WHO IS THE REAL DOG?

Hi guys, happy Friday.

What a crazy week I had.

So much happened.

And I actually have been thinking if I really wanted to tell you guys the story of what happened this week.

And then I decided, you know what?

I'm going to call it out.

I'm going to tell you.

I definitely want you guys to tell me your opinions.

And mostly, not because this person really means anything to me, because I literally just met him.

It was like boom, boom, But because it involves my privacy and my dogs.

So here it goes.

As most of you know, I've been doing this man diet for the past few months, meaning I haven't been really going out with anyone.

I decided to take a break on dating.

I decided to concentrate on my projects and it's been doing me a lot of good.

And then all of a sudden, for some reason, last weekend, I decided to zoop through a dating app.

I guess I was a little bored.

And I started talking to a guy that seemed super, super, super nice.

I mean, I liked his photos.

I really like his bio, everything he wrote.

And we were talking and I gave him my number and we texted and then he called me on Sunday.

So we talked for a very long time on Sunday and we really hit it off.

So he invited me to go on a date on Monday.

Normally, I guess like most people, I don't want to go on a date on Monday, right when my week is getting started.

I have 10 million things to do.

But I was like, you know what?

Great.

This guy lives like an hour north of me.

And I like to be fair.

I like to always say this is by no means a man-bashing podcast.

This is a podcast where we try to figure out what's right, what is wrong.

What do we do wrong when we're dating?

What do we do right when we're dating?

So to be fair,

on the first date on Monday, he was the perfect, perfect gentleman.

he tell told me to pick a place near where i live because he knows i work he drove an hour from his home all the way to meet me he got to the restaurant before me and sat at the bar and then when i got there he had a gift for me which is a super nice gesture honestly i have never seen a man do that bring a gift on a date since I met my husband.

My husband Anthony that died in 2018 and I told you guys a little bit about the story on the second season.

And I will tell you more very soon because I'm actually finishing to write a book about it.

But anyways, my husband Anthony was the old, old, old-fashioned gentleman.

And he would always bring a little something like a box of chocolate or flowers or there was always even a card.

He loved the small gestures.

I think most girls love to be spoiled.

And

very rarely a guy even would consider doing that.

Oh my god, why am I going to buy a gift to a girl?

I don't even know.

So, anyways, when I got there, and this guy is sitting at the bar, he looked nice, and he has this super thoughtful gift, which was a box of Madelines from a very very famous place in Paris that we have here in Miami as well, called La Dure.

Obviously, he thought about my French heritage.

He thought about something I would love, and I did.

So, I get there, and he gives me this bag and says, Oh, this gift is for for you.

And I was like, Wow, that is so sweet.

So, anyways, we have this super nice dinner.

He ordered wine, although he's not much of a wine drinker, obviously, to make me happy.

We shared a bunch of appetizers, and I felt like, Wow, we really hit it off, we have a lot in common.

This guy is very nice.

At some point, towards the end, he got up to go to the bathroom.

He's like, Oh, can I give you a little kiss?

And I'm like, Yeah, sure.

So, after dinner, he offers to drive me home, which was like a five-minute ride.

And I said, Yes.

So he drove me home, dropped me off.

Everything, I gave him like a 10 for the first date.

He didn't do anything wrong.

So then he texted me when he got back to his place and he said, Oh, I'm going to sleep with a smile on my face.

And I said, Yes, thank you.

That was an amazing date.

So the next day, he sends me a message.

Telling me that he really loved meeting me, that everything was so nice.

Would I go out with him again on Tuesday, the very next day?

And I i said sure

and then he wrote well tuesday or sunday i i didn't i didn't understand why it was like either today or only sunday but i said yeah we can go out today i thought it was amazing and sweet and so honest that he jumped from one day to the next like meaning oh i really want to spend more time with you so i said yes We can do that.

That's fine.

And I even offered, I said, well, this time, if you want me to meet you halfway, I'll meet you halfway.

And he was like, no, no, I know you work.

