Tik-Talk with Remi Bader: Monday December 1st, 2025

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it's remy meter hi remny hi how are you welcome back to the toast is this your third or second time on no like third or fourth because you came with me and jackie and then you came with me once alone right i almost think it was twice maybe it was once but like i don't know well she's a regular at this point welcome back it's tick tocker to the stars i had to beg to be here by the way

well the thing is and i said to remy like and you know i actually did want to talk to you about this every time we're on here i feel like we're very similar we've had like similar journeys with weight we're just very open about our weights and so we always talk very candidly about like being fat and being skinny and people don't like that and the last time you were here i forget what we talked about but like there was so much hate from like the fat community and i figured i'm like she probably doesn't want to come back because like like it just stirred up people i don't even remember what we were saying i don't remember but i sent you i sent claudia and hidden text like she was like wondering why my ever and i've been

like oh i didn't know you wanted to come on i honestly thought you were scarred from the last time like i don't remember that because i feel like that's happened a lot to me in my life i did want to talk to you about that because kind of like big deal that you're here now you're so skinny You are a completely different person.

And you went on a different podcast to tell your journey. And I'm like, Audio loves to put me on the spot with this.

I meant to say like right before this, like, let's like go easy on the wheels.

Like, two people aren't going to talk about it. Me and you, like, who is going to talk about it? I'm sorry.
And we're going to talk about it in a real way.

So if you're sensitive, like get out of here. How are you doing? Like, you are not only like.
You are so skinny. No, I'm not.
Yes, you are. I'm a size 10.
How do you feel? Like, how is life different?

That's really what I want to know because I have lived that experience. Yes.

And I feel like we've talked about this here and there, but I do feel like we have like, I've, we have different thoughts on it. I'm still, I do feel that way.
Okay. Yeah.

I want to know yours because I feel like you just are like skinny, love, like, get excited. It's better.
And I feel very

confused and conflicted. I, it was very fast for me.
Not hormonal. Like, I don't remember how fast your drink was, but it was like abnormally fast.

I didn't know it was going to, I got a weight loss surgery for anyone that doesn't know, but I did. And you told Chloe Kardashian? I did.
Maybe that's why you weren't invited on the toast.

Oh, because you wanted it to be with you? Yeah, you gave Chloe the exclusive.

Oh, I see.

But

no, now you made me lose my train of thought. No, you were saying that, like, it's not as cut and dry for you.
Yes, it's not.

I still

feel

like my brain is still

that of a bad person. I totally get it.
And I kind of feel like I'll always feel that way. And I'm like very confused.

And my, my sizing has changed significantly, but then I also lost more weight than I wanted to. And I,

I know it sounds weird, but I've always like loved being curvy. Yeah.
That was like something I felt like was just, I just, I don't know, I grew up with and I felt was different and I liked it.

So I kind of, I was upset that I lost more weight than I wanted, but I didn't have that decision based on once you get a surgery.

And I just think there's also a lot of changes after a weight loss surgery that are like a very, very difficult. Emotional.
Emotional.

And then on top of that, though, things that you have to do for the rest of your life that you don't think about in the moment.

So do I think those things that I'm doing now and like the struggles I'm dealing with now post-weight loss surgery are easier than the things I was dealing with before from being in significant like back and knee pain and just things that I was dealing with prior.

Like your physical health. Yes.
I feel better. I feel healthier, but I'm definitely struggling in terms of the emotional still with the eating, figuring out what do I had.
Right.

And you still have an eating disorder. I fully still do.
Like I I had a binge eating issue before and my mind never changed.

My body did and my stomach and my intestines and all the insides are different so that like I can't physically binge, but like you can. eventually in a way get yourself there.
Yeah.

Not as much with what I did because mine's not just the stomach. You can stretch your stomach back with that surgery because my intestines were involved.
Sorry to be like graphic.

That does like help you in a way.

But there's a lot. Like I'll, I'll, um, you know, I struggle eating every day, forget that you can't have water and food in between 30 minutes for the rest of your life.
And I'll

be unwell.

So, there's just like a lot to learn, and I'm, I'm still figuring that out. Oh, wait, that's so crazy.
I didn't know that.

Well, also, I feel like you and I have totally different experiences, but something similar. Like, I would love to know how you feel about your former self.

Cause that was something I really dealt with.

Like, I don't know if shame is the right word, but I felt like really conflicted because like I would look back on her and like I loved her and I felt bad for her, but I was so glad to be done with her too.

I am in a, I just fully feel bad for the girl you used to be. Yes, I feel bad for like the way people treat her

in my personal life and publicly online.

I mean, I couldn't have controlled that with like a lot, like the people are going to treat me the way they wanted to, but like, I do feel bad for being like angry with myself and frustrated with myself, like not even like, I don't know, just a lot of things.

Like I am in this like very confusing phase. When did you, when did you have your weight weight loss journey? Like how long ago is that now? It was like 2023 to 2024.

I always think of you because I remember like knowing that you were, I knew first, no, but I remember like knowing you were on Ozempic and going through that journey. I was still very much not

going through that journey and a little bit, and I use you in my mind as an example because I always think about, I always like had a little bit of like frustration towards you internally because you were ready and you were doing that journey and I wasn't there yet.

So I was still very like not understanding of it, but I would never would be angry with you and like not like you for that and publicly shame you for that.

So that's what I don't understand, but I do understand where people are frustrated with me in the way that like maybe they are just not understanding of it and unless they dealt with.

Well, you got yourself like in like a horrible position because you became the face of this movement. And I feel like the difference with you and I, and this is my question for you is like, did you

love yourself, like your body at that time? Because I hated the way that I looked. And so I was excited when the opportunity came to change it.
I was like, oh, fuck yes, get me out of here.

And I feel like maybe that wasn't your situation. Well, two things in terms of the movement.
What do you think?

So we've been talking about this a lot, how like Ozempic has erased the body positive movement. And it's like, well, obviously it has, because I think for a lot of body positive people,

It's sort of just like a band-aid. Like they don't love the way that they look.
But what? They're going to spend their life hating themselves.

So they work on like the mental gymnastics of getting to a place of body positivity. But most fat people do not want to be fat.

That's sort of like the underlying thing that if they had this magic thing, which Ozempic is, they would take it in a second.

So I don't know why everybody's so surprised when like everybody's losing weight. Nobody wants to be fat.
It makes it life really hard. I think there's a difference.

And I always said that even when I came on here, whenever since the beginning for five years now, like I said, I am not body positive because I made that so clear because I was like, I never said I loved myself in my body every day.

I started online being like, I'm struggling. I just gained a lot of weight from binging my way to gaining weight.
And I'm struggling shopping as a size 14, 16 when I was always a 10, 12.

That was, I already struggled as a 10, 12. And then I was like, wait, this is really hard.
That's what I came online to do.

