If You Can’t Win in 2025, You Can’t Win (and what you should be doing)

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Speaker 3 In the green room, you started by saying something that I was like, all right, I got to hit record because I don't want you to waste all the flavor.

Speaker 3 You said a lot of people are complaining that it's difficult to win today, and you think that

Speaker 3 this is one of the best times to win. Can you break that down for us?

Speaker 4 Well, I'll break it down. The message from my 91-year-old father, who retired, my dad worked until age 85, Ryan.
So he's been retired for five years, almost six years.

Speaker 4 He said to me the other day when we were out on the boat, he said, you know, son, he says, I don't have many regrets in my life.

Speaker 4 Hello, everyone, and welcome back. to the show.

Speaker 3 We have a tremendous conversation for you today with Michael McLean. Michael is a former professional hockey team owner.

Speaker 3 He took a failing franchise in the Junior Pro Division, turned that franchise around, and then

Speaker 3 six years later, won the Barkley Cup.

Speaker 3 He then went on to purchase an insurance business, turned that business around, turned it into one of the most successful insurance businesses in the United States.

Speaker 3 He now coaches men to find their power, to become kings, as he says. And we talk not just about

Speaker 3 what that means and how we how why men need to reclaim their lives but why it's also not just important for the individuals for the men themselves but for those they love for those in their world for those that they want to take care of help support right in order to be the best father we have to be good in order to be the best spouse we have to be good as men And this is a dynamic conversation.

Speaker 3 One warning before we move on to Michael, there is a lot of colorful language in this episode. So if you are offended by colorful language, you may want to turn the volume down just a little bit.

Speaker 3 But I promise you will be motivated, you will be inspired. And by the end of this episode, you will be ready to run through a brick wall.
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Speaker 3 Let's get on to Michael McLean.

Speaker 3 In the green room, you started by saying something that I was like, all right, I got to hit record because I don't want you to waste all the flavor.

Speaker 3 You said a lot of people are complaining that it's difficult to win today. And you think that this is one of the best times to win.
Can you, can you break that down for us?

Speaker 4 Well, I'll break it down. The message from my 91-year-old father, who retired, my dad worked until age 85, Ryan.
So he's been retired for five years, almost six years.

Speaker 4 He said to me the other day day when we were out on the boat, he said, you know, son, he says, I don't have many regrets in my life. If you met my dad, Ryan, you would think he's 70, not 91.

Speaker 4 Same with my mom. My mom's 91.
She doesn't have any gray hair. She, he says to me, he goes, I have one regret.
He says, I should have worked to 90.

Speaker 4 And then my dad and I were talking about how this is clearly the greatest time in history to be alive, especially. if you're a husband, a father, an entrepreneur, a founder, any of that stuff.

Speaker 4 My dad started his businesses. He was an entrepreneur for 71 years.
He said, he goes, I started my business with the yellow pages.

Speaker 4 He said, you have the World Wide Web, you have AI, you have the greatest time in history to be alive. And this is the message that I'm telling my 12-year-old daughter all the time.

Speaker 4 You know, she has her own podcast. She makes her own money, that kind of stuff.

Speaker 4 But like the men and women that I work with, they spend way, way, way too much time on rat poison platforms platforms like the news, like, you know,

Speaker 4 politics is rat poison and anti-social media. I mean, it's okay to be on there for a little bit, but if you think that times are tough in 2025, you're in the wrong echo chamber.

Speaker 4 You need to get around better people. You need to get around people who have actually won.
People ask me what my business is now that I'm semi-retired.

Speaker 4 I said my business is the same as when I was in the hockey business, the insurance business, being a a husband, being a father. I'm in the winning business.
That doesn't mean I win all the time.

Speaker 4 It means I lose a lot. But I mean, there has never, ever been a better time.
And my dad's only regret is he said, I should have worked to 90.

Speaker 4 He said, I would, I would give my, I would give my, one of my arms to be in the environment that you're in now. So that's my mindset every day that I get up.

Speaker 4 I'm like, and my dad mentioned on the boat the other day, he said, Michael, he says, if you can't make it in 2025, you can't make it.

Speaker 4 And, you know, that's the message that we need to be sending to leaders. That's your, that's what you do.
You work with some of the top leaders, unreasonable outcomes.

Speaker 4 But man, oh man, talk about the greatest environment in history to be in. And when I say greatest environment, there's three things that really stick out.
Number one, we are awash in wealth.

Speaker 4 Trillions of dollars every single day. Go stand in the river.
Go stand in the river. Secondly, abundance like never before.

Speaker 4 I mean, I pack up my family for half the year and I get to live in the greatest country in the world, America, in the greatest city in the world, Naples, Florida.

Speaker 4 And then for the other six months, I get to return and live on the lake in the second greatest country in the world, which is Canada. Like the abundance is unbelievable.

Speaker 4 And then, of course, what I mentioned, the opportunity, like literally the World Wide Web, artificial intelligence, whatever you want to talk about it.

Speaker 4 But man, oh man, my dad said it the other day, best Ryan. He says, the good old days are now.

Speaker 3 Why do you think so many people live in this perpetual state of anxiety and fear and go down these negativity rabbit holes?

Speaker 4 They're scared of winning. When I was coaching minor pro hockey, I own a couple of my own teams.
Then I got into the insurance business as the number one agent in the nation.

Speaker 4 I've run barber shops, all this kind of stuff, tennis camps, hockey schools. And Ryan, when I was younger, I used to think that most people were afraid of losing.

Speaker 4 And then as I matured and worked with the peak, peak men and women in the world, I realized what stops most people from getting moving

Speaker 4 is they're afraid of winning.

Speaker 4 And that was a light bulb moment for me because the thing is, is sure, we're all afraid of losing. We don't want to lose.
You should be be sick to your stomach when you do lose.

Speaker 4 And nothing is more valuable than losing. I tell my 12-year-old daughter, I'm like, are you kidding me? You don't win, you don't learn anything from winning.

Speaker 4 You win everything from being taken behind the wood shed and taught a lesson in sports, business, and life. That's where all the learning happens.

Speaker 4 But I find most people that I work with, Ryan, they're afraid of winning in their subconscious or their conscious mind.

Speaker 4 If I do write the book and it's a smash success what will other people think if i if i start traveling and speaking like you do what will my friends think and this all goes back to the way we're hardwired into people pleasing like we need to be men and women on a mission we don't need to be people pleasers so when i run into people that are afraid of losing, but more importantly, they're afraid of winning.

