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Good morning, Millennials.

Welcome back to the Toast and happy Wednesday, a gorgeous hump day here at the Toast.

Hey, Jax, how you darn?

I'm darn good.

Is there anything...

Could a hump day ever be anything other than gorgeous?

I mean, it could.

How?

I don't know.

Let's say you get some really bad news.

Like, bad news waits for nothing, you know?

It's true.

It's true.

But hopefully we're early enough that anything that's not gargeous will be waiting for us in the latter half of the day.

You know, it's so funny.

I guess I like read a book recently that used the phrase like bad waits, bad news waits for no one or nothing or whatever.

No.

It was in the summer I turned pretty, like, bad news can't wait.

Oh, yeah.

Because I called early in the morning with Susannah's news yes

and I have like used that phrase four times since I heard it you know it's like in my brain now oh that's so funny well that's where it's from interesting I didn't realize that

one of the grits I started a new book last night actually I think you've read it on a quiet street love love love such a good thriller like it's amazing you're never gonna

remember you saying that you didn't like it No, I liked it.

I feel like there was a thriller that you read recently where you said nothing happened the whole time.

And I felt like it was on a quiet street.

No, it might have been The Inmate, which is what everybody told me to read.

They're like, it's Frida's best book.

You know, we're Frida McFadden, girlies.

Everyone's like, you haven't read The Inmate?

Stunk.

Yeah, no, it wasn't The Inmate because you read The Inmate recently and you said this like on your Instagram, maybe a month or two ago.

Whatever.

I'm glad it's not the book I'm reading.

No, I don't think it is.

That's a really good thriller.

That's one that's like having a moment going viral.

It is having a moment.

So I figured I'd see what all the fuss is about.

And so far.

How exciting.

Yeah.

That's fabulous.

I feel broken.

Like, is it just me?

Like, whenever I wear heels, like, I have sore legs the next day.

I think it's because I have like no muscles.

So like my legs literally did a workout from like carrying the weight of my body.

Yeah, it's a calf workout for sure.

Yeah, I'm broken.

I wore heels last night.

We had our pickle spritz launch event, which was so fun.

It was such like a gorgeous summer night on a rooftop.

I'm just broken.

Like I can't hang like I used to.

Getting old, man.

Getting older

is not the same it seems to me no like each day i wake up with a new ailment like i'm truly like you're breaking i'm wobbling i'm wobbling into old age honestly you're coming apart at the seams you need to listen to your body calm down calm down you need to listen to your body and take a break not like run off to boston without your big sis the thing is i'm saying yes to life and saying yes to life waits for nobody and waits for no thing well i mean it's not without

it's it's downsides That's drawbacks.

Like your body is breaking down.

Yeah.

I mean, I think when you like look at my Instagram and my social media, you're like, oh, yes, this girl is clearly saying yes to life.

It looks fabulous.

It looks fun.

It looks fresh.

I'm here to tell you, you know, on the podcast, you get the real deal.

Totally authentic, not highlight version.

I'm deeply unwell, you guys.

Like, one, it's, we're halfway through the year of yes.

I feel like I have actually

followed through with my New Year's resolution, which was just like saying yes to life, doing more things.

And I've actually been doing it.

And here's my halfway update.

Like, I'm not okay.

But you are okay.

Like, yes, you're really enjoying.

But what I was going to say is maybe you should get a massage today, even if it's just like at the nail salon, a little 10-minute massage.

That's a nice idea.

Yeah, or get a pedicure and get your feet rubbed for like 10 minutes per leg.

Mmm, 10 minutes per leg.

Because they do the five minutes.

It comes included, but you could bump it up to 10 per leg.

They don't do five per leg.

That's not included.

They give you like 30 seconds per leg.

No, at my place, it's five per leg.

Well, I can't go to your place because the last time I was there, the girl you recommended called me Gordita because she thought I didn't speak Spanish, but I do, bitch.

And Gordita means little fat girl.

So I haven't really felt safe there.

So she called you little?

Actually, no, Gordita roughly translates to just fat.

For female fat.

No, that's Gorda.

The Ita makes it little.

Gordita translation.

No, it.

Maybe you're like a young.

No, it literally is chubby girl.

Girl.

I guess Gorda is a chubby woman.

Jackie, she thought you were young.

Jackie, does your arm hurt from reaching?

It was an insult.

Listen, get over it.

She does an amazing Manny Petty, and she's got hands like no one else if you want to get those legs rubbed.

No, I haven't been able to enjoy my time there ever since.

But also, you need to thank her because haters have been your motivators.

Not really.

Yeah, really.

No, I don't think, I don't think any part of me was motivated to like go on my health journey because of the haters.

Like, I don't care what other people think of me.

I hated myself.

Like that, I am my biggest hater.

Fine.

I'm the hater that was the motivator.

That is fair to say, but not other people.

Okay.

I just feel like you should go in there, kill so many birds with one stone.

One, you'll get amazing massage.

Two, call me Gorda again.

Call me Gorda again.

Because to her, it was like an offhand remark.

She didn't know that I heard it.

Like she doesn't even probably know or remember that she called me Gordita.

But for me, it's like, you know, we all have moments in our life where we're like, especially if you've like struggled with your weight, where you have heard other people call you fat or like talk about your body.

And literally those moments, you will take them to your grave with you.

You will never forget them.

For sure, but there's no part of you that now wants to go in there and be like.

No, because it won't be gratifying.

She doesn't know that it was a moment.

I know it was a moment, but she doesn't know.

Okay.

I think you're missing out on what could be another great moment for you.

No, no, I don't do it for her.

I do it for me.

Well, then you're definitely missing out on a great foot rub.

Yeah, no, I'll

take into consideration getting a foot rub, but I'm not going to your place.

Like, if I, if I don't do that, like, I really, truly stand for nothing, you know?

Oh, my God.

As a consumer,

disagree.

As a consumer, like, my

business is my power, you know?

Yeah.

And I'm going to wield my power towards, you you know, more safe spaces.

Okay.

Okay.

Well, we've got a great show for you guys today.

It's Wednesday, which means we've got deer toasters.

We have an update.

Remember the girlie who wrote in and said, you know, she went off birth control and literally everything in her life feels different.

She no longer feels attracted to her partner.

It was kind of a big conversation in our community.

And so she's written in with an update.

And I think you'll be interested to hear what she has to say.

I'm so interested because I was so interested by that story.

One, because because then everyone in the community was like, this happened to me.

