Briana & Isobar - a super happy engaged couple

Hi guys, I know it's not Friday yet, but this week Carondoluz is on Fuego because today I have this couple here and I am so happy because they are in front of me in the same place.

Brianna and Isabar.

Hi guys.

Hi Are you?

They're super sweet.

They're in love.

They're engaged.

I'm not gonna show their faces to respect their privacy, but they're being kind enough to answer questions about the world of dating, relationships, and how do you get to the point of actually deciding, let's do this, let's get engaged and get married.

Are you guys ready?

Yeah, yeah, let's do it.

By the way, all of the questions were sent by people when I started promoting the art.

When I started posting that I was going to interview you guys,

that's the questions people.

So they're not my questions.

Isn't that really cool?

Yeah.

So, like, these are the top questions.

I got over 50 questions for you guys, over like maybe 60-something.

Yeah, so I picked the ones that people ask the most.

And then, if you guys have fun, we can always do like a second episode with you, yeah, right?

And then we can follow your romance all the way to the altar.

So, let's get going because we have like 20 minutes, okay?

So, you can you can answer, and then she can answer, or vice versa.

When you guys met, was it love at first sight?

No, they're like looking at each other, guys.

Yeah, we most think no.

Um, i'm i don't believe in love at first sight i feel like i'm really guarded and i don't trust easily so i wouldn't trust i wouldn't trust someone to think of love at first but i was intrigued it was intrigue at first sight i like that you said that because i think a lot of people feel like you you know i don't want to i don't want to fall in love right so like

I knew things were different because normally on first dates, I have the girl that's in heels and like a dress and like all this.

And then I come and then jeans, a t-shirt and some vans.

So I'm like, I like, okay.

How did you guys meet?

Was it like a setup date or how was it?

We met on social media.

Yes.

Oh, wow.

And our first date was at the Wynwood Yard.

It's super interesting that you're saying that because we talk a lot, like to the experts and everything that I interview, if it's possible to find somebody through through social media or online dating that you're actually going to have a relationship with, so you guys are proof that it is possible.

It is.

It's just because, like, I would get those things from my friends,

like, oh man, you're only going to find someone that's crazy online, you know?

Yes, I need to, but like good crazy.

But that's what most people think.

That you only think you're only going to find crazies online because, but now,

you, I'm happy that you guys are saying that.

See, there is hope out there.

yeah i mean um when

like when i came across her profile and we started talking online that um i don't know things just kind of clicked with us you know it kind of

just seeing how like we're both interested in art um i like kayaking she likes paddleboarding so it's like cool we can go and do that at uh oligo park or something yeah um so you guys had common interests that's what brought you together we had common interests but we also had a lot of differences.

Or I would bring up something and he would say, oh, well, what's that?

Yeah.

And it was like we could show each other kind of different things from our world.

I personally like that because I think

many times different personalities attract.

And I think most people don't want to be married to the Siamese twin.

Right.

That would be too boring.

Exactly.

You don't want somebody who's exactly like you.

You learn from him.

He learns from you.

Now, I think the second question is more for you, but I want to know what he thinks about it too.

Do you think a woman should play hard to get in the beginning?

A lot of my girlfriends think she played games.

He sends a message, you wait,

or you think, no, I don't have time for that.

Well, I feel like if you go into something playing a game, when does the game stop?

So if you're playing hard to get, it's kind of like you've set the relationship up to be that.

So it's like you can be yourself and still hold back certain things, so it's still kind of a game in that way, but you're not

putting on something that that's not real.

I couldn't agree with you more.

I love your answer.

How about you?

What do you think as a man?

Do you think it makes a difference?

Like if you like Brianna in the beginning and she took, oh, I'm gonna wait 24 hours to answer.

No, no, no, no, no.

Do you think that helps?

No, right?

It doesn't because then it's it

some of those guys will be going like, man, what what's going on?

Like why why isn't she messaging me back?

I thought we had a good time, you know, so if we had a good time and you're waiting 24 hours to message me back after our first date, then what was the point?

You know, maybe I should just go searching again, go fishing.

I mean, I'm sure that there's personalities out there that will like that, but that's that's a gamble you're making.

I completely like there's a chance they won't.

I completely agree with you guys.

Now, this question was the number one question that people send you.

Like 15 people send this question.

As an interracial couple, did you ever suffer any kind of prejudice?

Yes.

And

by the way, let me just do a parenthesis.

I think it's...

absurd and sad that this day and age we're even talking about this

but since there is so much ignorance in the world and so many people are curious about it you know if you guys don't don't mind answering, go for it.

Yeah.

I notice it more than she does,

but it's mainly because all my life I had to notice it.

Really?

Right.

So it's, it's like notice it and you could react to it.

But then if you react to it to the wrong way, then

we've seen through the media all past, you know, last year what kind of happens.

So

it's like one of those things where you have to notice, you know, that

these things are going on and you just have to kind of ignore them and keep moving.

Like there's this one time we were walking down Lincoln Road and

this guy that

he used to come into the store that I worked at

and he saw us together holding hands walking down to the movie theaters.

