SEX FOR BREAKFAST B JOBS AND MORE QUESTIONS ANSWERED

And before today's episode, I have to say incredible, incredible news for women all over the world because

girls are making a huge difference for the first time in history.

What am I talking about?

Today, August 29th, Taylor Swift became the first female artist in Spotify history to reach 100 million monthly listeners.

Congratulations, Taylor Swift.

I mean, seriously, what a freaking class act.

I went to her concert.

She's an incredible artist, incredible human being, so generous to everyone involved, so generous to her fans.

Even if you don't love her songs, it's unbelievable.

Now, look at the movies, Barbie.

Everybody made fun of it.

Margot Robbie, I actually posted a video on my threads.

You guys can go there and see it.

Many, many years ago, was giving an interview with Brad Pitt for some media outlet, and he made a joke.

He looked at her and said, Oh, you're Barbie.

And she was like, I'm no Barbie.

She is proof that people evolve, people change their minds.

Now, Barbie is the largest grossing movie for Warner Brothers Studios ever,

with well over $1 billion

in worldwide box office revenue margo alone pocketed over 50 million bucks from the movie and you know what she deserves every penny what a fantastic world

whirlwind marketing campaign she did i love the director gritta i mean congratulations you girls are killing it and nothing makes me happier because

everything i do my entire work is about women empowerment women going after their dreams women making money.

Don't depend on your husband.

Don't depend on any dude.

Don't sell yourself short.

Go out there.

Follow your dreams.

These ladies are proof that dreams come true.

Probably

neither one of us is going to reach this magnitude of success and money, but that's not the point.

The point is these girls should serve as inspiration to really shoot for the stars.

So congratulations.

And girls all over the world, listen to me.

Go for it.

Whatever it is that you've been wanting to do.

A podcast, singing, acting, is starting a business, is starting a new career, going back to school, dumping your shitty boyfriend and finding the relationship of your dreams, losing weight, whatever it is, get out, put yourself by the bootstraps and go do it.

I know you can.

Okay,

Cat Kingdom.

So summer is winding down here in the United States.

Labor Day is coming, long weekend, and then we're going to be gearing up for fall season.

I cannot believe it.

This summer went by so fast and it was so incredible.

I hope you guys had the most amazing summer.

So I was talking to my assistants and we decided to do an episode with your top questions that you have been sending me and that I have never answered before.

A lot of them are very personal, very intimate, but in honor of doing a podcast that is so organic, so real, and so raw, I was like, okay, let's just go for it and answer everything and talk about it.

So here we go, your top, top questions that you have been sending me the past few months.

And by the way, they're from all over the world.

So that's super cool.

But before I fire away the questions, this is a fair warning for those of you who are new to Cat on the Loose and our fast-growing worldwide cat kingdom.

You are entering a 100% organic zone.

This podcast is never edited, it's never scripted.

If you don't like dogs, this podcast is probably not for you because Phoenix is with me 99% of the time.

If you don't like noises from the real world, if you want a perfectly impeccable edited podcast, this is probably not for you because most of the time we record in real places where we talk to our friends, our guests, bars, hotels, their homes, etc., etc., etc.

So it's not always always a perfect studio podcast.

It varies a lot.

However, if you do love complete, honest, real, raw conversations, this podcast might be perfect for you.

And if you do, welcome to our fast-growing community.

You are entering a real life podcast.

Okay, so here we go.

Let's start with the light ones and then we'll go spice it up, spice it up, spice it up and set them on fire because you guys do send a lot of sex questions and i have no problem answering them nothing to hide here but a lot of you asked me how and why did Cat on the Luz get started and I know we have 160 episodes.

I know a lot of you have been following the work lately, but the podcast actually started three years ago, just when COVID hit in 2020.

And this is why it started.

I was doing a radio show on the largest Brazilian radio station in the United States called Radio Florida Brazil in Miami, Florida.

I was living down there because when Anthony, my husband, passed away, we were down there.

