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Woo!

Ow!

Oh my gosh, you sound like a little werewolf.

Thank you.

Are you auditioning for your next role?

No, not yet.

Waiting for them to come in.

The werewolf isn't on your horizon?

I fear it hasn't popped up yet.

Oh, my God.

I was like, I could so see that.

Oh, my God.

I used to have the biggest crush on Tyler Posey.

It was that the main guy?

Yeah.

And then Dylan O'Brien.

He was in that too.

Yeah, he was, he was styles.

Well, Teen Wolf, it's giving, it's getting a little spooky.

We're, we're in our spooky season right now.

It's September for us, but because of my wedding, I'm recording way in advance.

And this is like the second episode for October.

This is actually really, I mentioned this earlier, but this is a really sick setup.

Thank you.

Like, I really like this setup.

I know we got the graveyard, our girl Annabelle for one more episode, unless I invite her back.

But she was moved today when I got here.

So I'm just, wait, I think she, I'm hoping she fell, but like she was really locked in.

And so

you know, I just like, I can't deal with haunted things.

No.

So Annabelle might have to go back home.

Okay.

Well,

yeah, no, I don't like haunted things.

I feel like they, I feel like people who don't like haunted things, though, haunted things always seek them out.

I think that's the case.

I feel like that's always been the case with me.

Uh-huh.

Like, 100%.

I'm like scared of the supernatural and like all this other stuff.

But if you put me in a haunted house, something's going to happen to me.

Oh, no.

Yeah.

No.

Which, first and foremost.

Hi, guys.

Welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes.

I'm your host, Morgan.

I've got Spencer Hunt over here.

Spencer.

Hey, guys.

Missed you.

I'm back.

I know.

It's been way too long.

I know.

And then, number two, have you ever had a spooky paranormal experience?

Oh, absolutely.

I've had several.

I grew up in a haunted house.

I remember us talking about this on one of the episodes we did.

Oh, my God.

Yeah, I grew up in a haunted house.

It was an old fire station that got turned into a duplex.

Mm-hmm.

It was.

I don't.

Did I hear that?

I need to watch the episode.

I'm like, did I learn that?

Did I hear that?

Maybe not.

I don't know if I knew that.

That sounds new.

Yeah, that sounds.

Yeah, I think that might be new information for you.

But yeah, I had that.

What happened there?

It was just like weird stuff would happen, happen, like

a lot of banging, and there would you would see like

shadows from time to time.

And I remember there was this one time I was like in my living room, and this was before I even found out that the house was

like a fire station.

Yeah.

And I told my mom, I was like, I was, I was sick at the time and I had like a nebulizer on my face.

For those of you who don't know what a nebulizer is, it's basically like a mask and it gets hooked up to a machine and they put like steroids in the um

yeah it's yeah it's almost like a syrant and it vaporizes and you would like breathe in the steroid and as I'm sitting there I saw these like

men in yellow jackets running up and down the stairs and I thought I was hallucinating like I started crying because I was so well I was one very sick but two I was like what is going on And then finally, like when everything was said and done, I was telling my mom everything that I had seen because that wasn't the only thing that I saw.

Yeah.

But she ended up doing research on the house because it like freaked her out and she was like, oh my god, this used to be a firehouse.

What the heck?

But like, I feel like that isn't even like

the craziest.

No, there have definitely been like crazier experiences that I've had.

This one time, there are these girls who lived across the street from me and I was best friends with them.

They were twins.

And I was sleeping over one night.

And they decided it would be really, really fun to play with the Ouija board.

So I left.

I went home because I was like, I'm not doing that no i come back a week later i ended up using their bathroom upstairs and their sister's room they had an older sister was across from the bathroom and i come out of the bathroom and i see this old lady folding her name was kelly their older sister kelly's laundry so i went downstairs and i was like guys why didn't you tell me that there was someone over And they're like, what do you mean?

And I was like, I'm pretty sure I just saw your grandma upstairs.

And they were like, our grandma isn't home.

Like, our grandma isn't over.

And I was like, okay, whatever we were playing we and it was my turn to choose which just dance we were gonna do like the just dance one two whatever so I go over to the rack where the just dance um like video game discs are and I see this photo above the like rack of video games and it was the twins, their parents, Kelly and their grandma and grandpa.

And it was a photo from a cruise.

And I was like, guys, this is, this is the grandma I'm talking about.

I just saw her upstairs.

And they're like, like, Spencer, that's not funny.

And I was like, what's not funny?

And they're like, she died.

Like, she's dead that night.

What?

What?

No.

I slept over that night.

And we woke up, all of us in the middle of the night to a huge bang.

And we thought it was her parents coming home because they were

paramedics.

We hear the garage door open, lights turn on.

And we're like, We don't hear walking, but we do see like feet kind of stop in front of the garage door.

And all of a sudden, their dad comes downstairs with a baseball bat.

And he's like, get upstairs.

Because we thought it was them, but it wasn't.

They were home, which was the scary part.

And he opened the door.

There was no one there.

There was nobody there.

I'm telling you, after they used that Ouija board, some crazy stuff happened in that house.

Oh,

okay.

That's why I don't, I'd like to believe in what you do.

Here's the thing.

I don't think Ouija boards are inherent are inherently evil.

I just think if you don't know how to use one and you're opening up a door, something's going to know that you're vulnerable and don't know what you're doing.

And whatever it is, it's going to come on through and say hello.

That's insane.

Not I.

October's off to a really good start, you guys.

I love October.

There's your little dash of spooky, spooky, paranormal.

I'm giving you a theme today.

I'm calling it ghosts and goblins.

Ooh.

It's all real stories, though.

No paranormal today.

Okay.

That was last week.

But your ghost experience,

you'll know a thing or two.

So it's like all these stories that have to do with like ghosting or maybe seeing a ghost, but like being a bad friend, you'll see.

Yeah, it'll make sense.

And like goblins, just like truly bad people.

Yes.

Like actual goblins.

Oh, okay.

Okay.

I'm getting, I'm getting it.

It's coming together now.

Yeah, no.

I put the pieces together in my head because I was like, goblins.

Yeah.

A goblin is a grotesque, monstrous, humanoid creature.

So these people, they're just, they're monstrous.

They're horrible.

They're horrible.

Oh, okay.

Well,

you're already.

Yeah.

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Okay, our first one, coming from R slash Wedding Drama, eight days old, titled, Maid of Honor Ghosted 10 Days Before the Wedding, and then posted this on Instagram.

So I'm a bridesmaid in my friend Tara's wedding next weekend, and everything was going pretty smoothly until last Thursday.

The maid of honor, Jess, suddenly stopped responding to messages in the group chat.

Tara had asked her to confirm her speech and arrival time for the rehearsal dinner.

Nothing crazy or last minute.

And Jess just disappeared.

No response, no call, no email.

Her red receipts were on, so we know she saw the messages.

By Sunday, Tara was freaking out.

Jess had the bride's veil.

She picked it up from the seamstress, and Tara didn't have a backup.

We all thought maybe there was an emergency or something serious going on, so we gave her her space.

Then, Monday night, Jess posted on Instagram.

She's at a cabin in the mountains, yoga pose, disconnecting from drama and reconnecting with myself.

That was the caption.

A few of us commented, like, hey, are you okay?

And get this, she deleted the comments.

The kicker, she's in the cabin with a guy she swore she broke up with months ago, the same guy who hit on Tara at her engagement party and caused a huge scene.

Tara ended up asking me to do the Maid of Honor speech, and I'm honored.

But I'm also just baffled at how someone could ghost their best friend's wedding a week before and then flex about it like it's some self-care moment.

No one's heard from Jess since.

She hasn't even returned the veil.

I was about to ask that.

Nope.

And that's it.

That's all the details we get.

That's all we have?

Somebody better pull up to Jess's house.

I would have.

I would have stormed into her home, especially after seeing that photo.

I would have booked a flight to whatever cabin she was at, busted down the door, and I would have said, I'm going to put you in yoga poses, Biach.

Yeah, give me my veil.

That's so crazy.

Can you imagine doing that to your best friend too?

No.

For seemingly no reason, right?

We're not getting justicide here, but like no reason you ghost your best friend and then you like post here's the thing though I will say the fact that she posted online being like disconnecting from drama and this that and the third.

That's how I know if you're posting something shady like that.

You're the drama.

Yeah.

Like you're definitely the problem because any

like sane normal person if there was an issue you would go to your friend about it especially if you're the maid of honor and you have the bride's veil and you claim to be her best friend if there was an issue you would have addressed the bride or you would have told her but instead you posted some petty thing and were deleting comments like that's also really weird well and like i mean her friends are genuinely concerned which valid like is she crashing out like is she having a mental a genuine like mental health crisis what if the boyfriend like whispered in her ear i'm thinking like there's a possibility that he was like You don't get it.

Like they're the reason your friends are the reason we're not together.

Here's what really happened.

And she probably was like, you're so right.

And then he was like, why don't we go on a retreat together to get away from the drama?

That's what I'm thinking maybe happened.

Oh, I see that.

I mean, you hear about it all the time.

Girls cutting off all of their friends because a guy, like it, it does definitely happen.

Oh, I did that at one point.

So I could see that.

But like before the wedding and you still have the veil, like that's why you skip back the veil.

Yeah.

Veils are one things with weddings.

I was absolutely blown away by.

Like I was trying on my wedding dress and like they just put like a basic veil on me when I was trying it on to like get the full picture.

Yeah.

And then I was like, okay, well, I guess I probably need a veil too.

And I was like, how much is this?

And she's like, $15.

And I was like, $15?

Oh, no, no, no, sweetie.

It's $1,500 for a veil.

Like, it was just a, it was plain.

It was just tul, no lace, no pearls, just plain ass veil.

