MEN DIET!!!!!

Hi, welcome to Cat and the Lou Sex Dating Relationships.

If you've never heard it before, I hope you enjoy it.

And if you guys keep coming back, thank you so much.

I love you.

And I'm actually so happy that I've been getting so many messages on my Instagram, Kat Zamuro, from so many of you guys, giving me feedback about the subjects, telling me your opinion, asking questions.

So, today,

before I talk about what I actually want want to talk about, which is a man diet,

I want to tell you that I did a poll on my Instagram with the top questions that you guys sent me since the past week because I wanted to know everyone's opinions.

I did a bunch of polls.

So, I want to tell you the results first.

The first question that I asked was:

if you guys would forgive and stay with your partner if he or she cheated.

60% of you said yes, 40%

of you said no.

However, I was talking to one of my friends.

She's married now, and she's actually going to be participating on Friday's episode because we realize that this cheating subject is a huge subject, and it's not always black and white.

It's kind of a grayish area.

Like she was saying, for instance, the answer to this question to most people is it depends.

Everybody's human.

People can make mistakes.

So, like she was saying, you know, if a guy gets drunk and he does something stupid or he's out of town on a business trip and it means nothing to him, yeah, a lot of people would not ruin an entire relationship because of a minor indiscretion.

And then there is the situation where the person is just a serial, serial cheater.

There are a lot of guys and I actually know one.

He's married and in public is like, oh, I love my wife and I love my wife and she's fantastic and I'm all about family and he's a major, major, major womanizer.

So I mean, in that case.

uh most women said yeah i don't want to have a husband that tells me he loves me and i'm the best thing in the world for him and then he turns around every opportunity he has and he's cheating on me all over the place so it's kind of like a shady area So, stay tuned because on Friday, we are going to dig deep, deep, deep down inside the world of cheating.

Is it right?

Is it not?

Does it have to do with the person's character?

Is it ever acceptable?

Is it not acceptable?

How about in the gay world?

I can't wait to ask my gay friends that, or is it the same for everyone?

But we're going to go deeper on that subject on Friday because I realize it's something that a lot of people want to talk about.

I have to say that when I was married, I was cheated on in the beginning of our relationship while we were still dating.

And my husband, who at the time was my boyfriend, had this one rule that he never, ever, ever lied, ever, no matter what.

And I loved that about him because I always knew where I was standing.

And he told me a few times, like he went on a business trip and he was with that girl and he did this and he did that.

And I decided to get over it because I really liked liked him.

And to me, it was so much more important to have his honesty moving forward than having a man by my side that will do stuff behind my back.

So I guess the answer is like something so personal to each one of us.

And I'm not sure there's like a straight answer.

Oh, don't ever accept it, or you should just accept it.

Some women even turn the blind eye because they don't want to rock the marriage.

We'll talk about it deeper on Friday.

The second question I put on my instagram poll today was would you have a fling with a married person

interesting enough 50 of you guys said yes

and i i actually honestly thought less people would say yes i thought most people would be like no way i don't want to go on that territory

uh i would love you guys that said yes please elaborate send me dm me i will keep your

names secret.

You don't have to tell anybody who you are.

But I'm actually interested in knowing why would you even go there?

Why would you think that that's a good idea?

Honestly, I have done it in the past.

I have gone out with a married guy.

I only found out he was married when we were like halfway through the date because he didn't tell me before.

And I was kind of annoyed.

And I had drank a lot of wine.

And I mean, I

don't think it was right.

And we ended up having a little fling, and then I felt super guilty about it.

And honestly,

I don't think I would want to go there again because it's just not in my personality, my character.

I have a problem with the I have an ethical issue with it.

If I'm in a committed relationship, I would not want somebody to come and try to rock it and ruin it.

And I don't like the idea of like the guy doing it behind the woman's back.

I just have a lot of problems with that.

I think if it's an open marriage, which there are a lot, by the way, lately have been listening to this a lot, at least here in Miami.

I don't know if you guys do out there, then I think you know, do whatever the hell you want.

But if the guy is like, oh, she's my wife, and she can never find out, honestly, I don't want it.

It's not for me.

I can't stand lies.

I just don't have the time for it.

Maybe I'm getting older.

I just want like everything super straight up.

I want to know where I stand.

So I was actually surprised the half of you said you would do it.

And I'm not judging anybody, but I just would love to know why you would even go there.

It's so freaking hot in Miami, by the way.

It's like 92 degrees today, 100% humidity.

The third question I asked you guys on my Instagram poll today was: Have you ever ghosted someone, or has anyone ever ghosted you?

67% of you said, oh, yes.