And as he walked past us, he spit on the floor.

You know, and it was like, because because he gave us, he looked me in the face, he gave me this kind of nasty look, walked past us, and made an obvious, like,

you saw that it was towards you.

He went back.

Wow.

Yeah, it's disgusting.

And I understand because, in my case, I feel the same kind of situation just because I'm Latin and nobody ever knows where I'm from because my mom was Brazilian.

And people just look at you like a different way, you know.

They ask, why do you have the accent?

Where are you from?

What are you doing here?

So it's pretty sad.

It's disgusting.

And I like that you guys are willing to talk about it because you bring light to the situation.

But now, from

well,

I think it just speaks to

what we go through as

at least for me as a white passing woman, even though I am.

from a Cuban family, that it's not something that I even thought to

notice.

We would be walking down the street and he would just kind of be like,

And I'd say, what happened?

He'd say, you didn't see how that person looked at us.

Thank God you don't notice, you know, because I think probably the best policy is to just ignore people like that.

But it's hard.

And it's hard and it's sad that it's something that I didn't even think of

to look out for.

You know, it's

I lived like all over the place within Florida, like going from down south in Holmestead all the way up here to

the beach.

And

there's definitely different ways that

people act around you.

If I'm down in the mall at Southland, Southland Mall, no one's really going to bother me at all.

But then if I go maybe to Sunset Place, you know, and I'm wearing a hoodie, then it's like, hey, you need to take the hoodie off.

You're not allowed to be here.

Seriously, oh my Jesus.

Or, like,

the hood part off, but it's like it's an outdoor mall, it's raining.

What do you want me to do?

It's sad though, you know, that to hear things like that.

It's heartbreaking.

Hopefully, you know, we always have the hope that things will change, especially thanks to people like you guys.

But it's just amazing to hear stories like that.

Next question: Do you think there is a secret formula to making it work or like what do you say is just work or how do you guys do it it's not so secret you've been together for three years right yeah going on three years it's not a secret i think it's actually one of those things where it's so common sense that you think to just leave it off to the side but communication yeah communication you have to talk like if you're not if you're keeping things waddled up all the time then it

It just hinders things.

Yeah.

We've come into so many roadblocks and it's always because like, one, I'm not wanting to talk about something.

Yeah.

Or we're

talking, but the other person's maybe not listening.

You know, it's amazing that you guys are saying that because every expert that I interview, they say the same thing.

The number one problem of every couple is that they don't talk, they don't communicate.

If you start talking about everything, most couples would still be happy and together.

Yeah.

Amazing.

And also not

talking at the other person either.

You know, like if you're sharing, like I get excited about things that I learn a lot and I kind of data dump on her from all the things that I learned, but then I kind of stop and try and find understanding because if I see that like, okay, I lost you, okay, then maybe this isn't something that we need to continue.

I also think a big part of being able to

have that work is to work on yourself.

So it's not just about the two as a couple, but as also individuals, because if you're not working on yourself, then what are you bringing to that relationship?

Yeah, it's so nice that you guys are saying that because, of course, we want to believe that a relationship is like all flowers every day, right?

That it should be an endless honeymoon, but it's work.

It's a two-way street, right?

You got to be patient and hang in there.

Don't just give up on the person so quickly, like a lot of people do nowadays.

Now, this question is for you, Mr.

When or how did you know that Brianna was the one?

Does it happen over time?

Or one day you wake up, you're like, you know, I'm going to marry her.

I felt like it was an overtime thing because there's like all these little things that show that she was there for me.

right um there's a lot of people that i've i've dated in the past that um once things got a little little bumpy in the road it's like all right I can't deal with this I'm just gonna go but like it got even to the point like right before the pandemic started I'm looking for a new place here on the beach and I'm seeing place after place I finally find one that I like the guys tell me yeah things are gonna go through everything's gonna be fine right

and the very day that I was supposed to move out originally they tell me like okay it's not ready yet we we still have to fill out some paperwork and things like that I'm like all right fine okay so they allow me to stay in my current place for a whole nother week

that week passes the day I have to go out again

they tell me yeah so you can't get the place um and it was like some really stupid reason why I couldn't get it so

Brianna just says all right we're gonna move your stuff into my place you know while you look for another place I think after what two months

maybe, that we

just, yeah, I think it was like two months that we agreed.

We, we

sort of, it was, it was kind of like this: well, keep looking at it.

If we don't kill each other,

so let me understand this.

You, you were telling me that he moved into your place in the beginning of the chaos, in the beginning of the pandemic.

So, it's like

in the line of fire, we either make this work or we don't.

And apparently, it worked.

There were times.

There were times, lots of fights, lots of meeting space, but we figured it out.

And then, so, during this process, you decided I gotta marry this chick.

So, nice.

Yeah, I did.

I haven't.

So, during this, it's like, all right, well, I'm bored.

They don't really have us doing much at work because they're still figuring it out.

Oh, what we're supposed to do.

