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Well, I hope everybody is well.

I hope everybody had a very good Labor Day weekend.

We had a big old party at our house, and I think the kids had way more fun than we did.

We got a bounce house.

Yeah, we had a lot of fun.

What kids got a bounce house?

Yeah, we had a bounce house, and our friends came over, and they swam on the pool, and we did fireworks at nighttime, and had really good food.

So that was really fun.

I made corn ribs for the first time.

I don't know if anyone's ever heard of that, but just do it.

Just Google it, look it up on TikTok, whatever.

I want you to make them again this time, but make them like juicy and like,

you know, like.

I want to make garlic butter.

Yes.

Garlic butter, drizzle it on the

with that one kind of cheese.

Yeah, the

Mexican cheese, like the white Mexican cheese.

I forget what it's called.

I don't know what it's called.

But yes,

I hope everybody else had a really good Labor Day weekend.

We definitely did.

This is week two of the kids being back in school, and we've already had one sickness.

So I'm like, we can't be missing a bunch of school guys.

It always happens like this, though.

It does.

Every time.

It's like they go back to school, everything's fine.

And literally, the first two weeks,

stomach problems, coughing,

sneezing, whatever, dude.

Over it.

Yeah, and I think Veda's is definitely allergy.

She gets it like twice a year.

So yesterday I was like, we're starting the Zyrtec.

Here you go.

At night, every night, you're taking your Zyrtec.

She's going to be the kid that's going to need Zyrtec.

Oh, for sure.

Yeah.

All the time.

Made me think I need to buy my own Zyrtec because I feel like I get the same thing she does.

Do you think allergies come as you get older?

Maybe because I don't.

Babe, I've never had allergies.

I know.

You've never had them.

Maybe it's because we just live more up north.

I don't know.

I know, but it's weird that you just never had them our whole lives and then all of a sudden, boom.

Maybe it is a thing.

I don't know.

That's weird.

So, yeah, I hope it was fun, though.

We had a lot of fun with friends and family.

And my mom came, and Ty's mom came, and my grandpa, and then

I spent pretty much four hours cooking.

No, you did.

I know.

I felt like that's all you did the whole time.

And people are trying to conversate with me.

I don't know if anyone out there can relate to this, but like when you're, when you're hosting, right?

And you're like, you're making, well, how many dishes was I making once?

Probably five different dishes that take different times, temperatures, whatever.

And you get people trying to like talk to you.

I cannot, I can't do it.

Even though, though, that's our fault, because I originally told everybody, like, we will provide meat.

You guys all bring the sides.

And then somehow we ended up making three sides.

So I don't know what the hell happened.

Because we didn't listen to ourselves.

No, but also the sides they were bringing were the potato salad.

I hate potato salad.

Yeah, you do.

So I'm like, I'm not eating that side.

But your mom made pasta salad.

Yeah, I guess you're right.

But you know how it, I don't know, when you're grilling and you're in charge of so many things being done at a certain time and people are trying to talk to you about other stuff, I'm just like, dude, I cannot listen to you right now.

I'm trying.

Oh, it is hard trying to cook and do all the things.

Yeah, and they're asking me.

So like, where is this?

I'm like, I'm in the middle.

You see me, ah, right?

I don't know.

You got to fry in eight million different meats and seasoning different things and washing my hands eight million times.

I'll touch a fucking chicken.

And I can't answer where the hell that piece of paper is.

Nope.

I know.

It is funny.

And it's always like, it's always when you're in the middle of something and doing something, then people want to talk to you.

And it's always, I feel bad, but it's like questions like,

I don't even know how to explain it.

Like, just like questions are just look and you'll see it.

Where's your paper towel?

Oh, did you know?

Do you know where that thing is?

It's on the table.

Right.

The cutlery.

I put it on the table.

Right.

Anyway.

That's like I'm bitching, but no, it was great.

I was listening.

It was amazing.

Oh, it was fun.

It was definitely fun.

But no, that's just like kids.

Kids could be silent all day, but then when you have to sit down and do something, or you have to make an important phone call or something, then they're all like, mom, mom, mom, mom, there, there.