And then we're also like kind of realizing that maybe like birth control is like meant to program us to be attracted to mediocre men.

And maybe it's the patriarchy.

It's kind of, it's a pill to take to support the patriarchy.

It's the patriarchy colluding with big pharma

and we're just putting the pieces together.

Right.

So we'll hear from one of our subjects on the matter.

Can't wait.

Yeah.

What else is going on?

Oh, my episode of Out and Bout is about today.

I went on Joey Camasta's podcast like a week and a half ago and it came out today.

I actually watched it this morning before we got started just to, you know, energize me on the subject of me.

And it was fabulous.

What did you guys talk about?

Oh, everything.

We talked about Cuba Gooding Jr.

We talked about say yes to the dress.

We talked about orgies.

It really was a wide-spanning conversation.

Oh, nice.

Your highlight reel.

Literally.

That's like when you go out into the world, that's like what people

associate you with is like Cuba Gooding Jr., say yes to the dress.

I know.

I mean, I talked about that on the the podcast about how I hate both of those things and I would love to stop talking about them however you know if people are talking to me I'm just happy I don't care what it's about they're kind of your claims to fame I know but like

we know we know and the toasters know and like I on this show

we don't even discuss no it's old news so it might be refreshing for people to hear it if they've never heard the story right it's true head over to out and about podcast

um that's so fun maybe i'll watch that today yeah it's on youtube it's on the tube

And what else?

I feel like I had like something I needed to say on the toast, like a funny story or something.

Although I cannot recall.

Maybe it'll come to me.

I finished watching the new Roni episode.

Oh,

that I could, you know, put a lid on it.

I didn't think it was good, but I don't think that means that it's going to be terrible.

I didn't think any of the women like stood out in any sort of major way.

They're all kind of very similar.

And also playing it safe, because at this point, like, you know what makes good reality TV, how to be successful on reality tv but none of them like had a distinct enough personality except for brin but she's kind of all over the place like i don't know what she's about is brin like the brunette girl with like a like kind of a pouty face yes yeah yeah

um i saw i've seen a bunch of clips of the episode and i don't know if this is fair to say because i again haven't seen the entire episode but she like appears like she's trying so hard yeah she just like is saying crazy stuff i think because like that's what plays on TV and on the one hand it's like okay this doesn't seem genuine but on the other hand no one else is really doing anything.

So

it's good, I guess.

But no, and it also seems like this group of women don't really know each other.

They're just kind of all like plucked from all around the five boroughs and put together in Jenna Lyon's apartment with a fondue board.

Yeah, that's tough.

And I think from like a casting perspective, it's really hard to get like a group of people who know each other for a long time, who all want to do the show, and then who are also all interesting and wealthy and women of, you know, status.

But as a viewer, like, it's so frustrating.

I feel like with a bunch of the seasons of Housewives, like, we got to a place where, like, you could tell these women weren't never hanging out unless they had to film.

And it's, like, not fun.

Like, that history makes it, you know, high stakes and makes it interesting.

Yeah.

And I just wonder how it worked with the Lizzie Savetsky stuff.

Like, did they film for a few weeks?

All of that blew up.

And then they scrapped all that and started again.

It does kind of feel that way because they're talking about like dinners and stuff that maybe happened in the Lizzie era because there's no full.

So do they not address it?

No, they don't address address it it's not like she's in the background like when they're in Jenna's apartment like like she had just the girls over for a girls night and like Lizzie's obviously not there I feel like it's post Lizzie which actually makes it a little better because then they had those weeks of filming hanging out so they had more opinions about each other but I'm just curious yeah I mean that would make sense and I also think like Bravo probably doesn't want to open themselves up to any sort of like lawsuit because there was like allegations of anti-Semitism and stuff so to like start with a clean slate I guess yeah no it would have been really confusing to come in and try and explain the drama that happened.

Like we're trying to get to get to know a new group of women.

Like

it doesn't make sense.

Or it would have been confusing to just use that footage, but cut her out.

Right.

Because then there would be like a big gaping hole.

Right.

Interesting.

Yeah.

I keep saying like I might watch it, but every time I go to like my clicker, like, sorry, it's me and young Sheldon until the day I die.

Yeah.

No, what I've seen so far, you don't need to watch, but I'll keep up with like what people are saying about it.

If it seems like it's getting better, maybe I'll give it another shot.

I just saw the ratings for it.

I think it was like 670,000 people.

I don't know whether that's good or bad these days.

Me neither.

It doesn't sound good.

It doesn't sound good, but I think these days in the Bravo universe and like cable universe, I think it's pretty decent.

It doesn't sound good, and it certainly doesn't sound good for a premiere of a new show that's like incredibly hyped up.

But Andy said, like, this might inspire them to reboot some other cities.

Well, not if it doesn't go well.

Yeah.

What cities do you think need to be rebooted, OC?

Apparently, OC is like doing well.

I actually was thinking about watching again, but there's not that many episodes out, so I didn't want to like get into it and then have nothing to watch.

I actually watched an episode of it because Brian keeps up with it.

And when we were the Hamptons, he was watching it.

So I sat down and watched it with him.

When we watched Crappy Lake, which again, I can't recommend enough.

It seemed fine, honestly.

There was like this moment where Heather Dubreau like did like a losery thing, which she doesn't do, you know?

Like she was, they were doing peak and pit of their trip because they took a trip to Montana.

And she was like, a pit of mine is just, you know, Shannon and Tamara have made up after all these years.

And she feels like, you know, they were leaving her out.

And like they weren't.

And she like started crying.

And they're like, what are you doing?

Like, it was so not Heather Dubreu.

Like not, you know, she's like fancy queen.

It was not, it was so like losery of her.

That's weird.

Yeah, no, it felt weird.

It felt like everyone was like doing the most.

I know there's like a new housewife and there's like some tea on her and Tamara has, of course, you know, found it and is exploiting it.

I don't know if they need a reboot, but Emily, my queen Emily, wasn't on the trip because she got COVID.

So the episode wasn't as good as it could have been.

Interesting.

I don't really need any cities to be rebooted.

I feel like I'm just moving away from watching like so much housewives that unless they are in a city and like with people who I already care about, I don't plan on watching it.

But that's why I watch Roni because like we're New Yorkers, I'm going to give it a shot.

And it's also fun to just watch New York be portrayed as like fabulous and where are they going?

Yeah.

Yeah, but it also feels like something about it, it feels so like 10 years ago in the way that they're like talking about New York almost.