$1,500.

I did not get one.

I ordered one on Etsy for $100.

And you know what?

I bet it looks stunner.

Wait, am I just like.

Do we know?

Like, did she buy the veil or is it like a

hand-me-down from family?

Oh, if it was sentimental, that would be worse in my book.

So, as of right now,

I don't want to refresh the post because I do see one comment from OP.

But when you go to OP's account, this post is gone.

There's no comments.

So I think OP has like since deleted everything.

So I don't want to refresh.

But the top comment on this one, has the wedding happened yet?

Has anyone seen her since?

In the true crime sense of things?

Because that's kind of also what it's giving.

Like this girl disappears the week before her best friend's wedding, doesn't say a word.

Like my head, and I have a true crime podcast now, like my head does kind of go there, but I'm like, maybe that boyfriend who is genuinely toxic

did something really bad.

And that's why Jess is ghosting and not showing up.

Or maybe he's just not a good person and very manipulative and narcissistic.

And he

had his way.

Or most narcissists have like a way of saying things or getting in your ear.

Ugh.

So OP does respond to that.

Wedding is this weekend, so we're still in the eye of the storm.

As for Jess, total radio silence.

No calls, no texts, no ghostly sightings.

She still has the veil.

So either she's planning a dramatic reappearance or we'll be adding her to a true crime podcast by Sunday.

Oh.

Which they'll be adding her to one?

I guess OP was trying to make a joke there.

Yeah, well, she...

Yeah, I would too.

I would.

We're going to kill her.

Yeah, no, yeah.

That's, yeah, no, but reasonably so.

Reasonably.

Like, I would understand the

anger and confusion, especially again, like out of nowhere.

Nowhere.

No reason.

And then you're posted up with a man.

Also, this guy who flirted and tried to get with the bride.

Isn't the bride Tara or Tara?

Tara, Tara.

Yeah, isn't that the bride?

Yeah.

That's weird.

The fact that he tried to get with her at the engagement party, too.

I know.

Why would you still associate with him?

I don't know why you would pick a loser like that over your best friend.

Right.

Like he's trying to get with your best friend or flirting with her or doing whatever at the engagement party.

Huh?

What are we doing?

Girls, stand up.

Literally.

Girl, stop doing yoga poses and stand up.

Thank you.

So someone goes, all right, then ghost her back.

Unfollow her.

Give her the whole who gives a shit treatment.

And OP responds, honestly, that's the vibe now.

Tara's done being upset.

She told us, no more angry people on who don't show up.

We've all unfollowed, and it's giving main character exit for Jess.

She wanted peace.

She got silence.

Period.

That's like a bar.

She wrote that.

She wanted peace.

She got silence.

That was

sick.

Oh, my God.

That is sick.

I love that.

That's a bar.

Okay, OP.

She wanted peace.

She got silence.

That's all I'm seeing from OP in terms of comments.

Oh, God.

And we don't have an update yet.

So the wedding would have been this past weekend.

Saturday, I would have said.

So it's like, is OP like a private account?

Like anonymous?

Verified email for OP.

Do you see the email?

You don't see the email, but it is verified.

Oh, I would have been like, if I saw the email, I would have emailed her right away.

I would have been like, okay, girl, I know you took down that post on Reddit.

Probably cost and like skirt some feathers, but your girl needs to know what's going on because

we kind of left it off on a cliffhanger.

It's yeah, it's definitely a cliffhanger.

I want to know what happened.

I want to know everything.

I do too.

I'm like, what did what did Jess do after?

What did she do with the veil?

Did Tara get the veil back?

Did she get the veil?

Like, honestly, like, my whole thing is, like, I truly would not care as long as the veil.

Yeah, like, that's, like, the main thing.

Cause if that's it, again, we've had, we've had like wedding stories, but like, your wedding is like your day to remember.

And for somebody to

not only jeopardize your big day, but also withhold something that in the future is going to be very sentimental

and something you'll be able to look at and be like, oh my gosh, like I'm showing my children that this was my veil on my wedding day.

Like the fact that you're withholding that from somebody you call your best friend.

Girl, I hope she's not on a true crime show, but

I know such a weird comment to make too, but my head, I'm in that mode right now.

I'm going and recording two episodes for my true crime podcast tomorrow.

So I'm like, I've been researching just like some of the craziest cases lately.

And my first thought is like, if this is that out of the normal for her, is she okay?

And where is she?

Where's Jess?

Like, I'd be going to that mountain to track her ass down and get the veil.

And then if she is alive, then you have your answer and no more friends.

Yeah, no.

But I'm like, this is very odd.

Yeah, if I was one of the bridesmaids and I pulled up and she looked like she was in a great giddy mood, I would have slapped her and then I would have been like, give me the veil.

Violence is the answer for Spencer.

I mean, hey.

And this isn't some random thing.

Like, you took the veil, you ghosted your friends, you posted some shady shit online.

If you have to post that you're removing yourself from the drama to be petty, you're the drama.

You like simply, you are the drama.

Like exactly.

That's my opinion.

You don't have to be the biggest person, but just be a little bigger.

Yeah.

Just a little.

Act a little more mature than that.

Act accordingly.

Come on.

I'm curious if you think this next one is acting accordingly.

Okay.

Or what is going on here?

I'm ready.

Let me lock in.

Okay.

This next one.

So this post is coming from our very own Tuha Takes subreddit.

One of us.

It is six days old, titled, My Nanny Got My Husband an Odd Gift.

Longtime listener and posing a question for the group.

Me, 25 female, and my husband, 26 male, have a six-month-old baby who has been going to our nannies for approximately three months.

This lady has been a saint, always stays in the loop with us throughout our days and sending photos of our cutie.

We met her on a nanny group on Facebook.

She is married and has a son as well, also expecting her second within the next few months.

Me and my husband always pack a backpack or something for her days over at our house.

Earlier this week, she had a gift inside her bag.

Kind of looked like a bag from the store, so it did not directly look like a gift bag.

I peeked inside and saw a keychain that said, quote, best dad ever.

My immediate reaction was, quote, oh, this is for her husband, and she left it in my baby's bag by accident.

I texted her to remind her that she may have left this in our child's bag by accident, to which she responded saying,

No, that is for your husband.

At first, I thought it was sweet, and now I kind of have an odd feeling based off the convo with my husband.

Is it weird that my nanny gave my husband this gift or didn't give me one?

Am I reading into this?

First-time mom, so also do not know special etiquette procedures with having a nanny.

What should I do?

do?

Or do I do nothing?

This is a tricky one.

I don't know.

My gut reaction was, well, why didn't she get you one too?

Yeah, that was my initial thought as well.

But my thing is, I want to know what she talked about with her husband.

Because what, like, did her husband,

like, has he had like one-on-one interactions with her?

And like, has he mentioned to the nanny, like, I sometimes feel like I'm not stepping up to the plate enough?

Or like, I sometimes feel like I'm not doing good enough as a father.

And did she get that for him as like a kind gesture?

Like, that's what I want to know because I feel like I'm missing, I feel like we're missing something here.

Like, that conversation she had with her husband, I feel like I need to know that conversation.

I know.

I'm very, I'm curious.

Let's get into the top comment first, and then we'll dive into what replies we have from OP.

Okay.

So, top comment on this one: weird for her to give a gift to him, but not to you too.

Bad optics.

Next comment down, right?

If she'd given OP the mom equivalent, it would be sweet.

Just dad is weird.

You'd think nannies would be wary of any hint of the whole nanny dad thing.

But what is she going to do?

She's pregnant.

Never mind.

Never know.

Yep.

I mean, this is Reddit.

I will say this does seem like a very real story.

This user is a part of the two-year club verified email.

Okay, so someone goes, he may be a more involved father than she is used to seeing.

So she was just giving him a compliment.

Someone goes, bruh, that's literally just the AutoMod comment.

But yeah, OP, the gift is sus as hell.

A nanny buying your husband a best dad ever keychain while you get nothing, that's crossing some boundaries for sure.

And OP goes, it's hard not to go there.

Because that's, I mean, my head would be like, this is kind of weird.

And I think it's also weird because she didn't give him the gift to be like, hey, I got you this daddy key.

She left it in the bag.

She left it in the bag for him to find.

But also, you left in the bag then in the chance OP could find it.

Like, it's just a really weird delivery.

Yes, I will say I think it's a very strange way to pass off a gift.

I don't know.

This one is kind of not confusing for me, but

I feel like, again, I want to know like the conversation she had with her husband.

Was he uncomfortable too?

Like, I want to know if he was uncomfortable.

Like, what did he think?

So the comment we get early on from OP

is in response to this.

Someone says, you're going to have to give us more details about the conversation with your husband and why it was odd.

So OP responds, we just talked about it.

If it was weird in general, kind of like you explained, she didn't mention that she put it in the bag or anything either.

I just happened upon it.

We both split equal time, dropping off and picking up.

He might have more conversations though, just because he is friendly.

And our baby is the only baby she watches.

So it's not like it's only dad she's seen.

She's seen both of them.

They live in the States.

Oh.

What?

What?

Okay.

So someone, I don't know.

I don't know.

I just, I'm, I'm quick read.

I'm like, fuck.

OP, if you're listening, probably stressing you out 10 times more.

So someone goes, I feel bad for you, but here's the million-dollar question: Who is the one who suggested and found the nanny?

Are you sure this wasn't planned for her to be the nanny?

Not trying to sound mean or anything, just something to think about.

I would maybe start dropping off and picking up the baby going forward if you can, and keep your eyes open.

Good luck to you.

And OP goes, My husband found her six months before we even had our baby.

I

don't know why my alarm bells are ringing with that.

How did he find her?

Six months before, and isn't she pregnant?

And due in six months.

