THE CUTE GUY ANSWERS YOUR QUESTIONS

It's Tuesday, and Tuesday means a brand new episode of Cat on the Loose with my secret guest.

And you guys love him.

He's the cute, hot, sexy guy.

He's not in Miami anymore.

He's back in his home in Canada.

But he's here with me via WhatsApp.

Hi, cute guy.

Hello.

Thank you for doing this.

You're cute from far away, too.

Apparently,

the fans of the podcast really miss you because you've been getting tons and tons of questions.

Oh, yeah?

Oh, yeah.

Well,

wow, so you're ready to jump right on it, huh?

Let's get ready to it.

Let's get ready to it.

It's a bunch of girls'

questions about guys.

So the first thing is

a lot of girls ask, do you think girls in general are too desperate to have a relationship as opposed to just chew and go on a date or casual sex

guys don't think like that you don't we're not prepared right away for

girls to come at you with full-blown relationship you know conversations yeah we're just trying to get in your pants that's way too complicated made it seem a little less complicated then we'd probably get along with you.

You probably understand each other more.

See, like you guys, you guys go full relationship.

Wait a minute, let's get married tomorrow.

So, the answer to the question, yes, you think most girls are too desperate to talk about let's get in a relationship.

I don't think it's how soon are you talking?

What's the point of desperate?

You tell us, what do you think would be too desperate?

Inside of a month?

Yeah, that's pretty bad.

Inside of a month.

But how about if, let's say you're dating somebody for a while, like you went on a few dates in two or three months?

Do you think that's still like too soon to talk about dating and having a relationship or not?

Of course not, of course not.

That's about right.

I mean, because then what, like, inside of like after like six months, you should be like living with someone.

Is that alright?

Would you agree?

After how many months?

Six months?

Like, as an adult?

Like, how old?

How old are you like adults moving away from?

I don't know.

Yeah, that's true.

I don't know because I was married for so long and after that I never lived with anybody.

So that's a good question.

So yeah, so there you go.

So like, I don't know, a month in, like, you should have the relationship chat.

And then like, after like six months, it's like, you're going to like, you know, move in with each other.

And then like after a year, you're getting married, right?

That's usually like how it go.

Wow.

Wait a minute.

I'm asking, I'm talking to a guy that has never been, he doesn't even like the word marriage, but we're not talking about you.

We're not talking about your personality.

We're talking about your guy point of view.

So how long do you think if you're dating a girl or most guys are dating a girl before or until you actually think, let's talk about being exclusive or boyfriend and girlfriend or how long do you think?

A month?

So if a guy doesn't tell a girl girl after a month, after two months, after three months, hey, let's be boyfriend and girlfriend, he's like pretty much wasting her time.

He just wants to bang her.

It depends how much, how often you're seeing each other inside that month, right?

Like if you're seeing somebody, you know, every other day or every day or, you know, once a week, it totally changes.

But if you're with someone, you're an adult, you want to see them often.

I'd say after a month, you know.

I agree with you.

I think a month hanging out, maybe two months if you don't see each other that often, should be enough to figure out if the guy.

You think two?

Do you say two months?

I think a month or a couple months, yeah, hanging.

Because you're not going to see the person every day, right?

How old?

Does it matter?

If you're talking to

25 to 35-year-old girl, that's a different story.

But 35 and older,

it's more like a week you're having.

No, that's not whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

That's not true because I'm 35 and older, and I don't feel like that.

You may be a particular rarity of the situation, but some girls don't fuck around.

They kick you out of their house.

They're like,

okay,

it's a different situation.

They're in a whole different, you know.

Well, I don't think.

Well, I, up until now, I didn't think it had anything to do with age.

I think it has to do with

what no way

you're kidding

you're telling me the 30 and older uh version of looking at a relationship is the same as the 20 older

no of course i think 20 something year olds they want in in general they they want they're more relaxed and they want to have fun basically but yeah this is a podcast i think my audience is a little more mature than the 20 something year old year old

most of my audience is like in their 30s a A lot of them are in their 40s.

So, and a lot of them want a relationship.

Some of them are like you, they just want to date and have fun, which is completely fine.

But the question I get a lot is: how many times should I go on a date with a guy until I decide, oh, he's just wasting my time, or yeah, we're gonna end up being boyfriend and girlfriend?

One month.