And then people started deciding that I was part of this body positive movement, which for five years I have said, like, that's not a new thing.

Like I said, hey, I'm not body positive because I don't, I think there are people that are in the body positive movement that genuinely, whether they're even like, you could be body positive and not a size 20.

Yeah. So I think, so a lot of those people truly love the way they move and the way they look and how they feel.
And I just feel like I wasn't there yet.

I think that's a minority of the body positive movement, which is why the body positive movement is like, not being erased, but it's not what it was. Cause like it's hard.
It's a hard life.

Like I feel like so many things I discovered when I lost weight, like it's like, I didn't even realize how the other half was living.

Even small things like crossing your legs, chub rub, like things that other people don't deal with. Just that make your day-to-day so much harder.
Yeah.

I mean, there was, I would have to have whoever was with me at the time like um buckle my shoes for me because i couldn't do that anymore and like there were certain things that for me it was just definitely the pain i talked about like infertility related things and like there was just a lot that it got more serious for me but

i do feel like

I don't, I will always, always, always feel. And that that isn't, I don't think that's a body positive movement.
I think it's just that I care about inclusivity. Like whether I was smaller or bigger,

I truly believe it's unfair, especially with right now now that just because people are losing weight that they're going to take away sizes that are larger i think that's not fair agree so i still any collaboration that like i'm a part of or anything i'm designing or i have more say in i make sure that it's still inclusive no matter what my size is now like that's important what does inclusive mean like what what x and i think i i because you texted me you were like not the toast merch only going up to 2x i'm like wait i thought that was good When did I say that?

Like a long time ago. Yeah, but it still only goes up to 2x.

I remember when I launched my Revolve line, it went up to a 3X. I was still like new in this world, and that was the first time I got shit on online.

And like, for not going apart for saying the line was inclusive and only going to a 3X. So in my mind, everyone has a different idea of it.
And in my mind, I would say.

Very inclusive. What I did.
Actually, this is the Sam's Club shirt. So cute.
The edited by Remy, which is now edited by Hunter McGready because she took it over. That goes up to a 6X.

That's super inclusive. I think that's like great if everyone could do that.
But that's a good thing. And like a billion-dollar brand like Sam's like can afford to do that.
Right. And they should.

But we were able to push Revolve to a 4X. There's another line I'm going to be doing this year, which I'm not saying yet, which is going to be pushed to a 4X.

And I think that, especially with what everyone taking away size right now, like I think that's great. Other people may disagree.
When you've done collabs, what amount of people are buying

the larger sizes?

100% less are buying.

Like Revolve, I remember we did really well with the 1X, 2X.

and i was really happy that we did with like the 2x even 3x 4x sold way less interesting i think that's why these companies need to just spend more time

that is why they pull back yes but my idea on it and i've talked to like my dad about this and people and fashion a lot is like just do it and buy less inventory right no one needs to know the amount of inventory you have buy 20 pieces but at least it's still available and then you could see and if if it sells out then do more the next time yeah now my last question for you and then i promise i'll move on i was very angry like so much no i feel like every you're being so honest i feel like it's very refreshing and it's so stupid that you it's like i'm nervous every day of course i know you are and like that's because i that's what i was saying like so much of like the fat movement the body they're so toxic i'm sorry like you should the fact that you even feel like you have to explain yourself for making a decision for your health that that's completely your choice that's how i felt about going on ozempic like the fact that you have to explain yourself and that people have criticisms of your journey like i don't give a when you decided to tell people i'm sorry i don't it's nobody's business like what you decide to do with your doctor i'm sorry everyone by the way i'm just saying claudia said that the movement's toxic not me you're right she's

already i'm already in my head like this is gonna be clipped and it's gonna say that i'm saying something but like clip it no but

i can't with you i know you're scarred i just i i'm i'm you are scarred i am at a point in my life where like i don't know what to say or do i was never afraid like this before i'm definitely more like i've always been overly aware like but

I am nervous with what to say, what to post, what I should be posting right now. So, but Claudia doesn't let that.
Claudia is just like.

no, because I want you to, I want to break you free from the shackles of the internet. Like, I think that it's really, it's not good for the mind.
It's not good for the body.

It's not good for the soul, Remy. Now, I was very vocal about when I lost weight, like how it changed my business.
Like the opportunities that were afforded to me were so different.

Like rates were higher. Everything just sort of came up.
And

when you were thinking about doing the surgery, you and I were chatting and I told you that that was my experience and you were really worried about it affecting because your whole career to this, to this point was, you know forcibly being the face of the body positive movement how is work different now opportunities brands working with brands I definitely get invited to things that I wasn't invited prior and I definitely will like say no to a lot of things in terms of fashion because I'm like that bot that makes me feel more bad for the other girlie Remy 100%

and I I actually remember like me and Chloe spoke about that too because she was just like oh the people that like want to invite me now that never did that invited like Kim and stuff before like screw them so I feel the same way on that do you feel like like that's why she doesn't go to the met gala i don't know i just never thought about that sorry continue but i know she feels very strongly about that i agree with that i don't know if you experienced that but oh for sure yeah like if but i like for me i i can be bought like oh you want to buy me like i remember you saying you were just like i have all these new experiences i'm so excited and this is a business like sorry yeah like i'm a little bit of a grudge holder so you know and it's not almost a grudge holder it's like you have principles and like that's admirable but at the end of the day this is a business and like seriously we got to put food on the floor but then i have new but then i have new opportunities that are exciting that I, I, I don't know if, because they're not even like clothing or size related.

I actually don't know to answer your question, because then, then I get upset if I'm like, I'm like, was excited maybe that I was going to be a size consultant or do things, which I still feel like I could because I've experienced so many different bodies, but why would they hire me?

Doesn't the community approve of you being a body conscious consultant? I don't think people would want me to do that. So like, I still feel like I have.

the knowledge and I'm so passionate about it that I could do that behind the scenes and help these brands. But I do think like that's a big change.

I don't think people are going to hire me over someone else

plus size to be like the size consultant. Right.
Well, that seems fair, but like it sucks that you have the passion for it.

But that's why, like, I am still in the mindset where like my, my mind is still like hooked on them

and I'm, and I'm miss some of the, the things about that. Like, I'm not kidding.

Sometimes I scroll and like look on certain plus size creators that I feel are happy and at a good place with themselves and like wish I could have gotten there.

And then I'm like mad and frustrated with myself. So I'm in just this very in-between phase where

I need to do more therapy with that.

No, well, I think that it's also important to remember like, cause I feel like at one point, like you could have looked at my pages and been like, this is a really happy person.

And I totally was, but a lot of it was like faking it till you make it. A lot of it was a facade.
And so that's why I decided to. take the journey.
So just keep that in mind.