And I'm like, oh my God, you were quiet for hours.

And now, because I have to do something, you're all on me.

That's how it works.

It is.

Kids find the worst timing.

They do.

But this is the first week

that Raya's in school.

Yeah.

Five days a week.

Full days.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Like, that's crazy to me.

It was hard for you when we dropped her off.

I am a bitch.

You're not a bitch.

I'm a little bitch.

I am.

Dude, I don't know, but, and I felt like this with all of our kids.

But I think just knowing that she's the last one hit me.

Yeah.

I know.

You were sad.

I mean, I think it's, and like I told you in the car,

I know.

I know.

I know.

Because her last is like our last, you know, there's, she's,

that's it.

You know?

And this morning we get her for school because this would be day four for her full days because they didn't have Monday

because of the holiday.

And this morning, she was like, didn't want to go.

She was upset in the beginning of the morning.

And then I, so I just took it a little slower this morning with her.

And then she was just all about that and she wanted to go.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean, I know she's good for, like I said, I

know it's good.

I know it's good that she's going to school.

I know this in my head logically, but like, then I think about how many hours she's not with me at home, and how many, like, okay, now you're napping in a different place on a cot, right?

You're not in your comfy bed with your stars and your stuff,

you're in a classroom on a cot.

Yeah,

I don't know, you know what I mean?

I just got a knapsack, and I know, I know, obviously, we get rid of the comfy, yeah, you know, rollout bed thing to put on the cot, but still, I just have all these crazy, like, just thoughts constantly, like, okay, so she's gone for five hours a day, times, you know, five days a week, right?

Yeah, you know, yeah, we only get 18 summers with these kids.

And I think, I think what helps me the most is because, like, the reason why I wasn't so like sad or anything like that.

Like, you're never sad.

How am I?

Why am I always the one that's crying at these things?

Well, because I don't know, I'm just a very, I try to stay very positive about it.

Like, I think what helped me, especially with Raya, is like, okay, like, yeah, it is our last baby, like, going to school.

But what helps me too is like, okay, well, you know, she is with an amazing teacher, and this teacher has had every single one of our children.

I know.

And she is so good at her job and adores these kids.

And then when I go and I pick up right after school, she's just like, I had the best day.

I played and we cleaned and we painted.

And, you know, they do all the things.

Yeah, she knows what they love.

I know.

I know what's good for her, but it's just like, dang, man.

I think because you just know, like, this is like, like, I know with Nova and I know with Veda, like, once this happens, happens, it's over with.

Like, you're not going to see your kids

a lot.

And then, you know, and then it's like, but I know, I know it's good for them.

Like, so, like, if I was being selfish, I'd keep them home and I would do an online schooling for them if I was selfish because I know I wanted them home.

You know what I'm saying?

Yeah.

But I also know I'm not a good teacher.

So,

no.

I mean, I'm not designed for that.

No.

And also, I feel like the homeschool stuff, the online stuff is just, it's a different vibe than a classroom setting.

And I also feel feel like with in our opinion, yeah, no, no.

I mean, listen, homeschool your kids.

That's fine.

You're better than me.

If you can, if you're homeschooling your kids, I'll just put it out there.

You're better than I am.

I don't have it.

I'm not that strong.

I'm not that patient.

I'm not that.

And I'm fine to admit it.

You know what?

Hallelujah.

Bow to you.

Bow down to you in your homeschooling.

Yeah, because I wouldn't be able to do it.

Sourdough making whatever co-op meetings you have.

Yeah.

Shit.

Yeah.

Okay.

I ain't that parent.

So it is what it is.

I don't, I don't, but I, I, what I noticed, though, is that when I posted about it, it was like a very hot topic of people like liking and commenting and saying, homeschooler, homeschooler, homeschooler.

It's like, dude, what?

Yeah, that's weird.

I'm like, first off, I kind of feel like in the way that the comments are, it's like

I can tell that you're like judging me.

Well, okay, I can't say it for sure, but it feels like you are.

