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Alrighty, guys.

Welcome back to K and Ty Break It Down.

This week's episode is just with me and Ty.

Oh my God.

Everyone keeps saying like, hey, what's going on?

Like, all right.

I'm sure people will be excited about that.

I think for us, it was just really what's going on in our life right now is a lot of adoption stuff.

That's what was kind of going on.

And I feel like, you know, we kind of realized a lot of adoptees don't have voices and other birth parents.

So I feel like that's why we recorded so many episodes with adoptees and, you know, people involved in the adoption triad and stuff.

I think people are just getting like, they're like, all right, adoption, adoption, adoption.

But it's like, you have to understand we're recording these.

in real time

as things happen in life and that's just what's happening right now.

Right.

And when we went and recorded all of those, it was like we went to New York City on purpose and we had a bunch of adoptees and people that have wrote adoption books and birth parents.

And so there will definitely be some more adoptee voices shared.

Yeah, because we have more story to tell.

Right.

But we hear you guys.

We understand.

We're breaking it up.

I get it.

Okay, I get it.

Sorry.

Sorry for the delay in just me and Ty.

Yeah, but I also feel like, even, I mean, I just feel like there are certain aspects in this whole journey that we're never going to do do right.

People are always going to hate on us.

And I mean, yeah.

I remember when we first started, I said, I could be like out in the streets feeding the homeless, and somebody would be like, you're giving him too many carbs.

You know, like, they'll always pick up something to hate on.

Alcohol with that money.

What's wrong with you?

Right.

Or, like I said, I'm feed literally feeding them and they would hate on me for it.

Like, no matter what you do in life, when you're in the spotlight.

Yeah, but I feel it's way different.

Like, TikTok is just like this most toxic place I've ever seen.

I feel like it's your algorithm or something.

I haven't, I don't spend enough time on it.

I usually, maybe you're right, because I'll go to TikTok only to post like our podcast stuff.

Yeah, because like

my stuff is always like funny stuff.

I need to get it.

Jokes.

I mean, obviously I will see some negative things about us every once in a while and I just scroll right past it.

I don't even give it the time of day.

Well, yeah.

I mean, I don't either, but I just feel like that's all it is because I guess it's probably because I'm posting about our podcast and hashtag and all.

I don't know how I don't know why it is for you, but yeah, it's a lot of toxicity.

well no and there's people on there that have a whole accounts dedicated to just us it's insane to hating literal hating their obsession is create like i i actually would like to say you're welcome to that because of the fact that like you're welcome for giving you 16 years worth of learning and growing uh and making a lot of mistakes for you to use because we were growing for you to stitch together yeah to further this preconceived narrative about us that you hate us so much, or whatever.

So, you're welcome for giving you 16 years worth of learning and growing and making mistakes on national television for you to be able to cut together to further push your narrative of who we are and what's wrong with us and why we deserve all the hate and whatever, whatever.

And it's like, I want to say you're welcome for giving you that all that and also for you to be so obsessed with it that you're creating your own echo chamber to fill the people who only have that same idea.

Like that one girl, like our friend Erin, who she was an adoptee that was on our the podcast.

She she messaged me all the time.

She's like, oh, God, so-and-so's at it again with their 156th video of you guys.

I'm like, she's got a lot of damn time on her hands.

She loves me.

Right.

Like, what?

You're so obsessed.

But it's weird because, like, I noticed that they create their own echo chamber.

Like, they don't want to hear, like.

Well, they block anybody that like tries to stick up for us or anything.

These adoptees write me and say, I was just trying to correct them on certain stuff.

And they literally were like, no, block, whatever.

Because you don't agree.

Like you said, you don't agree with our echo

or what we believe in, so you're blocked, and now you can't come.

I just wanted to take a moment to say, You're welcome.

Yeah, yeah, your TikTok is definitely super negative.

I know, but I'm not on it enough.

That's probably my problem, right?

Um, I don't know.

Yeah, because what do you do?

You just watch like Instagram reels, or where are you watching?

Like, boring.

I'm a grown-up, all right?

I watch TikTok.

I'm a grown-up.

I watch TikTok.

I watch TikToks on Instagram.

I watch Instagram reels posted on TikToks.

I don't know.

Lame.

Is that the millennial of me?

Maybe?

No, because I'm a millennial and I totally would rather do TikTok.

That's like when he, you hopped up on Instagram, Instagram Live, like a week ago, and I was like, it's you, Instagram Live?

Like, that's gross.

Like, you need to go on TikTok Live.

I will say TikTok Live's a little more like

way better.

Yeah, like, yeah.

You get so many more views.

Like,

you know, I don't know any of this shit.

I don't know, but yeah, it was funny because even my friend was like, where is he?

I can't find him.

And she's like, oh, I was like, I know.

I hate to I hate Instagram live.

She was like, me too.

Why does everyone hate it?

I don't know.

I just feel like it's better.

But yeah, your algorithm is messed up.

So maybe I just need to invest in it more.

I guess.

But you're a TikTok hater.

So.

Yeah.

Like, come on, dude.

Well, dude, this app is insane.

It's something's off with it.

No, like, you were so happy it was getting banned.

And I'm like, you're weird.

No, why?

Dude, because I'm telling you, I, even just a little amount of time I spend on it, I can see this crazy algorithm.

And this, it's like they're mind-reading you.

You could be saying something about babies, and all of a sudden it's just like baby stuff.

And it's just, it's dude, it's crazy.

Honestly, I feel like Facebook's a little worse because ever since we booked our Disney trip, that's all my reels have been.

Dude, it's my first time going to Disney.

I know.

Are you excited?

I'm actually super pumped.

Yeah, so for people that don't know, Ty, we've talked about booking a Disney trip for literally years.

Oh my god, yeah, long time, really long time.

And so we finally just booked our Disney trip for fall, sometime in fall.

And it'll be Ty's first time.

My first time is like an adult.

I think I was like 10 when we went.

And it'll be, you know, first time for our kids, all of our kids.

And Nova's 10, so she's, you know, it is a good time.

Like, we have to do it now.

Yeah, well, I didn't want to wait.

I didn't want to do it too early because I feel like kids ain't going to remember nothing.

Well, Raya's not going to remember crap when we take her.

I know, but our oldest is 10.

Yeah.

So we have to do it now.

And maybe we'll take Ryan.

Right.

In Vada will remember.

But we've already missed that window with nova where she's like not into princesses or anything but that's why i'm excited we're doing universal with her because she's like listening to all the harry potter books right now oh yeah she like knows the stories she's been watching the movies as she after she listens to the books and stuff so i'm excited to take her to universal i'm pumped because i got her into harry potter i said yeah

listen if you don't like harry potter Something's wrong with you.

Love it.

It is.

How do you not like Harry Potter?

Yeah.

Like, dude, it's amazing.

Like when she sees Universal Studios.

My only fear with her is, like, you know, we took her to Cedar Point last year.

And for people that don't know, Cedar Point is like a huge amusement park in Ohio with tons of roller coasters and stuff.

And we took her on one roller coaster.

After that, she got off, started crying, and didn't ride crap the rest of the day.

I'm like, that's all Disney and Universal is, is rides.

That was bullshit.

So what are we going to do?

I thought about that the other day.

I'm like, what are we going to do?

We take Nova and she doesn't want to go on anything.

She's the time.

that let me take over.

Yeah.

Okay.

Like they have that

cool, like in Hogwarts, they have that cool bike ride where you get on the bikes and you ride with, what's his face?

She's going going to ride.

She's going to.

You know, like, oh, she better, dude.

That's a big, big ass wisdom.

For real.

This is the moment.

I know people are like, it's so wrong.

Don't force them.

No, you're riding.

You're riding the fucking roller coaster and you're going to lock your seat down.

And

the last time the person was like, do you want to get off?

I said, no, she's fine.

