HOW TO BECOME A PHOENIX AND RISE FROM ANY ADVERSITY

Hi, my gorgeous people, Cat Kingdom, newcomers to Cat on the Lose. Welcome, welcome, welcome.
If you've never been here, Cat on the Lose is always 100% organic, meaning non-scripted, never edited. This is a solo episode.
I haven't done a solo episode in a really long time. And I get a lot of messages and a lot of questions about my journey.
How did I get here? How did I make the podcast so successful? I get questions about my life, about what I do, how it's been. How do you start a podcast? How do you make money? La, la, la, la, la.
And to me, the key word in my life is the phoenix, the phoenix, the phoenix. And so I decided to do this episode that I've been thinking about for a really long time because i think it answers all the questions for those of you that have been sending what does it mean to be a phoenix how do you become a phoenix and how does it help you in the worst times of your life in times of adversity those of you who know me know that cat on the loose started four years ago when i was going through the darkest most times in my life.
I had lost my mom, I had lost my husband, and I had lost everything material that I had. And I found myself completely alone having to rebuild from zero.
And it was only when I realized that I had a phoenix living within me that I had the power to rebuild. And that's what I've been doing.
And this is why now I am living the life of my dreams and doing what I love to do every day and giving a voice to women all over the world that it's never too late to start over. So this episode is especially for anyone out there seeking to be inspired.
My love goes out to you. This is especially to everyone going through tough times.
This is especially to someone out there that maybe needs an extra push or an extra little help out there. When I needed it, I didn't have it and I never want to be that person.
So if you are out there listening, I hope you listen all the way to the end because this is a game plan, very, very doable. It's not easy.
And I repeated several times. It's doable.
I tell you step by step by step, everything that I implemented and changed in my life to rebuild everything from scratch. and I'm a firm believer that anyone can implement this plan and you can get out of any bad situation and start your life over.
But I also believe that there is no such thing as like an overnight band-aid on any problem. You need to put a lot of effort into it.
But whatever it is that you're going through, if you need to be inspired, I really hope the Phoenix episodes inspires you. Much love.
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My company's name is Phoenix. My dog, who is my best friend in this world, name is Phoenix.
So I'm pretty sure you guys can see how important this name has been in my life. And I will tell you, it's because of the power of the phoenix that I have been able to rise from the ashes and rebuild my life all over again, from scratch, completely, completely alone, without any support, without any help from anyone.
And I will tell you today on this really special episode of Cat on the Loose, how you can do the same, no matter what it is that you are going through in your life right now. And I'm going to tell you very practical, practical ways.
This is not like total theory BS. I'm going to tell you practical things that you're going to do to become a phoenix and rise from the ashes yourself.
For those of you who don't know, here is the legend of the phoenix. The legend of the phoenix is one of the most enduring and powerful symbols in mythology.
It represents renewal, transformation, and the eternal cycle of life and death. The phoenix is a mythical bird that is said to live for hundreds or even thousands of years.
According to the legend, when the phoenix senses that its time is near, it builds a nest of aromatic wood and sets it on fire. The flames consume both the bird and the nest, reducing them to ashes.
However, from these ashes, a new phoenix is born, rising with renewed strength, vitality, and wisdom. This remarkable cycle of death and rebirth has made the phoenix a symbol of resilience and hope across various cultures.
In ancient Egypt, the phoenix was associated with the sun god Ra, embodying the daily renewal of the sun. In Greek mythology, it was linked to the concept of immortality and the idea that life can be regenerated after destruction.
The phoenix's ability to rise from its ashes is often used as a metaphor for overcoming adversity and, like I was telling you guys, emerging stronger from challenges. It reminds us that even in the darkest moments, there is the potential for renewal and growth.
The legend of the Phoenix teaches us that endings are not final, but rather a prelude to new beginnings, where one can rise again, more powerful and resilient than before. So I decided to do this episode because now the cat on the loose has been rising to the top of the charts worldwide and in the United States.
Now that my life is really amazing, that I'm doing everything that I love. I am happy, happier than I've ever been.
I receive so many messages from people from all over the world, and I know so many people are in despair, and I know so many people are going through what I went through. And I never, ever, ever want anyone to be in the position that I was at, that you are in complete despair, that you are in the darkest, darkest, darkest, darkest, darkest place in your life and you don't have any help, you don't have anywhere to go to.
So I feel this is my platform and this is my job, since I am given a voice through Care on the Loose

to reach thousands and thousands and thousands of people everywhere,

that, yes, you do have an opportunity to rise from the ashes and there is a way out of anything that you may possibly be going through. So I hope you listen carefully to this episode because everything, everything, everything, everything can change.

Believe me, even when you think that it cannot, you might be surprised. So here it is.
I'm going to tell you guys step by step by step how to become a phoenix. But before, for those of you who don't know me, I'm going to tell you in a nutshell the very, very raw parts of my story and how I got here to where I am today and how I became a Phoenix.
So I was born in Brazil, and I do not come from a happy family. I do not come from loving parents.
I come from a very, very, very dysfunctional family. My dad was an international guy, French background.
He loved traveling. He was always obsessed with the United States, and he always thought Brazil was pretty trashy.
He was incredibly handsome. He was a brilliant man, the biggest narcissist I ever met in my life.
He was always a womanizer. He had a gazillion girlfriends all over the place.
So my mom, way back then in the 70s, was just one more lady that he casually dated, and she got pregnant. And back back then when you got a woman pregnant, the family pretty much forced you to marry her.
And that's what my grandparents did to my father. And my father married my mom, but of course he always resented her.
So my dad, my biological dad, never liked my mom and never liked me. And he actually hoped he was going to have a boy.
And so when I was born, he was very distraught and very unhappy with the situation. Talk about daddy issues, right? And the reason why I'm going way, way, way back to ever since I was born is because I know so many people when they're going through something horrible, horrible, horrible in their lives.
They are not the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who

is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only one who is the only

one who is the only one who is the only one really shitty happen to them. Not the lucky ones come from amazing households, but most of us come from broken households, shitty backgrounds, something really bad happened to us.
And I really believe that if you decide you are going to overcome adversity, you are going to have to leave all of this behind at some point, and you're not going to be able to be using these things as excuses moving forward in your life. My dad was a TV producer.
He owned a marketing and advertising agency as well. So when I was very, very young, like around three or four years old, he put me to work on TV commercials.
And he, of course, always kept all the money to himself.