So I'll come to you.

I said, wow, what a gentleman.

This guy is a gem.

So again, he drove another hour and then he told me he was going to get a hotel here near where I live on the beach because that way he could drink, he could have a good time and he didn't have to drive back.

And I said, yeah, that's a great idea.

I think it's very smart.

So again, he drives here.

He picked me up.

We went first to Atapas place nearby because he was here way earlier before our dinner reservation which was at 7 30.

so cutting the story short we had a great time again great conversation i thought we had a lot in common we both loved traveling we both like like a healthy lifestyle and i mean it was it seemed very natural so from the tapas place we went to the sushi place and then after the sushi place he was like do you want to go somewhere else uh i don't want the night trend and i said sure so we went to a third place and drank more wine and talked to the waiter, da, da, da.

So our night finished, like, I think it was around 10, 15, 10, 30 at night.

He said, okay, I'm going to drop you off.

And again, it was like a three-minute ride.

So he's dropping me off in front of my building.

And he told me, because he knew I have two dogs.

I always tell.

everybody I am going to meet, I have two dogs.

I need to be with somebody that loves dogs.

Period.

It's kind of like you having dogs.

Are you having a kid and trying to be with somebody that doesn't like kids or doesn't like teenagers or doesn't want to have kids you need to have those basic things in common i am not gonna ever gonna give up my adorable dogs for any man in the world

okay so when we go here

I'm getting out of his car and said, oh, you know, I really want to go walk Phoenix with you because he knew I was going to walk my dog one last time.

And I said, no, are you sure?

Yes, yes, I'm sure.

I want to walk your dog with you.

It's too late.

I don't want you walking around alone.

And I said, like, maybe three times, are you sure?

Are you sure?

Are you sure?

And he was like, yes, I'm sure.

So I said, okay.

So I opened my garage gate so he could park his fancy car in a part in a guest spot.

And I said, okay, let's go upstairs, get Phoenix.

So the minute we get in my apartment,

I had drank a lot of wine, but I'm still functioning pretty well.

I was a little tipsy, but I wasn't drunk or anything.

And my dog Phoenix was sleeping on my bed, and he came super sweet to the living room, didn't bark, which was a great sign because most of the time he barks a lot at strangers.

And by the way, for those of you who don't know my social media, my dog Phoenix is a rescue Labrador mix, and he's a sweetheart, very active, but a sweetheart.

And I have another one who is Bello, a 10-year-old rescue Chihuahua that someone someone abandoned on the streets four months ago.

And

someone took him to the shelter and I adopted him.

So anyways, these are my two dogs.

And so he comes in the apartment and Phoenix comes to the living room, licking him, being super sweet.

And this guy starts looking around.

I thought it was a little weird.

I grabbed Bellu on my lap and I say, oh, this is Bellu.

And he looks and he's like, he sees the pee pee pad and he asks me, well, aren't they trained?

And I said, well, yes.

Phoenix is very trained.

That's why I'm going to go walk him now again.

But Bellu is a dog that somebody abandoned.

Obviously, he was very,

very neglected for the past 10 years.

Nobody had ever even taken him to the vet.

He was super sick.

almost dying when I when I got him four months ago.

So obviously nobody trained him for anything.

They were barely even feeding him.

So I put these pads around my apartment and I have been training him with a lot of love and attention because that's how I believe you treat animals as well as people, not just people.

I think you treat animals with just as much love.

And he's been learning slowly and I've been super patient.

So sometimes he peas on the pad, sometimes he peas in the wrong place and I clean.

And then this guy sees a piece of toy.

because Phoenix bites on balls and toys and he destroys everything.

He saw a piece of a toy and he was like oh my god is this poop and i said no it's not poop it's a piece of a toy

so anyways then he walks around my apartment and my apartment is small but it's super cute it's close to the beach it has a great view of miami beach i show him the balcony it's a one bedroom and a den and the den is my office So he looks at the den, he's like, oh, wow, this is your office.

Oh my God, there's a lot of pictures of you.