And she was crying.

And he was like, he let her off.

He let her off.

I said, bro, I'm the parent.

Yeah.

I said, dang, man.

I mean, imagine being a worker.

I would feel so bad.

There ain't no way in hell.

Well, I gave him the dress.

I said, man, that's crazy.

Yep.

Yeah.

So, um,

well, I don't know.

We'll, we'll have to see.

Um, I know I can't be alone, though.

I know there's got to be other adults who've never been to Disney World.

Oh, for sure.

Because I, like, I'm telling you, like, it's something that I always wanted to do, but obviously, my mom can never afford it.

I mean, my mom couldn't afford it anymore.

It was my grandma that paid for us.

But I do have to say, like, I remember the first day we did, I think it was Universal Studios, and I was like 10 or 11 years old, and I was traumatized.

Absolutely

traumatized.

Yes.

Because there's this, my mom took me in this one thing at Universal.

So it's like realistic.

Like the, you know, it's like movies there.

You do these rides and it's like you were in this fucking movie.

And it was an alien one.

And it's like, you all sit in these chairs.

I don't know.

Have you ever seen the movie Alien?

Yeah, but all I know is like you go and you sit in these chairs and there's a tube full of water with an alien inside the water.

And there's like all these scientists and stuff.

And then all of a sudden they start freaking out.

The lights go black and the alien escapes out of the tube.

And he's like breathing in the back of your neck.

You can hear him walking around the room.

I was sobbing, freaking out, sobbing.

I remember there being like holes on the back of the chair.

And I thought like some shit's going to come out there and like bite my neck, you know, like I was freaking out.

So I'm like leaning down.

My mom is laughing hysterically at me because I'm freaking out.

We get out of there and I'm like, this is crazy.

Like I'm never going on anything ever again.

And then, right after that, we did the Jurassic Park ride.

And it's like, in the beginning, it's water, it's all pretty, and it's like, you got the long necks, and it's so cool, dude.

Yes.

And they start breaking out, attacking shit.

And then you're like, you know, you go to this freaking T-Rex that's like chomping at your boat.

Huge T-Rex.

I'm freaking out.

Is it a robot?

Or is it like a vision?

Oh, it's robots.

Oh, so it's like a yes.

Like, no, it's a real, you know, like, it looks real.

And it's, it was, and then

I was like 10 or 11.

Oh, wow.

After that, I wouldn't go on shit.

Not another damn ride.

They even tried to get me to ride on the Popeye ride, which is like a water ride.

And I was like, hell no, I don't give a fuck about Popeye.

No.

Yes.

So you got to be careful with shit like that because Universal is so real.

So if you're talking about Alien, like you ever see the movie Alien?

No.

You know, I've never really watched that.

No.

It's a horror movie.

So the fact that you're on- Yeah, I was on a horror ride.

Freaking out.

The fact that your mom put you on a horror movie ride is crazy.

And then they were so upset because I wouldn't want to go on anything else.

Well, are you kidding me?

I was damn traumatized.

Like,

and I don't really remember Disney too much.

I don't.

No.

And I think it's because I was freaking all I remember is the bad stuff.

Jurassic Park ride and the Aileen ride.

That's all I remember.

And not wanting to go on the Popeye water ride.

So you got to be careful with stuff like that, too.

Did you do it once or twice?

Once.

Okay.

To you, my darling.

No, to you.

The roses were living the dream.

More champagne for me, peace.

Until it all came crashing down.

He got fired by it.

From the director of Meet the Parents.

You're a failure.

Women don't like that.

If you need a shoulder or an inner thigh to lean on.

On August 29th.

I just want the house.

We want everything.

Wow.

Stop.

Yes.

And see the roses.

These people.

The roses.

Rated R.

Under 17, not a minute without parents.

In theaters everywhere, August 29th.

I bet we've been to like Universal and California, but it's not the same.

It's really not.

No.

Like,

I was actually disappointed because I saw the pick.

I'm thinking, I'm thinking, I didn't know there was a difference between California, Disney World, and Universal versus Florida.

I had no clue.

I thought they were both exactly the same.

No.

No, dude.

Florida's way better.

Yeah, that's why.

I mean, the pictures, I was like, what the fuck?

Yeah, so I'm super, I'm excited for that trip.

I think Vada and Rye are going to have a blast.

So is Nova, like, doing Universal.

Because honestly, Nova, she asked like she don't like Disney princesses, which maybe she doesn't, but I catch her playing with.

Well, she'll play Barbies and stuff.

Yeah.

But some of those other, like, rides, they're going to be fun and cool.

Like, the frozen ride is, I mean, I will love that.

You know, like certain things like that.

I do remember, like, they have like a Winnie the Pooh ride, and that was fun and cute.

The Winnie the Pooh ride.

Okay, yeah, sure.

But no, but I'm excited.

I'm excited for that trip, especially because you've never been.

No, I've never been.

And I'm actually, I get to experience it for the first time myself with my kids.

Yeah.

I'm a very lucky guy.

Except, damn, Disney, when I was talking to this lady that was helping me buy tickets and stuff, I'm like, this is wrong.

What?

Like, Disney should be for every child.

Well, you know what I mean?

Like, for every kid.

And it's not.

It's not, it's not.

And that is messed up.

You can't afford, we can't, no one can afford that shit.

It's wrong.

I'm surprised people are even going.

I don't know.

Why do you think we, I like, didn't book it for years because every time I'd go to book, I'm like, this is stupid.

Like, I'm not doing this.

It's dumb.

Like, expensive dumb, you know?

But so then finally, I know, then finally, I bit the bullet, but that's what I mean.

Disney is messed up.

Like, it's for kids, but then not every kid can go.

That's sad.

Well, maybe we should do a Disney sponsorship or something.

I know, right?

Because that's so sad to me.

It is sad.

Yeah.

To experience Disney, you know what I'm saying?

I would see pictures.

My friends would come back to school.

Yeah.

They'd be gone.

They come back with a tan.

You know, right?

Oh, we went to Disney.

And I'm like, oh, picture shirts.

Yeah.

And I'm just like, that sounds great.

I know.

It is sad.

You know, I'm like, that sounds cool.

It is super sad.

And then when you tell them as kids, oh, like when you went to Disney, you know, the ones at Disney World, I'm like, I never went to Disney World.

Right, never been.

And they're like, you never went to Disney World.

I'm like, dude.

Right.

Your mom couldn't afford it.

Your mom can't afford that crap.

I'm going to have to work at a bar to feed us.

Yeah.

But I mean, this has been years in the making, so I'm excited.

I'm excited

for it.

Yeah, I'm excited.

Thankfully, your mom's coming so she can take Raya when she, like, you know.

Yeah, but it is really expensive and it's not fair.

No, it's not fair.

It's sad.

It is sad.

But I'm looking forward to it.

I'm excited.

Yeah.

Excited to take the kids.

What other life updates do we have going on?

Well, Nova, what?

She finished her cheer.

Competitive cheer is over.

Woo!

Oh, my gosh.

All you cheer parents, you guys know how it is, man.

The traveling, the money, the insanity, the culture, the parents, the screaming, and just the crying when they get.

The kids crying.

Dude, the amount of girls crying.

I know, Ty, yeah.

It's almost kind of disheartening.

I'm like, this poor child is just destroyed.

Yep, and they were all crying for a bunch of different reasons.

One's moving away.

One didn't, madam they didn't hit zero.

One, it's like, man, cheer is a whole different thing, man.

It really is.

But Nova loves it.

Yeah, but she even this, she was like, after this season, she's like, I just want to take a break from it.

Which we're like, that's cool.

Yeah.

I think it's important.

Like, let the kid.

I'm not, like, I understand.

If they make a commitment, I want them to make, I wanted them to see the commitment through, right?

Because that was with Nova figure.

