Kylie on Jersey Shore Fight Scenes, Backflips at the Club & Eagles Autism Community with JWoww | Ep. 24

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Speaker 4 Not gonna lie, if you want to catch me at the Ocean Drive in Seattle City, New Jersey, you're gonna have to catch me at 7.30 because I'm gonna be on that dance floor enjoying the air conditioning by myself, listening to my throwbacks.

Speaker 8 Let's get this podcast started.

Speaker 8 Welcome to a very special Jersey Shore

Speaker 3 at the Jersey Shore edition of Not Gonna Lie.

Speaker 1 I'm so excited right now.

Speaker 11 It's a wave original brought to you by Duncan.

Speaker 7 I'm your host, Kylie Kelsey, a beach wagon puller and amateur boogeyboarder, and I've been a fan of the woman sitting next to me right now for 15 years.

Speaker 1 And so have all of you.

Speaker 15 You know her from the phenomenon that is the show, Jersey Shore.

Speaker 8 She and the whole cast enrich our lives and vocabularies with phrases like GTL and the cabs are here.

Speaker 13 Now she's also a mom and doing incredible work on behalf of the autism community.

Speaker 15 And she officially

Speaker 18 is here.

Speaker 10 And she's not going to lie, it's Jenny J.

Speaker 15 Wow Farley. Welcome to the show.

Speaker 21 Oh my God. What is this?

Speaker 12 I'm so excited to have you.

Speaker 23 It's perfect because we are at the Jersey Shore.

Speaker 1 We are.

Speaker 24 And it's 100 degrees out.

Speaker 2 It is very warm.

Speaker 17 If you see me wiping my brow or my upper lip,

Speaker 2 no, you didn't.

Speaker 25 No, you didn't.

Speaker 14 I'm so excited to have you here.

Speaker 27 It's such a timely.

Speaker 25 lineup

Speaker 23 for what we are doing here.

Speaker 8 And then also like drag you back to the Jersey Shore to talk to you about the last 15 years of your life and how it was,

Speaker 13 I mean, perfection from

Speaker 30 getting to, I mean, getting to watch

Speaker 8 everything with the Jersey Shore

Speaker 31 is just like, it's a comfort thing.

Speaker 32 I am not a reality TV person.

Speaker 34 Okay.

Speaker 11 It's the only show that I watched religiously.

Speaker 2 Are we best friends right now? Yes. I'm getting friends.
For multiple reasons.

Speaker 36 Now, as the real ones can see, we're taping the show from the most gorgeous bar at the Jersey Shore.

Speaker 8 This is the Ocean Drive.

Speaker 16 We have our guest bar attending event here.

Speaker 24 All of the proceeds for that event go back to the Eagles Autism Foundation.

Speaker 8 Jenny, as a Jersey Shore icon yourself,

Speaker 15 have you been to the OD before?

Speaker 1 I actually haven't been down here ever.

Speaker 1 I had to go to the next one.

Speaker 2 We dragged you from the North Jersey Shores.

Speaker 1 But, you know, living in Jersey and being in the northern parts of the Jersey Shore, I never thought that I needed to come down here.

Speaker 1 Like I did like Cape May one day or Wildwood for like my son's jiu-jitsu tournament, but I never like stayed here. Sea Isle Ocean.
Enjoy the beach. Not once.

Speaker 1 Don't really like the beach, but I have to say, I have to give it. I was at the beach yesterday with my kids.
I stayed in a hotel so I didn't have to get in the vehicle. I borrowed chairs and towels.

Speaker 1 Yes. Best time of my life.

Speaker 37 Done.

Speaker 1 Done. I didn't have to bring the sand with me.
I don't have sand on me today. Zach has the kids at the beach this morning.
It's been a great 24 hours.

Speaker 2 I have to give it to you.

Speaker 1 If it wasn't for this, I wouldn't be here.

Speaker 8 I will say, a friend of mine in college took me to Seaside Heights because that is the shore point that she went to growing up.

Speaker 6 And I think there is a little bit of confusion between what we experienced down here as the Jersey Shore.

Speaker 35 This is a Jersey Shore I grew up coming to.

Speaker 23 Yes.

Speaker 26 And what you guys were opening up the world's eyes to.

Speaker 2 Trash.

Speaker 31 I mean, it seemed like a good time.

Speaker 2 Best way.

Speaker 23 How would you describe the difference between like

Speaker 38 the OD?

Speaker 24 How does it compare to karma?

Speaker 1 Well, unfortunately, there is no comparison, but the OD is beautiful. I would say, actually, like, we had a vibe like this, like an outdoor.

Speaker 2 Was there an outdoor section of karma?

Speaker 1 There was. Okay.

Speaker 1 It's where I punched that girl in the face.

Speaker 2 This is a good time to be in memory.

Speaker 1 It was fond of memories.

Speaker 1 Yeah, a lot of fights went down. They did not have sand.

Speaker 1 Gotcha. So this is.

Speaker 2 So you probably preferred that.

Speaker 1 I would say, well, back then I blacked out. I didn't care.

Speaker 8 Well, I figured we could kick things off with a very special edition of a segment we do here called, Can I Be Honest?

Speaker 12 And today, of course,

Speaker 28 we're going to get honest about your show, Jersey Shore.

Speaker 8 And like I said, the real ones know that I've watched very little reality TV in my life, but the Jersey Shore is the exception.

Speaker 6 I still remember my sister and I would watch it, and then we would continue to quote it for the rest of the week because why not?

Speaker 32 Now, before we go any further, I realize that not everyone watching

Speaker 35 is a millennial who watched every episode like me.

Speaker 37 So, to help them follow our conversation, I was hoping you could define some of the most iconic terms and catchphrases from the show.

Speaker 34 So, we're going to do rapid fire style. Okay.

Speaker 24 First one, GTL.

Speaker 1 Gym tan laundry.

Speaker 29 And there was a little bit of confusion.

Speaker 6 The gym, the tan, and the laundry are as clear as it is, right?

Speaker 1 It was literally just going to the gym every morning, going to get tan right after and doing your laundry.

Speaker 1 And dropping the laundry up and then picking it up the next day when we were already back going to the gym and going tanning. It was a way of life.

Speaker 31 It was so impressive.

Speaker 1 It was so impressive.

Speaker 15 Number two, meatball.

Speaker 1 Oh, those are my meatballs, my babies.

Speaker 1 It's Nicole and Dina. Shorter.

Speaker 1 We're not.

Speaker 1 We would be considered the sausage. So I was a sausage to their meatballs.

Speaker 1 Short, and they just didn't break. They're like Gumby.
Yep. So they were little meatballs that ran around and got drunk all day.
I love it.

Speaker 8 Number three, smush.

Speaker 1 Sexuals.

Speaker 2 I don't know how else to say it.

Speaker 35 Number four, juice header gorilla.

Speaker 1 Mostly a tatted up muscle man on the beach.