But anyhow, I had been thinking about moving back to LA where I grew up, but I was down in Florida.

I was recovering from his death.

I was recovering from my mom's death one year before his death.

My life was absolutely upside down.

Once he died, I faced severe, severe financial hardships.

That's a whole other story.

And I was doing all kinds of work.

I started doing social media management, marketing, and branding for a bunch of clients.

And when Radio Florida Brazil invited me to have my own radio show, I was like, Yes, that's amazing.

I'm a communicator.

This is what I love to do.

Let's go.

And then COVID hit, right?

And a lot of us was like, what the fuck are we going to do next?

My biggest client stopped paying me.

The story is way down there in the first season.

Dr.

Mac Dreamy turned

a nightmare and it's a very interesting story because now fast forward three years later i i was watching an episode of real house wives of miami and dr mc dreamy was there i'll tell you guys a little bit about it later but anyhow um so my biggest client stops paying me And the radio station shuts down and I don't have my radio show and I'm home alone.

I had just adopted Phoenix.

I have this tiny, tiny two weeks old puppy and I'm sitting in this tiny, tiny apartment that i was able to pay for in south beach and i'm like oh my god what the hell am i gonna do with my life and i know that tears don't fix problems desperation doesn't fix problems so i was like you know what i'm gonna vent the best thing i can do right now so i open my computer and i am horrible horrible when it comes to technology by the way guys and i find out about the spotify for podcasters and i'm like okay this looks crazy user-friendly i'm gonna give this a go so i press record on my computer I realized I didn't need to buy all these fancy podcasting equipment because I really could not afford anything at all at the time

and I'm like okay I'm just gonna go for it and I'm gonna vent

so the first episodes of cat on the lose were really me venting about being married for 14 years

to a very successful man.

Anthony was a multi-millionaire.

He was brilliant.

He was self-made.

He was so intelligent.

But at the same time, he was an alcoholic.

And the more money he made, the more he drank.

And he became verbally abusive, extremely abusive as the years went by, and sometimes physically abusive.

And it took me 14 years of growing up,

becoming a mature person and growing forces to get out of that relationship.

So once I did,

and he ended up dying, very sad story, but it's a harder story.

Sorry, guys.

I found myself starting my life over and went back into the dating game.

Of course, I was like, okay, I'm young.

I'm beautiful.

I have very strong sexual energy.

I want to find the right partner for me.

And I realized, oh my God, dating is such a shit show out there.

What the hell happened?

In the past, you would go to bars or you would meet nice guys through friends, events.

Now all these dating apps, what the hell is going on?

People are lying, they're telling all kinds of stories because they just want to get in your pants.

I realized it was total chaos, and I was in a very fragile state of mind after Anthony died.

Think about losing your mom, a year later, losing your husband and best friend, and losing all your assets, everything you spent 15 years building, everything that you ever worked for, and literally having to start life from scratch.

I was in such a fragile state of mind.

Now, looking back, I realize I kept attracting other men that were abusing me in many different ways, but I kept attracting horrible, horrible men into my life.

So I'm sitting there and I started venting about the stories.

I told one after the other.

And as I was posting on my social media, I started organically getting messages.

from mostly women, but guys as well, from people all over the world.

Oh my God, Kat, I've been through the same.

Oh my God, I was dating this dude and he did that to me and he also cheated on me.

No, no, no, no, no.

How do you get out of an abusive marriage?

And I'm like, okay, maybe I hit a nerve and I'm going to run with it.

So as Cat on the Loose grew,

slowly, slowly, slowly, because it is an uphill battle, getting a project off the ground with zero, zero money.

zero marketing money.

I swear to God, I spent zero on Cat on the Luz the first few years.

But more and more people were following and more and more people were talking about it.

So I'm like, okay, maybe I should interview experts.

Maybe I should try to interview celebrities because they have a voice.

And that's how the project grew.

And now I am so proud to say that three years into it, a little more than three years into it, we are on the top 0.5%, most downloaded, most listened podcasts in the world on global ranking.