Because he looks and i have this poster boards of course it's my work i have a poster board for the the podcast i have a poster board when i'm promoting my instagram i have poster board for brands yeah it's a little cute messy office but it's not that bad it's simple but it's chaotic mess organized based on on what i do but anyways I felt this vibe.

This guy is zooping around and kind of judging me or am I a little drunk?

So I said, okay, let's go walk Phoenix.

And like, okay, let's go walk Phoenix.

We go down with my dog.

I'm going around the block and I'm trying to show him the neighborhood.

Oh, look, this is the adorable French cafe that I told you.

If you ever want to come have wine and da da da.

And basically we walk.

a block and a half because I wanted to show him the bay and this incredible view of the Miami skyline that we have there.

So I take him there and the whole way he's complaining, oh my God, it is so hot.

Oh my God, I'm sweating.

Oh my God.

And at one point my dog is walking on the grass and of course I'm walking my dog there to poop and I picked up the poop with the bag and he looks at me and he's like, oh, you put the poop on the bag.

And I said, yes, you have to pick up dog's poop.

So cutting the story short again, we walk like a block and a half, like less than 10 minutes.

And when we get to my building, this guy is dying of heat and sweat.

And I come to give him a little.

And I even offer, I said, do you want to go back upstairs?

Like, no, no, I want to leave.

I was like, okay.

And I go to give him a little kiss since we had been kissing all night.

He's like, no, no, I'm sweating.

I'm sweating.

I was like, okay, again.

So, bye, have a great evening.

And he left.

And I went to sleep with this vibe.

Like, hmm, this is strange.

He went from being insanely sweet to me all night, kissing me, me, telling me how great I was, bye-bye, bye, and how, and try to make a plan for Sunday, for the weekend, after his friend from out of town was here.

And then the minute he saw my dogs and my place, he changed his demeanor like 180 degrees.

So he sends me a message when he gets to the hotel.

Thank you.

I had a great night.

And I said, thank you so much for everything again.

I hope it was not too much for you.

Walking Phoenix.

Bye.

So the next morning, I had offered to him, I said, look, if since you drove all the way here and you're going to sleep in South Beach, if you want, I'll take you to a nice place for breakfast tomorrow.

And he had said, yeah, maybe, da-da-da.

And I felt he didn't want to go.

And after our walk, he did tell me, oh, I might have to bail on breakfast.

That was fine.

So sure enough, the next morning, he sends me a message.

Hi, I'm bailing on breakfast.

I'm heading back up north.

Thank you again.

Bye.

I hope you had a good night's sleep.

Obviously, I'm not stupid.

I felt the change in behavior, the way he was treating me on the texts and the change in behavior after he left my building.

So the whole day I'm thinking, is this guy serious?

Did he really come up here?

Was it an excuse that he wanted to walk my dog and he wanted to see my home?

And

obviously he lied that he liked dogs because I think

If you're a dog lover, you know people that love dogs.

You know people that feel comfortable around animals and the people that feel extremely uncomfortable around animals.

Obviously, this guy was extremely uncomfortable around my dogs.

But for him to judge

my home if it wasn't good enough for him or if it wasn't clean enough, by the way, there was no poop whatsoever around.

There is never poop around my home.

It's simple, like I said, but it's cozy, it's adorable.

And yeah, at some point, he asked me, Oh, do they both sleep with you?

And I said, Yes.

I don't know what he pictured in his mind, but Phoenix sleeps on my bed, but I sleep under the sheets and under the comforter.

And Phoenix has his own blanket on top of my comforter, and he sleeps there, usually around my feet area, the whole night like a baby.

And he only wakes up around 6:30 in the morning when the sun is up.

And little Bellows sleeps sleeps on this cozy little bed right next to my bed

because I want him to feel comfortable.

And I've been doing this whole thing that I don't want him to feel he's going to be abandoned again.

And it's been working miracles because four months later, he's 12 pounds, he's thriving, he's happy.

So I think I'm doing a great thing.

