TINDER VENT

Hi guys, happy Monday.

So, today's episode is a Tinder venting.

I was never really big on it.

The first time I tried to use it was like a little over two years ago, and I had a super horrible experience.

I met a guy

who was a doctor, super successful doctor in Brazil with an apartment in Miami.

So, he was going back and forth, and he seemed like this perfect date we went out to a really nice bar we drank wine we hit it off he was so intelligent everything was really nice about him he told me he was single he really wanted a girlfriend he spent half of his time in brazil half of his time here blah blah blah we ended up dating

um for a few months and really really like

dating dating i mean he was going to events with me to parties with me he went to my house he met all my friends.

We went to the super high-end, important business event that I had here in Miami, which was a gala dinner.

So, I mean, in my mind, everything is going great.

And I'm dating this guy, and he's interested in meeting my friends.

Wow, amazing.

Then, three months into this,

all of a sudden, one day he comes and tells me that he had something to tell me out of the blue.

And I'm like, okay.

So he says that he has a girlfriend down in Brazil, and I'm like, oh my god, are you serious?

So you've been lying to me here, and you've been lying to her that you are with anybody here.

And he's like, yes.

And by the way, she's coming to Miami to see me for like a month.

Okay,

I can't believe you're doing this.

We went out in public, we went out to parties, all my friends know you.

I am a public person in Miami.

I'm pretty well known.

How the hell can you do this?

And he pretty much looks at me and says, well, this is the deal.

If we cross paths in a restaurant, at a bar or at an event, you better make sure you don't know me and you don't talk to her and you don't ruin my relationship for me.

And I was like, what?

Are you freaking crazy?

Do you really think I'm going to look at you like I don't know you?

Like I'm just going to shut up and not say anything.

So then things got really ugly.

He looked at me and said, well, if you talk to her, if you do anything to me i am going to release a little video of you on google online all over the place the little video of me he was talking about was a super private video that i had sent him that showed me naked not not my entire body but it showed me doing something while i was naked i am not embarrassed of saying that because i think a lot of people when you're in a relationship and you see each other every night and you're in each other's homes and everything you kind of hopefully you trust that person.

I think relationships are a game of trust from the get-go.

So, I like this guy, and he would send me little videos, and I would send him little videos.

So, anyways, he threatens to put this super private video of me online.

And he threatened the wrong girl because maybe a lot of girls would be like, Oh my god, this is going to be so embarrassing.

What am I going to do?

In my case, I pretty much thought, well,

I tell you what, I'm not going to be blackmailed.

I'm not going to be pushed against the wall by some creep like you.

If you want to release my video, go for it.

I want you to know that this is a cyber crime,

publishing something private from someone without their authorization.

And I will sue you.

I will tell the police you did it, but go ahead.

And you know what?

Regarding my work and my sponsors and my friends and my followers on social media, I will tell them the truth.

I'm not going to lie to them and tell them, oh, it's not me.

It leaked by mistake.

I am actually going to go and tell everybody what you are doing.

I'm going to face it.

I'm going to say, yes, I was a girl and I was with this guy.

I was dating this guy and I felt super comfortable with him and I trusted him.

And I sent him a video and now he's threatening me.

And if I didn't do what he wanted, he published this video.

So just go for it.

And the minute I said that, he backed off.

He never published it.

And believe it or not, we were at the Miami Open, the Miami 10 is Open.

and sure enough the first day I'm standing there promoting a brand he walks by with his girlfriend and all my girlfriends were like yeah just go and tell her and I said you know what I feel so sorry for her and I feel sorry for him and I really don't want to get involved she's gonna have to figure this out by herself and at the end I didn't say hi and I didn't say anything

But basically, that's the image I've had about people on Tinder.

Months and months and months later, one day he was back in Miami and he sent me a message if he could stop by my office.

And he did, and he apologized.

He said, you know, I wasn't very nice to you, blah, blah, blah.

But damage was done.