And I have an audience all over the world.

And it makes me so happy if we are talking about it, if we are opening up these channels of conversation, especially sex, because it blows my mind that this day and age, women get so judged just by talking about it when it's something such an important, healthy part of an adult life.

So if I feel I can do my tiny job in the world normalizing these conversations, it makes me so happy.

And we keep going.

So I want to thank each one of you that listens, that shares with your friends,

for those of you guys that take the time and rate me five stars, even those of you who don't and make a comment like something that I should improve on.

I am so, so grateful for it.

And you know what?

If you have episode ideas, if you have a story that you want to share, please, please send it over.

You guys know all my contact information, everything is public.

Instagram is KatZamuto or Cat on the Loose.

My business, WhatsApp, 305-332-0-338.

And the email contact at catondaluz.com.

Please share because this is an open platform for all of us.

And by the way, if there is anything that you want to share and you don't want people to know where you are, you totally can remain anonymous, which is, of course, something that a lot of people want to do.

Question number two that so many people talk about and ask me: Have you ever had your heart broken?

And the answer is, oh my goodness, yes, yes, yes, of course.

My journey in the dating world after Anthony's passing in 2018

has been very rocky to say the least.

And it has been on an incredible journey of becoming more mature when it comes to dating and relationships.

And in terms of knowing myself, and knowing my worth, and knowing what I want, and knowing what I deserve.

But pretty much, the few guys that I really dated, because I've been in very few relationships in the past few years,

they all turned out like a complete disaster.

I'm still single.

I'm still looking for my prince.

I believe in love, and I think we should never, ever, ever give up on trying to find that love, no matter how hurt you get.

But yes, if you go back to season one,

the very first episodes of Canada Luz, like I was telling you guys, the MacDreamy doctor,

Ming Hoko, who was one of the craziest, the worst dating stars that I ever heard in my life, because I was dating this guy for almost two years.

And I wrote two horrible episodes about it.

Now I laugh about it, but at the time I was crying my balls out.

He cheated on me on Valentine's Day.

He basically was spending the entire Valentine's Day with his ex-girlfriend while I was waiting for him in bed.

And then he came back to bed late at night and had sex with me right after he had sex with her for many hours on Valentine's Day.

And listen to this.

This is not the end of the story.

I left his place crying and in shock that a human being could be so low and so disgusting and so disrespectful.

But I forgave him and I continued dating him for a very long time, for another year to find out he was cheating on me on my birthday.

So you guys can go back to season one and you're going to listen to Minhoko, the longest relationship after my marriage, and Valentine's Day from Hell,

and then how he cheated on me.

Happy birthday to me, how he cheated on me on my birthday.

And I mean, after that, I was like, you gotta be fucking kidding me.

I cannot believe, you know, I'm going through this.

I'm such a nice person.

I'm so loyal, la la la la la.

But believe me, time heals all wounds.

And to follow up the question, the other question that you guys send me a lot is: how do you mend a broken heart?

And this is just my personal opinion.

I know a lot of us, when we go through such nasty heartbreak, we close our hearts, right?

We're like, oh my God, I never want to be cheated on again.

I'm never going to trust anybody again.

I never want to go through this kind of pain again.

How can he do this to me?

How can she do this to me?

This is just so fucking awful.

And I'm actually the opposite.

I have this theory that you need to jump back into the love game as soon as you possibly can.

Yes, of course, cry, you know, take the time off, heal, you know, focus on other things, but as soon as you can, you need to open your heart up again to love and possibilities, because I really believe

the biggest healer for a broken heart is a new love, is giving the right person

the chance to find you.

And if you are home and if you're bitter and if you hate everybody, I have girlfriends that because they've been cheated on, because they've been betrayed, because they had horrible breakups, they turn that anger towards all men.

They start saying, oh, men are pigs.

Oh, men are assanna.

So if you manifest all that shit, yeah, sure, that's what you're going to get back.

So I think putting out that energy into the world is horrible because not all men are the same.

Not all women are the same.