And 33% of you said, no way.

Now, I have been ghosted, which was the last story of the last guy I dated back in April.

All of a sudden, he just disappeared, and I was really hurt.

I don't think it's cool ghosting people

under any circumstances.

Yeah, if you met somebody once, and you decided, you know, this person is really not for me.

Okay, I agree.

That's more like moving forward.

But if you go on date after date after date after date and you're getting to know them, I honestly, honestly think for whatever reason it is that you change your mind, call them, send them a message, be an adult, be nice.

So I personally, I am a guest of this ghosting thing because when it happened to me, I was like, wow, I really didn't expect it.

So again, the ones that said you have ghosted people, can you please send me DMs and tell me why did you guys do it?

When is it ever a good idea?

Because honestly, I don't know when that ever is a good idea.

And I asked you guys if you've ever been ghosted.

Only 33% of you said you have been ghosted.

So apparently we are the minority.

I never ever ghosted anyone and I have been ghosted.

Usually, if I go out with a person, once, even once or twice, I go on a date and they keep texting me and invite me on another date.

If I'm not interested, I just tell them something: look, you're super nice, but let's just be friends.

Oh, I'm sorry, this is not right for me.

I give them an explanation.

I just don't disappear.

I'm sorry, but that's how I feel about the subject.

I think we're all adults, and I think ghosting is kind of childish.

But I'm sorry, that's my two cents on the subject.

Speaking of ghosting, that's what leads me to the subject of the day, which is a man diet.

Full disclosure, I invented it.

And I've been telling my friends the past couple of months, three months, I'm on a man diet.

And they're like, what the hell are you talking about, talking about?

And then I have another friend that decided this was a good idea.

So I'm going to explain it.

For those of you that don't listen to all of my episodes, a few months back, it started in February, I started dating a guy after talking to him for a long time through text and I really liked him.

We had a bunch of fabulous dates, a bunch.

We had four, in my mind, fabulous dates.

I thought, in his mind, they were fabulous dates.

I thought we both had tons and tons and stuff in common.

We liked the same food, the same wines, we loved traveling, and sex was incredible.

Just this fantastic chemistry.

Yes, I have admitted in past episodes, I had sex with him on the second date because I actually said something super nice about him

a few episodes back when I was telling the story of him ghosting me.

He actually planned one of the first,

the nicest first dates

ever.

I mean, he had it down.

to a science not first date sorry second date the first date he came and we had dinner blah blah blah then on the second date he planned it out i mean down to a tea super romantic dinner reservation and dessert and wine on his boat under the moonlight.

And I mean, we were, everything was great.

And I really felt like being with him.

And we ended up having amazing, incredible sex under the stars on the boat.

As cheesy as it sounds, it was for sure the best second date of my life.

And in the middle of it,

I'm just not the kind of girl that would say, oh no, stop it.

You know, I'm not not going to have sex with you now.

I'm going to go home.

I just felt like going with the flow.

And I didn't think it was going to backfire anything.

And after that, we went on two more dates like that that I thought were fantastic.

And then

he kind of slowly disappeared.

In the beginning, we were texting a lot.

And granted, he doesn't live in the same city as me.

He moved away.

But I even offered to go see him because I liked him so much.

And I said, look, I would love to spend some time with you.

I want to get to know you better.

I'm willing to bring my computer and my phone.

I can work from anywhere.

And basically, it was never good enough for him.

And then he just stopped texting and he disappeared.

And

anyway, so obviously he ghosted me.

And when I sent him a message about him,

ghosting me, which I don't know if I should have, but I obviously don't know anything about Danny.

But I am the kind of person that I just say what I'm thinking and how I feel.

And I basically sent him a message.

I said, Hi, I did a podcast about you.

Nobody has any idea about who you are.

But I actually said that our second date when we had sex was really amazing.

You did a fantastic job.

And I actually think that if you, for whatever reason in the world, you never wanted to see me again, it would have been nice if you sent me a message or a text.

And that was it.

And I never heard from him again.

So that was back in May.

no sorry that was back in april

and i waited a few weeks and i sent him this message in may

but last time i saw him was in april after that i was like okay

um time to reflect and pause i started this podcast last year because i was having some really bad experiences in the world of dating now looking back i laugh about them if you guys want to listen to the first season there are a bunch of crazy, crazy stories that are funny now, but at the time they were painful.

And then I went on on a few dates with the wrong people, knowing that they were the wrong people for me.

I don't know if you guys ever did that.

Maybe I was feeling a little too sad or a little too needy.

And basically, I just went out with a bunch of people for all the wrong reasons.

And then when I met this guy, I was like, wow, okay, this feels right.