Like, it's just what you're seeing. And free yourself from the shackles, Remelina.
We're going to get there. We're working on it.
You look great. Thank you.
I'm sorry.

And not enough people talk about how, like, the physical transformation of losing weight is a much shorter journey than the emotional and mental journey. Yeah, like,

no, I was just like, oh, screw it. Like, in the time, I was just like, do whatever I need to do that you had to get certain therapy appointments and dietitian appointments and things to get approval.

I think people think I fully like paid for the surgery. It was fully covered by insurance based on.

Yeah. I mean, I was considered like, which I screw like BMI to get so old, but like severe, morbidly obese.

And I had a lot of like health issues with it. So it was like covered.

Why did I bring that up?

Well, I don't know why, but that's, I think it's an important point when we talk about like you, because you've got criticism for like your journey and your timeline and sharing. Yes.

It was a life-saving medical procedure. It was covered by insurance.
You don't remember what you said right before that?

Oh,

no. Okay.
Well, maybe it'll come back to us. Yeah.
And in the meantime, you've been living your best life. You went to the Wicked Premiere.
You took your mom. How was Thanksgiving? Great.
Oh, no.

No, it was great. I spent time with my mom and it was

such a queen. She just texted me this morning, like right before here.
I love you. Like, just say hi.
And then she goes, tell Claudia hi. Well, me and your mom, like, are best friends.

One time, me and Ben went on vacation to the W in Miami, and it just so happened to be the same weekend that Remy was there with her parents. Yeah.

Not me coming to the hotel pool to see Ben in the pool with your mom. Like, we're literally best friends.
I love her. No, and does she make, because she's like a star.

Every time you post her, she's like kind of viral, viral queen. I would like to, I think, like, I need to include her in like a brand deal or something.
Like, Like she deserves it.

What is she? Like, does she like being online? I definitely forcibly do it. No, you do.
No, no, no.

I think she'll just never admit, just like she watches like every reality show and they'll be like, these shows are so lame. And I'm like, you watch it more than me.
She will never admit it.

But like now, like, she texted me the other day and she was like, I'm so embarrassed. Someone came up to me in the hair salon.
I had shampoo in my hair and they said, are you a Dina?

And I'm like, so embarrassed. I'm like, you love.
Totally love. But it's like new for her.
I truly never posted her until like probably like a year and a half ago like this.

Oh, yeah, no, you've been very interested. I used to post like my dad.
I would post like family and into like I never just posted my mom.

And I think that's just because of like, I don't know, I would post who was in a relationship with friends, like other things. And then I'm like, I never thought my mom was funny.
Yeah.

But I think she's funny because she doesn't try. And now she's a legend.

Everyone else made me realize actually things that I didn't notice about her. That's really sweet.
Like she likes it, whether she admits it or not. And I'm happy.
Definitely.

She's like totally like a socialite of West Hampton. Love.
I love. Yeah.
Now, are you okay, okay, Remy, to dive into the past five? I'm ready.

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I think like him having an NFL career like is a, it's a good excuse. Right.
I also, I don't know, I think he's sweet.

I think they're, I i think i really like him not like that has to do with this but i just think i think that i don't know i don't know i i i'm gonna be honest i didn't really think much about it i more was thinking about like i was pissed she didn't win but i i understand in the way that like i i don't with people saying oh it's rigged it's rigged like i'm just like i think i didn't really know robert as well okay but but see like we're in a different world yes and we're like alex fans like i i think he's more worldwide yes alex was my winner but that doesn't mean that robert isn't like a good winner yeah like and i'm not gonna be like some of these crazy people online, like, people are really, really scary and insane, but like, I think she's okay.

I think she's okay. She has great things going on, but like, relax.
Are you new to the Dancing with the Stars fandom, or have you watched a lot?

I would say, like, have enough, like, like, my sister, like, first time ever, and now she's obsessed. She's like, I can't believe I'm being obsessed with this.

But, like, for me, I watched like here and there because Brooks was on and friends with Brooks.

But my mom's like, die hard from the beginning. She's like, you all think you know.
Oh, so does Nadina know the history of that? Yeah, like, she knows everything. It's crazy.

Is she like annoying or fun to watch with with like we haven't watched enough together like i wish i i i think we watched like one but no she she just like loves yeah she's definitely a know-it-all now like all the things like i knew him before you all yes i feel like the og dated the stars fans need to say that are seriously unwell people i'm like that with love island though like i'll be like you all think you know like you are you are i'm i'm a land a love island like bandwagon fan but you are og you're like

you're like vpn downloading yes like me to watch live like in the uk like in australia like i'm crazy fans so So when people started just loving US, I'm like, you don't know.

What did you make of this season of Love Island USA? It was good. Oh, really? No, like it was fine.
But like, I, I just, like, I'm a huge UK girly. But there were people from it.

Like, you're like that girl who goes abroad.

I definitely am sorry. What do you mean?

I prefer the UK. I'm actually going, like, I decided I want to go in February to the UK.
Oh, yeah. Um, because

one, I want to go on like dating apps that I think would be like fun. I love that.
And two, I just feel like there's a part of my soul that like should be there.

Oh, you're literally the girl who went abroad. Literally.
Yeah, yeah. I love that.

I come back and I have an accent, what would you do? No, and you're like wearing like a scarf and you're like, yeah, they call this Pashmina. Like, that's so you.
Yeah.

Would you ever do dancing with the stars? No. And oh my God, I actually, I'm not trying to be like everyone was like, but there was a lot of my followers being like, you have to do this.

And like friends, close friends texting me, which I'm like, are you okay? Do you know that I could never do this? I'm like, clumsy would fall, would be in pain. Like, I am not the one to do it.

I almost, I wish, like, truly wish, you know what I thought, which I feel like you would maybe think too. Like, I wish there was like a singing with the stars.
Yes, of course.

Because, like, then we could do that. 1,000.
I was never a dancer. Singing with the stars, that's actually a hilarious concept.

Like, like, there's like the mass singer, but there's nothing like this. Yeah, no, it needs to be like a blend of dancing with the stars and the mass singer.
Yeah, like, I would start it.

Like, I would. I don't think I would win, but I think I would like definitely like be into it and be excited.
I would win. Okay.

How you sing like pretty well. I decided I'm taking, I need to do, like, have more conviews.

I'm going to take voice lessons. Okay.

Can I tell you something? Why? So I took voice lessons in college because like they were two credit courses. They were like 30 minutes once a week and it was like amazing.

It was taught by like some freaky grad student.

Voice lessons are not what you think they are. They're because you never sing.
It's so boring. It's like all excite reading.
Exercises. Like

yeah. And then when you do sing, they give you like classical music.
Like, do you think that was, and do you think maybe that was because you were in college and like it was different? I don't know.