Due in a couple months.

Yeah.

I don't want to jump to like

horrible conclusions.

Yeah.

I mean, the lady is married.

She's got another kid.

But to like, and I like, I have a very involved partner.

I have a very, very involved partner.

But if, like, I don't think my fiancé would like

just randomly go out and like find our nanny by himself.

Yeah.

Like that to me is kind of sus.

And like you might have the most involved partner ever, but like that doesn't seem like such a guy thing to do.

To do at all.

Yeah.

Like having.

I'm going to find this nanny for us, babe.

And then she said in the, in like the very first post, like, we found her on a nanny Facebook group, which,

okay, plausible, but like, right.

How did you vet her?

How did you make sure she wasn't goofy?

Like, how did you make sure that this one was going to be safe for your kid?

Right.

I don't know.

The whole thing is a bit bizarre to me.

I do think, again, initially, when you first read it, the alarm bells went off when,

first off, she put it in the bag.

It's not like she hand.

I feel like it'd be one thing if she approached the wife and was like, hey.

I've had conversations with your husband and yada, yada, yada.

And I just wanted to give him this keychain.

I would still, even if she did that, be a little like, hmm, like, where's mine?

But also, like, it's better than just leaving it in the bag for somebody to find

and to just like not mention it and place it in the bag.

That's a little sus.

And then further down the line with this whole like

her talking to her husband about it and him apparently saying that it was odd too.

I don't know.

Like the whole situation feels a bit like fishy.

Like it doesn't.

It's super fishy.

finding her too six months before you had your baby but you also found her in a facebook nanny group chat like how does that work like what did he like find her through the nanny group chat and then you like went in and like checked her out too or like how did he

i know or like did he know her and he told her to join this group so he could point it out to you and have her be the nanny for you guys i that's what i'm like i'm like how old is this lady too okay so so we don't have

a mention on the nanny's age, but he's 26.

OP is 25.

So someone here goes, maybe your husband, hear me out, is the dad to the baby the nanny is going to have.

And someone responds, she said the nanny has only been the nanny for a few months, and then nanny is like six months along.

Someone goes, yeah, so the affair preceded the employment.

And OP responds, no, I was on maternity leave and and watched our baby.

Then she watched our baby after.

Our daughter has been with her for longer than she got pregnant.

Wait, what?

So she got pregnant after

she started watching OP's baby.

So she started nanning for OP

and then she got pregnant.

Girl, we need to see what that baby looks like when it pops out.

That's all I got to say.

Let's see what that baby looks like when he or she pops out

because if that baby has your husband's eyes bip sorry

okay dna test but this like i'm like oh are we just being paranoid

are we are we are we the problem are we the problem are we so like have have we experienced so much trauma in our lives that we are now like putting it onto somebody else i know here's the thing like realistically could this just be like a little like fluke like a little like oh okay like this happened she didn't mean any harm in it.

She just got it for your husband.

Yeah.

But because of how odd it is, because of the way that it happened, because of the way that she did it, because

she didn't get you one either, it's reasonable to have some alarms go off.

Yeah.

But I don't, I feel like this is a conversation you really do need to have with your husband, though.

Like, I really think that this is a conversation you should further have with him.

And again, like, I want to know if he was uncomfortable.

And if so, why?

Like, why was he uncomfortable?

Because clearly you're uncomfortable because you didn't receive one and this lady just placed it in a bag.

I know.

OP does have a couple other comments here.

He didn't say anything sus.

I have absolutely no reason to believe anything was going on with the two of them.

Okay.

I did address it.

Basically, me and my husband just went into the fact that it said best dad ever when her husband is in fact going to be a dad soon and just thought she would have given it to him and didn't mean to give it to us.

Then when she responded and said it was for him, we just thought odd that she gave it to him instead, which, like, my thought was like maybe she went to like a store, gas station, whatever, saw this best dad ever, got one for her

husband, and then was like,

oh, this is cute.

I'll get it for blah, blah, blah, too.

But didn't think in her head, oh, I should maybe get best mom ever.

Yeah, like, that is such a weird, almost inappropriate, but is it inappropriate?

But, like, I would find it inappropriate.

Like, if someone else,

if someone gave my partner a best dad or best parent ever, not me one, I'd be like, hmm, like for sure.

I don't, I wouldn't, I don't think there was any foul play here, like real talk.

Like, you think she's good?

I, I think, I think that this woman, she had the right idea.

She was in the right headspace.

I think that just like you just said, she probably went to a store, went to a gas station and was like, oh, like, I'm going to have a baby soon.

I just see this like best dad ever keychain.

Why don't I get it for my husband?

And then she thought, hmm, you know, it would be nice if I also got it for the dad that I'm babysitting to.

Now, if that were me in that situation, would I also get one for the mother?

Absolutely.

But maybe that's just like a lapse of judgment on her part.

And again, like, yeah, he found her, like, he's the one who sought her out,

which is also like a little iffy, but yeah.

Maybe, maybe that's also her being like, thank you.

Maybe the, maybe she also knows, like the nanny knows, like, he's the one who sought me out.

So like this, like, I want to show him that I appreciate that.

And it's, and it's less of like a foul play thing and more of like a appreciation.

Like, thank you for allowing me to watch your daughter.

And thank you for choosing me over all these other nannies.

Yeah.

So it could just be that, or the baby inside of her could be your husband's.

You never know.

So get that DNA test ready.

Get that mouth swab ready.

Send it into 23andMe.

Actually, not 23andMe.

They've gone bankrupt.

Send it into a lab or something of some sort and find out if that baby's his.

Love you, girl.

Sorry.

Keep us posted.

Let us know what happens then.

Yeah, I would love, love, love, love an update.

Yeah.

Yeah, but

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It is two years old.

Oh, I know a little vintage for it.

Yeah, a little, a little back in a little time travel.

I know.

It's titled, Am I the Asshole for Telling My Best Friend to Go to Therapy After She Started Seeing Ghosts?

My 21 female best friend, who's 20 female, started seeing people that aren't actually there after playing with a Ouija board about a week ago.

There was somebody answering the board.

I suspect a friend of ours.

Just after the board spelled out die, the candle got blown out.

Again, I suspect our friend, even though I didn't see her do it.

It honestly felt like a bad horror movie.

We were totally freaked out and drove home.

Haven't spoken about it since.

I think the whole situation tipped my friend over the edge since she began seeing people nobody else could see shortly after.

It caused her boyfriend, 22 male, to break up with her, which didn't exactly help, but she promised to go to therapy if it didn't stop.

That was until another guy, 22 male, some emo goth dude from college, I didn't even know they knew each other, told her the people she saw were actually ghosts, after which she wanted nothing to do with therapy any longer.

So yesterday, when I saw her in the city talking to a ghost, there was nobody there except her, I told her she should either go to therapy or start looking for a new best friend and a new apartment.

I know I kind of overreacted, but I can't take this any longer.

I just want her to go to therapy, not to actually move out.

But now here's the thing.

actually started packing right after and left the apartment in the evening.

And do you know who she moved in with?

The freaking emo goth dude.

I'm really scared he might do something to her.

So, am I the asshole?

Oh, babe.

I hate to be that person, but

I think you had good intention in your heart, but yeah, you came across as an asshole.

Like, if that were, if that were like my best friend and she was like, I see dead people, girl.

And I was like looking at her talking to a corner.

I would be like, hey,

I think you should go to therapy and see if you're still seeing these ghosts after going to therapy.

Okay.

If you're still seeing them, obviously, maybe you're clairvoyant, maybe you have some ability, whatever.

But I wouldn't, I feel like the whole

beat it, like go to therapy or get the hell out.

that was a little bit much and obviously if your friend who is going through a breakup just found this emo boyfriend is like going through some sort of psychotic episode if you tell her to move out and she's like in that headspace of like either everyone's against me or you know what screw it okay she will move out and i feel like it's not your fault you didn't know i feel like maybe you could have chosen your words a lot more um wisely

because I know for a fact that before I was medicated and I was on the right medication, if your friend has a behavioral mood disorder, she probably was

manic.

Like that's what it sounds like to me.

It sounds like your friend experienced a like manic episode and

you saying that she was talking to these ghosts.

Yeah.

That is another big part of mania.

Like I once had a

they call it auditory hallucination like hallucinations.

And that's what this sounds like.

It sounds like a genuine hallucination.

Yeah, it sounds like your friend is having like auditory hallucinations and anything could have triggered it.

Honestly.

Honestly, the Ouija board could have triggered it.

And then like, I mean, you don't know what triggers stuff.

And like, she's only 20.

People have their first like episode of psychosis.

It can happen into

30s.

It can happen literally.

You can go your whole life, have a really, really, really bad mental break and then you have symptoms then.

Like when I was working in a mental health facility, this guy had his first like hallucination and like psychosis at, I think he was like 57.

Like it can happen.

Anytime.

It can happen.

And then if you use drugs, like you can have drug-induced schizophrenia.

Yep.

There's so many ways things like this can develop.

But I would not have been like, You need to go to therapy or you need to get a new best friend and a new place to live.

Like you just made her feel so insecure, unsupported.

And maybe she's seeing ghosts.

Maybe it's from the Ouija board.

Maybe she's having an actual mental health crisis and you just acted like a shitty friend.

Yeah.

And I'm, I know in your head, you thought you were doing the right thing.

And sometimes I feel like if this were

two years ago, I remember when I was 20, when I was like 21, I thought like, oh, like being blunt and harsh, like that was like my form of like honesty and love.

Yeah.

But like there's being blunt and harsh and there's being like truthful without being a dick.

And I feel like when you're blunt and harsh with someone who's already going through a mental crisis,

that could very well put them over the edge, especially if it's coming from someone so close to them.

