INTERVIEW WITH ADRIANA DE MOURA - REAL HOUSEWIVES OF MIAMI

Hi guys, I'm super excited for today's podcast because I am going to interview live via Zoom right now a person that I adore.

She's ultra-talented, gorgeous, adorable from the Real Housewife of Miami, Adriana DeMora.

Ohio Adriana, how are you?

Hi, I'm great.

How are you?

I'm great.

Thank you so much for participating.

That's super sweet of you.

My pleasure.

I have like 10 million questions, so can we just go for it?

Yep, let's go.

Well, you know, it's a, I don't know if you heard any of the past episodes, but I started this podcast about relationships and dating based on my, you know, roller coaster dating life.

So the first question I have for you, you're obviously super beautiful.

You're super intelligent.

You're successful.

Do you think that all these qualities act in your favor when you're dating or in the world of relationships in general?

Or do you think most men are intimidated by powerful women?

Yeah, I think that's a double-edged sword because

sometimes when we have a lot going for you, it takes a really strong men to appreciate that.

Some guys can be intimidated, and

yeah,

so that is so true yeah

so do you think you've had um dates or relationships in the past that you felt that the guy was intimidated by you being a public figure famous or or you think men deal with that okay in general

no I think that a lot of times

People shy away, you know, because

yeah, yeah, people we think I think fame is something that can either be very attractive to some people or very intimidating and scary to others.

So

a lot of men don't want to,

I don't know, I don't think they know how to handle, you know, like somebody that's famous or has a lot going for them.

They,

I think, just brings out insecurities.

So it's actually, you know,

has been like a pattern where I see a lot.

So if you have a guy that's really strong, really secure, and it's okay with that, then if things work well.

But if it's somebody that's insecure and not sure about his place,

his only hood, then that can create some kind of a problem.

So true.

So I guess in order to date you, it would have to be like a super self-confident man, right?

That they're not intimidated by your work.

Yeah, no, yeah, it has to be a strong man.

So, how about the fame part?

So, you said you think most people are intimidated by it.

I would think that most men would kind of like jump on it and say, oh my God, it's so cool.

She's so famous.

I'm going to be out with this girl.

You think, in general, they don't want to,

maybe they're afraid that you're going to put them on camera or something?

I think they, in one side,

the ego gets, oh, I'm dating somebody famous, i'm dating somebody's on tv and so their ego gets pumped yeah but that at the same time some men can be jealous like oh well you know so a lot of men see her in water or they want to be the big person in the relationship so it can be an ego an ego trip or ego clash that is so true so that's a good question um how do you because i would think a lot of people try to approach you, become your friend, or even date you just to be on your limelight, right?

I would think that happens a lot.

How do you kind of filter that?

How do you know if somebody has good intentions?

Oh, I really want to get to know Adriana or, well, you know, she's famous and she goes to all these parties and everything.

I just want to jump on it.

Is it hard to trust?

How do you do it?

Yeah,

it's very hard to trust because a lot of people, yeah, will come or try to befriend you because they want something from you or part of your lifestyle, part of your connections and, you know, all those things.

So

sometimes I think it acts like instead of being more extroverted, you just clam in.

That's my case.

I mean, I keep my circle super tight because you never know.

You know, you never know who is real, who is not,

who's in for you or who wants to get something from you.

And, you know, at the end of the day

i think

fame can be very intrusive and if you look at every other example

um like people they're even you know a lot more famous than me much bigger than me so if you look at i don't know like

um

any huge you know movie star

they tend to become almost like ostracized because it's too much too much too much uh you know pressure and to be perfect and you don't know what people want from you so you always like you have your guard up i can imagine so i guess the answer is it just takes time right when somebody approaches you and they want to date you or get to know you you just kind of take your time right slowly

Yeah, you're very careful.

You know, you think twice before, you know, even consider anything because you never know.

I can't imagine.

So

I guess I was going to ask you if you think it's important to keep your private life

super private or if you think it's okay to show it on TV and social media?

Yeah.

Well, I keep my life, my private life very private.

I don't,

even on my social media,

I show my lifestyle, but I don't show my son, for example.

I don't like to show things that are too personal because I think that's for me.

And so I don't mind sharing some things like travels and fashion and no, lifestyle in general.

But I'd rather not show my real intimacy because I think that's a.

I totally relate.

Yeah, because when people look at our social media, they actually think they know us, right?

They think they know everything about us.

