SEASON THREE KICK OFF - WORST FIRST DATES!!!

Guys,

hi, happy Tuesday.

I cannot tell you how excited I am to be kicking off the third season of Cat on the Loose: dating, relationships, and sex.

Because who doesn't like talking about this stuff, right?

And it's amazing.

And I thank you so much for being on this journey with me that started last year.

I was in such a bad place in my life.

I went through so many horrible dates dates, and I am such a different person now and I guess I am growing with all of you guys that have been watching me and it's absolutely amazing so I thank you all of you for listening and participating and sending me your stories and and sharing basically so today I picked a theme that was one of the top ones that you guys send me questions about which is

really really bad dates i mean seriously some people behave on a first date like they've never been on a date in their lives.

What the hell is wrong with you guys and girls?

So, this is a mixture of stories about really crappy first dates, not only from girls, not only for guys from guys, but I just picked the ones that I think are really the top worst.

And to finalize, because I don't want to be just on the negative side, I want to talk about a really fabulous story of a super nice date story that happened to me a few months ago while I was doing season two.

So let's get started because it's a lot that we need to cover under half an hour.

I want to tell you guys the stories of the bad dates.

Okay, so this one I definitely think takes the cake and it's in no particular order.

Okay, you guys can tell me which one you think is the worst.

But this one, a friend of mine told me and I cringed.

I was like, seriously.

So this girl, she is my friend.

She was texting this guy for quite a few weeks and they decided to finally go on a date.

She checked him out and he seemed super nice, very successful executive.

He looked amazing.

He looked great.

I mean, basically, he did everything right.

So he picks a super nice restaurant, one of her favorites, and they finally meet in person.

And when she sees him, she's like, oh, yes, I can't believe it.

So the entire dinner, he's behaving like a complete, complete gentleman.

And they have all kinds of conversation in common.

Basically, think about like this dreamy, nice date.

And he's holding her hand.

And by the time dessert comes, he's like, Can I give you a little kiss?

And she's like, Sure.

I mean, this guy is like my dream boat.

So, she lets him kiss her.

And then, before they're leaving the restaurant, and he's like, Do you want to go have drinks somewhere else?

And she's like, Sure.

So, they go to another place for extra drinks and as they're sitting in this fabular bar the sitai which is a great place in miami if you guys don't know i totally recommend it when you're in town it's a fabulous restaurant it's a great bar but anyways they're sitting there having drinks after this great restaurant and he tells her well there is something i need to tell you uh-oh and somebody says that

it's probably something bad and he says well I am still married.

And she's like, what?

Excuse me.

You told me you were divorced.

You told me your kids are grown up.

You told me you've been divorced for two years.

Yeah, well, I thought if I told you the truth, you weren't going to want to meet me.

And she's like, uh-huh.

And then she's basically grabbing her purse to run out of there.

And he's like, no, wait, but you don't understand it.

I am married in another country.

This guy was from Spain.

So he's like, well, I am married in Spain.

So technically, I'm not really married in the United States.

So I mean, I don't see why we can't date.

And she's looking at this guy so confused.

What are you talking about?

He's like, yeah, I mean, my wife is in Spain.

And I just go there when I need to go there for work.

So I don't see why we can't still date in the United States.

No, seriously.

She grabbed her purse and ran out of there and blocked this cripple.

So, man,

being married and dating, it's not by borders.

If you're still married, be respectful to both women.

This is way too freaking creepy.

I completely agree with this girl.

Now a guy's story.

And I'm testing my new

sound equipment.

And I hope it sounds better than last season.

I know you guys, I get tons of messages like, oh, you're too organic.

You don't have like the perfect sound.

Yeah, correct.

Hopefully one day we're going to get to the point that I have this fantastic studio to record.

But at the moment, we're doing the best we can.

So I hope you guys are enjoying it.

Anyways,

story.

This man tells me he meets a girl on a dating app, Tinder.

Great.

She looks amazing.

Great body, hot body, beautiful hair, beautiful pictures.

So they talk a little bit.

He invites her for dinner.

By the time they get to the restaurant, he's waiting for this lady and he picked a really good one.

So he's a nice guy.

He's a serious guy.

He's looking for a serious relationship.