But, anyways,

this guy made me feel like seriously, you decided to judge me after you saw my home for like five minutes.

And sure enough, yesterday, in the middle of the day, I was working on a photo shoot.

He sends me a message.

Hi, Catherine.

I had a great time with you for two nights, but thank you.

I don't think we're a match.

And I wish you the best and all the success in the world.

And I love your podcast.

And I hope we can be friends.

And I...

I thought about should I even answer back or not?

And yeah, I did answer back.

I was like, you know, it's bizarre to me how somebody changes like that and yeah I need a guy who is gonna be a lot less judgy and a lot more lenient and somebody that loves animals and somebody that is going to be more loving and more caring And then I started processing in my mind everything that happened.

I talked to a friend of mine and she said the same thing.

Is this guy serious?

He had an excuse that he actually liked dogs and he wanted to take your dog for a walk but he really just wanted to come snoop in your life so of course whatever he saw here in my life and by the way most of the time you guys see it too because i record my podcast on my in my little office i do videos here i do everything here i have nothing to hide um if you saw something you thought oh it's not good enough for me yeah sure then he's not good enough for me but the part that really bothered me was that the judgment that he was passing that i felt he was passing because of my dogs number one of course i have a lot of faults and defects like every human being on the planet having a dirty apartment is never one of them for many reasons first of all i am super ocd I clean, clean, clean, clean, clean day and night, night and day, day and night, night and day, before I had dogs,

before these two dogs, and after.

Number two, I am super allergic, super allergic to dust, to pollen, to mold, to all kinds of substances.

So I am constantly, constantly, constantly swiping, mopping, cleaning, you name it.

I do it in the morning, I do it in the afternoon, I do it at night.

So for him to walk in here and, like I said, he saw this piece of the toy and like, ew, is this poop?

No, he wasn't.

And I told him he wasn't.

And he saw a clean.

pee pad by the way and it freaked him out i felt it was so mean it was so judgmental I don't think you come up with an excuse to come to someone's home to actually judge them and decide if they're good or not enough for you.

He missed out on actually getting to know me better.

He missed out on getting to know my life better.

And why, this is what we constantly talk about here on this podcast.

I actually said the same thing on my last episode.

These mini, mini white lies are what make these dates a huge waste of time.

What is a mini lie?

Telling a woman that has two dogs that you love dogs when you don't like dogs, you don't like a home where dogs might peer poop.

Why would you even bother going on a date with somebody that has dogs?

I seriously don't understand why people do that.

And also, I have to say something, and I think a lot of people out there that like animals is going to agree with me.

Bellu is a rescue animal that someone abandoned on the streets to die.

I don't even understand how a human being can be so freaking cruel.

He's the most adorable, loving little long-haired chlaw.

You guys can see tons of photos and videos of him on my dog's Instagram, Phoenix Zamutu.

Even if...

And I have been training him, by the way, and he's doing fantastic.

Thank God.

But even if

he pooped on the floor, it's something nobody bothered teaching him for 10 years.

So if he makes this mistake, the four months he's been with me, who cares?

I go clean, wipe, sanitize the floor in 30 seconds and everything is fine again.

So if somebody has a problem, that I rescue this little animal and I'm being extra patient with him, extra loving with him.

And yeah, sometimes he's going to poop and pee in the wrong place.

And this guy judged me because of how my dogs might behave.

The next day, I was processing all this information.

And this is why I decided to tell the story on the podcast.

It is so mean and it's so horrible to judge someone so quickly.

I never do that to people.

I swear to God, I would never.

If he invited me to his home, if any date invited me to their home after two dates,

We never know what the person is going through on that day.

You don't know what the person is going through on that month, that week, their life.

You have no idea.

So, for you to decide, oh, this person, five minutes ago, she was the best woman in the world.

He called me a unicorn.