I can't explain like it feels like this was the pilot that was shot alongside the original pilot in the way that they're talking about New York.

Like New York has really changed, and I just don't feel like that they've

reflected in the show.

Oh, that's interesting.

I can't explain it.

And it doesn't make it feel like super New York-y.

It's just like everyone's, maybe because we're only in people's apartments so far.

I've only been in apartments and they're nice.

Which is interesting.

You would like the apartments, and they live.

Oh, most of them live either like downtown or Brooklyn.

I don't think anyone lives uptown.

Not that I've seen yet.

Well, no, I mean, the whole original show took place uptown.

When there was a housewife who lived downtown, it was like the biggest deal.

I know.

Oh, that's interesting.

I do like to see part of, for me, the allure of the show is seeing people's like homes, cars, their wealth.

And that's why I think the OG show got so boring because it really wasn't like this group of fabulous rich women.

It was this group of like alcoholic women who are no longer women of stature.

Yeah, who are like reality stars.

Who are we stars?

Right.

They're like former Morgan heiresses.

They're former countesses.

And like that doesn't really pay the bills.

Yeah.

No, the things that pay the bills are just like not the things that we want to see them doing.

No, they're professional reality stars now.

They're honestly on the same financial level as like, you know, the Vanderpump Rules Rules kids who were waiters and waitresses in the war and now they're right, who are now professional reality stars.

It's like the same, you know, tax bracket.

Yeah.

Okay, interesting.

Well,

we've got a great show.

I think we should dive in.

We've got some stories and we've got your toasters and I'm excited about it.

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Awesome.

Thank you.

Are you ready for our first story?

Awesome.

Oh, wow.

Like, totally freaked me out.

I mean, right on.

The Toroshurin, number one.

You know who else is number one?

Me?

Not today.

Damn.

The Golden Bachelor.

Oh, yes.

The Golden Bachelor, Jerry Turner, is taking the country by storm.

So ABC announced Jerry Turner is ready to find the new love of his life.

The 71-year-old was announced as the star of ABC's new bachelor spin-off, The Golden Bachelor, in July 2023.

According to the network, the father of two is a hopeless romantic looking for someone to share the sunset years of life.

He said, it's never too late to fall in love again.

Don't give up.

There's always possibilities.

He said he was pushed to join the show by his two daughters after their mother passed away.

Though the pressure could make any man nervous, he told GMA that being the first elderly man to lead the show feels amazing and it's still sinking in.

So we talked about the fact that The Bachelor was doing a spin-off called The Golden Bachelor.

We thought it was a golden idea.

And now they have found like the perfect man to lead the show.

So I think, you know, when they first announced the idea, people were, you know,

questioning, maybe a little curious.

But now that a lot of the assets have come out and we've seen what this man looks like, when they said Golden Bachelor, like I was thinking more like, you know, nursing home vibes, like really old.

I didn't think of like this kind of silver fox.

I mean, I think we can all agree this man is extremely hot.

Like they did an amazing job with casting.

And

seeing, you know, his, his footage, you know, his little commercial like is making me excited.

Yeah, a lot of people are excited.

I think a lot of fans of The Bachelor are like texting their parents.

Signing their parents, yeah.

Yeah, being like, you have to go on.

I think everybody wants to date this man.

I agree.

I think you probably would have expected it to be a little more like, what's that actor's name who plays Professor John Sturgis on Young Show?

Yeah.

Blair Waldorf's mom's boyfriend.

Yeah.

His name is Mr.

Geis from Clueless.

Right.

What is his name?

His name is Miss No, Miss Geist.

And what's his, what's his name in the Clueless?

Mr.

In Clueless.

Oh, Mr.

Hall.

Mr.

Hall.

Geist

Wallace Sean, which I didn't know.

Perfect.

That's he's such a Wallace.

Honestly, I would have loved for him to be the Golden Bachelor too, but instead we have this hot 71-year-old who's like we have this hot piece of ass.

Who's ready to find a partner to golf with, play pickleball with?

He's a retired restaurateur with many hobbies.

And I think the fact that he's a widower

endears him to a lot of people.

Yeah, it's not like he's, you know, had three marriages.

Like, I think

I think they were very

specific about who they wanted to cast.

I think they wanted, obviously, someone actually old, you know, not like in their 50s.

So like 70s is, you know, is pretty old, but like good looking.

Sprightly.

Carry a show because it's still The Bachelor and they care about looks and someone whose story would be like heartwarming to

and they found the perfect man honestly i think ai generated him no by the way he's giving ai generated like he's quite literally perfect um of course like abc had to do their like annoying um

like marketing around it i find bachelor marketing to be like so lame they're like his dms require postage like so cringe but i do feel like i will give this show a chance it is extremely cute It's giving young Sheldon vibes, like just heartwarming, endearing, family-friendly fun.

I know, but I'm just curious, like, who this man actually is looking to be with, like, and what ages of the women there's going to be.

Because I feel like he could go with a younger woman.

Like, this is a he looks very young.

He doesn't look 70.

Yeah, this is a spirited.

young soul, it seems.

Yeah.

I feel like he needs like a 60-year-old, like Nancy Myers vibe, like kind of Meryl Streep's character from it's complicated yeah i'm curious she's also i feel like they'll cast she's also a restaurateur i feel like they'll cast women in their 50s too

i mean that's like a huge age gap i know it feels different when it's like a 50 year old and a 70 year old but that is like a big gap yeah but i don't know i just i'm really curious how this is gonna play out No, and I think this is like a big moment for the bachelor franchise.

I mean, in the last few years, due to their own just like the show never really evolved.

They had like a litany of scandals and just like other streaming services and networks like coming up with better ideas for dating shows.

Like they've really dropped the ball from like once being the biggest cultural phenomenon of our time.

And I didn't know what or if they could do to like get themselves back in the zeitgeist.

And I wouldn't have expected this, but it really is taking, I've been seeing it all over the internet.

It's taking the community by storm.

Yeah.

It's a really, really good move for them.

And I feel like the fact that it's going to be on cable like once a week, it could be the thing that like unites the nation.

Like,

I think everyone will be watching.

Everyone will be talking about like the women.

And I also think it's really nice because we live in a world that's obsessed with like youth.

Youth.

And we need to get our priorities in order and respect our elders.

And I think that the Golden Bachelor is inadvertently going to achieve that.

No, and it's so funny because like, I feel like The Bachelor was one of those like toxic shows that really focused on youth.