Speaker 4 They sedate and they medicate by spending their time in these places where they watch other people live. See, you're living, you're a man on a mission.
I know your deal.

Speaker 4 You're a man on a mission, but there's so many people that watch you instead of doing their own thing because they're afraid of winning. I would love to be like Ryan.

Speaker 4 But what if I became like Ryan and chased my mission? What would my wife think? What would my friends from high school think? What would my fuck old friends from college think?

Speaker 4 And it gets down to that fundamental where if a person cannot escape that mindset of people pleasing, if they can't, that is the number one crippling thing in sports, life, and business.

Speaker 4 If you are a people pleaser instead of a man or a woman on a mission, you have no chance to live the life of your dreams.

Speaker 3 Why aren't we taught this?

Speaker 4 Well, I mean, there's a lot of reasons that it's not taught in school, and it's not, you don't run into it a lot, is because, I mean, the education system, as an example, I mean,

Speaker 4 we homeschool our daughter because I don't want her in the old factory industrial age, put up your hand to use the bathroom school. So I'm raising an entrepreneur.

Speaker 4 I'm raising a president, not a poodle. I'm raising a president, not a princess.

Speaker 4 So we focus on entrepreneurship in our home, whether she decides to be a vet or decides to, I don't care long as she runs the show for herself.

Speaker 4 Because I think in 2025 and looking down the road in five or 10 years, there's no place for anybody but the founder and the entrepreneur.

Speaker 4 Like you're going to have a hard time commuting to work and sitting in a cubicle once AI gets going here. So

Speaker 4 we're preaching freedom. I just believe the education system and society is set up in the 100-year-old.
We need workers. We need people to work in the factories.
We need people to sit in the cubicles.

Speaker 4 But unfortunately, those days are all gone. So in my daughter's particular case, she is...

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Speaker 4 Six hours of private tutors a day. And we accomplish more in six hours than she would in six years.

Speaker 4 But it's interesting because I hired the number one math teacher in America and here in Naples, and what do they start every day with?

Speaker 4 They start every day with fitness and movement, skipping rope, push-ups, all this kind of. She's been doing this since she was five years old.

Speaker 4 So they get the body moving because the body is before the mind. Then, Ryan, she does old school mathematics.
Like she's 12 years old, but she's at a college level of mathematics because what is math?

Speaker 4 Math is the ultimate problem solving. It's black and white.
It's not opinion-based. It's hard and it's difficult.
And then she she does cursive writing.

Speaker 4 She writes out the best advertisements in history. So she'll write out a Gary Halbert ad, she'll write out an Ogilvy ad.
So that's cursive plus copywriting.

Speaker 4 And then the other thing that she does after that is she'll do something entrepreneurial, whether it's a lemonade stand or writing her book or whatever. But the reason.

Speaker 4 The reason that this isn't taught is because they don't want it taught. They don't want a world of top 1%ers or top 5%ers.
They want followers. So what you do is

Speaker 4 the exact opposite of what the 1%ers, like

Speaker 4 what does the world need more? You know this better than anybody. We need more leaders.
There's such a leadership vacuum. I always say to my daughter, I'm like, I'm with Dana White on this.

Speaker 4 If your kids, and you have two of them, if they even have a speck of badass in them, they're going to own this world.

Speaker 4 And like I say to my daughter, I look at the other kids her age and I say, these are not your peers. These are not your peers.

Speaker 4 And that's the biggest thing. So just the fact, like, it's what happens at the kitchen table and in your home is more important than anything that happens in the White House.

Speaker 4 But that goes back to my initial thing about this is the greatest time in history because a guy like you is raising a couple of badass entrepreneurs who are going to run over people because they're going to be equipped for the new age world.

Speaker 3 Yeah, we talk about this all the time.

Speaker 3 So my kids play a lot of sports. I coach them in basketball and baseball.
And this summer we were driving home from a game and

Speaker 3 my son, my older son, my younger son was in the car too. My older son

Speaker 3 missed a ground ball at shortstop. He plays shortstop.
And it ended up costing us the run that cost us, that in the end of the game cost us the game. And

Speaker 3 he came off the field and, you know, I gave him, hey, keep your head up, you got to hit, you know, whatever.

Speaker 3 But he kind of stopped and looked at me and I was like, yeah, you should have fucking had that ball.

Speaker 3 Like, I knew what he was asking me with his eyes, which was, and he kind of looked and went back in and, you know, did his thing.

Speaker 3 And after the game, he said, you know, he goes, dad, how come he was like,

Speaker 3 you know, you talk to me differently than other parents. I'm paraphrasing his question, but essentially.
And I said, it's because you fucked up.

Speaker 3 That's a ground ball that you can make, should make, and need to make as a starting shortstop of this baseball team. It's not that I expect you to make every play.

Speaker 3 You're 10 years old. That's not what I'm saying.
But that was a ball that was in the range of things that you should be able to handle. And you didn't handle it.

Speaker 3 And the reason you didn't handle it was because you were lazy to the ball. You didn't get in proper form like we've practiced a thousand times.
And you tried to, you nonchalanted it.

Speaker 3 So the lesson is don't fucking nonchalant the easy plays. Just make them, get the out.

Speaker 4 All that matters is the out, right?

Speaker 3 Don't, you know, you, you, you felt like it was an easy play, you approached it like an easy play, and you got your hat handed to you, and it cost the team the game. All right.

Speaker 3 So he kind of ruminated on that for a second.

Speaker 3 And then he said,

Speaker 3 yeah, but how come you're harder on me than other kids? And I said, I said the same exact thing to him.

Speaker 3 I go, you're not, the kids on your team, some of them might be your friends, but they're not your peers in baseball. Like they're not your, they're not, you're not competing against them.

Speaker 3 You're competing against the kid in Puerto Rico who's using a fucking leaf for a glove, who would die to play on a real baseball field like you play on, right? That's who you're competing against.

Speaker 3 I said, and even if you never achieve that level of skill that that kid has, I said,

Speaker 3 what I need you to do to to win at life is to understand that you only get prizes when you win.

Speaker 3 In real life, you only get prizes when you win.

Speaker 4 Yet you're, you're,

Speaker 3 so much of how our, it's why we send our kids to Catholic school. It's why we send, we're sending our kids to private Catholic school for high school, like, is because

Speaker 3 this idea that you are talking about, like,

Speaker 3 like I'm at a weird generation. So I'm 44 years old, right?

