127. Lack Of Discipline Makes You Ugly

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Speaker 11 This episode is going to piss a lot of people off, but you know what?

Speaker 11 I'll do it.

Speaker 11 Hi, friends. This week we're talking about how lack of discipline makes you ugly.
And there's a couple of different ways I'm going to explain how it makes you ugly.

Speaker 11 One is how other people see you, and one is how you see yourself. We're going to break all that shit down.

Speaker 11 But basically, when it comes to discipline and looking and being attractive and feeling attractive, it all comes down to respect. That's the core of it.

Speaker 11 Because Because even if someone's kind of ugly, if you respect them, you're going to want to fuck them a little more.

Speaker 11 But in all seriousness, when you respect someone, you are more attracted to them. You find them more attractive.
And when you respect yourself, you feel more attractive.

Speaker 11 So I'm very excited for this episode. But one little thing I want to throw at you before we jump into all this is the only way that you will begin to respect yourself is by going through hard shit.

Speaker 11 There's no way around it. There's no way to get the sense of confidence and the sense of respect for yourself or for anyone to get it without going through hard shit or doing some hard shit.

Speaker 11 It's just the way it goes. Sorry, babe.
Sorry, babe. I've tried everything.
That's why I'm here to share what actually works. And this episode is probably going to piss a lot of people off.

Speaker 11 So if you're like a little sensitive, little daffodil, like a little dandelion, you can just be like fucked up with one little like blow away. Click off now.
I'm just going to warn you.

Speaker 11 This is for the people who really want to grow and change themselves. So

Speaker 11 you've been warned. Okay, so since this is about being attractive, we're going to start off with how other people see you.

Speaker 11 And then we'll get into your relationship with yourself and how you see yourself and how you feel more attractive.

Speaker 11 So when it comes to how other people see you, first thing we're talking about is your body and fitness. And I don't want to be that motherfucker that preaches that shit all the time, but it's true.

Speaker 11 And there's so much weight that's held to it.

Speaker 11 Having a nice body is just the most unspoken, silent flex you can fucking have because it's a silent way to display certain character traits because if someone has a nice body and they're into fitness and they've like built their body to look a certain way that takes a lot and it reveals a lot about a person's character like someone has to be very controlled emotionally physically they have to be willing to endure pain and physical things that don't feel good like you think working out is fun bitch no i hate it it shows that someone is able to be consistent and that they're able to work hard and those are really really big character traits that will make someone more attractive.

Speaker 11 So like just by having a nice body, it's like people think having a Rolex is going to like make people respect you. They're going to think, oh, they got some money.
They're not going to respect you.

Speaker 11 Being physically fit demands a certain respect you can't get. Like your best accessory to an outfit is a nice body, bitch.
I hate to say it, but it's the fucking truth. And I'm not that shaming.

Speaker 11 I'm not fucking none of that. I'm not body shaming.
Physically looking a certain way way does help. And these are the things that I've observed.

Speaker 11 And the big thing about respect, when you have a nice body, people kind of like immediately respect you because you hold yourself in high regard.

Speaker 11 So it immediately makes someone subconsciously hold you in a higher regard because people see it.

Speaker 11 Like if they see the way that you treat yourself is good, they're gonna know that you expect that from them.

Speaker 11 They know you're not gonna allow no fuck shit and they're not gonna allow you to mistreat them because they don't even mistreat themselves.

Speaker 11 so it sets up this barrier of like respect and like oh shit like i better come correct so that's just something i've really noticed and it's fucking hot like you don't have to say shit your body just speaks for itself and that's one of like the biggest things with discipline is like having a nice body shows you are extremely disciplined and a lot of people are like oh they're born with a good body a lot of people with good bodies are a lot more disciplined and put in a lot more effort than you think so people that grew up like

Speaker 11 genetically gifted, these motherfuckers, they don't have to put in like that much work to maintain their body, or they don't feel like it's that much work.

Speaker 11 Every single person you see with a good body has to do something for it to maintain it and to get it to look the way that it does, whether it's the way that they eat or the way that they exercise.

Speaker 11 There is something they've done to look the way that they look. People don't just look good by accident.
I promise. People like to make it seem like that.