Like you,

yeah, you're, you're her best friend and you live together.

And now you're telling her, you need to go there, go to therapy, or you need to get a new best friend and and move out.

If that were my best friend telling me that while I was going through like a psychotic episode, and again, when you're going through a psychotic episode, you don't know what's happening, especially your first one, like the first time it's happening, you're like, oh, like this is just life, like this is normal.

So like you telling her that at a very vulnerable

where your friend was at a very vulnerable spot, you saying that probably pushed her over the edge enough to be like, okay, I'm out.

Deuces.

Like fine, bye.

Cause now she probably feels like a burden, too.

Yeah.

It's just really sad.

Overall, vote on this one.

Not the asshole.

No.

People thought not the asshole, which I get, hey, like, everyone's responsible for their own mental health, but like, at the same time,

given this context, you weren't the greatest of

friends.

Like, this was not a great way to treat your bestie.

No.

Top comment, not the asshole, but if she's hallucinating, a hospital is probably more appropriate for her situation.

Do you know her family?

Could she contact them, explain the situation to get someone to do a welfare check on her?

Her parents live on the other side of the country, says O.P., but she and her family aren't really that close.

The closest thing to a family she actually has

or had

were me and my parents, but I am also not sure if involving my parents would make the situation even worse.

Diva.

Diva, you, you even saying there, like the only family she really had was me and my parents.

Babe.

No.

Like, I'm sorry.

This is the one time I will say this.

I do not agree with the people who are saying you're not the asshole.

I know it's been a few years.

I hope you've grown.

I hope you've moved past this.

I hope your friend is okay.

I hope you're still friends and I hope you've found a way back to one another.

But in this situation, I do fear you were the asshole.

I do fear that if one of my best friends came up to me, and by one of mine, I mean Zaya, if Zaya came up to me and was like, I'm seeing ghosts.

Oh.

Sorry, guys.

It's my prep alarm.

It's my alarm to take prep.

There you go.

But if Zaya came up to me and was like, I'm seeing ghosts.

I'm seeing things right after a...

and then got broken up with and then started telling me even more she's seeing things.

That's when I would be like, okay, girl, we need to sit down and have like a full-blown conversation.

And I need to level with you.

And I don't care how long this conversation has to be.

It can be 20 minutes.

It can be five hours, but we need to figure out what is going on right now because it is not normal for you out of the blue to start seeing ghosts while also displaying very odd behavior.

And I think that's another big part of it, too.

She clearly was displaying.

odd behavior if she's like talking to nobody that's there she's she's not acting like herself.

If Zaya was displaying behavior and acting in a way that I had not recognized,

plus

telling me she's seeing and hearing ghosts,

girl.

I know.

Like,

I would not have

kicked Zaya.

I would never kick Zaya to the curb.

But that I feel like was very harsh.

Especially when you're like, I'm her only family.

Right.

Like you, and you admitting, like,

I'm her only family.

family and like, I didn't know if I should get my parents involved.

Girl.

Well, I will say OP sounds a little goofy.

Like, she went to go with the emo goth guy.

I'm scared he's going to do something to her.

Like, he could just be into

goth stuff.

And doesn't mean he's a serial killer.

Like, people wear what they're going to wear to express themselves.

Like, just don't be so judgmental, maybe.

Like, I don't know.

It's interesting.

There are a couple other comments OP responds to.

Someone goes, not the asshole, but not a great friend friend either.

Period.

OP goes, thank you for your honesty.

I wish I could take it back.

She doesn't even answer my calls and is ignoring my messages.

Someone goes, why did you tell her to go to therapy?

Therapy won't help if she is seeing ghosts.

She needs a doctor.

And OP goes, I'm sorry.

English isn't my first language.

We found somebody who specializes in people who hear voices that aren't really there.

Her boyfriend found her the website before he left my best friend.

He told her they might still have a chance if she goes there, which is kind of disgusting if you ask me.

But was the thing I did any better?

Anyways, it says on her website that she does therapies, but maybe that's just a mistranslation on my part.

I do think it would be the right thing for my friend though, but right now she won't even talk to me.

So I have no way of convincing her to go to the doctor or therapy.

Wow.

What's the earliest update?

Like the most, is there like a recent update at all?

No.

We have nothing.

nothing of note.

I mean, the post is again now two years old.

Um, the last comment we have from OP is like, right now she's ignoring all my calls and messages.

So I hope she's out there.

I hope she's okay.

I hope your friend is okay.

Yeah.

OP, if you hear the story, I'd love an update.

I'd love to, you know, make sure your friend's good.

Like,

but damn.

Yeah, that was a

bit of a goblin.

Yeah.

Bit of a goblin.

Bit of a goblin.

No offense, Diva, but

if the shoe fits.

Right.

I would, again, like, I could not, I could not imagine telling my best friend, bye.

No, and it is really hard.

Like, it's really hard dealing with, you know, other people having mental health crisis, crises, crises.

If you're not trained in it, like, I've had training and like, it's still very, it's difficult to deal with.

And I'm not a psychiatrist.

I'm not a psychologist.

I'm not a doctor.

Like, I had basic level like OT training and how it would relate to me.

And so I'm like, I don't even really know how to deal with it.

And it's hard when you have a loved one or a friend.

And it does sound like OP was at least like encouraging her to get help.

And like, she wasn't following through.

So I get how maybe OP was at her wits end.

Yeah.

But I could also see that as well.

But again, like, you're her only family.

You say find a new best friend.

Like, maybe that was your relationship.

And maybe you could joke, but i wouldn't i wouldn't be so cruel to someone who's struggling but yeah i don't know i hope everything worked out okay and i hope i know there was also probably times where op felt drained

especially if you're like telling someone like to get help and they're not

or you're telling someone like to get help and not only are they refusing to but they keep saying like oh like oh yeah i will and then they don't but i still think that

kicking your friend to the curb is not something anyone should do.

But I'm sure this, I'm sure this is a lesson that was learned.

Yeah.

I know.

I know it's really tough.

If we have any providers out there, please, I'd love to see in the comments just like any recs for what to do if you have a friend that's experiencing a psychosis or like they're having kind of their first break and you're like, how do I help?

How do I point this out to them?

Like, what do you do for family and friends?

And I know there's obviously resources you could find on Google, but if you have great great personal experience and you're a provider, I'd love to see it in the comments.

But moving on to this next one.

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So this is coming from our slash relationship advice, two days old.

Oh.

Titled, I, 26 female, overheard my boyfriend, 27 male, and his family insulting my background and looks.

I'm thinking of ending things over this.

Wait, is this her boyfriend or?

Her boyfriend and his family talking shit.

See, already from the jump,

bye.

Yeah, I would leave them too.

I would leave him too.

And then before I left him, I would clog his toilet.

All of them.

Not the toilet.

I would.

I'd clog all of his toilets and then.

What would you clog it with?

Just a bunch of toilet paper?

No.

Shit?

Yeah.

You could shit on command like that?

No, not on command.

I would just eat a whole bunch of food, a whole, whole bunch of food.

Do the papaya challenge.

No, literally.

And I would, I would clog the toilet.

I like this.

I clog the toilet with my shit and a whole bunch of toilet paper and probably paper towels.

And then I'd say, good luck, bitch.

Deuces.

Bye.

I, 26 female, have been dating Mark, 27 male, for five months.

I met him at a bar while I was out with friends and we immediately hit it off.

Dating him has felt like a dream and I feel so fortunate to have found someone so funny, smart, handsome, and kind.

He met my family, and they instantly fell in love with him.

They're thrilled I found such an amazing partner.

He constantly tells me how much he loves me, how perfect I am, and he can't believe he finally found the one.

Five months.

Last week, we drove to meet his family.

I was already a little self-conscious and nervous because Mark comes from a very wealthy and well-educated family.

Both of my parents are blue-collar workers and are considered lower-class.

I grew up in West Virginia and worked incredibly hard to earn a scholarship to UMD after high school.

After graduation, I moved to DC and I found a job that pays pretty well.

I'm proud of how far I've come, considering my family's circumstances.

Good for you, girl.

Still, I sometimes feel like an outsider who doesn't quite fit in with the upper class society.

I'm also self-conscious because the women Mark dated before me were extremely beautiful.

His most recent ex has a massive social media following and easily could be a model.

I consider myself a little above average and invest a lot of time and money into my appearance.

When we arrived at Mark's family's house, everyone was welcoming and kind.

I felt ridiculous for ever being nervous and began to relax, feeling like I was fitting in just fine.

We spent most of the time outside on their patio with people filtering in and out to grab food, drinks, and socialize.

I didn't notice when Mark and his sister Emily, 31 female, disappeared because I was caught up with chatting with everyone.

When I got up to use the restroom and walked through the house, I heard hushed whispers from another room.

Immediately, I recognized Mark's and Emily's voices, and I heard my name mentioned.

I stopped and listened for a couple of minutes and was devastated by what I heard.

Emily said she was surprised he's dating me because I'm not nearly as established or attractive as his previous partners.

She went on to say, quote, Didn't you tell us her family basically lives in a trailer park and her dad doesn't even have a high school diploma?

Followed by laughter.

I waited for Mark to defend me.

Instead, he agreed with her.

He said he considers me cute, that my personality makes up for my appearance and family, and that I'm definitely not his usual type.

But that he really loves me and is happy we found each other.

She ended the conversation with, quote, We're all just surprised.

She's not what we were expecting.

As long as you're happy, I guess.

You know what I would have done?

I would have busted down the door and I would have said, Keep my name and my family's name out of your mouth, you weirdo.

The second you start talking about me, me is fine.

The second you start talking about my family, saying I'm from a trailer park, okay, and what if I am?

I'll show you what's up.

I'll show you what's up real bad.