I'm sitting up on the team.

Right.

You got to keep going.

When the season's over, you have an opportunity to not do it again.

Right.

And be done.

Yeah.

Because even she was fighting me the last couple of weeks about not wanting to go to practice, things like that.

I'm like, absolutely not.

You are part of a team.

And without you, your team cannot do what they are coming and showing up to do.

So no, you have.

Sorry.

You have to.

Yeah.

I don't think it's right to let them just quit in the middle of the day.

No, not at all.

I will not.

And plus, especially because they're teams.

So if you quit, you're letting everyone else down, and that's not how it works.

And plus, there were a few times too she'd go to practice and then come out.

She's like, I'm so glad you made me go.

I had so much fun.

I'm like, ah, remember that.

Lock that in your brain, kid.

So, yeah, competitive season of cheer is done,

which this year was crazy.

Yeah, like Chicago, Nashville, Ohio, you know, but also Nova loves it.

Yeah, she makes tons of memories and makes friends.

And now I just,

Veda just had her first little taste tryout practice.

I'm hoping she likes cheer because I personally, me, I love the cheer stuff.

I love.

I mean, I like it.

It's just, dude.

But I'm saying I love the moms.

I love the experiences.

I love the kids being able to experience things.

And if Veda ends up liking it, sorry, Nova, it's going to have to be the same way as it was.

Like, now it's about Veda when we do competitive cheer.

Like, I think that's only fair, you know, like, cause it was about, all right, this is our time when we get to spend time with quality, like, quality time with Nova when we go to different places and go to hotels.

Now, here's the thing, though, do we bring what if Nova wants to go to Vedas?

Do we let her go?

I don't know.

Saying, what do we do?

I don't know.

Part of me is like, that's not really fair.

Veda did.

She told Veda, she couldn't come to because she came to a couple.

Yeah.

She came to a couple, which was fine, and Nova was fine with it.

But at the end of the day, we like to say that it's Nova's thing.

Yeah, and it's our time to spend with her.

Just like when we take Veda to gymnastics and stuff, I don't take any other kids with me.

I'm like, no, now it's my quality time with you, you know?

Tell Nova, no, you can't go.

Yep.

I don't know.

We'll have to play it by ear.

See what happens.

Maybe we let her come to a couple.

I don't really know.

Maybe, yeah.

Maybe, maybe, I don't know.

That's even if Vada even ends up liking it, you know.

She seemed to really enjoy it yesterday, though.

So I'm kind of hope part of me is like, please like cheer.

I think she'll like it.

I hope so.

It's fun.

She went to it a couple times in Nova.

She was just like the coach yesterday was really impressed with Vada's handstands.

This girl, she looked back in the living room, almost breaking her neck and stuff.

I'm like, dude, it's stressful.

I'm like, dad, watch this.

She goes, yeah.

even she literally throws her head first

you gotta dude you gotta have your hands out you gotta brace yourself because she's just going watch head first and then putting her hands out i'm like dude oh my yeah she so the coach was pretty impressed yesterday with her handstands and i'm like oh yep she does them all the time everywhere you know and the one mom was like oh my gosh she almost like threw herself over in her handstand she was just like

yeah she's she's wild but she likes it she loves to flip and stuff so i hope she likes it and then with nova too i told her i said well cheers over because nova's very much like i want to have the summer off and i'm like i don't blame you kid like summer you want to camp and swim and you know just do kid things yeah but i told her i said but you need to be in something whether you pick up more art classes whether you want to do horseback riding or swim or whatever it is but like i want you to be in something at least she said she wants to do more art classes but yeah and then she was like i really would i really would like to do horseback riding i'm like that's fine but i feel like kids especially where we live in the middle of nowhere, the childhoods me and you had, like, I feel, I feel like they have to be involved in something just to keep your mind like busy and making friends.

It's different out here.

When you think about it, like the amount of time, well, the amount of time that our kids are at home, like, is when I was Nova's age, I didn't come home to the streetlights came out.

No, we were riding our bikes.

Yeah.

But they don't live in like a town.

No.

We live out in the middle of nowhere.

Got to be driven to somebody's house.

Literally, you know, literally.

You can't ride your bike to your friend's house.

You know what I'm saying?

Dirt roads.

So it's like they have a totally different like childhood and lifestyle, I think, than we did.

That's why I think it's important

on the streets, yeah.

Literally, but I had fun, I had so much fun, that's what I'm saying.

Like, a part of me is kind of sad for him: like, dang, you don't get to experience like what that was like, right?

Like, you know, riding to your friend, riding your bike to your friend's house, and the only way you knew where everyone was was all the bikes in the front yard.

Yes, I was like, Oh, they're over there,

yo, or so-and-so's house.

I feel like we were the last good generation for that, though.

You know, we were, so that's why I'm like, I want them to be involved in something, that's how you make friends.

And even when she had the whole middle school thing, like she saw friends that she met at Cheer that don't even go to the same school she does now, but they're all merging at the one school now, like next year.

And it's funny.

I'm like, see, look at all these girls.

This whole thing,

this whole thing about fifth grade and middle school is just, it's messing my mind up because

I remember fifth grade very clearly.

And I could not imagine being in middle school at fifth grade.

Like, what?

Yeah.

But they have their own wing and stuff, too.

I don't, it's weird.

It is what it is.

Do you think it's weird?

When I first, yeah, when we first moved here and I found out like fifth grade's at the middle school and not the elementary school, yeah, that was weird to me.

But then I've talked to a lot of the parents.

I've talked to, you know, a dad that works at the school and just the way that they have talked about it.

And I'm like, oh, okay, that kind of, you know, that makes sense.

They very much so like want to keep them private.

They don't interact with the, you know, seventh, sixth, seventh, and eighth graders.

They have their own lunches, all of that.

Like, I mean, it is what it is.

I guess it makes sense too, because you do four years of of elementary, and then technically, you do four years of, I mean, middle school, and then four years of high school, yeah.

All right, I just feel like fifth graders

being in middle school is weird, and they do combination locks, and it's just different.

We're not used to it, so and you know, they go playground, yeah, they do.

I thought that was crazy.

I'm glad that they do, though.

I was nervous about not having recess in fifth grade.

Like, come on now.

Do you remember when we first went to middle school, though, and you like, there was just nothing?

It was weird.

That's it.

Basketball court and a couple tables.

Yeah.

We all just at recess.

I'm like, what did we do?

Stood around and gossiped.

Looked at each other's faces.

That's all we did.

Yeah, it was.

That's why, yeah, it is nice that they have a playground there.

So, yeah, that's crazy.

Nova going into a whole totally different school next year.

And then you have little Veda.

Oh, don't.

She makes me sad.

It's okay.

She's fine.

She's exactly where she needs to be.

Yeah, she makes me sad, though.

I mean, we had to make the decision, and we did.

I mean,

I think it's the right move.

We had the engagement with their teachers.

She needs to do one more year of kindergarten before moving on.

It's fine.

A lot of kids.

I know, but it makes her sad.

Like her friends.

She loves, like, you know, she's got little friends that she says, you know, talks about and like they'll say bye in the drive lines.

And, you know, like.

I know, but she'll make friends.

I know.

It is.

I mean, I think that's so hard as like a parent.

It's like, I know it's the best thing for her.

We've had, I love the school district that we're in.

We've had tons of meetings with her teachers and like her,

the other people that pull her off her classroom out of the classrooms with like speech.

And there's another lady that helps her with like writing and stuff like that.

And we've met up like, gosh, I think we've met like four times this year.

Yeah.

And I mean, from the beginning, I've always like, I've kind of pep talked to myself, I feel like, where I'm like, listen, you guys are the professionals.

If, you know, if you're at the end of the year, I want to have a meeting because if you guys feel like she needs extra support and more time, then obviously I want her to be, I'd rather her be held back in kindergarten than do it in like first or fifth grade or fourth grade.