He always resented me, like I told you guys. He treated me like total, total, total shit.
So my entire childhood, there was always this back and forth between my dad wanting me to travel with him and my mom wanting me to be in Brazil with her. and so finally when I was at an age that I was able to go to college I decided to stay in California

and go to college, I decided to stay in California and go to college so I could be away from my parents because I just couldn't take the back and forth and the fights and the bickering anymore. So now fast-forwarding my story, after college, I met a man who was going to end up being my husband.
His name was Anthony Zamuto, which is still the last name I use to this day. He was born in the Boston area, but Sicilian family.
And he was a very intelligent man, self-made millionaire. And we met at a bar and we started talking.
and on our second date, he turned to me and he said, well, you know, I would never date a Latin woman and I don't trust Latin women because they're all in the United States to marry rich Americans like me and get a green card. That's all.
That's what all of you want to do. You seem like a really nice girl, but I'm not going to date some Latin girl and I'm never going to give you a green card.
The only thing is at that age, I think I was 23, 24 back then, I was already very successful in my own right. I had a job, I had modeling contracts, I owned a company, I drove a super nice car.
I already had a green card. I didn't need anything from him.
So I was really offended. And I laughed and I told him that.
I said, I don't need anything from you. And it was interesting the stereotype that that man had when he came to Latin immigrants.
And to this day, and I'm doing this episode on Hispanic Heritage Month, I think we are coming a long way as women and Latins and immigrants in the United States, but I still believe it's like a three double, three slam against us when it comes to being an immigrant, a woman and Latin trying to do business and be successful in the United States, because most

people have these stereotypes about us in their heads, like Anthony had about me when he met me. And the fact that I am pretty and blonde and everything just aggravates the stereotypes.
And I talk to hundreds and hundreds of people through my business and the podcast, and I still see so many people having these ideas that Latin girls are just these bimbos, brainless bimbos, and then Latin girls come to the United States after a guy's green card. And it's obviously not always the case.
And I think it's so important to dismystify the stereotypes because, of course, Latinas are a big part of the population that contributes with jobs. We are business owners.
We pay taxes. We generate incomes.
We create jobs and access to all of that. And it's just really frustrating that the stereotypes still exist.
But interestingly enough, after I left that second date, because I felt very offended, he apologized to me when he realized that I was different from the other bimbos that he was dating. And I accepted the apology.
And now looking back, it's very likely because of all the daddy issues that I had before, right? Growing up with such an abusive father. And I ended up marrying this guy who turned out to be a very,

very abusive marriage because he was a very rich man. And the more money he made, the more he drank.
And as the years went by, he became very abusive. And at the time I was so young and so naive and so inexperienced that I didn't even understand that I was in such an abusive marriage.
And it took me 14 years to gather the courage to get out of this abusive marriage. So when you see somebody in an abusive relationship, and it's easy to judge from the outside, so many times it takes forever and ever and ever for the person in that relationship to understand what's going on and gather the courage to get out.
And I tell you, and I say that to my friends and I say that on the podcast all the time, once you do, it's the hardest thing, probably one of the hardest things you're ever going to do in your life. But once you do that, once you choose you, and once you do get out of an abusive relationship, of an abusive marriage, it is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself.
And finally, after 14 years of being abused by this man who didn't let me work, who didn't encourage me to work, who was jealous of everything that I did, I decided I was going to start my life over again. And that's

what I've been doing the past few years. Except that that was a huge, huge turn of events that I certainly didn't expect.
In 2018, Anthony passed away. He was very ill.
We knew he was going to die. he passed away

and he left

his entire

estate very ill. We knew he was going to die.
He passed away and he left his entire estate, all his assets to me. I'm the beneficiary of the will.
The will was prepared by one of the most famous successful law firms in the entire United States. And this is all public record in Florida.
If anybody wants to go there and check it out, because I'm not going to name names here, but it's all there, open public record in family court in Miami, Florida.

But anyhow, unfortunately for me, the courts did not enforce the will, and I basically lost everything I had.

I depended on him. I lost all my assets.
I never received any of my inheritance. I lost all our assets.
I found myself without my best friend. I found myself without any money in the bank.
I found myself without my cars, without my apartment, without all of my material things. I basically went from being married to a multimillionaire to having nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, and mourning two deaths because my mom died in 2017 very, very, very suddenly.
And one year later, Anthony died.

So. died in 2017 very, very, very suddenly.
And one year later, Anthony died. So instead of being able to mourn their deaths, I mean, if you lost someone you love, you can only imagine how traumatic that is.
I needed to figure out a way to survive because I went down to the bank and I had pretty much close to zero dollars in the bank. And this is how the Phoenix story is going to start, okay? I remember thinking, well, that's okay, because this is the good news.
I have hundreds of friends. I have hundreds of friends in Miami because we were living in Miami at a time.
We had a house in Las Vegas. We had an

apartment in Miami. We had a place in Beverly Hills.
We were very wealthy. We were traveling

all over the United States. We were all over the place.
So I remember thinking, that's okay.

I love to work. I have the work discipline.
I have college degrees. I speak several languages.

I am nice. I am kind.
I am honest. I am ethical.
This is what I'm going to do. I have so many

Thank you. several languages.
I am nice. I am kind.
I am honest. I am ethical.
This is what I'm going to do. I have so many friends, these people that come to my parties, my events, vacation in my

homes. I'm going to ask people for a job.
So I went and I started asking people around. And this

is what happened. Every single person I knew, no exception.
I wish I could name an exception here.

