Cute Hot Misterious Guy is back to talk about sex!!

Hi guys, this is the Cat on the Loose Friday to get your long weekend started.

And I am here with,

I'm gonna say, my favorite guest, my favorite recurring guest back in Miami.

Hi, cute guys.

Hello, that's my name.

Welcome to the third season of Cat on the Loose.

Thank you for having me back.

For people that don't know you from the past seasons, I'm just going to explain.

You're super cute.

You don't want anybody to find out who you are because you're very successful and you're very private and you talk it like it is.

And you don't want girls to find out who you are because you think if they find out they're not going to date you anymore.

Is that correct?

That's very, very accurate.

That's pretty much baggy.

Okay, but that being said, I really appreciate you doing this because every time you've done, girls love it.

They love your straightforward, organic opinion.

So are you ready to rock and roll?

Okay, so on my last episode on Tuesday, I had a group of

eight, nine with me and ten with my assistant, ten super successful, all gorgeous women.

I mean, seriously.

Super successful.

Oh.

Are you talking about calling me a cougar?

I'm just asking, I'm stereotyping right away, but tell me about that.

That is, well, you are.

You're stereotyping.

Okay, okay.

Hold on, please.

What is a cougar?

Isn't a cougar like an older lady that wants younger men?

Well, that's a whole other reference.

Please finish your point out.

My point is

it was a group of gorgeous, super successful women.

One of them was married, a few of them have boyfriends, a few of them have situationships, etc.

And so I was asking them all kinds of X-rated

questions about sex, mostly.

I did ask them about getting relationships.

And I was surprised.

At first, I thought they were going to be like shy about it.

And it was so much fun because they weren't.

Was there Chardonnay and all?

There were a few chiparinas and other Brazilian drinks.

I got to take it there to try it out.

It's really good.

But I didn't drink because it was Tuesday.

But it was really fun because they were like very,

it was a master class for men.

Was there any men around to witness this?

No.

No men around.

So what did they get to?

What was the meaning of the family?

Huh?

What did they get to?

What was the analogy?

Yeah, no.

No, there's no shocking revelation, revelation, but I want your opinion about a few things that they said since you're a guy.

My first question was if they are sexually satisfied, if they're happy with their sex life.

And all of them, no exception, said no.

Even the married one, first she was like, yes, I am.

And then she was like, not really.

I would like to have more sex.

So not one of them said yes.

I'm having a lot.

How do you feel about that as a man?

What's wrong with men out there that all the girls are saying that?

That's not anything to do with any man.

Like, take what you said.

Like, 100% of women think that they're never sexually satisfied.

Do you know what that means?

It means like golf or like fashion.

Never ever is perfected.

It's never, you get what I'm saying?

Like, you can never, you can never be perfect at golf.

You can never be perfect at sex.

You can never be perfect at golf.

Look, we're not talking about perfection.

Satisfaction.

Yeah, like if you're getting banged nicely and a lot you say yes i'm happy in that department but obviously i'm sure these okay so wait a second let's back up

right are you saying that 100 of these women old in this situation work in relationships and not satisfied no even no some are single like me okay one is married one is dating you know in different stages of relationships one is divorced

but not one of them said yes i'm getting banged so much and so often i'm good they all said men are lacking.

Yeah, so why do you think that is?

Because, okay.

I shouldn't be saying the shit.

No, please, you're here to say the shit.

You're setting me up.

I'm so bad.

Okay.

Men,

not all men.

And let me preface by saying that, because there are men that are lovers and they actually want to try at least to satisfy women.

So let's say that.

And these men make up a very small percentage of women.

I won't want.

lie.

Let's say less than five, maybe ten percent.

So of your eight women, if it was ten, maybe there were two of them that would have said, you know, there are guys out there that anyway, so there are guys that are

good legs, but

the other 80% of the degenerate fucking scumbag males that make up the sexual population.

And most of them are here in Miami.

Well, wherever they are,

they

only think about coming themselves.