Just because one person treated you like shit or didn't appreciate you really, really, really doesn't mean all the other ones are going to do the same.

And I think the right one is out there trying to find you for sure.

The right one will respect you.

The right one will protect your heart.

So to me, the answer, how do you

mend a broken heart?

That's the answer.

Heal.

cry, do whatever the hell you have to do.

Take a break.

The famous man diet, girl diet, which is a big, nice break from dating and focusing on yourself.

I do that all the time.

But once you feel healed, you're like, you know what?

Open up your heart to love because I know somebody that appreciates you.

Because even before they love you, right?

To meet someone, they don't love you right away.

But somebody that respects you and appreciates you will not disrespect you and hurt you and break your heart.

So, by all means, please, please, if you're out there with a little broken heart now, I know probably better than most most people.

It is so insanely painful, but keep going.

Don't let the assholes win this game.

The right prince, the right princess, the right person for you will find you and they will cherish you.

Okay, let's put a sex question here in the middle to spice things up.

And I get that question all the time.

I don't know why I never answered it before.

What is my favorite thing to do in bed?

So I'm not very kinky.

I'm not very crazy in bed.

I mean, I will do pretty much anything that my partner would ask me to do because my biggest turn on is to do what my man wants.

So, whatever it is that my man would say, very likely I would be game for it because it would come from him.

And that really, really turns me on.

But my favorite thing to do in bed, I have two, and I swear to God, it's 100% true.

Blowjobs, I cannot believe it's called a job because to me, it's one of the biggest pleasures of my life is giving my guy an incredible blowjob.

I love it, love it, love it.

I almost come doing it.

It turns me on so much.

I get soaking wet.

I don't know.

It's just, I can spend hours and hours down there as many times as my guy wants.

It's one of the biggest pleasures of my life, I swear to God, is giving my guy an incredible blowjob.

And it's funny because when I talk to my girlfriends, to all the women about it, most women don't like it.

Most women are like, ew, I'm going to go down and

I find it hard to explain because to me, when I see my guy there laying in bed, whether he's hard or not, because if he's not hard, there is nothing more delicious than feeling your guy getting hard in your mouth.

But if he is hard, I mean, come on, if you, because I only have sex with my man, the man that I'm really into, I don't do casual sex.

So I'm talking about like, to me, there is nothing that turns me on more than seeing my guy hard and me like just diving in there.

It's like I'm turning, I'm just talking about it now.

To me, it's just bliss.

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And the second thing that I absolutely love, love, love, love in bed.

And my guy is always surprised.

Every guy that ever did it, they're like, really?

That's all you want?

Really?

Because you know how guys try to give you RO sex and go down on you.

That's fine.

But what turns me on the most is when

my guy's kissing me a lot on my lips and his hands are on my pussy.

Because I'm a huge sucker for men's hands.

That's the first thing I look at in a guy.

I like masculine, strong hands.

So when my guy is touching me down there, fingering me, touching my clitoris, just going all over.

I love coming all over his hands.

And if he's kissing me at the same time, I'm telling you, I come crazy, crazy, crazy fast like someone that never had sex before.

And I've had this conversation with my partners in the past.

It's not that I don't like coral sex, but in general, general, I don't feel that turned on by it.

I've had very rare instances in my life that Oral Sex really turned me on a lot.

And I have, so I have good memories when that I have because to me, it's very rare.

Because I think a lot of guys they just put their tongue there, like,

and they think every girl is gonna like it.

And because, like I said, my turn on is hands, it has to be such a fantastic oral sex on me for me to be turned on.

So, one time that I'm never going to forget, this was the hottest one for sure, was last year.

I was in my boyfriend's home, and he was not a morning sex person, by the way.

Funny enough, but every once in a while, we would do morning sex because he knew I loved it.

So, I was laying in his bed

in the morning, and I love it.

You know, when you're just waking up and you're a little soft and mushy, and we started kissing and everything, and I was literally laying flat on his bed, and picture him, all of a sudden, he was like on his knees, looking at my body and touching my body all over with his hands.