One month, girls, one month.

Okay, so

the next question is related to this question.

Is it true that it's always the guy that decides how do you tell somebody, let's be boyfriend and girlfriend?

Or do you just say, hey, do you want to be my girlfriend?

How do adults do that?

I think you just generally get the vibe that like you're boyfriend and girlfriend.

And it shouldn't be spoken about.

It's not a conversation?

I mean, obviously, you have some conversation.

You know when to have the conversation because you're supposed to feel a vibe, right?

Like you're supposed to be like, hey, I really like this this girl.

Can you speak a little closer to your phone so we can hear you?

Yeah, that's better.

Thank you.

Is that better?

That's better.

Sorry, guys.

We're remotely talking, so I want to make sure the quality is really good for you guys.

So you never, how about the conversation of being exclusive?

Because in the beginning of dating, there shouldn't be this pressure.

Or is there the pressure?

Like, because you go on a date with a girl once, twice.

Are you still gonna look for other girls?

Or when do you have this conversation?

Let's just see each other.

I really like you.

I think that comes around the same one-month time frame.

It's the same question, right?

Like, you're basically saying, okay,

when's that point where you start to think of someone as your girlfriend?

It's a month.

And that point where you're exclusive is essentially the same time you're having that conversation, right?

Yeah, I think so.

Isn't it too soon a month?

No.

it is.

It is too soon.

But you think that's what girls expect?

You gotta remember too, like, depending on your situation, or how you met somebody, or, you know, like you gotta think, like, if you met somebody on a dating app, there's gonna have to be a process where, like, you've met them,

you both get off of a dating app, okay?

So that doesn't happen immediately, right?

So you meet someone you go on a date or two, are you supposed to get right off the dating app immediately?

Or, like, still, like, hopefully, I mean, I would love to

see that situation that you meet somebody, and like, okay, that's it.

I like this person so much, I don't want to go back to a dating app.

But I agree, most people don't do that.

So, you find somebody you like, and you think most people are still like out there fishing for other dates?

He's saying, He's saying plenty of fish for a reason.

Oh, no, that's not.

No, No, no, no, but no, no, you gotta,

yeah, it's really interesting because it's how soon to get off that before you're exclusive with someone else.

I don't know, it all depends on the feeling, right?

Yeah, you should be able to have a pretty good read of somebody by that point to know that they like you and you like them, and you should have a relationship.

I

that's just funny.

Yeah, are you on any dating apps yourself?

No, no more.

Dating apps, no more.

No more.

I know it's so much work and it's frustrating.

and it's time consuming and it's oh

you know

you gotta like get past that level of bullshit.

I agree.

And a lot of girls send this question for you.

Do you think less of girls that you would meet through a dating app or not?

Like if you meet a girl on the street as opposed to a girl you meet on a dating app?

No, for sure.

Same thing.

It's where we live in now.

Like you have no choice.

Yeah, right?

Where would you meet someone?

Where would you meet someone if not on a dating app?

I mean, you still meet people in real life, of course, but at the same time, like you know, you're just more likely to at least see the whole part about dating apps because you don't meet people physically, you have to get to that point of whether they're real or not, which takes a lot of work.

Yeah, or when you meet someone face-to-face, you can tell pretty quickly how real they are.

Well, in my case, they look at my social media and I am so present.

I do so many stories every day.

My real life, no makeup, with makeup.

I think when they see me in person, they feel like they already know everything about my life.

I don't know if that's good or bad.

Probably not the best idea.

Well, it depends how much you give away.

I'm sure you get a lot of people who think they know you pretty well.

A lot of people think they know.

Well, you guys that follow my podcast and my social media, and you're my friend, you know, I give a lot away.

I'm like super transparent.

Yeah, sure.

And it's for work, it's good because people love that.

And I'm not sure.

Well, for dating, it has proven in the past that it's not the best idea.

It can be tough.

It can be tough.

It can be tough.

Now, another girl sent this question.

I think it's kind of funny.

Do you think,

and you as a man and you personally, or most men, do you think some women are just for sex?

Oh, this girl is great for sex.

And some women are, oh, she's nice enough that I would date her.

The question is:

do you think some women, you look at them and you're like, oh, this girl is only good for sex.

And some women, you look at them and say, oh, this person is actually nice enough that I would date her.

Or there is no such thing.

