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What's good? Good evening. And welcome to another episode of Humble Betty.
Hey, y'all. What's up? What's up, what's up? I'm your girl, Alexis Stoudemire.
I'm Sharere Rizzotto. And I'm Ashley Nicole.
And we are the Humble Baddies. What y'all been up to? I haven't seen y'all in a while.
What's everybody been up to this past weekend,

the last few days?

Ashley and I had us a good time last night.

I mean, not yesterday.

Yeah. We did the open house.

Ashley has a nice house that's on the market right now.

And then it was raining.

We was like, girl, let's go get us something to eat and drink.

We got stuck at the burnt spot.

We got stranded.

We got stranded at the... Uh-oh.
I don't know. Yeah, we're stranded, you said.
Yes. Yeah, I got stranded because it started raining and they wouldn't give us our cars.
So I said, let's go back to the war. Anyhow, but another drink or two.
We were drinking away. I mean, that doesn't sound like a bad being stranded type of situation.
You know, might as well cheers it back up. We needed that time to catch up because your ass been on the move, my love.
Okay. We're up and moving.
You know, what's new? What's new, Relly Rel? What you got going on? I mean, I was on tour.

We know.

We know.

Build a T.

I mean, I was handling business, you know.

Okay.

Just business, no pleasure?

Just business, no pleasure.

Okay.

She's a lady of her business.

But you got to be able to, you know, balance both business and pleasure, whether it's a good night out.

What is pleasure?

Pleasure is having company, you know, or being company, being in company, being in the presence of other people who are not there for the

shape of

business.

The pleasuries

of love and happiness

and joy and time.

Unfortunately,

if I did have any pleasure,

y'all would not know.

If that was pleasure, y'all know y'all would be the first one. But it wasn't no pleasure.
It was great business. Okay.
All right. All right.
As long as you have a good time, you know, and enjoy it. I'm not mad at it.
What you got going on, sexy Lexi? I had an empty house, so I left. I had friends that were like you know what come through let's hang out and I did and it was the best weekend I've had in a long time of just pleasure and not really it's no business because I am out of school.
No kids. No kids.
None of. Yeah, because they were coming off for spring break.

I do.

And I feel like I'm going to start saying yes more

when people are like, yo, come through,

come hang out.

Let's celebrate life

because that's what it's about.

And, you know, I'm being really conscious

of who I'm taking the time with

and spending that time with.

You know what I mean?

So it's really, it was really refreshing

just to relax, have a good time, go to brunch, eat, chill out, all that kind of stuff. Feels good.
Well, I just added 10 more mouths to feed to my household. 10? Yeah, I got 10 babies.
Oh, no. What kind of babies you got over there? $50 for no more.
Exactly. Oh, my goodness.
Officially a chicken lady. I got me 10 baby chicks.
Yes. I'm so happy.
I feel like a new mom. I think I might be a little jealous, actually.
Are you? Don't be jealous. I might need to come over.
Yeah. I'm going to have to come over and see.
I've always wanted to sit here. She needs a sitter in a couple of weeks.
Oh, no. It's time to help take care of my chickens because Sherelle is trying to steal me away.
Oh, yeah. I want to come through and pet my chickens because I want my chickens

to be happy, loving chickens

like, you know,

like this is a fair exchange.

You're a part of the family.

You know what I mean?

I'm not just going to be

taking the eggs.

They are, you know what I mean?

My family.

Are they for eggs?

Yes, they're for eggs.

So I got 10 baby chicks.

They're all like two,

around two weeks old. So they won't lay eggs till like August.
Oh, wow. That fast.
That's fast? Bitch, I want eggs tomorrow. Well, I'm saying if they're babies now and then in August, they can have babies.
It took a long time to be feeding him out and they not giving me no eggs back. But, you know, it is what it is grow and develop or whatever you have one rooster no I didn't get any roosters well actually I don't know if any of them will turn out to be roosters but you don't need a rooster you don't need a rooster oh so okay so I'm learning I didn't know the chickens just actually they just have eggs without yeah so the hens will lay they just won't be fertilized you only need a rooster if you want to have fertilized? Yeah, so the hens will lay.

They just won't be fertilized.

You only need a rooster if you want to have fertilized eggs.

Oh, okay.

Yeah.

Are they loud right now?

Like they chirp and make noise?

Yeah, they chirp.

But it's real cute right now.

It's going to get louder later.

You should have brought.

Tell them to bring one so we can see it.

They not here. They not here.
When they get here, they will. Girl, my kids love the chickens.
I was just about to ask. They are so happy.
It's like Black Boy Joy over here. It is so beautiful.
To see them excited about something that's not an iPad and not a video game, not a Roblox. So like to see them outside enjoying like nature and enjoying something that is a passion of mine.
Just, I'm about to. Serenity and I are going to come over tomorrow so she can play with us.
Oh my God, I'm telling everybody. I'm going to start charging people though.
$10 a pet. Y'all want to pet my babies.
$10, $10. Oops.
Start me a little pet. Speaking of babies.
I love that. In pregnancy.
Let's talk about our girl, Coyne Leray. She has been in the block.
You know, responding to a fan. Her birthday is coming up.
She's going to be 28 years old. She looks amazing.
She looks great.

She asked for advice on it.

She asked her fans to give her advice stepping into this new chapter.

And one of the fans clapped back,

came and said,

basically something about you.

You should have a better choice

of choosing your child's father.

But her... You should have a better choice of choosing your child's father.
So she was asking, you know, she was asking for advice and that was what they said back to her. That was their advice.
Yeah, no, that's messed up because how come how come it's always the lady who is like, it's her fault. Like it's her fault that you know she chose wrong or the situation didn't work out.
I think that's a very judgmental way to go about it. The comment was don't get pregnant by dudes that don't really care about you.
Guess that should have been last year's advice too. Next time, next time.
I already know that. I feel like we know, but you know, we'd be falling in love or we just having fun or whatever the case may be, but it's both, it goes both ways.
And it doesn't matter. Like once you realize like you have sex and there's a baby coming, it doesn't matter on both parts.

Everybody has to step up to the occasion. So we can't like blame the lady on what the man is and ain't and what he's capable or ready or not ready to do.

Right.

I feel like us as women, we give everyone like that's just people in general.

You give everyone a clean slate, a fair chance because every experience is different, right? So her going into this, she's a woman where emotional creatures, she's thinking like, you know, a man goes, you know, they don't show their true colors all at once. Like they're going to whine and die when you first meet.
So she's thinking like, okay, you know, I love him.

We're about to have a baby,

but things, you know,

the truth really comes out

in her situation.

But I feel like

we all go through those things

or we all have experienced that.

So for that fan to try to judge her

based off of, you know,

because she's-

I feel like we all be knowing better though.

I feel like we really all,

like growing up, you know,

we all know better.

Like, don't mess with that boy.