So, at this point, I'm like, so so horny and so turned on.

And of course, he puts his hand all over my pussy because he knew it's my favorite thing in the world.

And then, all of a sudden, he was on his knees.

So, he bends his face down there without asking me, without anything.

And he gives me this huge lick, like a slurp, like

if you guys can picture that without asking me anything, he opened my vagina with his hand and just licks there so fast, like without asking.

And then he stands up again, like on his knees.

And that scene, that moment, I am never going to forget because nobody did that, you know, unexpectedly.

Like, I'm just gonna take it and I'm gonna do it.

And then he went back to started kissing me, and we had sex.

And of course, I came like probably under two minutes for sure.

So these are the things that turned me on.

And I always talk about that on the podcast.

And I did talk about that on the previous episode when I was interviewing Melanie Curtin, the sex coach and sex researcher from Stanford.

A lot of people are embarrassed to tell their partners what is it that turned them on.

So you're having sex and there are certain things that would make you feel more excited or make you come faster or things that you want to try.

And because you're embarrassed or communicating, they're just in your head.

So what I suggest is, especially if you're having sex with somebody you trust, somebody you like, somebody you're dating, you're appreciating, which was the case with me and this boyfriend and all my partners, by the way, because by the time I go to bed with someone, I have to really, really, really like them.

So what I'll say to you is leave your inhibitions at home.

Leave your embarrassment behind, because the more you tell your partner what you like,

the more you tell your partner what turns you on, the better your sex is going to be.

So don't be shy.

Speak up.

And it's so delicious.

Even when you're in bed, it's such foreplay if you're telling them what you like and asking them to tell you what they like.

And I mean, that's my non-expert advice, but you know what?

It always works for me because I have to say, the few relationships that I've had, I always have amazing, incredible sex with my partners.

And I really believe it's because I am very open telling them what I like, and I think they feel comfortable with me telling me what they like.

So try it out, guys.

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Okay, next question.

I have a bunch of sex questions.

What was my worst experience in bed ever?

I will tell you guys because now I really laugh about it.

It's funny as hell, but when it happened, it was so awful.

Oh my god.

What are my biggest turn on turns on, on and off on a date?

And if I have any fantasies I haven't fulfilled in bed, yes, absolutely.

And do I think the size of the guy's dick matters?

Dun, dun, dun, dun.

I'm going to take a super quick break and I'm going to come back to answer all of these questions and more.

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Okay,

let's go back.

A lot of sex questions here.

We are in the middle of a heat wave here in Los Angeles, California, but I'm telling you, I'm getting hot, hot, hotter here.

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It's distressful.

I cannot believe it's such taboo that we talk about it.

And when girls talk about it, we're labeled like, oh my god, she's a whore.

The other day, a client of one of my friends snooped around my social media and he saw me talking about the vibrator the bunny and he's like oh i can't believe she's selling dildos call it whatever you want why not it's so healthy it's so much fun it's such an important part of being an adult and being fulfilled sexually it blows my mind that people think that it's a big deal but anyhow let's keep going way

uh have you ever had threesomes the answer is yes

honestly i am not turned on by women at all.

It's not my first thing that I want to do in the world.

It's not my favorite thing to do in the world at all.

But I do know that it's the top fantasy of many, many, many men, as it was of one of my partners.

that I was with and he wanted to do it.

And I was like, okay, let's do it.

And I did it for him.

Like I said, this is what turned me on because it was something my guy wanted.

Would I do it again?

It depends if I was like, you know, in a great relationship again, or when I will be in a great relationship again, that I feel so comfortable with my partner.

Um, I might.

I don't know.

It's not really my thing, but I also don't think it's a big deal fulfilling a fantasy for your partner.

To me, it was like, okay, why not?

Do I think the size of the guy's dick matters?

I think it matters in terms.

I don't think the biggest is always the best.

I think this is something very personal, and I know guys obsess about it.