It feels right all over the place.

And boom, it was a mistake.

I don't know if I had sex too soon.

I don't know if I insisted on seeing him too much.

I don't know if he was a player.

I honestly have no idea what was going on, but obviously it didn't work.

So I was like, you know what?

When you're trying something and it's going wrong and wrong and wrong and wrong, maybe it's time to stop everything you're doing and reset.

So

I decided I'm going to give myself a major major break from going out with men.

I'm gonna go on a man diet the next few months, the entire summer.

I'm going to concentrate on me.

I'm going to do a me summer to see if it shifts my energy, to see if it changes the results in the future.

Because seriously, going out with a bunch of wrong people doesn't do any good for our ego, for our spirit and certainly not for our lives so when i started my manned diet i said okay i'm gonna do two months may and june so the first month was great and then june i decided you know what this feels really good because now all of these hours that i was dedicating to looking at these dating apps and answering guys and and planning dates and getting ready to go on dates

i've been actually dedicating so much to my personal projects and my personal projects are growing and i've been dedicating to me into getting in perfect shape again i work out extra i wake up earlier i go to sleep earlier instead of party instead of drinking i'm actually drinking less so i decided you know i'm gonna do not just a man diet but i'm gonna do this whole reset on my health i'm gonna eat super healthy i'm gonna drink less so it's been for me it's been so amazing that now July, I am on my third man diet month.

I've been going out here and there with friends to dinner, something like that, but very little.

And I got to tell you guys, it has been doing me so much good.

In the beginning, I actually thought it was going to be harder.

than it seems because my entire life I was either married for 14 years and then right from that I jumped into another relationship and then I jumped into the world of dating dating dating dating dating and I felt that all I've been doing like actively pursuing one date after the other until I found the right person and I always tell guys out there I don't lie I don't play games I'm over the one-night stand phase.

I did that a long time ago.

I don't want to do it anymore.

I don't judge anybody that does it, but I'm at a point in my life.

I'm like, I'm super happy alone.

I love my company.

I love my dogs.

I love my work.

If I find a guy, I want him to want a nice, mature relationship, stress-free, drama-free.

I don't want the guessing game.

You know, the guessing game that Friday, Thursday, and Friday coming in and like, oh my God, is he going to call me?

Are we going to make plans?

Is he going to see me?

I don't want that.

I want somebody that feels like, you know what?

I want to be with her.

She wants to be with me.

Great.

That's it.

Super, super simple.

And until I have that,

I'm just happy with the way things are.

So, anyways, am I going to go back to dating?

Of course.

I am an eternal believer in love.

I am an eternal believer in partnership.

I think life ultimately is more fun when you have somebody to share it with.

But I also think that these months of dieting from men and in a huge way from having this major social life

have done me a ton of good because when we concentrate most of our energies on ourselves, you see major, major changes really quickly.

So a lot of you girls and even guys out there, if you're feeling the same way, and I actually have two of of my girlfriends that said, wow, sounds great.

I'm going to do the same.

And they told me the same thing today.

Wow, this is doing me a lot of good.

I am doing the summer of me.

I've been working out more.

I've been spending more time at home with my family, with my friends.

I completely changed the focus.

And it just sounds like a good idea sometimes.

Because honestly, ever since this dating apps, in the past, when we wanted to date,

even when I met my husband like 20 years ago, I met him at a bar.

So usually back then, the dating scene was at bars, restaurants, night swipe, or through friends or friends of friends.

Now I feel these dating apps made everything so freaking superficial.

People literally sit in their living room and they're like swiping, no, no, no, no, no.

Kind of like they order food from a menu.

And most men, they don't even read our bio.

They're just like, oh, she's blonde.

Oh, she's too nice.

No, she's too fat.

She's too thin.

Is it fun sometimes?

Of course.

Is it a good way of meeting people?

Sure.

Especially with COVID, blah, blah, blah, and all these things.

But it can also be extremely time-consuming, exhausting, and yes, superficial.

So for me,

since this last guy that I dated and I decided to take a break from doing all of these things, I have to tell you guys, this break has been doing me a ton of good.

So, I highly recommend it.

If you guys are on a dating slump or if you've been through a bunch of nasty, crappy dates, try it out, even if it's just 30 days.

And listen, if during those 30 days, 60 days, a friend of a friend or a cute guy at the store flirts with you or says, Hey, I want your number.

It doesn't mean you cannot do it by all means.

If somebody worthwhile pops, okay, binge, get out of the diet and go for it.

The diet is more in terms of don't sit on your desk, wherever it is with the dating app, like an hour a day, 40 minutes a day, half an hour a day.