So every lady he takes takes on a date he picks like a top top place so he makes reservations at Milos it's this fabulous very high-end not to mention very expensive Mediterranean Greek place here in South Beach so he's sitting at Milos waiting for this lady she's 45 minutes late which by the way girls it is not nice i have heard heard girls say oh but it's good to keep him on his toes it's good to keep him waiting my opinion is it's super disrespectful i never do that to anyone and i would not appreciate it if somebody does that to me if the reservation is at 7 30 you know hello be nice enough and and show up at 7 30 if you want to shop at 7 35

Okay, but showing up like at 8.15, 8.30, just to be like, oh, I'm difficult and I'm too busy.

I don't think that's cool at all.

You guys let me know what you think.

So this girl shows up at the restaurant and he looks at her.

Yeah, okay, she looks like the picture.

Then when she smiles, she's missing a bunch of teeth.

And he was like, Whoa,

um, I'm not sure I can have dinner with someone that's missing a lot of teeth.

And I am going to have to agree on this one because that's not just like making a minor change on your photos, like using a little filter or something.

This is a major, major issue.

I don't want to judge anybody, I'm sure she has a reason why she doesn't have all of her teeth.

But I mean, if it's a big deal like that, I agree with him.

You should be upfront with the person.

So they had a quick dinner and he didn't feel comfortable and he left.

But I agree, that's a really bad date.

I'm not sure I would be able to have dinner with some guy that showed up with missing teeth.

Honestly, I don't know if I would be able to read it.

I don't want to be mean, but I mean, a nice smile and looking okay around your face is a big deal to me, and I think to most people out there.

Another one,

this one, I got a lot of you saying that and that's a big no-no, I think for girls and guys.

I think it's called fishing.

I'm not sure because I'm not very familiar with the dating terms.

A friend of mine met a girl on a dating app.

They set up a date.

She shows up and it's someone else.

Completely different.

My friend doesn't like blondes.

So when he sees the pictures and he sets up the date, he's thinking he's going to have a date with a brunette.

So this older lady, blondish, caramel blonde,

a lot bigger than the pictures.

And we're not talking about 10 pounds.

I saw the pictures.

My friend thought he was going on a date with a 135 pound, 50 year old, cute, beautiful brunette.

And this lady shows up.

She's maybe 65

and she's like blondish and she has short hair.

And my friend was like, what?

you're not the lady in the pictures and she's like oh i i put the pictures i sent you the pictures of a friend because i was so afraid you wouldn't want to meet me and i am so nice and i am so fun so please give me a chance and my friend is like you know lady i'm sure you're so nice and so fun but this is not about giving you a chance i mean dating is also about feeling comfortable with the person and having chemistry and physical attraction so and my friend was really nice he was was like, I tell you what, order whatever you want.

I'll pay for your dinner, but I'm out of here.

So the lady did order food and she sat there eating by herself.

My friend paid the bill and left.

So we still don't know what the hell was she thinking.

Did she really want a date?

Did she want a free meal?

But seriously, I agree.

I don't see the point in putting someone else's pictures on your dating profile.

At the end of the day, I hope we all want somebody to like us and not not someone else.

So, why would you waste your time?

Why would you waste somebody else's time?

I mean, if you're going to do a dating profile, put the best pictures of yourself, a nice smile.

I hope you have teeth.

If you don't have teeth, whatever, you should look into it.

I don't want to get into the personal issues of each person because I think we all know what we do and what we don't do.

But I mean, be yourself.

Now,

my friend Julia told me a story.

Now Now she's happily married.

And I agree.

This is a little too creepy for me.

She just sent me this one this morning and I love it.

So I want to share it.

She's Jewish.

She was getting out of a long-term relationship.

And there was this super hot, handsome guy.

And he's a brain surgeon.

I mean, congrats, that's a major job.

Kudos for him.

So he's like this hot Tamali in the Jewish community.

A lot of girls want to date him.

So

anyhow, they set her up with this guy.

Hot, good-looking, intelligent brain surgeon.

They go on the first date.

The minute they get together, this guy is acting like he already knew her, like they have been on a bunch of dates.

He's hugging her, he's grabbing her hand, he's being a little too touchy-feely, which I agree.

I mean, you do want to have physical contact, but hey, can we meet first?

Can we talk?

Can we see if we have anything in common?

So, they're sitting at this restaurant, and he's talking graphic details about brain surgery.

Now seriously, fantastic that the guy is a successful brain surgeon.

That is really amazing.

But it's not by any means good conversation for a dinner date.