I don't mess with that boy don't mess with him don't talk to him this is the kind of man you should be with blah blah blah blah but until you're like in that situation yes that goes out the window like you can't be judging people because like we all do things that we know better should do better exactly don't Don't touch the pot. It's hot.
But you're going to go there and put your finger there and be like, let me touch it out myself. Let me see how hot it is.
Exactly. Exactly.
I've learned that when you tell somebody not to do something, that's when they're going to do it. Exactly.
And you don't want to, like, who goes into a situation and be like, yeah, you know, I'm going get pregnant and I know he gonna leave. Like who's who's even thinking like that? And, you know, shame on the fans for really going down on her right now.
This is a sensitive time of her body, her mind, her soul. Everything is new.
This is her first pregnancy. So it's just like the audacity is at an all time high.
No one is choosing not to be with their partner that they're conceiving with.

Do things happen?

Absolutely.

So I hope she focuses on this last leg of her journey, her last trimester, and really focuses on her health and really her labor.

Because that's really about to happen.

That's a whole new life is about to change for her.

And this is the last thing she should be dealing with is people having their opinion on who you chose as the father of this this child. Again, no one chooses to not have that person in their life.
You know what I mean? Until it happens. And then you got to figure that out.
So it is what it is. You know, it's tough that she probably thought that, you know, she was going to be with someone and they were going to bring a child in this world together.
But things happen. And I loved her response.
She did not clap back. She said, if I knew better, I'd do better.
But we learned to become better. So she was gracious in her response.
And it's showing that, you know, I'm going into a new year. And I don't have to clap back.
I'm giving y'all grace because I have a good thing to worry about.

Especially like you need to keep your mental together.

Like when you're pregnant,

we ain't got time to be going on internet

fighting with people.

You are like going through it hormonally.

Like that baby,

they feel everything.

Like I feel like whatever,

if you're stressed out,

your baby can sense that.

So, you know, good for her for not feeding into the BS. Why do women always get that blame, though, of like they chose the wrong partner? Because we're that way.
I feel like we're always taught like a lady should be like this, do like this. Don't talk to the bad boys.
You know, like we're kind of raised that way, whereas boys are raised to like, oh, you lost your virginity? Great. It's a whole different ground.
Yeah, it's different for how men and women are raised and how they're brought up and what's acceptable. Or when they make choices, how they're perceived.

Exactly, exactly.

So, I mean, it's unfortunate

that it's like that, but

it's always

been like that, I feel like, since the beginning of time.

Like that stigma.

All that.

It's just been that way.

Yeah, that's a good point, Ash.

You're right. We're taught to really be humble about it, keep your virginity, just really hold on to it as much as possible where the men or boys are like, you know what? Don't do you.
Sow your oats or your wild oats or whatever the term is and just go out there and be reckless with it. But at the same time, you forget that when you're being reckless with it, now you're bringing life into it.
You know, so it should be both. That's what I teach my children.
You know, like, you know, it's not, we're not bringing any babies up in this house. You know what I mean? And it goes both ways.
It's the boys and the girls. They both have to be taught to respect their bodies, things like that.
So, yeah. That goes back to it.
We was all taught. I mean, I was taught and look what happened.
Don't touch the hot pot. Don't touch that pot.
Don't touch it. He was over there like...
Thank you. How do y'all feel about the clapback response? Well, she was very about it but do you feel like you know i know we've all been in comments and clap back and our emotions get involved what do you guys what do y'all think about that like i'll be going in on in these comments sometimes how do y'all feel because we're on the other side of that too.
You know what I mean? Like we should explain, like what are y'all thoughts on people having their opinion on what we have to say or what we believe or our experience? What do y'all think about that? Just in general. I mean, I feel like if they can type it out, they can get a clap back with it.
So I'm going to give my response when I have the time.

That's right.

Sometimes like I'm done working and I'm bored

and some just say, go on social media

and you read some of this stuff.

Let me get you together right now.

But there's other times where I'm just too busy

and I'm like, these people have no life.

Yeah.

This is what they do for a living.

Just sit here and just try to get to you.

But I have to learn that it's not worth,

you know, stooping down to that energy

Thank you. they do for a living just sit here and just try to get to you but i have to learn that it's not worth you know stooping down to that energy to to respond that's right yeah now i you know for the most part i think i do pretty good at ignoring the trolls you know i'm saying but and from then you know i'd be having to step in there and you know most of the time I want to like not explain myself but I want to have a conversation because what you just said was dumb as hell and I can't just leave it there you know I can't like I'm not going after people who are saying dumb stuff or calling me names like I not, but if it's really about something and there's a,

you got me completely misunderstood and it's about something

that's not worth explaining

or talking about,

then I don't mind going in.

And I feel like,

you know,

some people you do have to

use a curse word too sometimes

because they be acting like fools

and they understand.

But, you know,

I think I do really good

at not doing that, not like going in there because people are crazy these days. And like at one of my open houses, I had a like stalker come.
Like people really are crazy. So I just don't want to make the crazier people crazier and like try to come find me.
You know what I'm saying? Like I'm a little scared of them. So for the most part you know I think we should just ignore those people and keep them moving like Koi did.
Yeah I never experienced it until we had that open house and that lady. Yeah.
She was coming looking for me. This lady came to my open house.
She backed up, like, waiting for me to come out, asking everybody coming out, are you Ashley? Are you Ashley? So it's the end. We're leaving.
It's just me and Sherelle and two of my other friends there. she's like are you ashley i'm thinking it's like an agent girl it's a stalker she's like hey um my name is so and so and i heard you got a problem with me and i'm like oh my god who are you what's your name like i don't know because i'm like oh wait wait what happening? And she's like, yeah, like I heard you got a problem with me.
You're, you're a realtor, right? I know who you are. You trying to be like me, you copy everything.
I like just crazy, just talking crazy. She said, I wanted her to die.
And she, I said, how, what are you talking about? Like, you're clearly confused. She like scrolled to some pictures as she showed me on my Instagram.
And it had humble baddies, but our face, I mean, our bodies covered the...

It was a humble baddies picture, but our face covered all the other letters except for the D-I-E in baddie. And she said that that picture was me saying I wanted her to die.
So... Yeah.
Listen, our guys were in the car. You cannot do that.
You can't roll up on nobody like that. And I told her, I said, we had to calm her down.
Because she was really like upset and like, I don't know what she was going to do. Like, it was a moment.
You know what I mean? And so people really are crazy out here. So we have to be careful.
You know, like we are being very transparent. We're on social media, you know, doing our podcast.
We're on TV, you know, and we like to engage with people. But some people, when there's hundreds, I never witnessed that type of...
That was a very scary moment. Yeah, that is scary.
Because what if I was by myself? Well, it's also comfortable to your business too. Like at the end of the day, you are working, you are navigating your space and someone coming in there and want to put this energy out there is really disrespectful.
So yeah, I say all that to say, keep it cute with these people because people don't have it all. They internalize it.
Yeah. I think that's why I like, I choose not to really internalize the comments.
I know people are definitely going to have an opinion and we do. Everyone does.
But I, there's lines that get crossed when you start talking about children, family members. And then I get a little defensive like when I start reading comments about my people too.
You know, I start to like internalize it, you know? Don't talk about my kids. Yeah, like I start, yeah, I don't like that.
You know, I feel like I have to like, the lioness in me has to come out. I I feel like I try not to just go into social media like knowing that people are going to comment because they are so I try not to just put that in my in my spirit just because you can't please everybody you know I have learned that over time I try to make sure that I engage more with the people who are showing love you know like I'm trying to like comment back respond people ask the positivity yeah exactly the positivity and then let everything else go yeah because it's instant it's an instant comment instant gratification very much instant you know we gotta go home we gotta raise kids we We got to work.
We got to do all these other things. So I get that.
I get that. Yeah.
So sometimes it's just, it's better. Shout out to our girl, Koi, because she responded very well.
And you just, I know it's- Very mature. Very mature.
It's tempting at times where you just want to clap back because before people just feel they know your whole life story. It's like they're living your life and they be dead ass loud and wrong.
But it's like loud and wrong. It's like you can't entertain that.
Just, you know, move gracefully. Let's move like Koi.
From now on, and I'm going to take my advice, let's move like Koi.