And you're going to wish you never fucking said that, you weirdo.

Fuck you, Emily.

Sorry.

That just made me so mad.

I love it.

That made me so mad.

It feels nice not to be the only one that gets mad at these stories.

That is so like rude and disgusting.

Also, it's none of your business.

Yeah, he's your brother.

And yeah, you can look after him.

But for you to be commenting not only on her appearance, but who she is as a person and where she comes from.

Jesus' father was a carpenter.

They didn't have money.

He was born in a barn, babe.

And

look at that.

There's a whole book written about him, Old and New Testament, biach.

The post goes on to say, I felt numb for the rest of the day and put on a show for his family, pretending everything was fine.

When we got in the car to leave, I told him I'd overheard his conversation with Emily.

I began crying and said their words confirmed everything I'd feared about our relationship.

I told him I needed space and time to think.

He kept apologizing and telling me how perfect he thinks I am, how Emily has always been a bully, and how beautiful he finds me.

This was five days ago.

At first, he respected my space and checked in with texts that I didn't answer.

Now, he's in full panic mode, constantly calling, texting, and begging to come over to talk in person.

Good.

Good.

Thank you.

And leave it that way.

Leave it that way.

Because if he's not going to stand 10 toes, 10 toes behind you and defend you to his sister, who's a quote unquote bully, then he doesn't, then he's not, he's not your man.

He is not your man.

Hello?

If my, if I don't know that my boyfriend was kikiing with his sister talking shit about me, even if he's not talking shit, if his sister is and he, he says nothing, and he's just like sitting there like a little foot soldier.

No.

Yeah, let him call, let him text, let him do what he wants to do.

He's a little bitch.

That's what he is.

That's what he is.

Yeah.

And screw his sister too again.

And for him to be like, oh, yeah, she's a bully, then you should put her in her fucking place.

Like, what are you doing?

Why would you go along with your sibling?

Like, I would never

shot back at my brother.

Your siblings are the ones you can fight with and push boundaries with.

Like, what?

Weird.

We're not, we're, we still have a couple more sentences here.

I told him to leave me alone and that I'd reach out when I was ready.

It has now escalated to his sister messaging me on social media to apologize.

Again, fuck that bitch.

She wants to meet for coffee to discuss the situation.

No.

I need advice on how to handle this, and I'm wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation.

Part of me wants to forgive them and move on, but a part of me is disgusted that they spoke about me and my family that way.

I'm not sure I could ever fully forgive them, and I worry this would follow us for the rest of the relationship.

Yeah, it would.

You need to drop his ass.

You need to drop, kick his sister's ass.

I really, I really, this one really made me mad.

The fact that his sister's now reaching out too.

Like, why, like, why?

Yeah.

So now, so here's the thing.

You know what you did was wrong.

Yeah.

And you're clearly embarrassed and trying to patch it up.

Right.

And now you're here like, oh, like, clearly my, my brother likes you.

So like now I'm going to step in.

No, you, your brother should be fixing the situation, not you, first of all.

Second of all, your brother's a bitch.

Third of all, if he's not standing 10 toes behind you, you have got to go.

If you overheard your boyfriend talking to his sister and his sister is not only making fun of you, but your family, and it has taken you not talking to him for several days for his sister to reach out to you and for him to panic, that is insane.

That's insanity to me.

That is literally, you need to stand your ground and distance yourself from him.

And I'm really proud of you for doing just that, for distancing yourself from him and saying, I'll reach out to you when I want to.

If I overheard my partner talking trash about my family, I would never trust them again.

No, ever, especially the fact that you, and imagine you didn't hear any of that.

Imagine you just went about the rest of your day, like, oh, there is a reason you heard that.

The universe works in mysterious ways, and that happened for a reason.

I do.

You heard that.

You heard that because you are meant to hear that.

And you heard that so you could see how slimy and messed up and fucked up him and his family are.

It's a little bit of like, hey, the bullet was coming in slow motion.

It was giving Matrix

and here's your chance to dodge it.

I will say, like, I understand how maybe the background he came from is like just a super out of touch entitled background.

But even that, it's like when you love someone,

you just love them.

You love all of them.

Like what her background is and, you know, how hard she's had to work to get to where she's at.

is a part of the reason you love her.

It's not like, oh, I love her in spite of that.

Yeah.

You're not Mr.

Darcy.

And it, this, like, to me, like, I read it and I'm like, oh my God, we're kind of giving pride and prejudice.

Like, I love you despite your terrible background, your inferior birth.

And it's like, we are not in a Jane Austen novel.

This is the real world.

I've worked my ass off to get here.

And like, it doesn't matter where I came from.

And like, there's nothing shameful about growing up.

in a trailer park.

At all.

Like, have you seen some of those trailers?

Girl, some of them are insane.

I mean, it's just like, how fortunate to have a roof over your head.

We live in such a dystopian time that

that is like an amazing thing.

Like, having a roof over your head is a luxury.

It literally is.

Like, look at what's going on all around the world right now.

Like, look at Gaza and, like, what all of these like refugees and, like, there's a fucking genocide going on there.

There's stuff going on other places.

Like, the world is at such a insane time.

And you're going to judge someone for having a hardworking family that made sure they had a roof over their heads and food on the table and got and helped and their daughter clearly cares enough about her family to be like you know what i'm gonna go to college and even though my dad didn't get a degree i'm gonna get a degree and i'm gonna work my ass off to get where i want to go you don't know why he didn't finish high school what if he couldn't because he had to get a job at 15 to support his family why are you being just just the most horrendous judgmental people.

You don't know everyone's story.

You don't know what they went through.

You came from privilege and wealth.

Don't be an asshole about it.

You can't control the cards you were born into, just like they can't control theirs.

What?

And I kind of said it, but I'm like, if my sibling, no matter how much I loved them, if my sibling started to like clap about my partner,

I defend my partner.

That's my person.

That's my partner.

Am I going to let my siblings talk shit about my partner, my boyfriend, my fiancé, my husband?

No, I'm going to clap back and be like, you're being an asshole.

I just can't stop thinking about the fact that his sister laughed.

The laughing.

I would have busted down that door and I would have given her a real good reason to laugh.

I

get OP just wanting to keep it together and keep a smile on her face and like play it off like everything's all good with the family.

But just to like walk in the door and be like,

I see what you truly think.

Okay.

And then like walk out like oh i i really do think when you overhear people talking shit about you like walking in and confronting them and like just

sometimes it should be done it not only should it be done but i feel like in those situations a lot of times like you feel too embarrassed to do it you should not be embarrassed they should be They should be, especially if he's your boyfriend and he's saying how in love he is with you.

You're the one.

You're the one.

You've only been together.

Here was the other red flag, babe.

you've been together for five months and he's already saying you're the one you have got to go you need to run for the hills you need to run for the hills if he's telling you after five months that you're the one not only do you have to run for the hills but if he's literally sitting there talking shit about you to his sister even if it's not him talking if it's just his sister if he is not defending you to her there

do you really want a man like that do you want a man who's going to be a little bitch Because that's what it's giving.

It's giving, oh, like, I'm going to be really nice to you behind like closed doors when it's just us.

But like, if my family talks negatively about you, I'm not going to stick up for you because I'm a bitch.

Do you want that?

I would never care about who my brother is dating.

Like my one brother's married.

So it's like I've got the young one to look at.

I'm like, I wouldn't give two fucks who he's dating as long as he's happy.

Right.

I would never judge or like be like, oh, well, she's low level.

Like, what the fuck?

Who cares?

It's your brother.

It's his life.

Why do you care?

As long as she's nice and loves him and he finds her attractive, you're not the one that has to sleep with her.

If he finds her attractive and he's with her, then that's cool.

Why are you even?

So, OP does respond to a comment here.

The comment, the main one, was deleted, but someone responds and goes, Him defending her would be him saying,

Hey, don't talk about her like that, or you don't know anything about her family.

She's beautiful and kind, and I love her.

So, please don't ever speak about her like that ever again.

It's not okay to judge someone based on her family and her looks.

Any version of that.

He said that his sister was right, but she is cute and her personality makes up for her looks.

Kill me.

When did he defend her?

You deserve better.

At the very least, you now know what he really thinks of you and your family.

OP responds.

This has kind of been my take on it so far.

If my sibling ever spoke about my partner this way, I would also say something along those lines Rather than laugh along and agree with them, I wasn't expecting him to lash out at her, but I was hoping he would at least tell her to stop being so disrespectful and judgmental.

And the fact that they were like alone in that room, like, why are you, that gives very like a mean girl energy.

Like, let's go to the room to talk shit about your girlfriend.

Yeah, I...

I'm curious if you guys out there think there's hope in redemption on this one.

Cause I'm like, you know.

there better not be.

Girl, you better break up with him.

He would really, really have to step up.

If your relationship has been so great this far and like you,

you love him and, you know, he's kind and funny and all these things.

Like, I could see this being a lapse, like falling into the sister's trap and whatever.

But like, this guy would really, really have to step up.

He would really have to set his sister straight.

She would be giving me an apology 100%.

I want to to hear it.

She would be buying me that coffee too.

Like it wouldn't be like, let's go out for coffee.

No, we're going to a diner and I'm getting a meal and you're paying for that and you're also paying for my drink because I'm going to get a margarita too.

Bitch, what about that?

Who cares if it's 9 a.m.?

No, literally.

I think like, I hate knowing what if.

I hate wondering what if.

And like, granted, did he fuck up?

Yeah.

Did he say kind of fucked up things?

Yeah, I wouldn't love to be called cute.

And oh, my personality makes up for my looks or lack of.

Like, that's what that implies.

It is hurtful.

but if you don't want to be left with what if,

they really got to make up for it.

I think you need to lay down the law.