So if that happens in six seconds or 60 seconds or six minutes or six hours, that's really the only thing on their mind is, man, I need to fucking organize them and be done and I should be asleep in like 30 seconds or watching a sports center at like 11.15.

So like these guys don't give a fuck about a female's

satisfaction.

Sadly, that's sadly.

There are a lot of those guys out there.

I could really stereotype those guys generally,

but i won't do that but i'm i'm telling you yes i'm not gonna say i'm shocked by that but man you gotta come across once every you know a good one

by it because i thought at least half of them would say oh yeah i know i'm super happy i'm dating someone and this guy's banging me out and it's interesting because even though it's dating i got a question apparently the guys are freaking lazy women want more sex than men so what is it what is it like it just the sex is too short yeah or not enough like for you if i know you're not dating, but if you were dating, like, how many times a week would you do you think it would make you happy

every day?

Taking a fucking pill.

It's not a prescribable thing.

It's like, whenever it feels right, you just need to do it.

That's it.

And that's, I guess, that's the bigger problem.

Is like, obviously, the relationship doesn't feel right because you don't want to fuck her, right?

Exactly.

That's why that's the part that surprised me.

That I think,

but of course, it makes me want to think about what the hell are these men doing and all that, all this numerical things.

Yeah, but I mean, Listen, there's a big,

I don't like going down this wormhole with you because we can go down here for dates, but there's bigger issues of why women are not being satisfied.

And it's not even sexually, it's not just the sex or the act of sex itself.

It's the shit behind the mental shit about it.

That could be to be for a while.

No, I agree.

Let's not all blame men for it.

I am pleasantly shocked.

Yeah.

One super cool thing that they said also is that all of them use sex toys.

And I thought it was really cool because I thought I'm like one of the few and they were all like, oh yeah, one of them said I have a whole fucking bag of sex toys.

And then I asked them if you're dating somebody, if you're having sex with a guy,

why?

Because these guys aren't getting them off.

So a girl has to have sex with you and then rolls over and says, while you're snoring beside her, she's rubbing them out with a girl.

One of my friends said that actually she likes playing with the toys, like bringing the toys into the bedroom.

Yeah, sure,'cause the guy can't get her off.

I think that's the reason why.

So if a girl brought toys when you were with her in bed, would you feel offended?

Yeah, kind of.

It is emasculating.

What do you want?

Of course, your dick isn't fucking good enough for me, so I got to use this thing, obviously.

But

it's the way that it's done.

I guess you got to tread lightly.

Tread lightly.

Like you can do it in a way that it's cool, but if you just kind of like pull out baby thread the dildo.

Pull out like the bag of toys.

but if you do it you know like at the vibration

yeah yeah

yeah that's funny they said so some guys could get offended by that

oh my god that is too funny i never thought about that i of course i have vibrated especially because i hardly ever have sex but i never really let it okay

i mean

I've never had a girl roll over and pull out a vibrator, ever.

Ever.

I've had girls that have used like sex voice, but it wasn't brought on in a manner.

Like, I mean, I wasn't satisfying them, so they had to roll over and rub it out.

You're not satisfying them.

You can do it for many different reasons.

Of course, no, no, I get that, but when I when a guy would see it as such, they would see it as like, you're not doing it for me.

I need to use

it.

So it can make your ego go.

Yeah, for sure.

Even worse, right?

If it was bad before, it can make it even fucking worse.

Yeah, so that's, I'm gonna, I'm gonna tell her to listen to this episode before they pull out the bag of dildos in bed.

Or it's the side drawer, right?

You open the side drawer and there's like fucking, you know.

Yeah, that makes sense.

Now, next question,

switching the subject a little bit.

Let's talk about dating for a second because I know you're a dating expert.

By the way, you're, you know, I know you always say if the guy stops texting, da-da-da, if he doesn't make plans, he's seeing somebody else, right?

So we know that one.

