New Trend: Video Dating pre Date

Hi guys, TGIF!

What a crazy week I had.

My goodness.

For those of you who did listen to my Tuesday episode, you know what was going on.

But basically, I got bit by a dog at the dog park on Tuesday.

Then I went to a doctor that was really, really far away.

And on my way back, I pretty much got stranded on the freeway for over three hours, like around three and a half hours, because

a lot of protesters that are here in Miami protesting against the Cuban government decided they're gonna protest in the middle of the freeway.

And I was super frustrated because I completely agree with them.

The Cuban government is disgusting and needs to get the hell out of there.

But seriously, I think protesting in the middle of a freeway and affecting the lives of so many people was just completely out of hand.

And the police down here doesn't do anything about it.

Miami is becoming a freaking circus.

It's just crazy between the horrific building collapse and all these Cuban protesters disrupting the lives of everyone around every single day.

Torrential rains, it's just becoming like a little too much.

I'm seriously debating if I'm going to stay here or move away next year as much as I love Miami.

So I am so happy that it's Friday and I'm actually doing this podcast in my car again.

Yeah, Tuesday I did it from my car as I was stranded on the freeway.

And today I had such a crazy, crazy busy day trying to catch up on a million things I did not have time to sit down in my computer with my equipment and record it and now I'm on my way to dinner but I decided you know what I want to do this episode because it's kind of a solution to the subject we were talking about on Tuesday.

I was telling you guys stories that you send me about horrible first dates after you meet someone through a dating app.

And I know we've talked about it many, many times before.

You meet somebody on dating apps, and then when it translates into real life, many times

you guys, and it has happened to me before, of course, get super, super disappointed about how the person looks in real life.

They lie about their photos, they use so many filters, they edit the photos, they change the photos.

Some people go through the crazy, crazy situation of actually not even using their own photos.

They put photos of friends in there.

I mean, basically, there's all kinds of horrible stories.

I told you guys the story of one of my friends that actually went to the restaurant, and when he gets there, he realizes the gorgeous brunette that he thought he was taking on a date was a transsexual.

I mean, that's a huge thing to hide from someone.

So, I mean, these dating apps pretty much have people all over the place hiding, omitting, changing things from

people before you actually get to know them.

Okay, so we all know this is a problem.

So, now there is a new trend that I think is a fantastic solution.

It's not a solution for everything, but I actually really, really like this idea, and it's a new trend out there.

It's called video dating, and it's very simple.

It's pretty much what it says it is.

Let's say I meet a guy through a dating app.

Great.

So I like his photos.

I like his bio, what he has to say, blah, blah, blah.

So the first step is we start communicating through the dating app.

Now, after a little while, if I get comfortable and I guess everybody's the same, you give them the number.

I give them my number.

Let's talk in the real world.

Okay.

Then you start texting for a little bit in the real world.

In the past, most people, after that, you just plan a date.

Now,

before you waste your time planning a date with somebody that you never saw, you ask the person, hey, let's do a video call, let's do a video date.

If they are hesitant, if they refuse to do it, for sure,

there is a major reason why they don't want to do it.

They're hiding something from you.

And if they say, sure, absolutely, sounds like a great idea, great.

Then you schedule a video date via WhatsApp, via Zoom, whatever you think is best, and you actually get to see the person.

And I was talking to a guy a while ago, that's how actually I found out about it.

A while ago, because most of you know I am on a major man diet right now, I haven't gone on any, any, any dates since April.

I decided that I needed a break for myself and I'm doing great.

I've been very productive with work.

But anyways, it was a while ago.

I met this guy on a dating app and he looked amazing.

And he was very, very upfront.

Matter of fact, I do this and this is my job and I'm super busy and I'm trying to find a quality person.

And then when I connected with him, he sent me a message, hi, let's talk in the real world.

So he was very upfront about everything which I love.

And then we texted for a little bit in the real world.

And he said, hey, let's do a video call.

A lot of girls don't like it, a lot of girls complain about it, but if you don't mind, I want to do a video.

And I was like, What?

Uh, they don't like it.

I actually think this is a fantastic idea.

I love the idea.

Absolutely, let's do it.

So, we did a video call at night.

He scheduled a Zoom, and he was home.

And I was home, and I said, You know what?

I am not going to get all dressed up and put makeup and all this shit to do a video call.

I'm going to let the guys see me for me

because I keep repeating that every time I talk about it.

I think somebody that likes us, they really should like us the way we are.

I completely agree with what most guys are saying.

Girls are going way out of hand with these filters and colors and this production and so much makeup and all this hair.

Yeah, by the time they meet them in person, they're like, whoa, this is not what I expected I think real life

let's be honest let's face it we are not always gonna be completely dolled up we are not always gonna look like a million bucks should we look great most of the time absolutely I agree but but that's not how real life is So I think that I've been actually doing this campaign on Instagram and on the podcast.