So I completely understand that it's so important to keep keep parts of it away, especially dating, I guess.

I don't know.

Yeah, yeah, especially dating.

And especially because, you know, nowadays, you know, dating is so complicated.

And

until something is really solid and really real, you know,

I don't see a reason why

to even show it because.

Yeah, exactly.

First, you want to make sure that it's going to work out, right?

Yeah.

Do you have some characteristics like when you meet a man that you think are like super, super important that this person has to have for you as a partner?

Yeah.

For me, you must have somebody that has a track record of honesty, loyalty.

You know, a good character.

I don't like to, you know, be involved with shady people in the sense of,

you know, you don't want a man that goes around cheating and has you know

I like I like a man that I can feel secure with that you can trust right so it's essentially you know if the guy shows any sign of being a player then I'm out then that's it yeah so I was gonna ask you what do you think is a major deal breaker in a relationship

Yeah, like a player.

A player type.

Yeah.

And the only way to find that out is

giving them a chance you think how do you figure it out

well you know usually you can figure out people after a couple of dates you know you kind of see the way they talk and behave or their lifestyle and sometimes it takes a few more dates but you start to see the red flags you know um

and just keep i know i i just keep my distance and my you know my holes very up until i can actually see inside this person's life a little bit yeah

realize if they're trustworthy or not.

I'm exactly like you.

Actually, I'm becoming like that after getting tangled up with so many bad men.

I think you just nailed it.

We need to keep our guard up, and then slowly, as I used to be the opposite, you know, I always had my guard down.

Oh, I like everybody, blah, blah, blah.

Now I'm kind of like learning that that's what you just said.

First, we keep the guard up and we give the person a chance and see how it goes.

I can imagine like how many men must approach you with all the wrong intentions.

Yeah, and I think that men, they

tend to see also what are your boundaries.

If you are ready to go to sleep with them on the first night, they will take you to bed on the first night.

So you think that's a big no-no?

Sleeping on the first date is a bad idea?

Yeah, I don't do that.

ever because I think that's the wrong way to start a relationship.

I'm not saying you shouldn't do it.

Some Some people, you know, have slept in the first night and got married.

But to me, I feel like

it's just, you're just setting the pattern of the relationship.

And that means like you can have me

without any effort.

And

so, you know, like we say in Brazil, you know, pra que compras va que estima.

No, that's so true.

She said, yeah, that's a really common expression in Brazil.

And a lot of men do say that.

Like, why would I buy the cow, right?

If I can have the milk.

The milk is free.

No, that's good.

My mom used to say that.

And you are right because I have a lot of male friends in Miami and a lot of them are Brazilians and a lot of them do say that.

So I agree with you.

Sex on a first date in general makes men.

not appreciate us or at least not go through the effort of getting to know us, I guess.

You're absolutely right.

Do you have like something in your head that would be, what is an ideal first date for you?

Let's say a guy wants to date you and he sends you messages and you think, okay, I'm going to give this guy a chance.

What would be a great first date?

I think maybe just meeting for like a happy hour, like for a drink.

So this way it's light and casual.

You know, like committed to dinner, because if you don't like the person, then you have to sit through two hours of dinner and then you're stuck.

I know.

So, you know, like set up for, you know, a happy hour drink, something light and just kind of feel it out.

Yeah, that sounds like a good plan.

I know.

I don't like going to dinner dates either.

I have ran away of a restaurant once.

Did you ever do that?

I thought the guy I was going to go to the bathroom and the date was so, so bad and I just left.

And I know it was very mean.

My friend said it was very mean, but

I guess you're right.

A happy hour in a nice place would be a perfect first date.

Can you tell us a story of like like some horrible date you've had or your worst date or something really bad that that happened

um

i think

i think this was one of those like blind dates and somebody's me up with a you know friends a friend of a friend and

and i absolutely you know from after 10 minutes of talking to this guy i knew it wasn't for me and and he was kind of like super

cocky and and it kept just you know talking the big talk and I don't know if he was trying to impress me or what but the more he talked the more annoyed I got and the more I wanted to get out of there and

so it was just like long

two hours and I that's when I said you know what from now on I never want to have it you know like especially a blind date yeah if you don't know anything about the person right something that I can like have one drink and then I'm out of there so technically even if you're like on a bad date you wouldn't leave just to be polite to the guy if you're like having this horrible date you just sit down.