Don't desperately go out there.

Oh, I need to date.

I need to date.

I need to date.

I need to find someone.

It's more like the organic approach.

It's the approach of live your life, do everything that you love to do, your work, your personal friendships, your hobbies, whatever it is that you're working on.

Self-improvement.

In my case, I want to treat cleaner.

I want to treat healthier.

I didn't want to drink wine during the week.

I wanted to get in perfect shape again.

So whatever it is that you think you want to do, concentrate on those things.

And if something organic in terms of dating pops up, great.

So far, in my case,

Nothing organic has popped up that I thought, okay, it's worthwhile getting out of my diet for.

So I'm sticking to it.

And we're have a week and a half through July.

I will probably finish July on my man diet.

I don't know what will happen in August.

Maybe I'll start dabbling out there in dating.

But like I said, I'm using more this organic approach.

And I think if something is meant to happen, it will happen.

If the right person is the right person for us,

they will want to meet us.

They will want to make plans with us.

They will come after us.

So there is really no point in pursuing someone that doesn't answer back.

And I guess I learned that maybe the hard way, because like I said, I don't really play games.

And if you're texting someone and they stop texting you, guess what?

They know where you are.

They know your phone number.

They know your social media.

It's just, they don't want you.

If somebody keeps making excuse, they don't want to see you, they don't want to see you.

If they want to see you, they will say, hey, back then wasn't the right time.

Maybe now, do you want to have a drink?

Do you want to go to dinner?

Let's get to know each other.

There is really no forcing this thing.

So, I think the good news is we need to learn from our past experiences and moving forward,

learn, learn from them, learn how to be better people.

And hopefully, the right one for us will fit everything that we need.

So, that's the main diet.

And I think for guys, I have a guy friend who is doing the girl diet.

He the same thing, he was going going on so many horrible dates with girls.

Here in Miami, he got to a point.

He was like, you know what?

I want to spend the entire summer with my kids, traveling with my kids, having fun, concentrating on work, on exercise.

And maybe after the summer, I'll revisit the world of dating.

And that's a really good idea.

So I highly, highly recommend it.

So if any one of you guys out there tries it or is trying it or have tried it in the past, please dm me send me your opinions your results tell me what you think about it my instagram is catzamuto my whatsapp 305 3320 338 i love love love love to hear from you guys and of course once i get out of the manned diet i will let you guys know if any fun date any fun date pops in my life i'll let you know i'll keep you posted on everything but so far so great and you know what that's another good thing about this diet that i gotta tell you guys it really puts the stress out of my week because before

i was looking at all these messages and and the guy the guys planning date oh do you want to go to the dinner on thursday do you want to do this do you want to do that and when i looked my social calendar was like packed and a lot of people that like i said i wasn't even interested in that i knew weren't a good fit that i didn't even want to meet so i think it's a hard idea to force it maybe it's better to just take take a break and let things happen when they're meant to happen.

Now,

before I go, another interesting thing, I've been getting this question a lot lately, and it's kind of funny.

Even one guy that I met through a dating app a while ago sent me this question.

Oh, you have a dating sex and relationship podcast.

Are you a sex expert?

Are you a dating expert?

No, the answer is no.

It's the exact opposite.

I am not an expert on the subjects by any means.

Cat on the loose started because I have been trying to learn how to date.

Do we follow the rules?

Do we not follow the rules?

Do we break the rules?

What is the right thing to do?

I've been learning as I go.

I learn a lot with you guys.

I learn a lot from your messages.

I learn a lot from the experts I interview.

I learn a lot from the other girls, from the other guys that I interview.

So this is really a social, completely organic experiment unedited i have no idea what i'm doing i just tell you guys about my experiences about your experiences and we all figure it out together it is always unedited i just had a potential guest for a future episode ask me today oh if i say something i don't like da da da can you edit and i said no

um let's just do this organically your opinion is your opinion what i say is what i say And I think that's how people talk in real life.

We don't edit real life.

So I don't like editing the podcast either.

It is what it is.

So please send me your opinions about the man diet.

Send me your opinions about everything we talked about today.

And on Friday, stay tuned.

We are going to talk about the very difficult subject of cheating when you are in a relationship.

Is it acceptable?

And is it an indication of the person's character?

Always, sometimes.

How much are we supposed to put up with?

Is it ever okay?

So, this is like very complex.

I already have one guest.

I'm gonna try to get another one because I want to know a nail's perspective.

And I'll see you guys on Friday.

And, like always, thank you so, so much for listening.

I love all of you, and I hope you enjoyed it.

This is Canon DeLuz.

Have a wonderful week, and I'll see you guys on Friday.