Who the hell wants to hear about brains and pieces and whatever gory details what they're eating?

Like Julia said, oh my God, I was eating this Thai raw food and my stomach was squeezy and I tried to change the subject and he kept going on and on and on so if you're a brain surgeon if you're any kind of doctor we admire you it's fantastic it's not an easy job and you definitely should brag but save the gory details for somebody in the field or maybe for many many dates later if we feel comfortable talking about it I don't think anybody wants to hear about blood brain pieces and surgery anything like that when you're trying to meet somebody and be romantic and then he sees a couple of friends that he knows at the restaurant and they start talking and he introduces her like she was already his girlfriend.

Oh, this is Julia Dara.

And then he starts making plans for a double date with her.

Oh, yeah, no, we gotta go out, the four of us.

And I agree with her.

That's like too much.

too soon.

I think this guy jumped the gun.

Yes, she's gorgeous.

Yes, she's super intelligent, but even the most beautiful of all women.

We want to get to know you first.

Before you touch us, and I think that goes for a lot of men too.

Before you get touchy felly with a guy and start calling him babe and sweetheart and honey peas,

take your time,

get to know him, see if you have something in common with the guy.

I'm all for kissing.

if after the first date if the first date is great yeah give the guy a kiss i'm all for that but i mean you know hugging and kissing and making plans for a double date on the second day before you know if the girl likes you, that's a bit much.

So these are my top really bad date stories for today.

And I don't want to talk only about bad dates because I know my first season was a lot about

many of my bad date experiences.

So this season, I want to bring more fun stuff and I want to bring nice stuff.

This one doesn't have much of a happy ending because the end of the story is that the guy basically ended up ghosting me.

But I want to tell you guys, because I truly think

was one of the most amazing, gorgeous series of first dates ever.

So this guy takes the cake for a phenomenal first date planner.

I met him at a dating app called The League.

If you guys don't know about it, the league is by invitation only.

So a friend of mine sent me an invitation like two years ago before the pandemic.

and for the longest time they wouldn't allow me in they i think you have to have a great linkedin and and i i don't think mine is that great because i never used it so cutting the story short many many many months later this this year in february they sent me a message oh guess what you're accepted on the league so i go to the league and i'm all excited

and they give you three guys that you can pick a date that's it if you want to see more you gotta pay and i'm not gonna pay for a dating app because honestly I'm not desperate for a date.

If I meet somebody great, yes, fantastic because I love relationships, but I'm not going to pay.

So, anyways, I look at this guy's profile and photo.

He looks cute.

I like the profile.

I pick him.

Lucky me, he picks me.

We start texting.

I give him my number.

We start texting in the real world.

I'm not going to get into any details about him or where he lives because he's super, super private.

And I'm guessing on the back of my mind, my job is so public and my social media and everything maybe that's what turned him off and scared him away i don't think he he took the time to get to know the real me maybe i'm wrong i don't know but anyways we're texting in the real world and he's based out of a city near miami but he's also moving to another place for business reasons But we're talking talking talking.

So as we're texting for like two months at the whole month of February and almost two months, February and March, on the back of my mind, I'm thinking, should I meet this guy?

Because he's actually living in this other place.

But at one point,

he was texting me every single day.

Super sweet.

Good morning, good night.

Have a great day.

Kick some ass, blah, blah, blah.

Having conversation, sending me adorable pictures of him, telling me about this beautiful place that he's moving to.

So at one point, I paid more attention, like, huh, I think I got to pay attention to this guy because he's putting so much effort into the texting alone.

And to me, that's a plus.

If you really try to communicate with someone, even before you meet them, it shows like, hey, I'm interested.

So, finally, in March, a few days after my birthday, he was going to be in town and we plan a first date.

So, he offers to drive down to Miami.

We pick an adorable little Italian restaurant, very low-key that I love near my place.

And I get there before him, which was totally fine because since he lives so far away, traffic was horrible.

So I'm like, I tell you what, I'll grab our table and I wait for you there.

So I'm sitting at the restaurant waiting for him.

And when he walks in, guys, I don't know if you ever had this feeling before from meeting someone online.

I wasn't sure about his pictures.

I thought, okay, he's good looking.

Maybe I thought he was a little too short, which he wasn't.

I wasn't sure.

Basically, I didn't know what to expect because I'm I'm super jaded about dating apps.

And when he walked in, he was incredible.