Everything is a good thing. round.
And this is what happened. Every single person I knew, no exception, I wish I could name an exception here.
Every single person I knew turned their back on me. Every single person I knew came up with an excuse why they didn't have a job for me.
And by the way, I didn't go and ask them for money. I never said, hey, can you give me $100 to buy groceries? Hey, can you give me a thousand bucks? I'm good for it.
No, I literally went around asking people for a job because I actually like to work. The biggest fight with me and my husband in our marriage was always like, I want to work.
And he used to say to me something very offensive, of course, which was, oh, I make more money in a day than you're going to make in a month, two months, three months. So what the hell is your problem? You know, you don't need to do any of that.
And my mom used the phrase, she was alive. When she was alive, she used to say, when there is a tragedy, when something goes wrong, unfortunately, most people buy popcorn, they sit on the front row to watch it.
And that's the truth. That's exactly what happened to me.
I thought I was surrounded by friends. I wasn't.
I was surrounded by people that were enjoying my wealth and the lifestyle that I provided to them. Once things went south and I lost all of that and I found myself completely, completely, completely broke, I realized, wow, I don't have one friend in this world.
I don't have one person in this world that I can count on, that I can go and get a hug or a cup of soup or anything. That was the biggest awakening I ever had in my life.
So that day to me was sink or swim. And this was in the beginning of 2019.
And I thought, okay, I'm either going to sink. And I remember one of these friends, quote unquote, my apartment in Miami was at the Four Seasons Residences in Miami.
It's one of the tallest buildings in Miami. It has, I think, 63 floors.
Our apartment there was on the 58th floor. I remember this frenemy said to me, oh my God, Catherine, I don't know how you're going through all of this.
You are completely broke. You're losing everything.
I don't know how you haven't jumped from the window yet. That's what this person said to me.
And I remember being all alone and thinking, you know what? Yeah, that's the choice. What am I gonna don? Kill myself? I love life too much.
I love living. I love creating.
What am I going to do? So I decided I need to turn my life around. And then I remembered all of a sudden the Phoenix image came in my head and I thought, I am the Phoenix.
And that day, I drove to a tattoo shop in Miami, this tattoo artist that I love so, so much. He's Brazilian.
And I told him, that was my first tattoo. I said, please.
I never had any tattoos until then. I said, I want you to do a tattoo of the phoenix on my leg with the phrase, I rise.
And I am going to rise from the ashes and the chaos that my life is at. So now let's go.
How to become a phoenix. And as I tell you step by step, I will use me as an example as well, step by step, how I went from being completely broke, and I'm telling you broke, broke.
No bank accounts. No family.
No father. No mother.
No sibling. No husband.
no friends, no help from anyone in this world,

no job, no paycheck, nothing, nothing, nothing to living the life of my dreams and doing

everything that I love to do in Beverly Hills. One of the most successful podcasts in the world.

I am acting again. I am in the middle of shooting an indie movie.
I've done a bunch last year. I run a successful agency.
I do PR, marketing, social media management, branding, content creations. I have clients all over the United States.
I have two adorable rescue dogs, a very, very, very, very tight knit circle of friends. I still haven't found the perfect partner for me yet.
I'm very selective. I'm taking my time, but I've never, ever been so happy and so fulfilled in my life.
And I will take you there with me. All you have to do, and I'm not kidding you, listen, listen with all your heart and your soul and every fiber of your being to the next steps.

Get a pen, get a paper, or go back to the episode.

And from now on, you do the steps every single day and you will become a phoenix yourself, no matter what it is that you are going through. I promise you.
Let's go. Step one.
Okay. The first and most essential step in your journey is to believe.
And when I say believe, I say believe with capital letters. This may sound straightforward,

but I'm talking about truly, deeply, unwaveringly believing in yourself and your ability to achieve anything you set your mind to. This is the foundation, the foundation.
Without your self-belief, nothing else will work. You can stop it right now.
To rise like a phoenix, you must master this step. We have the tendency to be our harshest critics, especially during tough times.
Self-criticism is usually the greatest barrier to our success. And it's the number one barrier we must overcome to build unshakable self-confidence.
No matter how long it takes, you need to commit to this practice every single day from the moment you wake up to the minute you go to sleep. You repeat this mantra over and over and over again, because repetition will help your brain and your entire system truly, truly, truly believe in it.
And I still do it. I believe it.
That's how I got here. But I still do it to this day.
I wake up in the morning really early and I go for my first walk with my doggies and I start. This is the mantra.
I believe in myself. I know I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.
I am breaking down all the barriers that have kept me from believing in myself. No matter what I've been through or what I'm going through, I am my number one fan.
I'm going to repeat it again. I believe in myself.
I know I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. I am breaking down all the barriers that have kept me from believing in myself.
No matter what I've been through or what I'm going through, I am my number one fan. Each morning, stand before the mirror, look deep into your eyes, and repeat out loud, out loud to yourself these words.
Say them with conviction, with every fiber of your being. Speak from your gut, from your heart, and truly mean it.
The more you say it, the more you feel it, the more it will become reality. Before you even move forward, take a moment, maybe write down this affirmation like 10 times.
Get a piece of paper, buy a journal on Amazon, whatever works for you.

I know nowadays most of us don't use pen and paper.

We type everything, but it's a great exercise for your brain.

You need to be your number one fan. You need to believe in yourself.
Most human beings die frustrated, die sad, die unfulfilled, die in a dark place because they don't believe in themselves. It happened to my mom.
My mom was the sweetest creature in the world. She was an angel.
She was a successful artist, but she never believed in herself. She was so depressed.
She was always so worried about money. She was always so worried about the future.
She was always so consumed in self-doubt. It consumed her so much, so much, so much to the point that it killed her.
But that's another story. You're not going to let it happen to yourself.
You need to be your number one fan. You have to believe.
Like I said, let these words soak in every fiber of your being. Tell the universe that you believe in yourself.
Pause the podcast. If you're driving, pause the podcast.
If you're home, if you're at the gym, say it out loud 10, 20, a hundred times every single day from now on, as many times as you possibly can. Because the minute you start believing you can, that's the first baby step to becoming a phoenix and rising from the ashes.
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Check it out, guys. Okay, number two.
I know this may sound harsh, but this is so, so, so, so, so important. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get rid of the victim mentality.
And we all have been there. I remember when I lost everything and I was going to court and crying and begging the judge to listen to me, begging the judge to enforce the will, telling people like, how can you do this to me? No, no, no.
Nobody was listening. Nobody cares.
I understand that this is easier said than done. When we're faced with adversity, it's natural to feel sorry for ourselves and share our struggles with others.
But this is a huge mistake. And I'm telling you, I've endured more tragedy and heartbreak than most people can imagine.
Like what I've been telling you guys, I survived a 14-year abusive marriage. I saw my mother's sudden death.
I lost everything, everything, everything. And every single time, I would tell people that nobody cares.
everybody's engulfed in their own tragedies, in their own problems, in their own issues. We all are facing challenges every single day.
And believe me, there were moments when I felt like nothing, nothing but ashes. There were moments that I was not sure I could rebuild.
But I'm telling you, even the darkest, darkest, darkest hours, what kept me finding the inner strength was remembering that I am the phoenix. and feeling sorry for ourselves is a colossal waste of time.
Remember, why? Because nobody cares. Everyone has their battles.
Everyone has their struggles. Everyone has their issues.
And those who do not, those who found total happiness, success, are living their best life, they don't want to be around negativity. So the moment you stop vocalizing your problems and sharing your struggles is the moment you will become stronger within.
And it worked for me, and I promise it will work for you. Despite everything I've been through, I refused to see myself as a victim.
I left that victim mentality way back there, that day that I did my Phoenix tattoo, and I decided, you know what, I am a Phoenix. I realized I am a Phoenix.
Phoenixes are never, ever, ever, ever victims. Embracing the victim mentality will only make it become your reality.
Victims naturally attract suffering and trouble, and that's not the energy you want to project. From this moment on,