Obviously, you grow up comparing the size of your dick to the size of other guys' dicks, and it's not always the size.

I know some girls love huge dicks, some girls think huge dicks hurt.

So, I think it varies girl to girl to girl.

For me, yes, of course, we want to have a big, delicious dick, not huge.

We also don't want to have a teeny, teeny, tiny one.

But I think most women on the planet would agree with me that more important than the perfect size

is actually

working well, like being delicious, being trim, being clean, being amazing.

And you know what?

Getting hard because I've been with guys, and I know most women in the world and all my friends have been with guys that like it's the biggest disappointment in the world because once they get you to bed, like you know, maybe they're too drunk or they're too nervous or they don't know what to do.

And all this stuff that they should figure out before.

So I think, yeah, a nice

is ideally what we all want, but mostly a dick that works and is very delicious when it's fucking us.

And in my case, because I love a blowjob, if my guy lets me give him a bunch of blowjobs, that's all I need.

And I'm happy.

What was my worst experience in bed ever?

I think I talked about it in a previous episode, but I honestly don't even remember if i talked about it on the podcast or with my girlfriends but i made a mistake of going on a date with a guy um the first date was incredible but i kind of knew he was a player so the second date i went to his house which was a big mistake And he ordered this really nice dinner, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And he lived way up in the Malibu Mountains, which is super dark, very difficult to get in and out of at night.

And I made the mistake of drinking a lot of wine during dinner.

And then after dinner, he started pressuring the shit out of me to take gummies, you know, pot gummies.

I have nothing against gummies.

I have nothing against pot.

I have nothing against drugs.

I think it's a personal choice.

But I haven't done pot or...

anything in so long.

It's just not my thing.

And I don't like the effect of it on me.

But he was pressuring me so much.

Finally, I caved in, and I think I ate like one little gummy.

I started getting so like crazy and dizzy and laughing uncontrollably.

Before I knew it, he was kissing me.

He took me from the kitchen to his bedroom.

And I'm like, oh my god, I can't.

You know, when you're really not into it, and you know, you're doing something wrong, and I didn't want to have sex with him at all, much less on the second date.

And we basically started, he took his, we started kissing and everything, and we took his pants down.

And

he had a big dick, really big, and I started laughing uncontrollably, uncontrollably.

And obviously, I offended him because he was like, What the fuck is going on?

And why are you laughing like that?

And obviously, it was the drugs mixed with alcohol.

And I couldn't stop laughing.

And he tossed me in bed.

We had sex super, super quickly.

He threw a towel for me to clean up.

He's like, Oh, don't move.

I don't want you to get my bed dirty.

No, no, no.

It was so awkward.

It was so awful.

And I was was so high, there was no way in hell I could run away and get out of his house in the middle of the dark, in the middle of the Malibu Mountains, at late at night.

So I was like, fuck, I gotta sleep here with this guy.

So it was the longest night of my life.

I took naps.

I kept drinking tons and tons of water, trying to sober up.

And then finally, really early in the morning, I left.

And needless to say, we never saw each other again.

He called, texted me, but I never even wanted to respond.

I never wanted to see it.

It was a huge mistake.

Lesson learned: note to self and to all of you.

If you just met someone and they invite you to go to their house on a second date, I would say don't go.

Yeah, unless you really want to just go and have a one-night stand.

But, like, in my case, if you're like me and you don't like one-night stands, you don't like quick sex, because it was a huge mistake.

Obviously, everything was all set up to kind of like trap quote-unquote me there.

And it was a big mistake on my part agreeing to do something that I know I wasn't comfortable doing.

Now I laugh about it because it was definitely an absurd situation.

The guy was like naked in the middle of his bed like why are you laughing?

Why are you laughing?

Why are you laughing?

I'm like, oh my God, I don't know.

I'm just so high.

But anyways, yeah, so don't do it.

Don't don't let anybody peer pressure you into doing something you don't feel comfortable doing.

I think it's really lame when guys do that.

Total, total douche, total douche.

