Chrisley Identity Crisis: Life before and after the cameras feat. Lindsie Chrisley

we're on air finally it's our turn to ask you questions i know i feel like i haven't seen y'all since new york city like years ago yes i know oh yeah that's right remember we sat on that porn couch yes so yeah we didn't find it out till we were already been like sitting on it, yeah, that's right. Remember we sat on that porn couch? Yes.
Oh, yeah, that's right. And we didn't find it out until we were already been like sitting on it forever.
Yeah, that's right. I forgot.
So disgusting. That's a long time ago.
It was years. Yeah.
Maybe, was it before COVID? Yes. Yeah, it was before COVID.
Because y'all were at, were y'all at something for Teen Mom? We were probably there for a reunion or something. Yeah, we were there for a reunion.
Yeah, something. Yeah.
But it was years, years ago ago that was so long ago so how how was life like how's everything going um wow there's just been so much change since then um i left reality tv okay um and why is that i just made the choice personally for myself to step away from that it wasn't serving my marriage well which ultimately ended Oh, okay. My child was getting ready to start school and I didn't want him filmed.
There was no pay for my child on that show. Oh yeah.
And so that just accompanied with my parents having some legal issues that were going on. They went to trial, um, were convicted and are both in federal prison now.
And is that, is that your dad and your stepmom or your bylaws? So it's your stepmom, but she did adopt me. Oh, okay.
Yeah. Cause to be honest, we don't really know anything about anything.
Like I know that you, I know Chris Lee knows best. I know that that all that stuff, but as far as like the details, I don't know anything.
Yeah. Like, I don't know.
I mean, obviously I did see it in the media. I did see about like your parents and all of that, but I didn't know the nitty gritty.
Yeah. And even that though, I don't understand really what happened or like what, or were you involved in all that? Or were you like not talking to them? Oh, in the legal stuff? No.
Okay. Okay.
Okay. Got it.
I was not involved in that. It was just them.
None of the kids were involved were involved i mean involved in the sense of like going to trial and stuff we were all there but as far as like the legalities of the situation um my parents were indicted okay but how did that all that start okay take me back because i don't know how like where whatever you feel comfortable yeah obviously but like you know christy knows best

what how did that even happen like yeah i want to go from like like to the beginning like how did your family even how did that ever even happen how did was reality tv brought up to them were you guys always a known family before that happened like i would say known in atlanta my dad as a businessman okay was known but as far as like thoughts on TV was never, like we never saw that coming. Yeah.
My dad went to New York Fashion Week and became friends with someone who was in the business of pitching shows for networks. Okay.
And she became privy to like a lot of family stuff that was going on in the intricacies of the family and the dynamic. And so he was asked if the family would shoot a sizzle reel and had no idea about anything about TV.
So he's like, you got to tell me like more about this information. At that time I was not even in communication with my parents.
Oh, okay. How old were you about that time? Yeah.
I was in a sophomore in college at that point. So I guess what, like 19? Yeah.
So older. 20 years old.
Um, my parents, I grew up in a very religious household, very conservative household. Um, I lived at home for one year, my first year of college.
And my dad had made a deal with me that if I got my grades and was able to maintain my college life, um, AKA not drinking and not sleeping around, then they would buy me a condo. Okay.
So I kept up my end of the deal, go into my sophomore year, parents buy me a condo. And I started letting my boyfriend sleep over and my dad found out about it.
And he was like, that's not going to happen. So I made the decision for my own life.
I'm an adult. Yeah.
I'm doing this on my own. I went to school completely on scholarship.
My parents paid nothing for that. And I think that a lot of people- They paid for the condo, but didn't pay for school.
No, there was no- That's weird. No money for school.
I was the first child in my family. Actually, I was a first generation college student.
Oh, wow. Good for you.
Good for you, yeah. And so it was very important to me.
And I moved in with my boyfriend at the time, which then became my husband. Yeah.
So wait, so your dad kicked you out of the condo also? Or did you just decide to leave? I decided to leave. I knew that that was coming because I was not going to change my lifestyle or anything that I was doing.
So inevitably that was going to happen. Yeah.
So I just, I guess probably that was me trying to control my own destiny, I guess. Which I get, yeah.
And I was like, well, he's going to make me leave anyway, so I'm going to just go ahead and fucking go. Yeah.
So I had two vehicles at the time, put the keys on the counter, left all the contents of the condo, just took my personal items, went to my boyfriend's house, stayed there for the rest of college, got married my last semester of school, and got pregnant within six months of being married. Wow.
Yeah. How long were you with your boyfriend before like graduating? How long were you with him in total before you guys got married? Well, I had this great idea whenever I was going to school that I was just going to be a sorority girl.
Like I was just going to live up this like college experience and I was just going to go to school and party when I wasn't going to school. Um, I started school in August and I met him in September and then we like never broke up.
So I had a boyfriend all through college and then ended up marrying him. My dad did not get along at all.
Really? Okay. Definitely cut from different cloths for sure.
Like why did they not get along? I think that they just came from very different. Like views and stuff? I would not necessarily say views.
I think it was more so like my boyfriend was on the baseball team. My dad was not into athletics.
Okay. You know, he was a businessman.
He thought that my boyfriend in college should have been on a job. And his parents were like, as long as you keep your grades and you're eligible to play baseball, that's the only job that you have to have.
And so I think that my dad just wanted me to be with somebody who was a working man. Like him? Is that what kind of what you felt like? Like, okay.
Cause when you say businessman, like that real estate, was it, what was he? Yeah. So he aren't, he owned an asset management company that was a liaison between um when foreclosures happen like the bank and then the new buyer and so that's what his company did they acted as the liaison to liquidate those assets so he was very very successful in that and then um he was approached for the sizzle Yeah.
And he was like, I mean, I guess we're going to do it. And of course you guys know TV y'all are veterans, so I don't need to tell you anything.
They sell you this dream, right? It's like, Oh, you're only investing like seven days of your time. Something might come about, something might not, but it's just seven days, which that part is true.
Like they don't even know if you know the higher ups are gonna like the sizzle reel and so then it's like a very long seven days of work and then it is yeah and you don't know what to expect no you don't and so you walk into this situation and you're like what the fuck even is this like what the fuck's happening there's mics and like all these cameras around and no one knows what the hell's going on. And we don't know what's actually going to happen.
So my dad had already been in this mindset of this show was going to get picked up. I don't think that he knew how it was going to happen.
I don't think he could see that far into it because he didn't know TV in that way. But think that he knew that there was enough dynamic there that someone would be interested yeah so he immediately already went into producer mode and he was like you need to take off your wedding ring because you're not going to know you're married you need to who's he telling this to me oh wow really yeah so he immediately for what reason though what was that because he wanted it for season one so if it got picked up okay that it would be storyline for season one so he was like take off the wedding ring no one's gonna know that you're married you need to wear loose clothing like loose dresses nobody's gonna know that you're pregnant so for this entire seven days of filming the sizzle reel no one knew that i was married no one knew one knew that I was pregnant.
How did that feel for you, though, to have your own dad say, hey, pretty much hide who you are. Don't, like, that, I mean, you almost feel like, what did you feel like? Well, I walked from the sizzle reel.
Okay, okay. You're like, fuck this.
Well, yeah, it was a little more than that, but yeah. You guys got in a fight about it.
Yeah, it was a big deal because I was now a part of four or five days of the sizzle reel, and then I walk on like day six or seven, and then I'm being threatened by this production company that they're going to sue me for $40,000. Mind you, I am just coming out of college.
I am newly married, pregnant. And they're like, now that you've been a part of these five days or whatever, this is what we're pitching.
So what we're pitching has to be consistent with what's going to be on TV potentially. Whoa.
What? So I did not want to do the deal at all. I don't blame you.
I was the last child to sign the contract. How many child, how many children? Five.
Okay. Wow.
Dang. Okay.
Yeah. So it was, it was all of us like as a collective.
And I was told by the production company that it was basically all of us signed the contract or like it's a no deal situation. Oh, wow.
So all of you were none of it. Yep.
So then I take it your dad's probably pressuring you with that too. Yeah.
Everybody was pressuring. If you don't do it, we're all going to be screwed.
Wow. That is so you're manipulated for sure.
But I wasn't even a big part of the show and that's what's so crazy about it. Um, I think that they liked the dynamic of the fact that there was always from the time that they started filming us, there was conflict with me and my dad and we did not see eye to eye on a lot of things so I think that they liked that dynamic I have a brother that's 15 months younger than me that also deals with substance issues and pretty much always has for as long as I can remember and so they liked that dynamic too because obviously they like filming that kind of stuff.
It adds