Speaker 11 And the way people that look good and just have good genetics, you assume that they just look that good on accident.

Speaker 11 Their daily habits and their relationship with food or their relationship to being active might just be different. So they don't look at it as effort or like they're having to try to do things.

Speaker 11 They were just raised a certain way. They've behaved a certain way and done certain things to their body for so long.
It's just their sense of normal. So they don't look at it as effort.

Speaker 11 Whereas if you're someone who has like a bad body and you were genetically fucked up like me, you're going to have to put in a lot of effort to change those habits and behaviors behaviors and also the genetics that you have to flip it, if that makes sense.

Speaker 11 And the other thing with respect, I used to look like shit and I had a lot of misplaced confidence.

Speaker 11 But if I looked now the way I used to look, didn't really take that good of care of myself, I wouldn't be taken serious. Like you wouldn't take the things that I have to say seriously.

Speaker 11 Because when someone just talks about shit, like when they talk the talk, but they don't walk the walk, their fucking opinion and all the things that they're saying are immediately wiped out.

Speaker 11 It's just like, it's so easily discredited. And I know that's not always the case, but it adds to it.
Having discipline makes you more credible.

Speaker 11 I hate that that's the way that it is, but that's how it is. From someone that's been on both sides.
Sorry.

Speaker 11 So for me to talk about anything fitness related, it's more trustworthy and it kind of holds more weight because I have the body to show for it.

Speaker 11 Like I have the actual experience and results a lot of people want. So I'm more credible to talk about it.

Speaker 11 it like i've talked about before if you go to a therapist who has just read books and got through school and has a degree versus if you go to a therapist who has been through the exact situations you've been through who the fuck do you think is going to actually be able to help you and who are you actually going to take the advice from you're going to take it from the one who's been where you are and has actual experience with it because they'll be able to teach you the tips and things that will truly get you out of it and resolve things versus someone who's read what's worked in a book that shit barely fucking works in real life why you think so many people are on medication?

Speaker 11 They don't know how to actually help you, bitch. They prescribe you some shit.
And I'm not saying that people who are out of shape don't have value to share.

Speaker 11 I'm just saying in the regards to fitness, but I do want to bring that up. Like there are people who are out of shape that do know a lot and have so much value to contribute.

Speaker 11 Like you don't get to just write someone off because they don't look a certain way. I don't like that shit.

Speaker 11 I'm just saying it holds more credibility, but does that mean that everything they say should be written off? No, you can learn from everyone.

Speaker 11 But when the package matches the amount of value you can share, it's valued more and it's more credible, if that makes sense. So that's what I'm talking about with the whole respect thing.

Speaker 11 And the same thing goes.

Speaker 11 Like, if I was a miserable fuck and I'm over here sad, drinking every night and like doing drugs just to fucking get through the day, if I'm on here making a podcast, sharing ways to like improve your life and to feel better and to be happier, how much of that are you really going to believe if I'm living the opposite?

Speaker 11 You know? That kind of derailed for a minute, but you get my point with that. Now I want to jump into your relationship with food.
That's a big one. And that one's a lot deeper than people realize.

Speaker 11 And from someone who has had a very bad problem with binge eating in the past, I'm free to speak about it.

Speaker 11 So typically when people have an issue with food, they get emotional and they'll get upset and then they become very careless with the food that they eat and how they treat themselves and what they do.

Speaker 11 So they get upset and they want comfort. And they prioritize gaining comfort over everything.
So they will discard their goals, discard anything they're working toward.

Speaker 11 They'll discard any of the consequences that are going to come, not look at them, not pay attention to them, and just do right now what it takes to feel comforted, which is eat.

Speaker 11 And I used to do that a lot, but this is very off-putting because you can't trust yourself.

Speaker 11 Like you cannot trust yourself if every time you get upset, you just throw away all discipline and all of your goals and everything that you want just for your right now sense of comfort because that's what it is.

Speaker 11 So it proves that you can't trust yourself. And other people are going to see that.
They're going to see it in your body.

Speaker 11 Or if you're someone that's skinny, but still binge eats and has a bad relationship with food, they're going to see it in your behavior.