But I think that is still like, no matter how much you pep yourself up for and you know it's the best thing, it still sucks.

Like I feel bad for her.

Like, but I also, I don't want her to grow up struggling through school and not being able to catch on.

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Well, I don't want to set up for failure.

And I think pushing her into first grade is just, that's exactly what it would do.

Yeah.

And plus, I think the way we explained it was great.

We were just like, you're so good at kindergarten.

The teacher wanted you to stay one more year to help all the other kids.

I know.

It's like, she was like, oh, I'm like, yeah, see?

I know.

But then she says, she's like, but I really want to go to first grade.

And I'm like, I know.

I know.

Sure, you will.

Baby, it's so sad.

I do.

I almost cried in the classroom.

I know, I know.

I could tell.

I know.

I could tell.

Yeah, I'm like, I want to cry, but I'm not going to cry in all front of all these people because I know it's the right thing for her.

It's so hard, though.

Yeah, it is.

I mean, that's even like when she was in preschool and I broke down just by them saying like, she struggles more than most kids.

And I'm like, oh, my God.

I knew it.

You know, like, known, she's had little things about her, you know?

Yeah, she has.

just the loud noise that she gets scared.

Yeah, she has the sensory things, and it's okay.

It's it's

she reminds me a lot of me when I was little, and I wonder, I wonder, I just wonder a lot the stuff

about myself, right?

Watching beta, like as an adult, like as a parent parenting her, yeah, like I'm just like, yeah, I see some stuff that I'm like, hmm, interesting.

Because if you don't understand it,

you're gonna, I think people, like, people, I got, I was, I was always criticized for just being like misbehaved.

Yeah, I was right, I didn't behave right, I was, you know, insubordinate.

Thankfully, we don't have that problem with her, no, right.

But, like, I look at certain things that she does, or she'll question certain things, or something will bother her, yeah.

And I'm like, oh, like, and most people will be like, you better, just, you know, be respectful.

It's like, but it's not that.

It's like, when you have issues like that, it's different.

I feel like it is different too.

Like, she, like, even Veda gets very like

angry fast or frustrated faster than normal kids would, I feel like, more so at home, thankfully.

Right.

I would rather have that at home than at school any day.

So, God, your poor mother.

I know, but um, yeah, because I just noticed, like, she's just and she's always been like that.

I remember her being like little, little, and just getting mad because she couldn't talk.

Yep.

And she'd get frustrated because what milk chair?

What?

And she would get so frustrated then.

Yeah.

So,

but I mean, the good thing is, is too, is like how they all showed us yesterday at the school meeting, like, she's progressing.

She is.

You know, it's, I've said, well, it's good.

I'm glad the the line's not going down.

It's going up.

You know, it's just taking her a little bit longer and

still sucks.

She's special.

I know.

I think she's got,

I think kids like her come in with a wiser soul than their body can externally represent.

Like, does that make sense?

Like,

they've been here before.

They know, like, shut up, idiots.

Like, I know what I'm doing, even though they don't know.

Like, they're almost like their soul is wiser than their body's capable of producing or showing.

Right.

And it's like, like, so that's what they get, they get so frustrated because it's just like, dude, you're not getting it.

And I guess the other plus is like, it's going to set her up for success, which that's obviously what we want as parents.

And also, her and Raya will be like in the same schools throughout.

They might miss like one year away from each other when she goes to the middle school.

Yeah.

You can go through school and they're already super close.

Yeah, those two are super close.

Yeah, and then little Miss Raya, what?

She's going to be in preschool full-time next year.

I know, but right now she's what?

Yeah, you know, just two days a week and she's about to be four.

Four years old?

That's what she's going to do, Ty.

Why, though?

Because that's how you set them up for success is you put them in preschool.

Can't we just like,

whatever.

I already thought about 8 million.

Thankfully, though, she'll be with the teacher that you know we both adore.

And she's had every single one of our kids.

It's true.

And I think it's good for them.

It starts teaching them their names and ABCs and numbers.

But that means we're going to go

six hours of not seeing her.

Yeah.

It's not even six, is it?

Whatever.

I don't know what it is.

It feels like nine.

Right, I know.

It's all day.

No, I think, yeah, next, yeah, after this summer, it'll be the first year of like, we literally have no babies in the house.

Mm-hmm.

What the fuck?

That's crazy.

You know what they need?

That's crazy.

What the fuck is going on?

Crazy Z.

Maybe we should have another one, maybe.

I don't want to start all over.

Sometimes I think about it, and then they start fighting and screaming at each other.

And I'm like,

I tell you what, that is one of the most unexpected struggles that I didn't think I would have after getting snipped.

Yeah.

Was like, even if I wanted one, I couldn't.

You could.

There's other ways.

Yeah, but I did like without just, you know, I have to go get snit.

I did, like, make it, I plan it out.

I mean, I really, you know, like, right.

This is a whole different.

It's not like I just get off birth control or we stop using production and then have a baby.

I'm never going to be able to rub your belly or nothing.

No, our old little newborns.

That's sad to me.

We're 32.

I know, but I love you.

I love your pregnancy.

Are we 32 or 33?

We're 33.

Okay.

We are thirty.

Guys, you have no idea.

Okay.

You guys don't understand.

She,

you don't.

She walked.

What did you say the other, like a couple of weeks ago?

You were like, am I 34?

I'm not 34.

I'm like, you're not 34.

I'm 34.

You are not 34.

The fact that you increase your age, usually people go, oh, I'm like 31.

No, you're 33.

It's like, no, I'm 30.

I'm like,

you're adding a year.

No, I forget.

I forget how old I am.

I'm 30 fucking three.

We're 33.

I do.

I forget how old.

Yeah, okay.

So I'm 33.

Are we sure?

Yeah, like I don't want to start over again.

I mean, there's days where I'm like, yes, I would love to have a newborn baby and experience the hospital.

Or I wish I would have,

I wish I would have soaked in the hospital moments more or whatever.

Like I go through all these mental things or like, oh, sometimes I think of like, oh, wow, you know, like a little thing next to my bed or whatever.

And then I'm like, but I also don't want to start over.

I know.

You know?

And it's like, I saw something on TikTok actually the other day where it was like, the next time you experience this, and it was like flashes of like the hospital rooms and like newborn blankets and stuff.

It was like, the next time you experience this is when you're grandparents.

I was like, oh my God.

That's sad.

Yeah.

That's so sad.

And we got to wait, you know, I'm pretty sure your, your niece and nephew will probably have babies before we're grandparents.

Oh, yeah, it is.

For me, it is.

No, but I will love on that baby.

Our babies' babies.

That's way different.

Yeah, but it's still your bloodline.

I mean, I know, I know.

Niece and nephew's babies.

But yeah, but like, no, but yeah,

to experience like our babies, baby, we'll be grandparents.

Well, one thing I didn't think about was just not seeing you pregnant ever again.

That's what I, I, all the babies are babies, but like, I'm never going to see you pregnant again.

That is devastating.

Is it?

Yeah.

I don't think you get it because you're.

Get a guy to go through all this shit.

Yeah, hell no.

But from a guy perspective, a husband, whatever, it's just shitty.

Like, I'm never going to be able to, that sucks.

I do not forget those.

I do not miss the

vagina shocks.

Oh, yeah.

It's like out of nowhere.

Oh.

We'll never miss that shit ever.

I did it.

I mean, I feel like I was a person.

I enjoyed being pregnant.

I loved, you know, a lot of it.

But towards the end and middle of it, I was like, no.

You're done.

Yeah, dude restless legs cancer sleep restless legs that was the worst freaking

pelvic floor whatever whatever it was like hurt so bad yeah like I will not I will not but yeah so it's crazy our life's is changing the kids are getting older we're

they're doing sports we're busy we're you know they're all gonna be in school

freaking crazy what oh and

also too it's like i don't think a lot of people realize too that your niece has been living with us so she lives with us.