And it's like, listen, I'm here to tell you all right now, all you homeschooling homeschooling parents, you don't have to tell me that you're better than me.

Okay, I'm going to give it to you.

You're way better than me, okay?

See, don't get us out.

Are we happy now?

Are you happy?

I hope you're great.

I hope it's satisfying for you.

But I feel like too.

Or like, dude, damn, bro.

But with me and you, too, I mean, our opinion, too, and it's just an opinion, is that when kids are in school, like we talked about yesterday, they learn, they make different types of friends.

They learn about like social aspects of life, how to deal with with hard conversations, how to

stand up for yourself.

Yeah.

And like Nova, you know, she wouldn't have, I mean, half of the friends that she has if it wasn't through school and cheer and all the just social media.

Maybe if it wasn't for school, I would not have the life that we, we wouldn't have the life we have.

No.

I would never have met you.

I would never have met any of my friends that I have.

Now, my childhood, long-term friends, I would not have them without school.

Right.

So, yes.

And it's funny because the comment that was, like, oh, you get to take back their childhood and then you get to have the memories with them.

And it's like, yeah, but it's not about me.

Right.

I'm not sending my kid to school for me.

Trust me, if it was up to me, I want them here with me.

I love them so much.

And I cried like a fucking baby watching that one go to school.

Like, so I think, like, for me, I would rather have them home, but I know what's good for them.

And I know that there's things in school

that are bigger than academics, social structures social uh you know just gauging people in different um environments and different types of kids and just developing that um

social skill i guess you want to call it i don't know what you want to but i i feel like school there's a lot more to it than just academics i think so yeah and also i will say with homeschooling how do you eliminate bias

right so how do you eliminate maybe subconscious bias

you know like I get a program from whatever it is.

It's not, how is this program regulated?

Is it regulated?

Are they going to teach about Martin Luther King?

I guess you would have to do a lot of like investigation and depending on what you want to teach, because I know some people, some people homeschool their kids because they want them taught certain things and not other things.

Okay, that's my problem right there.

Stop.

Why, though?

Because that's their children.

I understand.

But if you're a good parent,

you will be able to go internal and ask your, and kind of just, just be honest with yourself that you are biased as a parent because you have different things, whatever.

Teachers are teachers following curriculum that is presented to them, whatever.

So I feel like if, and so people who are homeschooling their kids, how do you

self-regulate your bias?

Like,

you're going to teach them about

the earth is so many billion years old?

Are you going to teach them that the the earth is 6,000 years old based off the Bible?

How do you eliminate bias?

I guess is my question.

And how do you, like, I don't know.

That's the thing.

I guess homeschool, they can do what they want.

That's a little freaky.

I kind of eliminate they want to.

I know, but that's, that's what I'm saying, though, is that I think as parents, we have to admit to ourselves that we have this subconscious thing about being a bias teacher.

I mean, I know.

I, for a fact, that if I my if my kid was going to a school who was teaching creationism, I would have a problem with that.

Yeah.

You know what I mean?

Like, you're so dynamic.

You know what I mean?

Like, you're teaching the Earth is only 6,000 years old.

That's not true.

Right.

And we have science to back that up.

And so that alone creates, I mean, what a missed opportunity for the child to learn about, you know what I'm saying?

It might make it any sense.

No, no.

Like, the bias.

Like, how do you, like, I don't even know if I trust myself to not be biased.

And I'm a pretty open-minded person.

And I feel like you'd have to be open-minded in order to homeschool.

But then again, it's like, you know, people are gonna do what they wanna do with their kids, and if they feel like homeschooling is good for them and their family, absolutely go home.

Great, but I guess, I guess, for us, our household, I, yeah, I go to the point of the house.

I know, but the energy I'm getting from the homeschooling community is that, okay, you're better than me, got it, right?

It's a weird thing, you don't have to tell me these things, I'm giving it to you.

Like,

you can have it, you can have it, you're better than me, so much better than me.

Okay, great.