We're going to see. Let's see.
I see it when I believe it. I mean, I believe it when I see it.
That part. Question before we move on to our next topic.
This is a good one. What good advice would you have told your 21-year-old self? Well, 21.
If we're talking about babies and men and stuff, my advice would be to any young lady, don't have sex with a man you wouldn't be prepared to have a baby with. First, not foremost.
That's a good one. Yeah.
I like that. I like that.
At the end of the day, sex is for making babies. Period.
It ain't for pleasure too. I was like, wait a minute.
What if you're done making babies? What if you're done with reproduction and you just want to get that good feeling? Oh, but I'm just saying that good feeling. But I'm just saying you just, in your mind, you're engaging in an act where it's a possibility that a child can be conceived.
So just always keep that in mind. And I feel like that's smart.
That keeps you from having sex with fuckboys. Like that keeps you from giving your body away to people who are hurting.
Away, those soul ties. Mm-hmm.
You know what I I'm so tired. Yeah, he's real.
Yeah. Yeah, just take a second and be like, does he deserve my body? Does he deserve...
Can I have a child? If I were to get pregnant today, would he be the kind of guy that I want to have a relationship with for the next 18 years? Yes. And really further than 18.
Let's be 100. Right.
But I mean, for sure the next 18 years. So it's like I think if you think about who you're having sex with in that way, it might save you a few times.
It's interesting you said 21. I was actually pregnant with Array at 21.
And so it was like bittersweet. So what I would tell my 21-year-old self is just you wait.
Because it actually worked out for me, obviously, because she was the first of four. And so it's like that story happened and I wouldn't change anything about it.
But it was also a different situation. We had financial assistance.
We had help. You know what I mean? We could have, it was a different way of life.
But at the same time, I tell my kids this now because my oldest, Araya, will be 20. I'm like, look, you can't afford a child.
You can't afford it. It just is what it is.
You know a different situation. And you're selfish.
You like to go shopping. You like to go do your thing.
Have fun and be a 21-year-old self. I couldn't even go drink at 21, turning 21.
I was like, oh, let's go celebrate. You're now 21 because I was pregnant.
Which I don't, again, don't regret anything. My path is my path.
But like just at 21 is such that precious age of you just don't know shit. You know, you're really figuring things out.
So have those adventures. Have those adventures, you know.
That's what I would say. What about you, Rob? What would you tell your 21-year-old self? I would tell my 21-year-old self to, you know, slow down and live life.
Slow down, but still live life. You know, I was married at 21, so it was different for me.
I felt like I had to do everything so fast that I didn't get to enjoy, you know, my younger adulthoods because I was an early mom. And I would, that's the main advice I would say.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I like that.

21, we feel like we grown though.

We do.

Oh, I can buy alcohol.

I can drink.

I can do this.

Even though we was drinking earlier than 21.

Definitely think you're grown. I'm grown.
I can gamble. I can do this.
I was a homeowner at 21. It's like I'm in the military.
You can't do nothing. I got a military ID card.
Yeah, I feel like I grew up fast too in my 20s, just being a mother and traveling and having homes and just really access and privilege. So young, too.
It's just, it was a lot. It's a whirlwind, you know.
And I was far away. I didn't have any family.
I was in a whole. Oh, that's a lot.
North Carolina, all my family in Alabama. So it was just like me, you know, my childhood.
Yeah. And then, yeah, I'm a full grown adult.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah.
Okay. way that is yes let's get into it y'all we got our little star Ari's son how do you say his name Yoshan Yoshan is it Yoshan or Yoshan Yoshan I think Yoshan Ari don't kill him Yoshan's name Your son snaps your Sean? Your son, I think.
Your son. Ari, don't kill him.
I don't know, guys. Your son's name.
Your son snaps after fans crash his mommy slash son carnival date with Ari Fletcher. These kids be tired of these people coming into their lives.
I don't know if y'all paid attention, but he has a big personality. Like, he speaks, he says whatever he wants to say.
He just expresses himself very well. But apparently, he don't play about his mama and his time.
So what happened was, the two stepped out for a fun night at the carnival. But what was supposed to be a chill mommy Sunday quickly turned into a full-on public reaction, whatever.
They shed a clip on her IG story showing the two walking through the fair, but things took a turn when a growing crowd of fans started trailing them. The energy was loud, the fact that it was real, and extra screams.
Your son screamed out, I can't do this. Oh, videos, Ari played it.
He said, I can't do this. Like, y'all got to let these children be children.
These kids alone. But you know what? I say Ari probably needs to pull back from showing so much of his personality on social media.
That's what I was going to say. Because at the end of the day, these kids are still kids.
I agree. And people become fans.
They even become fans of the kids. Well, I was going to say, she just needs to not post where she is.
That's true. Not posting her son.
I mean, that's a personal choice too. But I feel like if she never posted where she's at and she's at a very public place, like the fair is like, or the carnival is, you know, it's a out in the open type environment.
It's almost like she was looking for the attention. Like, I don't know, but I'm just saying, like you post in your celebrity, you post where you are, you know, there's a million people there around.
It's kind of like, well, what did you expect? You know what I'm saying? But I think that comes with like, you know, this day and age, like celebrities, they have to stay relevant. So they're always posting or whatever.
And I get that. But I think, you know, if you have your kids around, you should like respect their, you know, their energy, their space.
And, you know, they don't want to be the celebrity. They're not the celebrity.
So, you know, I think maybe next time don't do that because you know that he doesn't like that.

He wants his mommy time.

You know what I mean?

Yeah.

It can be very much traumatizing

and going back to what we were talking about

a little bit earlier too

with people just pulling up on you.

You know,

if you're posting where you are in real time,

like,

hey guys,

I'm at the fair.

You know,

and then obviously people are pulling up

or they're going to be at the same location. They're going to notice that you're there and look for you and you know you're really putting it in it's like it becomes mentally taxing too on everyone that's around you especially these children he obviously is reacting and it was it's triggering for him so you know as a mom and i'm sure she was very much like a little taken aback by it because if he's emotional about it, that means he's screaming out for like, I need some help.
Like, this is this is too much. And I would try to, you know, choose some places that are a lot more like, you know, exclusive and really not so much like out there and open.
Obviously, you want to take your children to the carnival, but it's hat it's it's friends it's security it's it's a way you move and you know you know seeing Ari you know and I don't want to blame her for anything but she's very much a public figure and people see her and so I would tone it down I would be in an opposite of what I usually wear so people don't really know it's me you know I would try to like really suppress that and really try to do that because we've had to do that before. It's a way that you have to teach your kids how to maneuver.
Living in New York, you go down the street, I have to wear a hat and lip gloss just because there's paparazzi on the corner looking just for something. And it's just a way that you have to teach our children because they didn't ask to be put in these situations or you know a public persona but there's ways that you have to still teach these children how to you know understand like these are people people will come up to you and I would have had to remove them from the situation just to protect my child that's that's a tough one, you just have to be mindful.
Very mindful.