make a huge effort and eliminate completely, completely the word victim from your vocabulary. You are not a victim regardless of your circumstances.

Instead, see yourself as a strong, resilient, and capable person who can overcome any obstacle. Let's focus on the word obstacle.
I want you to really, really focus that I'm changing certain words. I never, ever use these words in my life again.
I never use the word victim, and I never use the word problem. I use the word obstacle.
When you start changing your vocabulary and you start changing your perception, you will start changing results. When you meet someone, even if you want to vent or you want to tell them someone, if you stop telling them, oh my God, I don't have any money.
I have so much debt. The bills are piling up.
And instead you say, you know, I have a lot of obstacles right now, a lot of challenges, but I'm facing them head on. I wake up.
You're going to notice that the response that people are going to give you is a completely different response. The energy towards you will shift right away.
A crucial trait of being a phoenix is viewing everything that happens as a challenge to overcome rather than a problem. I never, ever, ever used that word in my life.
A problem always carries a negative connotation. And remember, a phoenix truly, truly believes they can conquer anything, anything.

We can conquer any challenge life throws at us.

So let's take a moment here.

Let's pause.

Because what we want to do is let our brain soak these words in.

Because these words are what are going to make all the difference in our lives from now on. We are going to eliminate these words from our vocabulary forever.
Victim and problems. It doesn't matter what happened to you in your life.
You're not a victim at all. You are a survivor.
You are strong. You are a fighter.
You're not a victim. And you don't have problems.
You have obstacles. You have challenges that you are going to fight and overcome.
No matter what you are going through, remember, number one, you believe with every fiber of your being that you can survive and overcome the challenges. So now, again, if you're in your car, listening to the podcast, at the gym, before you go to bed, whatever it is, pause, get a pen and paper, buy a book, a little notebook, whatever works for you.
But it really helps your brain start believing that you are a phoenix. And write this mantra down as many times as you possibly can.
I am a survivor of anything that comes my way because I am a phoenix. I have complete belief that I can overcome any obstacle my life throws at me.
And if you can, say it out loud every single day and write it down every single day. Because every single day, you will behave more and more and more as a phoenix.

And your life will treat you more and more and more as a phoenix.

And your brain will believe and help you act more and more and more as a phoenix.

Okay, great.

So now, number three.

This is so, so important.

And it's a mistake that most of us makes.

It just takes a little bit of practice.

Focus on solutions from now on, never on problems. If you focus on problems, the problems are going to grow.
If you focus on the solutions, the solutions are going to grow. When faced with difficult situations, it's easier to get trapped in a cycle of negativity and negative thoughts.
For example, if someone breaks your heart, you might find yourself repeatedly thinking, oh my God, I love this person so much. What am I going to do without them? Oh my God, I miss them, I miss them, I miss them.
Or let's say if you're struggling financially, right? All day long, we're like, oh my God, how am I going to pay the bills? How am I going to pay the bills? What's going to happen to me six months or not? What's going to happen to me next month? What's going to happen to me? That's all we're fixing on, the problem. Instead of spending the whole time we have, finding solutions for the problem.
So from this moment forward, it's time to shift your focus entirely. Remember, a phoenix never fixates on obstacles.
Instead, they keep moving forward, moving forward, overcoming one challenge after the other. So let's say in case of the heartbreak, stop vocalizing anything negative because the universe is always listening and what you repeat becomes your reality.
Instead, focus on potential solutions. For example, acknowledge the positive.
The person left my life, which means the universe is clearing the way for someone much better, someone who truly deserves me. Self-care.
I do that all the time. When I'm single, I can dedicate this time to take better care of myself.
Maybe I try a new workout class. I finally focus on the side gig that I've been neglecting.
My side projects flourish. My body gets better.
I have extra time for me, me, me, so I can be an even better, stronger partner for the right person. Shift your focus from the problem to actionable solutions.
And you are going to see an insane, insane shift in responses back to you. Same applies to financial challenges.
challenges. Oh and I'm far from being a millionaire.
I can pay my bills, and I'm very proud to say that because I had to start my life over from scratch. After building a life with my husband for 14 and a half years, I had everything taken away from me.
I had to start from scratch. But thinking about bills, bills, bills, bills, bills, bills, bills, bills all day long is not going to get the bills paid.
Like I told you guys, after Anthony died, I found myself without an income, without assets.

I'm not kidding you guys. There were some points that I really thought I was going to go homeless.
And it took me many times remembering my inner Phoenix and shifting my mindset to change my life and have that turning point. So let's say you're on a nine to five job and it's not covering all your bills or you have an emergency.
If you sit there lamenting and you go home right after your nine to five job and you drink a beer and you're like, oh my God, what am we going to do? Stop it. How about you brainstorm solutions? Like you make a list, you say, you know what? I'm going to make a list of skills that I have, that I love, that could be potential income, and even get me out of stress that could be fun for me, maybe a side business.
So let's say, make a list. Pet seating.
Maybe you love animals. Maybe you could consider offering pet seating services on the weekends and evenings or to your neighbors.
Babysitting. Do you love working with children? You could look at babysitting opportunities.
Social media management. Maybe if you do your own social media, if you love that, you could offer your skills to local businesses around your area, like small restaurants, small shops, freelancing.
Maybe you're tech savvy. You could put your services on free platforms like Craigslist, Fiverr, la, la, la, la, and offer people, hey, do you have computer issues? So, I mean, there's a million things.
Everybody has a little something that they're good at. But I think, I hope you get my point.
Sitting there complaining that you're not making enough money is not going to help you make money. But if you sit there thinking about solutions and it's going to increase your self-esteem and it's going to make you more money.
And that's what I did when the podcast started. I was literally just venting about my experiences back in the dating and relationships world after being married for so long.
Like, what the hell? What's going on? Oh, my God, this world is such chaos. No, no, no, no, no.
It started as a pet project. I never thought it would be a full-blown business.
And now I'm running with it. We have sponsors.
We have a huge worldwide audience. You never mean, something that starts so tiny could become a huge business.