But

it's almost like when kids are homeschooled with a specific curriculum, and then they go to like a

private college

in you know, let's just say a private Christian college that you know you're you're missing like the kids deserve to go out and see other things and if you're if you're comfortable

I know but if you're comfort I think you're kind of like you're not you're it's kind of a disservice to the children They might not look at it that way though

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And like I said, I'm saying this depending on what kind of curriculum you're following at home.

I don't know if are they going to teach about Martin Luther King Jr.?

Are they going to teach about certain stuff that has happened in American history and just certain things?

I don't know.

I think with the, with the, with the climate, especially politically, like nowadays, I feel like it's getting weird.

Like, you're taking out certain books.

Yep, you're eliminating certain books.

Uh,

and I think that's not even in just homes,

no, the public school.

No, I'm saying it, yeah, but even like private schools, like you're paying money

to go to private school.

No, what I'm saying, though, is that private school, sure, you can, you can, that's what you pay for.

You pay to be biased and teach them what you want to teach them and what the school wants to teach them, right?

Um, that's why it's private.

That's why you pay money, that's why you wear uniforms, right?

Public school, though, that is not the place to put any kind of restrictions on

knowledge and learning.

You can't do that.

It's public.

It's a public school.

Like, you can't have, you know, you can't take away certain books out of there.

You know what I mean?

And so they're doing that.

And that's what I'm saying.

This kind of climate we're in is concerning because you're going to raise a whole generation of homeschool kids who believe the earth is only 6,000 years old.

Does that not everybody, though?

But what I'm saying, no, I know, not everybody, but I'm saying, like, that's, that's an example of a concern that I would have.

Like, you're, and then they go to college and figure out, oh, holy shit, the earth isn't, you know, you're right, like, so it's not, yeah, and it's because you chose to, to, to go the route of, um,

of a biased system, and maybe it's like, I don't know, I just feel like it's,

I don't know, it's weird to me, it's weird,

and it's concerning.

I don't want a whole generation of dum-dums because

they but I bet you there are some really good parents out there that homeschool.

No, I think there's a lot of good parents.

No, I'm not.

God, please don't, I'm not saying anything about homeschooling parents or whatever.

As a whole.

Yeah, as a whole.

I'm saying certain ones that I've seen.

Yeah.

Commenting on my stuff saying that this is why we homeschooled and blah, blah, blah.

It's like, all right, dude.

Like, uh-huh.

So that's, it's concerning that we're might be raising kids to not have full access to the knowledge that they should have access to.

I get that.

And that's also why I kind of like, I feel the same way about private school in a way because they can just choose.

Well, and I think that's, but that's why that's why.

Like what?

Well, yeah.

And that's why people interview the schools when they're wanting to go to private school.

You find out like who teaches, you know,

what you are, what you believe to be true or whatever.

Yeah, you're right.

So you pretty much, as a parent, do the due diligence.

Yeah, absolutely.

Research, research, research.

Meet with the schools.

Yeah.

How do you figure it out?

Look at their curriculum, all that.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But that just got me thinking, like, wow, what, like, hmm, yeah, and thankfully for us, too, like, we where we are, where, like, where we live, we have such a good

school school district.

I mean, there is some sketchy things going on with like teacher, teachers being paid, and like weird shit there

where you know, the teachers have been like protesting and shit.

And in my belief, is like they are, they deserve it.

And I'm so proud of all the teachers going out there and protesting.

Um, I was talking to Nova the other day.

I said, I hope they, I said, I wish they would do a whole walkout.

Like when all the kids are at the school, all, oh, there's no teachers here.

And Nova goes, well, then what do we do?

And I said, you walk out with those teachers.

Absolutely.

You know what I mean?

You go and you stand with them.

That's how you show the bit, you know, the biggest.

Yeah.

You know what I mean?

Yeah.

But other than that, like, we have a very good school district as far as like

curriculum and how much these teachers just love the kids here.

Like, we're, I'm blessed that we have that we're in the school district that we are.

Yeah, and I guess it comes down to like how, how, how good you are at vetting the schools, like, you know, and we did a pretty good job of that.

Well, I wasn't gonna move to a place that the school is so yeah, even if I love the house because I'm

a kid and I know I'm gonna have more.