Speaker 3 And

Speaker 3 thankfully, I had 20 years with no cell phone. Very, very thankfully that I had 20 years of no cell phone.
But then, still in development from 20, you know, in the in the early days, right?

Speaker 3 I got the world changed to this more like socialist kind of everyone gets a prize kind of thing, right? And I said, dude, I've lived, I've seen both sides of this coin. Like

Speaker 3 this whole idea that the effort you put in was is what matters is nice and a start. But at the end of the day, if you want to achieve, you have to win.
And that's, that's what you're trying.

Speaker 3 And it doesn't matter baseball, whatever, whatever you do. And you have to get away from this idea that showing up is winning or just trying hard is winning because you can always try harder.

Speaker 3 Or like, you know, because you were nice, you won. No one gives the universe doesn't give a fuck about any of those things.
And it's just so incredible to me.

Speaker 3 Like, I feel like now that Trump is in office and our culture has swung a little bit back to a little bit more more living in reality, all of a sudden there's this spotlight on the methodology on this like

Speaker 3 everybody's equal, everyone's the same, everyone deserves a prize mentality is like, you don't have a receipt. Show me the receipt for that mentality where someone is killing it.

Speaker 3 That's an honest question to everyone who's listening to the show.

Speaker 3 If you, if you are, if you believe in kind of modern, liberal, postmodern beliefs or more socialist ideals or, you know, whatever, show me a f ⁇ ing receipt for that methodology producing positive outcomes.

Speaker 4 That's all I want to see.

Speaker 3 And then you can tell me that the way that I approach my kids in my life is wrong, right? I mean, that's kind of what we're talking about here. Like, it's crazy.

Speaker 3 There's no receipts for the other side of the argument.

Speaker 3 You know, they got, they got words they can throw at you, bigot, you know, toxic masculinity, you know, whatever else they want to throw at you, but not a single receipt for that methodology.

Speaker 3 And that's what fucking breaks me.

Speaker 4 Yeah. I mean, I've been coaching youth sports for 23 consecutive years, and the term I use, similar to yours, is ROI.
Show me the ROI.

Speaker 4 Everybody wants to be led. Everybody likes structure.
Everybody likes discipline. Show me the ROI of the other way.

Speaker 4 So you're right about the shift. There's a shift happening here, but man, oh man, people are responsible for their own.
And what you're doing for your kids is you're literally stacking the deck, Ryan.

Speaker 4 You are, I call it putting your kids on the power play. You're putting an extra man on the field.
Like my job as a father is to make sure my kid lives her adult life on the fucking power play.

Speaker 4 Like I don't want to, I want a loaded deck. I want a stack deck.
And to do that, guys like us and our wife have to work a long time, but there's no competition.

Speaker 4 And that's the other thing, the man or woman in the glass.

Speaker 4 Like that was Richard Williams 101 with the Williams sisters, where, you know, he didn't let he didn't let Serena and Venus play in all these tournaments, even though the agents were hanging around.

Speaker 4 And he's like, my kids are going to practice most of the time.

Speaker 4 And he's like, he kept telling Serena and Venus, they can speak five languages, none of these players are your peers. Your mom and I want you to be artists.
We want you to be musicians.

Speaker 4 We want you to be athletes. We want you to be good people.
And if one of these things works out, fantastic. But weaponizing your children goes back to what Brene Brown says, which is clear is kind.

Speaker 4 Unclear is unkind.

Speaker 4 Like I could tell you horror stories you wouldn't believe from my hockey coaching young kids in hockey power skating is the COVID kids especially, the China virus kids especially,

Speaker 4 five to zero. It's a culture of quitters coming.
Now, I'm not one of these guys who ever used to say, oh, well, the next generation. I'm not saying that at all.

Speaker 4 The China China virus crippled what's coming. So I'll start out, Ryan, with 50 kids in a low-income skating program on a September.
By Thanksgiving, I've got 25 kids.

Speaker 4 That means mom and dad let 25 kids quit. I'm not upset that the kids want to quit.
Every kid wants to quit. I want to quit every day.

Speaker 4 But the fact that the parents are so soft as fucking shit that they let these kids start quitting when they're two, three, four, and five, that's a crippling habit. My dad calls it patronizing.

Speaker 4 So if you want to raise cupcake kids and snowflake kids and poodles, just lie to your kids all the time and patronize them. And eighth place trophies, like you said, is the secret to this.

Speaker 4 Our kids are afraid of failure because of eighth place trophies. Now, you're doing the right job where you know what? Bill Parcells said it best.

Speaker 4 When Bill Parcells, in my opinion the greatest football coach in history the scoreboard says who's best the scoreboard says who's best and that's the way you can get better when the scoreboard doesn't say you're the best but you nailed it clear is kind unclear is unkind so when you have these cupcake parents they think they think they're helping their children when actually ryan they're crippling them for life.

Speaker 4 Yeah.

Speaker 3 And for the guys out there that are listening, who maybe

Speaker 3 you know you have people pleasing in you,

Speaker 3 and

Speaker 3 I'm a recovering people pleaser.

Speaker 3 You know, most of the, when I look back at the places in my life where I've stagnated in my growth, it's because I allowed that side of my body, you know, I wanted to be nice.

Speaker 3 I wanted people to like me. I wanted people versus what had to get done.
Right.

Speaker 3 And it doesn't mean, you know, I think the way that this argument gets straw manned is, oh, well, you're just saying you yell at them and authoritarian.

Speaker 3 And it's like, that's not, that is not what you just said. You said be clear,

Speaker 3 not yell, not, not bash people over the head. You don't have to dog people all the time.
That, that's not what we're talking about. It's not good leadership.
It's not good culture building.

Speaker 3 But you can have,

Speaker 3 by simply letting people know what they're responsible for, what they need to do, and how they're going to be judged on their work.

Speaker 3 Just those giving people those three simple things will change the entire culture of your organization.

Speaker 3 Because I guarantee most of the people listening to this, if you were to go survey, all of your employees cannot give you those three things, cannot, cannot give you those three things that they have to do in their job.

Speaker 3 And they get confused and they misunderstand. And you start having HR meetings about tonality and email messages.