a different view, right. Of things.
And then three children that were still in the home. And so three, so they're younger.
Yeah. High school, two high schoolers and then an elementary school child at the time.
So this is like one older kid. Yeah.
Wow. Holy shit.
Yeah. That's crazy crazy so i ultimately ended up signing the contract and i said i do not want this ever to change like there was already issues and i said i don't want it to ever like make any issues worse because this is now being televised right so they send the sizzle reel out to who the hell knows and i believe it was like eight networks or nine networks and we got eight offers wow and so um i think oprah's network was who came back and was the highest bidder but there was more marketing budget with usa from what i was told okay and so that's where we landed with reruns on Bravo and E.
Wow. Okay.
So then, and so the, cause I never watched the show ever. So the show just follows your whole family, your siblings and everything.
So did they get involved in your marriage? Like when did that, did they like, how do they announce it? Hey, now I'm married and I'm actually having a kid. So actually it was

found out before the sizzle was even done because again, when you aren't familiar with being on TV, when you're wearing mics around, right? Oh yeah. Okay.
You forget that you're wearing mics. Right.
And you just speak like how you normally would. So I'm sitting in a makeup chair, getting here and makeup and my dad and I are having a conversation and production is listening to what's on the mic.

Right.

And they find out I'm pregnant and I'm married.

Wow.

Yeah. So it like blew up the whole spot.
I did not love being on reality TV. And that's why Cale and I decided to start the pot.
When I left reality TV, I kind of sat out six months and I was like, I need to truly decide like what it is that I wanted to do. I very much had a very traditional role in my marriage where I could stay at home and I took care of my son and he went to work and came home like a very traditional life.
Right. And I loved that.
I did not love the idea of, I knew that it would catch up with my child at some point with him starting kindergarten. I wanted him to be out of the TV world before kindergarten ever started just because kids are, they talk, you know, and they say things.
And I watched it happen. My son started kindergarten when my parents had just been indicted.
Oh, great. And so little girls on the playground saying, my mom knows, you know, who your grandparents are.

And we see them on the news and like all of these things. So I wanted to try to remove that, but I still wanted to stay somewhat in the space because I do like entertainment.
Yeah. But I was not okay with the idea of having a production team tell me what the actual narrative of something was that wasn't.
And that's why I love podcasts. Right, because it's freedom.
I have freedom to control my story. Because like you said, I mean, obviously, I don't think people really realize who are not involved in reality TV that like I could say one thing.
And then if these higher up producers don't really want to go with that route of the story. Or they want to twist it.
Yeah, then they will. And then you're kind of at the mercy of whatever ends up on TV.
Because it's not like we get to watch each episode and kind of say, yeah, that's cool. That's like we don't get any say so in what's air on TV.
So we have to like just kind of throw our hands up and surrender. Well, and it's hard because after you have filmed something, and you guys know this all too well, you film something and it's cut and sliced to benefit whatever might not even be your producer, but it is an exec that's at the network.
That's like, Hey, this is what we're going to use. And it's like a snippet of a conversation and not the full picture.
And that's why I like the podcast world because you have actual control to share everything that you want to share. And it's not twisted and it's not turned and it's straight from your voice.
You have more creative control, which is really, trust me, we had creative control. Oh yeah, with the show? Things would be a lot different with Team On.
We had a little bit more. Well, because you get to control your authentic story and like this is the real story.
Yeah. I also feel like though, because so since, so you were actually on this show, you said kindergarten.
So you had to have been on it for what? Four years. Yeah.
I was on it. Yeah.
For five seasons. Okay.
And was your husband involved in that? Very minimally. Um, he got a job straight out of college and worked nine to five.