Yeah, I mean, she just graduated high school.

Yep.

Which was huge because,

yeah, she, I mean, listen, she well, she's been here for about a year.

She's been over a year now.

No, May.

May would have been.

Maybe you're right, May.

She's, you know, she was living with my sister down in Texas.

And I don't want to say too much about, you know, I'm not going to share her story, whatever, but like, you know,

my sister's had her own struggles down there in Texas.

And I think the biggest thing was like, you know, when my sister and her started fighting down in Texas and she was behind in schoolwork, it was like, we got to get her out of there.

We got, like, well, no, yeah, Lex was just, I'm coming there.

She just left.

So it's like, I mean, it was a big decision to

figure this out and stuff because I feel like I had to look at it not like saving my sister, but helping Lex.

You know what I mean?

No, because that's what it felt.

I can't just go rescue Amber all the time.

I can't go rescue my sister all the time.

You know what I mean?

No.

But it's not.

It's more than that.

It's not rescuing my sister.

It's helping my niece get her her footing in life.

And so, yeah, moved her in, said, we're going to get you through school.

We're going to help you get a car.

We're going to help you get your first place when you graduate, as long as you do everything you're supposed to do.

And she's been doing good.

Yeah, what she graduated.

She works a full-time job.

She, you know, got her car.

So, I mean, she's doing all the right things.

And that's what I told both my niece and nephew, because I know that they didn't get the, they didn't hit the lottery with parents.

They got dealt with shitty hands for sure.

So I felt like I wanted to, like, as an uncle, and just like, all right, I need to, like,

absolutely give them a little jumpstart to independent life that not a lot of kids get.

Not a lot of kids get a free first car, a free first month, last month rent.

They don't get that.

As long as they're doing the right thing.

Yeah, they don't get those opportunities.

So I wanted to like just give them a little springboard.

Yep.

So I'm proud of her.

She's been doing really good.

And the kids, our kids absolutely love her.

And she's helped, you know, she's helped watch them and babysit.

And, you know, if it wasn't for Lexa, I wouldn't be able to go to a couple competitions at Nova Scheer, you know.

Like, she's really helped out a lot.

No, she really has, and the kids love her.

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I've seen a lot of comments of people asking, like, how come I always drive?

Why don't you ever drive me around?

Why am I not a passenger princess, Tyler Lewis?

Okay,

I'm going to start off by saying this you think being a passenger princess or prince in the side of her car and when she's driving you guys are all crazy this woman revs she'll speed towards brake lights there'll be brake lights in front of us whatever no you know it there'll be brake lights in front of us and she's literally just like yeah so anyway

i'm like dude we are Going towards brake lights with the accelerator going.

I literally will, you know how many times I'm driving, I grab the,

I'll grab this, I'll I'll grab the side of this chair, or you notice I'll put my hand up, yeah, and you'll be like, or you'll go,

you'll make a whole noise.

I'm like, I'm fine.

Oh, you're not fine, because we are literally going 30 miles an hour towards brake lights.

And I should have known when I was teaching you how to drive when you were kids, and you were literally didn't know how to keep your

foot steady.

Just cruise control that.

So you'd be like,

and 30 miles an hour.

I never drove.

30 miles an hour that go 30 miles an hour.

Dude, oh, I was going to bring it up.

The one driver we had was doing it.

You know.

In Nashville, dude.

I was like,

oh, my God.

Babe, that is you.

Still to this day.

I swear to God.

I'm going to listen.

Still to this day.

You're driving, though, so you can't feel what it feels like the anticipating of the ride.

I still do that to this day.

Yes.

You're a lying.

I swear.

You, I swear to God.

Did you feel he was just

guessing was driving me nuts?

It literally was.

I was like, I'm going to puke.

I saw you shift towards an L Cause I'm going to puke.

Anyway,

I can't, I don't drive.

It's not because I don't like driving.

It's because you get motions that you don't think anyone else drives.

No, and it's gotten worse with age, too.

You can't even ride roller coasters.

No, I know.

I don't know what I'm going to do at Disney.

Sit there and watch us.

No, I'm going to just puke.

Passenger princess and the I'll puke because I'm experiencing that shit.

But no, so people, it's funny because I'm like, dude, if people only knew, like, I have to drive, or I will puke.

Literally, I will vomit everywhere.

Like, or I have to be in the front.

But even, I don't know, sometimes with your driving, it makes me want to puke.

What's wrong with my driving?

I don't know.

It just makes me want to puke.

Dude, if you're lucky, I don't have motion sickness, but if I had motion sickness, too, we would both be so fucked.

We'd be driving separately everywhere.

Literally, because you, dude, man.

Yeah, I can't.

Ask your mom.

Oh, my mom hates my driving.

So does my grandma.

Yeah.

My mom's like anxiety, like, doesn't want to look.

And my grandma's like,

I'm like, grandma, calm down.

Put your z-ball in.

It's because you drive towards brake lights.

Still never gotten a crash this day.

Not going to.

That's true.

Actually, I have.

Yeah, you have.

It's true.

With a truck.

Oh.

I was like, the turkey.

You said the truck.

Oh, what truck?

Remember, Nova was little and it was me, Nova, and Nick, and that weird, there's like this weird intersection on the back road.

Remember that truck pulled out in front of me, though?

It wasn't my my fault.

I had the green light.

They were having to stop.

They were turning left.

And I was in my red and Benny van.

Yeah, me, Nick, and Nova.

And I, she like turned in front of me and I caught her and then she pulled off to the side and then she looked at how bad my van looked thinking that I wouldn't be able to drive anymore.

And so she went to go take off and I went to, I chased her ass.

Oh, yeah, she stopped.

It's right.

That's right.

That's right.

I do remember this.

Yes.

Yeah.

And then she got out of her truck and she was like, are you guys okay?

I'm like, I'm like, I'm okay, but why did you pull out in front of me?

And then she wanted starting to get loud.

And I was like, okay, whatever.

But even the cops were like, yeah, that's this bitch's fault.

Like, what the hell?

Yeah.

So that's the only crash I got into.

I said the turkey.

I was thinking

that turkey hit me, though.

I did not hit the turkey.

So yeah, my crash.

Yeah, my crashes in life have been very like,

I don't know.

It's been an animal.

And then I just like hit.

stupid shit.

So it's not even like cars.

Curbs and stuff.

Yeah, like curbs, the poles.

Yep, stuff like that.

that's why all of our children will be taking driver's training yeah and i i think that's a lot to do with it because me teaching how to drive wasn't the same as going through driver's training no not at all that was hard you were a hard learn you were a hard suited yeah because for years i mean for god a few years when you had your license i definitely was a passenger princess because my ocean sickness wasn't bad that bad um and then you were like you need to go get your license i'll never forget being like no i don't yeah you're you you're like i have to get my license you drive i'm like dude because eventually you're going to go somewhere and I'm gonna go somewhere.

Yep.

So Ty forced me.

He's like, no, you gotta go ahead.

You gotta go get your license.

So fine.

And then I was like, all right, I'll teach you how to drive.

It's not a big deal.

I'm thinking by this point, though, you're not gonna be that bad.

You're pretty bad.

Parking was bad.

Yeah.

But I eventually, I mean, I did it.

I didn't feel my first driver's test or anything.

I passed it.

Trying to get you to park.

And that was.

That's why I'm like, all right, all of our kids will take driver's training for sure.

Yeah, they have to because I think that affected you.

Oh, dog.

Yeah, I mean, that would affect anybody.

Yeah.

I wonder how your niece is as a driver.

I've never really drove with her much.

She's also, I mean, drove in lots.

Yeah, driven.

Yeah, she's driven lots.

Droving.