Even if she didn't post it, she's

like a high-profile individual, and

still he has a big personality,

so when people see you in public, they're

going to want their fan shop. They're going to

want to come up to you, but they're not thinking

like, at the end of the day, this is still

a little child. Respect that.

It happens with Serenity. We'll be in the airport

and they'll be like, French fry,

French fry, French fry, French fry, and I'm like,

just, you know,

I think it's too much until they're ready to make the decision of they want to be on social media like that, then out loud. But it's just let them be kids.
Let the kids be kids. I know another child.
What's her name? Kim's daughter. North.
North. North.
North be going in on her fans. Y'all remember when she was shooting birds at the people and writing some writing statements? Yeah.
These kids want to be kids. Let these kids be kids.
These kids want to be kids.

Let these kids be kids.

They do want to be kids.

But it's like, unfortunately,

I mean, I think people have to understand too,

like this is their,

these are people's jobs.

This is how they, you know, make an income.

And there's, they're also parents.

There's also, they're wearing many hats, you know? So like, there's a time and a place

where you just don't want to be a celebrity sometimes. You just want to take your child to the carnival.
You just want to go to the grocery store, things like that. I feel like people have to also respect when they see people like fans and celebrity, or I'm sorry, when you see a celebrity or whatever out and they're with their people, like a family or on a date or things like that.
Respectfully give them their space. I know it's like it's shocking.
You're like, oh, I didn't expect to see X, Y, and Z. But it has to be a mutual respect of like, they're doing regular stuff.
They are not working right now. They're not the Wolverine from X-Men.
They are not, you know, the basketball player that's dribbling down the court right now. They are having their father right now.
They are getting groceries because they got to cook food tonight. It has to be some kind of social awareness

of when you see celebrities.

People don't care.

People are like,

this is a once in a lifetime.

Yes.

And like, let me go ahead.

They're not thinking about family awareness.

They're not.

No.

No, they're not.

All they're thinking about

is if I see Beyonce,

exactly.

I'm sure everybody's not going to let you get that close. He's going to be like, back up.
I'm going to be right up in her face. What are we eating tonight? At the end of the day, I don't blame it on the fans.
I blame it on, it's our responsibility as parents to make sure, you know, our kids are comfortable. You know, because we are public figures.
So. I think as parents, we just need to be more self-aware of when we're going in these big crowds how to protect our kids and let them be kids and enjoy themselves.
Maybe if we're going to go out in a busy time frame, if I'm going to a carnival with my kids, I like to go when it's because I want to ride rides. I ain't got time to be paying these lines.
I ain't got time to be paying these extra fees to skip the line and you only can skip certain ones. I'm going to go when it's low-key quiet and the kids can have a good time.
So, just be cautious and think about the child. That's right.
Yeah, well, clearly he's upset. I would be able to.
People ruin it. Your son got a big personality.
I need him on my... That too.
He gonna tell you like it is. Yeah, it's tough.
You gotta be mindful of like, you know, that guy has a good big personality because he's speaking up for himself and he's being very vocal about it. You know, some kids, they just like shut down.
Yeah. So that's, that's good.
That he has awareness, right? Aware of his boundaries at such a, such an age like that, for sure. I've been real mindful about like sharing my location too.
You know, I don't post until I leave just for those reasons.

And it's tough because when you want to really have a good time and be in the moment.

So that's why I've been trying to be more conscious of that.

I just really enjoying the moment and really just enjoying where I'm at, who I'm with,

and not really just posting so much anymore about that.

I just want to keep those memories intact now. Very protective over it.
Yeah, that's smart. Posting later is always the best way to go.
Yeah, for sure. My question to you guys is, at what point does fame stop being fun? Like, do you think celebrities ever wish they can go back to being just regular people at times? Yeah.
I mean, I'm sure it gets old not being able to just do like regular normal everyday stuff, not being able to just go to the grocery store and get your own food, you know, just not being able to be outside. Like I can't imagine, you know, without people like being in your face.
But I think it comes with the territory, you know. So I think it's just one of those things that they probably just have to like suck up to the job or chalk up to the job, you know.
Yeah, I believe it's a lot in balance, too. You know, what are the other hobbies? What other places can you go and do things where you can really be yourself and not have to deal with people? I feel like that's when you have to start getting more private and maneuver a little bit differently.
Just like private rooms or just those kind of things. It's definitely, I don't think there's a regret because obviously if this is your job, you know, and this is your craft or your art, and obviously you're a public figure because of that celebrity, you can't help it.
You know what I mean? You cannot not do your passion. You cannot not follow your dreams just because it becomes too much.
And people do. They retire.
They stop. They pivot.
They go and do something else, which is all great. But I feel like, you know, you just have to learn how to maneuver a little differently.
You know, whether it's security, whether it's privacy of different ways of travel, just those things where you can still center yourself and your being to where you want to still do your job. But then also you can still be yourself on the other side of it.

I really like it when I see like,

there's certain celebrities,

like, I don't know.

I can't think of them right now.

But like who, you see them outside.

Like they're not afraid to like go out and like, you know,

they don't necessarily have

a whole bunch of security with them,

but you might see them out at the grocery store.

You might see them out with their friends for dinner.

Like, I like that because it's like,

Thank you. don't necessarily have a whole bunch of security with them, but you might see them out at the grocery store.
You might see them out with their friends for dinner. Like, I like that because it's like, I feel like when you try to like, if you're a celebrity, you try to just be mysterious, you know, like nobody knows where you are, like what you do.
If you're not like a human being, you're not out to eat with your family, you know, like regular, normal, everyday stuff. Like it humanizes you to like, for us to see you out, you know, being a regular person.
And I think that kind of too, I mean, if they don't get, you know, bogged down with fans, but I feel like just seeing people out more often, being doing normal things could probably help, you know? But yeah, I mean, it come with a job, so you can't complain. That's true.
I get that, I get that. What do y'all think about even just kids in general growing up in the public eye like that? Because he didn't ask to be here to deal with it, but he has to by default.
What are you guys' thoughts on that with children? And, you know, do they have to have the same thought process? Do they have to have the same caution? You know, he didn't ask to, he didn't ask for celebrity. I feel like with the kids, you can just read them and tell.
Like, with my kids, you know, one likes to be in the public eye,

the other one don't.

Very low key.

So don't pressure it.

Don't force it up on them.

You can't help that you are in the public eye,

but I mean,

you just talk with your kids

and you ask them

and respect their wishes.