Speaker 3 And now your whole business is fucked and you're spending half your time dealing with problems

Speaker 3 instead of going out and growing the business. When

Speaker 3 what people, what I feel like so many are missing, and I know this because at different times in my life, I've missed this, is like,

Speaker 3 what am I supposed to be doing? You know how many guys I talk to? I mean, you know, you know, you do the same thing I do. How many guys do you talk to that

Speaker 3 you can see the energy in them? You can see that they're intelligent and talented at something, right?

Speaker 3 And you're like, like from your perspective, you see this aura of potential, you know, like around their body. And they're like, but I have no clue what I'm supposed to be doing.

Speaker 3 Like, I'm working this job. I'm paying the bills, but I really want to do this thing over here, but I don't know if I should.
And, and, but then I really like doing this thing over here too.

Speaker 3 So maybe I should start a business there. Or I watched this TikTok video and they said I could make a bunch of money in the TikTok shop.
So maybe I should start a TikTok.

Speaker 4 And you're like, all of a sudden, you're like, bro, like pick a fucking lane, you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 And,

Speaker 3 you know, that's a very hard thing. How do you, when you get someone who, who does have ability and drive and like, how do you help them start to harness it? How do people start to know?

Speaker 3 Like, like, they're like, Michael, I believe you, like, I believe in winning. I believe in get after it.

Speaker 4 I'm not sure what game to play.

Speaker 3 I feel like that's a big part of the problem today is people just simply can't figure out what game they should be playing.

Speaker 4 So when a, when I have an elite man, a generous, a driven man come to me, he buys my book, he joins my mastermind, whatever the hell he does.

Speaker 4 The number one thing and the only thing, like one of your speeches, the only thing that I could, one thing to 10x his life

Speaker 4 is the first thing I say, Ryan, like whether he was a pro-hockey player, pro-football player, whether he's a nine-figure entrepreneur, a man without a mission is a man without balls.

Speaker 4 So we don't go any further than that.

Speaker 4 And I get these men and some brave women in my program and they think about

Speaker 4 when they get up in the morning, they pray about their mission. When they go to bed at night, they ask their subconscious to think about their mission.

Speaker 4 When they go for a walk in the morning for an hour, half an hour outside without their phone, they think about their mission.

Speaker 4 They talk to their kids about their mission. They talk to their wife about their mission.
It's all about the mission.

Speaker 4 Any great leader that you've developed that's gone from a people pleaser or one of these cupcakes or one of these poodles is a man or a woman on a mission.

Speaker 4 And a man or a woman with no mission, they have no mental, they have no mental balls whatsoever.

Speaker 4 So when a guy like you goes to a barbecue or a ball game or to church and somebody walks up to you, you can instantly tell

Speaker 4 whether they are a man on a mission. You can see it, Ryan, in their eyes.
You can feel it in their voice. their high frequency, their high agency, their body language.

Speaker 4 They cannot not talk about their mission. When they talk to a guy like you,

Speaker 4 you get get chills and they get chills. When they talk about their mission, it's like the hair starts to stand up on the back of our head.

Speaker 4 And it's contagious. And the leaders that are on a mission, all of a sudden, they become magnetic to money.
Money quickly becomes no problem. Money loves a man on a mission.

Speaker 4 They become magnetic to the opposite sex. They become magnetic to good fortune.
They become magnetic to other people because they're they're a man or a woman on a mission.

Speaker 4 But when my guys and gals, when they finally, and I call it something bigger than yourself, because they say to me the same as you, I don't know what my purpose is, Michael.

Speaker 4 I don't know what God wants for me.

Speaker 4 And I'm like, God wants you to be a man on a mission.

Speaker 4 And if you'd put the cell phone down and you'd get off TikTok and you'd stop watching the NFL for nine hours a day, God's trying to tell you, your creator is trying to tell you, this is what I need you to do to serve other people.

Speaker 4 So my guys, Ryan, gradually, it doesn't happen in one hour, they gradually become a man or a woman on a mission that's based in service. That's the secret.
It's based in service.

Speaker 4 They've literally, for the first time in their life, find something that's bigger than themselves.

Speaker 4 And you and I are both doing this. Like, I haven't had to work since 2017.

Speaker 4 Here I am, you know, consulting with other men and women because I'm a man on a mission and I've found something bigger than myself. And it took me months to find my latest calling.

Speaker 4 When I bought my first hockey team, my mission was to win a Barclay Cup. When I got in the insurance business, my mission was to become the number one agent in the nation.
I sell that.

Speaker 4 I start a barber shop. The mission was to be the number one.
I've been on a mission as a husband for a while, as a father.

Speaker 4 So some missions are a month, some missions are 30 years, but you have to be on a mission. And it changes everything.
And you know this better than anybody.

Speaker 4 Less than 1% of 1% of 1% of 1% of the people you meet today, whether it's at your kids' school or whether it's at the ballpark, Nobody's on a mission.

Speaker 4 But when you meet that man or woman who's on a mission, you can just feel it. You're magnetic.
They cannot not talk about it. It's like me coming on this podcast.

Speaker 4 Like, I'm like, I'm going to go talk to Ryan. I don't do podcasts anymore because I like talking to men who are on a mission.
If you're not on a mission, I'm not going to talk to you.

Speaker 4 I'm a man on a mission. And nothing comes before the mission.
So I don't participate in anti-social media. I don't follow the news.
I don't follow politics.

Speaker 4 I built a seven-figure company again without even trying because I'm on a man on a mission. When my marriage is struggling, it's when I'm not a man on a mission.

Speaker 4 When I was a lousy parent in the first couple of years of my daughter's life, I wasn't a man on a mission.

Speaker 4 And it's normal to lose your way, but you have to continually bring yourself back to men on a mission.

Speaker 4 When Nick Sabin went to Alabama and lost for the first three to four seasons, that's a man on a mission. So now Sabin retires and he goes on TV.

Speaker 4 That's the next mission. You know, wherever Bill Parcells went in the NFL to take over the worst team from the pet, from the outhouse to the pet house, man on a mission.

Speaker 4 Elon Musk is a man on a mission.

Speaker 4 Like it's costing him billions of dollars. It's costing him.
He doesn't give a shit. He's a man on a mission.
Trump has done the unthinkable. Trump is unreasonable.
You can't be president.

Speaker 4 You'll never win. He's a man on a mission.
And as you can see with those guys, Margaret Thatcher was a woman on a mission.

Speaker 4 The Williams, Richard Williams, Earl Woods, those were men and women on a mission. And you, like you said, it's sports, it's life, whatever, but it all starts and ends with the mission.

