Hosting 101, YouTube Fame & Batched Cocktail Madness with Mamrie Hart

My first video might have been 2010.

Wow.

And she was watching it.

Probably.

No.

Corrupting.

How old are you?

How old am I?

30 years old.

Okay, so I was definitely corrupting you.

Definitely.

But I loved it.

I needed it.

Welcome back to House of Mar, a wave original presented by Duncan.

Shoes on or off, it doesn't matter.

The Wi-Fi password is kiss the cook, all uppercase.

I am Alona, and this is Olivia, one of your hosts.

And she takes her martinis extra, extra dirty.

I'm talking pickle juice.

She's put kimchi juice in there and all the olive juice she can find, really.

This is your other host, Adriana Maher, and she does not trust nor dine in a restaurant that has a neon sign in it.

I've been burned too many times.

I hear it.

Okay.

I'm Adriana Maher.

That's your host, Alona Maher, and she has perfected the meanest slick back.

I'm getting there.

You think so, too?

I love it.

We've traded sweaters, jeans.

We've traveled the world together to watch rugby and see sites and museums.

And now we want to welcome you into our family and our living room.

So we wanted to introduce a very special guest today into the house of Marr, Mamrie Hart.

Hi!

Hello!

Happy to be here.

Well, give her a little resume.

You got to give her, I'll give the resume.

This is really impressive.

So we, and also, we're big fans.

Okay, co-host of the This Might Get Weird podcast.

So you, you're used to this.

You're going to kill this.

New York Times best-selling author, comedian and YouTube star.

In terms of best-selling author, we all here, I think, have read You Deserve a Drink.

Oh, my God.

No way.

You've read a lot of things about my body.

Yeah, yeah.

How it processes things.

Fun fact, Olivia.

Fun fact about me.

Oh, I love to give it as a gift.

It's like the perfect gift-giving book for someone's birthday or whatever.

So I'll usually have one on hand on my bookcase because it's fun to either get to know you if they know you or they don't it's just a good you get recipes you get anecdotes you get a giggle i love it it's my favorite thing to gift guys yeah this this is incredible yeah i'm happy to be the fourth sister yeah and you're tall too so you fit right in yeah

hair colors matching it's perfect

So this week we are in the house of hosting and you have created custom drinks on YouTube, on the internet for pop culture moments, whatever's been going on for many years.

Can you talk a little bit on that?

Like where, what kind of drink might you make for this space, this show?

Oh my gosh, no pressure.

Well, I was bartending in New York and doing comedy.

So then when the internet popped off, it made sense just to combine the two because my kind of mindset was like, even if...

people hate the sound of my voice, they learned how to make a mojito.

You know what I mean?

Like at least they learned something they can take away.

So I was just doing that for years and years.

A drink for you guys.

I would have rolled in a bar cart if I would have known this was the vibe.

I don't know, maybe an espresso dunking

blinded by the sparkles.

You know, maybe something in that world.

But no, I feel like you would each need your own individual drink because you bring your own personality to it.

Great answer, right?

Yeah, great answer.

Avoiding the question, right?

Now, we just went to a cocktail bar that was known for their cocktails, but they were batched.

What are your thoughts on that?

You know, I...

I think people are going a little batched shit crazy.

There we go.

A little lazy.

I think a batched cocktail is perfect if you're throwing a party because I hate to throw a party and then I'm just the one making the drinks the whole time and not talking to anybody.

Blood sweat and teaching.

You're putting in a shift.

Yeah, exactly.

Thank you.

Where did, well, we won't throw the place under the bus, but how did you feel about it?

Not good.

Really?

They were because they were pricey, right?

They got beautiful.

It had like sparkling whatever in it.

It was in a can, and they opened it in front of them.

They made their own can.

Yeah.

You knew?

I knew.

I knew.

Bleep that.

Support local, but bleep that.

Olivia and I were just talking about how

we love going to get a drink and we love the act of like having a cocktail and sitting down.

And that seems to be something that you've bonded over and like something that's been part of your brand as well, just like the act of enjoying something, like not overdoing it, but enjoying it.

creating, you know, with friends and whatnot.

So can you talk a little about that?

Well, I mean, there's a time and a place to just go local.

Yeah.

You know, always.

But I think a cocktail is i don't know it's like sitting down it's a ritual you know what i mean especially hearing you liking martinis like that's a whole vibe you're getting it the glass cold you're figuring out the perfect ratio it's a very personal thing yes right yes you know what i mean yes you got to know exactly what you want it's like a lover it's a lover it's like a full meal in your mouth i love it well that got kind of nasty

we we used to watch your youtube i i wait we i need to watch it more but no you don't we were big into your no you don't You've been like an OG YouTuber.

You were in it like at the start, and I think you probably saw the value, but we love the ones, you making a drink, possibly getting a little bit drunk, but just like being your funny self.

Like we would sit in our living room and watch it.

So surreal.

That is surreal to hear, truly, because it's weird when you're doing stuff like that when it was.

back in the day when it first kind of started.

You never really thought about people are going to watch this.

You were just making fun stuff in the same way that I was doing like sketch comedy live in New York, but then all of a sudden the audience is like hundreds of thousands of people and you're like, oh, right.

but they're seeing me getting drunk in my kitchen it feels intimate but that's what people enjoyed and kind of when it you were sort of like oh this is a job what was that being a part of the internet in that time where you could make a living from it and this is what you do and you create and bring enjoyment to people um this lands it's

hard to

explain to your parents

for sure that this is actually paying your rent and you're not you know like selling your

dirty socks on the internet.

But I'm not opposed to doing that if anyone has.

Get your bag.

Anybody interested?

Yeah, it was interesting because back in the day, it wasn't this business yet.

Like it was almost the goal of like when we talk about brand deals, how we're talking, like the Duncan to say, like you would have had to incorporate that and hope no one noticed it was a brand deal.

You know what I mean?

Like you were supposed to give the air of, or like the goal was to give the idea that I'm just hanging out and I happen to like this thing.

You know, there was no hashtag ad, any of that.

So it was, it was

different.

Whatever.

Yeah.

But now they're so they're so strict about it.

Totally.

You got to disclose everything.

Because I remember when hashtag ad became a big thing and everyone was talking about it.

And I had no idea at that time, but now I'm like, oh, you can't be too sneaky with it.

How long have you been doing like YouTube and podcasting?

Well, I haven't.

Well, now I just the YouTube is only the podcast.

I don't really do stuff on my channel anymore.

I make a living as a screenwriter.

Really?

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Oh, very cool.

Yeah, so all this other stuff is very fun and

I love doing it.

But

I haven't like made cocktails on YouTube in forever, but my podcast goes on YouTube.

I think my first video might have been 2010.

Wow.

And she was watching it.

Probably.

I was going to be.

How old are you?

How old am I?

30 years old.

Okay, so I was definitely corrupting you.

Definitely.

But I loved it.

I needed it.

Now, Mamri, did a certain resume ever cross your desk for an assistant?

Listen, I knew this was going to come up.

I knew this was going to come up.

And as soon as I got reached out to you about this, I was like, as soon as I saw your cherry bomb cover, I was like, hold up.

Girl dinner.

I was just every number going through my head.

We have a friend in common.

Yes, we do.

Ken.

Ken.

I was loopsy-doopsy at my friend and writing partner Kiwi's house.

Okay.

I might have been dressed as shrimp cocktail.

I think it was a Halloween party.

And I want a shrimp cocktail.

And he was like, do you need an, I was like, I'm doing this, doing that.

Do you need an assistant?

I was like, I can't afford one.

He was like, we're going to have her email you.

And I was like, I'm telling you, I don't need one.