And like they were always, you know, the

crop of girlies were always the same, you know, blonde, young girls.

And now for them to use their platform to kind of shine a light on the elderly and like, you know, more mature women, I love that.

Yeah.

I really, like, I don't think they're doing it intentionally.

They're just trying to come up with show ideas.

But I actually think this is a really wholesome, nice message for the country.

And they're kind of going back to their roots in the sense that when the show first began, like the leads, the bachelor and the bachelorettes, like were actual bachelors.

Like they were people who, you know, a lot of women would be you know searching for and then they got to a point where it was just like kind of recycling like reality stars and that's not considered like an you know it's not like this eligible bachelor but this guy like is actually probably extremely sought after you know yes yeah he's an actual bachelor Yeah, I feel like unless it was someone, I mean, this is not a great example, but like Colton, who's like a football player, and it's like you have the opportunity to like go on Colton's season and be an NFL player.

Most of the

now bachelors are just reality.

Like they're just like guys.

They're like former real estate agents turned full-time reality stars.

Guy with a million Instagram followers.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I wonder if he has an Instagram.

Oh, we should watch his follower count.

That's a really good way to know like if the show's having an impact once it starts airing.

But I don't think it's, no, it's not analogous because

his demo

is not on Instagram.

And I don't believe the show has started filming yet.

I think they announced him as the guy to encourage

people of that age demographic to

apply.

And it's going to work.

Yes.

I think everybody who loves The Bachelor or who follows pop culture is signing their parents up.

Well, their mom's up and single at that.

Or actually

a couple married women will show up and say, I saw Jerry.

He's willing to risk it all.

And I think we can have a connection.

I like that.

It's really beautiful.

It's on this fall on Hulu.

Oh, yeah.

And ABC.

And ABC.

Sorry.

Oh.

Look at us being so positive.

I know, but this is worthy.

I think this took everyone by surprise.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Okay, our next story.

Page six is reporting exclusively that Prince Harry and Megan Markle are having trouble in paradise.

The rumors are swirling that Prince Harry and Megan Markle's marriage is on the rocks.

Radar Online reported Tuesday that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are taking time apart to heal and rebuild their bond.

They're trying to figure out what hit them.

Harry doesn't fit in Megan's tacky tinsel town world.

Adding that he's hoping to, quote, find himself.

So that's what Radar Online reported.

But an insider close to the couple assures page six that any speculation of a breakup is untrue.

The insider said, quote, it's not true.

It's literally made up.

Okay, by the way, like, there's definitely you know radar online and page six like it's giving tabloid you know tabula rasa but i think you know an interesting conversation is like let's say hypothetically this is true like they're they can't go away they can't like they literally that's what we've been saying they couldn't

They're literally forbidden.

Even if they chose to live separately in different houses, different bedrooms for the rest of their lives, they cannot divorce.

No.

It's not an option for them.

It's not, my prediction is that they won't divorce.

You know what?

It's so funny.

He wanted to get so far away from like royal life, but he's wound up in the same situation where it's like, you can't get a divorce, bro.

No, it's so true.

And I don't think that this story is true.

I think like

if

it's, it's, you know, it's not crazy to think like they've had, you know, a very stressful few years.

Like I'm sure, you know, they fight like any couple.

I don't, I really can't.

see a world in which they're not making this work.

They really, all they have is each other.

Yeah, I think their relationship has probably seen better days.

Like, I think things aren't amazing right now, and especially as amazing as they were when they left the family and they had each other and they had so much support and they had all this opportunity on the horizon.

Like, as we've reported over the last few weeks and months, like a lot of those things have gone away.

And I think public opinion about them has swayed a little bit.

So I don't think they're like doing the best they've ever been, but they're not getting divorced.

They literally can't.

And they're just gonna deal with it no make it work make it work he is planning on going to africa for a new netflix documentary because he the radar source says that he feels most like himself while on the continent when he considers his second home

what's his first home

damn montecito or no where do they live montecito

yeah

that's a good question he's kind of nomadic yeah like what does he consider his first home?

No, what does he consider his country, you know?

Yeah.

I'm sure he would say his home is wherever Megan is and his family.

And I'm sure if he had to ask, like, unto his head, what country he belongs to the UK.

Because they really do love him.

So then the place where he lives is actually his third home?

Listen, he's a man of means.

He's got many homes.

No, like, emotionally.

Wherever Megan is.

Yeah.

So that's his first home.

I don't believe that this story has has any merit because it literally cannot.

It can't.

Yeah.

And I just.

I rebuke.

Yeah.

But no, I think it has merit in the sense that like they're probably

not in the best place they've ever been while they figure out like what's next for them.

Yeah, they're kind of in this like transitional period.

Like they kind of got settled here.

And, you know, before that, she was in Canada.

It was like a very transitional period.

It was very high stakes.

They got here.

They got settled.

They started working.

They became, you know, real Americans.

And I think between the book and some of the news, like, I think it's really shaken up their, their world and they're no longer feeling, you know, stable.

Yeah, no, and there was so much promise ahead.

Like, there was so much change happening at once, so it doesn't like allow you to really like process stuff.

And there was so much promise.

And now the chips have fallen where they fall.

I don't think they've fallen exactly where they had hoped.

Yeah, that's that's a good way of putting it.

So I think they'll be together forever, but you know, maybe he is sleeping in a different bedroom.

Maybe.

It's mandatory.

Like they are together forever.

Dumois posted a tip that they had sold their house and that Harry was living in another place.

Ooh.

Yeah.

I mean, you have to take, you have to take everything, you know, with a grain of salt from like blind gossip.

But that's interesting.

What do we know if their house sold?

That's like all public record.

That's what I was going to say.

We would know.

Yeah.

It would be pictures of it everywhere.

We would know who bought it.

Yeah, yeah.

It would be Harry Megan's house for sale.

And then a little like 3D tour.

Yeah, 3D tour.

And then like a blurb on which billionaire or other celebrity bought it.

Because that's like the most interesting real estate news when celebrities and rich people sell their house to other celebrities and rich people.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So we would know that.

We would know that.

Or maybe it's like the sales, maybe it's still an escrow.

Maybe it's still an escrow.

I don't know.

But

wishing them well, surely.

Wishing them well.

Are you ready for our next story?

A little more relationship news.

Mm-hmm.

Bibi Rexa put her boyfriend, Kian Safari, on blast for shaming her about her weight.

So Bibi Rexa appeared to put her boyfriend on blast for criticizing her weight when she shared a screenshot and an alleged text he sent her.