If you choose to be with him, which I don't think you should do, yeah, I'm curious what people think.

I feel like trust and loyalty is such a big thing for me, at least.

Huge.

So, if I stumbled upon my partner behind closed doors talking negatively about me and my family to his family member, to his sister, and then to hear them, like him laugh and her laugh at me as if like i'm some sort of like

project

as if i'm like yeah like i'm like less than you and like i'm being called like oh but she makes effort with her personality and she's a little cute regardless of what you say that conversation is so up the one that you had behind her back yeah and i personally do not know or could not see how I would be able to move forward

without

always thinking about, like, are you actually sorry or are you sorry you got caught?

Yeah.

Would you actually feel sorry about what you were saying?

And would more conversations like this come about if I didn't know?

Or are you actually genuinely sorry about saying these things about me?

It'd be very hard to trust him going forward.

You'd kind of always be looking over your shoulder.

Are they talking about me again?

Do you want that?

Like, do you want that?

I would be very curious.

Like, I've had partners hurt me in the past and like, you know, you, you forgive and you move forward and you kind of start with a clean slate.

You would really have to do that.

And the question is, can you do that?

Can you get an apology?

And can you get to a place where you feel good enough to do that?

But OP

has no other comments, no official update yet.

It's only two days old.

So, OP, I'd love an update.

I'm going to make sure I follow the account.

And fingers crossed.

I'm very curious.

I'm really curious what you guys think out there.

If you think that there's a chance that someone can come back from this, if you yourself have been in a situation, put in the comments.

I want to know.

Is there hope for them?

Also, girl, I'm so sorry that that's something you had to go through.

And I'm really proud of you for standing your ground.

That is a very hard thing to do.

Stand your ground and also confront somebody after hearing something like that.

And I think what you did was very courageous and you are very strong for being able to stand your ground, which not a lot of people can do.

A lot of people would have heard that conversation and internalized it, made themselves feel worse,

would have never mentioned it.

But no, like you know, your worth.

And that's the other thing.

If you hadn't known your worth, I don't think you would have said anything to him.

I don't think you would have been so aggravated by the situation, but you know your self-worth.

And my thing is, if you know your self-worth this well, why would you place yourself in a predicament

where you have to fear something like this happening again.

Like, you know, you're worth.

You know, you're better than that.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

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This write-in is coming from r/slash family.

Posts about anything related to family.

This can be questions, stories, comparisons on family, anything.

It's kind of small.

It only has 101k weekly visitors.

So it's pretty tiny.

But this one got reposted on like a toxic Reddit Instagram, I kind of follow.

So

it

is going to be juicy, I think.

Okay.

Okay.

So it's five days old, titled, I'm sure my daughter-in-law dislikes me immensely, and I'm not sure why.

I've been married to the love of my life for almost 20 years now.

We have four kids in total, two from his previous marriage, one for me, and one together.

Our children have never referred to themselves as step siblings, and my spouse and I haven't either.

They're our kids.

Their mom and I get along, and there are no issues there.

Our oldest son met his wife in an unconventional manner and moved to another state to be with her and eventually marry and have children.

This was all fine with me.

I just want all my kids to have happy and healthy relationships.

We were able to meet my daughter-in-law before they married, and she basically ignored me and focused all of her attention on getting to know my husband, or as she, daughter-in-law, referred to them as, quote, his real parents.

I let it go, didn't say anything to my son about the comments made to me, and figured maybe she was nervous.

Fast forward to the wedding day, and we drove across country to be there, as our other three kids were in the wedding as well.

When it came time for the speeches, I was not expecting to make one, by the way, as her mother came around to get everyone for the speeches, she, daughter-in-law's mom, looked at me and said, No, not you, you don't matter.

I was shocked.

My daughter, her maternal grandma, also heard her and was shocked as well.

I again said nothing, though I did tell my husband what happened.

When it came time for the son-mother dance, I didn't expect to dance, as that honor was his mom's.

However, my son came over to ask me to dance, and my now-daughter-in-law told him he shouldn't dance with me because I'm not his real mom.

He did, anyways, and it was wonderful.

There have been more comments in the same vein over the years, and even though it hurts, I say nothing and do my best to ignore them.

I'm the one that remembers all the birthdays and holidays and sends presents.

I help with finances at times and even remind my husband to call.

If I call, it's ignored.

My husband will call right after, and the call is picked up.

Of course, none of this happens when our son is around.

I have never said anything to him about the comments or things she posts on social media.

However, the last thing or comment that was made to me has really hurt me like no other.

My grandson wound up calling me on the iPad by accident, and we actually talked for quite some time before daughter-in-law realized that he was talking to someone.

When daughter-in-law asked who he was talking to, my grandson said he forgot my name, but said he knows me and loves me.

When she looked and saw me, she told him, quote, oh, don't worry if you can't remember her name.

She's no one, just your grandpa's wife.

That deeply hurt.

She's a fucking bitch.

She's a witch.

Why is she dating?

First of all, first of all, whoa, I'll let you finish.

I'll let you finish because I'm, this is actually like, I want to punch this bitch for you.

I want to pull up to your son's house and say, hey, do you know you're dating a raging fucking biach?

That bitch.

Like, it's, it's, we're not even done yet.

That deeply hurt.

And I wound up ending the call not much later.

I told my husband as I was still crying hours later.

even tearing up now just remembering it and he said i must have misheard her however i was able able to show him a video as I was recording our grandson for him later.

I'm wondering if I should tell my son what has been going on and even show him the video.

Yes, yes, yes,

yes.

That was really good.

I don't want to cause any issues or arguments between them, but I'm not sure how much more I can take before I explode in anger.

The irony is that daughter-in-law comes from a blended family as well and has four siblings, all with different fathers.

I thought maybe she had a bad experience with one of them, and so she doesn't have a good opinion of step parents.

Well, I think you should give her a great opinion of step parents

and give her a great experience with step parents and just show her how it's done.

And by show her how it's done, I mean punch her in the jugular.

She's a bitch.

I would not only get the video, you know what I would do?

I would send the video to my son, and then I would post it on the internet and use every popular hashtag I could, hoping it would go viral just so she could feel like shit.

I would also call her job.

I would call her job and let them know how much of an evil conniving bitch she is.

What do you mean I don't matter?

She doesn't matter.

You don't need to know her name.

She's nobody.

I just don't understand why such hatred.

This is not like, oh, you dislike her, you're annoyed by her, you know, whatever.

Maybe, maybe as a, as a mom, she might have overstepped or, you know, been whatever.

Like people get annoyed with their in-laws over small things.

It happens.

But to have such hatred and cruelty for this person,

this is insane.

I again want to beat this bitch up for you.

I'm really glad you didn't provide us with an address because I would have been there.

Spencer,

his take today: violence is the only answer.

Honestly, sometimes, no offense, it is.

Sometimes it is because you've been biting your tongue.

You've been nice to her.

You've been polite to her.

And being nice and being polite, look at where it's gotten you.

It's gotten you stepped over.

It's gotten you stepped on and it's gotten you treated like shit.

And you need to show her who you are.

What would you do if you were going to handle this without violence?

Um, I would cuss that bitch out.

I would say, hi, um, I don't know if you're aware, but no, I didn't give birth to him, but I raised that child as my own.

And maybe you've had a horrible experience with your stepparents, and that's what made you a miserable fucking cunt.

What do you mean you're telling your son as he's talking to his grandmother?

That's a nobody.

You don't need to remember her name.

And you know what's also so heartbreaking?

The fact that you won't tell your son because you don't want him to get hurt.

And that's how you know you're a good mother.

Yeah, that's what's really hard.

I think it's gone to a point where something needs to be said on your behalf.

Something needs to be done.

Your husband now knows that this has been going on.

You told him what happened at the wedding.

I'm sure you've told him about other instances.

Your husband should have had a conversation with

your son long,

long, long before it escalated to this level.

Because here's the thing.

If the son is going to be with her, he's going to be with her.

He kind of already knows she's a little bit of a witch because at their wedding said, you shouldn't dance with her.

Like he already kind of knows that something's a little screwy in her head.

But at the end of the day, she doesn't get to be disrespectful.

So if he's going to be with her, that's fine and dandy.

But like everyone needs to make sure she's stepping in line and she needs to get with the program.

So OP's husband.

Love of your life for 20 years needs to have your back, have a conversation with your son.

Hey, this is what your wife is doing.

This is unacceptable.

We are not going to put up with this behavior going forward.

This is not how you treat your mother.

I would make a family group chat and send the video in there.

That's what I would do.

I'd make a family group chat with everybody that was at the wedding and I would send that video of her being a biatch and I would say, just so you know, this is who you married.

I love you so much, but unfortunately, this is the type of abuse and verbal abuse that I've been experiencing since you walked down the aisle.

And I've been biting my tongue for far too long.

Tell this bitch to meet up.

Like literally tell her to come over.

I mean, we can go squabble in the street.

Yeah.

And she's clearly okay with posting things on social media because she's been seemingly posting things on social media kind of jabbing at her it seemed like op

implied that she's talking shit on socials i've never said anything to him about the comments or things that she posts on social media so she's okay with posting things on social media so i think if it doesn't work I would first have a conversation.

If the husband can't get anywhere and really set boundaries and she continues this behavior and isn't kind, doesn't have a fucking wake-up call, a glow-up in attitude, then I would post the video.

I would post it.

Sometimes public shame is a good idea.

I think a great form of public shame, again, is meeting her in a parking lot.

And I

trying to stay away from the whole violence thing, trying not to be violent or physically violent.

But one can only assume what would happen in that parking lot if it was late at night, empty, and there were no security cameras.

Top comment on this one: Yes, tell your son and show him the video, but tell him with your husband.

He needs to know how cruel your daughter-in-law is being.