Speaker 1 Yep.

Speaker 2 I remember everyone hunting for a gorilla of their own. Always me.

Speaker 17 Number five, t-shirt time.

Speaker 1 Oh, so there was, that's a two-part. There's the shirt before the shirt.
Yes. And we're actually experiencing that right now because when you're in the summer, this could be a shirt before the shirt.

Speaker 2 Yes. Yes.

Speaker 1 And then right before you go to the club, right before we leave, you put the shirt shirt on. And that's t-shirt time.
You're fresh. And then you walk out.
Yes.

Speaker 1 Which leads to fresh to death.

Speaker 22 It does. Number six, FTD.

Speaker 1 Fresh to death, FTD.

Speaker 1 Wow, you're bringing back like memory lane now.

Speaker 24 Perfect.

Speaker 9 Number six, fist pump.

Speaker 8 Actually, I think it would be number seven now because I did fill the other one.

Speaker 24 Number seven, fist pump.

Speaker 1 There is a fist pump, which, so I will say this, I am very disappointed in the new generation.

Speaker 1 They don't dance like we used to. They kind of sit around on their cell phones and do their own thing.
But back in the day,

Speaker 1 at least my day and your day, people danced at nightclubs. They fist pumped, they frolicked, they

Speaker 1 just, they were all over the place. We did backflips.
We didn't care that much.

Speaker 2 The kookas were showing.

Speaker 6 That might bring us to number eight, Jersey turnpiking.

Speaker 1 We jersey turnpike, which is twerking, I guess, as you younger kids.

Speaker 24 Specifically, my understanding of it was, and you can correct me if I'm wrong here, but specifically, you would be bent fully over, like almost touching the floor.

Speaker 28 Is that right?

Speaker 2 Like a triangle, right? Yes.

Speaker 1 It was always, Dina did a phenomenal job. She would touch her toes, ass straight in the air,

Speaker 1 and she would just make it jiggle. She has the best ass.
Outs. Am I allowed to say that?

Speaker 12 Yes, a thousand percent.

Speaker 27 Oh, we are very in on cursing around here.

Speaker 32 Uh, number nine, the poof.

Speaker 1 Oh, that was Nicole's signature hair.

Speaker 2 It was like a little claw clip.

Speaker 2 You know what's funny?

Speaker 42 It's coming back.

Speaker 43 And I saw it and it was called something else.

Speaker 29 And I was like, oh, excuse me.

Speaker 2 Isn't that the worst?

Speaker 8 It's funny when it comes back around.

Speaker 1 And it's called something else.

Speaker 15 I just want to be clear to all of our younger listeners, Snookie did that.

Speaker 29 Yes.

Speaker 16 Because Nicole did that.

Speaker 2 She

Speaker 11 walked so you could run.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 14 And she was crushing it.

Speaker 2 Crushing it. She would get it so

Speaker 2 has the tire it was it was outstanding

Speaker 32 uh number nine cabs are here no

Speaker 1 okay so before uber and lyft and all these fancy apps we would physically have to call

Speaker 1 get an appointment like you'd be like we need a cab in like 20 minutes wait and then when we would hear the double honk Polly would yell cabs are here I love it kids don't even know what a cab is no they do not not even know I don't even know how many cab companies still even exist.

Speaker 1 When I see them, I get sad because I'm like, you're holding on by a thread.

Speaker 2 Then the cab rolls by, and you see the little Uber light up in the back. You can sponsor us, Uber.
Come on.

Speaker 37 Did I miss any terms?

Speaker 1 I don't think so. You got the good ones.

Speaker 17 Perfect. I think everyone should be up to speed now.

Speaker 8 Now, I'd love to start at the beginning.

Speaker 34 What was your first impression of everybody?

Speaker 1 Nicole swears that I did what I did. And I swear that it was a camera edits when, like, I looked at her, was like, oh.

Speaker 1 But she came in loud. She came in,

Speaker 2 she came in loud.

Speaker 1 And I love loud people, but she was a lot. I was like, there's, I called her a rabid chihuahua.
I was like, you are just very rabid. You're a lot.

Speaker 1 I thought the boys were dumb as a box of rocks. I love them to death, but I was like, what is this?

Speaker 8 I think the best part about it is, is that you guys

Speaker 35 got to where you are now because people saw you guys being like hilarious, just us ridiculous, but you guys

Speaker 28 were so like true to yourselves in like enjoying life at the Jersey Shore that people were like,

Speaker 45 I want to watch this.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I think it was twofold too. I think, truthfully, and I'm not even saying this to like make people laugh, like we look like creatures of the night.

Speaker 1 If you were from Ohio, you didn't know what we looked like. You didn't know this existed.
You didn't know like there were.

Speaker 8 Well, that, that was one of the craziest things about going to Seaside Heights myself and getting the confirmation

Speaker 30 that we exist. Because it's normal.

Speaker 29 Because this is what I grew up with.

Speaker 6 I grew up South Jersey Shore.

Speaker 22 For people who don't know, it's very different from the North Jersey Shore points, specifically Seaside Heights.

Speaker 29 Yes.

Speaker 4 And so when people were like, oh, it's a, it's, it's a show about the Jersey Shore.

Speaker 5 I'm like, not the one I went to.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 So we were more of like the party sector. We were more of like the daytime partying, work at the shore.

Speaker 1 You know, we did work at the t-shirt shop. He paid us like $8 an hour.
Rude, by the way.

Speaker 1 And we lived, eat, and breathe the shore.

Speaker 29 When did you meet the roommates for the first time?

Speaker 1 That day. You see it in real time.
We all left the hotel separately. We got in a,

Speaker 1 in our cars with a producer. The producer gave us a map quest printout and said, drive here.

Speaker 1 So we drove over the bridge and you see it all happen in real time. Like we meet them in real time.

Speaker 1 We

Speaker 1 meet the house. Like we walked in and we were like, what are we doing? And then as the dust settled, Danny walked in and was like, you're going to be working at my show store.
And

Speaker 1 I don't work. What?

Speaker 2 I'm here to party. What do you mean?

Speaker 1 He's like, if you want to party, you have to work. And that was the deal.

Speaker 8 I do think that that was one of the,

Speaker 29 one of the craziest parameters of the show, that you guys had to stay working at the t-shirt shop to be able to stay in the house.

Speaker 1 Or you would get fired and leave like Angelina did. Like that was, they were dead ass with that part.

Speaker 9 I love that.

Speaker 1 And we didn't make any money except for what we made on the, at the shore store. So the first season, I probably walked away with like $400.

Speaker 2 Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 And I worked in the Long Island nightclub industry. Like I was like making really good money.
And because I wasn't able to tell them if I got hired for the show or not, I like lost all my jobs.

Speaker 1 I like turned my cell phone back on. I checked my voice messages.
They're like, you're fired because you didn't show up to like some of the biggest parties.