Now, that's a new one that had never happened to me before i went out on a date with this guy two three four five dates a bunch of dates meaning super nice dinners wine conversation da da da da da not once he even tried to kiss me like not once right he even tried to hold my hand

and every time he sees me he would be like i don't know what to think about you

um i'm overwhelmed by you i want to take my time with you on all the dates and i'm like okay whatever whatever.

Exactly.

So I'm going to ask you this question.

So yesterday he called me after like five dates like this.

He calls me, asks today, hi, I'm back in town, blah, blah, blah.

Do you want to go on a date after

the holiday weekend?

After the weekend.

Yeah.

And I'm like, okay, stop it.

Because, you know, I have a big mouth.

I don't play games.

I'm like, what the fuck are you doing?

Seriously?

You had so many dates with me.

You haven't even tried to touch me, kiss me.

And you want me to wait for the whole holiday week and go on another date with

No, he's not, he's divorced.

You know, then he said, Oh, no, you're right.

I'm not ready.

Where does he live?

Like, he was coming into our town.

No, because he has an office out of town, I'm not gonna say where, and an office here.

He's like super successful.

And then when I confronted, I'm like, I'm not gonna wait.

Like, obviously, you're doing something else the whole holiday weekend.

Why?

One question for you.

Yeah.

Will he take you wherever you want to go?

Yeah, super one million percent gentle.

I don't care.

What the fuck?

You got something better to do next week?

Like, yeah, yeah.

No, you know what?

One of my girlfriends said that, but I don't care about the free dinner.

Why are you putting so much stock into this situation?

Why are you overthinking it?

No, not overthinking.

But don't you think?

You think there's games being done?

I'm asking you, as a man, you see a girl that you say you really like or you're attracted to her four or five days and you don't even want to touch her.

You don't even like want to kiss her?

Some guys do that, like, um, they take it really slow.

It's part of what gets ridiculous.

Oh, well, but I only have so much patience, you know.

You do, but maybe other girls find that attractive.

Really?

Whatever, sure.

I just think that, like,

sometimes guys' game may be very aggressive, and like, what the fuck we're gonna know?

Some guys are on the slow side.

Yeah, some people are like, you know, this, some people are like that.

It's just kind of whatever,

you know, whatever his game is.

I'm sure that if you spoke to other girls he dated, I bet you they may have gone through the same experience.

It wouldn't be shocking.

Maybe.

And I'm not sure.

Sorry.

I say that tongue in cheek.

I don't mean to say it like not that you're interested or what to make about you or whatever.

But come on.

You're the one that's, I'm probably sure you're

probably putting, you know, it out there to him that you would like to kiss him or you would like to.

No, I don't, no, no, not sex yet.

No, I'm not there yet.

But I feel like after so many dates, something needs to happen.

No, no, yeah.

You know, remember the one before?

I had sex on the second date.

Then we had a a bunch of dates and the guy disappeared.

So now I decided I'm on a man diet.

I don't know if I told you that.

I spent the whole month of June on a diet and I did really great.

I was very productive.

I'm getting in fabulous shape again.

Didn't you notice?

Like I'm losing some weight.

Yeah.

I'm working.

So I decided to take a break.

So I went on just a few dinners with this guy.

You're fucked up, right?

That you're more productive when you're not taking a fuck man.

Right.

Because instead of going out at night and getting shit faced and I'm homeworking.

And this time, I decided I'm going to take my time, but I want to feel that somebody

you can actually be with someone and not have to think and waste that stupid energy that it takes to be with someone and still be productive and still look good and still do well.

Of course, I agree with you.

Get that mind space of this potato head and look at it like that's just fucking dinner.

Yeah.

That's what I'm saying.

Take out all that shit.

And just look at it like fucking dinner on Wednesday night.

The nicest restaurant you want.

Put a sleep wheels, look hot, go out there, have fun.

That's a nice way to look at it.

But to be completely honest with you, I felt like I'm not gonna sit around for some guy because I don't care about the free dinner.

Like a lot of these bimbos in Miami, they will suck your dick to go to Carbone.

You've said that before.

I don't give a fuck about the free dinner.