The NYU Tish Performing Art School, like, that's like that's the best vocal lesson you can get in the world. But of course, that's going to be like classical.
This is the song that they made me learn.

Like all semester, we learned one fucking song, right?

And it was all in head voice. And it was like this old sonnet.
Okay, ready? And I remember it to this day.

And

Anne sings in the morning

with waking birds she sings songs of fairy butterflies with flowers and timely things.

And when she sings, it seems to me no voice on earth could lovelier be when sweet Anne sings all fucking semester.

And can I tell you that I took mobile lessons because I wanted to try out for X Factor and Ben was like, you should do it. And I was like preparing all season long for my X Factor audition.

Literally. And then, like, the day that the X Factor audition, Ben was like, oh, wait, I, he was supposed to drive me.
Like, he had a car and a license. Um, he was like, Oh, I actually can't.

Like, I have to like go do something with my dad. I was like, Oh, okay.
So, I guess I'm not trying out for X Factor. This like lifelong dream.

And when I got, when I got to the vocal lesson the next week, the teacher was like, How was it? Like, we were prepping all, and I literally didn't go. You didn't go because of that?

I didn't have a ride. You couldn't find a way.
No, I didn't have a car and have a license. Like, you know, I tried out for the voice and didn't get

past round one. Well, and actually, something interesting for the voice.
I I don't know who watches the voice.

There's a big community. Oh, there's a community.

Everyone in that room, I'm not just saying it because one guy I remember like had amazing beyond voices, like way better than me.

And they just literally looked, there was one guy who was like, oh, sickest voice ever. He's going to win the voice.
And they just look around the room and they go, you're all cut.

I was like, whoa. Right.
Like, don't you feel like having a good voice is like a plight? Because I think I have the most amazing voice ever. But if, yeah, if I ever have to.

But I love that you're confident about it. Like I get nervous.
I'm like, yeah, I sing, but like, I'm not that good. But like, no, but like, you're pretty good.

But do you see see, that's like, because that's, that's the trauma of people online, like, she thinks she can sing.

Oh, but like, I always read my podcast reviews, it's all like, Claudia, please stop singing. No, I feel like people.
Well, I, see, I don't read it.

And just for me hearing, I'm like, oh, you have a good voice. No, I have an amazing voice.
Let's be real.

And just to finish up my story, I didn't have the heart to tell my vocal teacher that I didn't go to the X Factor audition after we'd been working towards it all semester long.

So I was like, I'm waiting to hear back. And then I just like never brought it up again.
Wow. Yeah, it was horrible.
So Alex and Ramans are still together. Are you dating, Remelina? Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah.

Are you emotional about this?

No, no, I'm dating. I'm trying to go on more like formal dates.
But like this summer is the first time I even like went to bars and was like, get the courage to like go up to guys.

It's a totally different experience. Yeah.

Yeah. That's again, just one of those things where I'm like, when guys come to me, I'm like, would you have talked to me before? Like, I get like a little like defensive and whatever.

No, by the way, that's so fucking valid. Yeah.
So the guy thing's the same as everything else, very confusing. Complicated.
Still figuring it out.

Have a big wall up, but like enjoying myself, having fun,

enjoyable experiences, learning what I want, what I don't want. We're on a journey.
I love that.

Well, speaking of singing voices, the NFL has announced who's singing the national anthem for the Super Bowl LX. I don't know what number that is.

And it's not who anyone would have thought it would be. And I'm not entirely sure how I feel, but I think I'm okay with it.
It's Charlie Pooth. Yeah, I saw that.
So I'm

personally attached to the national anthem. It's one of my favorite songs.

And I'm always following like who's singing it, who does it well. I watch.

oh you're always following

let's hold up a list of previous a list of previous I'm always following all of the years previous Super Bowl anthems like I know the hits of course like Whitney Houston's is the best Lady Gaga's is amazing okay here's a list of national anthem performers we won't start in 1967 we'll just start

Last year was, oh, John Batiste. It was good.
Oh, I like him. He had like a little funky, like New Orleans vibe.
It wasn't my favorite, but it was fine.

Oh, the year before that was Reba, which I was actually really against, but she crushed it and I was wrong. And then in 2023, which goes in my personal hall of fame, was Chris Stapleton.

Of course, you love it. The year before that, Mickey Guyton.
I don't remember it. I don't know who that is.
The year before that, Eric Church and Jasmine Sullivan. I do remember it.
It was fine.

But before that, Demi Lovato. Hers was actually amazing.

In recent history, yeah. The only person I would really add to my Hall of Fame is Chris Stapleton.

Yeah, like, would I pick Charlie Pooth? Like, no. Like, I'm fine.
I'm not like angry. I know.
But I'm just like, I feel like there's some other amazing people. Also, this is going to be a crazy thing.

What about like Olivia Dean? Is she not big enough yet? She's not American. She's British.

She's my girl. She's from the UK.
Yeah, London.

I have like a kind of a hot take.

And I know it's like kind of contradicts itself because I just said I really liked Chris Stapleton's, but to me, Chris Stapleton is the exception.

I feel like the national anthem should be sung by a woman. Like it's kind of a girly thing.
Like, I don't know. I'm not into it.

I need to, now I need to like re-listen to some of like the men and the women and tell her how I see it. Yeah, like that's what I think.
That's the vibe. Like big booming belty voices.

Like I wish, I wish there were someone like that. Yeah.
So like how's, but maybe Charlie will surprise us. I was wrong about Reba.

So I'm going to hold that hope until people, I'm going to let them prove me right or prove me wrong. I'm suspicious.
I'm not overwhelmed with gratitude and joy. It's fine.
It's fine.

Have they announced a Super Bowl halftime performer yet?

Yeah, wait. Isn't it? Who was it? I forgot.
Bad Bunny. I mean, we can cut up.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Bad Bunny and Charlie Pooth. An unexpected duo.
Such an unexpected duo.

Oh, and then Coco Jones. They always also do

America the Beautiful. Oh, I like her.
And Lift Every Voice and Sing. So Brandi Carlisle is America the Beautiful.
I'm sorry, I think Brandy Carlisle is an industry fan. She's like a country singer.

And I just like, I don't know one single person who listens to her, but she's like always getting Grammys.

And then Lift Every Voice and Sing, which I think is considered like the Black National Anthem, is being sung by Coco Jones. Okay.
I like her.

Now, the next story, I know you're unfamiliar with, and I'm so excited to tell you. Okay.

Les Ball de Debutante. Now, I talk about this every year.
There is like this debutante ball that happens, like in your home country. I think it's in the UK,

where like

the young women of elite families have like their debut, you know, like a classic debutante ball, but it's like for royalty. It's for Hollywood actors.

There have been, like last year was Apple Martin with Gwyneth and their parents go, and it's like a really big deal. And this year's happened over the weekend.