Like, he was everything I could, I had think,

I could think of, and more.

And the way he looked at me, I felt, wow, he's happy.

The way we both looked at each other was like, okay, this is great.

This is really translating well into real life.

This is really amazing.

And we have incredible conversation.

I really really felt like we already knew each other.

I did not feel like this was the first date at all.

And then when he talks about picking wine,

I could not believe it.

I was like, no, this is a joke.

This is like, it cannot be true.

Because he knew and loved the same French wines that I absolutely love.

And it's so rare to meet somebody that likes this specific French wines.

So he picks this white wine and anyways, everything was great.

He also loved sharing food.

I'm a big sharer of food, especially when I'm on a date.

I don't like ordering one big plate of food for myself because I'm a nibbler.

I love eating, but I don't love eating huge portions.

So when this guy said, oh yeah, no, let's share.

I was like, okay, this is great.

So think about this perfect dinner.

We ended up staying at the restaurant for like three and a half hours.

I think when we left, they were closing.

It was like around 11:30 at night.

And I live really nearby.

So, he offers to drive me home, which was super sweet.

So, the minute we walk out of the restaurant, he holds my hand.

And I am super old-fashioned.

I don't know about you girls, but I love these small gestures.

And nowadays, you don't find a lot of men that care about this stuff.

And another one that I love, because my dad was like that.

And I don't even know, he was the first man I ever met that even knows about this.

When you hold a girl's hands and you guys are walking on the street, the girl is supposed to be on the inside side of the street and the guy on the outside.

It's a very old-fashioned gesture.

But when he did that, I was like, wow, I cannot believe he even knows that.

Most men

born after a certain date have no idea that that's the proper etiquette to do with a girl.

So, I mean, seriously, I am very impressed with every detail about this guy.

He looks amazing, he dressed nice, he smells great, he's intelligent.

And I thought he was looking at me the same way.

So, when he drops me off in front of my building, he gets out of the car and we give that incredible kiss.

You know, the kiss that makes your legs turn into jello.

So, I go upstairs.

He didn't even try to go upstairs with me.

He's like, oh, okay, just go and thank you.

I had a fabulous night.

And he drives home.

So the next day he calls me and he says, do you want to go on another date?

This was on a Sunday.

So we plan another date a few days from that date.

No, sorry.

I think this was on a Friday.

Yeah.

The first date was on a Friday.

So he tells me if I want to go on a date with him on a Sunday.

So I said, sure, I'll drive up to your place, which is an hour away from Miami.

Again, the second date

I get to his house and it's adorable.

He has the perfect wine, and he picks an adorable, fabulous little restaurant where everybody knew him.

And we share the food, da-da-da, and we're kissing and we're talking.

And I'm telling you, I felt with this guy, okay, I'm on to something here.

We like each other the same way.

Conversation is just flowing.

We are talking about traveling.

We are talking about all these trips that we both want want to take together.

So I'm thinking, okay,

we're really, really, really, really clicking.

So when he orders the check after dinner, he says, oh, can we have dessert to go?

I'm like, huh.

And so we grab the dessert, go back to his car, and he drives us to his boat.

The boat is anchored at the marina, and we don't even take the boat out.

He puts this super romantic, sexy playlist.

I know a lot of you guys are going to say, oh, that's a red flag.

He had this all planned out.

I didn't see it as a red flag, like, oh, he does that with all women.

To me, this guy didn't seem like a player.

To me, honestly, he seemed like a super serious, incredibly successful, very intelligent, nice man that was looking for a relationship that really wanted to get to know me.

So we're, of course, we're kissing on the boat, drinking champagne, touching da da da, hand here, hand there.

And I'm a major hand girl.

Like my favorite part of a man's body is the hands.

I am crazy for nice, sexy, strong hands.

I don't know what is your favorite body part, but to me, the hands do it.

So seriously, when he started touching my body, I was like, okay, this is incredible.

I had not felt like that in a very long time.

99.9 of my dates just end up like, maybe I'll kiss the guy after a while, but that's it.

But when this guy was kissing me and touching me, at one point he looked at me like, what are we doing here?

We're adults.

And I know most women.

And I think that the perfect dating guidebook at this point would have said, stop it.

Don't have sex with this guy.

Tell him you need to leave.

Blah, blah, blah.

Unfortunately, or fortunately, I do not live my life by the silly dating guidelines.

I go with the flow.

I go with my heart.