Speaker 1 So when I left the show, I left jobless, broke, fired, and regretting everything. I was like, I had a great life in Long Island.

Speaker 2 Oh my God.

Speaker 1 Because we also didn't know the show would be successful, right? So at that point, we were just like, see you later.

Speaker 13 Because when you were finished filming, how long after you were finished filming did the show air?

Speaker 1 Three months.

Speaker 2 Oof.

Speaker 20 Three months for $400 for three months?

Speaker 1 And I couldn't get a job back. So I ended up working in finance temporarily, like mortgages, and being like, I'm going to have to go home to my dad.
I'm going to have to like drop out of school.

Speaker 1 I can't afford it. I had really good like job security that I walked away from.
I had all these regrets and like all this like overwhelming feeling.

Speaker 1 I remember being in my kitchen and like, borrowing money from my girlfriend, and being like, that's it. I'm not taking any more money from anybody.

Speaker 1 And then I hear this obnoxious voice on TV, and I'm like, that's me.

Speaker 1 And I look in, I dead, I'll never forget this. I was in the kitchen.
I was like, the fuck, that's what I sound like. And I hit the corner and I see a commercial for the Jersey Shore.

Speaker 2 For the Jersey Shore, see me.

Speaker 1 And then, like, 13 minutes later, MTV calls me. And they're like, hi, just so you know, we're like a rep from MTV.

Speaker 1 If you need anything, call us. This is the name of your show.
I'm like, yeah, I just saw it.

Speaker 2 Thank you for now.

Speaker 1 Because we didn't know what it was going to be called, anything. We had no idea.

Speaker 5 That's such a like a trust exercise.

Speaker 2 And don't do those.

Speaker 4 Here's all of your, here's all my stuff.

Speaker 11 Hotel for a week. End up in a house.

Speaker 2 Leave with $400 and no job.

Speaker 11 Like, that is,

Speaker 13 you are, you are investing in yourself.

Speaker 1 I like that.

Speaker 2 I like that.

Speaker 1 I took a risk and I'm not a risk taker. I don't do those things.
It was meant to be.

Speaker 1 I can't think of it any other way because my personality is like, what's worst case scenario? And every worst case scenario, every red flag was like right there.

Speaker 1 And I was like, okay, I'll still do it.

Speaker 8 It's like, I could end up in a ditch, but I could also end up on a really cool TV show

Speaker 7 making a lot of money. So, I mean, it all worked out.

Speaker 10 Jersey Shore might also be one of the most quotable TV shows of all time.

Speaker 8 Do you have a favorite line of yours?

Speaker 42 Because my favorite.

Speaker 2 Stay and get your ass beat.

Speaker 2 Or

Speaker 20 you can stay and get your fucking ass beat.

Speaker 2 My God.

Speaker 31 I mean,

Speaker 2 is there a better quote?

Speaker 1 I don't think so.

Speaker 31 That is just...

Speaker 25 And

Speaker 20 to be clear, I

Speaker 9 how many times did you say it?

Speaker 21 I don't know.

Speaker 2 I don't know what I was doing.

Speaker 2 I was so angry.

Speaker 35 It was so good.

Speaker 1 So you have to understand that season in particular, I really wish they sold more episodes. We could have made at least 25, 30.
They only allowed like eight or 10, but we stayed there for two months.

Speaker 1 Two months trying living with someone with no cell phone, internet, no TV, no pens, papers, magazines.

Speaker 1 At any point in anyone's life, you would tell someone next to you, if you stay, I will literally beat your ass. Like you need to leave.
So I probably said it way more.

Speaker 2 I was over it.

Speaker 1 She left. Here we are.

Speaker 2 We're friends now.

Speaker 29 It was such a good, I mean, if you have not seen that clip.

Speaker 46 You want to get your f ⁇ beat? You get your ass beat. You can stay, get your ass beat.

Speaker 46 You can stay, get your f ⁇ ing ass beat. Okay.
You can stay, get your f ⁇ ing ass beat. All right.

Speaker 20 You can stay and get your ass beat or you can stay and get your fucking ass beat.

Speaker 16 I mean, just top-tier television people. Thanks.

Speaker 32 Forget all the nonsense that's happening right now.

Speaker 27 The new reality TV does not hold a candle to you can say and get your ass beat, or you can say and get your fan beat.

Speaker 23 I appreciate that.

Speaker 25 That's outstanding.

Speaker 32 I also don't know if you realize it since you were in it, but the way the anticipation for the episode where Snookie gets punched

Speaker 41 united all of us.

Speaker 15 We were on the edge of our seats waiting for that.

Speaker 32 That happened pretty early in the show.

Speaker 29 What was it like seeing the fan reaction and how it sort of like elicited this just absolutely

Speaker 37 bananas, right?

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 so I would say that was a huge that was a pivotal moment in our show because at that time I think Nicole wanted to leave she didn't feel like we are taking her serious because she came in very party-esque like 21 she was a baby right and we were GTL gym tan laundry so we were like party two days a week she's like let's party all seven So it was this disconnect, but we all liked her.

Speaker 1 But that day I realized, wow, I like, I love her. And if you watch that clip back, and it's super quick because

Speaker 1 even though they played it for its entirety,

Speaker 1 a lot of backlash actually occurred originally. And I love MTV for this, and I love 495 Productions for this, and I stand by them.

Speaker 1 So when that happened in the bar, because the guy took our shots and Nicole is like defending us, he punched her.

Speaker 1 I remember her dropping to the floor off like the bench, which is high up,

Speaker 1 making sure she was okay, dropping my purse and just started wailing on him as hard and as fast as I could. And in that like 13 seconds, the police show up, the boardwalk police and grabbed him.

Speaker 1 And I ran back to her because I really thought he broke two of her teeth. Like,

Speaker 1 and she was bleeding and it was a mess, but she was perfectly fine. I was like, thank God.

Speaker 1 We had this meeting and I was with her in the ambulance till like eight o'clock the next morning, making sure she was okay.

Speaker 1 And people really thought they weren't going to air it, they weren't going to show it. And

Speaker 1 I remember sitting with people and saying in the higher ups, like, why are we protecting him? Right.

Speaker 1 Like, I get that it's like never been done or never been seen on TV and no woman is ever asked to get punched by a man, but he did that. Yes.
And why are we going to protect him?

Speaker 1 So they aired the commercial and they aired it blacked out.

Speaker 1 And the rage that went across america defending him

Speaker 1 really not like i don't even want to say defending him but being shocked at the audacity of mtv airing it rather than the audacity of the man doing it do you you know what i mean yes how dare you air that how dare we air like something so crazy and

Speaker 1 trashy and and but we're like how dare he do that right like he's the one that swung yes we're just airing the reality of what happened nobody ever asked for that to happen we sure as hell didn't think it was gonna happen um

Speaker 1 and that's when i remember sally and our owner of our company being like no we're doubling down we're airing this and we're airing it in its entirety and we're standing by the fact that like this is not okay and we're not protecting him because if we don't air it, we protect him.