And so you guys know with a production schedule. And then my parents lived in Georgia when the show started and then ended up moving to Tennessee to Nashville.
And so then that required travel for the show. So it became very hard because I'm not there every single day.
So then it became very, um, structured and storyline of this is what you're participating in instead of it being actual real life. So it never felt authentic.
Real. Yeah.
Right. Because it's like, okay, well you're coming here for these dinner scenes and for this play date and for this sleepover.
And it just didn't feel, it wasn't authentic. It didn't feel you're not aligned.
I mean, you're not aligned with reality in that point. Cause you're just kind of doing a job with my family, which is weird, my real family, which makes it even weirder because I'm assuming your other siblings are all involved in this too.
So are you close with them? Are you like, I'm not, you're not at all. Are you you estranged from all your siblings? From all of my siblings.
I am. Um, I just think that that, and it's, it's nothing negative against them.
I think that we can live in the same space and entertainment. My sister also has a podcast.
Um, we can live in the same space doing the same things and not necessarily agree or align. And it's no hate.
It's no ill will. It's just we don't serve each other and each other's lives.
Yeah. And do you feel like the show contributed to that? I do.
Yeah. Yeah.
I do. You guys have probably experienced some of that with other cast members.
You guys can probably relate where certain people get more air time than others and yeah you know it's like okay i've put in x amount of time so i should be getting that too season i believe it was season five the producer that was um that i worked with on the show had come to me and my ex-husband now my ex-husband he was not my ex-husband at the time but um came to us and asked if we would be willing to take some of the episodes for storyline b and because they had it set up like storyline a and storyline b for every episode really so they had oh wow that's that's way different than that's way different actually i want to talk about that with y'all in just a second. Um, so my dad was not okay with that.
He was like, no, we're, we're not going to do that. We're going to continue running things the way that, that they have been running.
And so it just never felt truly authentic to me because my husband wasn't involved and that was my life at the time. And so when I'm not showing that part, it almost allowed me to live a double life.
Yeah. Right.
Right. Or kind of condone it.
It felt, it felt in a sense because it was like, I'm doing all of these things without my husband and then I'm going back home and it's a completely different life than what I'm doing on TV. Did you feel a disconnect? Like you had to have felt some kind of huge disconnect from, oh, here I am in my real life, in my real house with my husband and my child and my real family.
And then I got to do this weird, I mean, you had to have felt a tug of war. And also I feel like it would make you feel like not mentally.
Yeah. Oh, I was not mentally okay.
You know, yeah. Like it would mess with your mental health, I feel like.
Then you start questioning everything.

Like, what do I really want to do? What are these intentions? Are they pure? Are they not? That would literally drive me nuts. So for the biggest portion of the show that I participated in was around 20, between 2015 and 2017.
I filed for divorce for the first time in 2017 and took my son his name's Jackson to Nashville and lived with my parents for a little while oh and was still actively filming that did feel most authentic to me because I was there every day right and my parents were walking through what I was going through with me every day. Was that covered on camera though? Like the divorce and all that kind of stuff or was that? Me telling my parents that I was going to get a divorce.
Yes. And then I kind of want to speak on how we did our interviews and I don't know y'all do, um, what is it called? Like the like diary, diary, which I love y'all's diary camps, by the way.
Um, we did not do it like that. So to answer your question about covering it on the show, they did a scene in my parents' living room with me walking in and telling them that I was getting divorced.
Okay. And that was very hard for me because I felt like everybody else got to do the fun things on the show that weren't heavy.
And then to have me go in and tell my parents that I was getting divorced, it just always felt like I was a part of like a heavy story. More controversial, more, yeah.
Or harder things going on in my life. It's like, oh, wow, look it, I'm the kid and everything is hard in my life.
Yeah. Or the difficult things.
Hope you had fun on your ski vacation that you filmed and now I got to come in here and tell you that my whole life. I could see where, yeah.
And that just made it like really, really hard. So I always ask production, Hey, like when we are doing these heavier scenes, can we please schedule the interviews that are consistent with these scenes that you guys are going to need during that week.
Because once that scene is over, emotionally, you go through all these emotions and especially with like divorce, right? So I was so back and forth with my ex-husband that I didn't even really know if it's what I wanted. It felt like it was the right thing that I needed to do.
And I knew that I needed to make some type of forward progress. Right.
So even if it was the wrong choice, at least I was walking through those emotions and it didn't feel permanent because it's like, okay, well, this is just a divorce filing. If I really don't want this, I don't have to follow through with it, but I'm going to see how I feel.
Once I file for it, I leave, we're disconnected, all of these things. I go and do this scene and it's not until seven days later that they film the interview.
And I'm already like, I don't think I want to get divorced. Right.
I'm totally switched. Yeah.
You need to catch it in the moment. Like not.
Yeah. Like the diary cam, I feel like would have been great for something like that to kind of follow the, the following days of that instead of doing a sit down interview and so i get into it with production because i'm like i'm not in the same place as what i was when i did that scene right and therefore this does not feel authentic and i'm a fraud for coming on here and saying what i am currently saying so that it matches with this scene because now i'm lying I'm lying.
Now I'm lying. And the production wanted you, obviously, to pretend that you were still wanting the divorce and stuff.
Yeah. Oh, for sure.
Yeah, that is. So, okay, so you and your husband got divorced, but did you think the show had a role to play in that at all? I don't.
I think some of just my actions, my mindset, the life that I was living versus what he was living was just not aligning. And I do, I think that we would be divorced today if I never got into entertainment.
No, I don't think we would really, but I think because I, I did the TV show that started separating our lives. He was living a corporate life, doing all of the corporate things.
I had a little bit of resentment for that because I'm like, if this TV thing goes away, he has built like all of these years in the corporate world. And then I'm going to have nothing.
And my investment's not going to pay off. Yeah.
I get that. So then there was like resentment that was starting to build there.
And I traveled with my son, went with me everywhere for filming the show until it was time for him to start kindergarten. So not only was I filming the show, I was taking him everywhere with me.