I mean, I cannot imagine doing something more disgusting to a woman than using something private that she sent you to blackmail her.

I mean, this guy is a scumbag.

I don't know if he's still with this girl.

I ended up looking at his social media, her social media, and they were dating for like a couple of years when he started dating me.

So, I mean, the guy was a complete pig.

And it's not like we just had sex.

It's not like he was cheating on her just for a nightstand.

We actually had a relationship.

So, this guy is just a scumbag and he's disgusting.

So, after that, I deleted my Tinder account.

And now, the past few months, I've been alone since May, since the race car drivers/incredible hoax story ended.

And one of my friends who incredibly incredibly met her husband on tinder

i know it's like winning the lottery but she did they met he was here visiting and they fell in love and they got married and they're happy and this was like maybe two three years ago she convinced me she said let's reactivate your account i'm gonna write something nice about you let's give this a try again so i was like okay whatever what am i gonna do in this pandemic

I want to date, of course.

I still dream of meeting somebody nice.

I want a nice partner.

I want actually an an adult that doesn't feel like playing games I don't play games and I don't want to play games I just want like a nice mature easy fun relationship so anyways I tried again and after like 10 million no no no no no no no's I met a guy and we kind of hit it off on Tinder we started talking on on WhatsApp and we talked for like weeks and weeks and weeks by the time maybe four or five weeks By the time I agreed to meet him, I was like, okay, I think I know this guy.

He told me about about his job, about his family, about where he lived, about what he did, that he was just like me.

He didn't want any games, he didn't want a player, he didn't do one-night stands.

Oh, he went out of his way.

So, we met at a really nice restaurant and we had drinks, we had an appetizer.

At the end of the night, he was like, Oh, I can't believe you're really normal, you are who you say you are.

And I said the same thing: I said, Wow, I can barely believe I met somebody nice out of this app.

So, we laughed and we kissed, and I left

the next night.

he said he wanted to make dinner for me because he mentioned that he loves to cook and I also love to cook.

So I was like, okay, just come over to my place.

And he's like, oh, that's what I like about you.

You know what you want, and I know what I want.

And that sounds fantastic.

And by the way, since I live so far away from you, can I just stop by and spend the night?

And I was like, yeah, sure.

Who are we kidding?

We know we like each other.

We had a great first date.

We know what's going to happen.

So yeah, if you want to drink and have fun and you're here with me, you're welcome to spend the night.

So this guy comes over on a Friday night and he has all these grocery bags.

He bought wine, he bought steaks, he bought pasta, he bought this, he bought that.

And I was super excited.

Like I prepped the whole day, of course, I organized my apartment, I looked so pretty, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

So he gets here, we start kissing.

Obviously, we knew something was going to happen before we had dinner.

We end up in bed and we have sex.

It was okay sex, but I mean, not with everybody you meet.

You're going to have fantastic sex exactly the first time you meet it was all right so we get out of bed and he goes to the bathroom and I put like a little t-shirt on and I go to the kitchen to open the wine and he's like oh

by the way I'm not spending the night because I'm super busy tomorrow I got a ton of shit to do and I said okay that's fine whatever makes you comfortable but he changed literally from water from wine to water

then he went into the kitchen he's like oh i'm not even really hungry so maybe we shouldn't cook all these things.

Maybe I'll just make a quick pasta.

And I was like, what do you mean?

You came over for dinner and now we had like this quick sex.

You're not interested in dinner.

You're not interested in it.

No, no, it's okay.

It's okay.

I'll make dinner.

I'll make dinner.

I'll hang out.

I'll hang out.

But I don't want,

I'll just make like pasta.

Forget the meat.

Anyways, I noticed he was so freaking awkward and I couldn't believe it.

I'm like, oh my Jesus, did this guy really went through all this trouble, talked to me for weeks and weeks and weeks on end, brought all these groceries just just because he thought he was going to get like late for five minutes.

Are you freaking kidding me?

So anyways, he cooked this pasta and we sit down to eat.