I can't afford it, Ken.

Yeah, I know, literally.

And then I knew that would be the vibe anyway.

I was like, Yeah, just get it across her desk.

Oh, I love it.

Whatever.

I was just like, This person invented girl dinner.

They're too qualified.

Yeah.

And this is before I was like full-time working for Alona, too.

So I do my girl dinner, my social, but I also manage Alona, keep her life rocking and rolling.

You missed out.

I got a good one.

Yeah.

I poached her.

You're my show.

You're my.

Now, what is that like?

It's actually pretty good.

Luckily, we have a good, we have a solid working relationship.

Me and my sister would kill each other within 20 minutes.

Thank you so much.

I mean, it's nice because, like, I know everything about her, and she, the way she sends an email is wild, truly.

TTYL, talk to you later, LOL.

And I'm like, no, no, no, we need to be more professional.

So I handle the professional side of that for her.

Have you had to lie for her when she wants to get out of stuff?

Always.

She is like the mom, like, you know, moms used to be like, mom, just say no to this so that I can go.

I don't want to go to the sleepover when you say no.

So like, she'll do that for me.

So it's really good to have her.

No, but it's been good.

So she could just focus on playing rugby and, you know, making her content and having fun, dancing, getting that slicker skin.

Getting that slick back.

Getting that back slicked.

You know what I'm saying?

Whoa.

I hated that.

Cut that shit, Liv.

What the fuck?

Lydia, stop ripping too much.

Getting that back slicked.

Speaking of girl dinner, do you have a girl dinner that is just kind of your go-to every night?

I'm a big pickle.

Yes.

Like, I'll straight up eat a thing of grillos with the fridge door open.

If I'm going to put together, it's the classic.

It's, you know, like a little bit of cheese, a little bit of this, a little bit of nuts, a little bit bit of, but what I do, I try to at least break it up in little ramekins so it feels elevated.

You know what I mean?

Okay.

I'm elevated girl dinner for sure.

Elevated girl dinner.

When you're not in the fridge, when you're not in the fridge or over the sink, right?

Because we also have heard that you love tablescaping.

Is that like

tablescaping?

We love tablescaping.

This is tablescaping.

This is a new, a new interest and hobby.

I'm so excited.

Okay, my co-host, Bestie Grace Hellbig, and I, we watched this documentary called Set, like S-E-T Exclamation Point.

And it is all about how there are tablescaping competitions at fairs.

So this one takes place at Orange County Fair.

And it's essentially there's like different themes to what the table should be, whether it's like magical carpet ride or like.

Dark night of the soul, whatever it is.

And you enter and it's all about placing things perfectly, creating the mood, creating a menu that goes with the theme.

And it's like, you know, it's like best in show.

It's like a Christopher Guest movie.

Like these characters are insane right

we signed up and we're competing this summer

in orange county yes do you get to know what this thing is the theme so you had to apply under certain themes i think ours is like uh searching for happiness it feels like a theme feels like odd i know we might use a little like a what is this one thing called my magnets

there we go got it so we don't know what

we don't know what we're gonna do yet but we have load in on july 12th load in

and then the fair opens and then you get judged by two very judgmental Karens.

Who are they?

Are they just

keeping them?

I think they're just her local newscasters.

They won the opportunity to judge.

Yeah, exactly.

Now, are there Olympics?

I'm very, thank you.

Maybe this is your Olympics.

I was hoping you'd say that.

Oh, my God.

What surprises?

Is it ribbons or is it trophies?

I think it's ribbons.

Right.

Easier to hang.

I think it's ribbons.

Eternal glory.

But I'm okay with that.

And you're competing together.

Like, you're building together.

Yes, only one of us can load it in.

They're very, like you will get disqualified i'm trying to get like some little mics or something yeah yeah yeah yeah

what are we thinking about the napkins over yep put the centimeter right

but there was a fan of our podcast who when we talked about on the podcast he was one of the people in the documentary and was like oh my gosh you guys should do it so

first time ever though have you gone to watch it or just watched from the show uh grace went and saw the tables live last year i've yeah i'm going in blind okay yeah you know what the tables look like are they square or you choose round round or square.

Which are you going for?

Or are you keeping it a secret?

I

know, but

hilarious.

We feel like, I have to save the exclusive for my pod ladies.

I don't remember which one Grace signed up for.

I feel like maybe square.

We'll see.

Okay.

I mean, kind of on that same vein, you have a cookbook coming out.

That was an incredible segue.

It's like you've done this before.

Thank you so much.

Actually, not really.

We're so pretty new at this.

We're not like you.

You a master.

But from the imagery that I've been seeing coming out, I'm like, wow.

This is me on Instagram.

Wow.

Like the pictures are so vibrant and gorgeous and everything is so beautifully designed.

Can you speak about this?

Yeah.

So the cookbook is called All I Think About is Food and it's vegetarian dinner parties.

So it's 10 different dinner parties and it's like your starters, your sides, your mains, cocktails.

Men pair.

There's no desserts, only dessert cocktails.

And then I show you how to take your leftovers and turn it into something you want hungover the next day.

That only takes like 15 minutes, right?

So, but they're all different themed out.

So it's shot very, like, I have a whole chapter that's all like aphrodisiac cooking and it's all like 70s shag carpet.

I have meal for a goddess.

It's all gold.

And like,

they're all over the place with themes, but I'm really excited about it.

I imagine like, you know, when you're cooking, you don't usually use recipes, making your own stuff.

So did you have to just do trial and error constantly of like, okay, I guess this is about a cup and like had to really figure out what you even do for your own recipes?

Exactly, because I'm like an improviser in the kitchen.

So I'm just adding a little bit of this, a little bit of that.

You can't do that.

You just say you can't do that in a recipe.

You have to go

this exact celery seed amount.

And it's crazy because you want to keep tinkering with it.

And eventually you have to go, all right, this is what I like.

If you want more salt, that's your, that's your prerogative.

It's tough.

Measure with your heart.

It was very difficult.

Do you have a favorite recipe from it?

Oh, man.

Oh, man.

It's like choosing a favorite kid.

I know.

Totally.

Totally.

I do.

Okay.

I'll say I have a chapter, a couple favorite chapters in it.

One of them I call the underdogs, and it's all ingredients that I feel like haven't gotten their moment in the sun.

You know what I mean?

Like cauliflower, got its day.

Brussels sprouts got its day.

You know, I'm looking for the pre,

you know, kiss me, she's all that moment.

The pre-staircase, you know?

And so we do like celery root and we do parsnips and we do cantaloupe and apricot and black-eyed peas and all these delicious things.

And it's shot like Viva Las Vegas.

Oh my God.

It's great.

The design has been incredible.

Now, were you designing your own scapes for that?

Like for the photos?

No, it was my photographer and friend Claire.

Lots of trips to the fabric store and lots of painting trellises from Home Depot and just gaudy jewelry, like disgusting press-on nails.

Oh, I love that.

Oh, I did.

I saw an Instagram story.

It was just your hand.

How long has this been in the works?

Three years.

Oh,

how exciting.

Like recipe testing at the beginning.

How long did that take?

So doing the recipes, whatnot for about a year

and writing them and whatnot.

But then it's like when you think about it, and I'll never look at cookbooks the same.

When I, with the other two books, it was like, shoot your cover and then turn in whatever pictures you have from your past that correlate with the story.

This is truly, it's 100 recipes.

It's 100 photo shoots.

My gosh.

So I'm glad I did it.

I'll leave it at that.

I'm so proud of it, but it was like the hardest thing I've ever done.

So I'm excited about it.

So you're saying it's a book like for hosting dinner parties.

Yes.

We, Olivia really wants to get into hosting more dinner parties.