There were a couple of people worth noting in terms of like America, and every country is represented. America like doesn't always have amazing people because like we don't have royalty.

A lot of the girls like from Greece and Spencer Churchill, like one of Lady Diana's like nieces was there this year.

So a lot of times it's people of Hollywood actors. Like last year was Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin.

And in previous years, like, you know, they had, I forget her name, but she was like the great-great-granddaughter of like Henry Ford. I can't believe I've never heard of this.

Oh my God, you have to fall down the rabbit hole. And this year, Angela Bassett's daughter was there.
And they all have like escorts, like boyfriends or whatever, like, you know, esteemed.

And her escort was her brother, which was really cute. She, She, they are the kids of Angela Bassett and Courtney Vance.

But in terms of like royalty people, let me tell you who was there. First of all, the Carolina Lansing, who's the granddaughter of Carolina Herrera.
Okay. She went, wore like a custom Carolina gown.

She looked insane. She was my best dress.
And they all wear these like insane crown jewels that like

post about this, really. Well, the corners of the internet that I lurk in are talking about it.

Just say le ball de debutante into your phone a couple of times and TikTok will start serving you the algorithm.

And then, by the way, past people who have come that you would heard of Lily Collins, Philip Collins' daughter, Margaret Qualey, who is,

what's her mom's name? McDonald's something. Apple Martin, oh, Ava Philippi, Reese Witherspoon, and Ryan Phillippy's daughter, Scout Willis, Bruce Willis, and Damien.

So it's just all, yeah, famous people's children. From America, but like the people who come from the other parts of the world are like true royalty.

Like their great-great-grandparents were princes, princesses. This girl this year was like from Pakistan and her great-great-grandfather like invented invented Pakistan.

Like, I don't even know, like, insane. It's such a fun rabbit hole to go down.
Um,

and just, I know a lot of people are wondering, like, who my best dress was. It's Carolina Herrera,

I'm definitely gonna look right after this. It is so fun.
And like, look at these girls. Like, you just know they live a life like you've never even experienced, neither of us.

Like, I wonder if like they get pitched to go or if they're like, are they begging to go? Are they just who, like, how they're getting invited from the U.S.? That's a great question.

I do wonder what the like approval process is. I feel like you have to apply.
It's probably like their PR team. Like we would, she would love to.
Yeah. But like these girls are also like 16, 17, 18.

Do they have publicists? Probably. And like the girl who I think is like the most interesting,

her last name is Spencer Churchill. So she's like a direct descendant of Lady Diana and Winston Churchill.

And they're all just like so pretty and thin.

Like I just, I don't like a life like this, like it's crazy to think that people actually like live and grow up like this, like wearing like crown jewels and going to balls, but it's real.

Some of my family back in the UK did

grow up like that. They did.
And do they find it like, oh, by the way, this is the Carolina Herrera dress. Oh, wow.
Insane. Like, wow.
It's this big polka dot frost. It's crazy.
No, it's such a crazy

thing. Like,

look at this picture.

They're just, what do you think they're talking about? Oh, I don't know. You know, they're definitely some of the most boring bitches ever.
So boring. They haven't lived real life.
Yeah.

But they all get like escorted by, and like all the men are like, you know, dukes and like things like you don't even know. Love.
Les bol de debutante. Hi, it's Romeo.

I would love to be invited next year.

I think you would make an amazing, and like Adina could be your escort. Yeah.
I love that.

Okay, next story. It's kind of like on the topic of body positivity, body shaming.
We, Ariana Grande is like, everyone's talking about Ariana Grande.

And she's finally responding in like a very subtle, small way. She shared.
How did she respond?

She posted on her Instagram, like recently, like an old interview where she addresses like people talking about her body.

And the whole theme was like, you know, don't talk about women's bodies, don't make comments on people's bodies and so i think that was like

her one and only rebuttal she issued a quote loving reminder that's what she said to her critics regarding judgment she's facing about her appearance resharing past statements about body shaming so she addressed the ongoing body shame comments by revisiting a message she shared amid the press tour for the first wicked movie when this was coming up again um she said resharing all of this from last year as a loving reminder to all so she knows

you know how i feel about this how do you feel about it i actually don't know i know i I just, I am very anti-people commenting on people's bodies when they don't know what they're like dealing with.

Whether you

gain a lot of weight or lose a lot of weight, like, it's just like, screw you. Yeah, I agree.
I do think that a lot of the comments are coming from like genuine shock and fear for Ariana.

But not concern because people be like, they'll make a full video and be like, I am concerned for her health, but you're making this video online. You know, like, what is your point here?

Because I think you just want people to listen just to like have a good video. Like, I think the people that know Ariana can be concerned for her.
She clearly sees it. it.

I just, I'm not on board for like based on my own experience of like people saying things. You know, it's like, there's, even though, can I offer a rebuttal? Cause I thought this, um,

I've always thought this. People compare like being told you're too fat and being told you're too skinny, like that it's the same thing.
Right. Do you think that it is?

No, I've had a lot with this because I do feel like my group of college friends too, like I always was the bigger one and they're all, and I remember having a conversation with one of my friends who's like super thin and she was like telling me about her struggles being skinny and like how eat a cheeseburger right but like there was there was certain things that i didn't know so i i definitely think from how i used to think i think that was like i don't know probably three years ago i changed my mindset on it where i was just like all right we don't need your complaints skinny girls i do think that it goes both ways you don't know what people are dealing with also from being someone that like not to be all serious but like i was in an eating disorder treatment center where it was mixed so it was like bigger people and then people that had bulimia, like all different sizes.

And I just saw the struggles of a lot of people that like were struggling more than me and they were very thin. So do I think that it's the same like overall amount of issues?

No, I think if you're, if you are fat, you deal with a lot more hatred and issues

and health issues and things that like. other people will never understand.
Yeah, no, I agree. I feel conflicted about it because like we live in a world where like fat is bad and skinny is good.

So being told you're too skinny is is like you're too good and being told you're too fat is like you're too bad so they're it's not comfortable either way to get your body commented on but i don't think that they're the same i just don't but maybe that's my my limitation

um and i feel like i've been seeing that a lot um people are talking about ariana grande and i fell down a rabbit hole on tiktok the other day of people talking about um half-baked harvest

Do you know what I'm talking about? I

saw some of that too. And I just am like, I don't know.
It just makes me like feel bad for people and be like, they see it. So now you're saying.
Oh, by the way, do you think that they do?

Because I think a lot of like like when you deal with a really severe eating disorder like anorexia is like you don't see it i think no no no i'm not saying they see it i'm saying they see the videos online

so like now leave them alone yeah yeah no totally i totally agree i just think i just think it's unfair and like they will figure that hope like they'll figure it out i think a lot of these people especially that are online do I would hope have a support system in some way, whether that's family or friends or like their team or someone that like would say something.