She's droving.

Ain't that driving?

So I heard someone say,

yeah, I was drunk in it.

I was.

Yeah,

oh, I drunk it.

I swear, I don't know of anyone else out there, but like...

Circuited in your brain.

So I call it short-circuiting my brain because that's what it feels like.

It feels like my brain starts.

If I'm a robot,

when I hear people say stuff like that,

oh, I yeah, I drunk it.

No, you know, you didn't drunk it, you drank it, you drank.

So, is drove not a right?

Drove is a word, I know, but it's droven, droven is not

drove.

Driven, yes, thank you, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, I'm like, wait, is drove a word?

Yeah, it is, it is okay, just like drunk to word, uh-huh, but it's that's like a tipsy, but it's past tense, yeah.

You can't know, it's yeah, because how would you even say you would always say, I drank, and we would never say, like, I drank water.

No, someone said, well, I didn't, no, I drank it.

Or I was,

I was like, no, dude, you did it.

Oh, my God.

I drunk it.

Or, like, we'll watch something on TV.

I'm like, that was spelled.

I don't know.

Oh, yeah.

You always pick out weird things.

You do

things that I would never, nobody would ever in a million years think to think about.

But it's one of those things where it's almost annoying to my brain.

I can imagine because sometimes you're just like, oh, wait a minute.

That was on Sims 3

in 2008.

And I'm like, what?

Like, how would you know that?

And then he'll pull it up on Google and play it.

And I'm like, oh, yeah, you're right.

But, like, who, who thinks of that?

It's because the TLC will use background.

Oh, I know.

Yeah, from The Sims and stuff.

Yep.

So it must have been a copyrighted, free.

Yeah, I don't know.

But yeah, your brain.

I don't know why it's locked in there.

Yeah.

I don't know.

There could be more useful information in there.

Yeah, you can do it.

But no.

I remember stupid, weird melody songs from

voices and stuff.

Voices, yeah.

I don't know.

It's weird.

What else was it?

Yeah, because there was one.

Uh, so the reason why I always drive

is because if I don't drive, I will puke.

And honestly, people say, Oh, some of my heart saw someone's like, oh, yeah, it's because Tyler's a passenger princess or whatever.

I'm like, bro, you don't even know what it's like being in the other seat, in the driver's seat, next to this woman driving.

It ain't no, it ain't no walk in the park.

Yeah, I think I've said sorry a lot.

Oh, sorry.

Oh, it's fine.

You know what's funny?

Someone will be breaking too, and you know it's a bad break.

You know it.

Cause all of a sudden you're like,

I can see, I can see you kind of like shit, shit, shit, shit, yeah, yeah, yeah,

yeah, oh, snap, you know, you had to

be in the brakes, yeah, I know, you know, I drive just like my grandpa, that's what my grandma says.

You do, yeah, she's like, you remind me so much of your grandpa, and I'm like, oh, that's bad,

yeah,

that's like that.

It reminds me of that one time, too, when we were driving on the freeway in wintertime, I was probably like, what, I don't know, 18, 19 years old, and this car, like Jeep

spun out on the freeway and smacked the side of the road.

The, what is that?

Like, the median?

The median, yeah, but the cement medium.

And I'm just driving.

I'm like, oh my God, what is, oh, my God.

That is crazy.

And he's like, Teller's like, Are you going to slow down?

No.

Are you going to stop?

No, you were going 50 miles an hour.

You're like, whoa, someone's crashing up there.

Towards the crash as they're spinning out.

Everyone else, you're the only car.

Don't all the other cars break.

No, there's K on.

Oh, my gosh.

Look what's happening.

Driving

towards the spinning wreckage oh my god i know dumb and then when i say that you're like oh yeah shit right i need to break yeah you're like

i'm in a video game i know if my car numbers happen to me i don't know why i could just crash through the car as it's spinning around and keep going no yeah i have an issue a driving issue i wonder if you can take driver's training not like still i think there should be a requirement after the age is 60 something years old you should be taking that shit on well i think they do make you like check your like your um eyesight and stuff and if you can't, you know what I mean?

Are these questions from people?

Because I definitely want to answer the people's questions.

What the fuck?

What?

Somebody said, you guys have to talk about the girl who abandoned her adopted son for a uterus transplant

so that she could have two biological babies through IVF, now calls adopted son her nephew.

I'd have to do more investigating on that.

Say it again.

Blueberry said,

you guys have to talk about the girl who abandoned her adopted son for a uterus transplant So that way she could have two biological babies through IBF and now calls her adopted son her nephew.

Oh my God.

First off, uterine transplant.

That's different.

All right.

I don't know.

Yeah, I'm like, I'd have to do some more investigation on that.

That at all.

That's confusing.

People want to know if you will ever bring back your OF.

No, I'm not.

No.

No, I don't know.

Dude, I know I can't even post out workout videos.

I can't do anything.

I can't literally, and I guess it's my fault a little bit.

Maybe I'm not sure if I can do it.

It's my my fault.

It's actually your fault.

I came in, like, I don't even know, but I was almost disabled by comments.

A lot of people masquerade over your pictures.

What the fuck?

Okay, dude.

One thing.

Why am I getting that in my question box?

I don't know, but I don't know, but I almost disabled my comments on my last Instagram post.

I literally

your workout post?

I thought you looked hot.

My leg day.

Yeah.

You just posted it.

Yeah.

Dude, okay.

I'm like, yeah, he's hot.

No, no, no, no.

I'll be honest.

I think all you motherfuckers are looking for shit because

you'd have to really be looking for something in order to see stuff.

And for the fact that you're...

Yeah, you have to be like, like, you're not looking at like, oh,

you know.

No, they're just staring at your bulge.

What the fuck?

Dude.

I'm sorry.

And someone's like, oh, wear underwear.

I never not wear.

No, you would never be going to the gym without underwear.

That's not like you.

yo even around the house around kids

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But anyway,

I can't even post workout videos, bro.

Yeah.

No, I'll be honest honest with you.

I was going through stuff, and I'm like, this is like, I kind of feel like what it feels like to be a woman in a way.

Like, I swear to God.

Like, if a girl goes a sports bra and is working out, and they're like, yeah, look at her titties.

Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah.

She's doing that on purpose.

Whatever.

Whatever they're saying.

It's like, dude, like, you know what kind of bullshit?

You know, the feeling now of like, oh, literally, yeah.

I mean, I know it's probably not as bad.

I'm not trying to compare it, but you know what I'm talking about.

And you can relate to it.

You're dead to find the fuck out of me.

I'm literally posting my leg day

or even the videos of like your morning routine with the girls.

I thought it was so cute.

Thank you.

Yeah, bro.

What the

anyway?

Also, by the way, everybody's like, Where's Caitlin?

Is she sleeping?

Fuck yeah, I'm sleeping.

Yeah, she's sleeping.

What's the big deal?

That really blew my mind.

You know why?

Because I do the bath time.

Yep, I do the book time.

I do the tuck-in time.

So, yeah, I am fucking sleeping.

And I think it's smart.

We work morning, nighttime.

Yeah.

There's two routines.

One's gotta be done, one's gotta be done.

We do it.

Yeah, we just split it.

And also, one thing that I noticed, though, was that, like, dude, first off, off, all you women are telling on yourself because you're literally just saying out loud that you have a crappy partner.

A crappy partner who's not willing to pull their weight and do certain stuff.

The fact that you're shocked, the guy's cooking his kids' eggs or brushing his kid's hair or,

in fact, going to the lengths of saying, I'm fucking gay because I can brush and curl my kid's hair.

What the?

What is wrong?

Bro.

That's for, are we for real right now?

You might need to go see Jonathan soon.

I'm just kidding.

Dude, if you know, you know, people are ridiculous.

I do feel bad.

But no, I think that's messed up.

