, for a while.

Or in town for the weekend.

Yeah, but it's fun.

Yeah, but it's fun like to come with your friends.

Like if you want to have some sexy desserts or some drinks and from here you go out flirting maybe puts you like in the flirty mood and maybe guys and girls get that vibe.

Right?

Yeah.

It's better than sex on Merrill's place in the heart of West Hollywood.

Thank you.

Cheers.

Cheers.

We're done with our drinks.

I still have a ton of my cake because it's like, I think, foursome.

Is this four?

No, it's not for Forsm, it's Fourgasm.

Maybe it's too much for me.

I forgot how to do that.

This was a great car on the loose, and I'll see you girls very soon.

You guys, too.