Even though they're,

you know, they're young,

they do have views,

point of views at their early age and they'll let you know how they feel yeah i don't mind to tell me in a minute delete delete delete but sometimes they can affect their mental like you forcing it up on them so many kids like these disney kids who were who were great stars and, you know, they pushed them. And now Orlando Brown.
Yeah. Like a lot of them are just went a whole different route.
What we expected as a child, how they were as, you know, young, young children. So it's just you just have to be careful because you don't know what the world, what society can do to cause their mental space to go a different route.

And like now they just.

Yeah.

So I agree.

Be careful.

I agree.

It's a lot. Yeah, it's a lot.

Let's talk about Erica.

I know, right?

Let's talk about our girl, Erica Badu.

Let's switch it up a little bit.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Let's change the energy.

My girl, Erica Badu.

Did she hear about Erica Badu?

I saw a picture with her and she had a big ass. Erykah Badu.
Let's stick your hair back. Erykah Badu.
I only don't.

I saw a picture. I saw a picture with her

and she had a big ass.

Was that her ass

or was that

that was BBL Shady?

I don't know if it was cosplay.

It was Shady?

You think it was Shady?

Because we saw that

and we saw that outfit.

You said what?

I said, was it a bold statement or you think she was just having fun? I mean, I think it's past the pettiness. I mean, that's the Pisces.
What was the statement she was trying to make? They said she was shading the BBL trend. Because it was enormous.
You know, I don't fault anything when you do with your body. But some people just get outrageous.
Bad BBLs. Bad, bad BBLs.
Y'all gonna see them. Yes.
I see them all the time. Especially like that.
I was gonna say, we live in Miami, guys. The booty don't match.
The BBL, these BBL kill me, y'all. What's how that sounds good? Booty looking like an aunt booty.
It's out of control. It's crazy.
No, it really is crazy. But I mean know erica badu comes from you know a different generation you know she comes from the natural body meal soul yeah so of course like that's not her thing of course like she's like that's what y'all like you know let me let me make fun of it or whatever.
Because that's not her style. That's not her essence.
You know what I mean? I think you better call Dr. Miami.
She's on that call time. No, she's telling them to call Dr.
Miami and fix that thing, baby. I've been hearing a lot.
But, you know, I've been hearing a lot of like negative stuff about BBLs. Like, I feel like they're still very popular.
But now I feel like there's a trend of people who are like. They don't want them.
They don't like them anymore. They're starting to take them out.
I feel like social media kind of impacted that. And really low key, let's take it all the way to like the Kardashians, especially Kim.
You know. That curvy look, that very much enhanced look.
And we've been tugging some curves and some heavy weight a long time, since before time. I'm the healthiest and curviest I've ever been in my life right now.
And I wouldn't change it for the world. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, thank you so much, you know.
But it's just like, you know, I know what I had back there. I love that muscle memory.
But you know, I just feel like it's glamorized and it became very much like I want one of those two because I'll have, you know, this more attention. But do you feel like social media has impacted the surge of BBLs? And now do you think social media will impact like maybe the resurgence of it? Like just almost like the decline, I should say, not the resurgence, but the decline of it.
Honestly, I think it's social media. It's men.
That's all men talk about. You think it's men? They want big asses.
Like, that's what they want. That's what they like.
That's what they glorify. So it's like you have all these women like, dang, you know, he want, we do, we try to get what the men want.
Like we want their attention.

So we're going to do things, you know, what some, a lot of women are going to do things like, okay, this is what he likes. So this is what I'm going to get.
So I feel like. But you sure it's not women trying to, you know, one-up other women either? One-up.
Competition. Like competition.
It's the mixture of everything. Yeah.
Yeah. I feel like women do a lot for women now.
Like, women want to have the best BBL, the best body, the best weave, the best nails. I don't, I mean, we know men like women.
I feel like men are going to like women regardless. Like, if we got a big ass, if we got a little ass, if we, you know, like.
Everyone has their own preferences. Men are men.
They are going to stick their thing in anything. So, I mean, I don't necessarily feel like we're doing it for the men.
I feel like we're doing it because, like you said, like kind of competition with other women, like, oh, let me get the best body. Let me get the best hair, the best knit, like the best of everything, you know, so I can look better than that girl.
Not because I want to get that man. You know what I mean? Because in the same breath, they're like, you know, these men ain't worth it anyway.
So it's like, we not doing all this. It's not because of the man, but this is what men talk about.
What I'm saying is men talk about they like big asses. So if you don't have a big ass, you're going to be like these men talking about big asses.
That's all they talk about. They're still having sex, but it's glory little booty like me.
Not everybody can get a booty either. It's glory fine big asses.
So what people don't do? What women don't do? Even men. Shit.
Some of these men out here. They are.
Oh my God. Yeah.
It's a competition more so though. Everybody want to have the best everything.
The best everything. Especially when you have access to it.
You're just like, let me go and enhance it. This will make me feel better.
I think it becomes an issue when you're starting to do everything. I think it's like a thing of comparison.
Women are always, we're always comparing ourselves to what we don't and do have. I want what she got.
We always want what we don't have, too. You know what I mean? I want a big ass.
Not really, but a little something. not enough to get a BPL okay everybody wants a ass but I don't want enough to get a BPL I can get a little bit you know what I'm saying I'm gonna eat these gummy bears and hopefully maybe I really think it's like a comparison thing it's like you know what does she got that.
Okay, I'm going to get a better one. You know? My body.
And the lips. Everything.
Everything. You know, but at the end of the day, I feel like it's like we still again, we were born with a lot of this already, you know.
Y'all heard about the BBL stinking? Not the BBL stinking. What? How do BBL stinking? Not the BBL stinking.
There's a very distinct smell. A very distinct...
Wait, time out. Y'all better write in the comments.
I know people, I mean, I've never smelled it. A smell? That think when you have a bad one, like if you have that...
Less than you're not washing your ass. Yeah, I think it's from people not getting the massages that you're supposed to get, like the lymphadenic, lymphadenic drainage.
Too much fucking ass, and they don't know how to wash their ass after they done got all this booty.

No, but they said it's a specific... From the BBL ones.

They're not famous about the natural big booty girls.

They said the BBL...

I'm telling you, these new BBLs, big booties, they ain't used to all that booty back there.

So they don't know how to reach back there and wash their behind.

No, but they also said, though, it's because of the fat cells and they're not getting the lymphatic drainage or something like that.

And then it starts stinking or some shit.

I don't know.

Wow.

We need to find out.

I don't know.

Now, I may not get a BBL, but there's this thing I saw. What'd you see? What'd you see? What the hell you did that I was watching? What is that? What is it? It's where they break your ribs.
Oh, no. And then you wear a corset.
To like make you sense, like sense your waist.

So sense your waist,

sense your waist to make your butt bigger.

No, it has nothing to do with your butt.

My butt is going to be my butt.

Actually, you don't have a waist.

Yes, but I'm like straight up and down

have like a curvy body.

So my hips are like my ribs.

Listen, okay. I know what I'm talking about.

I know my body.

Well, it looks

a little intriguing.

Intriguing ribs removed.

On my ribs, that ain't nothing.

I'm not adding nothing in my body.

They not taking nothing now.

It's just like... You just said they remove the ribs body.
They not taking nothing out.

It's just like... You just said they remove the ribs.

They don't remove.

They don't take them out.

No, they just break them.

They just pop them out a little bit

and then you...

Hell no.