Yeah. And so that's a lot.
A lot of resentment that was being built. And then when I started the podcast, it was OK at first because I was home.
Yeah. And I do feel like I had more control over what I was doing, but at the same time, it still was a division of like our lives didn't, they no longer aligned.
So did your husband support the podcast? He did. Okay.
Okay. Good.
He was in full support of me doing the podcast. He was not in support of me doing the TV show at all.
Oh wow. Okay.
At all. So he did.
He felt like it was not a good idea for you to keep doing the show yeah he did not it sounds very toxic yeah and it almost sounds like it almost sounds like unnecessary like like almost like tug of war like your family wants you to be this certain thing and you're like okay i'll do it but i'm not but i will because you know it like, how do you even know or be able to differentiate what's authentic to me and what's not? It almost would to me, it almost creates some kind of identity issue. Like I don't even know.
I did have that. Yeah.
Like what's real? Who am I? What, what do I really want? Because now I'm all confused and I, you got everything coming in different ears. Like that's gotta be like stressful.
Well, to fit into both places and i think just a child coming from divorce my parents divorced whenever i was six years old and they had a very toxic divorce like they still hate each other today and they've been divorced so like your biological mom yeah okay and i think just like from that and knowing that I wanted, I put so much pressure on myself in my marriage from never wanting to be my parents in that situation. And then watching my marriage like slip away because I'm choosing to be on this show with my family and then wanting to fit in with my family, but also wanting to be the wife that I needed to be to my husband, I did feel like pulled both ways.
That is horrible. And I don't necessarily think that they, I don't think if you ask my ex-husband today, do you feel like you were pulling her? He would probably say no.
If you ask my parents today, if they felt like they were pulling me, I think they would say no. I think it was an internal struggle that I was dealing with trying to participate in both of those things in my life.
Well, did you, did you ever mention to your dad or anyone like, Hey, this is feeling really not good for me. No.
Wow. I wonder what there were like, I wonder, cause all of the, all your other siblings who were involved in the show, obviously, did you ever tell any of them? No, but I think that they were just in such different life phases than what I was dealing with.
So my sister was still in high school. Okay.
She did the show until 20, 22 or 20. Oh, so not that long ago.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Not that long ago.
Wow. Yeah.
I thought this was older. Yeah.
It just went on for a really long time. Wow.
Yeah. I mean, yeah.
So I think that they were just in completely different life phases. Um, they weren't having to navigate a marriage and it's very different navigating a marriage than it is being in a relationship with someone.
Right. And so when they've had boyfriends and girlfriends that were appearing on the show, that's very different than trying to raise a child in a marriage living in another state.
Yeah. Right.
You know? So are they, so, and you said you don't talk to any of them anymore. And is that because they like, do they, what are they blaming you in any kind of way for like pulling out and saying that was, or what, what, what's the reason for the estrangement? I think that there's just a lot of resentment.
There was a scandal, um, that I was involved in that was a sex tape scandal. So like, okay, sex tape scandal.
What does that mean? Like what, like, cause that's different for a lot of people. Like Farrah tried saying it was, she was in a head of sex tape scandal.
And then you watch it and you're like, that was not. No, this is a totally like produced porn.
So what is it? Okay. Lay it on me girl, lay it on me.
The tea. Um, so yes, when my parents were indicted in 2019 um a couple of days after they were indicted i was contacted at roughly it was like 4 a.m 3 a.m from tmz oh and they were like hey we have a police report that you filed regarding threats for a sex tape oh and you've already've already filed.
Yeah. Because I had been made aware.
Oh, wow. Okay.
So I went per my attorney's advice. Yeah.
He was like, go and file an informational report in your County. Like you don't need to do anything with it, but if anything does come about this, at least it's documented.
So it's not like you're backtracking on something to say, Oh, well, I was already knowledgeable about this. Let it be known on paper that you were knowledgeable about it.
There was no charges that I was trying to press, like nothing like that. It was just strictly like an informational report that I had been made aware of.
I've never even heard of an informational report before. Yeah.
It's kind of like a paper trail. Like, yeah, don't all of a sudden it gets leaked somewhere and now you're trying to backtrack and say oh i was aware that they had this or they threatened me with it yeah exactly yeah you're on it so i get contacted i'm assuming that what happened is that once my parents were indicted they started looking into all kinds of stuff and people started leaking stuff to media outlets.
TMZ got this and I shit my pants because I was like, oh shit, I only filed this as an informational report. Like I never wanted anybody to know anything about this.
While I was separated from my now ex-husband, I dated a guy who was on The Bachelorette. Okay.
I spent the night at one of my ex-best friends' house. She had a dog cam in one of the bedrooms.
Weird. Oh, my God.
Yes. And supposedly was trying to shop a dog cam video of me and him.
He had just come off of Jojo Fletcher's season of The Bachelorette. He was the runner up of that season.
And I think because I was still on the show or had just recently been on the show. And he had just come off that season that, I don't know, somebody maybe were gonna make money off of this right and that's how it came about wow this is your ex best friend my ex best friend so she secretly put a camera in your bedroom that you were staying in just in the hopes that she would like you guys doing something and then did and then is trying to leak it but you're saying doggy cam like what is well she claims she claims that she never had the video that's what she told the fbi because we were all interviewed by fbi oh wow okay um she claims that she never had the video and that if she did ever have the video then it would have been deleted because it was on a puppy cam that she had for her dogs and her house.
And that it deleted every like 30 days or something. Yeah.
To like free up storage or whatever. Yeah.
Yeah, exactly. That story just doesn't math to me.
No, the math ain't math and I'm at one. And so I, I went to the FBI because I was like, Hey, if there is something like this out there, I need to know about it.
Like, I have a child. I've also now reconciled at this point with my ex-husband.
Oh, wow. What do you mean, reconciled the guy back together? Yeah, we got back together.
Oh, my. Oh, my God.
Alright. The last thing you need.
This is a little... I don't need this shit.
Yeah. Him seeing me having sex with someone on a fucking puppy cam video right that's not healthy for anybody him you your child your family nobody no so i go to the fbi and i'm like hey this needs to be fully investigated and if there is a tape there does not need to be a tape i never consented to.
Right. I never knew that I was being videoed on a tape.