Speaker 27 That's right.

Speaker 1 And Nicole is left with getting hit and people just wondering why for like the good chunk of the rest of the season, she's got this like baseball knot on her face.

Speaker 1 So I'm super proud of like our production and MTV really like

Speaker 1 doubling down. Yeah, just it really blew my mind that like

Speaker 1 that that was even a conversation. And if you look back at the old season sometimes, you'll see the blacked out version.
Like they still sometimes won't show it.

Speaker 13 That's so interesting.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Ugh.

Speaker 11 I do love that they doubled down, though.

Speaker 40 Yes.

Speaker 38 And this is how I know I was hanging out with the right people because we were all like, how dare he?

Speaker 45 Thank you. Yes.

Speaker 8 No, I felt that strongly.

Speaker 47 Thank you.

Speaker 11 Oh, that's, that means if we had algorithms back then, mine would have been right.

Speaker 1 And it's still like an oh shit moment and it's still, but like I think a lot of conservative people, a lot of boomers at the time, older millennials were more insulted at the fact like, oh, how dare you air that?

Speaker 1 Right.

Speaker 1 but it's like but that happens yes and I feel like when we bring attention to things like that that's how we can make it stop absolutely if we're going deeper no that yeah protecting and that's that was ahead of its time yeah this was 2009 like December

Speaker 1 very

Speaker 1 uh

Speaker 9 I don't remember ever seeing anything like that on television absolutely look at us having a great time at the OD, laughing, talking about one of the best shows in history, Jersey Shore.

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Speaker 17 Before we move on from Jersey Shore, We do another segment on Not Gonna Lie here called Doom Scroll of the Week.

Speaker 8 We explain a TikTok or watch a TikTok and then really we pick it apart.

Speaker 17 Okay.

Speaker 6 Because right now, I'll Doom Scroll when I'm feeding.

Speaker 8 I'll Doom Scroll like when I get in bed at night, which everybody says is bad for you, but like whatever.

Speaker 10 I'm enjoying myself.

Speaker 25 Thank you.

Speaker 34 So I thought since we have you here, we could do a Jersey Shore edition of Doom Scroll where we can react to some of the most viral clips that popped up on my for you page.

Speaker 12 First up,

Speaker 42 Nicole couldn't find.

Speaker 7 By the way, Nicole is Snookie.

Speaker 29 Snookie is Nicole.

Speaker 8 If we cross over here,

Speaker 11 I feel like we should clarify that.

Speaker 9 Nicole is now a grown-ass woman, and she's Nicole, but she was Snookie, and it was great.

Speaker 15 First up, Snookie couldn't find the beach, and then she got arrested.

Speaker 7 Roll the clip, Queen Emma.

Speaker 2 Where's the beach?

Speaker 2 It's so good.

Speaker 2 Oh, my God. We go to the beach so bad.

Speaker 29 I won't go to the beach so bad is what she said.

Speaker 2 Nicole!

Speaker 15 Look at you. It's too early for the

Speaker 1 my number one main concern I know is getting Nicole. Put on the beach before she gets in trouble.

Speaker 2 I'm a good person.

Speaker 7 Come on, Nicole.

Speaker 2 This is a good time. Because you don't want to go on the water while you're.
Can you hear my parents?

Speaker 1 There's so much more to that.

Speaker 5 I would love to point out that

Speaker 8 she had the massive sunglasses on, which nowadays, well, maybe I might be a little behind on this trend, but people would say they're blocking out the haters, okay?

Speaker 1 yes, they're blocking it all out.

Speaker 2 What led to that?

Speaker 1 A lot of drinking. So we always had this.
I don't know what went wrong, but that day,

Speaker 1 I shouldn't, I should have known better, but we always had you have to go somewhere with a partner. It's a buddy system, right? Just for cameras and moving, buddy system.

Speaker 1 But everyone was dead tired, and Nicole really wanted a day drink. So production was like, all right, you can go by yourself.
Never do that again.

Speaker 1 She got blacked out on a day like this. And I have to say, where's the beach? She knew where the beach was.

Speaker 37 The problem is the entrance to the

Speaker 1 entrance in Jersey is like a, you have to pay at a booth and you have to like get a slip or whatever. And she was, the poor girl was just trying to find the entrance.

Speaker 1 And then we all had to double down and try and stop her from going in the ocean because of her mic pack, which was very valuable back in the day.

Speaker 1 And we did not have a lot of could not order them on amazon yes and all i heard was sound freaking out her mic pack her mic pack so i'm running on the beach then dina then sammy i don't know who else i was like seeing friends down the shore being like is that jenny chasing her meatball and all hands on deck and um i actually believe the police that were like tailing us to protect us were like, yeah, we got to arrest you.

Speaker 2 You're

Speaker 1 a a public nuisance, and that's what I think she got arrested for.

Speaker 17 So, it was actually police that was sent with you guys that was eventually like, We got to call it somewhere and

Speaker 1 do an aerial shot or like a widened view of that, and you can find them on the internet.

Speaker 1 No joke, at least 3,000 people were swarming us. If nobody realizes it, but if you expand the shot and get like a paparazzi view,

Speaker 1 three or four thousand people were like surrounding us in a circle.

Speaker 12 oh god all right uh next up poly d got mad this is one of this word

Speaker 49 that you guys are mad but i ain't doing thing

Speaker 49 so i'm mad at you for being mad at me for no reason

Speaker 49 so try to talk to me i'm mad

Speaker 1 I have no idea what that even is about, but I'm sure we said something like, oh, we're mad at him. And he has such a great sense of humor to like turn it around.

Speaker 47 It was, it was so good.

Speaker 6 How do you not break when he's like, I'm mad at you for being mad?

Speaker 5 I so, I mean, it's amazing.

Speaker 1 It was the original gaslighter.

Speaker 2 Like,

Speaker 2 it was perfect.

Speaker 7 Um, he also had to deal with a stage five clinger.

Speaker 1 Yes, it was, he was going through a lot.

Speaker 2 You stalked my whole life on the boardwalk.

Speaker 17 There's the duck phone.

Speaker 15 For anyone watching, that is the duck phone.

Speaker 2 my turn to talk you stalked my whole entire life right and i don't like that i do nothing wrong i feel like i've taken notes from this

Speaker 30 when i talk to my own kids it's my turn to talk it's my turn to talk i've learned that too from him right is it my turn is it my turn yep so good he's great that was great and just to be clear the duck phone perfection that's it it shows up so many times and it first of all

Speaker 1 quacked guys it quacked as the ringer okay but it also is terrible like nobody understands landlines like we did but like trying to hear there was an echo so we were like is that because of recording devices in the phone it could have been okay or it could have been that because it just been the duck

Speaker 17 i'm like it could have been echoing in the in the duck's head it's fine uh but the duck quacked yeah and it was how you guys called the cab company yes it was the only way that outside people could reach you right so like it was it was kind of its own character on the show it was the ninth cast member for sure Perfect.