Speaker 4 Nothing becomes before that calling.

Speaker 3 Yeah,

Speaker 3 I completely agree with that. I think that

Speaker 3 I think there are a lot of people who have never fully given themselves to something.

Speaker 3 You talk to people, you hear what's going on in their lives. I fell into this job.
I started this and ended up here. I always wanted to be this, but, you know, needed to make money.

Speaker 3 So I did, you know, I took this job or,

Speaker 3 you know, I love to golf, but I never golf because I, you know, blah, blah, blah, whatever.

Speaker 3 And you think about these things and you, you know, and everyone's got problems in their marriage and, you know, they feel like their kids are disconnected and don't listen to them.

Speaker 3 And, you know, when you ask a simple question, well, like, have you ever just gone 100% into that thing?

Speaker 3 Very,

Speaker 3 very,

Speaker 3 very

Speaker 3 few people will honestly answer that question yes. And,

Speaker 3 you know, I can't say that, you know, I think it would be disingenuous to say that I've always been 100% focused on the different things things in my life.

Speaker 3 I think you did a good job of outlining that, right? Like you said, the first few years, you weren't the best father.

Speaker 3 Then you went and you said, hey, this is going to become my mission and change that. Okay.

Speaker 3 So I don't, there's no requirement to always be at that level because you have seasons of your life, your life changes, your priorities change. At times, your interests change.
Okay. That being said,

Speaker 3 if you have never. given 100% of yourself to something, then you just simply can't relate.
It's why I think people struggle so much with particular Elon Musk.

Speaker 3 Like I can understand, I'm a big Trump fan, but I can understand logically why someone might not like it. I can logically understand that.
I cannot logically wrap my head around the Elon Musk hate

Speaker 3 because you don't have to, you could do one chat GPT or one Google search or whatever

Speaker 3 and see the amount of work. that this guy has done, right?

Speaker 3 And the amount of value driving products and services that he, like life-changing, like societal, like humanity-changing products that he has built.

Speaker 3 And then we're going to say that he's working with Doge to steal our money. He wants access to our financial accounts.

Speaker 3 Like that, when I hear that, when I hear that, that comment about him, that person has never, has never invested themselves as deeply into something as Elon Musk has. So they simply cannot relate.

Speaker 3 You just, you cannot relate if you've never given 100% of yourself to something. And if you're out there and you have never given 100%,

Speaker 3 your next thing in life, stop listening to this podcast and go just for a month.

Speaker 3 Just do something 100%

Speaker 3 and see how you feel. It'll change your entire viewpoint on the world.
It'll change everything about it.

Speaker 3 And I just, I'm shocked at how few people have ever been willing to fully give themselves to a thing.

Speaker 4 Well, that goes back to Ryan afraid of winning, sedating and medicating. Now it's in your phone.
But here's a big point that I make with my athletes and my students and my daughter.

Speaker 4 Being passionate about something or curious about something isn't enough. So a guy like you,

Speaker 4 people would look at you and say, you know,

Speaker 4 Ryan's really passionate about coaching. And to that, I say, yes, he is.
But the next,

Speaker 4 what separates separates you from everybody else is you found a mission that you're obsessed with. I don't want anything to do with anybody that's not obsessed about their mission.

Speaker 4 So I don't go to lunch. I don't go to dinner.
I don't go visit my sister. I don't do anything with people that aren't on a mission.

Speaker 4 And I'm way, way too far gone to spend time with beta males and gamma males who talk about the weather or talk about Elon Musk or talk about, I'm like, tell me about your mission.

Speaker 4 So obsession, my dad said to me, so I walk into my dad, my dad says, you know, you're interested in taking over the family insurance business. And this is way back in the day, 20 years ago.

Speaker 4 He said, don't you even think of buying this business unless you're going to take this to the next level, 10x, and this becomes your obsession.

Speaker 4 Don't buy it if you're passionate about it. Don't buy it if you're curious about it.
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Speaker 4 a mission. Then I walk into my dad's office five years later.
I said, dad, I'm going to take over this bankrupt junior hockey team. Nobody can win in a small community.

Speaker 4 He says, the only question you have to answer is, are you on a mission? Will this be your next mission? I said, absolutely. He goes, buy it.

Speaker 4 So this is the same thing is, is we just have to keep asking our creator, what's the next calling? What's the next purpose? And I'm sorry, but passion doesn't work. Passion isn't enough.

Speaker 4 When I won a Berkeley Cup with my hockey team in 2019,

Speaker 4 you want to talk about a force, a powerhouse, but we couldn't win for six straight years. We always lost in the finals, in game six and game seven.

Speaker 4 I walk into my dad's office. I said, Dad, I don't know what it is, but we just can't win that championship.
And he said, you need to fill that locker room with 23 young men that are on a mission.

Speaker 4 He said, you got a few guys in there that are, you know, they're, they're curious about winning. They're, they're, they're, you know, they've got some passion.

Speaker 4 But he said, you need to fill that locker room with trainers, with coaches, and with athletes that are sick to their stomach when they come up short.

Speaker 4 And he said, when you lost last night, you know, he said, how many people in there were were beyond, how many people in there were suffering physically, suffering mentally.

Speaker 4 He says, anybody that wasn't sick to their stomach when they lost, you need to upgrade and replace. And that goes back to obsession.
So you're a man on a mission. I can tell it in your voice.

Speaker 4 I can tell it when I talk to you. I can tell it when I watch a video, but you're not passionate about it.
You are passionate, but you're obsessed. And you're talking about going to speak.

Speaker 4 Nobody wants to fly. Nobody wants to go to the the airport.
Nobody wants to live in a hotel. Giving the speech is the 90 minutes of fun.

Speaker 4 But what gets you through all that other horseshit is the fact that you're obsessed with what you're doing and you're a man on a mission. And this stuff is so contagious in your home.

Speaker 4 Nothing drives me crazier than life balance talk. Are you kidding me?

Speaker 4 I grew up at a kitchen table where my dad and mom sat down and they talked about winning, they talked about losing, they talked about the markets, they talked about marketing, they talked about money, they talked about, there was no doors in our house.

Speaker 4 There was no, okay, we're gonna now family. There's no such thing, life balance, seamless living.
So your kids can feel your obsession. Your wife can feel your obsession.