And the rest is like, oh, you are so cool and you're so nice and you're drama-free, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And then you see my home for five minutes in the dark of night night after 10 million glasses of wine and you determine oh she's not good enough for me you know what all the good you did all the nice gestures you did on the first date the little gift the nice restaurant the driving here all of that is erased because so much more important than a nice cute fancy gift is continuity in your respect and how you're going to behave and respect someone.

There is no point in being a gentleman on the first date, being a gentleman on the second date, and towards the end of the second date, you decide, okay,

that's it.

Her apartment wasn't organized enough.

She has two dogs that one might poop in the wrong place.

I saw a piece of toy that I decided could be pooped, and I judged this woman.

I think it's rude.

It's obnoxious.

And if it is true that he doesn't even like dogs and he just wanted an excuse to see my apartment, that's even more foul.

And I am honestly really hurt because I do have this innocence.

I shouldn't even let a stranger that I only saw twice come up in my home.

That's how stupid I am.

I should have said, no, tonight is not a good evening.

I'll invite you up some other time.

But I am so naive.

And he was being so insanely nice to me.

And yeah, we were lightly kissing the whole night.

And he was being such a gentleman.

When he insisted so much on coming up and walking my dog with me, I thought, wow, I think this guy really cares about me.

I think he really wants to keep me company and walk my dog.

But no, he wanted to snoop.

And that is rude.

It's inconsiderate.

I don't appreciate it.

And that's why I decided to tell the story.

I hope you guys send me messages.

Let me know what you think.

Maybe, yeah, and seriously.

I was hurt for like five minutes yesterday when I saw his message and I was processing what happened in my mind.

Of course now I'm like usual I'm over it I'm a freaking prize you don't deserve me you did not deserve to come up to my home you did not deserve to meet this adorable incredibly loving animals that are rescues and give me so much love and i think it's really horrible that you made an excuse to do that but moving on moving on moving on i am loving my man diet because like i said i had an insanely productive month of July.

I am almost done with my book project.

Am I going to agree on going on another date?

Like I agree with this guy?

Maybe, maybe down the road.

Maybe talking to someone for a couple hours on the phone is not enough.

Maybe we need to do our due diligence even a bit more

before agreeing.

But I think everything

is a learning curve.

That's why I love sharing my stories with you guys because I, with every experience, I learn.

The way people treat me, I always learn.

And I usually like, I treat people the way I like to be treated.

So when he had a nice gesture on the first date, I was like, yeah, I would definitely treat somebody like that.

But seriously, I would never come up with an excuse to see someone's home to decide in five minutes, oh yeah.

that's the person's character that's how i'm going to judge her period goodbye so that was one of the most unfair crazy situations that anyone ever put me in and i really really did not appreciate it so yeah moving on i wish this guy the best of luck and that's it i hope you guys have the most amazing weekend if you love animals i always say that adopt don't shop there are thousands and thousands of animals out there that would love a loving home.

And like my pet Sita always used to say, and I love that phrase, dogs are like little kids, but they cannot speak for themselves.

So they deserve to be treated with so much care and respect.

And unfortunately, now,

after the pandemic, a lot of people adopted dogs during the pandemic.

And now they're changing their minds, even rich people and just dumping them on the streets.

to die.

If you really want to dump your animal, at least take them to a shelter.

This week, there was a story of a rich lady.

She has a little Pomeranian and she decided, oh, she's going to move to a fancier condo, da-da-da.

And she's like, I don't want this Pomeranian there.

I just don't want her anymore.

And my pet situation was like, what the hell do you mean?

Are you serious?

A dog is not like clothing that you wear.

And then you're like, oh, I'm tired of it.

And you just throw it out, you know?

And

honestly, I don't even trust people that don't love animals.

I respect people that don't want to have animals.

I respect people that don't want to have dogs, but for sure, they are not for me.

If you don't love my dogs, if you don't have room in your heart to love my dogs, then for sure you don't have room in your heart to love me.

So it's time to move on and have a fantastic weekend.

I wish you guys the most wonderful Friday.

I wish you guys the most wonderful weekend.

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Love you, love you, love you.

And I'll see you next week for one more cat on the lose.