Speaker 27 And lastly, I just saw this outstanding clip that you posted of your daughter rating your outfits from your original Jersey Shore era.

Speaker 9 Queen Emma.

Speaker 50 Part two of anyone's outfit.

Speaker 2 Part two.

Speaker 50 It's like a six out of ten. Like, no, no.
It's like a five out of ten.

Speaker 50 This, I don't know what it's giving. It's giving Barney the dinosaur.

Speaker 2 Oh my god. It's giving Barney the dinosaur.
Just wait.

Speaker 50 Just swing. Let's move on to the next one.

Speaker 2 Just sweet.

Speaker 50 It's so good.

Speaker 35 What else was she...

Speaker 14 What look did you enjoy that she roasted?

Speaker 1 She hates all my alphas.

Speaker 2 Does she? Yeah.

Speaker 12 To this day?

Speaker 1 To this day, she calls me, and I don't know if it's a good thing or not, but it just aired on Family Vacation. She called me Y2K.

Speaker 2 She's like, you're looking Y2K.

Speaker 1 I'm like, what does that mean? And how do you even know what that is?

Speaker 13 Is that what the kids are saying now?

Speaker 23 Is that to call us old?

Speaker 1 Is that like what we called our parents hippies?

Speaker 1 You know what I mean? Yes. Because that's like the timeframe.

Speaker 1 20, 30 years ago. Like, I don't know how to feel about this.
Why 2K?

Speaker 29 But eventually all these things are going to come back around.

Speaker 1 I already said that to her.

Speaker 2 The low-rise jeans are here.

Speaker 1 She wanted an Aaliyah shirt the other day. I'm like, do you even know who Aaliyah is? No, but it's cool.
Okay. Then she goes, Mom, I want Tupac.

Speaker 1 I said, Do you mean Tupac?

Speaker 17 When you learn how to pronounce that, you can have a Tupac shirt.

Speaker 2 Thank you.

Speaker 17 My goodness, that does it for Doomscroll of the Week.

Speaker 10 Now, since we're talking about your daughter, I'd love to ask you more about motherhood and parenting.

Speaker 34 First of all, I will say, how old are your kids now?

Speaker 1 She's turning 11. He just turned 9.

Speaker 43 And

Speaker 35 I just saw a clip again

Speaker 38 on my trip down memory lane

Speaker 6 of your daughter when you were doing, I believe it was your your YouTube series with Nicole.

Speaker 31 Oh, yes.

Speaker 14 And she said,

Speaker 14 oh.

Speaker 2 What?

Speaker 4 What did you just say?

Speaker 20 And your reaction was perfect.

Speaker 21 And Nicole leaned over and was like, use it.

Speaker 47 What? What did you just say?

Speaker 2 You're not supposed to react.

Speaker 32 And you walked away and you were like laughing behind her head.

Speaker 1 And Nicole is there like, what'd you say?

Speaker 2 Say it again.

Speaker 8 I assume that means that that you curse in your household?

Speaker 1 A little bit. We're big fans of that here.
A little bit. Yeah.

Speaker 1 I feel like,

Speaker 1 and listen, I'm...

Speaker 2 To be fair, she used it correctly.

Speaker 1 She did use it correctly. I was actually more impressed with the fact that she used it correctly than the fact that she said it.
But I don't know how to parent. I don't know if you know how to parent.

Speaker 1 No,

Speaker 1 you figure it. Yeah, you figure it out.
And I thought that if I start swearing early on,

Speaker 1 that it won't be such a desensitized thing. Yes, you desensitize, you get them over the hump, and then they're just like, oh, whatever.

Speaker 1 I hear that every day because I did have that kid one day in my car before I had kids that I brought a bunch of my friends' kids to Subway. I brought three of them.
And I'll never forget it.

Speaker 1 One of them just dropped the F-bomb in the middle of the car. And the other two were like, oh,

Speaker 1 you can't say that. And then she's...
The boy was like, yeah, you can. And then she's like, I can say fuck.
And then it became this whole thing in my car. And I was like, I'm ruined.

Speaker 1 My friends are going to hate me forever because their kids are going to be a little bit more.

Speaker 2 You returned the kid cursing. Yes.

Speaker 17 The kid left not cursing and you returned them.

Speaker 1 Oh, it was such a humbling moment. And then I realized, well, I just got to curse.
Like, that's just my thing. Like, if I start cursing right away, then the kids.

Speaker 1 So now that I curse, and my son just said it to me this morning because I was saying something under my breath. He goes, You shouldn't be cursing.
You're better than that.

Speaker 1 I'm like, so now I got the reverse. I got the kids that don't want me to curse.
Right. But I know, I know them.
I see them and I see my son playing his video games. They curse

Speaker 1 under their breath, behind the scenes.

Speaker 14 But they, when they say it correctly,

Speaker 13 it's always a moment where you're like, you know that.

Speaker 7 I can't tell you nailed that. Yeah.

Speaker 1 You know that. I got to walk away.
Yep. But I'm proud.

Speaker 10 God, that was so good.

Speaker 8 I heard you say in another podcast interview that you've gone to Nicole for motherhood advice over the years.

Speaker 11 Yes.

Speaker 8 What's the best piece of motherhood advice that you've gotten from her?

Speaker 1 So, our mantra is

Speaker 1 we

Speaker 1 don't give mother advice unless someone asks for it because there is nothing worse than somebody giving unwanted parenting advice.

Speaker 38 I

Speaker 39 love that. Yes.

Speaker 1 So my girlfriend Sammy on the show is pregnant right now and everyone's always like, what are you going to give her advice? When are you going to give her advice? I'm like, I'm not.

Speaker 1 She'll figure it out. But if she wants advice,

Speaker 1 I will be there for her every step of the way.

Speaker 1 I will tell her what I did in that specific situation, which might be different than hers, but I will never give a mom unwanted advice because it takes a village, first off.

Speaker 1 And also, nobody's fucking perfect. Everybody's winging it.
And as long as you're trying to keep your fucking kid alive,

Speaker 1 that's it.

Speaker 1 You're doing great, sweetie.

Speaker 2 That's it.

Speaker 38 There are some days where we get into bed at night and I'm like, everyone is in their bed in clean clothes and alive.

Speaker 47 They're alive. Yes.

Speaker 6 We're calling it a win.

Speaker 1 Yes, that's a win.

Speaker 6 And also, I always like to point out when people ask me for advice now because I'm four deep, I'm like, first of all,

Speaker 32 I'm five and under.

Speaker 6 I can't tell you anything over five right now.

Speaker 34 And also, every single one of our kids are so different.

Speaker 21 And if I gave you advice that applied to our first, it wouldn't have worked for our second 100%.