That sounds painful.

That does.

You would trust a doctor to go in

and break your ribs?

Don't we, you know?

I'm going to be asleep.

I'm going to be asleep.

You know, it's just...

What?

Okay, so all these bitches is going to other countries,

getting fucking BBLs, and y'all...

I can't go get a little broken rib or two?

Mm-mm.

I don't understand.

Who got their ribs broke? I don't know nobody personally. Exactly.
Me either. But I would like to find out more.
You're going to be the test dummy. Okay.
Well, no, because I'm smart. I said, you know what? I'm going to come back to this in a year or two.
So we should have thought about it. So they can get good at it.
And thinking about it. And we'll think about it.
And then I'll revisit. Someone said the corset surgery is usually done on today.
Women who don't want to have any more kids. It's called corset surgery.
That's you. You.
That sounds like you over here. I don't want to have no more kids either, but I'm scared.
That sounds like a good candidate. I'm a good candidate.
The corset. That's what it's called now.
So it gives you that sense of a corset. Okay.
So I have seen some things. I'm not trying to be like irregularly small.

I'm just trying to get a little shape.

Like that little Coke bottle.

They said, somebody said, allegedly, Janet Jackson got it done.

Okay.

So Janet, send me a doctor, please.

Share.

The humble daddy you are.

Somebody find out what doctor she went to. Because if Janet went to them, then, please.
Share the humble daddy you are. Somebody find out what

doctor she went to. Because if Janet

went to them, then okay.

They're good enough. I might not be able to afford that.

I don't know.

That's some different

I'm looking for everyone doing what they

need to do for themselves, whatever makes

your confidence go. But I feel like

there's extremes to everything.

Oof.

Yeah, just a couple ribs. My ribs hurt now.
I'm thinking about it. Me too.
I need mine. I love all this chunky chunk chunk.
That's crazy. Okay, enough about the BBL talk because Ashley that said she wore the corset the BBL state the BBL booty juice they got the BBL booty juice they just said anything in the chat I still got to find out about that BBL booty juice yeah it's a apparently.
I can't wait to find that out. I love it.
According to what the people said. Okay, y'all.
We all grew up in the church, right? Yep. Out of good old...
It's more except for pastor. Pastor.
Is he pastor or reverend?

Is he any of that?

I thought he was a singer.

A gospel singer.

He got some good hits.

He saw the best in me, but we didn't see the best in him.

I see what you did there.

We didn't see the best in Marvin said when he told the people to lock the door. I told the ushers to lock the door lock the door, get y'all behind down, cause y'all ain't going nowhere but out to eat, to feed y'all souls I need y'all to empty y'all money and donate we ain't going nowhere till we raise all this money he definitely spelling profit wrong instead of, you know, with a P-H, he's put an F in there, profit.
He was trying to get some money. And the ones that's co-signing with his foolishness who they co-signing.
Some of the deacons and pastors that was behind him. So they were trying to get money for him? Or this is for the building fund?

Or this is for... The building fund.

You know the building fund.

I'm for tithing, you know.

Obviously in the church.

It's the love offering.

It's the love offering, yes.

I got all the people offered.

That's the appreciation.

It's the love offering. Yeah.
I mean, my grandfather used to be, he passed away. He was a presiding elder.
I grew up in the church and not. That's a big deal.
One time. And all my years of growing up, being on the Usher Boy, being in the crowd, being, you know, vacation, Bible school, everything.
But we have like five offerings. There's new churches.
They make it, they lock it doors. They put in security.
It ain't even the usher garden doors. It's the security.
And you ain't going nowhere until you take, you got about six offerings. I've never seen nothing like that a day in my life.
And I grew up in the South. I, you know family was that this half was methodist ame and we had and when we took up offerings we had a benevolent offering and all the benevolent yes and then you had a sign what does that really mean anyway right what does that mean anyway we're just sending it off no but listen i'm gonna tell you how how our church operated you had a sign up there of how much was collected each each sunday service sunday right that's right you're saying you're good on him he's an one-time god yes he is when that money started passing around.
But it was times where if someone in... Oh, yes, he is.
When church members really need their bills paid. And, you know, my granddaddy would actually cut checks to make sure that the church members, you know, their lights were on if they need to pay us or whatever.
Now it's like, y'all just want these people to spend, they rent money, it's the first little money. They laugh.
Everything. Yeah.
I don't like it. Tithe is still 10%, right? Is it 10% is a tithing percentage? And, you know, I don't know.
Still in church taxes, they pay no taxes. But we starting to see pastors with the suits, with the Gucci, the Fendi, the Prada, everything, the jets, private jets and these these mega churches.
But it's like, you know, we're paying for a lot. You know, the smoke, the graphics, the strobe lights.
I'm going to tell you, I went to go support one of my friends at a church here in Florida. And, you know, the church was amazing.
But it was pastors traveling from all up north. And you got to be careful with them up north pastors.
They be, you know, they be funneling money from the street people. Not the up north.

Some of the up north.

Not everybody.

Not everybody.

But one of the pastors got up there to speak

and he had this big pinky ring on.

He was decked out.

And I said,

I still have this text message.

I text the group that I was with.

I said, don't trust him.

And if he come and lay his hands on y'all, do not let this man touch y'all because he ain't right. Because he had that pinky ring on.
He had a big, shiny pinky ring. I said, he's not right.
There's something about him. Yes, ma'am.
That was a touchdown sign. I mean, somebody was like, look, I got you.
Wait, before, so at the church, the pastor trying to touch people, lay his hands. And I said, I'm sorry.
You know, I don't let people, everybody lay their hands on me. I was taught not to let everybody put their hands on you.
So two months later, fast forward. The pastor is locked up by the Fed.
No, he ain't. I swear to God.
PPP fraud. PPP fraud.
PPP fraud. They're from the churches and PPP fraud.
Uh-uh. See? Again, don't have to pay taxes.
You don't have to pay taxes. You keep all the points.
I feel like also the pastor or the leader of the church I like, should kind of separate themselves from the money part of it. In the church I grew up in, it was like the trustees, they did everything.
You know what I mean? So it was no confusion. It wasn't one person that was in charge of all the money.
You know what I mean? It was like a board of trustees who was in charge of collecting the money and, you know, where the money was. They handled all of that.
My dad was a trustee, actually. And my mom was like, she was the, what was my mom? The secretary of the church.
So we was in church, you know, all day, every day, too. All the time.
All the time. Yeah.
But fast forward to churches that I go to now regularly, they don't even take up the offering. You do it on your own.
So you can do it online. You can put it in the box in the hall.
You know, on your own, but it's all done on your... Every now and then they'll take up like, you know, a special offering for something or whatever.
But your everyday tithes that you do, like that's on you. And I really like that because when we moved to Florida and we were looking for a church, like we went to a lot of churches and they were really like pressing us to give because, you know, they knew Phil played football, you know.
So they like, OK, big, big money. OK, so now they start preaching about giving.
Oh, baby, them scriptures. Them scriptures.
They got to give the same. We done heard the same damn thing.
Every sermon, they're talking about giving. There's a hundred people in here.
They mess with their conscience. I need something to sow a seed for $5,000.

I need 20 of y'all to sow a seed for $200.