Speaker 4 And I tell my guys when they come to me looking for life balance, I'm like, you don't need life balance. You need to become a man on a mission where there's no longer any doors in your life.

Speaker 4 There's no work life. There's no personal life.
It's just all one life. And that's building your badass world where you build your business around your life, not your life around your business.

Speaker 4 But you can smell obsession and you can smell a man or woman who's on a mission. Yeah, I use, and on this show, we use the word harmony.

Speaker 3 You need to find harmony in your life, right?

Speaker 4 You do need to have time for your kids.

Speaker 3 You do need to have time for your spouse. You do need to take time for yourself.
That could be working out or going for a walk, as you said.

Speaker 4 But

Speaker 3 to me, what you're trying to do is harmonize your life, not balance it. Because harmonies flow, right? If you've ever been in New Orleans and listened to a jazz band, right? Like

Speaker 3 the, the, the, the melody, the beat, it changes, but it's always harmonized.

Speaker 4 It's always, right?

Speaker 3 So they're moving, they're adapting, they're morphing, they're picking up tempo, they're reducing tempo, they're moving from, you know, one instrument out front to another.

Speaker 3 Someone else takes takes the lead. You know, they switch to a different style, always in harmony.
So, so what, what that, what I believe that concept allows us to do is say, like,

Speaker 3 what I, what, what took me a long time to realize, like, I don't think I really found, I think I operated from a place of passion for most of my life until I figured out something that allowed me to find my mission, which was I

Speaker 3 do not extract value from my own achievements.

Speaker 4 I don't, don't, right?

Speaker 3 I love winning, love it, hate losing, love winning, want to win, but

Speaker 3 I extract far more joy

Speaker 4 from

Speaker 3 giving someone a tactic or an idea or holding someone accountable or just

Speaker 3 injecting energy into someone so they go out and do that thing and get pat and watching their success when I, others' success. And then once that

Speaker 3 set in my brain, that like,

Speaker 3 oh, this is who I, then my mission became easy. Everything I did was about helping people achieve their own success, right?

Speaker 3 Like, uh, so I had my own insurance agency, been in the industry for 20 years, um, started in 2020, seven days before COVID hit, right?

Speaker 3 Put all this money in the business, launch it, because surprisingly, launching an insurance agency from scratch is not cheap, right?

Speaker 3 Launch this agency seven days later, entire country gets shut down, right? Whack, nothing, no one's open. We're watching people in China drop dead on the streets.
We think life is over.

Speaker 3 Who knows what's happening? And I said from the beginning, my goal for this business is, you know, I had this goal.

Speaker 3 I wanted to create 20 millionaires out of my business, whatever. That's just the number I had in my head.
I wanted 20 people who weren't related to me to become millionaires because of this business.

Speaker 3 Now, we didn't end up getting that. It's a different story, but that was the mission, right?

Speaker 3 So even though we were selling insurance, The mission was I wanted to create the most productive force that's ever been out there.

Speaker 3 I wanted these people to print money, not just for me, but for themselves, right? And to feel what that felt like and to really, you know, drive growth.

Speaker 3 And then everything I've done since that moment has been, has been helping others become the best version of them. It's why, it's why the newsletter is called Finding Peak.

Speaker 3 It's why at the podcast, it's all about unreasonable outcomes. The newsletter is obviously about unreasonable outcomes too, helping unreasonable people achieve unreasonable outcomes.

Speaker 3 And to do that, it's the stuff you're talking about. It's, you know, we have a philosophy on the show.
One of the, one of the

Speaker 3 audience members actually created that little wood block back there for the people watching on video. It's got the letters GNF.
It stands for give no fucks, right?

Speaker 3 Like, you cannot go through this world and be successful and constantly be thinking, what is he going to think? What is she going to think? What are they going to think?

Speaker 3 If you get yourself in shape, your drinking buddies are not going to be happy with you.

Speaker 3 But you will be in shape and you will have energy and you will be focused and you will be able to outwork them you know like i i used to get asked all the time um

Speaker 3 in a in a previous version of my life where uh like what like

Speaker 3 why do you focus so much on your fitness like i had someone ask me that like you know why do you why is that such a priority to you and i said because when i sit down to negotiate across the table from someone who is fat out of shape

Speaker 3 doesn't have any, I am going to bury them with my energy. I don't care how long they've been in business.
I will outlast them. I'll stall them.
I'll outwork them. I'll outthink them.

Speaker 3 I will just simply out everything them from purely a physical fitness standpoint. Like I can sit in this chair and maintain focus longer than you can.
And I know it.

Speaker 3 I know it because your insulin's dropping or your insulin's spiking because

Speaker 3 you haven't had enough to eat. You're jacked up on coffee because you're fucking hungover.
Your blood pressure is high, right? Like you're just thinking about your next meal.

Speaker 3 and I'm just waiting you out to find a crack to where I can negotiate my way in, right? And it's like thinking about these things through that lens is the only way to get there.

Speaker 3 Like, and just, I, I, I'm, dude, it is, it drives me crazy how many people just

Speaker 3 go through life. They don't experience life.

Speaker 4 They don't, they don't, they don't push life around.

Speaker 3 They don't make a, they don't even try to make a dent. They literally just exist.
They breathe air. They eat food.
They have sex until the the day they die, and then they're gone.

Speaker 3 And they just never did anything. They never fucking got it.

Speaker 4 They never had a big loss.

Speaker 3 Like, okay, you didn't have a big win. Do you have a big loss? At least that shows you went after something, right? At least it shows that you tried, right?

Speaker 3 But like, so few people are willing to fucking engage in this. And we are such a blessing to be put here.
I just don't get it.

Speaker 4 It boggles my mind.

Speaker 4 Well, it goes back to mission.

Speaker 4 Like, you, anybody that comes to me or you, Ryan, who has a problem with alcohol, a problem with drugs, a problem with pornography, a problem with gambling, a problem with their marriage, all you have to do is ask that man or woman, what's the mission?

Speaker 4 Because all that shit goes away. All that just anybody that's distracted doesn't have a mission.
Because, I mean, I haven't had a drink in four years.

Speaker 4 And the only reason I stopped drinking is because of my latest mission. I didn't have a meeting with myself.
I didn't, you know, read a book about it. Alcohol is not congruent with my latest mission.

Speaker 4 And I didn't give up anything. It's just not congruent with my mission as a husband, as a father, whatever.