Yeah, there's no such thing.

Come on.

There is?

Come on, I do it.

Which, which, I don't know, you girls have it.

There's like church heels and there's like fucking hooker heels.

Like, you guys know what you're doing.

You can can wear two different outfits if you wanted to.

So, you know, you don't, you, you guys know the lucky combined core.

So if you, if you wanted to look like, you know, the respectable type, whatever, you can wear that.

The respectable part.

So there is a certain outfit we should wear if we want to look dateable?

If you, I meant it more on the other side, that if you looked, if you dressed a particular way, that you were were a little more on the you know on the hoochy side

on the slidier side you can say anything you want on this podcast you know that right you can say

you can say any words you want on this podcast i know i know i know so yes i said my answer to that is yes you can tell the difference you can tell the difference okay

so now i put a question in there if i dress super sexy and i look amazing and you meet me, in your mind you're going to think, oh, she's super sexy, she's good just for sex.

You can be good at both, you know.

I agree.

I think I'm good at both.

Those are the ones that you make your girlfriend.

The ones that are slutty and can be your girlfriend.

Yeah.

Perfect.

Is it true most men, a lot of men say, oh, we want to have a slut in bed and we want to have a a a lady in public.

The Madonna complex.

We have talked about this.

The Madonna complex.

Can you tell our listeners really quickly was the Madonna complex?

Yeah, the Madonna complex, I believe, I may be wrong for psychologists out there, I don't know, but it's when you look at your girlfriend a type of way when you first meet her.

And then after a period of time, as you become more emotionally attached, you can't do certain things where it's supposed to be real.

Like, you can't just come in her face anymore because you love her yeah you did say that before

and I remember saying that to me that sounds so freaking crazy because I would think the more time you spend with someone the more you feel so intimate with them that you're like let's go nuts and let's make all our fantasies come true

Apparently,

it is what it is.

Apparently, guys, I hope, I really, really hope you're wrong on this one.

As much as I adore you, I hope you're wrong on this one.

Did I ask you a question?

Yes, of course.

Have you ever heard of a guy masturbating to his girlfriend's photo?

I've heard of guys, like when you're dating, they're masturbating when they're not with you.

Yeah.

Like you send them a little video.

Okay, okay, here's another question.

Let's say you've been married for 15 years.

Right?

Yeah.

And your wife goes out, you've got the afternoon off, and you think, fuck it, I'm going to rub one out.

Why not?

No one's home, whatever.

You want me to pick up a picture of my wife and jerk off to my wife?

Are you fucking crazy?

That is like the most disturbing thing ever.

That never happened.

Well, to their wife, I don't know.

But again, you said boyfriend and girlfriend doing that.

Yes.

Okay, even still, boyfriend of like

girlfriend of three years.

You're going to rub one out looking at a picture of your girlfriend.

You never did it.

You never like were having a relationship with somebody and you like them so much and you're like, oh, baby, send me a hot video.

I miss you.

Different.

That's different.

It's the same thing.

I'm just saying, I don't know.

I would try.

I'm telling you, when I'm dating, if I'm not with the person, of course, after you know them, blah, blah, blah.

It's cool to send some sexy videos, some naked things.

I'm saying there's no guy in the world that's out there jerking off his pictures of his wife or long-term girlfriend.

In part, it's the Madonna complex.

Oh, I can see.

I'm going to get.

Guys out there, if you are

sorry, in his words, not my words, jerking off

with your wife's videos and photos when you're not together,

please send me.

No, we are.

This is 100% unedited, raw organic, and this is going to be another X-rated episode.

And I love it.

I like when you speak your mind.

Let's squeeze in one more question.

And time goes by so fast when you're here.

It's so much fun.

Do you like when a girl asks you out or should it always be the man?

Now, before you answer, a lot of men tell me, men are hunters.

And these relationship experts are like, men like to hunt.

Let them ask you out.

Don't be too easy.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And the girls play this game.

So I'm going to let him ask me out.

So a lot of girls send this question to you.

Do you like when a girl asks you out or not?

Or you like to do the hunting?

Listen, any guy that says there are fucking hunters are ridiculous.

Okay, look, it's the same way as it's the same way I explain it to you like this.

If you were a guy and you were standing in a bar and a girl walked up to your bar and gave you her phone number, you would feel like the fucking man.