Like, of course, you're a

we, and it's like we are a partnership.

Like, we are best friends.

We are husband and wife.

We're, we have kids together.

So, we also are a partnership when it comes to the kids.

Like, and there's been times too where you'll say, I don't want to get up with them in the morning.

And I'm like, okay, I will.

And I've always told you, like, sometimes I'll compliment an attitude and I'm like, fuck.

But it's useless.

But I have told him, I'm like, but but if you don't want to and you're not, you can't sleep good or whatever, absolutely wake me up because we're a partnership.

Because I didn't get good sleep last night and I'm literally up insomnia.

Like, yes.

It's so, and I've divorced.

And even though, but there's so many times though where that happens to me and I still don't do it because it's like,

it's just sort of, I mean, I'm not going to do it every time.

Maybe you should.

But my sleeping pattern gets messed up sometimes.

Yeah.

There's some nights where I'm like, all right, I've been up every hour for four hours.

There's no way I'm going to be happy.

And I know for, yeah.

And I really think it's important that I want to get my kids up gentle.

Good morning.

I love you so much.

You want some eggs?

You absolutely should.

I agree.

You know, what do you want to do breakfast?

What do you want to watch while we, do you know what I'm saying?

I don't want to be like, all right, my God.

Cause that just

you ever see like kids crying in the morning or their mom,

it is sad.

And then it starts their whole day off like that.

And that's not their fault.

Yeah.

It's my fault.

I didn't sleep last night.

Oh, you remember that one little boy at preschool and I came home and started sobbing.

Yeah, that was sad.

I think about that little boy a lot.

Aw, baby.

I really do.

Yeah, this one time there was this, I went to drop off Veda at preschool, and there was this little boy in the parking lot.

And every morning, when I would drop her off, like, I would just, I would see him, and he was always just, he always just looked so tired.

He was dirty, like, his hair wasn't brushed and stuff.

And I'll never forget.

That really kills me.

Yeah, and I'll never forget the one time.

So I, I go there, I'm dropping him, like getting Beta and stuff out of the car.

And I hear the person that's dropping him off, like, come on, we gotta go, we gotta go.

And he wasn't wanting to go or whatever.

And then she just literally, like, blood curdled, like, screamed at this little boy to go.

They bring him into the building, she drops him off, and he starts crying.

And the teacher's like, oh no, what's wrong?

And I look at the teacher, and I'm like, well, if somebody were to scream at me like that in the morning, I'd be upset too.

Like, and so I told the teachers what happened.

Yeah, which is good.

I think you know smart, you don't know.

Yeah, he needs a little extra love today.

You know, I came home and I started telling Ty about it.

I just could not control it.

Like, just literally started sobbing.

Like, I just felt so bad for this little boy because now his whole day is like ruined because, and I'm sure, you know, his grandma or whoever was dropping him off, like, probably, you don't know what's going on in their days or their, you know, or what, I don't know.

Like, it, to me, it seemed like it looked what I've heard, it seems like the grandma raises all these kids, you know, like I don't think mom's involved in stuff, but I just remember feeling so bad for this little boy.

And honestly, he pops into my mind still to this day sometimes, where I'm just like, I just wanted to, like, take him and hug him.

Yeah, you know, like, I just felt close.

So, I agree with you.

Like, you can't start kids off and

do that.

And that's why when I, when I'm every hour in the hour, I usually give it until like four o'clock, four in the morning.

If I, if I've been, all right, I gotta give up.

Yeah, I know, I gotta go.

And then my alarm will go off, and I'll open it and I'll see a text from Ty.

I'm so sorry.

I'm like, it's fucking

whatever.

What are you gonna do?

You know, because I usually will set the alarm on your phone and accept the defeat that I have fought all night and it's four in the morning.

But to go back to like what you said about how females that were commenting on that stuff and asking where I was and stuff like that, like my opinion is, is that you

definitely need to have a better partner because, and/or you need to get a divorce because I'm not taking care of a man-child and somebody that I have kids with that can't help me with his kids.

Not, I'd rather do it by myself then.

That's what I mean.

You know what I mean?

Without the peanut gallery randomly.

I'm going to be single then.

Like, if you're not, if you were not helping at all or not, not you know or if we weren't connecting at all or doing anything together

what are we

i'm gone then i'm already doing it by myself why do i have you here like i couldn't imagine that feeling i don't not jealous of anybody that has to feel like that if anything i feel really bad for you i feel like you need to find somebody who is a partner in this relationship and also like a lover and friend like all of that combined because it's super important there's no way in hell i'd be like absolutely not and i honestly i have to say i don't care what the i don't care what your schedule is like.

I don't care what kind of job you have.

You're a dad and you have daughters.

You should be able to brush their hair and put their hair in a ponytail.

Or you should be able to, dude,

certain things, the comments I'm getting, the fact that society is so warped that they're going to go to the lengths to say that I'm gay

because I can curl my kids' hair is just really like, we have a lot of work to do.

Absolutely.

Because in my mind, in my mind, I see a dad who adores his kids.

And when their daughter's like, dad, I really want to feel pretty today.

You know how to do it?

Like, fuck you.

Yeah.

That's a fucking attractive to me.

No, well, I'm saying, and no one doesn't ask to curl her hair every day.

No.

But when she asks, you damn right.

Right.

I'm going to get the curling iron out and curl her hair that night.

Yes.

That is so cool.

They want two bows instead of one ponytail.

We're getting two fucking bows.

Right.

You know what I mean?

And you know what, too?

Is like they when they're older and stuff.

And even when you pass one day, they're going to remember that.

No, I don't.

How many girls have you gotten messages from saying, oh my God, it makes me think of my dad.

And he used to brush my hair every morning.

You know what I mean?

Like, and they do.

No, I know.

Like, I'm telling you right now.

I'm just emotional reading some shit.

And I've told you a lot.

And I've told you a lot.

Like, little girls and their dads, it's just different.

It's different.

I know.

It's different.

They're important.

I know.

We, as girls, remember so vividly of our dads and like how they make us feel and love.

And like, you know, even for me, like a lot of my good memories was with my dad.

And even though it was like stupid shit, random shit, but like, it's so important.

Like, they will remember all of that.

No, the message I was was getting from like oh my god this reminds me of my dad he used to brush my hair every day yeah i wish he was still here i missed him i'm like yeah i know

dude what and they're like oh my god this reminds me this i haven't thought about my dad in years because he passed or whatever and this just made me think of him thank you so much for posting this to me because it made me think of him it reminded me of him and i was like oh my god and see so it's like you get some stupid people who say dumb shit but then it's like the other people that say things or they are like oh my god or it makes them feel like oh my gosh i had the same or not that's what makes it.

It's like, you know, you have like two or three negative comments, and, but all the positive ones, I'm like, you know, fuck the haters.

Yeah.

Well, I just thought it was interesting how like you're literally gonna,

like, and my, I commented a couple of people, I responded to him, and I was like, listen, if this was Kate getting these girls ready, none of you would be asking where I am.

Not at all.

None of you would be asking, what's dad doing?

Where's dad?

Why isn't dad getting the girls up for school?

Why isn't dad, where's the dad?

You wouldn't be saying, none of that, dude.

None of it.

And then I actually had some pretty, like, I think, triggered women saying, yeah, well, my husband works, you know, different job hours.

And so, and, so he can't do that.

And I'm like,

you're young with the wrong guy.

Like, you know what I mean?

You're mad at me.

You're like, well, my husband doesn't have the hours you have or else he'd probably do that too.

And I'm like, in my head, that's why I said, I don't give a shit what your schedule is on the weekends.

If mom can't sleep in while you are the dad who worked Monday through Friday on Saturday morning, you can't curl their hair, brush their teeth, and get them breakfast.

There is something wrong.

I agree.

And you need to figure it out because you shouldn't have had kids.

I agree.