The singer took to her Instagram story to post the message, which hinted at trouble in paradise, after he allegedly wrote that he wanted to be honest about her looks.

So she posted the screenshot of the text.

It's a really long text.

Okay, but to be fair, like, because we're going to talk about this in depth, I think we need to read the whole text because

it's a very interesting text message.

Yes, it's a very long text message.

And it's, you know, I guess the headline does capture technically what it says, but it's more layered than that.

It's more nuanced than that.

The, you know, takeaway if you're just like giving general points in these headlines makes it seem like he called her fat out of nowhere.

He said, hey, I never said you weren't beautiful and I never said I didn't love you.

In fact, I said how beautiful you are and how much I loved you.

But I always said I would be honest with you and your face was changing, so I told you it was.

That was the conversation we were having and you asked, because I care, would you rather I lied to you?

You gained 35 pounds, obviously you gained weight and your face changes.

Should I just pretend it didn't happen and that it's okay?

Come on, I gained three pounds and you call me chubs and fat.

Doesn't mean you don't love me.

If you're trying to find reasons to break up, this makes sense, but it's not the real reason.

If you're unhappy with me slash yourself slash with life and don't see a future with us, then that's okay and that's the reason.

Don't use something like that to weaponize your anger or anxiety or any insecurity you may have.

You know, I always found you to be beautiful and loved you no matter what.

I think it's important for you to think about things and write things down, speak to a therapist, and do this retreat thing to get to the root of the problem.

Let me know if you'd like to speak if you need more clarity.

Love you.

So, I mean, I think everyone's like first initial reaction is like, This fucking guy, like,

what a shit.

Don't fucking talk about.

But then, when you read the text, it does seem like, you know, wait is something that they speak about a lot.

Cause he said, you asked.

And he said, you know, you're always telling me when I gain weight.

So it seems like it's a topic of conversation.

And I think like in a relationship, either you talk about it or you don't.

I come from a relationship where we talk very openly about it.

I will ask, like, do I look fat?

Do I look like I've gained weight?

What do you think about my stomach?

And Ben will be like, oh my God, does my stomach look like we talk about it.

And it feels like a safe space to do that.

I don't feel like I'm ever being judged.

And I don't feel like I'm ever being judgy.

I'm just like, we talk talk about it matter of factly, like, but do you care?

Does it bother you?

Do you want like, we talk about it in, I think, in like a logical way.

Um, so it seems like they talk about it because he literally said, you asked and you said something about me.

So knowing that, I feel like, um,

he actually sounds like he's being kind of kind

in a weird way.

He's trying to just have a conversation with her.

She had spoken recently about how she had gained

a lot of weight.

I think she had said 35 pounds.

And sometimes, like, that's just, you know, you're living life and you're,

that's, but it can be weighted.

Sometimes it's a sign of happiness and contentment.

Sometimes it's not.

Sometimes it's not.

And so I feel like he's, one, she asked him.

Two, he's like, there's clearly something beneath the surface between the two of them where maybe she's not in the best place.

Like she's going to a retreat.

He's telling her to speak to a therapist.

Like, I think he's trying to speak to her as kindly as he possible, possibly can.

Seeing this text out of context, like, yeah, it's like a man should never comment on a woman's weight, but like they're in a relationship.

She asked, it's clearly a point of conversation between the two of them.

My biggest question is, why did she post this?

She deleted it pretty soon after.

Yeah.

But I almost feel like it was an accident that she posted this.

I know, because if she was trying to make a point to, I feel like we had this conversation with Sarah Brady, like to post conversation screenshots that like you are screenshotting what you want to show is always going to, you know, be biased and like you're only showing people what you want them to see.

And so for her to do that, and then I think a lot of people didn't respond in the way that she thought that they would.

Because of course, like we said, our initial reaction is always like, literally don't fucking talk about my body.

I'll slit your throat.

Yeah.

But it's such a long text message and it weirdly gives a lot of context about their relationship.

So I think once upon reading it, everybody was like, wait,

it's not that bad.

Yeah.

And also like, why are you bringing the public into your current relationship?

Like with the Sarah Brady thing I could see a year later she obviously is pissed at her ex yeah but this is like your relationship and it feels like such a weird way to like it's such a weird tool in your fighting toolkit to be like I'm gonna put your text on my Instagram no it's definitely this was a weird way for me to find out baby Rexa had a boyfriend true if she still has one but again this is like Kiki Palmer like how are you in a relationship again after you're not like I don't think that they will

I would never trust someone

if I were him put me on blast this is it like no, we're not in a relationship anymore.

Yeah, I agree.

This feels like none of our business.

It feels weird to even comment on it, but like she put it out there.

And just, I feel like we don't know a lot about her relationship.

So everybody's like really leaning into these text messages for like different context clues.

And based on things I think we can like infer from the text message, it doesn't seem like he's out here being like, you big bitch.

Like it seems like.

I don't know.

It seems like if you're gonna.

No, not only that, it seems like if you're gonna talk about weight with your partner, which is a decision, either you talk about it or you don't.

You don't have to talk about it.

But it seems like if you are going to talk about it, he's someone who's talking about it in kind of like a healthy way.

Right.

I didn't see, I didn't read this and be like, this guy.

My initial reaction was like based on headlines.

I'm like, oh, this motherfucker.

But if you take the time to read it, it's not that bad.

No, he said, like, I said, you're so beautiful and I love you.

And I always will think you're beautiful.

It's not like he's saying like, you changed and I'm not attracted to you.

Right.

And she's asking, she's asking, did I I change?

He said, yes, but you're still beautiful to me.

Yeah.

And I kind of relate to Bibi Rexa in being like, I've had this where I'm like to Ben, like, I feel so disgusting.

Like, I really am so unhappy.

Like, I hit a wall.

I feel like a lot of people get that.

Like, you know, your weight doesn't bother you.

And then it does.

And it's like all you can think about.

And I've said to Ben, like, I'm really unhappy.

And he's like, okay, well, you know, let's do something together.

Like, let's join a gym.

Or, and like, his, like, that response makes me mad.

I'm like, no, bitch.

Like, you just wanted to complain.

Yeah, yeah.

So, like, I actually can understand Bibi Rexa, but like do not understand blasting it on social media.

Would you ever put that response on Instagram?

No, because then I'm giving other people on the internet free reign to talk about my body.

Yeah, but that's not something I'll ever do.

It's so weird sitting here talking about BB Rex's 35 pound weight gain, but like she put it

she served it up.