Speaker 4 But everybody, like you just talked about the quiet desperation. That's 99.9% now.
It's not 1%. It's 99%.
So if you and I meet 100 people today, 99.9% of them are living a life of quiet desperation.

Speaker 4 They're afraid of losing, afraid of winning, but they don't have a mission. But when people come to me with all these vices and these distractions, I'm like, you don't lack time or discipline.

Speaker 4 You just aren't a man or a woman on a mission. When they get that mission right, then everything else falls into place.

Speaker 4 And the big part of the mission they don't know, Ryan, is it's about building a legacy of service. So I don't care who you are.

Speaker 4 You won't be remembered in three generations. I don't care if you're Elon Musk.
In three generations, the way things are going, they won't even know who he is. Nobody knows who Thomas Edison was.

Speaker 4 Nobody really knows what Reagan did. Nobody knows other than a couple things, you know, Winston.

Speaker 4 So get over yourself with the people pleasing. Your great-grandkids won't know anything about you unless you educate them on it.

Speaker 4 But if you want any legacy beyond 15 minutes after your funeral, you need to live a life of significance. And a life of significance is a man or woman on a mission serving other people.

Speaker 4 And if you do not serve other people, whether it's coaching baseball or helping men or helping women or helping the Rotary Club, you'll be forgotten 15 minutes after your funeral.

Speaker 4 Maybe your wife, maybe your kids will be teary-eyed for a couple days, but there's no legacy. So for my guys, it's all back to significance.
How can you serve more people?

Speaker 4 And it's interesting when you plant this seed in a person's head and they sleep on it and they walk about and they journal and they think about it.

Speaker 4 All of a sudden, that mission will gradually come to them. This is the next mission.
And the mission can be writing a book. It could be publishing some of your music.

Speaker 4 It could be feeding starving children in the third world. It could be winning a Super Bowl.
The mission can be anything. But guys like you, a guy like you can't give a person a mission.

Speaker 4 It has to be authentic.

Speaker 4 you want to be the best husband and father in the world whatever it is it has to be that person's mission and then once that happens the quiet desperation vanishes my guys come to me anxious depressed medicated sedated living a life of quiet desperation

Speaker 4 the second they find their mission

Speaker 4 They are completely transformed as husbands, fathers, and it's amazing because like you do, their their kids want to hear the stories about the mission at the kitchen table.

Speaker 4 Their wife wants to hear about the mission. They're getting in better shape.
Their sex life improves. Everything improves because a man on a mission is the most magnetic person on earth.

Speaker 3 I had a guy that I know

Speaker 3 from around town, good guy. comes up to me and lets me know that he's getting a divorce.
And I got divorced three years ago. And,

Speaker 3 you know, I could tell he was upset about it. It was her decision.
And he's, he's a nice enough guy.

Speaker 3 You know, and I'm just chatting to him, listening to him talk. And, you know, he didn't ask me for anything.
And I certainly wasn't about to inject my thoughts into his life.

Speaker 3 I was just letting him speak. But in listening to him, one thing became very clear to me.

Speaker 3 And,

Speaker 3 you know, judge me for this thought or not, but I said to myself, I don't blame her.

Speaker 3 like you've given up dude like you're 40 pounds easily overweight you don't you dress like a slob um

Speaker 3 you kind of

Speaker 3 don't really do a whole lot you know what i mean like if you're a woman and you you are looking for a partner even an equal partner let alone a protector or uh whatever whatever role whatever role is your however your relationship is set up not trying to judge that right um

Speaker 3 you're you're none of those things for her like why would she come home? Like, you know, and he was bitching about like, you know, he made a comment about his sex life and very sparse.

Speaker 3 And I just was like, dude,

Speaker 3 I just, you know, in my head, I'm playing out what I would say to him, like, if he was paying me, you know, if he was a coaching client, but I was like, dude, I would have just said, hey, turn, stand up, turn around, look at yourself in the fucking mirror.

Speaker 3 Would you bang you?

Speaker 4 I mean that.

Speaker 3 Like Jordan Peterson,

Speaker 3 one of my all, I mean, I love Jordan Peterson. Jordan Peterson has pulled me out of some deep holes.
I'm a big fan of his philosophy. And he talked, when he's talking about particularly men

Speaker 3 in relationships,

Speaker 3 I think as guys,

Speaker 3 this, you know, this, this, this

Speaker 3 idea that we're discussing infiltrates and corrupts our relationship, particularly with other women or with women, sorry.

Speaker 3 In so much as like, we feel it's our.

Speaker 3 obligation, like, like our wife is obligated to have this connection to us, to give a shit about what we have to say, to have sex with us, to, you know, support.

Speaker 3 And it's like, how about, and this is Jordan Peterson's take, how about you become the version of the person that she should respect and want and is attracted to physically and wants to support and wants to wonder how your day.

Speaker 3 If you come in and you're a dick or you're lazy or you're mopey or you have nothing to fucking say or you look like a slob or you're fat or you don't have any, you know,

Speaker 3 fuck mission, like just have a little bit of passion in your body about something right like outside of cracking beers or getting high at the end of the night or stuffing your face and video games god forbid i mean there are people my age who play fucking video games for hours at night like guys i hate to be fucking judgy but like if you have a problem in your life and you play video games at night I can give you one quick thing that's probably going to help get, you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 Like, now if your life is absolutely perfect and everything's fucking amazing amazing and all your relationships are amazing, your business is amazing, and how you unwind is two hours of video games at night.

Speaker 3 Hey, God bless you. But I don't think that's the case for most of the guys that are doing these things.
And it's like, like,

Speaker 3 you get to bitch

Speaker 3 when

Speaker 3 you've done the things to put yourself in the position to be successful and she still tells you to go fly a kite. I'll listen to that bitch.

Speaker 3 Now, you still need to get past it, but I'll listen to the bitch. But I can't listen to a bitch from a guy who's essentially given up and then expects his female to stay with him.

Speaker 3 Like, you know what I mean? Like, you didn't, you didn't give her a reason. You didn't make her want to stay with you.
Like, like, you had the whole shot. You're the incumbent.

Speaker 3 Like, just get your shit together. Like, be a little fucking passionate.
Go for a jog. Ask her how her day went.
Like.

Speaker 3 There's some simple things you could do here, but you said it wasn't his mission to be a good husband and therefore he wasn't. And now he is getting divorced.
And it's sad. You don't want to see it.