Because you're not what?

What's it for?

A big man child.

Yeah, big man, baby.

Like, no, thank you.

I'm like, you said, I'd rather be single.

You're added pressure.

I don't need all this.

You know what I'm saying?

Because if you're not helping the kids and shit like that, you know, she's probably has resentments up the ass.

She's probably not talking about yelling at me.

Right.

She's

defending your husband.

Like, hey, there's a lot of hours you have.

And I'm like, dude, okay, man.

You're yelling at the wrong.

Like, okay, who are you mad at?

But I do have to say, I feel like our generation, millennial generation, that I think it's a good thing, like, because, you know, you have, you do see dads being more involved and more hands-on.

And what they've even done studies about it where like

I think 33%

can change a diaper or there's some kind of they're just more hands-on and they're more involved and they you know I've noticed even when Nova has things at school or Veda and stuff I see a lot of dads there yeah we're back in in the day, it'd be like all moms, you know, so it's like we're doing something different.

And

the females that are just jealous and mad, you should probably find yourself a better partner.

Talk to your husband and say, hey, because I think a lot of it comes down to like, you're not speaking.

Like, hey, I'm feeling really, I'm feeling burnt out.

I feel like I do everything.

I feel like you're not doing enough or whatever the case is.

Just tell him that.

And if he still doesn't.

I was going to say, depending on his reaction.

I mean, yeah.

Or his comments, then either divorce papers or say, I'm fucking out of here.

I'm already doing it by myself.

i might as well just do it by myself i don't know and i also feel like you're doing a disservice to your kids because you're showing them especially if you're raising girls i think it's really important you're raising girls and raising boys too because then they're going to expect to find a girl anyway a girl like that you know just for kids just for kids it's so important to watch the balance they they will watch the balance of mom and dad and they will get that well-rounded full picture kind of like inspiration about how they're going to be.

So if you're, if the child only sees a dad working Monday through Friday, coming home, eating, going to sleep, yeah, they're going to, that's what they do.

They're going to, that means the sons are going to be like, I'm going to find a guy like that, right?

That's okay, and then deal with the resentments and think, oh, I deserve that he has resentments.

I deserve to be feeling like I'm left alone because my mom did it and every other woman did it before me.

And then the boys are going to think, oh my God, I don't have to do shit.

This is what a dad does.

Literally, you are teaching your kids.

Stop.

So you need to figure it out.

All you people who are triggered in the comments, bro.

That's why I love these.

I've been seeing, I've seen a few

reels and stuff of videos that said, My kids are going to remember they always were just, they were always asking us to quit flirting with one another.

They're not going to ever remember the fighting.

And I'm like, so, so awesome.

And your kids look at you, and that's how they figure out how a relationship is and how it's supposed to work.

Every time we love each other or something, that you see our kids pop out, aww, and then they call it.

You little love birds or like nobody's always like, you little cuties.

Just tell us little cuties.

And when they, when they were younger, they've always ran into the circle.

Like, they want to join in on the love.

Because they sense it.

I think they can sense their more, their wisdom is kind of like more spiritually.

Even Ryoton stays.

She'll like peek over, like,

and then she'll come and, you know,

then she's like, all right, I want to be in the middle of this love fest.

And we just let her.

So, yeah, I think it's important.

It's important.

Your kids look at you about how relationships work, how they pick partners, all of that.

And I think I'm blessed that our girls have you to look up to.

I'm blessed that they have you.

Thanks.

Because, you know, I mean, damn, I just, I think it's going to set them up for, I never saw a balance in my house.

It was my mom by herself and everything.

Yeah.

So, and I think when you say my mom was a single mom, yeah.

And then when she, even when she was with a guy, it was like another man child.

Yeah, uh-huh.

You know what I mean?

Did you ever see him back in?

Do you ever see him?

You know what I mean?

Like, I mean, I just feel like there's certain things.

Some of them want to do things.

Well, you know what I mean, though.

But I feel like the guys that, you know, your mom was with probably wasn't.

They weren't top tier, that's for sure.

My poor mom.

Yeah.

But like I said, I think it's one of those things where that's impactful generationally.

Like, because your mom probably accepted the kind of accepted the lower class dudes because she saw whatever she saw growing up.

You know what I mean?

So you just kind of accept certain things that you assume or think is normal or okay, or, oh, well, everyone else did it.

And that's a big, I have a big problem of people going, oh, well, I did it.

My mom did it.

Well, I went through that and I was fine.

It's like

your whole idea of shared suffering is weird.

Like, it's gross.

I hate it so much.

And it's almost, it's like our parents' generations.

It is.

Oh, well, I had to pay all my student loans back.

So you should,

bro.

So, what you're saying, and it was such a struggle for you because you're clearly mad about it.

Right.

You're like, oh, mad that you had to pay it and this kid doesn't.

I think it's really weird that you don't want the next generation to have it easier than you did.

Yeah, to not struggle.

I'll never.

That's the whole point, bro.

Echo, shut up.

I'll never understand it.

That's the whole point.

The next generation should have it easier

than you had.

Absolutely.

I agree.

What are we doing here with evolution?

What's going on?

Switzerland, here we come.

Voltaire is coming, knocking.

I just think it's weird.

It doesn't make any sense.

Everyone's idea of like, or even like, for the instance, like for the

comments about me not having a normal nine-to-five job.

And I'm able to have this luxury of brushing my kids' hair.

It's like, so you believe, like, you know, your idea of shared suffering is where you're like, oh, you're only worthy of my respect if you suffer the same amount that I had to suffer.

And what do we mean even saying?

We always say, like, we are beyond blessed.

Like, we will never, you never get these years back with your children.

I don't know.

Our children have never had to be in daycare, they have never had to be washed by other people while we work every day.

And we are, we have always said that, like, we are fucking blessed because you will never, ever get these younger years with your kids.

And believe me, we know how blessed we are.

Yes, we don't take that shit for granted.

Like, come on now.

Anybody who really knows me and Ty know that we're super fucking humble.

Oh, my God.

And, like, that means

just all the time.

I'm like,

speaking out loud, because we will never get that back.

These years,

your kids are, I think there's a study that was like, oh, you're going to spend

75% of your time with your children is done by the age of like 13.

Yeah, it's sad.

So after 13, they're hanging out with friends.

20% of the rest of your life is going to be after their children.

We have the small window when they're kids that you'll never be able to get back.

And so I don't regret shit.

I don't regret nothing.

I don't.

And people are like, oh, well, you know, what'd you do?

You just were with them every single day.

Yeah, I was.

Yeah, I was.

Unless we had

to for work or whatever.

whatever.

Yeah, then yeah.

Obviously, I mean, there's times we had to go out for work for long trips or whatever, but I'm saying, like, in the grand scheme of things, like, no, I'm not, I'm, I am very grateful and I feel very blessed that I was able to spend every morning with my children, every night with my kids.

I never had to sacrifice shit.

Right.

And so when they move out and get, you know, I mean, whenever, when, when it's all done and over with, I'm not going to have any regrets.

No, I'm blessed for it.

I don't care.

So, I mean, it is what it is.

But no, I just love you.

I love you.

So, anyways, I just want to say a huge thank you to everybody for your love and continued support.

It's been, we're really having fun here.

I hope you're having fun.

Right?

Yes, I'm having fun.

Yeah, I hope so.

I hope people are.

I remember the first time, we're like, I don't know if they're going to want to, like, yeah.

And all of a sudden, the episode, so we're like, oh, we're interview people, you know, and they're like, where are you guys?

I know.

I'm like, I are.

Calm down.

I thought

16 years on TV, I thought you were right.

And don't you have enough of just us?

Like, shit.

I guess not.

I guess not.

So here we are.

So, yeah.

So, just, you know, thank you again for your continued love and support.

And we'll catch you next week.

Catch you next time.

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