Speaker 11 And then they're going to think to themselves subconsciously, if they can't trust themselves, they're willing to throw everything away for some comfort.

Speaker 11 Why would I expect not to be thrown away when they need comfort?

Speaker 11 Because like if we're friends or we're dating and you prioritize comfort and do not care about any of the consequences, it's human nature to assume and to want to stay away from someone because I'm immediately going to think, it's going to be subconscious, the way that you seek comfort and you don't care about any of the consequences and you're willing to throw away everything that you care about for comfort right now, if you get upset with me, you're going to comfort yourself and you don't give a fuck if the way that you comfort yourself hurts me.

Speaker 11 So you're a liability. And I know that's like reading too much into shit, but I'm a Pisces.
That's what I do.

Speaker 11 But this is something that will make you seem less attractive because you're not safe to care about. You're not safe to be with.

Speaker 11 If like you show that you prioritize comfort and don't care about the consequences, what's to say that doesn't lead into your personal relationships too?

Speaker 11 And I guarantee you it does, you're just not aware of it yet, because I used to.

Speaker 11 So, my next thing with discipline is people are going to assess how you'll treat them by watching how you treat yourself and by seeing how committed you are to things and how much you care about things and what you're willing to do for them.

Speaker 11 And that's just human fucking nature. We all do it.
And this determines how attractive they see you.

Speaker 11 Because the biggest thing with humans is like the more people care about you the more you care about them like there's this weird thing of like the more someone loves you it makes you think you love them more because like they're seeing the value in you and it's like like it's it's the weirdest shit it's twitter

Speaker 11 but it's someone that you see value in when they see the value in you that's when you feel the love but like there's plenty of people who will be a goddamn simp and you don't give a fuck about them but even with those like there's someone like so beneath your like standards if they show appreciation to you it makes you think that you like them.

Speaker 11 So basically, with attractiveness, being controlled and being committed to something is hot.

Speaker 11 That's the hottest fucking thing you can do because that means you're safe and it shows you're willing to do what it takes for something you care about.

Speaker 11 That can unravel in a lot of different ways, but like however it just hits you is how it's needed to hit you. So whatever that just made you aware of, good.

Speaker 11 So the next thing I want to talk about is achievements with how other people see you.

Speaker 11 Because to achieve anything, whether it's socially recognized or not, like if you get a title or a degree or you have some kind of accomplishment, that shows that you have dedication, you're willing to work towards something, you're willing to commit to something, and you're willing to be disciplined for it.

Speaker 11 People that have achieved a lot of shit are more attractive. Like when the fuck have you been attracted to someone who's like not done shit?

Speaker 11 Very rare. Because people's entire judgment and opinion of me flips when they find out that I am a nurse.
I'm I'm an RN. I worked as an RN for three years.
I graduated at 21 and became a nurse.

Speaker 11 I quit doing that because I'm doing my own shit now and it's doing good.

Speaker 11 But that, just knowing I'm a nurse, fucks with so many people's heads and it puts me like in a higher place of respect in a lot of people's minds because it's a reflection of the knowledge that I have, the skills that I have, the dedication that I have, and the fucking drive.

Speaker 11 And also the humility, because it takes a very humble person and a very like down-to-earth person to be a nurse and to take care of people at their worst because you have to do a lot of disgusting shit and i'm willing to do it and that right there is just like a big communicator of things about my character that you wouldn't assume just by looking at me And that makes someone more attractive.

Speaker 11 Like if I'm just like a cute little face and I just like dance on TikTok and whatever, it's like, okay, cool.

Speaker 11 But when someone has the character reflected behind it and they're so much more than what meets the eye and what they've had to do took an insane amount of discipline. They're 10 times harder.

Speaker 11 It makes you so much more attractive. Like, I don't know how to explain it.
I'm explaining it right now, so I don't know why I'm saying it. I don't know how to explain it.
You fucking get it.

Speaker 11 You get it. We all get it.
And another thing with like achievements, when you see what I've built for myself online, people immediately respect me more.

Speaker 11 It's kind of like they hold you in a higher regard and like they, I don't want to say they put you on a pedestal, but they kind of do because it's a silent communicator.