So you know what?

Maybe you have a dream.

You want to paint a painting,

write a book, write a song.

I don't know.

Cook a soup,

sell a t-shirt on Etsy,

whatever it is, go for it.

These additional sources of income can not only help you financially, like I said, but remember, they will boost your self-confidence. And every phoenix is very, very, very, very self-confident.
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When I experienced heartbreak, these are kind of phrases that I repeat for myself. I am beautiful.
I am strong. I am kind.
I am loyal. I know the universe is sending me a partner who matches my qualities and will love me unconditionally.
I am grateful for the opportunity to release anyone who isn't right for me and my destiny and not waste my time. So instead of thinking like, oh my God, I miss him, I miss him, I'm like, okay, you know what? Thank you.
I'm grateful it wasn't for me. And then, like I said before, being single always allows me extra time for longer workouts, longer walks with my dogs, focus on my side projects, make me even more successful, make me in even better shape, better partner, et., etc.
No one is worth my tears. Love should nourish, not hurt.
If it's hurting, it's not love. I am thankful for the open path to finding my perfect match.
These are the things that I repeat for myself when I go through a relationship that doesn't work. Times I face financial hardship.
Like I was saying before, worrying never pays my bills. It only creates stress that can harm my health.
I'm sure you guys know stress kills more people than anything else. I refuse to let fear consume me.
I choose to work hard to create multiple sources of income so I never have to worry about money again. My challenges remind me of my strength and work ethic.
I'm grateful for my productive days, my passion for what I do, and the success of all my projects. I keep repeating it and repeating it and repeating it.
So I know everybody out there. I know, I know you have a talent.
I know you have a dream. I know you have something you like to do.
Go for it. Write down your own affirmations.
Write down your own solutions to your challenges. Remember, every step you take towards focusing on solutions

is a step towards embodying the powerful phoenix you truly, truly are. Embrace the phoenix mindset.
Transform challenges into triumphs. A key characteristic of being a phoenix is viewing everything that happens as a challenge to

overcome rather than a problem. In my life and reality, like I said, I never use the word problem.
Problems hold you back. And a phoenix believes with unwavering certainty that they can overcome everything, okay? So remember, you're not going to say the word victim anymore.
You're not going to say the word problems anymore. You're going to focus on solutions from now on.
You're not going to focus on problems anymore. You're going to leave the victim mentality behind.
I know we are all very busy and I know most of us, like I said, don't use pen and paper, but I highly, highly recommend you take a moment and write down on a piece of paper what is your biggest obstacle that you have right now? Because maybe if you write it down and you see it in front of it, right below it, all of a sudden, you can start writing a list of ways that you can overcome that obstacle. Because we all can.
Believe me. I am sure you have many, many brilliant ideas in your beautiful mind.
Let them flow onto the paper. And if you don't want to write, like record on your phone.
Start talking, talking, talking, talking, talking. Let it flow.
Let it flow. Let it flow.
Say like, okay, I'm not making enough money. But you know what? I love animals and I love dogs.
And I'm going to make the most beautiful flyer. And on the weekends, I'm going to pet sit.
I'm going to dog walk. I'm going to do this.
I'm going to do that. I'm going to do that.
You know, you get the drill. Just go after whatever dream it is that you think you can do, whatever project, whatever side gig that you've been waiting or withholding for whatever reason it is that people told you you cannot do.
Because remember, the number one of the phoenixes is now you know you can. You don't care about all the people criticizing you because the phoenix knows he's capable of doing everything that he wants to do.
And remember, focus on yourself and your health because it's easy to forget we are not immortal and without our health,

everything else crumbles. During stressful times, our health often takes a hit, right? And stress can be deadly.
And remember, a phoenix is strong, healthy, full of energy, which is exactly what enables them to push through every obstacle life throws their way. Prioritizing ourselves is not selfish.
It's essential. It's self-care and self-survival.
If you haven't been exercising, now it's a great time to make a commitment to yourself, but not like a fucking chore, but because you are healthy enough to move your legs, breathe fresh air, walk around your block, dance, whatever the hell it is that you like to do. Don't approach exercise like something you don't like.
Approach exercise like something to worship your body and your well-being. I give you me as an example.
I don't pay for the gym anymore because I need to use those $250 freaking dollars that it costs. I have to pay for something else.
I exercise at home. I walk my dogs 10 million times a day.
I do my Pilates exercises at home. I'm in fantastic shape for my age.
I am so proud of it. And it makes me happy.
Fresh air with my dogs makes me happy. Every morning, I'm like, I'm so glad I get to walk.
I am so glad my legs allow me to walk five, six, seven miles a day. Remember, your body is your temple.
You need to worship it. Get outside.

Breathe fresh air.

Soak up the sunshine.

Even if it's 20, 30 minutes a day, it will clear your mind.

It will empower you.

And before you know it, you will be addicted to the feeling.

Don't let stress turn you into a couch potato.