Next, comment down: have your husband call his son and ask him to sit down and have a chat.

Just the two of them.

Have him show the video.

Write down the specific times and whatever proof you have.

Hopefully, your husband has your back and deals with this.

Yeah, I don't like how your husband was like,

you heard her.

Maybe you heard her wrong.

You misheard her.

No.

No.

I heard her clear as day.

Why would I make some shit up like that?

I've been going through this abuse from her for years.

Mm-hmm.

Someone responds, this is the best answer.

Dad and son need to have a long conversation about respect and expectations, as in the daughter-in-law and son can expect no contact if the disrespect continues.

Clock it.

And financial support.

They've been helping them financially at times.

Again, like, oh my gosh.

No.

So

I need to, like, I need a moment.

Like, the fact that you're, the fact that you're helping them financially, the fact that you're nice to them, the fact that you're nice to her, you are so much better than I am.

You are so much better than I am.

And I know the only reason you're helping them is because he's your son and you're helping not her, but him and your grandchild, which makes you

a great grandparent.

Yeah.

However,

somebody needs to lay down the law.

Somebody needs to let this bitch know what is up.

Yeah.

So we do have some comments from OP.

So a lot of people were asking, you know, what's the context?

Is there something she could be upset over?

So the person goes, what's this unconventional manner your son met his spouse?

Real parent, meaning you're a step.

I'd say nothing and do my best to ignore them.

And then they kind of quote what OP said.

My husband will call right after and the call is picked up.

Just your grandpa's wife.

Info.

Were you the affair partner?

Unconventional as not a face-to-face, but via text.

I'm old, so maybe that's conventional now.

Yes, I am technically a stepmom.

Again, no.

My husband and I didn't meet each other until years after their divorce, and his ex had already remarried.

So what's the fucking issue?

What's the issue?

Somebody needs to literally taekwondo roundhouse kick this bitch in the face.

Insane.

We get an update.

We get an update.

I don't know what it's going to say, though.

I haven't read it.

It wasn't here when I found this.

First of all, thank you to all who answered.

I talked to my husband last night about this, and we have decided that he will call our son this weekend to talk to him about what daughter-in-law has been doing and saying.

Our son lives completely across the country from us.

Husband said that though he'd rather talk to son face to face, he'll have to do it via phone.

My son and I have a very loving relationship, and there have been a few instances where daughter-in-law made snide or petty comments to me in front of him, and he always immediately called her out on them and told her that he would not tolerate her speaking to his ma.

He calls his biomother mom and me ma in a disrespectful way.

Also, I am not and never have been the affair partner.

My husband and his ex-wife were divorced for years before we even met.

My husband had wanted to address daughter-in-law's behavior prior to this, but I was the one who requested he not say anything to our son.

Daughter-in-law treats son biomom.

She is not married at this time quite differently than I.

And his mom has also called daughter-in-law out for some of the comments she has made to me.

So, son knows about some prior things said.

His mom has heard them, and even his grandma and sister have heard some of the comments made to me or about me.

I have not wanted to say anything as son and daughter-in-law are already dealing with issues in regards to her own mom overstepping the boundaries my son has set out.

According to him, his mother-in-law is very overbearing, injects herself in the raising of their children and more.

I've only met mother-in-law one time at their wedding.

He has a lot on his plate right now, and I don't want to add more since I am able to usually just ignore daughter-in-law's comments.

It was the comment daughter-in-law made to my grandson that hit me hard.

I do agree that enough is enough.

I love all of my grandchildren, and I couldn't bear to have them poisoned against me.

If daughter-in-law would just tell me what the issue is, I'm sure we could either work it out or just find a happy medium of mutual understanding at the least.

I'll keep you updated about what my husband says after.

So we got another update to look out for.

Convo doesn't sound like it's happened yet.

I mean, post is only five days old.

Last comment from OP is three days old.

I will keep everyone updated as to what happens after my husband talks to our son.

Huh.

So,

yeah.

See, I like that.

I like the sound of that.

And you know what?

I'm glad that your family does stick up for you.

Like, at least.

It sounds like it's a very tight-knit unit.

Everyone's, everyone's kosher.

Everyone's happy.

And I, you know what?

I bet she hates it.

I bet she hates when they call her out on her bullshit.

Maybe it's a jealousy thing.

I mean, I

have

three siblings.

I've got two brothers and a little sister.

Me and my little sister share the same bio dad.

Me and my brothers share the same mom.

But like me and my brothers, because we grew up in the same house, we never looked at each other as anything but siblings.

We weren't like, oh, they're my half siblings.

Or like, we, it was never anything less.

Like, no, that's my brother.

Yeah.

Period.

That's it.

So maybe her growing up in a house with like four siblings, they all have different fathers.

Like, maybe that has really

just been something really difficult, traumatic for her.

And so this is coming from a place of like, oh no, like families aren't meant to work like this.

You're, I hate you.

I hate you.

It's like coming from a weird, jealousy, insecure place.

Clearly, coming from somewhere.

I'd like to know where.

I'd like to curb stomp her.

That's what I'd like to do, but you know, we all can't get what we want.

So,

you know who else you're going to want to curb stomp?

Who?

This next one.

Jesus.

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Coming from r/slash cat free, two years old.

Okay.

This whole subreddit is an anti-cat sub for people who do not like and do not own cats.

And you're you're a cat guy.

You're a cat.

What the hell did cats ever do to you?

This one is titled, My Boyfriend Threw Out Our Cat, and I'm Grateful For It.

Threw out your cat and you're grateful for it, you monster?

My boyfriend and I had a cat since August of last year and recently he got rid of it, and I'm so thankful he did.

I've had problems with the cat ever since it was a kitten, and I had tried to train it for the entire time I had it before I gave up.

My boyfriend is a cat lover, so we had decided to get one because he said all of his old cats back in his childhood home were all well-behaved and friendly.

I thought when we were getting a kitten, it would end up like that, too, since I've never owned a cat.

And I was gravely wrong.

It always yowled at night whenever it was hungry, scratching at the door while I was trying to sleep.

I was at my wit's end.

I became more cranky and snappy towards my boyfriend because of my lack of sleep and functionality.

It strained our relationship.

It was awful, and we had fights over the cat because I was breaking down constantly over it.

He promised to take it to a shelter, but never kept his word.

And the main reason might be silly, but it was this straw that broke the camel's back.

It ate the chicken breast my dad had given me when I told him I was feeling depressed.

I never really had a relationship with my father until last year, and we had gotten closer.

The chicken was a sign that he cared about me.

So imagine how I felt when I came back from washing my hands just to see that that fucking rocks for brains knocked over the KFC bucket.

and was eating the chicken.

Hi, I would like to step in really quick and say some things.

One, your cat's scratching at your door because you're the cat's owner.

Your cat wants to be by you.

So if you have your cat locked out of your room and you're not allowing your cat to come inside and sleep next to you or lay by you, yeah, expect to hear me yowing and scratching at the door.

They're your cat.

You're treating them like they're not like you don't own them.

You're treating them like they're a roommate.

They're not a roommate.

They're your animal.

They are your pet.

Also, that's your fault.

You left the KFC on the counter.

And if you allow your cat to go on the counter, that is something that you have to train train a cat not to do, which I've trained my cats not to do.

They get on the counter, you either have a spray bottle or you, or you say, get down.

And then they listen.

The tinfoil too is crazy when they hit the tinfoil on the counter.

And if you're not out here disciplining your cat, if you're not out here letting your cat into your room to sleep next to you, if you're out here treating your cat obviously like shit.

Yeah, I'm sure your cat knocked it over and ate the chicken that was in the KFC bucket.

Boo hoo, go get another fucking KFC bucket.

Your dad still loves you and got you KFC.

It doesn't change the sentiment.

Like, hello.

Like, are we, you have to be out of your mind.

So the post goes on to say, I couldn't ever think about caring for the little rat anymore.

You're a rat.

I knew it was bad when I seriously considered killing the cat.

You are,

you,

you're Patrick Bateman, bitch.

Like, you, you are Ted Bundy and you need to go somewhere.

You need to go somewhere.

And by somewhere, I mean a mental facility.

You need to get checked in, get put in a padded room, and get put yourself in a straitjacket.

That's what needs to happen to you.

You want to kill an animal, you sick freak?

I just imagined it would die horribly or get snatched up by a native bird of prey, so it could at least be useful for once.

I had to talk to my therapist about it to work everything out since I wasn't in a good mental space state because of that thing.

So, after I broke down for the final time, I made my boyfriend choose me or the cat, and he made the right choice.

He didn't really choose you over the cat.

He just knew that he could only have sex with one of them and it was you.

So there you go.

Hope you feel great about yourself.

He wanted one pussy.

Top comment.

If it's got claws, it can survive outside.

That's way too long to have to deal with that.

You got

sick.

You guys are sick and twisted.

I love cats.

Cats are so nice.

Cats do their own thing.

Cats mind their business.

If they want to be by you, they'll come up to you.

Unless they don't want to come up to you, then they'll just go away.

You just have to feed them, have a kitty litter box out, and they are chilling.

And yeah, they'll occasionally do something bad, like scratch your carpet or jump on a counter.

But that's when you say, no.

No.

Bad.

Get down from there.

Now.

And they listen.

You referring to your cat as a thing, it, saying you wanted to kill your cat.

You need help.

You need help.

That is wild.

And I'm sorry for objectifying you, babe.

I'm sorry I said that he only wants, he only chose you because you have the pussy that he wants.

But realistically, it's true.

It's true.

That man is staying with you and got rid of the cat because it was either lose the pussy cat or lose the pussy.

And we all know.

Come on, babe.

I mean, this person like genuinely is just kind of seemingly miserable.