I want to be with somebody that actually wants to spend time with me and get to know me.

You know, and so I think it's been so many months.

I'm like, seriously,

maybe just because it's not on your face doesn't mean it's wrong, bad hat or not good.

Like, I know you're very, you know, like fast-paced, not fast-paced, but like you have a you know, a preset schedule

or a dating scenario where you meet a guy, you go on this kind of date.

By this point, you're either making a decision, you're just so structured that, like, maybe sometimes it just doesn't fit in the box world that you try and put all your dates in.

It's just different.

This is why I love talking to you because you always bring the other perspective that we don't see as women.

It's funny that you said that.

You gotta think that, like, when you've been through the dating game so long, just

Bob is like Nick, that's like Steve, that's like John.

They're all the fucking same.

They all say the same dumb shit.

So you've been groomed to figure that if it's not on this path, then it's not going to work for us.

It's going to be better or worse.

You know, I know.

That's what I'm saying.

I think you need to approach it thoughtless.

Like I said, don't overthink it.

You go for fucking dinner.

You could be in a different situation.

Have a couple of drinks of snuff.

Who the fuck knows what's going to happen?

If it sucks, so what?

You gotta fucking ideas out of it.

Be done with it.

Yeah, you know,

well, today he messaged me that, no, the reason why I didn't try to kiss is because I'm not ready for a relationship.

It's a grown man, talking about having a fucking person.

No,

listen, I cannot stand this phrase.

I am not ready.

I just can't stand it.

I don't get exactly.

Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship.

And I'm thinking, first of all, I think people should be ready for whatever the hell life throws at you.

And it bores the crap out of me when somebody tells me that, I'm not ready.

I'm not ready.

He's not 15, he's not 20, he's not 40, he's like 52.

Okay.

So I'm like, you know, seriously, I don't care if you're ready, if you're not ready.

I don't even know if I'm ready, but

you know, he lost me there.

I don't like when people say they're not ready.

I mean, forgive me for, you know, like I said, saying overload.

No, I love that you're blunt.

I mean that, like, obviously you have a podcast and you think about it, you talk about it, and you're aiming a lot, but sometimes you don't need to approach it so

just like you get what I'm saying.

There's not a move after a movie, you never know what can happen.

You get what I'm saying?

You never know what can happen.

I don't know.

I guess I usually know pretty quickly, like you, but at the same time, it sucks that you're like that.

It sucks because you're over

you're like a defense lawyer, like you can poke a hole.

I'm just like, you know, some people tell me that they love that I just say I speak my mind, like I don't play games.

I know.

Let me ask your opinion.

When you text a girl, you know, most women say, Oh, wait many hours to respond.

That I play the game.

I, if I like the guy, I just text, blah, blah, blah.

Do you think it's better to play the games, or do you think it's better to just be straightforward?

I told you it's 100% 50-50 because some girls can look at it as like you're being too aggressive.

Let's slow down and chat here longer.

You get what I'm saying?

Yeah.

So it's weird.

Like, sometimes if you're like, hey, what are you doing this weekend?

Let's meet up too quickly, then

they put you in this.

He's too aggressive.

Yeah.

So you're either too aggressive or not aggressive.

Yeah.

And like sometimes the minute after you send it text, you're like,

because then it makes you look pushy or it makes you look like you're trying too hard or it makes you look fucking desperate.

That's the problem with texting, there's no emotion to it.

I know.

So you're not really being like, what are you up to this weekend?

Like, what are you up to?

You know what I'm saying?

It's like, you never really know how, you know.

I know.

But in general,

when you text the girl, like when man texts the a girl, do you think it makes you want to go after her more if she waits many hours to text you back and if she plays hard to get?

Or it's annoying.

This is like high school shit.

Yeah, but apparently adults are behaving like that these days.

But unfortunately.

I agree with you.

It's very much.

You have to, again, the old texting film.