I go with how I feel.

I think life is all about these phenomenal moments.

Picture this fabulous boat, this killer date, this guy that I'm really into.

The weather could not have been more perfect.

Not one cloud in the sky.

It wasn't cold.

It wasn't hot.

I'm going to freaking out.

Seriously, I'm going to get up and say, no, I'm leaving.

Of course, we were going to have sex.

So we move to the front of the boat, and he brings these blankets and we have mind-blowing, fantastic sex.

It did not even feel like it was the first time we were together because of the way we connected.

It was so incredible.

I cannot even explain it to you guys unless you've had it before with the first date, which I honestly never did.

So I felt like a teenager in his arms.

And he held me, and we took a nap under the stars.

Very cheesy, but very amazing, insane

first date.

At At some point in the middle of the night, we get up and we go back to his place.

And he's telling me, No, you don't go home, you sleep with me, you stay.

So in the morning, when he's making coffee and I leave, I'm thinking, okay, we get something going.

After that, he came back after a few days.

He saw my place, he stayed here.

We went to my favorite French restaurant in Miami.

So I'm thinking, okay, this is going somewhere.

This is going somewhere.

He went out of town for three weeks and we were still texting almost every day.

Then he came back.

We had the fourth date.

I went to his place.

And even the fourth date was exactly the same.

Oh, you look great.

Oh, you look great.

Oh, my God.

This is so amazing.

And in my mind, at least, we had incredible sex again, an amazing night.

And I was looking forward to getting to know him better, to spending time with him.

And with my job being remote, I can basically be, I can basically just go and and be anywhere i want i told him i said look i understand you you have to spend a lot of time for your job at this new place i'm totally willing to go and be with you and after that kind of cooled off he weekend after weekend after weekend he told me he couldn't see me he couldn't come I couldn't go because he was busy with the kids, he was busy with friends, he was busy with family, he was busy with work.

And at one point, he just stopped texting me.

I tried a couple of of times.

Hey, what's going on?

I didn't think you were going to disappear.

But of course, I'm not the girl to be like, oh, please, where are you?

No, of course not.

It was way too soon.

But honestly, I was a little surprised.

All my guy friends that I talked about the story told me, hey, he's with somebody else.

Don't be an idiot.

Usually when men disappear, they're with somebody else.

Probably.

And I wish him the best.

And I said, look, I really hope you have, you're happy and you have amazing chemistry with the next one.

Of course, now I'm I'm super gun shy about dating again because when I'm dating someone and I'm getting to know that person, I feel like, okay, let's see where this goes.

If we have all of these gazillion things in common, let's give this a try.

I would have hoped that he got to know the real me a little more,

not just my work and what I do on my social media.

I would have hoped.

he gave us the opportunity to spend a few more weekends together because what we had was so amazing but each person has their reasons as to why you don't want to move forward with someone.

But I'm telling you guys this story because, yes, there is hope for love.

There are guys that plan incredible first dates.

And I still don't believe the theory.

Don't have sex too quickly.

Wait a month.

Wait two months.

Wait three months.

I disagree.

I think go with your gut.

I still do not regret having sex with him on our second date because honestly, it was the most amazing first or second date sex of my life.

And this guy is incredible.

And I mean, I still have the wonderful, wonderful memories.

And I am never going to lose hope on love and finding a great relationship.

I hope none of you out there do because we talk about the bad ones.

Of course, we hope people can be nicer out there.

Come on, put your best dating game on and be yourself.

Be yourself.

Don't use other people's pictures.

Don't, you know, date if you're married.

Just be decent.

Be a decent human.

That's what we say every season.

And this guy takes the prize.

on my book for planning amazing date after amazing date and for being a gentleman.

So guys out there, if you're really into a girl, put a little planning into it.

Put a little thought.

Every girl girl appreciates it a nice reservation a little romance a little dessert somewhere else after dinner every girl likes to know that a guy is a gentleman a planner so this is season three of cat on the luz we are out of time i hope you guys enjoyed it i'm coming back on Friday with a new episode.

Send me your DMs if you want to be interviewed.

If you have a good date idea, if you have a bad date idea, if you want to talk about sex, whatever you want to talk about, I want to hear from you guys.

Have the most amazing week.

I love you so much.

Thank you so much for being with me on this journey.

And I'll talk to you guys very soon.

Love you.

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Thank you so much, guys and girls.

Love you.