And I was trying to make like natural normal conversation.

And I asked about his weekend and he was like, oh, I'm going to be super busy the whole weekend.

And I'll see you like in a couple of weeks and I come back from Brazil.

And I was like, okay, whatever.

So we finished dinner.

And he starts kissing me again.

And he's like, oh, let's go to bed again.

So whatever.

We had sex again and it was quick again and it was even worse than the first time.

And by then I'm like, listen, you know, it's getting late.

If you want to leave, maybe you should just go.

He's like, okay.

So he goes to the kitchen and he grabs all the groceries that he brought.

Oh, I'm going to take the steak back and I'm going to take this back and you keep this.

And I, and I'm like, listen, just take whatever the hell you want back.

And so he takes a few things and then he decides other things he's leaving in my kitchen and he just left.

Needless to say, he didn't send a message the next morning.

And like I said, I'm not a person that plays games or anything.

I thought it was the most ridiculous, pathetic behavior I've ever seen.

And this is why I feared Tinder.

I can't believe men go through all this trouble for like five minutes.

It's like, oh, now I fucked this girl and I'm done.

So the next morning, I did send him a message and I pretty much just wrote, well, you are exactly what I didn't want from Tinder.

This is what I feared.

It's ridiculous.

You know, I can't believe adults behave like that.

Best of luck, whatever.

And he answered back, No, it's nothing like that.

I'm really busy, blah, blah, blah.

And then I never even answered again.

So, the venting is really, guys, I mean, come on.

Yes, my friend Michael that I interviewed, and a lot of people that I interviewed, they say, Oh, a lot of men are on Tinder because they want quick sex.

Then just say it.

There are a lot of girls out there that want the same thing.

I have a lot of girlfriends that use Tinder just because they want

simple, easy sex.

They're not ready for a relationship.

They don't have a boyfriend so how about being honest how about being straightforward if that's what you want just say it hi I would like to hook up and I'm not looking for a relationship and I'm not interested in anything else it is just so freaking disgusting so that's my event of Monday am I gonna use it again not

sure.

I looked at a few more pictures and I saw a guy that I knew here from Miami.

He's not really a friend and he was kind of a business contact and he's super cute.

I didn't even know he wasn't married anymore.

And I did have his WhatsApp number because we talked about some business a while ago.

So I did send him a message and I was like, oh my god, I saw you on Tinder.

And he started like communicating with me and being super nice about it.

Oh, did you swipe right?

Did you swipe left?

And I was joking, like, oh, I did a bunch.

And it's true.

I did so many like so quickly.

And when I saw your picture, like, automatically, I swiped left.

But I would have swiped right at least to say hi and see what's going on.

So, he was like, Yeah, maybe we should try this.

We already know each other.

And I said, Yeah, let's go have some wine.

Then he invited me to wine.

Let's go have some wine tomorrow night.

This was like a couple of weeks ago.

And I said, Yeah, that sounds great.

At least we're gonna laugh and have a wine.

I wasn't expecting anything, but I thought it might be fun to go out with somebody I know.

Anyways, the next day that we supposedly have this wine schedule, he disappeared.

He never said hello.

he never said, Sorry, I can't go.

Sorry, let's cancel.

Never, ever, ever.

He simply disappeared from the map again.

Super, super, super strange behavior.

I'm like, What the hell?

If you change your mind and you decided for whatever reason you didn't want to go out with me, if somebody said something about me, or if you met another girl, send a message, be nice, be freaking adults about it.

I cannot stand men that behave like teenagers, you know, run away after sex or lie that you want a relationship or tell a girl you're going to take her out and disappear.

How about behaving like adults?

So that's my Monday event.

Ladies, men, send me your messages, send me your opinion.

I love, love hearing from you.

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It's not even funny.

I'd rather be alone and super happy by myself and wait until the right person comes up than just put up with this crazy bozos.

Love you guys.

Thank you so much for listening.

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Bye.

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