Speaker 8 And so the idea of people giving that unsolicited advice, you're like, can you put a cork in it?

Speaker 1 To me, it's condescending and it's you're projecting because to me, I'm like, why are you giving that to me? I don't want it.

Speaker 1 And you're just trying to say a situation that happened in your life that's not currently happening in mine. Like you just said, you have four girls under five, all different, all in the same house.

Speaker 1 I have a son with autism. I have a daughter who's highly emotional.
I can't even give the same advice for

Speaker 1 in your own house. In my own house, because I have two different completely parenting styles when it comes to them.

Speaker 39 Yes.

Speaker 1 So the fuck kind of advice am I going to give? Holding on by a thread. It gets better, it doesn't.
Sorry.

Speaker 2 It doesn't. I already know.

Speaker 2 I know that.

Speaker 1 It gets different. It doesn't get better.
It just gets different.

Speaker 8 It has a new set of challenges every phase.

Speaker 2 God. Yeah.

Speaker 28 Lovely.

Speaker 3 And now for the season two premiere of your favorite Duncan soap opera, The Duncan Chronicles. The role of Kylie will be played by me.

Speaker 3 The stage directions read by our queen, Queen Emma. Action!

Speaker 19 Interior Duncan, Ardmore, Pennsylvania, October 2019. Kylie walks into her neighborhood Duncan and is clearly nine months pregnant and ecstatic about it.

Speaker 24 Not gonna lie, being pregnant is uncomfortable.

Speaker 29 This baby better at least look like me.

Speaker 19 The male Duncan cashier nods along as if he could possibly relate.

Speaker 3 But nothing takes my mind off this nausea and insomnia like an ice cold.

Speaker 11 Butter pecan.

Speaker 9 I'll have my usual, please.

Speaker 19 The cashier starts preparing Kylie's medium butter pecan iced coffee with almond milk. Kylie looks around the store.
She can't get enough of the decor.

Speaker 43 Oh my gosh, is that new signage by the ladies' room?

Speaker 2 Oh,

Speaker 19 Kylie winces in pain. Was that her first contraction? In her Duncan, she starts breathing heavily.

Speaker 19 Kylie pulls out her phone and immediately calls someone.

Speaker 20 Jason, quick!

Speaker 21 I'm in labor.

Speaker 20 Where do you think I am? I'm at Duncan.

Speaker 20 No, there's no time to get your fan.

Speaker 2 Hauls and get over here.

Speaker 19 To be continued.

Speaker 28 Well, speaking of motherhood, I saw you are directing a film.

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 17 About first-time motherhood and postpartum called Nanny Cam.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 5 Tell me more about that.

Speaker 6 And did you finish shooting already?

Speaker 1 We just finished shooting.

Speaker 1 It is about a mother suffering from postpartum psychosis.

Speaker 1 I actually believe I was suffering from postpartum with Milani, but I guess when you're crazy, you don't think you're crazy and you only realize you're crazy when you're out of it.

Speaker 1 And I was shooting Snookie and Jaywa when I created this concept of nanny cam because

Speaker 1 I went into a film house with a newborn because we weren't allowed to go home to our real houses because they were a film ordinance in my town. So I went to a staged home for

Speaker 1 the birth of my first child, which is crazy. But I actually really respected it because production had cameras everywhere to make sure my daughter was okay.

Speaker 1 But it was actually when we rapped that I realized I was developing postpartum. And I started putting cameras throughout my own house to make sure I could watch her.
Firstborn problems.

Speaker 1 I don't know if she's breathing, sleeping, up, not. I was highly paranoid.
You're not sleeping at all. She's not sleeping.
You know the deal.

Speaker 1 So I started actually not seeing things in my cameras, but I started being like, oh, that's a little wonky. Let me make something out of this.

Speaker 1 So 10 years ago, I started writing my, the movie Nanny Cam, which is about a mother going through postpartum psychosis that thinks she's seeing things in the cameras that nobody else can see, but nobody else will believe.

Speaker 1 And I really want to hit home about mental illness and first-time mothers, women, and and how it takes a village and how regardless of

Speaker 1 it being real or not, it's real to that person. My mom has schizophrenia.
So what my mom sees and hears is what she sees and hears.

Speaker 1 And it's really just a conversational piece that I'm making on bringing mental illness to light because I think just like the guy getting, you know, punching Nicole in the face, if we start talking about these things more and we start showing these things more, people will understand them more and help.

Speaker 1 And I want to help women that go through those things.

Speaker 23 It's so important too to have those conversations because, like you're saying, first-time moms, obviously, you don't know what to expect. You're not sleeping.

Speaker 29 You're going through a grind that, like, you, anyone could have explained to you and you still have no idea.

Speaker 1 Here's a great one. And I just realized this coming over here.

Speaker 1 And I just said this to someone this morning. I, and you'll see it on Snook Wow and you can see it in pictures.

Speaker 1 I shaved my head i shaved the side of my head after i had milani nobody questioned it nobody said oh should we get her checked out what's going on there i went full blonde shaved and just was like chilling this is it now this is it i but but that's like in that moment you were like this is the right decision this is great i want a new do

Speaker 7 yeah and looking back now you're like yeah something and that's where

Speaker 1 I guess where we need to start like asking our friends. I've just had babies, are you okay? Do you need a break? Do you need someone to talk to? How's your mental health? Are you sleeping?

Speaker 1 Are you eating properly? Are you seeing shit? Do you want to shave your head? Like,

Speaker 34 I will say I did tell my, my, the person who cuts my hair, Jason's barber, but she also does my hair.

Speaker 15 I told her when I started having kids, like, hey, if I ever come to you and ask for the mom cut, which is like the really really cute like shorter hair but I know that that is that's my threshold I told her if I ever come to you and ask for a shorter haircut I need you to have I need you to like take me to the doctor's office that's that is the moment where it's gonna be like no no logical like grounded Kylie knew that that was not for her and we can't risk it that's so important and it's so important that you realize that because you knew that was your limit very much and I did the mom cut too.

Speaker 1 And I hated it. And I cried.
And I was like, why did I do this when my hormones adjusted? That's it. And you look back and you knew, like, I have long, beautiful blonde hair.

Speaker 1 I know I'm not touching this shit. Crazy Kylie.

Speaker 2 I will regret it.

Speaker 40 But sleepless, like hungry Kylie.

Speaker 17 Yeah.

Speaker 11 She probably was like, chop that shit.

Speaker 47 Yes.

Speaker 35 Yeah.

Speaker 8 No, I told, I told Libby, I said, Libby,

Speaker 38 do not let me do it.

Speaker 1 And she did it.

Speaker 15 But I do think it's so important because I know, and I've talked about this a number of times.

Speaker 34 I know I had a different experience for every single one of my kids.

Speaker 13 I know that I had baby blues for my first.

Speaker 36 I know that I experienced some forms of postpartum for like my other girls.