I think for me it's it and that's again one of those things when you're a public figure, you know, if you do something that is very rude, then they can, you know, then you can have retaliation, you know.

So you never know that so you always have to be extra careful.

Yeah.

'Cause you don't know what people are gonna put out there and um

friend of a friend, so I couldn't be rude to a friend of my friend, you know.

So, I had to just sit through it, but it was painful.

I can't imagine.

Yeah, that's a good point.

You being so public, if you walk away or something, they can just spite you.

They can write something bad about you.

Oh, she was mean to me.

She left the bar.

She left the rest.

So, you got to be extra, extra careful with that.

How about your most amazing date?

Like, oh my god, this guy did everything right.

Yeah, well, I had the most amazing date of my life was this man that unfortunately passed away.

But he gave me the most, it was like being in a movie.

He literally flew me

in his helicopter

to this huge, beautiful yacht in the Bahamas.

Oh my God.

Yeah.

It was the first date?

It was just him and I on this huge yacht and he had

people playing the violin and he had this beautiful table set up like champagne caviar and it was just you just felt like you're in a dream or like you're in a movie

and this man gave me the most romantic uh date of my life i can't imagine

and that was the first date

i'm so sorry

with the sweetest memory and he did that for you on the very first date?

It was our second date.

Oh my God.

Yeah, it does sound like out of a movie.

Yeah.

Talk about sweeping off your feet.

Yeah.

So, guys, if you're hearing out there, that's what we want.

We want, right?

We want you guys to go all out.

Yacht in the Bahamas, violin, champagne.

It's, I mean, do you think the art of romance is kind of dead because of all this online dating or do you think there's still romantic men out there like this guy that you're talking about

i think yeah the art of romance is still alive if you allow the man to be and if the man is really into you the truth is a lot of men i think don't put in the work because women are just so eager and so ready to just you know jump in so they don't have to do the work they don't have to be romantic yeah now if you give a guy a chance to slowly get to know you, and the guy is really into you, they will they will

do what's romantic.

That is so true, that is so true.

It goes back

to the interview.

If he's not into you, he's gonna do the bare minimum and just hope to sleep with you, and that's it.

Yeah, it just goes back to what you were saying about sleeping on the first date.

If you just let them do everything on the first date, then what is the effort, right?

To take you out on a nice dinner or, you know, a yacht.

Yeah, and I think for this first date sex to work, it has to be such an intense chemistry and something mature, you know what I mean?

And then people realize, like, well, you know, you're somebody I've been wanting for all my life, and then maybe that's beyond this,

you know, the chase.

But the truth is, men like to chase, you know?

That is so, I've heard so many of my my girlfriends say that men like to chase they're hunters right

yeah that is so true do you have any advice based on your experiences to women that get tangled up in bad date after bad date bad man after bad man

yeah

I think when that is happening constant consistently, I think that's time for you to look inside yourself and maybe stop for a while and give working yourself, you know, because sometimes we think

what we think we need

is what's not good for us.

And you just keep repeating the same mistake over and over and you keep hurting yourself over and over.

So then at that point, you just have to stop and ask yourself, you know, what's inside of me?

What is good for me?

What is it that I truly, really need?

And have that clear picture, you know, and then just go about your life, try to be independent and whatever doesn't fit

those needs,

you know, then just don't fall for it.

Yeah, that is such fantastic advice.

So, Adriana, for the guys out there, are you taken or can they try to date you?

I have a bunch of my male friends.

They're like, oh my God, you're going to interview Adriana.

Oh, my God.

Can I send her a message?

Well, I'll ask her the question.

Yeah, I don't have anything serious.

Yet, so

you're open for, right?

You're open for messages at least, right?

I don't know, but

I don't have a, you know.

serious relationship right now so yeah me neither sounds fantastic adriana thank you so much you're amazing I love your advice.

I love your vibe.

Thank you so much.

What is your insta for people that want to see your work, your picture?

Send you a message.

Yeah,

at Rio Adriana de Mora.

Rio Adriana de Mora.

I'm going to also put it on the podcast.

We are not editing.

We're dropping it right away.

It was such a pleasure.

You're amazing.

I wish you the best of luck.

And I really, really appreciate you doing this with us today.

Of course, my pleasure.

And I'll invite you back at a later date, and we'll talk some more about your next dates and my next dates.

All right.

Thanks a lot.

Bye, Griana.

Thank you, everybody.

Bye.

Kisses, kisses.

Stay safe.

Thank you so much.

You're the best.