Like, that's what I'm doing.

And plus, we never, we've, we've never even thought about private school.

No, I wouldn't want to do it.

I like my kids to be able to wear certain clothes that they want.

I just, yeah, freedom of expression, yeah, and all of it.

Um, yeah, it's just not for our family, yeah.

That's okay, like for our family at all, um, yeah, But also, you know, even the

like, how does that even work?

Now I'm like really curious about like, how does it work?

What?

Like, how do your kids gain any

social

structure, knowledge, whatever

if you're

always at home?

I think that's why they do.

I think that's why in the more recent years, people have been doing like the meetup.

homeschool teachings with other kids and things like that.

But one week co-op meeting a week is not going to do the same thing thing that it would do for a kid to eat every single day

with a multicultural, multi-background kid.

Yeah, in a cafeteria and in the playground.

You know what I'm saying?

So it's not the same thing.

Yeah, like that's crazy.

I also feel like, and then it got me thinking about, oh, the intention with homeschooling.

Is it more to do with your control as a parent?

Like, do you want, do you think you're smarter than the administration at the current school, public school you're going to be able to do?

you're not?

Do you know what I'm saying?

Or is it about you?

Like I said, if I was selfish, I'd keep home and I'd give them a little online program and yay, I love you so much.

Yeah, I know.

But that's not what I want for my kid.

I don't want my kid to be a good idea.

I didn't go to school to teach or to teach kids or none of that.

So I'm not qualified.

But like I said, so the asking of the intention, like, what is it for?

Is it for you to have control as a parent, more control as a parent?

Or is it because you

want them home with you all the time?

Is it, you know, what is it for?

I don't know.

I'm just curious.

It got me, got my brain.

I feel like what I've heard a lot in the past is it's more or less they want to know exactly what their children are being taught.

Well, that information is available to you as a parent at every school.

Yeah.

You go talk with the person.

Can I get a booklet, a curriculum printout?

Can I get a printout of what you're required as a teacher?

It's, you know what I mean?

Especially public school.

It's all public.

You can get that information.

So if that's what it's all about, well, then do it.

And then what you do, the beautiful thing about public school is that you don't like something, you go to the board meetings.

You can actually have a, you have a a way to fight a little bit for certain things to change or, or, you know, whatever.

Um, and I just don't feel like you get that freedom with private school or like online school.

What do you do?

Contact them.

I don't know.

Private schools, you might because I mean, they are getting money from these people that are putting these kids in their school.

True.

So they might even have like more of a poll

as far as like at the board meetings and shit like that.

You know what I mean?

Because without these kids, you got zero money, bro.

True.

You know?

But I don't know.

I'm not fully educated in this whole thing.

No, I'm just talking.

I just throw the comment on my post, and I'm like, wow, it feels like you're

just feels a little

side-eye.

You know what I mean?

Like, well, homeschool then.

It's like, whoa, okay.

Why don't you come home school?

Yeah,

you go homeschool, bro.

Like, what?

I'm not doing it.

Hell no.

And maybe, and I tell you, I thought about it multiple times because I was so sad.

I don't have the, I just, yeah, I don't know.

I would not be a good teacher.

I wouldn't either.

I know that.

Yeah, me too.

So, no, no, thank you.

I just didn't think it would hit me as hard as it did

with Raya.

Yeah.

I kept trying to hold that, you know, that lump.

Yeah,

yeah.

Well, her firsts are all of our lasts.

You know, we get to do, you know, the bigger kids are doing things, and, you know, but like her lasts are our, her firsts are our last.

Like, we don't have any more children after that, you know.

But also, it's like, you think about all the beautiful firsts that you're going to have with like Nova and Beta, too, you know, because they're getting older.

Um,

but even what, Nova's missed like two days of school already, and it's only the second week in.

And

I was telling Ty and I think Amber and stuff too.

I was like, can't be fucking missing school, dude, because they, we are, we have a trip to Disney where they're missing a whole week and they don't even fucking know about it.

Like, you gotta go to school.

I know.