Like, was I having consensual relations?

Absolutely.

But was I consenting to anybody filming anything?

Absolutely not.

Wow.

So they kind of called all parties and everybody had a very different story.

Local law enforcement called multiple people, multiple people, then got attorneys involved, which is a very much a red flag. Yeah.
Huge red flag. When you say you're going to come in for an interview with the police, and then the next day you have an attorney call and say, your client's not coming in for an interview.
That tells me that there maybe was something. Yes.
Right. So all of that was transpiring.
Media catches hold of all of this so my parents have this indictment that's come down and now this sex tape and this is within days of each other so yes it caused a huge divide in my family and i just wanted absolutely nothing to do with it i'm like i just want to do my podcast yeah and i just want to be with my husband and live a life and

yeah. Yeah.
And like not be doing this. And I don't know.
And maybe you guys would feel like this. If you ever were not on teen mom, you would not, there is a price that you pay when you're on TV that you have to deal with a little bit of shit in the media.
Oh yeah. Oh yeah.
And your job is never done. Never.
It's

24-7, 365.

100%. But you're being

paid so... you have to deal with a little bit of shit in the media, right? Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah. And your job is never done.
Never. It's 24-7, 365.
100%. But you're being paid, so that is a cost that comes along with it, right? Yeah.
If you were no longer being paid by Teen Mom, would you want it to be a little bit more silent and less people talking? Well, yeah. Or would you be okay with people doing the same stuff that they do now with you guys actively on TV? No, I'd be like, no, everyone shut up.
Yeah. We're done.
We're done with all this. I'm done.
Yeah, done with it. And that's how I felt.
Yeah. I'm like, if you want to tune in to my podcast because you liked what you saw on Chris Lee Knows Best, or you followed me because of that show, and I will always give credit to Chris Lee Knows Best, regardless if I liked it or I didn't and have mixed feelings about it there was good that came out of it right I would have never had the platform to be able to do the podcast or ever be able to meet Kale if it wasn't for reality TV right so I will credit reality TV for that and my launching point yeah but it was toxic to me and I would never want to be involved in that ever again.
Um, I love the way that you guys film. And I told Kale that from the time that I became friends with her and became aware of how y'all's production is.
Yeah. Y'all's crew is so much smaller.
Yeah. Um, and you guys document it as a docu series style and you also do the diary cams, which I love.
And I think it brings like the reality aspect to reality TV. Yeah.
This is actually real. Our real life to go behind.
We film ourselves, how we feel, what just happened. But I feel like your experience was like.
It sounds very toxic. Toxic, manipulative.
Just like I don't even know how you could have survived more than one season because that sounds like oh my god and then especially having your whole family on top of it almost pressuring you to keep doing it like that's like i'm sad that you had that i wish your i wish the production would have been different because what channel was it on or what okay god it's like what is and that just made me when you were explaining all of that I was like wow I'm so blessed that we film a docuseries well even even though it's hard filming a docuseries because there's so much oh real to that and emotions to that right that we kind of were able to manipulate and avoid in the way that we filmed at least you you're filming actual truth. Right.
And it's authentic and you can look back on it and say, you know what? It wasn't my greatest moment, but it was honest. Right.
And it's just what was really happening in my life. Yeah.
So you said this ex best friend, obviously you're not friends with this person. Absolutely not.
I would not either. Because my whole thing is that when you filed that report, how were you even aware to file the report? I just went to my local police department.
No, but how did you even know to do that? Who did? I had an attorney at that point because I'd already left Chrisley knows best. So I had to hire an attorney to get out of my contract because they did not want me to be able.
I don't know if it was, I don't want to blame anyone on this podcast, but I don't know who was responsible between the production company network family. Um, they did not want me to be able to use my last name and anything else business related.
That's my last name. Wow.
Not on the show because they were claiming rights to that last name. And so I had to hire an attorney to fight for me, for me to be able to use my last name on coffee combos.
Wow. That is ridiculous.
But like, how did you get a word that there was a possible tape? Like how did that even happen? It was from TMZ, right? No. No, because they got the report.
So how did you even know to file the reports? My dad actually told me. He did? Yeah.
Your dad told you that what? That there's a sex tape? Yeah. How did he know? That my ex-best friend had reached out to my brother to let him know and tried to sell it to him.
To your brother? To your brother? Yeah. What the fuck? Yeah.
And your brother never told you? No, because we were not in contact at that point. I pretty much would contact my sister if someone was like, hey, I got to, I'd be like, oh, hey, sis, I don't even talk to him in it, but holy shit.
You're like your titties. Your friend just.
Right. I'm like, OK, I'm mind blown that the fact that there you are literally surrounded by betrayal.
Like, I don't know. Yeah, has it been like that your whole life? Like, I'm like, wow, that's all it sounds like to me.
It does. Like, everyone that was supposed to be on your side.
And protect you and support you, yeah. Like, what the fuck? Like, that's mind-blowing.
I think with TV, there was always somewhat of issues because it was a blended family. And I think that there's always going to be issues when a family is blended and the work's not done when you do that.
Right. That's actually been a really hard problem with me with dating and being so intentional about people who also have children.
Like, could I put myself in a situation to fully blend this in the way that it needs to be blended for this to be able to work? Because it's not the same as having biological children. Right.
Like you guys have biological children, you only have biological children, and you are married. Right.
It would be different. And so I think that my parents got divorced when I was six years old and both of my parents were already with someone else by the time their divorce was final.
Oh, wow. And there was already a child on the way.
Holy shit. And so while I don't think, I don't hold any resentment towards my parents who are doing that because I try to put myself in their shoes.
And I'm like, you know what? They were just truly trying to like move on and do the best that they could with what they had to do it with at that time. Would I make the same decisions? No, because I haven't, but also would I have made some of the same decisions that they made if I didn't have that trauma from that? No, exactly.
I would literally, while you're talking, I was thinking in my head, I'm like, you went through a lot of trauma. Yeah.
And you're only six years old when that first happened. So then you're witnessing this divide and you're almost too young to even understand fully what the hell is happening.
To comprehend like your brain's not developed enough to be able to comprehend what's actually going on. So it was almost like a family was split and then other families were created within that split simultaneously.
Right. And then it's, I always say kids are collateral damage and a divorce, right? Because parents are going to move on.
Right. Like you get divorced inevitably, you're eventually going to move on.
Right. Might not be immediate, but you're going to move on.
And you've got the kids there that are stuck between those parents. Yeah.
And that's hard. And was, so was, was, um, was your mom involved at all with the show at all? Not at all.
Okay. She wasn't involved at all.
No. Wow.
And how do you feel like your relationship with her going through all this scandals and all that stuff? How did, how did you feel supported by her? I did. I have a very different relationship with her because she did not raise me and she was not in my everyday life.
That was my question. I know in the beginning you said like how your stepmom adopted you.
So I was curious if your mom was involved in your life ever since you were little or it stopped after they got a divorce. So she, she was in my life pretty consistently until I was in fifth grade and we're originally from South Carolina.
So my dad relocated to Atlanta. And at that point I hardly ever saw her.
If it was, it was like on random weekend. So he had primary custody and it was just like, we were like this whole new family.
Right. Wow.
And that's very hard. Um, I think that my brother probably turned to substances when he got older because he could not deal with the trauma.
Maybe that was his coping way. Not to excuse it.
How old was he when this happened? You're six and he was five. So he's also a little younger.
But my thing is, okay, so your mom let full custody happen with your dad? Like there was no custody battle? There was. Oh, there was.
Okay. There was a custody battle.
I don't know if you guys are familiar with custody situations, but there was something called a guardian ad litem that was hired. And ultimately, they decided that my dad's home was the better home for us to be at.
Wow. So I don't know the complexities of that situation.
Again, I was only six, seven, a tiny little child. Yeah.
So I don't really know what was going on. I only remember like this woman coming to both of my parents' houses and watching my parents individually like interact with us.
Okay. And then we would go off with her and she would she would you know like ask us questions or like take us to get ice cream or whatever and it was it felt like a long period of time but i don't really know if i understood the length of time at that point so it could have been like a month i don't know yeah um but then ultimately it was decided that we were gonna live with my dad and you never asked your mom after all this happened like hey what really happened like why did we not why did you not get custody why did you not i mean you know fight more or come see me more did i ever get like a dress between you and her yeah so when i finally was able to fully address it with her because i never wanted to address it with her until i was ready to do that i was not willing to I was not willing to have conversations.
That's your right. I was angry.
That's your right. Frustrated and mad and hurt.
Yeah. Because I think every child wants to be with their mother.
Well, when you were explaining all of that, I couldn't imagine just being a six-year-old child and having this mom for six years, and then all of a sudden she's gone and I'm taken from her and I don't have any of the answers to why. That's super traumatic in itself.
That's actually why I loved y'all's story on Teen Mom with Carly because I just feel like that's such a healthy decision as hard as that decision is to make. If you cannot raise children in a healthy environment and you're not ready to do so, it is best for them to go somewhere where they can be fully healthy and whole.
Yeah. I mean, especially because we were, I mean, we were obviously surrounded by, you know, just chaos and evictions and drugs and all that kind of stuff.
But it sounds like you growing up, your family was pretty stable. Like as far as financially, no one was alcoholics.
There was no domestic violence or anything. So it just kind of sounds like, I mean, I'm just kind of confused on where your mom's role in all this was when all this was going on.
Yeah. She very much stepped away, I think, and accepted defeat.
Okay. And that was hard for me to come to the realization whenever I did.
And I didn't until I was like 20 years old. Wow.
Um, I don't know if it was that I didn't want to know it, or I just like, wasn't ready to accept it or maybe not ready to address it. I could never imagine being in that situation now that I am a mother, but I also give her a little grace, just knowing the dynamic of the situation with her and my dad.
And I feel like she has done her time, um, in the sense of dealing with the trauma that I have. And my brother has, she's had to deal with that in very different ways.
Oh, I bet. Well, right, because is your brother still actively, is he still like having issues or? Some legal issues, but not substance issues.
Okay, so he's sober as far as you know. As far as I know, he's sober.
But there have just been things like that she has missed out on so much in life. And I had to accept through therapy that because she missed out on those