Okay?

The greatest, of course.

You would.

Of course.

shit ever.

That doesn't happen to guys.

That's why they don't have that.

I have done that before, and the guy didn't call me.

That's such a funny story.

But you know what happened?

You're not going to believe it.

I got to tell you guys that story in another episode.

We were flirting in a restaurant like a few months ago.

And the guy was so hot and so shy.

So I gave the manager my business card.

I said, hey, give it to that guy when I leave.

And then

the manager, I think the manager kept my business card to himself and never gave it to the guy because the business manager got jealous and pissed because he was flirting with me

and you know I you know I know I'm so stupid my girlfriend had said the same thing and you know why I think why I found out this is true because the manager started following me looking at all my stories sending me messages I'm like huh I think he tossed my card because I think the guy would have called me I guarantee you, if you walked up to him, took your business card, and slid it into his jacket pocket, really, that motherfucker would call you 1,000%.

I know.

Okay, so I gotta try that move next.

And he was the cutest guy.

It's not even that move, but it's the same thing.

It's the same thing to your listeners, right?

Like, yeah, of course, ask a guy out.

Don't be sleep.

First of all, it's like 2021.

Hello.

I know.

It doesn't even work that way.

If you're feeling something, just say, hey,

I wouldn't say yes to a you know, a beautiful woman asking them out on date.

Oh, yeah, I'm single, a beautiful girl asked me out.

Does it matter who asks who?

Like, it's so cool that you're saying that because so many people out there, and I get super annoyed.

Like, I watch experts on social media saying, Hi, wait, don't go after the guy, and go invite.

And I'm thinking, I agree with you, this is 2021.

People that say you have to wait like a certain period of time before you call someone, or like they say that too,

yeah, they say that too.

No, if it feels right, and that's just the way it is, just do it.

Fucking ask.

So, if you were sitting, and then if it didn't feel right, then that person you shouldn't ask in the first place.

Then, fuck it, see you later.

Bye.

So, girls, you listen to you are listening

advice from a guy, a real guy.

He's super talented, he's extremely successful, and he's extremely hot.

So, go for it.

If you see him

or someone, and I'm not his PR,

I'm just his friend.

But anyways, I love that you said that because I agree.

I think girls should go for what they want as much as guys should go for what they want.

And I think if a guy is intimidated by you inviting them out, maybe he's not the right guy for you, right?

That's right.

That's right.

Absolutely right.

So you don't.

You can never be who you want to be.

So this is like total BS.

Oh, men men need to hunt.

Who says that?

So many.

I've been doing a lot of research on social media since I started this podcast because I want to hear, you know, what people have to say about it.

And it's cringy.

They're very like macho oriented.

They make women feel like this little bimbo doll, you know, sitting there on a shelf.

that men gotta come and say, oh yeah, I want to play with her and I want to put her back on the shelf, you know, and I hate that.

there are a few local Miami podcasts that feel and talk about some of those very same yeah motismo kind of topics that are actually pretty fucking disgusting while my house I mean as a guy

you see

and and it's more culturally than anything like they come from backgrounds that like where that shit's okay like you know

if they just grab you by the arm they're like come with me baby you're just like are you talking seriously

who Who does that?

But that's what you're saying.

It's like, you know, it's, it, they refer to girls as like kills.

You know,

exactly.

Yeah.

So

I love your answer.

Thank you so much.

You are amazing.

And I really appreciate you doing this

from so far away.

And obviously, you became a fan favorite on my podcast.

He's doing his little dance, and I can't even show you on my social media.

No, you can't show me.

I don't exist.

Well, you exist, and you're adorable, and I appreciate it because you're actually super honest about things.

That's it.

Last question: and it's super important: when are you coming back to Miami?

No, I'm coming back when they let me.

But

that's not a good answer because I know you're not in no rush.

I had four marriage offers, and even those scared me.

Yeah, four?

Yeah, I couldn't commit to any of those.

Yeah, they're not committed to see.

Even fake marriages, I can't.

Well, you're not ready.

Marriage is for people who are ready.

Even fake marriages are not ready for us.

I hope you come back soon because we really miss you.

I will.

Thank you so much.

And I know we're going to get tons more questions for you.

So I hope you come back for one more episode.

I will answer.

This was Kat on the Loose, guys.

And if you have any more questions for him, please shoot.