And girls, yeah, be on your turf until you get to know the guy better, until you're comfortable, until you know it's something you really want to do.

Don't make the same stupid mistake as I did.

What would be my biggest turn on and biggest turn off on a date?

Biggest turn-on, very easy.

I freaking love, I'm a sucker for an old-fashioned gentleman.

The guy that plans the whole date, that picks up an amazing place, that picks me up at home or opens doors and knows how to order wine, you know, like small gestures.

I love, love that because I think etiquette and being a gentleman is such a dying art.

There's so many dudes out there, it makes me wonder how the hell your mom's raising you.

They don't think about any of that.

They walk in front of the girl, you know, they let her get in and out of the car.

They say, hey, whatever you want.

You know,

I really love, love small gestures.

So that's very easy for me.

Major etiquette, old-fashioned gentleman.

And the biggest turn off, and it's something that happens a lot.

And I talk to my girlfriends and they agree.

And I think I'm going to risk saying maybe because of the dating app culture that everything is so fast.

But let me give you an example.

A little while ago, I went on a date with this guy and my friends introduced me to him.

Super successful, very handsome, wealthy, nice, intelligent, la la la la la.

Fit all the characteristics.

So we talked for weeks and weeks and finally went on a date.

He picked a really nice restaurant.

Everything was going amazing.

Great conversation.

He ordered wine, food.

Everything was flowing super well.

We talked a lot about my life, his life, everything.

So at the end of the dinner, we get up to leave and he's like, let me walk you to your car.

So I'm like, wow, amazing, right?

What a gentleman.

And then we get to my car and I say, bye, thank you for the lovely evening.

And he's like, come here, let me kiss you.

And I was like, and I go and I give him my chick, right?

Because I just met him.

And he's like, oh, come on, give me a kiss.

And I said, sorry, but we just met.

We had an amazing night.

I don't feel like kissing you right now.

We just met.

And we had already talked about going on a second date, by the way.

And then he's like, well, at least give me something.

And I said, sorry?

What do you mean?

Yeah, give me something.

We just had a three-hour dinner.

And I got in my car.

I'm like, okay, good night.

Have a lovely evening.

And I thought, okay, the shoe just dropped.

Give me something.

I guess the guy felt,

you gave me a great dinner.

You got to at least give me a kiss.

Total douche.

And a lot of men behave like that.

So what is the turn off when they want something too quickly?

Giving you a date doesn't give you the right to expect like a kiss, any kind of kiss at the end of the night.

And some dudes are worse.

I've had instances that I was on a date and my friends the same.

And like we're literally sitting, getting to know each other, having a drink.

And the dude is like touching my arm, and touching my legs, and touching my, you know, my hand, try to grab my hand.

And I'm thinking, we're just having a drink.

I'm just trying to get to know you.

It's a little too much.

And most girls are like me.

you know, it's too much too soon.

And to me, that's a huge turn off.

You can be doing everything else right.

If you start being too touchy-feely, like the minute I meet you, like, are you fucking kidding me?

I want to know who you are first.

Let's create a connection.

Let's go on a few dates, one, two, three, whatever.

most girls don't like that to me that's like a major major turn off and one more and i also think most girls agree with me if you and i know guys think that's a big turn off as well so that goes for both sexes if you go on a date with someone and they start talking about their ex

that's like such a red flag obviously means they're not ready to date someone else but it's just so fucking rude and inconsiderate you know oh my ex la la la la la and she looked like that and she did that and he did that and so when you go on a a date, refrain from talking too much from your exes, focus on the date, on that person, because that's like such a huge turn off.

Yeah,

okay, two more.

Um,

any fantasies I haven't fulfilled in bed?

I probably have a few that I would like to fulfill with the right partner, nothing too cray-cray,

but I think I would like maybe to be tied up in bed with my partner that that I trusted very much because I like to feel dominated in my intimate life.

I guess because my business life, I'm always in charge.

I'm always in control.

I'm the owner of my business.

I'm the boss.