I promise you that's a recipe for defeat. A phoenix would never ever do that.
No matter what you're going through, make a promise to yourself, get up and freaking move. Like I just told you, enjoy walking.
Go for a walk. You like dancing.
I freaking dance at home when I'm cleaning my apartment. Whatever it is that you like to do.
I dance on the streets with the headphone on. I don't care what people think.
It makes me happy and relieves my stress. The key is you need to choose any physical activity you love.
And you make a firm commitment to yourself. It has nothing to do with perfection.
It's for the sanity of your mind and a healthy body. Because remember, I heard this phrase one time and I never forgot this phrase.
We have 10 million problems any given day, right? Until you have one serious health problem. And then you only have one problem.
Because if you're not healthy, game over. So the first thing, the first thing you need to worry about is be healthy.
Promise yourself a beautiful body, mind, and soul. Take care of your health.
If you can do more than 20, 30 minutes a day, great. But if you're a self-confessed couch potato, you feel too depressed, instead of asking your doctor for more pills, more pills, more pills, more pills, grab yourself by the bootstraps.
Listen to this podcast again. Pick your favorite song.
Take the first steps. I promise you.
I promise you. You can call me and you're going to say, Kat, I did love you.
I am so glad you told me to do it. You're never going to want to stop.
And the same principle applies to food. In times of stress, many of us overeat and we eat junk.
We eat crap. But food is supposed to nourish us from the inside out.
It should fuel us to accomplish everything we need to do. So before you take a bite of anything and eat some crap, some donuts, sugar, sugar, sugar, remember before you go through the drive-thru multiple times a week, consider the impact on your health.
Make smart choices about what you eat. Eat clean, nutrient-dense foods.
Even if you're, you know, the days that I'm insanely, insanely, insanely busy,

I have the bullet, you know, the bullet that makes shakes. I always, always have, no matter what,

like you can open my refrigerator, it's 90% empty, but I always have chopped frozen banana,

chopped strawberries, some other fruit like blueberry or beets, whatever it is. I dump them in the bullet with a little almond milk and I blend it with protein powder and I have a shake

Thank you. strawberries, some other fruit like blueberry or beets, whatever it is, I dump them in the bullet with a little almond milk and I blend it with protein powder and I have a shake for lunch or for breakfast, whatever it is.
And I know my body has good nutrients inside that keep me going. Remember, you are your biggest asset.
If you don't take care of yourself, nobody will. and it has to come from the inside out.
Right now, tonight, whenever it is, pause the podcast, stop everything. If you're home or when you get home, go to your kitchen, look at your cabinets, look at your refrigerator, ask yourself, are these foods serving me and boosting my energy or are they harming me and making me sick? I do that all the time.
I don't buy sugar. I don't buy chocolate.
I don't buy snacks because I know if I have them at home, I will devour them. So I don't buy them.
I don't buy if you, like I said, my refrigerator said my refrigerator has blueberries frozen strawberries greek yogurt oranges tangerines things like that be brave act like the phoenix that you are becoming if you know you have an ice cream in your freezer and you're going to devour in the middle of the night don't freaking buy the fucking ice cream know? Do what's best for your body and slowly but surely you're going to get used to that and your body and your mind will thank you. The first few days are tough, but a week from now, you're going to be so fucking glad you did it, you know? Self-discipline equals self-love and and a phoenix has plenty of both.
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We love that. This one is so, so, so, so important.
And I know we've made this mistake in the past, but this is a crucial part of being a powerful phoenix. Never, ever chase people.
Attract what is meant for you. We've all been there, myself included, trying to convince someone to stay, asking for a second chance, pursuing someone who is unavailable, begging someone to like you, begging someone to be with you.
But here's the hard truth. It never works.
The universe operates under the law of attraction, and whatever you chase will inevitably run away from you. This is especially true with people.
Chasing someone who doesn't want to be with you is not only a waste of time, but it's also a devastating blow to your self-esteem. A phoenix knows very, very well the law of attraction and never ever chases after anyone or anything that isn't meant to be.
What is truly yours will find you and stay with you. So please remember, especially those with a broken heart, we've all been there.
If somebody wants to dump you, if they don't want to have you in their life, if they don't see your value, let them go. The universe is making room for the right person that will never, ever, ever, ever put themselves in a position to leave you.
This is the perfect moment to stop making excuses for people who are too busy, quote-unquote. Never make plans with you.
Don't reply to your messages. Disappear without explanation.
Please let this sink in. Nobody, nobody is ever too busy for those who truly matter to them.
Nobody. We can literally be the busiest person on the planet.
And if we care about someone, even when we take a peeing break or before we go to bed or when we're taking a bite of our sandwich during lunch, we will find time to communicate to that person. So let's pause for a moment and do a very powerful exercise.
I promise you, this is really, really worth it and it's very powerful. Grab your phone.
Think about everyone that you've been chasing or whoever you've been chasing. an ex, a crush, a friend, a business contact that doesn't reply, anyone else.
Do whatever it takes, any steps that you feel are necessary for you to stop chasing them for once and for all. For example, if you need to delete their contact, do it.

Just freaking delete it.

If you need to block them from your life, delete them from your Instagram, from your LinkedIn, from whatever it is that's on your phone, do it.

Look at yourself in the mirror, at yourself.

Look at yourself in your eyes, deep inside your soul, and say it out loud with conviction. I don't chase, I attract.
Whoever is meant to be in my life will be. I am the energy that attracts.
Now, write this mantra down as many times as you can so you can solidify this in your mind. I gave you guys this idea several times during this episode.
I love writing it down with pen and paper because our brain, our subconscious gets more and more and more used to the idea. It really, really memorizes.
So that would be the first choice. Buy a notebook, a journal, something like that, and literally write it every morning, every night, whenever you have some peace.
If you don't love writing, record it on your phone, say it out loud in front of your mirror. Stop chasing.
I'm telling you, this was a game changer for me. I used to chase people all the time.
And that's the famous being needy. Like, why don't you like me? What's wrong? Why don't you want me? You start sending out that energy.
And remember, the universe will send it back to you. Whatever we send into the universe, that's the energy, send it back.
The minute I realize I'm not going to chase anybody, I'm not going to go after anyone that doesn't want to be with me, it's your loss if you don't want to be in my life. I am a powerful, wonderful, amazing phoenix.
Everything started shifting and changing and becoming more and more positive towards me.

Okay, now this one is even controversial according to some experts, but I think it's crucial, crucial, crucial if you want to turn your life around, if you want to be a powerful phoenix, and if you want to get to a place like me to be living the life of your dreams where you want to live it the way you want to live it. And this is the key word now, okay? Upgrade.
Remember this word.

Upgrade. where you want to live it, the way you want to live it.
And this is the key word now, okay?

Upgrade.

Remember this word, upgrade, upgrade, upgrade.

And I'm going to explain to you how this works.