Cause if it was my friend and I felt a certain way, like I am someone that would say something in terms of, like, not like, oh, you're gaining too much weight.

Cause like, my friends didn't say that to me. I'm saying, like, in terms of something you were concerned with, someone's like,

I would say, like, is everything okay? Like, I don't know, especially if I was seeing it online. Yeah.
So I just think it's not like everyone else's concern, but like, this is how the internet is.

Yeah, no, and you're like really compassionate, I feel. Yeah, like, I feel like you're like, Remy, just be.
No, no, I'm saying that in a really positive way.

But I do think it's because you get more compassionate worse. No, I am a very empathetic person.
Yeah.

But I do think you, from just like my own experience, I always like to like think of someone else and like be in their shoes or them in my shoes. So like, no, totally.
That's how I think.

That's exactly what I'm saying. I feel like when I give my opinion on something, it's almost always like built on my own lived experience.

And so like, I, I hear what other people are saying, but I'm like, no, but like, no, you're not like that. Yeah, you're like, I wasn't happy in this body.
I was miserable. So like, this is how I feel.

And so I feel like you do a really good job of like taking into consideration like everybody's experiences. Yeah, it's tiring sometimes.
Yes, I completely agree. Like I, I work

for you. You should.
I'm always thinking I'm like, are it a beautiful thing? It makes you like a really nice, lovely person and a good friend.

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Like nobody really cares, but it reminds me about something that I want to talk about.

So Amanda Seafried was on CBS this morning, and she's like being weird and quirky. There are like clips everywhere.
She's doing a lot of press now. Did you read the housemaid? I don't like it.

Do you see like that?

Yes, it's sitting on the same place. Like it did.
No, no, because Nikki got me a Kindle because she was like begging me to read.

So I have one, but I'm more of a self-help book girl.

Okay, but I do think you would really enjoy like the escapism of books, especially because this movie's coming out and everyone's going to be talking about it. I'm like, don't you want to be included?

I'll think about it. Read the housemaid.
Well, Amanda Siefried's doing

press, and then she's she's like talking a lot about being a mom and like balance she said this is the most i've ever worked with two kids i've never had two movies come out at the same time so i'm a little bit bananas right now

and then it just reminded me like okay that's great awesome happy for you then it reminded me

do you know what i'm about to say no i posted this on my instagram yesterday and thankfully like everybody knew what i was talking about but like i think when a lot of people think of amanda seafreed they think of mean girls they think of mamma mia what do you mama mia yeah I think of the time that she like cyberbullied Ariel Charnis.

Oh, I didn't know this happened. Why'd she do that? So random, ready? Ariel Charnas was just like minding her own fucking business.

I think it was during the time when she was like having babies and she had commented, she had posted a picture of herself in a bikini, just being like, I'm really proud of my body.

Like my body's so beautiful, like bouncing back after three babies, like,

like, you know, the beauty of woman.

And then like literally, no one asked.

Amanda Siefried either like commented or posted it on her own Instagram story being like, well, it's very easy to look this way when you're rich and have nannies.

And like, literally came for Ariel Trinus, who was just like sharing something personal, not making a statement about women, about motherhood.

And it was so weird. And as far as I know, like, Ariel Trinus has never met Amanda Siefried.
They have no connection.

Like, it was just Amanda Siefried, who's like kind of like in the David and Goliath situation. Like, she's this big fancy star.
Like, what are you doing?

And then also, like, if we're going to talk about it, like, you're also rich and probably have nannies. So, like, what are you doing? I don't like that.
I think that's the weirdest thing ever.

What did Ariel say? She didn't say it exactly. Did she? Because she's nice.
And if she did, she was like, I'm sorry. I don't know.
Like, no, she was a little bit bully. I know.

And it was at a time where I feel like she was getting a lot of hate. She's had like a couple of scandals where people have been so unfairly mean to her.
Yeah, I don't like that.

I think she's a nice person. I think she's lovely.
And I think there's like a lot of conspiracy theories about her. But I actually, I don't know her.
I think she's just like a normal mom.

Like, I don't think anything. I do know her family because her.
Brandon's out as my dentist. Oh,

the whole family's dentist our whole life. So we like know, we do know the family and like they're very lovely people.
So I know.

And I just, I feel, I feel like protective of her weirdly yeah and i just over she's shy she has a lot of anxiety she's talked about that she's a house protective thing yeah so i don't under like one of my favorite things to talk about is this amanda sever thing and ever since then honestly like thank you for letting me know that because i don't think i like her anymore no i know like it's such an underratedly weird thing that she did and we all just moved on i just want everyone to know i haven't like i'm still at the restaurant i'm still thinking about this all the time every time i see a picture of a man to see it it was a really weird thing for her to do well i never had like a passionate love for her anyways like it's fine like she's fine to me i've always felt connected to her because of of mean girls, which like is a movie that made me the woman I am today.

Right. And I don't think that would change.
It is the best movie ever. It is the best movie ever.
And I wrote about this in my book, how like that genre of movie, like raised girls our age, right?

Yeah. Mean girls, clueless, very like high, set in high school movies.
I've never seen clueless. What? I know it's really weird.
Wait, that's like actually insane.

I haven't seen like classic movies people have seen. Me neither.

Like I've never seen like saving private Ryan, you know, or like, um, what's what's the one that they just watched on Kardashians with Glenn Close? Fatal Attraction. Number Zane.

What other movies haven't you seen? That's insane. Like everything.
Have you seen Twilight? Yes. Okay, of course.
Thank God. I'm not like, I don't see all the Harry Potter movies.
No, me neither.

Actually, when I was pregnant, Ben is obsessed with Harry Potter. He's been like, definitely would be.
Oh, I watched five of them.

And like, they're good, but like, once you've seen one, you've seen them all. Yeah.
What's your favorite movie? I'm not kidding. Like, Mean Girls is on there.
The notebook is on there.

Walk to Remember and like Wolf of Wall Street. Oh, Walk to Remember is such a deep cut.
Very good one. Wait, I want to ask you something about the notebook.
So Jackie and I,

I feel like we had a clip about this that went viral. We talk, not a lot, but we always talk about James Marston in that movie and how, like,

Ali's kind of the villain, in my opinion. And, like, James Marson was a good man, Savannah.
Okay, wait, can you just tell me the name in the real life, like, in the movie? Is that the

one that she's engaged to? Okay, okay, right. Who just like loved her and wanted to provide for her house and her parents loved him? There was like literally nothing wrong with him.
Yeah. And

I'm a, I'm a realist. Like, I'm a romantic, of course, but I'm like, when you get married with someone, like, yes, yes, it's beautiful and romantic, but you're also building a life together.