Like, I guess advice on that or how to get into it, because we had a girl dinner party the other night and we, we loved it.

We loved bringing people together.

Or a couple months ago, we had a girl dinner party and we loved it, bringing people together.

You know.

We want to do it, but it's also kind of intimidating at times of like making the food people are going to enjoy, making sure everybody has a good time.

Do we batch the cocktails?

Do I have to spatch cock the chicken?

Do I got to do that?

You know?

Yeah.

Say that again.

Spatchcocking?

yeah that's just a great word spatchcocking just a great word

yeah i think it can be intimidating but as i show you in the cookbook there's lots of things that you can do prep the day before like when i when i would think i'm throwing a dinner party i'm like there i'm gonna dedicate an hour or so for the days leading for a couple days leading up so it's not overwhelming um a couple other tips i have okay i have this in the book i do a thing called an amuse booze like an amuse bouche which is what the chef sends out to get your palate going so what i do is i make a cocktail, like a little jarred cocktail, and I drop it off at my guest doorstep and I say, drink this while you're getting ready to come to the party.

So they show up already a little like loosey-goosey and they kind of already get the vibe of what the flavors will be.

You know, if you're having a Mexican dinner, you're going to drop off your little hibiscus margaritas or whatever it is.

So that's the amuz booze.

And then second thing, I, if people are like, oh, I really want to contribute something.

Well, can I bring wine?

Can I bring whatever?

I go, no, Venmo me $20

towards housekeeping for tomorrow.

Right?

Every party I have, I go, no, no, no, just Venmo me 20 bucks.

I'm going to get someone to come clean the kitchen

tomorrow, and I won't dread it.

And is that because you like to be alone in the kitchen or like you're like a solo cook?

You don't want people helping, you don't want people like you're curating it too, yeah.

So it's like you don't want to

stepping on that.

Do you want to turn it off?

That wine will throw it off.

Yes.

Well, people have different tastes in wine.

You know what I mean?

I don't want a red wine if I'm serving like a cookout style type of thing.

So, yeah, I'm a control freak.

I'm a Virgo.

I want to curate it.

I want to present it as is.

Don't be showing up with your Pinot Noir.

No.

God.

Leave it at home.

Never.

So I don't read many, like,

I read a lot of fantasy books.

But I.

Like, what?

You are.

I don't know.

Are you what?

Like Atratar, you're like dragon and stuff.

Yeah.

But the books I do read is like...

The one book I've read probably in the past, I broke my ankle and I was in a park reading and your book was my park book.

So I read your book as my park book.

I read another book as my like late at night book, you know, whatever it is.

But I loved it because I, it was so fun to like be in your shoes and learn about your experiences.

And like, you can really could hear your tone through the book in it.

And I thought that was really fun.

So I imagine that was different than this cookbook.

And I'm trying to write a memoir of my own.

So it was almost like a good way to to learn from you and how, how to put yourself in it.

And I want to say, like, I think you've taken a lot of inspiration from You Deserve a Drink and This Round's on Me.

I've got this round.

I got this round.

There we go.

I got this round, which is the second book.

Because I think you've read a bit of that one too.

But I remember after you'd read those, you're like, this is what I kind of want my book to feel like.

Like, I want it to be my personal anecdotes.

I don't, it doesn't need to be like sports and the grind and like the rise.

It's also like where you've made mistakes and you've gotten better or you've learned and the relationship you come from.

And I feel like you took a lot of inspiration from these books here.

Wait, so are you writing it?

I've been writing it for a while.

So any tips?

So take them.

In 2022,

I was like, I don't have anything to write about.

What am I going to write about?

And then one day I opened up like a cut water, which is like, you know, cut water is a

distillery.

And I open one of those.

I was at home.

Don't kill you.

And I just started typing and realized you have so much more to say than you realize.

Sometimes Megan Cemingway, who says, write drunk, edit sober.

Is that right?

Well, I did that.

That's how I started.

So I was just getting all this like thoughts down.

I realized I had so much more I wanted to say and there's so many little like fun stories to share.

I just, oh, this happened here.

And it was like, oh, this could be a whole story there.

So it's it's been really cool to write and like cathartic in a way.

And so that's something I'm focusing on.

I know that Olivia being the creative girl dinner wants to do like a cookbook at some time too.

Heck yeah.

I don't know if it's a cookbook or it's maybe like more of a coffee table book because I'm so interested in what other people do.

Well, see, mine kind of looks like both.

Oh, yeah.

That's the key is make it look cool.

Cool.

And then it's not just a cookbook.

True, that's what I mean.

It's a vibe.

And also with the anecdotes, I mean, that's one of the things I wanted to do in the cookbook, and I hope I did, is this, you know, the people talk about blogs where they're like, I just want your mashed potato recipe.

I don't want to hear about like, you know, your grandpa in the war,

your grandpa was adopted in 1910,

which I totally understand, but I also feel like you put so much personality into your food.

I did try to include some personal stories.

So it's the ones that if we were in a memoir, I'd go, How do I make this nine pages?

And here I go, How do I make this half a page?

Oh, interesting.

While still getting some personal stories in there, some flavor.

Food is personal.

Do you miss the space to write more in this book or was it kind of a nice reprieve?

It was kind of a nice reprieve.

I mean,

it would be very long.

You already have 100 recipes.

Exactly.

Exactly.

Maybe down the line.

Then I'll have a chapter in my next memoir style book about writing this book.

Yeah.

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We're just such Vermont New England girls at heart.

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And there happens to be one like close to me here in Los Angeles, which is very special for Los Angeles.

Quite a few in New York City, though.

Yeah, I've got one like on the corner of my street that I frequent quite often.

Oh, it's glorious.

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And it's so American.

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America runs on Duncan.

You recently got engaged.

I did.

Congratulations.

Are you wedding planning?

No.

No.

No.

I'm very chill.

I never even thought I'd be engaged.

I don't want children.

Yeah.

I just like, I, but I love my guy.

And so we're, we'll figure it out.

I feel like it's going to be an a, we're on a trip, let's elope moment, like a spur of the moment thing.

I mean, I mean, do you guys want weddings?

Are you married?

I don't know.

Okay.

No.

Yeah, weddings are a lot.

We appreciate you saying that.

Okay.

All very single in this room.

Yeah.

No, we, I mean, I wonder, though, coming from such a small town in North Carolina and the trajectory of of life that you've had and being so chill about it and knowing you don't want kids, what was that, what did that look like for you?

Was it ever like a battle with yourself?

I think also as people kind of on the cusp of life and figuring out partners and whatnot, what does that look like for you?

I mean, from the small town, like where I'm from, by the time you're 30, you're on your second.

You know, like everyone was, you had your high school boyfriend marriage and then you had your, oh, I'm 24 or 25 marriage.

I never felt that pressure.

Me and my family are like the black sheep of our county.

Really?

Yeah.

So we, my brother got married in vegas after knowing someone for like three days and they were together 12 years well then he moved to australia and now he's remarried in australia to to a wonderful professional clown and

actually that's a that's a love story for that's a story my brother and his ex met on napster like so we don't have traditional trajectories my sister has uh three children she's never been married so my mom is just like whatever you want benefit no pressure from my family at all yeah our oma didn't find the love of her life till she she was 32 and this was in a time when it was you know you got married earlier so whenever she's like yeah you know yeah you have a boyfriend i'm like no no yep oma she's like that's fine i didn't meet your opa till i was you i was 32 you're fine you'll you'll meet him soon and so we've had like figures in our life like our mom didn't meet our dad till she was 27 28 27

and it's been cool like how our thinking on it is like we're never we're just not willing to settle like we've seen that love can take later and then it can really mean something so we've never felt forced or anything maybe that's why we're single but no, you know, we've never

need to force it, I guess, because of the people we've seen in our life.