Speaker 11 Like what I've built online was not fucking easy. It's like a lot of time, a lot of fucking hard ass work, a lot of internal work, and a lot of courage to post myself online.

Speaker 11 A lot of people don't have that. A lot of people don't have what it takes.
And you get this sense of respect for someone when you see them do it. Like it's very, very fucking hard.

Speaker 11 And people are not going to tell you that. People make it seem like, oh, it's just easy.
You post a couple of videos. No, bitch.
It's a lot.

Speaker 11 It's a lot to try and like manage and grow and deal with hate and then deal with yourself and then stay consistent and post more, prioritizing your time.

Speaker 11 Like, oh my God, it's a Saturday night and I'm recording this podcast episode. You think I have a work-life balance? No, my life is work.

Speaker 11 And sure, there are guys and girls and whatever and like they's and thems that get famous online just for being hot,

Speaker 11 but still, you respect them a little more because of what they've had to do to get there.

Speaker 11 Sure, they pop off fast and they get a lot of followers, but there's so much discipline that goes into the way that they look.

Speaker 11 And then there's discipline that goes into how much they post and what they post and creating this image that everybody loves. It's very hard to do.

Speaker 11 Like you can't deny the fact that you do respect someone more off of their accomplishments that reflect their character. It's just how it fucking goes.
And what did I say about respect?

Speaker 11 The more you respect someone, the more attractive they are. Two plus two is four.

Speaker 11 Okay, so now we're going to jump into how you see yourself and the whole thing with discipline and like feeling attractive. Your character is what makes you beautiful.

Speaker 11 Your character is what makes you attractive or not. And I don't give a fly fuck what you look like.

Speaker 11 When you're dealing with people who are truly with it and truly get it and can truly appreciate you, it doesn't matter what you look like. It's your inside.
It's the way that you make people feel.

Speaker 11 It's the way that you care for them. It's your heart.
It's your character that makes you more attractive. And that is what breeds confidence in yourself.

Speaker 11 Because if your character is solid, you feel solid and when you just know you have good character you don't give a fuck about

Speaker 11 you are so much more confident and there's nothing anyone can do it's like okay you called me ugly okay so what

Speaker 11 but i'm reliable i'm consistent i'm committed i'm disciplined and i'm there for people i care about and what so what if i'm ugly everything about you that you don't like turns into a so what when you have good character.

Speaker 11 And when someone has that level of confidence, I don't care if you're a two, you're now an eight, maybe a 10. Maybe Maybe get a haircut or something.

Speaker 11 But like, you can make that person so much hotter physically, but that inside is what's going to breed that confidence and confidence is attractive. And you're just going to feel it.

Speaker 11 Like, it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside. When you know you're solid inside, you feel hot.
You feel attractive. You feel fucking great.

Speaker 11 And your character is fully in your control. That's one thing I want to say.
You dictate your actions. You dictate the way that you handle things.

Speaker 11 I know things happen and you can can choose to handle them a certain way or not, but your character is fully in your control. And when you feel like your character is solid, you feel more attractive.

Speaker 11 That's why I wanted to bring this up. So something that will make you feel unattractive is if you do not show up for yourself because you're showing you're unreliable.

Speaker 11 When someone's unreliable, it makes them ugly. I don't give a fuck how hot you are.
If you're unreliable, you lose hot points. You lose a whole bunch of them.

Speaker 11 You get knocked down from like a 10 to a 5 real fast. And then you got one chance to have one other character flop.
boom, you're a two.

Speaker 11 Or it will just make someone that's very hot so unbearable to be around if they don't have the character to match it. So it doesn't matter if you're hot, it's discredited.

Speaker 11 But showing up for yourself and doing what it takes to like reach your goals and doing what it takes to get to what it is that you want basically shows yourself that you will endure pain and discomfort for yourself.

Speaker 11 And that breeds self-trust.

Speaker 11 And when you trust yourself, that is the most attractive energy you can fucking walk around with and when you finally do trust yourself i have a whole podcast episode about how to trust yourself but when it comes to discipline and showing up for yourself when you are disciplined and you know you're gonna show the fuck up for yourself no matter what and you do it that relationship that gets built with yourself That shit's gonna make you walk taller.