There's a person you're going to have kids with. Like, they say to Bridget is always saying, choose your husband.
Like, your life depends on it because it very well could.

And I don't know. I think she, like, Noah's great and all, but.

Oh, I disagree. I don't care.
Like, I get in a hole like twice a year where, like, I get upset and cry because they're not together in real life.

Okay, you're sick. No, because like they, you do shit like this.
Are you talking about Ryan Gosling? Ryan Gosling and her, like, because they dated for a while. Yes, of course.
I think

Noah and Allie. Like, no, no, no, no, no.
Like, have you? And also, they do end up dating. The VMAs.
Yes. When they like run to, like, I watch it often.
Yeah.

And like, when she runs into his arms, and I'm like, fuck, why can't they be together? That was a great time for women. I agree.
So, like, I'm like very passionate about them together.

Like, I literally, like, there's never a time I can watch that not like screaming sob with that older. Like, I just think it's amazing.
Who is your celebrity crush?

Same one as adults. Wait, let me guess.

I don't know. It's like a random.
I feel like I've said this since like the day.

Maybe it'll sound familiar. Jonah Hill.

What? You didn't know this? I feel like you could date Jonah Hill. No, I've tried.
Well, like, he's not on Instagram or anything, but like, I feel like I, when he used to be, I used to slide in.

I've talked about it on like E, like they've posted like celebrity crushings. Like, he's probably like, who is this freak? Do you know the story of Ruthie? Wait, I kind of know what you're talking.

See, that's why I'm saying I think we have. No, no, it was maybe when I was like a fan of yours and didn't even know you, something about this girl that was a toaster that like she saw him or running.

She saw Jonah on the street and she slid in.

Oh, I canceled the date. Well, he was like DMing her.
He was like into it. And she very earnestly like put a screenshot in our Facebook group at the time, which was like

a toxic hotbed of mental illness. And I regret ever creating it.

But she came in a real, it wasn't in a salacious way. She really was like, had never talked to a celebrity before.
And she came in real earnest. And she was like, you guys, I'm freaking.

Like, what do I say? I want to, like how you would send to your group chat, like in a

situation. It's not your group chat.
In a sisterly way. And of course, the mentally ills on there screenshotted her screenshot, sent it to Joda.
That's so much fun.

Who like obviously spends a lot of time in his DMs and he blocked her? Oh my God. But I understand.

Like I, if I ever am talking to anyone that is like, cool, like has a following, whatever, like I am very careful. Like I won't even screenshot and said that to friends.

Like I'll be like, yes, like, but I'm very careful because people are scary online.

When you start dating someone, like let's say you got you know you met on an app how do you like breach the conversation about your job like hey like I'm like a little famous like so I have changed my whole hinge bumble like my accounts when I used to

be on them and then met someone from an app I would very much show that I was like an influencer social media gal

I think that a lot of people are looking for that. I notice out even the summer, like in, or whenever I'm out, I hear, I see everything.
I'm like a very like aware person when I'm out.

So like, let's say there was like this guy that like wanted, that wasn't really flirting with me. And then I hear someone or see them be like, she's blah, blah, blah.
And then they're interested. Oh.

So I'm just very careful with that.

And I changed all of my accounts to like make it like.

no, you know, red carpet photos or anything from get, not like I would have a getty thing anyways, but I'm just saying, I don't say like my job is that.

And if someone were to ask me, I'd be like, oh, I work in social media.

That's like, oh, that's just trying to figure this out because i i need if i'm really seriously gonna date someone sometimes i'm like screw it let them know i just want to like hook up with someone of course of course but like what what are we gonna use this fame for anyway right but if i if i'm getting serious

And I like, I really need to see if they like me for me.

Cause I really have seen more of the opposite where like I notice a change in people once they figure out who I am or a friend tells them or something. They're like way more interested.

And it sucks, but I'm aware of it. Are you on Raya? Raya has never let me on.
Okay.

All the year. Same with Margo.
Yeah, I know. Even though I don't feel like it's really like a place to meet people, it's just like cool to be on.

And like, like people say that, but I know people that are getting married to people from Raya. Oh, you do?

That's yeah, like Ella, Rose, like, I don't know, like, I think Jordan, Sloan, like, met him on Raya. Like, it's a thing.
Okay.

I think that everyone's, I hate when people are like, oh, I deleted a deleted specific app. Like, or is this app good? It takes one person.
It's true. So it just depends where that person's on.
What?

I met my ex on Locks Club. That's like wild.
Right. Is that no, like, like in business anymore? I don't know.
So, like, I don't use it, it, but like definitely not using that like now.

But like I right now, I would say I'm on like bumble and hinge. Okay.
And like I'm not, and people are like, which is better. I'm like, it just depends.

Like, I just go on both, like, see who's on, see what's happening, you know. And my favorite thing is when you do like a Q ⁇ A and people are like, would you ever have a podcast?

And you share that you did have a podcast with Connor Wood. TikTok, right? It was called TikTok.

Is that right? You're saying talk.

Okay. Because it wasn't.
You were only allowed to talk about like TikTok things. And It was just not owned or promoted by iHeartRadio.
Got it. So they just like hired you and Fabiola to do a podcast.

You did three episodes and you guys both hated it. We did a full season.
We did like 15 episodes. I was pretty miserable doing it.
And I was like, Connor, like, one day was like, I love you.

And like, I don't, like, do you think like maybe we shouldn't do this anymore? Is there a way we can like get out of it or whatever?

And we did because I think he was on the same page, which thank God, because I literally laughed my ass off at him and Lady Afra. I think they're hilarious and like way better duo.

Love, love, love, Connor. He's like blowing the hell up and I'm so happy for him.
But like our podcast was horrible. TikTok.
TikTok, TikTok, TikTok with Remy and Corner.

That is so, would you ever do a podcast, Romolina? And what was it like going on? Chloe's Chloe.

It was great, obviously. You know, I've always loved her.
Yeah, she's such a fucking queen.

I think it was like a little bit of a different scenario because I knew it was talking for the first time about something anxious. I was like, the night before, did you sleep?

The night before, I haven't slept in a year. I don't know.
I did not sleep for a year because I was thinking about for so long.

And also, what a lot of people don't know is that there were

so many other plans and ideas of things that were were supposed to happen even like even like a year prior of like oh i'm gonna film this i filmed this i made my dad film me in the hospital like vomiting yeah yeah yeah and the memory card didn't work anymore i took it to no claudia like i cried for months i took it to everywhere like

i'm no

there was just so many weird things that happened that it kept just failing but when the chloe thing presented itself it did feel right because i feel like we've always talked about body things we have similar journeys in different ways and it just felt right.

I don't care what anyone says. I did feel right.
You told me before I did it. I said you were like, I like this.
Oh my God.