Let's filter our photos less and let's try to be a little more ourselves.

So anyways, when that guy said that let's do the video call, I decided I was going to do a video call.

We schedule it for like nine o'clock at night or something.

And I said, you know what?

I'm home.

I've been working from home.

I told him most of the time I do work from home.

And most of the time, I'm not all dulled up looking fantastic when I'm working from home and walking my dog and running errands.

So anyways, I had a tank top and I washed my hair and my face.

I think I put a little bit of lipstick on it.

That was it.

And we had an incredibly fun, amazing conversation.

We talked for like an hour and a half the first time.

And he was home

in his own environment, which is also a great sign because if guys are hiding something from you, like a lot of you girls complain that when you actually meet the guy he was married or he had a girlfriend or he had another woman blah blah blah yeah that's a great way to figure out if they're telling you the truth if they're willing to do a video call with you and show you hi this is my house i just came home came home from work and this is my dog and this is my kitchen or my kids are upstairs if they're willing to do this I think it says a lot about the person at the very very least

we know that they're not lying about everything like it has happened to me and a lot of you out there.

So, I loved that idea, and I love that he asked me that.

And I thought it was a fantastic idea.

And then, when I started talking to my girlfriends and to people on my Instagram about it, a lot of you sent me messages.

Oh, yeah, we love the idea of video calls.

We are asking guys to do video calls, and a lot of guys are asking us to do video calls.

So, I think this is a trend that most definitely should stay because let's face it we all have insanely busy lives and i don't think it's fair for either party if we plan a date um on the girls side we get all dolled up we have all these expectations we get pretty in my case i pay for a puppy sitter for my my dogs in a lot of girls case they pay for a babysitter for the kids whatever it is that you have to to do to go out on a date and you get there if the person is nothing nothing nothing like what you expected, I mean, it's a huge bucket of cold water, you know, thrown at us.

And I don't think it's fair.

And the guys complain, of course, they say, hey, these girls pick really nice restaurants, or I pick a really nice restaurant.

And I am so excited to meet this girl.

Like my friend that ended up going to a restaurant in South Beach, and the girl was a transgender.

When you get there, and it's nothing like what you expected, it's so insanely unfair.

You know, it makes a lot of these guys feel, and I hear that a lot from men.

Oh, this girl just wanted a free meal.

This girl just wanted to go to an expensive restaurant.

So seriously, girls, if you really want a guy to like you, if you really, really want a relationship, I mean, don't do that to someone, you know?

It's not nice to treat men like that for a free meal.

I, as much as I'm a girl, I am 1 million percent against it.

I think it's nasty.

I think it's rude.

I think it's disrespectful.

They have every right in the world to feel offended.

I hear that in Miami a lot from guys.

Oh, she asked me to take her to Marcoto, which is the most expensive sushi, to Carbone, which is this super high-end, fancy Italian.

She asked me to take here and there and there.

And then she gets there and she starts doing selfies and videos for her Instagram.

She doesn't even show me there, and she didn't even look like what she said she did.

I mean, basically, I believe in karma and I believe in energy, and I think if you're just using someone for your benefit, it's gonna backfire.

So, I'm saying it as a woman, and I think it's not nice to do that to a guy, and I don't think it's nice for guys to lie to girls.

Therefore, I think this new trend, video dating, is a fantastic idea because it weeds out a lot of doubts.

So, in this guy's situation, we did video dates a bunch of times, and I thought that was super sweet.

Several times he would get home from work and say hi I'm exhausted but can I see you on video for a few times or in the morning hi I'm on my way to work and I'm super busy but can we talk for a few minutes and I feel I haven't met him in person yet because I haven't felt ready to go on a date just yet.

I'm really enjoying my break and my me time but I feel at least I know a lot of things about him.

He looks amazing.

He actually looks better, a lot better than than the pictures he put on the dating app.

He's super sweet.

I know where he works, I know where he lives, I know that he's not married.

I mean, so I think every girl has the right to do that little bit of a trial before we jump out there on date.

So, I highly recommend you girls try that,

and guys, too.

Yeah, everybody.

Now, is it 1 million percent foolproof?

Absolutely not.

A friend of mine was talking to a guy for several weeks.

A friend of ours introduced her to a guy, and they just talked via text for a long time.

Then they did start doing these video dates, video dates, video dates.

Finally, after several weeks, she's like, wow, this guy seems super nice.

He's a trader.

He lives in a fancy apartment.

He's amazing.

He seems so sweet.

So he invited her to go out to lunch on the 4th of July.

And she said, sure, sounds great.

And then, of course, she feels like the same thing I said.

She kind of felt she knew that guy.