things,

she can never get them back.

Yeah.

And relationship that I think that she longs for today is something that she

for went then.

And those are just things that once it's gone,

the time's gone.

You know,

it's like,

I'm never going to be seven again.

Right.

I'm never going to be 13 and starting my period. Right.
Right. Or going to my first high school dance with a date and going to pick out dresses with your mom and all those things that you miss out on.
And all those things that you actually like went through, like were you close with your stepmom at that point through all that stuff? I was and she was a very good stepmother and she stepped in in the ways that my dad allowed her. Um, but I do hold a little resentment towards my dad for him not allowing her to be the mother to me that she could have been because he definitely had parameters.
What parameters? Why is he setting boundaries around his children? So she was never allowed to discipline us. So if we ever did anything, like, let's say we were out shopping or something and she had all of the kids.
If I did something, then it was a required call to him or for him to address it. Whenever I got home, she was never allowed to take that on, which made me automatic.
And I don't think he did it. I think he felt like, okay, these are my children and I want to be the one doing that.
But I don't think that he realized during that time, because I think he was still growing. I mean, he was 21 whenever I was born.
I think he was still growing just like I was a growing kid. Right.
And so I think if he did it differently now, he would be like, I would have allowed her to do that because then Lindsay would have felt like she was a part of the other kids. But when she's reprimanding her birth children and then not me.
Yeah. And then I have to go home and then deal with my dad.
It just felt like a divide. And it creates it actually maintains a disconnect at all times.
It almost it's like, you know, kids, obviously, no kid likes to be punished or disciplined but on the other side of that the discipline you know is coming from care and so it's like it would have been beneficial for you because you would have felt like you know i know i don't know what's being punished obviously but like you have known you're you care about me that's why you want to discipline me and make sure you correct me or whatever and the fact you had you had to just sit there and like, well, yeah, wait for your dad or whatever. That's like, that's also torture.
Yeah. Yeah.
I got to wait for my inevitable, you know, ass beaten or whatever. You know what I mean? Yeah.
Like, damn. You know, it's like everybody says from the South, wait until dad gets home.
Yeah. Like there is no worse fear.
Yeah. Other than the fear of God.
Right. Right.
Then dad coming home. My dad's name's Todd.
I always say the fear of God and fear of Todd. Yeah.
Okay. So how many, um, uh, between your, you know, your biological mom and your, and your dad, how many kids do they have together? Just me and my brother.
Okay. And then, so, okay.
So the other ones are, okay. Got it.
All right. The other three are with my dad and my stepmom, but I don't really know.
Like, she's my adoptive mother. I know.
Even though she is my stepmom, she did adopt me. Yeah, and you consider that's your mom? Because I don't want to get language.
Yeah, or is that a hard thing for you to like? It is a hard thing. I felt the need to do it, and I didn't do that and make that decision to get adopted until I was an adult.
Oh, really? I years old whenever I did that. Oh, really elaborate on that.
Okay. So you didn't, you, you waited the whole time until 19 and you asked her to adopt you because I don't believe that my biological mom would have ever agreed to that outside of me being an adult to make that decision on my own.
Yeah. Um, and it felt at the time that I did it, it felt like I was for the

first time in control of something in my life and made me feel like if I do this on paper, my birth certificate will be destroyed. So all of my stuff will look exactly like the other kids.
Yeah. And we will all be just one.
Right. But it never, nothing ever really changed from that.
Um, which is why I think I now hold the mentality of, I don't have to ever be married again because what does the paper mean to me? Cause when you did the paper, it didn't really change anything. But so the paper, you even wanting and having the desire to do that, you know, get that paperwork done, obviously shows that you yearn for this to all feel.

Belonging.

Yeah, belonging.

And to be of one family and connection and, yeah, support.

So, I mean, was your dad kind of aware that you felt any disconnect or, you know, like just a difference from the other kids? I think you ever express that to him. Um, no.
So you literally walked around as a child with this inside the whole time. And my dad would probably say today, Lindsay handled the divorce much differently.
My brother's name's Kyle. Lindsay handled the divorce much differently than Kyle.
You could tell all of the issues that Kyle was having because they were outwardly expressed, like whether it be an anger or trouble in school or substance or like whatever those things were. I just kind of sucked it up and was like, this is my life and I'm just supposed to accept it.
And I'm, as long as I don't have feelings about it and I don't say anything about it, then it just like, won't be real. That is so sad.
Well, it's that self betrayal. And I think when you live so many years, you know, self betraying yourself, no, no, no wonder you end up getting older and like almost just having this identity.
Like, I don't even know. It is an identity.
Yeah. It's an identity Christ.
I don't who i am because i spent so much time self-betraying in order to maintain this you know facade of i'm okay and everything's fine don't worry about me but it's like that's heavy that's heavy stuff to carry around as a kid it is very heavy and i don't think that i realized the heaviness until i became a mother myself yeah that's isn't it weird how you become a mom and it's like a parent they hit certain ages and then it'll bring up traumas from your childhood that you were like oh my gosh i thought i worked on that or i didn't think that was an issue and then they get to the age where something happened to you and it's just you're flooded with all these feelings so you've experienced that too yes i have 100 actually i feel like we experience it kind of we don't know when the next bomb's gonna drop because they get to certain ages and then you get like this feeling of like you get either flashbacks or you get a little bit of ptsd or a little bit of like oh my god like i gotta like do this and figure and save this but it's like no it's not an issue this is a you thing like but it brings up a lot of stuff from when you were a kid raising your own kids yeah and then also it's hard to like i mean there's a period of time when you have your own children that you kind of get a little mad at your parents for a minute. Cause like, dang, now I know what this feels like.
And you let this happen when I was that age. Like, how the hell did you do that? Because the love I have for this kid is how did you even, how are you able to do that? And it kind of, your situation reminds you a little bit of your dad being in florida and you were saying stuff like you know

he knew you're at home with your mom dealing with all that stuff and i wondered if your mom

ever knew what was going on with you know with you at home if she never like

obviously she did she did okay yeah so that's kind of interesting that i don't think that it

was necessarily aware of the complexities of the things that were going on i think it was