Also, life is long.

Yeah.

Like, so if you're nailing it down, it's a long time to spend with someone, guys.

Thank you so much.

Stay single.

Stay single longer.

It gets crazy.

Speaking of relationships, I love best friend talk.

I love talking about my best friend.

Is Grace your Grace your best friend?

Yes.

I have a lot of friends.

Okay.

A lot of best friends.

You know what I mean?

When I go like, that's my North Carolina best friend.

That's my New York best friend.

That's my camp best friend.

Uh, but like, Grace to me is sister, okay, I was gonna say sister, more of a sister vibe.

Can you speak to that?

What was it like having someone with you this long in your world on the internet and just working together, being friends, and working together?

Right, and it's not always, it's not always perfect, you know what I mean?

Like, we've definitely had fights and all that jazz that sisters have kept between us.

Um, but no, we've known each other.

We started working together, I think, 15 years ago.

So, we, you know, Grace filmed my first YouTube YouTube video in her kitchen.

We were on, we were in sketch teams together that were in theaters where there's 14 people in the audience.

So we've really like watched each other have a journey and see how it changes and how, you know, your star rises, your stars falls, you're getting it back up, you know, lots of different rolling hills.

And then just the personal stuff, you know, like I was there for her wedding and for she just beat cancer last year.

And we've, we've just, you know, been there for breakups and makeups.

And so at that point, you're like, are we besties or are we familiar with literally blood yeah at this point and we own a house together oh that's right though so a mortgage will make it official

you guys are calling law this

everything

you're married already exactly oh my gosh that's the highball house yeah in palm springs yeah well how did that come about It came about because LA is really expensive and I wanted to, I had like had a good couple of years and I wanted to buy something and I just, it was just crazy.

So I was like, I'm going to buy a house in Palm Springs.

It's two hours away.

It's where I always went to write.

It's where I went and wrote the first two books

and where I would kind of just go and have alone time.

So we bought a house together and we're like, well, we're officially the Golden Girls.

Yeah.

Official.

So you like time share it or like

you're there and then she's there and being?

Hey, Grace, I need these two weeks.

I mean, kind of.

Like her parents just took it for all of January to snowbird it.

And I always throw Thanksgiving there.

And so, yeah, it works out.

I love that.

Yeah, you guys have been with each other through so many ups and downs.

And it's like, like you said, like more like a sister where they're applauding you no matter what's happening and they're there for you.

Exactly.

And they're filming your weird videos.

Yeah.

She's seen some stuff.

She's sweet.

As you've seen by the video archive, she's seen some stuff.

Yeah, I think more friends should buy real estate together.

Okay.

And I'll say it down every barrel.

Every lens.

Every barrel.

Get your money up.

Yeah, right.

Tell them our friends.

We've had a relationship way longer than most romantic ones.

So like they're

trusted.

Common law marriage.

Alona's saying over here.

Damn.

I love it.

I love talking about friends because I think as we found, because maybe because we are single, we've been focusing on our female friendships a little bit more.

And I mean,

it's something you have to work at, though.

For sure.

It's a lot of times like, oh my God, we need to get coffee together.

And then you never do it.

Do it.

So it's like, I've been finding those friends who are like, oh my God, we got to get coffee together.

Okay, let's, what about this day, this time?

And sometimes you're like, oh, yeah.

It's like, though, you have to put in work.

Totally.

And I think there's some that are, you know, definitely worthy for it, but it's also fun to start to figure it out and kind of not whittle it down, but like really know who your friends are.

Yeah, totally.

I've like, I heard someone say about New Year's resolutions, and I was like, oh, that's a great way to think about it.

They were like, oh, I'm not making resolutions of what to change about myself.

I'm making resolutions of what relationships to nurture more.

And I was like, that's so nice.

Yeah, because I will do a lot of, we live in Los Angeles or just life is busy, you know, and everyone's on the move.

So you got to go, okay, we can't just say,

we've got to get together.

You've got to go, here's three dates.

Yeah.

Let's at least get something on the books.

And if we have to rearrange across that bridge and we'll come to it.

And I like friends that are down to be spontaneous to a point.

You know what I mean?

Where I'm like, hey, I have a free night all of a sudden.

What are you doing?

Is it free too?

Let's go get that drink.

Now it's happening.

Let's do it.

Sometimes I fear that my female friendships are holding me back just because they're so crazy.

Just because they're so stuck in.

Oh my gosh.

We get that drink card.

We're going to get a lane here.

Because I love them so much.

They are so amazing that if I have a free hour,

I want to spend it with you guys.

Like, why am I just spending it with a stranger that I maybe won't like?

I want to spend it with those that I love and that are family.

I was recently asked if I thought that having such close sisters

prevented me from having good female friendships.

And I was like, no, I think it's made me a better friend.

Like I have best friends than you guys, but like, I also love my outside female friendships who maybe don't know as deeply as you, as you guys do, but are learning.

But that's interesting.

Yeah, because like the, the love I feel for my friends is like a beautiful cosmic thing.

The thing where you're having a drink together and I'll get like choked up, be like, oh my God, this person means so much to me.

You know, I'm like, this feels like a movie right now.

This feels like a movie.

I mean, you guys watched White Lotus.

We know most of you.

Oh, okay.

Okay.

Well, at the end, the three girls who've kind of been catty the whole season are like, I'm, I'm happy.

I watched that.

I'm happy.

You know, it's one of those things where it's so good.

Where it's like, I.

I saw the, I saw one part of it.

Yes, they're back.

Okay.

They're home.

They're good.

I know how good you are.

They survive.

But yeah, where you really go, oh, all the things that drive, you know, you crazy, drive me crazy about you, I also really respect and I love.

And yeah.

And get to watch and be a part of.

But she's saying I'm just happy to be at the table.

Exactly.

Beautiful.

Thank you.

Do you guys vacation together?

We do.

And we're often doing it.

We vacation more because I'll go play rugby tourists.

So I'll go to South Africa and play.

And we are, you know, in France.

So the family will go.

We call it rugby tourists.

Rugby tourists.

And they'll go.

So I'm just there, you know, playing rugby.

She's working.

She's on working.

It's a multiple shift.

And we're like, we're at the wine tasting in south africa

so then when you're not on rugby do you want a nest are you like a homebody when you're not traveling i think i am but i'm also in this time of my life where like so much is happening so i want to do it all so i'm kind of going for it like i haven't been home in months but i just want to like do all these things so

i i also don't have a I just have an apartment right now.

I want to get a house and make it my own.

I think that's like the next big step I want to do and have a space, like extra room for them to come to.

But we need to vacation more.

We definitely vacation for food and for experiences.

Like that's a big thing.

Have you ever done an all-inclusive resort?

And we don't do those, but have you ever done that?

Of course.

It's wild.

It really is.

Is it good?

You enjoy it?

It depends on the all-inclusive resort.

I like went to one and it had just opened, so everything felt so sparkly and clean.

And

they were having a women in food

festival.

So

you can plan it correctly.

Definitely ask around.

But it's wild when you go, you're telling me this mojito ain't going on my tab?

Yeah.

That can get a little dangerous.

Dangerous.

We're planning a trip.

We keep saying, Olivia and I keep joking because we've just been so busy.

We're like, winter 2026, going to be a little bit more.

We're going somewhere.

We're going to get crazy.

Fall 2026.

Fall 2027.

It's going to be a movie.

We're going to do something finally.

But this has been so fun.

What we're doing is like, you know, we're planning to this and then we're going to go here and all this.