Speaker 6 I can acknowledge that, but it's very much what you're saying.

Speaker 8 In the moment, it's hard to have a personal check and be like, am I okay right now?

Speaker 1 Yes.

Speaker 1 And if there's anything that I want people to learn from Nanny Cam, it's that it is going to be terrifying and it's going to be terrifyingly real, but I want people to talk about it and if they could turn to the person that they love, that have children, are going to have children and

Speaker 1 start planning

Speaker 1 for those situations and give your wife and the mother of your child grace when she's going through them.

Speaker 27 That's so amazing.

Speaker 6 And I am excited to see it.

Speaker 35 Now, something else we have in common is one of the main reasons why I was so excited to have you on the show.

Speaker 29 particularly this week and in this location.

Speaker 23 We're both very involved in the autism community.

Speaker 8 You sit on the board for Culture City.

Speaker 1 I do.

Speaker 35 For those who don't know, Culture City is an organization.

Speaker 5 They are actually,

Speaker 34 they are the ones who are able to outfit the sensory rooms that are at a lot of the NFL stadiums.

Speaker 8 A number of other stadiums are also putting them in.

Speaker 23 What drew you to get involved into Culture City?

Speaker 1 But I also have to shout you out before I talk about me because I look up to you. Oh, my God.
I got chills right now. I want to cry.
You are such an incredible autism advocate.

Speaker 1 Like, truly, you, the Philadelphia Eagles, the city of Philadelphia being our first century inclusive city, like I'm going to get emotional, but like I just want to say thank you because there is no me without you in this dynamic because

Speaker 1 it's people and places like Philly and like yourself that make Culture City what it is.

Speaker 1 The owner of the Philadelphia Eagles is incredible. I know he did everything for his

Speaker 2 brother, right?

Speaker 1 Yeah. But I got involved because my son was diagnosed and I needed help.
The irony is, you know, there's so many ironies in my life, but when my son got diagnosed with autism

Speaker 1 by like six doctors, and I know at one point they really did not want to diagnose him because they were scared shitless. Like, if we get this wrong, this girl's all over television.

Speaker 1 And, you know, and they got it right, but it's nerve-wracking for everyone.

Speaker 1 But after I got his diagnosis, I did not know what to do besides he needs ABA. He needs ABA 40 hours a week.
He needs speech and OT and all this stuff. And then

Speaker 1 even then I was like still overwhelmed and like, let me get a second opinion and let me fly him to Florida for it. So I fly my son Graceland to Florida and

Speaker 1 there was a flight delay on the way back.

Speaker 1 And we were were sitting in TSA, and I did not have pre-check at the time. This was nine years ago, eight years ago.
And

Speaker 1 he decided to

Speaker 1 not like that. And he tried to run through TSA.
And when I tried to stop him, he ripped my glasses off and broke them. And he like head-butted me.

Speaker 1 And it was a very emotional and very real moment that I had with him.

Speaker 1 And through all his diagnosing, nobody explained to me sensory issues and sensory processing and i had no idea because he really wasn't on a flight before that that he didn't like lines and he didn't like waiting and he hated delays and because he couldn't speak he couldn't tell me that so he took his aggression out on me because i was the closest thing to him

Speaker 1 and i remember seeing everybody's phones go up And everyone's recording, Jay Wow with her son, who is throwing a tantrum in the airport. And I just remember crying.
And I remember going to the, the,

Speaker 1 I finally get through TSA and I'm bawling and my, I have scratches, and my son's crying, and I can't get him in his car seat.

Speaker 1 And, and we're having this moment, and I just want to get on the plane or hide. And I'm asking the gate, and the gate's like, there's nothing we can do.
Your flight's delayed.

Speaker 1 And I'm begging, like begging. I'm like, as a person, as a mom, please help me.
They're like, there's nothing we can do.

Speaker 1 So I was able to lock myself in a bathroom with him and get him figured out and

Speaker 1 lock him into his

Speaker 1 stroller. Like I was like hogtying him at one point just to calm him down.
Right. And we got on the plane and he passed out.
I remember all the looks and I just, you know, he just got diagnosed.

Speaker 1 I was, I don't want to talk about his diagnosis. I was still trying to process that.
And I just did this Karen post on my personal Facebook, like just fucking going off on the whole situation.

Speaker 1 And my girlfriend, her husband, Tiki Barber and Tracy,

Speaker 1 Barbara were like, Hey, we're part of Culture City. Let me put a sentry room in your house and give you some sensory tools so when you're flying.
And I was like, What's that? I had no idea.

Speaker 1 And she came over literally 72 hours with Culture City. They remade a whole bedroom of mine into a sensory room for Grayson.

Speaker 1 They explained to me his diagnosis in a way that the hospitals didn't, that there are going to be challenges with lights and lines and feeling overwhelming, and that he might need headsets or fidget spinners.

Speaker 1 And, like, the hospitals don't tell you that when they diagnose.

Speaker 1 And I just started crying. And I asked them, like, well, what can I do to be a part of like your group? Like, I want to help.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 2 yeah, I think

Speaker 1 that cut to me being on the board for the last seven years. And my goal now is to make sure

Speaker 1 airports,

Speaker 1 TSA agents, and all of the above are not only certified to understand those situations and to de-escalate them, but to create sensory rooms.

Speaker 1 So if you're a mother like me going through that, you have a safe place because

Speaker 1 nothing is worse than when people are taking their cell phones out and doing that. And I talked about that.
And the iron, not the irony, the best part of it is nobody sold that video.

Speaker 1 Nobody posted it online. I didn't see the light of day.
It never, and it might still, but no, out of the 20 to 30 people recording, I never saw it.

Speaker 31 I think that there's something to be said about

Speaker 8 like a lot of situations, people will give grace to kids, right? Because they're kids.

Speaker 36 But a lot of times

Speaker 6 an escalated situation with an individual on the spectrum might be louder and might be be harder to de-escalate, specifically in a public area.

Speaker 6 So having those spaces to be able to do that, and like, even if it wasn't someone in your position in the public eye and who is a celebrity having that moment, I know that that happens to people who are not in the public eye.

Speaker 1 I see it all the time on the internet. And I'm always like, but what if that child is not having a tantrum?

Speaker 1 Like, I always will give grace and I will always step in to help because you don't know what that parent's going through and you don't know what that child's going through.

Speaker 1 And because I had that moment myself, I look at everything differently. I'll look at every parenting situation differently.
And

Speaker 1 I just feel like through Culture City, I just want to help.

Speaker 1 And I want to make, I don't want to make you become the next meme or the next viral video.

Speaker 1 Like I find, you know, we have to start like looking at situations from a broader perspective and not just like, oh, that kid's having a tantrum. Let me record it.

Speaker 1 And like start looking at it like, oh, what if I put my phone down and helped?