Then when he picked her up,

he was completely unhinged, basically.

She jumped in his car.

And the way she described it, it was he was staring at her so much, so much, but not like a nice staring.

Like instead of looking at the road, he was staring at her legs, legs, telling her, almost drooling.

And she's like, oh, you're looking at me too much.

Pay attention on the road.

He turned the wrong way on the street, almost hit the car.

And he was just basically staring at her.

And she's like, why are you staring at me?

He's like, I don't know.

I don't know.

Like, basically, acting so nervous and weird in front of her.

By the time they got to the restaurant, he didn't stop that behavior.

She was thinking, Should I leave?

Should I not leave?

This guy is just acting too weird.

And then they sat on the table.

And again, instead of making conversation and acting normal and getting to know her he's he was staring at her acting like a psycho that it made her feel so freaking uncomfortable she told the guy look i'm so sorry i don't feel comfortable even sitting here and having dinner with you you're you're staring at me and not saying anything this is so bizarre i'm going to leave so she left and he kept calling calling texting her texting her no don't do this to me you need to come back i was nervous and then the next minute he was like no but i'm shy uh but you don't understand if you come back i'll tell you what happened and he kept changing the story and then after like 15 minutes he sends a picture of himself naked hugging a girl semi-naked and like she he asked her to do a a selfie picture of the two of them on a mirror and he's like oh this girl likes me i'm not too weird for her if i'm too weird for you and she was like oh my jesus that seriously takes the cake.

Thank God I left the restaurant.

So, yeah, of course,

we never know how a person is gonna end up in real life.

Maybe they will be a freaking cripple, maybe they will be too freaking strange.

But in her case, yeah, that happened.

Who the hell sends a picture of themselves with another woman because you said you didn't like them in person?

I mean, obviously, the guy was a psycho, but I do think

video dates are kind of a buffer for,

you know, trying to get to know the person a little bit before getting super, super, super disappointed on a first date.

And whenever,

if I do end up going on a date with this guy that I've been video dating with, I'll most definitely let you guys know how it goes.

If you guys have been trying this new trend, video dating out there, please let me know.

I would love your your opinions about it.

And if you guys have other ideas about

how to

date proof, how to filter people that you meet online, let me know because basically that's kind of the research I've been doing with all of my friends for this podcast because it's unanimous.

Everybody says the same thing, whether it's guys or girls.

These dating apps have lots and lots of cycles and weird people and liars.

Are there diamonds out there?

Absolutely.

Are there nice people out there?

Absolutely, but you kind of have to go through so many, so many, so many to find the rare diamonds.

One of my friends told me, and I don't know that if it's true or not, because I don't pay for any of the dating apps.

I pretty much just scroll through them every once in a while, rarely.

Tinder and sometimes Bumble, and I use the League once in a while.

The league is by invitation only and they let you see only three

people a day unless you pay.

I am honestly not in a phase that I'm like, oh my god, I need to find a date.

I need to find somebody.

I don't want to pay.

So I don't pay for any of them.

But my friend is a guy

and he is using a lot of different dating apps.

And he told me he pays for all of them.

And in his opinion, if you pay, all of these dating apps filter the quality of people that they show you.

So, let's say in my case, I see a lot of crappy people because I don't pay.

And he said, In his case, he sees a lot of amazing girls, high-quality girls, great options because he pays.

I don't know if this theory is true.

So, if anybody out there is paying and agrees, or if you guys are like me that don't pay, let me know your opinions.

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Facebook, my WhatsApp, everybody knows it's 305-3320338.

My email, Katzamuto Gmail, send me your opinions, and I'll talk about it on my next podcast because that's very interesting.

I don't think it's fair, but like I said, hey, all of these dating apps want to make money, so maybe they are filtering by your tastes and your likes and dislikes if you give them a little bit of money.

And if you don't pay, they're just like, ah, whatever.

We're just going to let her see whatever is out there.

So that's kind of an interesting theory.

Would you guys pay for it?

Do you guys pay for it?

I think it's a lot of money if you're going to pay for a bunch.

It's like 20, 30 bucks each or sometimes 40 bucks.

I don't even know.

But anyways,

at the moment, I'm not paying.

Let me know what you guys think.

I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

If you're dating, stay safe.

I heard in the news, and it's so sad that the COVID numbers are hiking up all over again.

My Jesus, I can't believe LA is going to start or already started doing the mandatory mask indoors again.

My god, so let's all be safe out there.

Get vaccinated if you can.

I did.

I lost a lot of people from this horrible disease.

I think it's worth it.

And I appreciate you guys so much for listening.

This was another cat on the lose on a Friday.

I wish everyone the most amazing weekend.

Love you so, so much.

And I'll come back on Tuesday with a great guest and another, hopefully, super fun episode.

Love you.