I don't think there, I know you had other plans that fell through and you were like upset about that. I don't think there could have been a better place for you to talk about it.

And I know that you get so bogged down with what people say about you.

And I just want to let you know from like a normal person who just like, like, I'm, no, like a lot of the people who criticize you like are chronically online and like they're really like not well.

Yeah. As a normal person, I just want to let you know, like, I think everybody really loved it.
Like, yeah, it was shocking. Yeah.
Maybe she could have done X, Y, or Z, but like

everybody is such a big talker, right? Like, you fucking do it, okay? Like, it's like the man in the arena, right? Like, everybody has something to say, but you're the one actually doing it.

And like, talking about these deeply uncomfortable personal things. So everybody can grab a fucking spoon, quite frankly, and eat your ass.
Like, cause you're the one doing it.

You're the one living it. And like, I just really want you to be proud of that and like live more in that than the people being like, well, I said this on the toast.
I'm like, fuck that.

Who gives a fuck? No, no, I know. And I wish I could think that way more of the time.

But like, I mean, yeah, that was, that was a hard thing because I really felt like I did the right thing the best way I could of talking about freaking like weight loss, like almost dying after the surgery, suicide things.

Like it was pretty crazy to talk about on the podcast. People said I got paid to do it, didn't make a dime.

Like just, that's what I felt was right while hand in hand doing the self-magazine, like written thing, which was all factual and doctors were involved in that. Like I did the best I could.

And like, we are, we're here now. Well, I think you did great.
I just wanted to tell you that. And I enjoyed the episode with Chloe a lot.

And I, I don't know if there could have been like a better person for the job. She's so, she reminds me of you.
Like, she's very empathetic. Like, she's such a good thing.
She's so empathetic.

She's, I know, I know you're like, because I used to be like this and now I'm into it. But like, she's a cancer and I'm a Pisces.
And like,

and cancer and Pisces. Like, no, I know.
Claudia, two years ago, you brought up March. Yeah, right.
If people brought up signs to me, I'd be like, you are so weird.

The only reason I'm into it is because I started seeing like every guy I've had a bad like situation with or something, like situation ship or something like that, is a Sagittarius.

Or like, and then I looked up, I googled one that you're like,

and I'm like, who should a Pisces never be with? And first thing that comes up, Sagittarius. Like, there was just things.

And then, like, Chloe was like, My dad always told me because he was a Pisces that, like, a cancer and a Pisces get along so well. We're both like deeply emotional and think about things and whatever.

And it made me realize that, like, a lot of my best friends in my life are cancers. I'm a cancer.

Okay, I believe it.

What's fan? Aries. Do you know if that's compatible or you would never look? Remy.
I'll look it up after. Don't in some way, please.

So if anybody enjoyed this episode and they want to get a little bit more Remy, where should they follow you?

They can follow me at Remy Bader on Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat. I'm snapping a lot now.

She's so young. I just was on a Snapchat.
No, it's not young. I was just on a Snapchat trip.
It was fine.

Great people. We went upstate to that place, Auberg, the Wild House.
Wild Hours. Wild Howard.
Sweet. I just would like to show my fan.
Oh, yes, please.

She's got product to promote, and I would never get in the way of a woman in business. So

I actually have a a couple of fans by Remy, and they clip on gray to a stroller. I know that's not the point, but I want to make like a stroller specific one because of you.
Wait, do I like that?

Yeah, your camera's okay. So, this is a new one.
Oh, there. Hi.
This is a new one coming out that's only going to be on TikTok shop. I think it's coming out this week.

So it took me like freaking like a year and a half to get approved on TikTok shop. It's like crazy.

But this is like a burgundy wine-colored one for the season. I love that.
And you're like making it like tech accessories for fashion girls. Yep.

If you're looking it up on Amazon, it's Fangirl by Remy. This will be on TikTok shop soon.
And then there's an international one where you can get on Revolve that's pink. Okay, international.
Ah!

Oh, and it's a ring white as well. It's a ring light.
Yeah, and a fan. But I was like, look, there we go.
Look at the fan.

Pargi. Yeah.
Remy, thank you so much for your time. Thank you so much for your honesty and your vulnerability.

I had no choice.

Listen, listen. If I'm going to be honest with anyone, it's you.
Yeah, and you didn't think you were going to come here. And like, you know.
I almost meant to say like, let's, whatever.

And then I was just like, well, you know, I was expecting you to be be like, can we not talk about X, Y, Z? I meant to, and I forgot my thing. So I was like, you know what? Let's go, Remy.

She's being honest, being open. Cause like, you're my friend.
I respect any boundaries you gave me, but you didn't give me any. Yeah, I'm going to get in trouble.

No, by the way, I want to let you know, nothing you said here. Like the listeners of this show are extremely kidding.
I feel, I feel, I feel. But the listeners of the show are extremely sound of mind.

Like they really do give people a chance, which is why I love our audience. Like, I think it's very easy to get caught up in like a TikTok hate, whatever.
You're just like a follower.

No, the listeners of this show, like, they sit down for an hour and they're going to give you the time of day. And I'm telling you.
And your clue was like very funny. Hysterical.

Did you go to Coachella this year?

Did I go? Yeah. No, but this is the, I haven't gone for like three years.
I'm going to go this year. So I wanted to say

because you know how different it will be.

I've been to Coachella Fat and I've been to Coachella Skinny and they're two completely different experiences because nobody talks about how hard Coachella is on your body.

It was the hardest thing on my body, the heat, the everything.

Like it was just insane. I just had a horrible experience.
Watch the video. It's insane.
Nobody used it as an interesting. I'm going to post it today when I post this just so people can go back.

and you are going to i'm so excited for you to go because i actually think you'll have fun well it's bieber oh that's right that's like why i'm going but also because i want the fan everywhere yeah so she's a businesswoman i'm a businesswoman this was all over like revolve this last year but i went all over coach hella like that's the goal okay i want to be there and i want to see justin bieber and i want to like really enjoy myself so like we are doing the return of coach hella this year who's like your number one like i'm a taylor swift i know you're not like a huge 50 who's like your number one justin bieber justin bieber oh like i used i was like a free bieb's best friend was my twitter account like i was like a freak like i did meetups with like people.

I went on

Emily

because she was one of those two. Maybe she was probably like in my circle.
She had like a, she was, she had like a faded Twitter fit account.

Yeah, like we did weird stuff. Like, I did a crew.
The young believers who like grew up to become normal women are some of the craziest people you'll ever meet. It's me.
So that's you. Okay.

What's your favorite song on swag?

Ooh, that's hard. I would say, oh, what was I listening to this morning?

I'm always back.

I won't you say what's the same? I never know names of people, songs. Like, I just play them.
I'm not a believer. I have no idea.
But I know. I just think it's time, honey.
I get it. I get it.

I get it. That's a good song.

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