Jackie, and now we've said it.

Yeah.

And, you know, this is actually very pertinent because we have a deer toasters about this exact issue.

Oh, interesting.

Yes.

And I'm interested to hear what you have to say.

But also, BB Rexa has spoken about her weight gain in the last few weeks.

I think she was on like the Jennifer Hudson show.

She also shared that she has PCOS.

So it's just been like a transitional time for her, but there was no like further commentary.

Like we didn't talk.

It's not a story, Bibi Rexa

says she's gained weight.

But also I felt like when I did hear or see headlines about her talking about it, like it was in a very

matter of fact.

No, like in a self-assured way, like I've gained weight.

Like it doesn't bother me.

And I'm still living my best life.

Yeah, yeah.

As you said, sometimes it's a sign of just like contentment.

And like,

I think that was like Courtney was saying that, Courtney Kardashian a few episodes ago, how like when she's super skinny, it means she's not happy.

And if she's like, if she's

a little

heavier, like it just means that she's happy and content and not so like consumed.

Yeah, and it's not.

It's not like a blanket universal thing.

Like if you're fat, you're unhappy.

Like, I think everybody's different.

Like, I think when people, some people, you know, are at their fittest, it's a sign of them being at their best.

And I think sometimes, like Courtney, it's a sign of like, you know, true contentment, not needing to keep up with anything, relaxation.

Yes.

That's, so it's not one, or it's not one or the other for everyone.

So that's why you just shouldn't talk about it because you don't know if somebody's like dealing with something really tragic and stressful.

So just don't talk about it.

But in a relationship, that's where you share your deepest and darkest and most vulnerable truths.

So that's fine.

But to put it online, girl, leave us out of it.

I don't, I want no part of this.

No, and in a relationship, like you should know if your partner is in a good place or a bad place.

Duh.

Yeah.

This is weird.

Like, very weird.

Yeah, this trend of like celebrities putting their personal

text messages and thoughts and feelings about their current partners.

I'm not here for it.

No, it's so not celebrity.

No.

Like, some things can be private, girl.

Like, keep it to yourself.

Yeah.

Are you ready for our next story?

I really, truly am.

Finally, after a day's delay, Lindsay Lohan gives birth and welcomes her first baby with her husband bader shamus so the actress has given birth to her and her husband's first child a son named luai a rep for lohan tells page six it's called l-u-a-i

maybe it's like lie

lie lu luau luai

okay pretty she said the the rep said the family is over the moon in love the baby was born in dubai where the couple lives although his exact birth date was not immediately made known.

I'm really happy for Lindsay.

I think, you know,

that generation of girls, Amanda Bynes, Lindsay Lohan,

Brittany, are really now coming out of like their trauma.

Like they were like treated so poorly.

I think they went through so much.

And so to see Lindsay come out on the other side, she's acting again.

She's happily married.

She's kind of like a traditional chugg girl, like getting married and then having babies.

Like I'm so happy for her.

Like I really, she's someone I don't think of often, but when I do, I wish her well.

Yeah.

And I feel like after a lot of years of

being mysterious, who knows what she's been up to, some weird videos and this and that.

Like in the last few, she's really like gotten her life together and settled down and her career is, she's acting again.

She did that Netflix movie.

She's married.

She's having baby.

Like, I think it's really nice.

I think so too.

Although I do, you know, often think about, you know, that era of her life where she was running around London on Instagram Live, like

chasing down Syrian refugees in the street.

Yeah, but that was also at the same time when she was doing that MTV show, Lohan Beach Club,

which actually was crazy.

But if you watch the show,

she was like totally fine.

Like the way that like you think of her, like, or we all saw that video of her dancing and Mikonos that like went so viral, and you're like, oh my God, what is going on with Lindsay?

But then when you watch the show, like, she's literally running her business and she's totally fine.

And she was like level-headed.

Yeah.

Okay, good.

I really, like,

she raised us.

I wish her the best.

And I think motherhood already looks great on her.

I hope she's, you know, just nesting.

I truly wish her well.

Me too.

She also, like Amanda Vines, is an amazing actress.

Yeah, like an extreme talent.

Like an extreme talent.

And we are at a loss, like without her doing more movies.

And I just, I hope she does more movies because she's really such a great actress.

I agree.

I mean, of course, you know, the greats come to mind, Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen, Mean Girls, Freaky Friday.

Not enough people talk about Her Be Fully Loaded.

Georgia Rule, your favorite movie.

Georgia Rule.

Oh my God.

I literally, Georgia Rule is now one of those movies that gets clipped on TikTok and like it's reaching a whole new generation.

People in the comments being like, what movie is this?

And it's that scene where like Felicity Huffman finally comes down to Jane Fonda's house and is like, tell me the truth.

What really happened with my new man?

And it's chilling.

And I'm so glad a younger generation is seeing it.

It's Felicity Huffman, Jane Fonda, and Garrett Hedlund and Lindsay Lohan's fine as work.

I need to watch that movie again.

Yeah, you do.

So, anyways, I'm really happy for her.

Me too.

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Our fifth and final story, Mazel Tov is an order to Dylan Sprouse and Barbara Palvin.

Yes.

They got married in Hungary one month after announcing their engagement.

The stars said, I do during a secret ceremony in the model's home country of Hungary over the weekend, a local outlet claimed that the nuptials took place in a church just outside the Hungarian capital of Budapest.

And Vogue has all the photos.

So first, the local outlet, Boars Online, had obtained photos of the bride who looked stunned

in her corset-style wedding gown and sheer gloves.

And then the Vogue exclusive dropped.

And the photos are just gorgeous.

Yeah, this was so unexpected.

Like, obviously, I knew that they were engaged, but they had a relatively like normal-length engagement for like a celebrity.

And I didn't know she was Hungarian.

I love that they all flew to Hungary, like, to celebrate her culture.

This is so cute.

I love these two.

These are one of my favorite celebrity couples.

And they're not so obvious, you know, they're not in your face.

They're just like seem really happy.

And I love them.

I love Barbara Palvin.

I love Dylan's brows.

Like, I'm obsessed.

I'm obsessed.

They've been together for a long time.

They seem so suited for one another.

I'm glad they're married.

And I loved her wedding look.

Like, I feel like it was very traditional, but also something about it was incredibly like unique and not what we've seen before.

We've gotten some really good bridal looks in the last like year, I feel.

No, the models are doing the most for the bridal industry.