I literally...

have friends of mine that I refuse to text to because like it's so like passive aggressive or it's like you don't really know what they're saying by what they're texting like say what I think you fucking said you know what I mean like it's like are you fucking with me or like it's like you can't really tell because it's just a couple short sentences like you don't know really their interpretation of how they send it and it fucks with people so you have to be very you know particular when you're texting to a guy of early stages because like I said like they may interpret it their own way it's not the same as delivering it face-to-face I agree.

So it's better to just call the person.

Call them.

Just freaking.

FaceTime is fast because then you get the

actual face.

Like when you're being sarcastic and just fucking with someone, they know you're fucking with them because they can see on your face, oh, he's fucking with them.

When you fuck with someone at text, they don't really, you get what I'm saying?

And again, it sucks that, like, as adults, we can't figure that shit out.

I know.

Yeah, yeah, it's you said it's very high school, and I agree with you.

All of these behaviors that I keep seeing on people I date, on people that listen to the podcast, the questions I get,

I think I'm talking to 21-year-olds, but I'm talking about grown men.

I know.

I can't believe a guy was talking about your first kiss.

Like, that is just weird.

I'm sorry, I don't mean it to make mock about it.

We're not mocking him.

We're just debating, you know?

Yeah, I think that, I think that at his age, and I'm sure with his experience in life and kissing someone, it's not seventh grade where you're like, we'll meet you in the forest and at this time and, you know, go stand here, we kiss someone for the first time.

It's like it's all trouble thing, like, come on, man.

Yeah, I guess to me, because he said, I didn't kiss you because I'm not ready for a relationship.

In my book, it would kind of be the oh, that's your hand.

In my book, it would kind of be like, Well, I'm dating somebody, I kind of want to kiss them, at least touch their hand.

Because to me, if we don't have chemistry, I don't want to be with that person.

You know, my opinion is what

is your opinion in this situation?

Is it like you learn more about someone like physical causes?

I agree.

I know.

You want to know someone and put your head between your eyes.

Or even touch their hand, right?

No, put your hand between their thighs.

But what if you're not?

Nobody's going to put their head in between my thighs before they kiss me.

Okay, but no, but you get what I'm saying.

If you want true intimacy with someone, that's how you let them in.

No, I agree.

But the first thing is a kiss.

Okay.

Or like touch the first.

Yes.

But if you're using it as a guide to judge someone or know them, we're both on the same page there.

Before I think, oh, do I want to have a relationship with this person?

I'm thinking, well, let me see if I even like to kiss them.

If I like when he touches me.

That's true.

You know, so I think he was like way ahead.

Some people, I mean, this is weird.

Some people, like, weren't hugged enough with children and shit.

Like, I'm serious.

Like, they just don't really get off on holding hands and like hugs and shit.

And COVID-19 weirdness.

You think it's fucked.

It's real.

Like it is actually, you know.

Not in this case.

Well, in Miami, everybody, because you're coming from your country.

In Miami, everybody is.

Yeah, I got you.

I got you.

Like you're coming from another state.

But I think here in Miami, I mean, everybody's been dating and

kissing.

Believe me, you know.

Anyway, I just, it's part of that other thing, too, right?

A lot of guys are wound up on the whole like me too and like respecting a woman's space.

space and we've talked about this before that like you can't just like I I've legit heard of kids that are like 13 or 14 years old that like they have you know like sex egg classes and these teachers are educating them on how to approach a first kiss like ask for consent like young lady is it okay if I come in to kiss you what the fuck is going on yes you have the right to come in you get what I'm saying?

It's almost like a sales pitch

for children.

So they're not offending or like, you know, they're not that the shit's going sideways.

So, it has made an impact on society.

The fact that, like, men do think about that, like, wait a second, am I being inappropriate?

Am I crossing a line?

Hey, I'm just giving you

that.

And I'm gonna tell you something, that's my opinion.

And I know you're gonna say, maybe I intimidate a lot of men.

And first of all, if I intimidate a man, I don't even want.

I want like, I know, I want a super strong guy that I don't intimidate, but

I want them to come and do it.

Yeah.

You know, if the guy likes me, I don't like lukewarm.