When you're, especially for those in financial trouble or for those nine to five jobs,

like you're struggling, you're making ends meet

and you're dreaming of a better lifestyle and you're like, how am I gonna get to get there? How am I going to get there? How am I going to get there, right? Be cautious with the people that advise you to cut expenses. Oh, you don't make enough money? Move to a less desirable neighborhood.
Give up your car. Stop going to Starbucks, cut Netflix, la la la la la.
And I'll tell you why. Instead of downgrading your entire life, you need to be focusing on pursuing your dreams and believing you can achieve your dreams.
I am living proof that anything is possible. I'm living proof that you can start your life over from zero at any age and create the life of your dreams if you truly believe in yourself and put in the effort.
So this is how you do this. Take a moment and reflect on your choices.

Do you want to live in the suburbs?

Do you want to drive a mediocre, shitty car?

Do you want to work a nine-to-five job that you don't love making money for someone else?

Or do you want to take bold risks, work tirelessly, chase your dreams with determination? These are some of the toughest decisions you will ever face, and most people in the world opt for the easy route. They settle for a life of unfulfillment and regret, wishing they had embraced their inner phoenix and had gone for it, had gone for their dreams.
I remember my mom a few months before she died. We didn't know she was going to die.
But I remember one time she said to me, because she never had the courage her entire life to go after her dreams. She died frustrated.
She died sad. She died depressed.
She died frustrated. And one time she said to me, you know what? I wish I would have been more like you.
I wish I would have been more ballsy, more fearless, more determined. You were never afraid of going after your dreams.
You were never afraid of moving to another city, of trying out a new thing or going after pursuing something you liked doing. I wish when I was younger, I would have been like you.
And of all the things my mom ever told me, this is what stuck the most with me because most people die like my mom. Most people die completely, completely, completely unfulfilled because they don't have the courage to embrace their phoenix and just go for it.
I see so many so-called experts on social media encouraging people to cut back on minor expenses. Like I said, skip your coffee on Starbucks, die not less, cancel your cable bill.
Stop paying for Netflix. Sell your car because gasoline is so expensive.
No, no, no, no. Personally, I find this advice horribly, horribly detrimental.
And this is why the more you cut back, the more you are downgrading your life. And this downgrading mindset becomes a habit, leading you to believe that this diminished reality is the life you deserve.
So if you have a tight budget, you're like, oh, I'm going to move to a cheaper neighborhood.

Okay, it's going to be a shittier neighborhood, shittier people around you, probably more unhappy people around you, not successful people around you. That's going to be a reality.
You sell your car. Next thing you know, you don't go out.
You go to less events, you network less, and so on and so forth. So this is why I say, instead of downgrading, downgrading, downgrading, the key is to upgrade your life, not downgrade.
What you believe you deserve and are willing to work for is what you manifest now and in the future. If you think I'm going to sell my car because gas is too expensive, or I'm not going to watch my favorite shows on Netflix and Hulu because I'm going to save 10 bucks a month, or I'm going to skip going out to eat and I'm going to neglect self-care and stop going getting my nails done.
You are lowering your own self-worth. You are downgrading your life.
And guess what? That's where you're going to stay. Less, lower, lower, lower, lower.
Instead, you need to keep focusing on rising up the pyramid of life. A phoenix always, always prioritizes upgrades in every aspect of their life.
So how do you do it? I'm telling you, set clear goals. Write it down so you can see it in front of you.
If it's on a piece of paper, in your computer, wherever you want to do it. Write down your goals.
Do a mood board, something huge that you can literally see it every morning. Define what you want in your life.
You need to visualize the big picture, visualize your dreams and write it down. Invest in yourself, invest in yourself, whatever it takes.
So let me give you an example. We're talking about money, right? Oh, I have this miserable job.
I am broke every month. I want to upgrade my life.
How am I going to do that? Like I said, you need to invest in yourself. Do a start-up side gig instead of sitting on the couch, like getting fat and eating junk and feeling sorry for yourself and drinking beer from 7pm to 10pm.
Start working on a side gig. Watch a million free videos on how to do whatever it is that thing that you want to do.
Watch your favorite expert in that subject. You know, if you want to lose 20 pounds because you feel like shit and you're becoming diabetic, wake up an hour early, go around the block, breathe that fucking fresh air, adopt a freaking dog, gain a best friend, do something for yourself.
Another thing that's so important, surround yourself with positivity, engage with people that will be uplifting, that will be supportive, that will encourage you. Like, this is why I don't like the downgrading idea.
If you keep moving down, down, down, you are going to very likely be around people that are down there and miserable. You don't want to be around miserable people.
I cut off of my life any Debbie Downers super, super, super quick. And I tell them if somebody is around me and they start being like, oh, my God, I'm like, dude, sorry, I don't do negativity.
I don't have time for it. I don't want to have it around my life.
I don't want to do it. I only surround myself with people that love life, that love what they do.
I surround myself with phoenixes. Maintain this positive mindset every single day, even in the shittiest days, you need to find the silver lining.
How do you find the silver lining? You put shit in perspective. So if it's a really shitty gray day out there, ask yourself, is this problem really killing me today? Am I healthy? Am I walking around? If you have a family, are my kids healthy? Are my kids eating? Do I have legs that allow me to move around? Is my cell phone still working that allows me to communicate with people? Find whatever it is around you that is positive.
It's the famous half glass full and half glass empty. Some people, every single day,

they decide to find the half glass empty. Okay, that's what you're going to see.
But if you wake up every morning and you decide to focus on the positive things around you, guess what? The universe is going to keep showing you more and more and more and more positive things around you. And remember, celebrate every little win in your life.

Every little one.

If you want to lose 20 pounds and you lost two, fucking celebrate it. If you want to make $20,000 more a year and you made $2,000 more this month, be fucking proud as fuck as you.
If you want to learn a new skill and you got it, whatever it is, you know, pat yourself in the back. We need to be our biggest fans.
And I say that because when I was rebuilding, guys, I'm telling you, I don't have any family around. My parents are gone.
I literally have one sister down in Florida and we rarely, rarely see each other. I've always had to be my number one fan.
I was the one that had to say, keep going, keep going. You're doing amazing.
Look at this. Your podcast had 20 downloads.
Oh my God. Look at this.
Come on. Keep going.
Keep going. Your podcast had a hundred downloads.
Oh my God. Look at this.
One celebrity said yes. 50 celebrities said no.
One celebrity said yes. Keep going.
Keep going. Oh, wow.
You got one review. I'm my biggest, biggest fucking fan and cheerleader.
And you have to do that. If you have family members, best friends around you, amazing.
But if you don't, even in your biggest, worst day, you need to wake up. You need to show up for yourself every single day.
Okay, this is super, super important. We all need to stop being gullible and naive.
I don't mean to be harsh, but I've been guilty of it for the longest time, falling into the trap of being overly gullible and making some very, very naive decisions. So what exactly do I mean by that? There are two words that should raise red flags for all of us.
The word free and the word easy. Especially nowadays, right? everywhere you look, especially on social media, somewhere, all these so-called experts, everybody's an expert in something nowadays, they're offering you something free.
Free. Free classes, free consultation, free this, free that.
But let me tell you, nothing is really, truly free. All of these people are trying to make a living.
Almost every case, it's something they're trying to sell you. So when you see ads on Instagram, social media offering, free courses, free classes, free tips, please be cautious.
Chances are there's a catch because nothing worthwhile, keyword worthwhile, comes without a price. The same goes for the word easy.