Speaker 11 It's gonna make you feel different. It's gonna make you feel hot.
It's just the best shit. And that changes like the way way that you present to others.

Speaker 11 Like, when you're with someone who trusts themselves, they're hot. I don't care how ugly they are, actually, physically, like they're hot inside, which makes their outside hotter.

Speaker 11 And that specifically will make you respect yourself.

Speaker 11 Like, when you can trust yourself and you know that you'll show up no matter what, the trust breeds respect, and it's like, yeah, I'll go through hard shit for myself.

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Speaker 11 But the character and the self-trust thing has me so confident, I don't even care if I'm up against someone hotter hotter than me i'm not intimidated i'm not nothing like if i'm trying to date a dude and this is never going to happen because i would cut them off like i'm never an option if like a guy was trying to pick between me or another guy who was a 10 and let's say i'm like not that cute i feel like there's work to be done for me to be a 10.

Speaker 11 but let's say this guy was interested and was trying to pick between me and another guy

Speaker 11 even if the guy's hotter than me

Speaker 11 I'm not intimidated because I know what the fuck's in here. I know how I treat people.
I know my character. I know how I trust myself.
I know how I feel about myself.

Speaker 11 I know the needs I can meet for people. I know the way my brain fucking thinks.
I know the way that I behave. And like I said, emphasis on that character part.
Like I know that's so strong.

Speaker 11 And the people who are truly able to see that will value it beyond comprehension. Like they'll choose me over anyone.
Once they see that character and once they see what the fuck is in front of them.

Speaker 11 So once you establish that confidence with yourself and you get that character set, bitch, you're the most hot thing in the fucking world. Like, it doesn't matter if someone's hotter than you.

Speaker 11 It doesn't match internally. Most hot people are stupid.
Most hot people are just dumb, like empty. Like they're so based off their instinct, it's just annoying.
Like if they're hungry, they eat.

Speaker 11 If they're horny, they fuck. That's hot people, typically.
And the next part of this I want to talk about is having discipline to take care of yourself.

Speaker 11 So when you're disciplined and you do things that will better yourself, whether it's a fucking skincare routine or you work out or you eat better or you work toward a goal business wise or like you make more money whatever it is if you take any step toward caring about yourself and caring about what you want when you invest energy into

Speaker 11 yourself

Speaker 11 you care about what you invest your energy into so if you feel like you don't care about yourself and you don't like yourself as soon as you start putting energy into yourself

Speaker 11 You're going to care about it more because you're invested. You have things invested into it now.

Speaker 11 It's easy to just walk walk away from something you've put no effort into and you invested nothing into. So when you do start investing into yourself, that shit's going to flip.

Speaker 11 And you're going to feel like you care about yourself. And you're going to feel better.
Like the thing you invested in is going to make you care about it more. And if that's yourself, perfect.

Speaker 11 That's the first fucking thing you should always invest in. But when you put energy into taking care of something, you feel better about it.
And you're going to feel more attractive.

Speaker 11 So if you're doing things and putting effort into yourself, you're just going to feel more attractive and you're going to present more attractive.

Speaker 11 And then you're going to gain this confidence that comes from that. Like that's truly how to flip it from like not liking yourself or not caring about yourself.

Speaker 11 Just shut up and go through the actions and pretend like you care about yourself and just do the actions that are caring.

Speaker 11 And you're immediately going to start feeling better because like I said, you invested energy. You're going to start to care about yourself.
There's no way around that, bitch. Try it.

Speaker 11 But when you're disciplined like that, and you put that effort into yourself and you show yourself you're worth caring about,

Speaker 11 as you keep going through those actions. Things are just going to get better and better.
You're going to look better. You're going to feel better.
You're going to achieve more.

Speaker 11 And then the confidence you're going to have from that alone,

Speaker 11 bro. Like I said before, you're going to walk taller.
You're going to be the tallest motherfucker in the room.

Speaker 11 Like once you put that fucking discipline towards yourself, like your fucking dick is going to grow 10 inches and you're not going to give a fuck about nothing.