I hate lukewarm shit.

You know, I come hot and heavy or get the be my friend, you know.

I don't want like a, oh, I like you, but I'm not sure that I like you.

Let's like, seriously, you either want to date me and just fucking grab me and throw me against the wall or don't do it and then let's be friends, you know?

And to me, like lukewarm, I prefer not to do it.

How about you?

Well, like I said, you have to really judge someone, and you know my opinion on this.

I mean, if it doesn't move relatively, yeah, if it doesn't move, yeah, like that is over.

I'm sorry, but I didn't fly with you.

I would have been long fucking gone.

But that's what a guy opinion is totally different.

No, but that's what I thought.

I said, Look, I'm not gonna wait until after the holiday.

Let's be friends.

I really like you as a friend.

You're very intelligent.

Okay, have have a great weekend, but I'm not gonna wait for this guy to freaking decide if he likes me or or not you know

you and your end timers of time

I told you I disagree with time frames on whether you like somebody well it's funny that you disagree but when I ask you how many remember we said if a girl makes you wait and wait and wait and wait you're gonna like get off the couch and go meet somebody else

so I'm giving you the same advice I'm telling you the same thing I was gonna call them fucking long time ago because like you're kissing It's like whoa, whoa.

Yes.

If you're like day three, you're not making some kind of contact.

Like, maybe that's it.

It was once and it was like five days.

Yeah, remember you said that when we asked how if a girl should hold on sand, but you said it's bullshit.

Don't use the vagina as like a bargaining.

I and I agree that's horrible.

You would go and just find somebody else to bang her.

Let's not just point it at me.

Most men.

I'm saying that there's a majority of men that would probably be that.

That's not like I said, it's not entirely every guy, but yeah, guys are vimal, they think, with their penises.

I don't think it's shocking to human.

I agree.

So if you, if

they are not going to let you fuck them, most men will go and have sex with somebody else.

Very few will hang out.

Plus, seriously, I would not make somebody hang out with me for three months.

Let's think if we did that.

After three months, you go kiss them and have sex, and it sucks.

Can you imagine?

Like, what a freaking waste of time, right

it's better to get at least a kiss out of the way that's my two cents for this week it's funny because you sound like a 16 year old

i swear to kids oh no just kiss me

wait for the next one

it's the first time that the guy was playing hard to get with me

maybe this guy's got some good game

it doesn't work with me i don't do games well look at you're obviously talking about it so maybe he's maybe he's got some you know space in your head the other guy no they all have space in my head i adore them i have no i hold no groups i become friends with most of the guys i date

some of them get bitter like the guy that ghosted me after all those dates i i said something super nice about him on the podcast yeah i told him our first our second date where we had sex and it was so hot and heavy and he did everything great it was a first date master class and i told him i said i i said really nice things about and he was pissed Yeah, really, did he say that?

Yeah, is that it?

Yeah, he's like, All I'm gonna say is, I hope your podcast is very successful.

Like, you know how he didn't mean it.

Yeah, but you know, like, the fact you say good things, so

yeah.

Anyway, whatever, you know, I, you know, I say good things about everybody, but this is this is all debate, so we learn how to be.

Don't worry about it.

I know what I'm gonna be doing this holiday weekend.

Enjoy my dogs hanging out at the Sew House and working.

Chocolate and vibrator.

You're me, man.

Maybe I should buy a few new vibrators.

Thank you so much for doing this.

I'm so happy you're back in Miami.

And I hope at least while you're hanging out, we come back.

It's so much fun to have you.

Are you dating anybody here in Miami this weekend?

You don't know yet.

I am doing me.

I always get like a gazillion messages.

Who is he?

Who is he?

I want to meet him.

Can you show your hands here on my Instagram?

Maybe one day you'll show me.

Maybe, maybe one day.

I don't know.

Thank you for doing this.

Have a wonderful holiday weekend.

This was Can on the Blues, and I'll see you guys on Tuesday after the 4th of July.

Be safe out there.

Love you.