It makes me cringe when I see people claiming things like, oh, I made $15,000 last month.

It's so easy.

I grew my Instagram account from 10 followers to 150,000 followers.

It's so easy. I sell $25,000 worth of pros on Shopify.
So easy, easy, easy, easy. Believe me, nothing that brings in decent money or yields great results is easy.
Nothing, nothing, nothing. So before you're tempted to part way with your hard-earned money or think you can take an easy way out, remember this.
A phoenix doesn't succeed by looking for shortcuts. A phoenix overcomes obstacles and achieves everything through hard work, discipline, consistency, and ethics, not by believing in overnight miracles.

All of these things that I'm saying on this episode, it's not to say, oh yeah, everything

is so easy, so easy. Apply all these things and like by tomorrow, all your problems are going to

be gone. No, this is a ton of hard work, dedication, consistency, showing up for yourself every single day over and over and over and over again.
This is how you are going to rise from the ashes. A phoenix does not believe in overnight miracles, and I'm living proof of that.
Like I told you guys in the beginning, just four years ago, four years ago, I lost everything, everything. All of my money, my bank account, my home, all my possessions.
I lost my two best friends in the world, my mom and my husband. I had no family, no friends, not a helping hand.
I had to figure out how to rebuild my life from the ashes entirely, entirely on my own. And now, four years later, I do one of the most successful podcasts in the world.
And people, I get messages from all of them. I'm going to start a podcast.
I'm going to start a podcast. How do I get a sponsor? How do I do this? How do you build an audience? And I always say, by all means, go for it.
I am so happy that we have millions of podcasts in the world. It's like songs.
We should have endless, endless choices. But if you think you're going to start something, a podcast, anything else overnight, and you're going to start making money, you are so freaking wrong.
You're setting yourself up for disappointment. The same thing with my thriving public relations marketing social media agency.
It was baby step after baby step after baby step after baby step. After so many mistakes, after losing clients, after clients that didn't pay me, after so many hurdles that, oh my God, I could write a freaking book about it.
None of my accomplishments came easy. None.
It's been an uphill battle every step of the way. And it's still an uphill battle because I'm not where I am.
Every single day I wake up between 5.30 and 6 a.m. and I work until 10.30, 11 at night.
I don't go on vacations. I make decisions because I want to get to a certain point.
It's worth it for me because I am building the life of my dreams. This is why I say you need to write down a piece of paper.
What is the life of your dreams? Where do you want to get? But I'm telling you, whoever you are out there listening to me, the only reason why I'm here where I am today and I didn't jump off of

the apartment like the girl said for me to do, it's because I embraced these key Phoenix principles.

I believe in myself so, so, so, so much, which is something that I never did before.

I refuse, refuse to feel sorry for myself. On the contrary, every single adversity, every single tragedy, every single hurdle, every single obstacle, in my mind, I see it as a piece of wood that I throw in my fire.
I have like this fireplace, this mental fireplace as like every problem, I see it as fuel to my fire. Everybody that says no to me, every famous person that I invite to come to the podcast and their publicist treats me like shit because I'm not famous enough.
I'm like, okay, I know one day they're gonna be asking me to come on my show. Every time I hear a no, every part that I don't get for an acting job because I don't look Latin enough, everything that happens to me, it's fuel to my fire to keep going, to give voice to other women out there that you too can be a business owner.
You can be an actor. You can be a writer, you can be anything you want.
If you are going through an abusive relationship, you can get out of it penniless and start again. There will be doors that will open for you.
Remember, you need to have the survivor mentality, not victim mentality. And most important, focus on solutions.
If you focus on your problems, it's the problems that grow. Focus on the solutions.
And one more crucial component to this powerful, powerful, but so effective mix. Consistency.
Consistency means show up every single day. Give your absolute best self every single day.
And all of a sudden, you're going to start seeing different results in every aspect of your life. Like, you know, that outfit that you save, oh, I love this dress.
I'm going to save it for whatever, holidays, for Christmas. I'm going to save it for the perfect day.
No. Dress to kill.
Wear that red lipstick. Look amazing.
Do everything that you need to do to feel your very, very, very most amazing self every single day. Before you even move on, pause and do this exercise as many times as you possibly can.
Look at yourself in the mirror, deep, deep into your eyes and soul and repeat with the most powerful belief you've ever had,

I know the best things in life are not easy, but I know I can reach them by showing up for myself

every single day, no matter what. Consistency is key for me and for my life,

so I can accomplish all my goals. No matter how scared you are, no matter how tired you are, no matter how frustrated you are, no matter how alone you are, every single step counts.
Becoming a phoenix is hard in the beginning, just like pretty much everything we try to do in the beginning, but it's a habit. And if you practice that habit every single day, you get better and better and better and stronger and stronger and stronger and stronger.
And it will remind yourself that that inner fire is always within you. So please remember, before I let you go, no matter what, never, ever, ever, ever give up.
You need to be your biggest fan. Don't even think about the future too much.
Don't stress too much about the future. It's one of my favorite phrases in the world.
Life is what happens while we are planning life. So be your biggest fan.
Go get it. Remember the website catondelouse.com has many links to many resources if you feel the need for more help, if you want to speak to our experts, and if you want to reach out to me and my team directly, we have 24-7 open lines of communication because this platform is for you.
305-332-0338 via WhatsApp and contact thecanondelose.com. Go be the best Phoenix you can.
Rise from the ashes. I know you can do.
I love you so much. Go get it.
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