So there's, yeah, we're not resting, but it's also really no, baby.

Pull by the arms.

Go for it.

You make a rugby.

There's business trips, like fun trips as well.

That's true.

We go to, you go to some cool places and I get to tag along.

But that, so that has been cool.

Do you know much about rugby?

No.

Hot seat.

Wow.

Wow.

You've read my book.

Do I look like a girl

knows much about anything sports related?

Listen, I think you're a baddie.

And I was so excited when I found out I was coming here, but I'm a fan of you.

I don't know shit about your sports.

That's okay.

And that's one of the reasons I do it.

Like, if you get to be a fan of me,

that's great for my own personal brand.

If through me, you work rugby, like, I think it's a win-win in many scenarios.

But now I'm gonna.

Hell yeah.

Yeah.

And then 2028.

I just beat that into football.

Oh, really?

I started a fantasy league.

No, you didn't.

How'd that go?

It's called League of Losers, L-O-L.

It's all people who don't know anything about football.

So that was very fun.

And now I'm like, I'm dipping my toe into into sports because it's fun of like yes just building community like randomly over like you just throw on the tv and everyone gets invested for it i love it do you have like a favorite team now no i had favorite players because fantasy you know what i mean you pick and you choose were you picking based on vibes looks i did a little research okay you know the app helps you okay sometimes it was vibes but

or it'd be like i like their girlfriend

yep yep women sporting women josh allen i like if he got engaged, he's going to have a good week.

So I'm going to look at their personal life to see what was going on.

He made a funny video once, like him.

Yeah, exactly.

She just came dead last in your

fantasy March Madness.

Oh, who did you have winning?

I had Duke.

So that actually was a pretty good pick, though.

This is my time.

Oh, I went to Carolina.

Oh, I went to Carolina.

So we won the national championship my senior year of college.

I hate Duke.

Just the t-shirts even being worn on White Lotus this season were like ptsd

um yeah so but i see where you're coming from but somehow i still got last even people who picked teams winning that got knocked out so early went ahead of me so i don't know how that works

yeah me neither so i also got dead last last year

girl I do have a question about, so you've been podcasting for, we're just starting our podcasting.

And I don't know if this is true or not, but I think Olivia told me like years ago that do you and Grace like not talk during the week to get ready to talk in your podcast?

It's tough because whenever we actually hang out outside of the podcast, we find ourselves biting our tongues.

And we're like, oh my God, I,

nope.

Got to wait till Tuesday.

But you got to wait.

You write it down to remind me.

I have like a note on my, on the notes app where it'll just, you know, where if anyone found it, they'd be like, these are the scribblings of a psychopath.

You know what I mean?

You're decoding?

Yeah.

That's what I meant.

No, truly, I'll take little notes or I'll, I'll write down or I'll text myself like something that I overheard.

And then I'm just like, why did I text myself this right now?

But yeah, we have to watch what we say so it does feel fresh every week.

Has it impacted the relationship at all?

Or is it still just good?

Because then you get together.

It's still great.

Yeah.

And sometimes, you know, there's been podcasts where we're retelling a story of things we experienced together.

Right.

And it's more like, but I feel like it works better when we're telling people a new fresh story as opposed to, and then you're not going going to believe what we did.

Then, Grace, you tell them,

you're doing good.

You know what I mean?

So, it really is just going, What did you do this week?

What crazy stories have you heard?

It's very casual.

Okay.

And has your show evolved over the years?

Absolutely not.

Tampa question.

You got it right next.

Not even close.

No, I think the only thing was, and I think it's great you guys are having guests so you can bring in some fresh energy, but like we are so bad at podcasting.

We had one person come on as a guest one time and we were like, no, it should just be us.

So it's just us for 400 plus episodes or something like that.

Yeah.

This episode is brought to you by Duncan because America runs on Duncan.

And I know that I ran on Dunkin at 5 a.m.

when I had to head to my nursing clinical.

And I would always get my coffee and I'd have to get some food.

Adriana, what's your favorite Dunkin order?

I love the wake-up

after maybe a long night.

In the morning, I'm getting my coffee and I'm getting two wake-up wraps, most likely.

Two wake-up wraps.

Two wake up wraps.

Two.

Ooh,

energized for the whole day.

I love that.

I'll switch up the meats.

Actually, I usually do a bacon one and then I'll do a sausage one.

Food is fuel, as you like to say.

I'm truly obsessed with the snacking bacon.

They gave me this to talk about, and I was like, no, I'm eating this.

I'm changing the body.

Oh, yeah, I love this stuff.

I love this stuff.

Oh, we can do a little ASMR.

Okay, cut that.

Wow.

We tried.

But no, snack and bacon.

Who doesn't want a snack on bacon?

I feel like it hasn't been accepted, but Duncan is making it accepted now for us.

I love it.

For us people who love bacon.

It's a little sweet.

It's a little peppery, obviously salty being bacon.

It's so good.

So, like, if I'm in a drive-thru getting a coffee, I'm like, why don't you throw a snacking bacon on there?

Just add that

cheeky bacon on there for me.

Sometimes people don't put enough bacon on.

No.

So now you can get more.

Just bacon.

Just bacon too.

Yeah.

Protein.

I'm allowing protein, you know?

I'm just putting it.

it on pure protein right here.

Hey, can I get one?

Hey, Jana, don't be greedy.

That's Olivia's.

Only one.

Hey, Samar.

Go out and get a wake-up wrap and some snack and bacon.

America runs on Duncan.

Do you ever think about

how much footage there is online of just you talking?

Yeah, it's terrifying.

That was my talking.

Talking and drinking.

Yeah, exactly.

Like, they could really train some AI

to be me.

There's so much we talk.

I'm so so tired of hearing myself talk.

But no, I forget

even stuff that is online.

And then people come up and they're like, oh, yeah, I used to watch you this episode.

And I'm like, come again.

Did I edit that?

I don't remember it.

And it's not only stuff that you've put online.

It's you being in other people's videos too.

Yeah.

In the glory days of like YouTube swaps, right?

And you'd post on.

You'd do video.

Collabs.

Collabs.

I mean, I'm very passionate about politics, but I can never run.

That's her fear.

That's actually, no, that's her fear.

In college, I even had that.

Like, because I studied political science and global studies.

So I always, I was like, that might be an option for the future.

So I was always so careful of like videos people would take of me of what they would post.

Wow.

So I was like, what if I want to go into politics?

And there's a video of me like throwing up in the corner over there.

You know, that won't be.

There isn't.

There isn't.

Of nature, there isn't.

But that was just always on my mind.

So I was so careful.

And now with this, I'm like, I'm just going to be speaking on a microphone and we're talking about like sexy books, and we're gonna be talking about like our crazy nights out.

That's over, but now I'm like, it's not gonna happen anymore.

You're good,

I could go be like a

comp troller.

Yeah,

I mean, it's not like how the world's evolving, though, too.

If you're gonna try to find one candidate that doesn't have a video out there online, it's gonna be tough, it's gonna be a loser, yeah.

So, I think someone don't want to threshold that.

I could be on like the waste management board.

I don't know, yeah,

right now you're on the waste management board.

okay guys

i'm kind of starting to to well i've been dealing with it since almost like tokyo but like that kind of social media fame in a way or like youtube fame how have you dealt with that in your you know years throughout parasocial relationships

oh well now it's like everyone who was a big super fan back in the day that might not know the etiquette or whatnot is grown up.

You know what I mean?

Like I've been doing this so so long that when it was,

when some of the fandom was more like 14, 15 years old, where you'd be like, oh, I don't know the boundaries.

Now they're like 26, 27 and, you know, coming up.

30.

30.