And I need the rest of y'all to sow a seed for $100.

And all the seeds are sown.

And then they put in the program,

they put in the program who put what,

like, oh, they're the $10,000 donors.

You know, it was the bragging rights too,

to be in the pamphlet, you know, that you donated so much or gave this much, you know? So I feel like it was also a little bit of clout. That's probably one of our first examples of clout back in the day too, like going to church.
But I feel like you still have to be members of whatever your religion is. They still take up funds for everything.
You know, even at the temple, we have to pay for services and Shabbat dinners and people who are underprivileged and things like that. So it doesn't matter, church, temple, mosque, cathedral.
So I just feel like today's, I just feel like from me growing up from when I was a child, church is totally different. I don't consider a lot of these churches churches.
I feel like a lot of pastors have taken advantage of what it is to really improve and service the Lord and the community. I feel like they have turned it into a business and a profitable business.
Yeah, Marvin Sapp, he's a gospel singer. He's worth $4 million dollars asking shutting the doors like that I know this happened like and you and you and you and you and you and you and you and you and you people do people were they will be like I gotta pay the church I gotta pay the church yeah yeah some people will give their all and and their rent go.
And they know that. So they're praying on those people, on those vulnerable people who, you know, they'll get that.
They're praying in the wrong way. Praying with a P-R-E-Y.
Instead of praying. Yeah, it's not cool.
It's not cool. Yeah, I didn't like that.
And I see it happen a lot. Seven doors, though.
He got aggressive with his stunt. Maybe he was trying to get all this attention.
Like, we're talking about him now. So maybe he's pulling, like, a stunt and he wanted to be blasted all over the internet right now so we could be talking about him.
This happened over the summer. It's just now coming.
It's just now being viral. We circulated, going viral.
Yeah. I wonder why it's just now coming out.
No telling. I don't know.
He put it out. Oh.
He sent it to the blogs. You think so? I mean, people do that.
Why is it just now coming out? Something is a little different. I don't know.
I don't know, but it just... You won't catch me coming to a church that's forcing the congregation to pay.
And you ain ain't leaving until and then for me also it's the thing of like if i don't see like if i know like this church is pulling in a lot of money and i don't see y'all actually doing stuff for the community but you a nice this new car and a nice house and you, you know, where is the money going?

Are you in the community?

Are you helping these people that is in the church running?

That's right. You know what I mean?

Right.

Mm-hmm.

It's not the same.

It's definitely not the same.

Yeah, well, do you all feel like you frequent church as much as you,

like, do you, I mean, do you all go to church as much as you did growing up in it? Because you were kind of not, I don't want to say forced, but, you know, when you have your families involved with the church, you had to go. It just became a way of life.
Do you feel like that was a little too much in your childhood to where it trickles to where you are now, where you might not go as much? like maybe had that little that energy from childhood of having to go to now

where you are now, where you might not go as much? Like maybe you had that little, that energy from childhood of having to go to now where you can choose to go? I don't think, you know, me, because like I said, my grandfather was a presiding elder. We were PK grandkids.
I enjoyed going to church. We went to Sunday school.
Actually, some of my cousins learned how to read just not going to Sunday school. So I enjoyed it.
The morale was there. It taught us how to be very respectful, get closer to God.
And I made the choice to get closer to God. I actually spoke in the sermon.
I enjoy church. I enjoy going as a child.
I felt like what changed me from going high. I used to go so much as a child and a young adult was the changes in the, in the church.
As I traveled, the church in the South is totally different from when I moved up North or when I moved down South of Florida. It wasn't the same.
And I felt like it started slowly evolving into a business. Um, we didn't get the same, like the, you know, when you in a good church, you can just feel it.
Yes. I didn't have that same feeling from when I was in the churches from the South.
I felt like it was just, let me say what I need to say. And they just emphasize this on when it was time to gather offerings.
Not all churches. I do have some amazing churches.
If I'm in Tampa,

my number one church is Love First.

Shout out to Pastor Joe Cousins.

He was on Wax Church.

But he, I feel like I was,

I'm back when I was a little child

in those church homes

when I'm going to Love First.

So it's not every church,

but it's hard to find a good church.

It is, it is hard to find.

You feel like you're where you need to be. Yeah, I feel the same way.
I'm from Georgia. And before that, we lived in South Carolina.
So I'm used to like a very Southern Baptist church experience. And I just really haven't I haven't gotten that pretty much since I left home.

But I can't, I honestly, this church experience. And I just really haven't gotten that

pretty much since I left home.

But I can't,

I honestly,

truthfully cannot blame

that on why

I don't go to church

as much as I used to.

And I really am convicted about it.

Like I think about,

you know,

oh, I got like

the family,

we need to go to church

every week.

Every week it's on my brain.

Like we need to go to church. The intent is there.
Because like, I know like I can watch it online. I can watch it on TV.
I kind of get a little lax with it. I'm like, okay, it's okay, Ash.
Like don't shut up out. You can just watch it on TV, you know? And sometimes I do, but most times I don't.
So it's like, I really feel like that's the goal of mine this year is to get back to going to church more because I am I do come from a family where we believe in going to church and spending time with the Lord in his house. That's right.
So, you know, even though church is different, it might look different. I haven't done my part.

I can't say 100% that I've gone out and looked for whatever it is I feel is missing, you know.

But I think it's important, you know, regardless to have like my children in the church, because I, like Sherelle was saying, feel like I have very distinct memories there. I feel like it's definitely shaped who I am, my relationship with the Lord, and it's kept me, you know? So I think it's important

and I just need to do better. Yeah, I agree with you, Ash.
It is very much becomes more convenient now just to go ahead and click a link. You know, even if you're not in the same city with that same pastor that you like, or you like a sermon, you can go now on YouTube and grab a sermon that you missed and you can still get the word.
But you're in the comfort of your home. I feel like COVID really made that happen, where it made the access to your favorite pastor more accessible, which is great.
Like my mom lives here in Miami, but she streams a pastor from Chicago that she likes. And every Sunday morning, she's in the comfort of her home watching the sermon and taking her notes and then sending me this and that from the pastor.
Like, it was a good service today. So it's still there, rooted in it, because just having that religious anchor in your spirit, we can't get away from.
So I think it's great for the children

to have some kind of sense of purpose

and sense of peace

where whatever your religion is

that you can fall back on

and just have that comfort

in your spirit and your soul.

So however way you can get to it,

get to it, you know,

whether it's online,

going to a church

or getting some notes,

clicking on the link,

whatever the case may be,

you know.

Like I want my kids to have

like the old school vacation Bible school.

Oh,

Oh, my God. to a church or getting some notes, clicking on the link, whatever the case may be.
I want my kids to have the old school vacation

Bible school.

That was fun.

That was an experience that I feel like

if you went there,

it was.

When you went forward to the end of the week trip.

Yes.

You're working during the day.