They are very active on r slash dog free.

People need to keep their fucking dogs on a leash, which I'll give you that on the title.

I'm not getting it in the post.

But this one, cat owners smell nasty.

There's too many cat owners who stink and reek of cat piss and litter.

And then there's a post about dogs.

Dog owners don't care about disabled people.

Why the hell do dog owners think their mutts are the best thing to ever exist?

So it's allowed to go to no pet-allowed areas.

It's clearly not a service dog, which,

okay.

Like, don't, yeah, people shouldn't abuse service dogs and stuff.

Um, apparently, they got jumped on by a dog at Home Depot.

They have got a lot of posts on r/slash pet-free, r slash anti-cats, r slash dog-free.

They're kind of just seemingly a bit of a miserable person.

You should be on r slash, I hate my fucking life, r slash, I'm a bitch, r slash, I think about killing cats because I'm a psychopath and need to be institutionalized.

There's a post titled, Why Cats Actually Fucking Suck.

Like, and they they list out six bullet points about why cats are trash.

Wait, why?

They shit in a box.

So it's called a kitty litter box, you dumb freak.

And yeah, they shit in a box.

You shit in a toilet.

Where are they supposed to go?

In your bed?

Be grateful.

Their piss smells horrible.

That's why you get good kitty litter, you dumbass.

And maybe if you had enough kitty litter boxes, it wouldn't piss anywhere.

Maybe if you actually potty chained your cat, it would pee in the right spot.

It's not the cat's fault that you're a shit owner.

Next.

There's another post here.

I hate when pet pet owners feed their pets human food.

It's like literally.

Then you open up some frisky's wet cat food and you eat it straight from the

you eat it straight from the can.

I think someone commented to OP, I hope you never have children.

Yep.

And OP responded, going to be child-free, actually.

If I ever have kids, I'd adopt a teenager.

If you can't handle a cat, You cannot handle a teenager.

I tell you that right now.

No.

No, I was a.

I was a terror.

I was a bitch.

I was a bitch when I was a teenager.

You can ask my mom.

Love her to pieces.

Love my mom.

We've gotten through it as most people do.

You go through your teen years and then you look back on them and you're like, holy shit.

I was a menace and I was evil.

A lot of people were concerned about what the boyfriend did with the cat.

OP goes, don't know what my boyfriend did with it.

He probably put up a post for it somewhere and gave it away.

He should give you away.

I would agree with that.

This is our last one.

Okay.

It is a bit of a palette cleanser.

I feel like we need it after all the ghosts, goblins, witches.

We had a lot of witches today.

Bitches, yeah.

Like, oh, that's got a ring to it.

Yeah.

Witches and bitches.

Thank you.

So, this is a bit of a palette cleanser for us.

This is coming from our slash confession titled, Everyone Thinks I Caught Our Office Lunch Thief.

I didn't.

I started packing them a a meal on purpose.

Aww.

We've had a lunch thief at work for months.

Stuff disappears from the break room fridge between 12.15 and 12.30 like clockwork.

At first, I was furious.

My glass container kept coming back greasy or not at all.

One day, I got in early and saw someone I don't know well, new temp, standing with the fridge open, just staring.

He closed it and walked out with nothing.

He looked wrecked, wrecked, like he'd been crying in his car.

That image would not leave my head.

The next week, I started bringing two lunches, one in my usual container and a second in a cheap grocery store plastic box with a sticky note that just said, quote, for whoever forgot.

I put it in the back left corner where the thief always strikes.

The theft stopped being random and started being predictable.

The container is always returned rinsed.

Sometimes there's a folded paper towel under the box like he's trying to be neat.

Last Friday, there was a single peppermint left on top.

Dumb little detail, but it got me.

Coworkers think I set up cameras or confronted someone because my real lunch stopped going missing.

I didn't.

I just redirected the problem.

It's not heroic.

It's probably enabling.

but I can afford rice and chicken more than someone can afford being hungry at work.

I'm not asking for a medal.

I'm confessing that I was angrier than I want to admit.

And now I'm weirdly protective of a stranger who eats at 1220.

If management installs cameras, I won't stop them.

Until then, I'll keep packing too.

There's hope in humanity.

That's so sweet.

You're such a good person for that.

I literally, the first time I read this, I was full-blown sobbing, you guys, like sobbing, especially the little peppermint.

I think what's really adorable is the fact that you're making him like a meal, like rice and chicken.

Like, it's not like you're giving him like ham and cheese sandwich.

Or I mean, for granted, if you did give him one, that's still great.

But like, the fact that you're going above and beyond, and you're like, I got him chicken and rice, and the sound of it, like, that actually sounds really good.

And I'm so hungry.

I'm sure when he opens up the fridge and he sees what you make him, he's like,

just so appreciative.

And like, clearly struggling, whether they can't afford the extra meal or, you know, they're going through something

depression, even, and they can't make a meal, they can't meal prep, and then they can't afford to buy takeout.

And like, you just taking that off their plate and like showing how kind you are.

And like, you do deserve a little bit of a medal.

Like, you are so kind and

see them.

Like, you see them, you see, they were in need and struggling.

And, like, that is so amazing.

And not a lot of people would do that, by the way.

No.

Not a lot of people would be like, oh, someone's stealing lunch.

Let's make them food so they don't have to steal.

I mean, a lot of stories on Reddit are lunch thief stories, and the person puts like hot sauce in it or like a super spicy thing to fuck up the person.

So there's a bunch of stories like that.

This, this person clearly saw that person wrecked, crying, and thought, I'm going to deal with this in a better way.

Yeah, you need, you need this more than I do.

Top comment: the peppermint detail actually made me tear up a little.

You didn't just stop the theft.

You gave someone dignity when they clearly needed it most.

That's so human of you.

Next comment down.

Man, I'm full-on sobbing.

Was it you?

I didn't, no, I didn't say that, but I was bawling in the car.

I'm like driving to Costco with Justin driving, and I'm like, it's just the pepper, man.

It was, it was shark week.

Like, girl, what are you on about?

It was shark week.

Around shark week, I'm like emotionally balled.

What's shark week?

When I get my period.

Oh.

I like feel like some days I have like that other thing where you like get like really like crabby and emotional.

And it's like a whole nother thing.

PMS?

No, it's like PMDD.

What's that?

PMDD is a more severe form of premenstrual syndrome.

And you just like, it's all the like heightened emotions, like times a thousand.

Extreme sadness, hopelessness, irritability, or anger.

I'm like, okay, all of those.

I like just, I'm so insane when I'm getting my period.

One last comment I'll read from someone.

Build a longer table, not a higher fence.

That's beautiful.

It's really,

I feel like I needed that.

I feel like we all needed that.

The world has just felt like,

I just like, it's so heavy.

It's so insane right now.

And there's so much.

crazy rhetoric out there.

And it's just like we, we all need to come together.

Like we really all need to come together and kind of get a grip and just like make this world a better place because what is going on right now is not okay.

I think the main issue here is

we live in a time where people profit off of all of us being divisive.

And the reason is if you have someone on the left and the right and they're too busy arguing, it leaves not enough room for the people in the middle to stand up and rise up.

And I think that that's really been a big power grab that the current administration we have has been using.

It's just this horrible divisive language, pinning like the left and right against each other.

And I think we've all kind of forgotten, like, no, we're American.

Like, everybody, like you, we're American, and we shouldn't be allowing the dickwads in our government to be doing what they're doing right now.

And we need to come together.

Unfortunately,

there are some extremists who don't want to hear that.

And they're just up Trump's ass, and they're just brown-nosing.

And that's okay.

If you would rather see your vice president go on eight vacations while you struggle to pay rent and buy food, good for you.

Um, but I, on the other hand, think that people should be able to afford rent, afford food.

There should be universal health care.

I don't know, y'all.

Um, but that was really a good palate cleanser.

I feel a lot less violent.

I, I really, I was

feeling really, really, really violent before, especially with that bitch who was talking shit about grandma.

But

dude, she was so evil.

We had some evil ones today.

Yeah, we did.

We really did.

But that's all I got for you guys.

We do have another spooky episode coming the last week of October.

So, if you have a personal spooky story you want to share, head over to the link, the Google form, submit your story.

Be sure to include a real email address if you have picture evidence, because I'll send you an email to get that from you.

I love getting stories with like photos or videos because it just freaks me out even more.

I love those too.

But it should be a good month.

I'm

after this recording.

I'm like checking out until October 14th.

So be nice in the comments because I'm supposed to be on my honeymoon, the first vacation I've taken unplugged in four years.

I know.

Oh, it's going to be so amazing.

I'm really excited.

I'm excited for you.

I'm really excited.

But thank you all so, so, so much for being here and supporting the show.

I wouldn't be able to take that honeymoon without you guys.

So I really appreciate you.

And if you need a little bit extra stuff this month, extra content, three bonus episodes on Patreon, head over there.

Where can people find you, though, Spencer?

You can find me everywhere at Spenceois.

That's S-P-E-N-C-E-W-U-A-H.

If you want to add me on Snapchat, you can do that too.

My Snapchat is Spencemois because some bitch stole my actual username.

So it's S-P-E-N-C-E-M-W-U-A-H.

You still haven't been able to get it?

No.

Oh, they're still out there.

Yeah, they're still out there, but it's okay.

It's okay.

It kind of, it is what it is.

But But yeah, you can catch me there, you can catch me on your TV screen soon.

Hopefully, oh, I can't give too much away.

Let's go,

and yeah, thank you for having me again.

I literally, anytime, I love being here.

I love talking.

I love having you, you and your fiery little takes.

A little violent today.

I can't help it.

Today was violent, but it was deserved.

It was deserved.

We had some true gremlins, but thank you guys.

And until next time, love you.

Bye.

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