Hello?

Yeah, I've never had, it's never come from a place that wasn't really sweet.

You know what I mean?

I have the same, I would say, my fan base is very sweet.

Mostly women as well.

And a lot of them feel like they are know me.

Yeah, of course.

could can i talk to you i'm like okay i just sat down to eat a yeah come on let's get into it you know so that's been it's an interesting thing because i love it because it's like you know same as you i put myself out there so much so it's kind of what i've been not planning for but it's like your goal you know so it's like No, thank you so much.

Like, I am busy, but I'll take a picture soon.

It's kind of been, and definitely ramped up since like Paris and whatnot.

But I think we're still trying to kind of figure that out.

And, you know, her, again, being back to being the mean mom thing, like sometimes having to when do you get in there and when do you shoulder it?

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I went to like step in.

If people like have a company that they're like, oh, will you just say this to the camera?

It's like, hello?

Where's the editor?

What are you talking about?

And she's so nice.

And I'm like, what?

No.

Good for you.

I get her agent on the phone.

I'm like, you won't believe this.

People these days.

You're really stepping into the role.

I love it.

Yeah.

It's what I do.

I'm right there with her.

During

her time in Bristol, she would go around and say hi to people.

Olivia would go in front of her and be like, only selfies.

Have your your camera out and ready.

She can't sign anything today.

She needs to get to everybody.

And I was, you were great at that.

Thank you so much.

Thank you so much trailing behind.

The crazy thing was when I would say, hey, guys, sorry, she's not doing signatures today.

Like, just get your selfies ready.

She wants to get everybody here in this line.

And then people would still go to her and be like, okay, but just sign this.

I'm like, how dare you?

How dare you?

Her older sister said so.

That's basically coming from Alona Harsa.

So yeah, I'm basically Alona.

What the hell?

Real.

Just sign a four.

Not true.

Yeah, signatures.

Just get a stamp.

Yeah.

She kissed this stamp.

Don't even worry about it.

Yeah, yeah, bye.

Exactly.

Have you, though, like with, you know, putting yourself online, do you, is it hard to find that balance between like keeping your personal and your business life out there?

It's interesting how much that did change is when we first started, because Grace and I were, when we started off, we were doing traditional comedy and the goal, you know, I moved to New York to be an actress, to be on TV, to audition.

And then when we started doing stuff online, I didn't talk about personal life at all.

Like outside of the friendships that were presented, like I was in a 10-year relationship that was never mentioned online.

Yeah.

Because it was, I wanted, in that world, it was because I thought, oh, if people are just interested in my personal life, like they're going to see any joke I tell through the lens of that.

Like I would just like, I just want people to think I'm funny and not be like, oh, does that, is that joke actually about her boyfriend?

Or like what happened in her?

So we were like.

zipped up, never talked about our personal life.

And then as we got older, we were like, who cares?

Like, you know, we're proud of who we are and what we're doing.

And also, it's like, you know, I don't know.

It just became less, less important to keep it secret and keep it separate.

And now everyone has their world online, right?

Because when we're talking, when we were doing this, this was before celebrities were on Instagram.

Right.

You know, and I remember having a conversation with like a celebrity and they were like, I've been told my whole life by PR not to disclose anything and you're putting your whole life out there.

And that was like them deciding if they wanted to get on Instagram or not.

So once everyone, once everybody started doing it, it was like, why not?

Yeah.

You started it, right?

Amy, you started it all.

Wow, we did.

I think we'll have to find that balance as well, too, because I love sharing so much with my fans.

I think it's like they connect with it so much.

Like I share the singleness.

I share this.

But I think there is like

now almost like more of a, that's, that's for me.

Right.

And I'm finding that balance, I think, at times, which like you, you want to almost show everything people think they know everything about you but like there's just like some parts i want to try to keep to myself yeah if you started dating someone would you share that you're dating or their name thing

i don't think i would share them for a while because i and that's happened even when i was you know

um pre-paris after paris i i would be seeing people but i wouldn't post about it i'd even post still videos saying I was single or whatnot, or not saying I was single, but like that, I'm, you know, fun videos like that because

that feels very, not even personal to me, but like

I also want to make sure it's, it's something serious, not just a fleeting thing, because I am, I think, selective about that.

And I want the person who I put out there to be something I'm very proud of as well.

I think that's, that's what we talk about a lot.

Like, I, I have yet to find somebody who I feel very proud of and like who I really, yeah, who I really like, like.

So I think when I find that person, maybe I'll be like, put them out there.

I'm so proud.

I want everybody to know I'm with them.

And I hope I do find them.

I have faith I will, but like for now, I'm just kind of.

You also, you're busy.

I'm busy.

You got

one on.

You don't need an anchor.

Calendars.

Blocked off.

Calendar's blocked off.

For a while.

I was like messaging with this one guy and I was like, well, what does your day look like in October?

Can we get together then?

He's like, what?

I'm like, see, what happened?

I'm seven weeks here and then I got to go here and then I have 10 weeks here.

But playing here.

October,

I am yours.

Winter 2027, we've got a Zoom date.

We're on it for 45 minutes because I cannot give you more than 100.

Oh, shit.

I have a layover.

Perfect.

Exactly.

And that's my thing: also like figuring out, you know, somebody, it is going to take work.

Somebody's going to have to fit in in a way because I don't see myself kind of like you.

I don't see myself slowing down.

I want to come out with a memoir, a cookbook, whatever it is.

So I just, I don't see a lot of stopping.

Listen, you need to go, go, go.

And you know what?

We'll help that.

Duncan.

America runs on the bottom.

America runs on the.

And thank you so much.

And we are set on the Agrians.

And we are set.

Oh, my gosh.

Do you have a favorite restaurant in LA?

Oh, I'm so bad at this.

Lady, I'm really bad at this because I do cook so much at home.

And because here's the deal, too.

It's going out to eat as a vegetarian is a very different experience because there's places I go solely for the vibe.

And I know I'm only having a salad and like, and like some broccoli.

But I'm really into Italian food.

And so any place that's serving up.

So I'm going to, oh, there's a place in Atwater Village, Spina.

Haven't been yet.

We've been wanting to go.

Be on sign.

Oh, but it's like, it's like cool lightning bolts.

It's on the outside.

Sorry, inside.

It's not inside.

I will save it at all.

Spinna is really great.

I love Asian food.

Also out there, Holy Basil.

I love a really spicy Thai food.

We love, love to eat Thai in Hollywood.

Oh, I haven't been.

Oh, I see.

The pork crumbles?

Is that it?

It's a James Beard Award winner.

Have you listened to me at all?

I'm a vegetarian.

That's what I'm saying.

Starmed Salt and I was like, Shut up, Olivia.

I was talking about myself now.

I know, but I'm like, shut up, shut up.

I'm really personal spatch cocking.

I'm just too inches.

I cook meat every night in the cookbook.

I'm like, this is also probably good with this meat if you don't want that.

Like, I'm not, it's not creechy whatsoever.

Right.

You guys cut that on your hair.

I took a year off being a vegetarian in my 20s, and it happened to me at a pig picking.

Oh, you went straight into it.

I went to a pig picking, and all of a sudden, I had like 13 pounds of pork and me.

And I hadn't eaten meat in 30 minutes.

Oh, shit.

When I had to get on a greyhound bus, it was a time.

It might be a chapter in a book.

I don't even know.

Oh, my God.

That's shout out.

That could be the whole book.

I want to read that.

13 pounds of pork on a greyhound.

So many years without meat, and then straight into the pork.

Yeah, it happened.

Pork out of everything, too, is crazy.

It was North Carolina.

It was a pig pic and

what is a pig.

I got to go to the pig parking.