Speaker 3 The kid's a real good kid. I hope he doesn't get fucked up from it.
But it's like, dude, you put yourself in this position. Like, and that goes for everything in our lives.

Speaker 3 If you're not happy with business, you can change it. Like, it's there for you guys.
Like, listen to what Michael's saying. How many people have you coached?

Speaker 4 Thousands, right? Like.

Speaker 3 It's there for you. Your life is, you could be, I don't care if you're 65 years old.
Like you can change the course of your life, but you got to, as Michael said, you got to find this mission.

Speaker 3 You got, you have to get something and fucking get after it. Like just get after something and watch how it changes.

Speaker 3 Watch how it morphs into the other aspects of your life. It's incredible.

Speaker 4 One of the sayings I have written on my home gym wall is, when the king does not rise, the kingdom dies.

Speaker 4 And that goes back, of course, Ryan DeMission.

Speaker 4 When the king does not rise, the kingdom dies.

Speaker 4 So I'll say to my guys that are struggling at home, maybe they've got no passion in their marriage, maybe they're disconnected from their kids or grandkids.

Speaker 4 When you walk in that door every night, are you a high frequency man or are you a low frequency poodle?

Speaker 4 And the majority of guys that are having struggles in their home, the king is no longer rising.

Speaker 4 And when you walk in there as a high frequency man with the body language, the breathing, the attitude, the storytelling, you make yourself magnetic to the opposite sex.

Speaker 4 You make yourself magnetic to your children, your grandchildren. You make yourself magnetic to money.

Speaker 4 And the opposite, everything you just discussed, is what repels winning like nothing else. One word, neediness.
I call it men in diapers. Men in diapers.

Speaker 4 So 99.9% of men are scared little boys in 2025. men in diapers showing up as scared little boys.
And they're needy, needy, needy.

Speaker 4 Their body language, their breathing, their mentality, the cell phone use, the porn, the drugs, the alcohol, what you do.

Speaker 4 They're men in diapers. So all you have to do is rise as a king.
And how do you rise as a king? You get on a mission that'll never end,

Speaker 4 and everything else trickles downhill from there. My younger brother, David,

Speaker 4 founded his own law practice. Well, guess what? Guess what my younger brother deals with from time to time? Divorce.

Speaker 4 So I'll never forget at my, at my stag 20 years ago, I was lying there in bed one morning. I said to my brother, I said,

Speaker 4 what's the real reason? that marriages end 50% at the time, more now. And he said, well, he says, I'm going going to surprise you.
He says, Number one, which you know is money.

Speaker 4 People fight about money problems. That's why it ends.
But he says, Number two, you'll never believe. And I could, I said, what is it? He says, he says, the man stops growing.

Speaker 4 And he's a Tony Robbins guy. He's like, the man is no longer dangerous, as Dr.
Peterson would say. He's no longer weaponized.
He's now a needy little bitch.

Speaker 4 And he's literally repelled his wife or girlfriend from him because neediness repels, repels money, winning, luck, the opposite sex, like nothing else. You know, and that's what men in diapers are.

Speaker 4 They're, they're needy little men. So like you said, you can instantly become a king.
You can literally decide to walk through the door at 6 p.m. at night.
a high frequency man, a high frequency man.

Speaker 4 And you can start to work on your health. You can start to work on your language.
You can start to work on all this stuff. And gradually you just rise a little more and a little more.

Speaker 4 And when my marriage has struggled, my wife literally stops me, Ryan, at the island in the kitchen when I start to, you know, not be a man on the mission from time to time.

Speaker 4 And she always looks me in the face and says, just remember, I married a king. If you're not going to be a king, there's going to be lots of problems.
And this is where I become a needy little guy.

Speaker 4 And I'm like, I'm going to spend more time with you guys. Let's do this.
And she goes, we don't need it. We need to be led by a king.
And my wife is the queen. But we don't need any of that stuff.

Speaker 4 We just need you to be a man on the mission, share your mission with us, include us in your mission. And when the king rises,

Speaker 4 the kingdom rises as well. But that's exactly who you deal with.
That's exactly who I deal with. When the king king does not rise, the kingdom dies.

Speaker 3 Yeah, I'm going to, I'm going to wrap up our conversation with this idea from Peterson because I think it encapsulates what we've talked about.

Speaker 3 Expanding on your be dangerous thing. You know, he talks about there's no nobility and being kind.
There's none. Anyone can be kind.
It's easy. It's easy to be kind and soft and kind, kind.

Speaker 3 I mean, be nice, be nice, right? We've been taught that the ultimate virtue is being nice, which is, in my experience, the farthest thing from the truth that exists.

Speaker 3 What Peterson says, and I found this to be true in my life time and time again, the noble man is the dangerous man who chooses to be kind.

Speaker 3 So when you listen to someone and they are spouting off at you about being aggressive or your masculinity or your tone or your energy, because I get accused all the time of having too much energy, you have too much energy, too much energy.

Speaker 3 And it used to bother me. Now I'm just like, go fuck yourself.

Speaker 3 If you don't like the energy, then just don't hang out with me. That's the way it is.
Sorry. But, you know, this idea that like

Speaker 3 you thinking you need to go through life being nice to everyone in the classic sense is you being noble is absolutely wrong unless you can be dangerous. You need to have the propensity for danger.

Speaker 3 Can you, and, and I know that in our society today, people look at this and they can't handle it, but it's like, can you throw a fucking fucking punch?

Speaker 3 If you, your wife, and your kid are walking down the sidewalk and someone comes up and threatens you physically, can you even try to defend yourself physically?

Speaker 3 Right?

Speaker 3 Do you have the winning business mentality where you can go into a situation and sell something or negotiate someone or convince someone to come work for you? Like, do, you know, or do you cave?

Speaker 3 Do you walk in and say, well, I'm tired today, so I'm going to take the day. That's not a dangerous person.
And when you're kind and nice, you are not noble. There's nothing.
It's not nobility.

Speaker 3 Only the dangerous who choose to be kind are noble. And I think this is, I think that is in large part a result of having a mission and getting the fuck after it.

Speaker 3 Michael, this has been an incredible conversation. I appreciate the hell out of you.
For anyone who's listening and wants to get deeper into your world, how do they do that?

Speaker 4 Join my daily email, which I include a video. It's just me out walking in the morning.

Speaker 4 Admittedly, my videos are not everybody's cup of whiskey, but

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Speaker 4 That's my email list. And I shot a video every day for two years.
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