Speaker 11 Like you're literally just going to be like so competent. And what is the most attractive thing? Confidence.
Even if it's misplaced, no, if if it's misplaced, it's ugly.

Speaker 11 But competence, just because you know that you'll take care of yourself, the way people walk around that act like that, it's just hot. It's so hot.

Speaker 11 And you're going to feel hot because you're just confident. Like, yeah, I take care of myself.
There's no better feeling.

Speaker 11 So if you're lacking the motivation to take care of yourself, listen to my episode on motivation. I have a whole podcast episode about motivation.
I think it's on the audio version.

Speaker 11 So it's on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. Just search up aware and aggravated.

Speaker 11 But you don't have to have motivation to care about yourself and to do a a skincare routine and to eat right you don't you just got to have the willpower and the discipline to do it and that confidence i was talking about when you start to care about yourself it just comes from contentment because you know you will achieve things like when you put your ass behind it you just know you're gonna do it and sometimes all you can control is how committed you are to something and what you're willing to go through for it you can't control how a situation ends up or how things go all you can control is how committed you are and what you're willing to go through for what it is that you want.

Speaker 11 So, the discipline is going to get you to a point where you have courage. And what's hot? Courage.
Courage is so fucking hot. But courage makes you feel more attractive.

Speaker 11 Let's throw it to the side how other people are looking at you.

Speaker 11 Of course, other people are going to look at you like you're more attractive when you are courageous, but you're going to feel more attractive.

Speaker 11 And that's one driving point I wanted to throw in this episode. Okay, so the next thing is emotions with discipline and being controlled.

Speaker 11 When you do not let your emotions dictate what you do or don't do,

Speaker 11 your life no longer falls victim to the way that you feel.

Speaker 11 If you just do what needs to be done, regardless of the way that you feel, sure, take your feelings into consideration, be there for yourself, comfort yourself.

Speaker 11 But if you do not let being upset or being tired sway what you need to get done, you're no longer going to walk around this earth feeling scared and uneasy.

Speaker 11 because when you just live based off your emotions like oh, I'm gonna skip the gym today or I'm gonna skip work today because I'm tired

Speaker 11 Whenever you have a goal for something if you've proven to yourself every time you get tired you're gonna give up you're gonna be uncertain about everything in fucking life because you cannot control anything if you can't control your actions even when you're feeling a different emotion you'll never feel secure with yourself with anything you want with what you're gonna get out of life it's just this uneasy feeling that i'm so fucking glad I got rid of.

Speaker 11 And you're gonna have that until you just do what the fuck needs to be done. And you're gonna present with an energy of certainty and stability.
Those are another two very attractive traits.

Speaker 11 Like when you can just feel that someone is certain and they're stable with their self because they know they'll do what needs to be done regardless. That shit,

Speaker 11 again,

Speaker 11 hot.

Speaker 11 But this basically leads you to feeling impenetrable. Like if nothing can stop you, it's more like unstoppable.

Speaker 11 Like if nothing can stop you, bro, the way that's going to make you fucking feel when you have that character trait specifically, being unstoppable, you know, you'll accomplish anything you set your mind to.

Speaker 11 Shit. There's no like beating that one.
Okay, so now I'm going to talk about something with motivation when it comes to discipline and how to kind of make motivation easier.

Speaker 11 Like I said, I have the whole episode on motivation, but this is just like a little nugget for this episode. So many times,

Speaker 11 most days out of the week, I do not feel like going to the gym. Right now, I do not feel like recording this podcast episode.
I have a hundred fucking things to do. I'm sick.
I'm tired.

Speaker 11 I don't want to be doing it, but here I fucking am. I post on Sundays.
We got Sunday service with Leo. Literally, I post on Sundays.

Speaker 11 And if I'm going to identify with that and claim that, and state that, I got to put my ass behind it. But my point with the motivation is having a track record makes things so much easier.

Speaker 11 So basically it gets easier to do shit the more proof you have that you've done it and that you can do it.

Speaker 11 So how I have like 60 something episodes now, all the times I have been like, fuck, I don't want to record right now, but I have to get the episode out by Sunday. Right now, I feel.