Taylor Hill, Kate Bach,

Palvin.

Yep, yep.

I mean, I guess that's, you know, why they're paid the middle bucks.

No, and that's why, like,

they literally model wedding dresses because they're models, you know?

Yeah, she looks like she's in the campaign.

Like, it's just too easy.

She's really beautiful.

I really,

um, she's one of like my favorite models, you know, weirdly.

And I love Dylan Sprouse.

He's definitely my favorite Sprouse twin, my fellow NY, NYU alum.

Oh, wow.

He's your favorite sprouse.

Cole.

Yeah, I would say,

I would say so.

Would you not agree?

As much as like Dylan, he seems like the more affable, unserious brother who like you'd actually want to hang out with.

I just feel like that's because we also don't know as much about him as we do about Cole.

Because Cole is is kind of like everywhere and he takes himself so seriously.

Well, I feel like, you know, they were these young child stars together and then they definitely took a break.

I know they went to college because I went to college with them.

And then Cole had this resurgence with Riverdale, the biggest show, and it was like Cole Sprouse, Cole Spouse.

And then he dated Lily Reinhardt.

I feel like it was so much Cole that Dylan got left behind.

And then very slowly, everybody started to just like take their own interest in Dylan.

due in large part to him being in like this fabulous, seemingly really normal, healthy relationship.

And I feel like he's gotten his moment, even though Cole is like the obvious one now.

He's the more famous one.

But like when Barbara was at the Victoria Seeker fashion show and Dylan was sitting front row, like being so proud of his girly, like I'm obsessed.

Have they ever gone to the Met Gala?

Yes.

Together?

Yes.

I'm on my way.

They do, they really are like low-key, like a socialite couple, you know?

Yeah, they are.

They're not like so obvious.

They're not getting hounded by paparazzi.

They probably have a very normal life where they, you know, probably live nice.

You know, they make a lot of money from, I know she's like a big model for a lot of big brands, but they, they have a sense of normalcy, which we love.

Yeah,

we do.

And Cole

was his best man, it seems.

Oh, that's so sweet.

Yeah, they had this big bachelor party, I think, in Iceland.

It's nice.

It's really nice.

Vogue getting the exclusive.

We love it.

Yeah.

She wore Vivian Westwood.

Stunning.

Yeah, really pretty dress.

So those were the fast five stories, and I feel as though you needed to know them.

You did.

You definitely did.

And I'm excited because we have dear toasters.

The one I was referring to is up first.

So, if you want to submit dear toasters, it is our weekly advice segment.

We do it every Wednesday, or we try to do it every Wednesday.

Sometimes it gets pushed to Thursday, just depending on the website.

Just depends on what clubs are up to.

Programming things.

Yes.

But if you want to write in, it's always done completely anonymously.

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Write in, girls.

What's going on?

Okay, ready?

Yep.

Hey, Jackson Claude.

love the podcast here's my issue i've been with my husband for almost seven years we have two kids together and we just got married six months ago after on our honeymoon we were literally in the middle of having sex when he says i know that you're bigger than most girls but you're so sexy i know how he meant it but seriously i immediately got up i went into the bathroom and i cried i am a little bit of a bigger girl i always have been my entire relationship i I thought that he was the one person who never saw my weight.

He's never once commented on it or made any comments about it, based, you know, how much I eat, the gym, etc.

And that's why I love him.

I thought he saw me for who I am.

Needless to say, this incident has fucked me up to my core.

Am I just overthinking this?

Is this a stupid guy thing?

When I finally got the courage to tell him about it, he was extremely apologetic, so reassuring that it was a stupid comment.

We were also a little drunk, but for some reason, I just can't get over it.

It stuck with me and has been bothering me so much, so much lately.

Should I just get over it?

Am I being dramatic?

Thanks.

Love you both.

I don't think that you're being dramatic.

Like you're entitled to your feelings.

And sometimes something hits you sideways, even when I think it's so clear that, like, he meant it in the kindest way.

Like, he thought he was saying something nice and he didn't realize he just like ruined your whole trip.

Yeah.

I think that we can forgive him.

Yeah.

I'm glad that you like told him that it bothered you.

Uh, and you have every right to like be bothered by it, but he really meant it in a nice way.

And I would try and focus on like the positive half of the statement because that's what really matters.

Yeah, also, just like people say crazy things in sex.

Like, you also have to chalk it up to like dirty talk.

Like, people just say things like that's like Amy Schumer does a bit where she's like, when you start having sex with your husband, he says all these crazy things.

Like, you know, he doesn't mean he's like, oh, yeah, let's get, let's fuck so hard.

And like, we're not going to fuck so hard.

You're literally my family, you know?

It's really funny.

But I think this is a really interesting thing.

As somebody who's been fat their whole life, like

you really want, like,

like, it's, it's kind of like a, a, a, a fact of, no, what's the word I'm looking for?

It's like, it's a very matter of fact thing.

Like, I know that I'm fat, you know,

but the way like somebody says it, even in a complimentary way, which this was, it kind of just like bursts your bubble that nobody sees that about you.

And it's really tough because you think, you know, for me at least, like, I was always, you know, doing the most, like, hair, makeup, personality, like, just to deflect from the fact that I'm bigger than most people.

And for somebody to even not, whether it's in a positive or a negative way, to even acknowledge it to your face is like so disgusting, you know?

Even though it's not bad or good.

I feel like fat has become like a bad word, but it's just, you know, it's a fact.

Like I was fat.

It's numbers.

Yeah, so for somebody to bring it up to you, that's the most harrowing part because it bursts the bubble that you have successfully been like deflecting people from noticing, you know?

Yes.

No, I understand completely and I understand why she's upset by it.

But the.

but you don't have to be, you don't have to be.

And the takeaway is like that he's obsessed with you, he loves you, have you two kids, seven years, like

you guys are great.

And he meant, he was trying to pay you a compliment, like men are sexy.

Yeah, and he was trying to make it like sexy.

Yeah, yeah.

And you know what?

Maybe that's like, you know, a subconscious way of him wanting to you to like lean into like your curvy girl life, you know?

He's into it.

And some women like wear it as a badge of honor and are so good about being confident.

And some people, it just destroys their confidence until they can, you know, get it under control.

But maybe he wants you to be that type of bitch, and that's complimentary.

Or he's, or he

thinks of you as someone who's extremely like confident in your size and that that would not affect you at all.

Like maybe he's been putting on this like front that like, and not even a front, but as for a lot of people, he's been who you are.