Thank you. So that's kind of interesting that.
I don't think that it was necessarily aware of the complexities of the things that were going on. I think it was the defeat.
And I think once it's an out of sight, out of mind situation, some people can do that. Right.
Where it's like. I would never build on.
I know. I'm a mom.
Yeah. You know, but it's like some people do.
And yeah. It's mind blowing, isn't it? Because you're a parent.
I do. Mom, how did you mom how did you do that how did you how did you sleep at night yeah how did you do all these things i can't i can't yeah because we always talk about like there are certain things that like her dad didn't move to florida and started his whole family all over again and she was left with her mom and it was like how do you even like you know i even asked her when we were uh getting to know each other i was like did your dad ever like send you christmas gifts and she's like no and i'm like that's so weird that you can just like just close off and then jump over here and then forget that it ever happened but it's like give a whole a whole damn child how does it somewhere yeah like it's insane i don't know how i could ever and it's hard to give grace in those situations when you can't? Yeah.
Yeah. It's like, it's really hard.
You know, I can't understand ever doing that. So I don't know how to give forgiveness in a situation that I can't understand.
It's hard to sympathize if I can't wrap my head around it. It is.
And it's, it's hard to have empathy in those situations because you know that it's just something that you never could imagine yourself doing. And so that's definitely something that I struggled with as a child, knowing that I couldn't imagine.
And I just know as a mother in a co-parenting situation where I'm sharing 50, 50 custody, right? I know that my child sometimes longs for me and it literally breaks my heart, but there's nothing that I can do about it. And I know that I'm just going to give him as much love as I possibly can when I get him next.
Yeah. I could not imagine like my mom moving across the country and only seeing us on like holidays.
Oh, I would literally go insane. I know.
What do you just go crazy? I would go insane. It's one of those things too where it's like, did you have that yearning for your mom? I think that I probably subconsciously did, but I don't think that I consciously did.
I think that I was just doing every day. I think you were trying to survive.
Yeah. As a kid.
Yeah. I think that's probably what it was and i don't want to say that my my dad did anything intentionally i think he also was trying to survive in that situation and i think he had good intentions i think he's like okay this is a good woman and right she's pregnant and now we have kids and we're gonna be like this one one happy family.
And it's like these rose colored glasses. And because I saw him doing that, I never wanted to bring issue to anything.
It's just like, okay, this is what we're doing. And which again, sounds like self-betrayal.
You're kind of like, okay, I don't want to ruffle any thought. This sounds great.
All right, dad, you got it. We'll continue to do all this.
But did your dad ever, do you think your dad ever tried to bridge the gap? I do. Okay.
So he tried to get you, I mean, you and your mom to be involved with each other. When you talk about like, you know, your dad just doing the best he can with what he knows, it's almost like that saying where they say like, maybe give your parents grace because they were just doing it for the first time too yeah not knowing what was going on and that when i saw that once it hit me i was like wow yeah because you really think about it like that like me being the first time parents that we are i've never done this in another life or that i remember ever doing it's all new to me too i saw something about that yesterday and it was talking about how you only know your parents as parents, right? Your whole life, they have been your parents, but they had a life before you and their whole life.
They were not parents. Right.
Right. They were a wild little kid one time.
They had so weird to think about. Yeah.
And so I just feel like through therapy i've been able to under not that i can understand i think understands the wrong word i can give grace to that situation because my parents were just kids raising kids yeah yeah and not that it excuses certain things and not that it did not give me childhood traumas but it's okay. Yeah.
Because it doesn't affect me every day. Like it once did.
So you're saying it did once affect you. I mean, so you, when did you start going to therapy? I didn't start going to therapy until after the whole sex tape scandal.
Wow. Okay.
Um, I laid in bed for Kristen. I was like, not well for, was it like six months? Yeah.
Yeah. It was like six to eight months that I would literally wake up, take my child to school, get him off, act like happy mom, come back home.
If I had to podcast, I would podcast. I would take a bath and I would go to bed.
Wow. Cause you were tired yes i was so i was yeah and i didn't even know what depression was i felt like that sounds me because it was like and they kate explained it in a way that i felt like i didn't really understand depression in her looks different than it does in me and so I was like, how could you be so tired and sleep all the time?

And it's like one of those things where it's like I had to get educated on like what depression actually looks like. And it's like, I would rather sleep my life away than feel any of these feelings.
Same feeling. Yeah.
That's how I felt. When I tell you that all of this stuff went down in July, August, and I woke up sometime,

I felt like I woke up from July, August and October. Okay.
And my now ex-husband was like, you have to get help. Oh, so he actually recognized it.
He was watching this and witnessing it. Sometimes we need that though for, you know.
Did you believe him? I needed that. I needed that from you.
You don't know how to bring it up as a spouse. I don't think he wanted to hurt my feelings.
That's exactly what it is. Yeah.
And I also don't want to like, it's a touchy, sensitive thing. And it's like, you're also a mom.
And I don't know. And you're a new mom.
So that's exhausting. And I don't know if it's just that.
And so you don't even know how to approach it because you don't want to hurt their feelings. But do you feel like when he brought it up to you, did you kind of like deny it? Did you like, what are you talking about? Okay.
I was self-aware that it was going on. I don't think I was self-aware of how much I was staying in my room and how much I was sleeping, but I was self-aware of what I was feeling.
Which was? Defeat, um, alone. Like I would feel if I was around people, I would still feel alone.
Like I could be in a crowded room and feel like I was by myself. Did you have any anxiety during that time? Yeah.
I've always had anxiety. Yeah.
Yeah. yeah i imagine the life that you had you've had anxiety because i think even being a little kid and p in self-betraying in my opinion looks like anxiety for kids like yeah because the kids don't even know that they're having anxiety right but they're just kind of trying to like survive and i almost feel like with your story so far it just sounds like you were almost forced on both sides to just kind of always be robotic and not like engage in what you're really feeling.
It was more or less emotionally monitoring, making sure, making sure we're good. We're good.
Even when you talk about getting up and taking your kid to school and kind of putting on this, I'm a happy mom, everything's great. And then you go back to your cave and you like, you know what I mean? Be the real.
Yeah. Like that's exhausting.
And I almost, and then I didn't want like people on the podcast to know I was depressed and I had not even identified that it was depression. Like I didn't know what it was.
And so Kristen, it hasn't been too long since I even identified that it was actually depression. Yeah.
Really? So this is actually new, like revelation for you. Yeah.
It's, that's, that's huge. Like a very new revelation and I can feel it.
Um, and myself sometimes like creep back in and I'm like, okay, whoa, like I need to, I need to go to a therapy session or I need to like figure out what it get to the bottom of what's exactly going on because I never want to be back in that place that I once was. And I think that helps like the more that we learn and we learn about ourselves and therapy and the things you do, you end up becoming more and more self aware.
And you can just like, even for me now, I can notice little things that I'm like, oh yeah, I need to call my therapist and my psychiatrist and we need to have a meeting and i need to go back to therapy yes like you can just tell and it's so much better to be able to be self-aware than end up in that spiral and just this circle and not feeling like you can't get out of it well it's a way of just being making sure you're being proactive about things because like i that sounds a lot like you and you're like i'm like what are you doing you're like I'm having a therapy session I'm like oh well why well I feel a little something's off today so I feel something creeping in and it's like it sounds like like obviously when you're more self-aware you can be more proactive and hopefully it kind of minimizes that time so you feel it creeping in doesn't fully take hold but it you know you just jump on it right when you feel it. But I so much want to advocate for people who see somebody that is going through that to not be afraid to like help them because I can never thank my ex-husband enough for getting me help and finding my therapist because I was not able to do that for myself.
It is so important. So important.
I mean, God, you're so right.