Obviously, if they're puking and shit, like, that's different.

I'm not gonna force you to go to school.

That's just wrong.

Plus, I don't send sick kids to school because that's how shit spreads.

Yeah.

But I'm just like, in my head, I'm like, oh my God.

I know.

Yeah, but you should have saw her that morning.

Her stomach, she was bawling her eyes out.

Well, yeah, and you're, you know, it's like, all right, yeah, no.

But see, I, but I didn't listen to my rule.

I went against my

intuition said no.

Yeah, but she probably would have called us anyways at the school.

The way she was crying, I think it'd be different if I was seeing her.

She was crying hard.

I was sent her to school like that.

And I was like, listen, though, you don't have a fever.

You ain't puking.

You're going to school.

If you puke at school, you spike a fever at school, they'll call me and then I'll come get you.

And she just the way she was like, okay, I was like, oh, okay, all right, right, didn't feel right, dude.

Yeah, I was like, you're yeah, got it.

Good.

I'm glad you went off that.

I did because I was like, oh, you look like

she was in pain, I could tell.

So, yeah, it was weird.

Stomach aches and stuff.

Yeah.

It's only the second week.

Fuck, man.

Like, what?

You didn't even got to get up with them in the morning.

No, I do all the bedtime stuff, though.

I know, but it's funny.

You're like, oh, it's only the second week.

I mean, as far as like sickness,

oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like, what?

It's crazy.

It is crazy.

I'm like, do they use lice haul in these places?

Like, are we wiping shit down?

Are we making kids wash their hands?

Like, what's going on here?

Because this is crazy.

They always spread stuff in school, though.

It's inevitable.

Oh, yeah.

This will probably be the first year Raya gets sick.

Yeah.

You know?

Oh, yeah.

Shit.

That's right.

Oh, she's...

Not a fun, sick kid, dude.

She is whiny.

No, but there are some kids who are a little self-sufficient.

Give him a blanket on the couch.

Right in juice and stuff.

So kind of chill.

No, she's like, eh.

No, Raya's more or less like, hold me, let me lay on you.

If you get up and walk away, she's like,

oh, my God, you are the neediest, whiniest fucking sick kid ever.

So funny.

But yeah,

I just wanted to bring that up a little bit because I didn't notice

that was a comment that I received when I posted about it.

But that wasn't the only comment I got.

I got a comment.

A lot of, guys.

I don't know what it is going on with society and the albism, whatever is happening, because it's definitely something.

Talk about autistic diagnosis, being diagnosed with autism on the spectrum, whatever.

Like,

you people, I don't know what's going on.

Society is either losing empathy, we are getting hardened.

I don't know what's happening, but the comments were so appalling.

They were disgusting.

They were, yeah, they were.

You're right.

They were downright just disgusting.

There was people that were supportive and like going at some of these people for sure, which thank you because they were speaking so many truths.

But the people that, some people on there, I'm like, you're just disgusting.

You know, so what?

So you call what?

Like this one bitch that messaged you, you want to call my nephew a pussy because he's got fucking autism?

Right.

Who the fuck are you?

I don't.

Come to my fucking house and tell me to my face

about my husband.

It's disturbing.

Because I will beat the shit out of you.

And

you can be on the editor.

But like you said, all the other autistic people, you're saying, oh, you're not autistic, you're just an asshole.

You're not autistic, you're just a pussy.

You're not autistic, you're just narcissistic.

Like, what all these things?

I'm like, bro.

Uh-huh.

Or I saw somebody who was like, oh, yeah, I call bullshit.

They just needed a storyline.

I'm like, again, we don't ever come up with fucking storylines for our show.

It's literally our fucking life.

And if you don't understand that, then I guess something is really wrong with you.

It's not like we sit here and brainstorm about, oh, let's pretend you're fucking autistic.

Right, right.

Let's pretend that, like, I had a miscarriage or that I'm struggling with my mental health.

Is that what it is, though?

People really, maybe they're so far disconnected that the fact that we're real human beings experiencing real life struggles, triumphs, whatever.

That is what is documented.