Speaker 13 Well, I think it goes hand in hand with the fact that

Speaker 23 the number statistic for individuals who are diagnosed with on the autism spectrum,

Speaker 29 it has increased.

Speaker 8 I believe it's one in 31 now. It went up from one in 34.

Speaker 28 Yeah.

Speaker 36 And

Speaker 29 that rise in number is because we are more aware that these kids might not just be difficult or having tantrums or

Speaker 29 not like the airport or be impatient.

Speaker 15 It might be that their brain is telling them like fight or flight.

Speaker 1 Yeah. And that's

Speaker 1 a terrible thing to feel.

Speaker 2 Right.

Speaker 1 Yeah. And a lot of people need to understand that.
And I know older people will roll their eyes and be like, oh, they're over-diagnosing. No, they're finally diagnosing, is what I say.

Speaker 1 And we're finally giving tools and things to people, whether it's, you know, sensory bags at the Phillies game to de-escalate someone, or a sensory room if they're overwhelmed by the noises that they can go into, or if it's training at an airport so they can understand what to do in a situation like that so they can help.

Speaker 1 I feel like if all we're asking for is just like helping others, what's wrong with that?

Speaker 37 Yes.

Speaker 8 And also, I think it's important to note that, yes, the sensory room is intended for the individual who needs to de-escalate or who needs those moments of peace, but it is opening up a world of opportunity for families who have someone in their family who's on the spectrum, who are now able to go into those spaces, who are able to enjoy those opportunities as a family, whether it's going to

Speaker 8 monster trucks at the stadium or a concert or an Eagles game.

Speaker 6 You are now given the opportunity as a family to go and do that because you have the space that you need to de-escalate in the situation where someone is having a moment of

Speaker 29 disruption, right?

Speaker 1 I mean, I'm going to keep fangirling at you, but and not to interrupt, but Grayson, my son, was able to go to the WWE at the Eagles Stadium because of you guys, because you are a sensory certified, the city sentry certified, you have the room.

Speaker 1 So he was able to see the pyrotechnics, the huge loud noises, the banging, everything that he thought he could never see or do or make possible.

Speaker 1 It was given because Culture City, Eagles, Autism, everyone aligned and allowed it for him.

Speaker 1 And because it's not even about him, it all he said, like Grayson thought it was so cool because he's like, I saw like 25 friends doing the same thing and we were all hanging out in the room together.

Speaker 1 That's it. And I'm like, that's what it is.
It's your, those are your friends. Those are your people.

Speaker 15 He should be allowed to, he should be afforded that opportunity as well.

Speaker 23 Yes.

Speaker 25 And I do think that Philly

Speaker 38 really dedicating themselves to this mission for Jeffrey to have the vision to create this organization, this foundation, and partner it with the Eagles organization in a way that everyone in that building at the Eagles organization understands the mission and they understand why Jeffrey's passionate about it and why everyone should be passionate about it, because it impacts so many people, so many families.

Speaker 8 And now people are starting to realize that they have a personal connection that helps them sort of lean in a little bit more.

Speaker 24 Yeah.

Speaker 37 It's, it honestly, I'm, I'm really proud.

Speaker 6 I appreciate you giving me props, but it really is like

Speaker 1 you're going to make like a million dollars tomorrow for your organization.

Speaker 2 We're going to make that happen.

Speaker 29 For any parents out there listening who might be growing through this, what advice would you have?

Speaker 29 So for this is asked at parenting advice.

Speaker 24 Oh, I know.

Speaker 24 No, I know.

Speaker 26 So for me, it's

Speaker 1 there when I, when my son got diagnosed, the first thing that they said was, get him ABA, get him help, get him therapy.

Speaker 1 So if you feel that your child isn't meeting the right steps, whether it's going through school systems or the doctor appointments and they're just like behind,

Speaker 1 do get the advice. Don't turn, I have, I do, I have personal friends that are like, oh, my son's just a little bit delayed, but he'll grow out of it.
Don't wait. Do what needs to be done.

Speaker 1 Early intervention. Early intervention is key.
My son was diagnosed. I didn't have the insurance.
I didn't have the means. So I created a business.
I created the means. I found the way.

Speaker 1 I found the way to get the insurance. Like moms can be unstoppable and you need to be unstoppable for your children.
Early intervention is key. Going to culturecity.org.

Speaker 1 If you want to find places that are certified to take your children, if you know they have sensory needs. I mean, there's such a amount of information now on the internet, unlike 10 years ago.

Speaker 1 I feel like

Speaker 1 we're, I also feel like we're just getting started though, but I also feel like there's so much on the internet to help children where I don't know I feel like I was just like going through it myself or that could have been just me though like I was just going through the internet

Speaker 40 it was very isolating but now I feel like it's less isolating and it should be talked about and don't feel afraid or be afraid to talk about it I really think like being one step ahead and honestly trusting your gut that I think a lot of moms huge know and they don't want to admit they don't pull the trigger or they don't have the conversation with the doctor because they're like ah they'll get around to it and some doctors need you to take that extra step to be like no i am worried because we do answer the questions at the doctor's office and they'll say well you know they'll they'll get around to it in the next couple weeks or if if it's not happening by your next appointment we'll talk about it and it's like yeah but if your mom gut is sounding the alarm yeah you're welcome to do that listen yes yeah um well even though our shore events benefiting the eagles autism foundation uh this week are done now because it's technically Thursday when this releases, we've got plenty more coming up this year that you can get involved in.

Speaker 8 The Eagles Autism Foundation often holds sensory-friendly clinics.

Speaker 23 Yes.

Speaker 1 Grayson's going to go to one.

Speaker 42 They have so many different options.

Speaker 6 There's a cheer clinic.

Speaker 37 There is a STEM clinic, which is a new addition than this last year.

Speaker 8 There's football clinics, obviously.

Speaker 35 But it really is trying to get kids out for an all-inclusive clinic and make sure that everyone, everyone again is afforded those opportunities.

Speaker 8 If you'd like to donate to the Eagles Autism Foundation and help with our efforts to reach a million dollars in our year five of the guest bartending, we have a link for all the real ones right in the show description.

Speaker 8 So you can find that on our YouTube channel or on any of our social media,

Speaker 14 probably Wednesday and through Thursday when this episode airs.

Speaker 7 I cannot thank you enough.

Speaker 2 I can't thank you enough.

Speaker 13 It has been such a pleasure to reminisce with you.

Speaker 2 I know.

Speaker 35 I'm so sorry that we sweat you out here at the Jersey Shore, but I'm glad that you've experienced the South Jersey Shore and that maybe we'll coax you back.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Right? I am down.

Speaker 2 I'm going to move in.

Speaker 1 It's fine. Perfect.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 24 I have a room upstairs.

Speaker 34 I love that.

Speaker 10 You can find even more clips from our longer conversation with Jay Wow on my YouTube channel on More Shit Monday.

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Speaker 37 I love that. Cheers again.
Cheers again.

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