You got your boyfriend that week during vacation. It was the time.
Like, these are experiences that I want for my kids. You know what I mean? Look at us how we blushing and having nostalgia moments now, just like tapping back into our childhood because of that sense of community.
Kids running around and you breaking out in these sessions and having good talks. I remember that because we used to have the little pamphlets and you learn your scripture and then talk about it and you understood it better.
Even things like Easter Sunday speeches. Yay! Easter speech.
Remember you had the little thing you had to memorize. You better not mess up.
Don't forget the outfit, too. Yes, the outfit.
Being in the choir. Just, oh, craze dance.
Oh, the praise dance. I still remember some of my praise dance.
All the praise dancing.

Then when they had like children's,

not children's church, but like when the children

take you for Sunday.

I used to be on third

Sundays.

I used to like to do

the announcement.

Good morning, ladies and gentlemen,

brothers and sisters,

Pastor Soso.

That was my thing. I used to like, that was my little part.
It felt special. But yeah, I miss that.
You know, it's not just about, it's a lot of memories, a lot of things that like, obviously shaped all of us because we are sitting here. It just sucks.

Like, I feel like my, you feel like my kids can't experience what we experience, but I'm truly grateful because I still keep God in their lives. We do pray together.
I pray together with my kids, and it just shows we come from a strong background of just being close to God and putting God first. Um, I was excited.
My daughter got up Sunday. She, she called me.
She was like, mom, I just left church. Um, can you send me some money to go out to eat? She had her two friends with her and I was just like, yeah, so proud of you.
Yes. Yeah.
Going to church, try your own with your kids, going to church on your own. I'm sure that's amazing.
Right right because right now I'm gonna have to like I went to the floor like going to church we had the van coming to pick us up I was like girl we're living the good life you got your car drop we used to have to wait on the van to come get us and take us back home man used to be there all day long. Oh, and then, you know, when they used to have...
The singings. No, when they used to have the anniversaries.
Oh, yeah. The pastor anniversary.
The pastor anniversary. They used to be at church all day.
And then when they used to invite other churches to come and sing. Yes, that's the have a a sing-off with the different i love that good music not the sing-off because it's like they don't go around you better not fall asleep either yes all that church pitch church pitch and oh my grandma give me that look she had a glasses and she rolled her eyes and that that clothes i be still rolling you better get your act together and the candy y'all remember the little uh they they was shaped like peppermints but they taste like cinnamon.
Yeah. No, it was the strawberry one.
The strawberries.

Strawberry. Yeah.

Strawberry.

That's right. They were shaped like peppermints, but they taste like cinnamon.
Yeah. No, it was the strawberry one.
The strawberries? Strawberry. Yeah.
Strawberry. What is the name of it? The watermelon, strawberry or watermelon.
Yeah. And then sometimes you get the lucky ones that had the chewy stuff in the middle.
Yeah. The part on the outside.
Why did we all live the same life? Really? And you know you got mad when you saw that it was like at the bottom stuck at the purse too because you're like you can't even eat this one. Like, it's been sitting there a long time.
But yeah, the pinch, I used to like when they would let us dismiss like the little kids they could dismiss and go to like children's church or like out of, you know, now that they've done certain parts of the service, because they can't sit still, you know, that's a lot. My stomach will start to start rumbling, so I will look forward to, like, brunch afterwards too.
That was always good. We had Sunday dinner.
Well, Sunday dinner too, because you know the supper was on the crockpot that's been simmering and marinating real good. And so when you come back, yeah, definitely want to eat afterwards.
What was y'all favorite old school church song? Big one. Oh, His Eyes on the Sparrow.
Okay. I had a thing.
That's a good one. I'm'm going up in yonder.
To be with my little mom. Mine was Your Grace and Mercy.
Okay. Mine was There's a Bomb in Gilead.
Remember that one? There is a bomb in Gilead. Yes.
a bomb in... That's not really old school, but that was one of my favorites from back then.
Those was the good old days. Y'all let us know what y'all favorite old school southern gospel song was, and who had the best old school gospel song out of us three? Let's know.
Let us know. I got to think of an old, old.
Let me think of one. Before we go.
Your Grace and Mercy. That's a good one.
That's why. Your Grace and Mercy.
I like, I like, well, it's not really old, but it's like stand. I love all these good spiritual hymns.
Miss that good music. Miss that good music, yes.
Okay. All right, guys.
Is it Humble Baddies? I think it might be. All right.
Who's got it? I got it right here. Want me to speak on it? Go ahead.
Go ahead. Hey, humble baddies.
This is from Kayla from Dallas, Texas. Okay.
Hey, Kayla. Hey, Kayla.
Hey, humble baddies. Love y'all so much.
And I need your help because this situation is messy. I've been dating this guy for eight months and everything's been going great.
At first, I kept him to myself, but about three months ago, I finally introduced them to my family and friends. All good, right?

Wrong. This past weekend, he hit me with the, we need to talk text.
Naturally, I started panicking, thinking the worst. And guess what? It kind of was the worst because he used to date one of my close friends.
Now he swears it was not that serious. But the gag is he met her three months ago and said nothing until now.
I feel like he should have told me the second he realized they knew each other. So what do I do, baddies? Do I keep it moving and stay with him? Or is this a red flag that means it's time to go? Would you feel betrayed or am I overreacting? I think she's overreacting a little bit.
Like to just let it go, I would first communicate and see what's going on before. I just let it go.
Just communicate and find out what happened. I'm confused.
So, okay, so she was dating. They've been dating for eight months.
And then he just met her three months ago. So he was dating both.
So like you say like, hey guys, you know, she never told her friend that she was dating this guy. And so now she introduced him to everyone like, hey, y'all, this is my boo.
You know, we've been rocking. And then he was like, we need to talk because he actually really know friend.
I mean, I feel like he's trying to be open, you know, and have a conversation. So he's trying.
It's not like, I don't feel like he's trying to be sneaky. He probably had to like muster up his confidence to say something.
So I don't think, you know, that she needs to run or anything. I don't think it's a red flag.
It might be a yellow flag. Like caution, slow it up.
Yeah. Yeah.
But, you know, see how he moves after this. And then also like follow up, like ask all the questions.
Okay. So where did y'all meet? How did y'all meet? Blah, blah, blah.
Who else have you talked to? Like who else, you know, who are you, who else are you dating dating like just have enough follow-up questions and make sure you get the answers so you can move accordingly that's true yeah I like that yeah because it's a big step when you start to meet the family and friends obviously that means he is serious but then I'm glad he did communicate and you didn't find out way later you know what I mean so I feel like that's a good thing that he did step up he was very kind of like we need to talk which is scary for everybody it's not just whenever you get that text we need to talk your heart starts to be fast you start internalizing things so I feel like he definitely showed like a great example of communication like look we have talked before and and I feel like, you know, sometimes it's tough to hear, but you got to hear it. You have to understand it, you know, because you don't want to now go be out another time and then like you see this person and no one knew except for those two.
That's when it becomes a red flag and very much shady. So I'm glad he did say something.
That way they can move forward with it or she can say how she feels about it or she can say that it bothers her or whatever the case may be. But at least it's on the table.
Yeah. Good.
Wow, that's some great answers. What was her name again, Alexis? Kayla.
Kayla from Dallas. Kayla from Dallas.
We hope you take our advice. I think, you know, we gave so you shouldn't give it up this quick.
Like communication, y'all talk it out. It's not the end.
It's not a bad guy. But yeah.
Good luck with that, Kayla. Good luck.
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