Our series has always been a docu-series,

like a documentary.

They just follow our life.

So we don't script shit in our lives to make a fucking storyline.

Yeah, and there are times where we were filming.

We had to do a pickup.

They call it pickup scenes where it's like, oh, I didn't get you walking the door.

Hey, can you repeat that?

You just said that.

My camera wasn't on you.

There are situations that happen like that, but that's not the same as like coming.

What blows my mind is you really think,

and anyone that, as you know, anyone that's diagnosed ASD, whatever, like, you think we all just wake up and want this or something?

It's weird.

Like, you think this is something that people want to have?

Right.

Like, what are you crazy?

Sure.

Like, and, like, you said, you think, like, what do I got to do?

Pull out my whole report?

Right.

And show it to you.

Like, I'll be honest, diagnosed.

I diagnosed it.

Yeah, what's none of your fucking business?

Well, first of all, well, and honestly, though, what makes me question if

anyone came to me and said, oh, I got diagnosed with anxiety disorder, I'm not going to be like, fucking bullshit.

Like, what, bro?

Oh, you're fucking lying.

Oh, you're lying.

You just want attention.

What?

Right.

Where have we

empathy?

How have we gotten here to society where we're instead of saying, oh, wow, can you explain more about that?

Or, oh, wow.

What are you doing with that?

Yeah, what is that like?

Or you're going to question people's diagnosis?

You're going to literally shame them.

Shame them for having it.

Tell them that they're liars for having it.

Like, where is

going on?

It's the empathy thing.

Yeah.

It's LBism.

It really is.

What is LB is?

Oh, I don't want to get it wrong.

Let me just, I'll.

Yeah, so a discrimination and prejudice against people with disabilities based on the belief that a non-disabled body or mind is superior, resulting in practices and attitudes that exclude and devalue disabled individuals.

So it's like it's a society-based belief.

Like,

oh, you could almost like, oh, God,

you get diabetes, right?

Or I don't know.

Well, you can just lose weight and get rid of it.

Like, you're, you're, you're.

It's like, that's not always accurate.

It's not always accurate.

Type one, type two you know there so but that's what i'm like wow this is actually interesting i have never once in my head saw someone be vulnerable and say i just got diagnosed with blah

where'd you get it from bullshit i don't see no symptoms right you haven't you you don't okay you got cancer right like what the fuck you know like

dude like it's because they're doing it behind screens what the fuck is wrong with you

i'm about to post the bitch's face i mean the comments i was getting like, I think I sent it to you, but I'll pull it up because I think people don't get it.

Like, this is what, this is how, this is, this is where we are with society.

This is where people are belief.

And that's sad too, because it's like, so what?

Do you look at all these little kids and stuff, too, that get diagnosed with autism and you're thinking these things?

Like, or is it just adults that get diagnosed that you're judging them for?

Because if you're judging anybody because they're sharing that they have an autism

diagnosis, you are a sick, cold-hearted individual.

Like this one right here.

Always, look, he's insufferable, always a victim.

No matter what the situation or scenario, he's somehow always a victim.

What?

Guys.

Okay.

You think that I'm like, you think I'm actively choosing to be

this way?

Like, bro, I

don't know.

Okay.

Yeah.

I just think it's, it's like, these people are really unnecessarily cruel.

Autism, more like assholism.

That one was funny, but still, it's funny, but it's fucked up.

That's fucked up.

It is.

Because

what the fuck does that mean?

So

you're questioning the diagnosis instead of saying, I'm an asshole.

Right.

Just undiagnosed assholes.

What the fuck, bro?

Like,

yeah, it needs attention.

That's what I mean.

Like, do you people really?

Yeah, don't blame having autism with being an asshole.

You just collect a mental health diagnosis as a hobby.

Like, why?

Yeah, because that's something that I want to have and do.

Like, what the fuck, dude?

I have never ever went after anybody.

And I never, it would never be a thought in my brain if someone said, oh my god, I just got diagnosed with whatever the fuck it is.

Right.

Anxiety disorder.

I got PDSD.