It's like a whole roasted hog.

What's your favorite protein alternative?

There is no soy, saitan, tofu.

There's no meat, uh, like faux meats in the whole book.

And here's why, because I wanted it to be a dinner party book because I like cooking for my friends.

None of my friends are vegetarian.

So when they come over, I'm not going to be like, well, here's a thing that kind of tastes like beef.

They'd be like, well, then I'll just go eat beef.

You know, I want to like showcase doing different things with vegetables and grains and other ingredients.

So I don't have any in the book.

However, I got a freezer full of impossible.

Like, I love it.

I was on a panel at South Buy a couple weeks ago, and it was, I was, it was like a women in food, and it was with the like CMO of Impossible.

And I said, the only thing Impossible is to find the hot dogs in LA.

She sent me

in comes like dry ice just.

So many hot dogs.

It was.

You got her.

Listen, they say, I don't know how to network.

Oh, my God.

Well, I'm interested to read this cookbook then.

I'm like, because it's not how we cook.

We're so like, for us, it's it's meat, potatoes, vegetable type thing.

So, like,

then I would be like, okay, no meat, then you put in tofu.

So, I'm interested to see what that could mean.

Well, there's so many vegetables that have as much protein as a meat alternative, you know.

So, that's more like just the ritual of needing like a meat in two sides, but really, you're gonna get as much protein from other veggies.

So, if I've had a vegetarian food, it's always been like, and it's bacon, but but coconut, but exactly, exactly, but banana peel, pulled pork,

you know,

I'm so excited to try vegetarian food that isn't trying to be something that it's not.

Yeah, because I feel like with vegetarian cookbooks, I was like, there's two lines, right?

It's either like goop and like clean eating, like

just clean, clean with no fun, no drama, no whimsy, or it's like.

Get your side tan sloppy Joe from hell.

You know, like you better wear your dish gloves.

It's gonna get messy.

I'm like, no one bleeds.

Yeah, it's

like I've seen that.

I'm like, what's going on, you guys?

They don't, I've seen that the like steaks they've made that do look like a real steak and then they bleed like a real steak.

Why aren't they called fakes?

Yeah.

Why are they well?

Why aren't they called fakes?

Stakes.

Oh, God.

Should we follow a trademark?

Let's start this.

That's why I want to know.

Get on it.

No, literally.

Mine is the egg yolks that pop.

What chemicals are in that for the vegan eggs?

Interesting.

They do like vegan eggs benedict, which first of all.

That's just going to taste like margarine on that top if you're doing it.

Like butter alternative.

But then it's like a cooked white and then a gooey, oozy yellow.

Hey, they got crafty, though.

I'll tell you.

No, they are.

They're crafty.

Science is incredible.

Science is incredible.

Women in STEM.

Olivia does love a smash burger.

Do you know a good vegetarian burger she can try then around here in LA?

Oh, yeah.

It's the window in Silverday.

They do what?

They do an impossible meat.

They call it the beauty burger, and I probably eat it once a week.

She was just eating at the window earlier this week.

Well, their beauty burger is delicious.

Oh my gosh.

It's yummy.

it's impossible

oh my gosh okay we'll go do that fine i guess we'll try it fine she takes me on a smash burger tour so whatever she have a new section i bring her somewhere now

i love it i just love sisters yeah

we're big we're big foodies like we love going out to eat olivia and ajan are both really good cooks olivia has taken after my mom she's cooking she's cooking with butter and cream and she's making it delicious yeah yeah baking it right right so you ask her to make a creamy pasta that's your girl right talk about the whole hog

but we love the act of like going out to dinner because we're big like um

almost food critics when we go out oh we we just that's how we we we talk and converse at the table is what do you think about this one you know what i think it could have had something a brightness to it yeah a little acid a little acid yeah just give me a lemon wedge what's going on i'm obsessed with reading menus so before you go or something before i go well sometimes it's it's just to make sure i can eat anything there you know what i mean and then i'm because nothing worse than going and your friends being like, is there anything for you?

You know what I mean?

Like, I don't want to do that.

You know,

I'm like, yes, it's called vodka.

We're good.

We're fine.

I'll have a great time.

But I, I mean, I'll read menus in cities that I'm not even planning to go to.

Like, I'll go down a wormhole, like, see something on top chef, and then I'll be like, oh, well, let's see what this chef's menu is like at their place.

Oh, well, what's next door?

Oh, well, I love a menu.

It's my dragon novels.

Okay.

Yeah.

I say PD.

It's my late night read.

spicy.

What do you feel about the QR codes as menus?

You know, I think I'm old enough to complain.

Yeah.

You're allowed.

I need some lighting.

It's just, I think going out to dinner is so sexy, whether it's on a date or with a friend.

And it kills the vibe to have your, like, all I want to do.

is try to put my phone away for a little bit.

And so when you're forced to already have it out there, you know, you get sucked in that's a great point I love that because I do try to put my phone away and then you have to have it out yeah yeah kills the vibe immediately right sexy about it what do you feel about those menus that are like books like cheesecake factory

honestly my book club read

I just now got to skinnylicious apps I've been reading slow

I mean they cheesecave in the end right exactly they say that the bigger the menu like the less

good the food will be.

I guess it's like it dilutes it if you're doing that many things in the kitchen, except cheesecake.

Except I would say the one place where it's okay.

Yeah, and you know what you're getting it every time you're gonna get it the same.

Mm-hmm.

I'm a huge fan of the Hillstone Group.

What do you call it?

Hillstone, Houston, South Beverly Grill.

No.

You might know it by different things.

Apparently, I've heard that they change.

They change their names because if you have a certain amount of locations, you have to start putting calories on menus.

So they go by like different names in different states oh

anyway their spinach dip is bomb yeah

we love a dip everyone go for your favorite dip i love a um a whipped feta dip

so like feta with a bit of cream cheese you gotta get it in there

we were just a train horn

coming through you know a little and then you do pistachio so it's really salty from the feta but then you get some honey and um pistachio crushed pistachios on top Hot honey, girl?

I love hot honey.

On a slice of a slice of pizza.

Oh, some halloumi.

Ooh.

They love halloumi over in England.

We were just there for three months.

There's halloumi everywhere.

They knew about halloumi for a while.

Like you were getting halloumi fries at a pub in the 90s.

Yes.

I'm not that old.

No.

What the?

That has not made it over in the middle.

The Beatles are making it.

Ringo.

I was getting halloumi at a pub.

Ringo freaking loved halloumi fries.

What love me do is them out.

Yeah.

Okay, that's mine.

Is that your dip?

Yeah, it's mine.

I'm a big spinach artichoke dip, but I, or like just a queso in general.

I do have a dip in my book.

It's called that butternut be bone marrow.

And it's a caramelized onion dip that I serve in a roasted piece of butternut squash and top with caramelized onions.

And it looks like a piece of bone marrow.

Interesting.

And with a little herb salad.

So you spread the butternut squash, you spread the onions, a little herb salad.

It's because I was like cooking like the neck of a butternut squash on, or like put it on Instagram.

And my friend who's known me for 20 years was like, is that bone marrow, dude?

I was like, you've known.

Yeah.

I just.

I went right in by cutting up a bone.

Exactly.

That's how I cooked sausage.

You know what?

I think I'm a little, I need a little protein.

Give me a cow bone.

Yeah.

But so it kind of looks like it.

I think I'm going to go fold Julie and Julia on your cook.

Yeah.

You can just cook everything through it for these guys.

That's so fun.

I'm excited for the drink section.

Yeah, there we go.

What's your dip of choice?

I feel like French onion is a little basic, but we had this one recently at the Voodoo Vin.

Oh, wow.