Speaker 11 Like I just don't want to do it. And it's easy to let those emotions take over.

Speaker 11 But when you have a track record and you can see the strength that you've exuded so many times it gives you a sense of credibility and it assures you and it kind of validates how strong you are and it's very hard to feel incapable when you have a fuck ton of proof to back up you will do what needs to be done and that is the biggest motivation because knowing i have posted for the last sunday for the last like year and something I'm like, girl, what is this Sunday?

Speaker 11 I've been tired before. I've not wanted to do it before.

Speaker 11 I could do it right now. And here I am.
But the point I have with that is it's easier to go as you go. Like it's easier to continue as you go and as you have more proof of like times you've done it.

Speaker 11 So if you're trying to go to the gym, if you can look back and say, oh, I've been to the gym for the last two months, what the fuck, I can go today too. It's just going to stack on itself.

Speaker 11 So you have to get through that first like brunt of like not having any proof to like look back and have proof.

Speaker 11 You have to just do the hard shit and build that proof for yourself to be able to look back on. And then shit gets so much easier.

Speaker 11 Like, the more proof you have of your strength, the easier it is to be reminded of it and see it, and the easier shit will feel. Just goddamn do it.

Speaker 11 And also, with that, the more you invest in something, the harder it is to quit.

Speaker 11 So, how much I've invested to this podcast already, like how much time and effort and energy you think I'm going to fuck up now? Like, I've invested so much that I'm like, I'm not fucking it up.

Speaker 11 So, that's my biggest trick. If you want to make sure you don't quit something, is invest so much into it that the pain of quitting is worse than the pain of continuing.

Speaker 11 And that is truly what the fuck is going to keep you on track and kick you in the ass when you need it. The only time you feel the urge to quit is when you feel like there's a relief from pain.

Speaker 11 But if you have so much pain on the other side of quitting, you ain't choosing that. Like it's easier to just continue forward.

Speaker 11 So one more thing about discipline and kind of like being more attractive is the most endearing thing that you can do is look out for your future self.

Speaker 11 It's to do something now to make sure you get where it is you want to go or you feel good or you just do something you know you need to fucking do.

Speaker 11 Like the most caring thing you can do is take care of your future self because you don't want your future self to have to deal with consequences.

Speaker 11 Like, sure, is it easier to just lay in my bed right now? Yeah.

Speaker 11 But I'm in front of this camera doing this because it's in line with my goals and my values and what I want to do.

Speaker 11 And also, it's preventing me from tomorrow feeling regret and shame and like fuck and feeling disappointment. Like I'm preventing my future self from feeling that way.
So I'm doing this now.

Speaker 11 So tomorrow I get to have a good day. But looking out for yourself and showing yourself how you can care for yourself and take yourself into consideration, that's hot as fuck to other people.

Speaker 11 And that's going to make you feel hot as fuck. Okay.
That's one thing you can't deny. Like just feeling how you can love someone is beautiful so for you to give yourself that same love

Speaker 11 oh my god it just makes you feel so hot please i know i'm being very like superficial like oh it makes you feel hot but like it makes you feel so good when like i said you experience the love you have to give so the way you take other people into consideration take your future self into consideration experience that love that you show toward yourself and it's going to make you feel so much more beautiful because you are

Speaker 11 and on my final note the last thing i always always tell myself before I have to do some shit I don't want to fucking do is you're going to be happy when you're done or you'll be happy tomorrow.

Speaker 11 Because right now,

Speaker 11 I feel the biggest sense of relief because I'm done with this fucking episode and I'm happy I did it. I'm so glad I just got this shit over with.
So I hope this episode was helpful.

Speaker 11 If you liked it, leave it a thumbs up. If you're listening to the audio version, leave me a five stars rating.
Thank you.

Speaker 11 Leave me a comment down below. If you have anything to say, that's nice.

Speaker 11 Also, if you want any of my merch the link will be in the description but all of my social media will be linked in the description my instagram my tick tock my app if you want to download it everything you need is in the description on that note everybody be safe take care of yourself and i will talk to you guys next sunday

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