So, I'm like, well, let's start trading, right?

So, I started trading stocks and crypto.

And I'm like, I looked at her one day because we've been talking about it for a while.

I looked at her one day, and I tell her, I was like, if this thing hits, this is your ring.

This is the money for your ring.

Oh, my God.

He's too sweet, by the way, guys.

I wish I could show them.

Sweeter also.

Yeah, it couldn't have worked out, but I was so sure.

Honestly, I kind of like people like that.

Even before the pandemic, I think you only live once, and sometimes you gotta take risks.

That is true.

Last year, when the world is like so discombobulated, everything is falling apart.

You're like, what the hell?

You know, let's just do this.

I wish you could just show the ring.

Oh, I know.

Can you put your hand here, at least for my life, guys, on Instagram?

She has the most gorgeous engagement ring.

He did a really great job, by the way.

Congratulations.

Yes, customer.

For the listeners, yeah.

He did a really amazing job picking that ring.

It's fabulous.

Can you tell us about the proposal?

Yeah.

So

I was supposed to work that day, actually, but I was like, you know what?

I need today to be the day.

I need it to happen.

I've been sitting on this ring for a week.

I was going to wait till Christmas.

I asked her mom and her sister if that was a, like, if that was a good idea if we did it there at their house.

And they're like, do you not know her?

Sorry.

Do you not know her?

She does not like

unwanted attention.

Right.

And I'm like, you know what?

They're right.

So

I looked around, looked at different ideas, and it was like, you know what?

We always see this Ferris wheel at Bayside.

And

we always see it, and it was like, man, we should really go one day.

And then I just texted her that day, and I was like, hey, do you have any other plans later?

He's like, no, I'm going to be home soon.

It's like, all right, cool.

Well, we have tickets for

you said we're going to go.

We're sorry.

I told her that we're going to go to Bayside to go look at the Christmas lights.

Right?

And I was like, cool, I have my camera gear with me because with my camera gear, I can hide the ring in there.

As we're driving up to Bayside, she asked me, it's like, are you going to propose to me?

Right?

Is that what you said?

I said, can I ask you a question?

And will you tell me the truth?

Is this happening tonight?

So you were kind of like suspicious.

Well, i got into the car and there's roses on the seat oh

this this seems really thoughtful that is romantic oh my god you guys are adorable i am happy that i'm actually interviewing you because Since I started the podcast, I always said it's not a man-bashing show because I did a bunch of episodes last season about my horrible dates, but it's about dating and relationships.

So of course we want to tell love stories because I believe in love and I think until we die, we should be trying to find the right person.

I am so happy because you guys are like the first couple that I'm actually interviewing, you're in love, and you're proof that a happy ending is possible.

So, he proposed the ring is fabulous, just the view now.

Any tips or advices to couples out there that just met

what would you say?

Like, somebody just met, and do you have anything to say?

I think

you you go first

show

interest in that other person's interests you don't have to take on their interest

just show interest in it all right

our second date was me going to her dance performance

I remember you told me that

So, you know, and it wasn't necessarily that I was into

dance, but it was more so she I was interested in her and this was interesting or she was interested in that so

yeah it's not all about you it's so nice that you're saying that because some people are so self-centered they forget that a relationship is about two people

that's amazing so when is the wedding

they're looking at each other decided at least next year

at least next year so not 2021 no you want time to plan and everything and enjoy being engaged exactly time to save up weddings are expensive yeah so you want to have a big no dreamy wedding no no no no we're we're both very much about not having too many eyes on us

so probably something a little smaller

yeah probably or like have a small reception like small reception wedding and then like later a party where everybody can come and

aww you guys are amazing thank you so much.

By the way, I didn't say it in the beginning.

Brianna is, you guys are both from Miami.

Yeah.

It's very rare to meet Miami people.

Everybody comes from somewhere.

You're a dancer and a Pilates instructor.

One of these days I got to do one of your Pilates classes because I'm a Pilates fanatic.

You're a photographer, videographer, and graphic designer.

Wow.

So I already told him we got to do some business together because I have a lot of clients that can be his clients.

They've been together for three years.

You're celebrating three years in march yeah congratulations guys and you're an amazing couple you're really an inspiration

so if you and i'm not gonna tell um their instagrams because they're very private but if anybody wants to know more dm me

yeah they can go to your i have my art one that doesn't have yeah what is it uh it should just be my first and last name isabar hall Okay, so Isobar Hall is his Instagram.

I will put it on my videos on my insta if anybody wants to send the messages contact them or you guys can always contact me yeah it was really fun it went by so fast can i invite you guys for a second one yeah yeah thank you so much and see love is possible don't give up i'm saying that to myself

catherine don't give up you are gonna find somebody who can put up with you

yeah thank you guys she says bye

by the way brianne was really nervous in the beginning

it didn't hurt hurt, right?

No, it didn't.

Now she relaxed.

Yeah, thank you so much.

Maybe the next time I'll even convince them to be filmed.

We shall see.

Bye guys.

I'll see you next time.