Because same thing, like I had postpartum depression. I believe I had it with placing Carly.
Um, and then I went through postpartum depression with Nova, but I didn't even know I had it until I was out of it. And I was able to like, look back and be, holy shit, I was depressed.
And I did not even realize. I had first part of my anxiety.
And I didn't realize until I was well out of like the patterns of the things that I was doing. Like I would think crazy shit.
Like I would be driving down the road. Like this is no joke.
And I would look at the shoulder of the road and see how close I could get to like that white line if I was on a two, like cars going that way. Same, intrusive thoughts.
Yeah. Like I could just heat myself off the freeway, you know, or I could hit that tree if I was going 55 or, you know, like weird shit like that.
Yeah. Yeah.
And it literally, it took him. One day he came up in my room and he's like, you're not okay.
What's going on? You know? And then I just broke down. Like, I don't know.
I'm feeling all these things. And he was the one who took me to see my first psychiatrist ever.
And really I needed him for that. The first time I ever took my son to the movie theater, I walked to see from the top of the theater to the bottom where the exit doors were and timed myself on my phone to see how fast I could get out of there if someone shot the place up i think but i have interests like that all the time that's crazy anxiety shit that is just i mean i guess it is sad that our world has come to some

of these things right and it's probably like not really that realistic or the chances of something

like that happening it's it's very intrusive yeah but like why was i thinking these things like

Thank you. probably like not really that realistic or the chances of something like that happening it's it's very intrusive yeah but like why was i thinking these things like what the hell was going on i think it stems from anxiety disorders the intrusive thoughts do but i think you're spot on that it needs to be advocated for more of people if you notice something say something you're not going to hurt our feelings if anything you might be saving us yeah but it is really hard when you're the person watching it's like you don't you don't want to be like uh hurt their feelings yeah or be like something's wrong with you it's like it doesn't have to be like that you tyler i would literally get my child up and put on like this whole show like fix a breakfast do all this stuff like mom of the him to school, come back.
If I had to record, I would record. If I did not, I would take a bath, put on a new pair of pajamas and get in my bed and sleep until it was time to get him out of school.
Wow. That is insane.
Yeah. And so it took your, it took your ex-husband to be like, Hey, something's off.
Yeah. And I just, I'm like, maybe was that God, because this was after we had gotten back together i was like was that god saving my life because what if i went through this and i was alone right or with your parents yeah in the reality show they would have what if they could have just kept playing well listen i firmly believe in divine timing like you can always timing is always on our side even when we feel the complete opposite and so maybe that was the reason why you guys are kind of rekindled, got together for that little moment, and then for that to come to fruition.

Because honestly, like you know now, mental health is a work in progress constantly.

You got to constantly be checking in on yourself, being self-aware.

I mean, it's a job in itself.

I always say, unfortunately, it never ends.

Yeah.

But you get

something new yes but you are old yes you always you always learn great things though about yourself which is awesome but we're huge advocates for therapy i mean i don't care if you're the happiest person on the planet there's always something to gain from it so and who was it who was it that was talking about therapy that someone was in this room last night and they were talking about therapy and in marriages that you should start therapy before it gets bad.

It's so, so hard. And I wish that I would have done that in my marriage before it got too late.
But unfortunately I wasn't even in personal therapy for myself. And I'm a big advocate for being in personal therapy for yourself because when you are the best you, you can be the best you for someone else.
Yeah. We actually did both.
We did separate and then we did together when we went through all of our shit and I wouldn't have had it any other way. But we made it a priority.
Like we need to be do individual therapy. And then once a week we would come together and do couples therapy and it helped a lot but some people like this old school mentality of people thinking that depression is not a real thing it's like i dude it's disgusting yeah when they like oh just get over it you're fine no sorry okay well if it was that easy and i could just get over it then do you think i wouldn't be fucking over it right i would definitely do that yeah and do you think people would be do you think i would be in this cave yeah and people would not be committing suicide if that was the case so there's yeah there's a huge stigma still around mental health i think a lot of people are breaking that down little by little and i think it takes people talking about it well that's why i want to applaud both you women because that's what you're doing right now.
You guys are just openly talking about having struggles with mental health on top of being moms and wives. Like that's huge.
Like 10 years ago, I feel like no one would accept this. They'd be criticizing the hell out of it.
No one would accept it. And saying you're weak.
You know what I mean? But now it's getting a spotlight that I think it, it's deserved for a long time.

So I'm glad.

Look at how much growth has come and us just talking about it.

Because I think about like my grandparents' generation, no one talked about therapy.

Like that was not a thing.

It was like, you just be better.

Well, they're like, if you go to therapy, you're already, you're too fucked up.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's like.

Or you're such a stigma.

You're a lost cause.

Yeah.

Or grandma just hides it forever and ever. And then one day just day just explodes you know so look at us just being out here mental health

advocates yeah thank y'all for having me thanks for coming on i've learned a lot of things about

you do y'all have instagram like oh yeah i mean obviously like your personal instagrams i know

that but like does your podcast i break it down yeah instagram tiktok all that good stuff yeah

perfect well thanks for having me

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