And maybe he saw it as like, you know, he's paying you a compliment to like how confident you are.

No, and just back to what you said, for a lot of big girls, like they're so competent.

And for a lot of them, myself included, like, it's a facade.

It's just a way of getting ahead of anything.

Yeah, but I'm sorry that happened.

He sounds like

he's so sweet.

Yeah.

He sounds like a good man.

It sounds like he was really just, people say crazy things in the bedroom.

He was like trying to come up with like a fresh compliment, you know, that's like, yeah, just like, oh, you're so beautiful.

Yeah, it's like that episode of Sex in the City where Charlotte has sex with that guy.

And every time they have sex, he says like the craziest, like degrading shit.

And she's like this, you know, nice upper east side wasp.

And so you just chalk it up to like pillow talk, you know?

Yeah, it's a little different, but I understand.

Okay, ready for our next one?

Yes.

I have two, I have a few that I'm like, I have a bunch.

Which one?

That's new.

No, I always take a bunch.

No, okay, I'm gonna do this one.

Hey, girlies, been a listener forever, and I appreciate the years of giggles.

My father-in-law said something to me that I truly can't get over.

Long story short, he took a picture of me and my husband, and when seeing the picture, I commented just to my husband that my boobs looked so big in the photo.

My father-in-law overheard me and he said, I can hold them for you if you want.

Obviously referring to my boobs.

That grossed me out.

My husband told him later when I wasn't around that the comment was inappropriate, but both my father-in-law and my mother-in-law didn't see issue with it.

So the comment was just swept under the rug, but I feel weirdly objectified whenever I see my father-in-law.

I don't see him regularly, but when I do, it's for days at a time.

Am I being dramatic that I can't not think about that creepy comment whenever he's around?

You know, that's fucking weird.

It's literally the weirdest thing ever.

And to be honest, there's nothing you could do about it because the one thing you could do, I would have told you, your husband has to tell your father that that was inappropriate.

And he did it.

So there's quite literally nothing you can do, but we're here to corroborate.

That is literally so fucking weird and inappropriate.

And I guess we got to chalk this up to like, you know, the elderly.

Yeah, the elderly.

Not everyone can be Jerry from the Golden Bachelor.

The elder's going to elder.

And this is one of them things that you just got to swallow, but like we are here for you, it's fucking weird and inappropriate.

Yeah, and just like stay away from him, like try not to have conversations with him where you're gonna hear more weird shit that you don't want to hear, and it's just like, you know, like you gotta dodge him.

Yeah, by the way, yeah.

And

now that you know he's a freak, like a comment to your husband being like, oh, my boobs look so big, just don't say it.

Yeah, no, I wouldn't talk about like things that might rile him up.

And I'm not in any way saying you provoked him to say that.

No.

No, but you know he's a freak.

So

try your absolute best not to even give him like an inch or of space to say something like that.

Yeah, but elder's going to elder and in-laws going to in-law.

100%.

Elder in-law is going to elder in-law.

And I'm proud of you for taking, you know, in-law dynamics are very sensitive.

And you knew immediately it was on your husband to say something.

And I'm proud of you for doing that.

I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to.

Yeah.

But you just

need people at a certain point.

It's so true.

Like, I don't know how old this man is, but if he's your father-in-law and you're a toaster, he has to be at least 60.

And they're so far gone change.

Like, don't even bother.

Just put your energy towards your business or something.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Agreed.

Okay.

Our third and final is an update.

So.

We had a girly write in.

I'll read you a little bit of a synopsis from what she wrote in.

She said, her boyfriend over a year has been really supportive in her getting off of birth control, but her hormones have have been really crazy.

She feels really repulsed by him.

Like him farting puts her over the edge.

I feel like he's lazy, he's gross, he's annoying.

And before birth control, I was madly in love, of course, with the occasional annoyance, but she doesn't know if like her honeymoon phase has ended, if it's hormones.

She doesn't know.

So we had basically told her like, you got to give it time.

Like your body is out of whack.

Like not enough people talk about how like birth control really changes you.

And there have been studies done on all this.

So we told her to just like chill.

And if in due time, she's still repulsed by this man, maybe it's just the relationship, not the birth control.

No, maybe it was the birth control that made her attracted to him.

But like once she's leveled out and she's completely like feeling herself and not hormonal and up and down, then she can make a decision.

But like don't make a decision right now while you're still like coming down off of everything.

So here's her update.

Turning Lou and Jackie O.

I wanted to send you an update on my hormone fiasco.

And by the way, I like that we always complain that people don't give us updates, but like this girl, we needed months and she literally wrote in months ago.

So I feel like it's an adequate update.

I wanted to send you an update on my hormone fiasco.

I followed your advice of giving my body time to get back in order before doing anything rash.

And I am so happy I did because we are back to normal.

My hormones were honestly whack, and it's crazy what my body went through.

He has been very patient with me and made me realize he's a total PJOM.

I am never getting back on that shit again, and we are now taking steps to embrace our fertility journey.

I'm very excited to start a family with him, and I'm so grateful I took your advice.

Side note, it took me about six months to feel normal again, and that is just crazy.

That is crazy.

That's a really good lesson for everyone.

If anybody's feeling this way coming off of birth control, like there are so many different things that you deal with when you come off of birth control, but if one of them is like your personality has changed, your attractiveness to your partner has changed.

Like give it time.

Not saying it will, maybe, you know, maybe it won't bounce back, but it could.

And you just have to like give things time because these hormones run deep.

Yeah, that's why we were saying at the beginning of the episode, like listening to your body, like being acutely aware of what your body's going through.

Cause maybe, you know, a girl is going through this and not realizing it has anything to do with her going off birth control and then she breaks up with her boyfriend who might have been the one for her yeah

so this is a lesson and i'm grateful she gave us time too six months that's a that's a half a year yeah no and i'm glad that it's reached such a positive conclusion yeah and i wish her luck on her journey on fertility i'd love to hear from you maybe in another six months maybe are you pregnant like let us know yeah keep us posted stay in touch and for stay in touch and thank you for writing in an update so many of our girlies forget about us they take our amazing advice and then they live their fabulous lives forgetting where they came from but that's what we're doing for, Claude.

It's true.

It's true.

It's a good sign.

But please write us an update on whatever it is you wrote in about.

And of course, if you just want to write in, that's deartoasters at gmail.com or thetoastpodcast.com.

Thank you guys so much for a great episode.

Jex, thank you for your time.

Yeah, it was.

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