No, no, no, no.

In my intimate life with my guy, I love when he tells me what to do.

I love, love it when he tells me.

all his fantasies, his wishes, what he wants me to do in bed.

And if he controlled me somehow, either very strongly with his hands or tied my hands or something and told me what to do, do.

To me, it would be a huge turn-on, and I have not done that.

I did talk about it, I think,

with my ex-boyfriend.

I'm not sure.

Well, we did talk about using sex toys in bed, which I totally would love to do.

I did that once with a guy that I was dating, and it was a huge turn-on.

He told me to use my vibrator.

I started using my vibrator, and he got super horny.

So, I think that that's the two major ones for me.

Nothing too kinky.

I never had like a lot, I never had sex in public ever.

So I think I would be game for trying that, something spicy like that.

Maybe in a restroom, maybe in the car, a little action.

For some reason, I tend to attract shy partners.

All the men I usually have.

are kind of shy and reserved in bed, which is really cool.

But I would like maybe, maybe to spice it up a notch, because I think that's really cool.

And you guys keep sending me yours.

I have a long list of your fantasies.

I will totally do an episode with the top sex fantasies in general men and women have all over the world and last but not least this is a question i get a lot and it's an important question how do i deal with criticism and i know it's hard saying that easier said than done but you need to grow thick skin whatever it is that you're doing

In my case, my work is very public, right?

I act, I model, I do the podcast, I'm giving voice to thousands and thousands and thousands of women and men all over the world to talk about sex.

I sell sex toys.

I publish on Instagram.

I understand

I need a partner who has a very strong personality, who is very confident, who is proud of my work and knows the difference between my private life, which is total opposite of my work and my work.

But the people that criticize me, honestly, they don't know anything about me.

So if they call me a whore, if they call me promiscuous, if they call me any name, I honestly don't care.

And I laugh because I think it's very funny if you criticize somebody you don't even know.

And I talk about that on the podcast and I talk about that on my social media all the time.

Whatever it is that you're doing, whatever it is, the work that you're doing, the way you dress, anything that makes you happy.

The only person's opinion you should care about are the people that love you in your inner circle and the people that pays your bills.

Like my mom used to joke.

In my case, it's me.

So I don't really care.

My best friends the people that i uh socialize with the the men that i i do have had relationships with they know me so i honestly honestly don't care so how do i deal with criticism i brush it off and i laugh because no matter what you do in the world there will always be people that criticize you if you wear too many clothes you're prudent if you don't wear enough clothes you're a har if you talk about sex you're a prostitute if you don't talk about sex you have issues so no matter what we do, there is always going to be people that buy popcorn, sit on the front row to watch you fail.

Those are the people that should be fueled to your fire to keep going and believing in yourself.

I've been in this industry on and off my entire life.

So, I have super thick skin, and I like nowadays the way my life is that my circle of friends is very tiny and very private.

And they know me, and they're very supportive of me.

So, I'm not going to stop going.

And I say that to whoever it is that I'm going to date: if somebody's going to be my partner, they need to be completely supportive because, at the end of the day, we need to normalize women being able to do whatever it is that they want in the world, especially if they're making their own money, they're independent.

We want a partner to complement our lives, we don't want a partner to pay our bills anymore.

That's bullshit.

All of you sugar babies out there are wasting your fucking time, selling yourselves short, and no dude is going to respect you in the long term.

Get out there, make your own money, find your passion and go for it.

So if you're feeling criticized by anything, those of you that sent me this question, yeah, brush it off, ignore it.

Why do you give a fuck about somebody that doesn't even know you is going to say about your life?

Keep going, keep going.

Follow your dreams.

Life is short.

We need to be happy.

I hope you guys enjoyed it.

I hope you have a safe, amazing Labor Day weekend.

And I am coming back.

I'm taking a break next week for Labor Day.

And I'm coming back for the second half of this year, right?

October, November, December, with amazing guests and amazing stars.

This is like always 100% organic.

Never edited, never scripted.

Love you.