And it was this like yogurt dip.

It had like caramelized shallots in there.

And then there's also some sort of like pickle.

Yeah, olives on top.

It's Persian food, I believe.

No olives on top.

No olives choose on top.

I don't like olives on the channel.

But it was just like, it had like a little bit of like acid vinegary stuff.

It was amazing.

Yeah.

Okay.

So like, I think it's almost French onion onion adjacent yeah i could see that persian onion sure persian shallot the persian shallot dip

let it rep buffalo chicken

yeah

I love hot sauce.

Me too.

Anything spicy.

Yump.

You guys, we need some dips.

No, we're going to, my mouth is like salivating on the corners.

I've always wanted to have a place that's just called sips and dips.

When you go out with your girlfriends, you're like, we just want like some dips and some cocktails.

And it'll be like a rotating menu of specialty cocktails with a rotating menu of dips and chips to dip them in.

Do you need us to censor that?

Cause that's a great idea.

That's a great idea.

Seriously, I'm stealing it all.

That would be good because it's true.

We were talking about it like in England, it's a different pub culture because you can go out and you can get a beer for eight bucks and for like 10.

So it was, I, you go out here, I got like one drink the other day for 16 bucks and I had a tip on it.

So it was 20 bucks for a drink.

But girls, like, I wish it was so much easier just to go out, have a drink, have a little nibble, and it not like, you know, crazy break the bank but also not feel like you're being forced out well come on down to sips dips and chips yeah

one of the i feel like girls especially just love dips like there's something about a dip is like a communal gab or yap station so i feel like girls like love dips even more so sorry to put these gender uh boundaries on it um but one time for a a friend's birthday, we went to a pottery class and we all, it was like champagne and pottery and we all made a bowl and then knew that in two weeks we were going to pick them up and put them in.

And bring a dip.

Put a dip in a drink.

It's not in my book, but couldn't take it.

The next book.

That's the next book, man.

The next book one.

I do wonder, you've made so many drinks throughout the years.

How do you keep coming up with them?

Hmm.

That is tough.

I mean, here's what I'll say is I

Hmm, there's just a lot of alcohol choices out there.

And like, I love infusing things with teas and trying new produce.

And like, when I used to try to come up with drinks, I'd literally just walk through a really good grocery store and be like, could this spice work in a simple syrup or whatnot?

Because what I don't want to do is, and I'm very conscious of it in the book, is go, hey, this is a fun drink that you're going to have to go spend $150 at the liquor store to try it, you know, because all those like prohibition era cocktail ones, it's like, you're never going to use this liqueur again.

Our grandparents always had like at 5 p.m.

was a cocktail hour.

She'd have Seagram's and tonic water.

He would have the same or opaque or something.

Do you do like a cocktail?

I want to do that.

I'm starting doing that like a 5 p.m.

every day.

All right, guys, we got to go.

We got to go.

It's cocktail hour.

Got to do it.

I'll see you at the terrace.

I love it.

I love, I mean, and I do love a gin and tonic.

They're so delicious.

But I also really love wine.

Yeah.

And so you got to mix it up.

Your natural wine.

I'll take, I don't care if it's in.

Yeah.

Chilled red.

I'll take them all.

I love it very much.

And there's no way I'm going to an airport without having a glass of champagne.

Oh, really?

Champagne.

Forget it.

It's not even superstition.

It's not even superstitious.

Forget about it.

It's just tradition.

I hear that.

Well, cheers to that.

No, cheers to that.

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We're here to listen.

And when you want, we're here to help.

So if you need advice, send us a DM or voice note at House of Mar for a chance to be featured on the show.

But today.

But today, you got something for us?

You got a sister story, found family story for us?

I'm not going going to talk about my sister, although I love her.

Her name is Annie.

She's sassy.

She's a bartender in North Carolina.

She's a damn hoot.

Go see her at Dodge City.

Okay, North Carolina.

She got bartender of the year, three years running.

Woo!

Woo!

Family.

I bet she doesn't batch her cocktails.

No, exactly.

Let's see.

However, I would say Grace is like a sister to me.

And it's so, well, I mean, a sister that I met when I was 24, I guess.

And the way we met is we both started doing comedy in New York, but and we were put on a team together.

So I was really new to the theater.

She'd been there for a while.

So I was going in like, you know, new kid in class.

And everyone, we had sketches that were written for us.

And the sketch was, everyone loves Grace.

And I was like, oh my God.

Yeah, she's so adorable.

It's so great.

And the first time I met Grace, it was us rehearsing a sketch where the concept was everyone loves Grace and everything and everyone hates me.

What?

What?

Okay.

And so her first reaction, she was like, I'm sorry.

And I was like,

I don't, I don't know.

I knew here.

It was just like everything I said, it was like the concept of the sketch was like, I would say something, they would be like, that's so stupid.

And Grace would be like, pee-pee-poo-poo.

They'd be like, she's amazing.

And that began our relationship where I was like, oh, I had to become friends with like the most beautiful, funny, charismatic girl.

But so we, we like got a drink after.

And she was like, that's a weird way to first meet

I think with that, though,

you know, best friends work when you have, I, my best friend is the most beautiful, gorgeous girl in the world, but she would never, she's always bringing me up.

So I think you know, you're somebody like, even when somebody's bringing you down or whatnot, it's like your best friend knows, like, oh, no, you're, you're, you're perfect.

You're better than, you know, I love it.

So it's like the world can see you in different ways, but the way that your, you know, best friends see each other.

Yeah.

I don't know if I'm making sense, but like, no, I hear you.

Nicole thinks I'm the, the hottest piece out there and I think that of her right so it's like just

hype men.

Yeah, you gotta be each other's hype men for sure.

Absolutely.

What was the title of the show again?

Everybody loves

that was just the name of the sketch.

It was like everybody loves grace parentheses.

I'm so happy to be on this team.

Shut up, baby.

Truly, we're all lifelong friends.

Perfect way to meet someone.

Look how it turned out.

Exactly.

Is there anything next for the podcast?

Or just like you guys go on tour ever?

Yeah.

Well, right now I'm, I'm going a book tour and Grace is actually

going around.

She's doing her first one woman show.

And then hopefully we'll be doing some abroad.

We just did tour dates in the UK, but we need to get back to Australia.

I need to see my brother there.

Oh, right.

So that's forthcoming.

But no, we're just, what's, what's next for the podcast?

I'm going home and we're going to record it in my little laundry room and it's going to go up tomorrow and it's going to go up every single Wednesday.

like clockwork.

Yeah, it's the most fun, it's the best job.

After you listen to our podcast, you go listen to

because yours comes out Wednesday.

On Wednesdays, we're a Tuesday.

That's your Wednesday.

There we go.

And this might get weird.

May you guys have 400-plus episodes.

I hope so.

Thank you.

Thank you for your blessing.

Thank you.

Thank you so much.

She just blessed this space for real.

Oh, truly, an OG podcast blessed this space.

Join me.

Amazing.

Oh, my gosh.

Well, Mamri, thank you so much for taking time to be on the show.

Cannot wait to read your and use the recipes from your new cookbook, All I Think About is Food, because we all we think about is food.

So it's fitting.

Yes, and all I think, all I'm gonna think about is y'all.

Oh,

new friend, whether you like it or not.

No, I can't wait.

I can't wait for that batched cocktail to show up at my doorstep.

That's the only one I'll accept.

Yeah.

Absolutely.

No.

Thanks for joining us today.

And make sure you check out All I Think About Is Food and listen to This Might Get Weird.

Is there anything else you want to plug?

No, let's go get a drink.

Yeah, I was going to say, we deserve a drink.

We deserve a drink.

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