I remember like, bullshit.

Right.

You got PDSD, you pussy bitch.

Like, what the fuck is going on?

Where have we?

And I think, okay, anyone listening,

if you hear this type of stuff coming from other people,

please take it upon yourself to be a social justice warrior and stand firm and say that was wrong.

Or stand up for all types of people.

Please stand up for the, because, because I am, it's so exhausting to see lack of empathy,

coldness, and just judgment for nobody.

And that's the popular comment.

That's the popular belief.

Instead of all the comments that are like, you know, supportive and showing empathy.

It's like, oh, I'm so happy you could feel it.

No, it's like dying.

I think society, we're in a weird culture war, I almost feel like where we're like, I don't know.

Have you thought?

Have you thought about just disabling your comments?

I mean, no, listen, listen, I'm not saying I don't drown in these comments.

I know you don't, but I'm just saying, why give people the platform?

I think it shows, I think,

people are talking.

Because listen, there were a lot of people, I will say, everyone out there defending it.

Beautiful job.

You guys did a great job.

You were listing things that were factual and not opinion-based.

You were being emotional, so

that's why.

It's because sure that's the most common.

Everyone's like, Yeah,

let's come together and hate.

But then there are people, and those people deserve, that's what deserves to be shown and seen,

is the

empathy.

Because I think people are jumping on a hate train that's like

they're finding

community in this hate and just being an asshole.

Who would want to live like that?

No, I'm not sure.

I'm not disturbed.

That's disturbing.

But that's what I'm saying.

i'm confused on where we where we're at so i i i like really urge people to just be a social justice warrior and go out there and and defend people and stand up for like that's don't let it just slide by if they if you hear someone say something fucking stupid and it hits you ignorant mean cruel unnecessarily cruel say whoa bro yeah like that was you know what i mean i don't know just try harder guys this is No, sad.

No, some of those people, though, I'm literally like, I'm like, come to my fucking house.

You want my address?

I I will give you my address.

I want you to stand in front of me and say that to my husband because I will knock your fucking teeth out.

And you're not just saying it to me.

You're saying it about anyone who's reading these comments who have autism.

Yes.

Or any kind of thing.

And then you wonder why people don't.

Don't talk about it.

Thank you.

Or they're too nervous or scared to get diagnosed.

Yeah, they're scared to get diagnosed.

We got people.

We got a society.

We fucking judgment.

Literally telling you your doctor's wrong.

You're fucking wrong.

Because you're a bitch.

Okay, Sally, because you went to school to be a fucking doctor that diagnoses people.

Sit down.

No, it's funny.

I actually responded to one comment.

I said, all I said was, no, you're absolutely right.

All the doctors with PhD degrees and 20 years experience

and people who are expert in their field of study, psychology, whatever it is, you're right.

They're all wrong, but you, Sally, are right.

Right, sure.

Like, what the fuck is going on?

It's so weird, bro.

That's a perfect comment, too.

Like, what?

you're right they're all you're right yeah you're right those people are all spent half their lives in school they're but they're wrong and people almost and this goes to show the people who are even on tick tock who make a living off hating on us like sure you're right right you're right you're right everyone else is wrong i don't have autism i have odd right i don't have autism i have narcissism

like what the fuck no yeah you're right they're all wrong yep my psychiatrists are wrong right all the doctors are wrong right But you, random online TikTok hater, whatever the fuck you are.

What degree let me say that?

Nothing.

You're sitting on the fucking floor.

Right.

In your room, like it's weird.

You're right.

You're right.

Yeah.

You're right.

All the doctors and professionals who are experts in their field who went to school for this are wrong.

You're right.

I feel like some people really believe that shit.

It's crazy.

And then you're the one who's got some mental health issues.

No, I really feel like

the comments are a projection.

They have to be because there's no,

you don't go out of your way to say something like that to somebody.

Like I said, dude,

kindness is so easy, guys.

Yo, why is that so hard for people to check?

Why don't you sit in your brain?

You know how many

judgmental thoughts I have in my brain per day?

I never say them out loud.

And I don't allow them to sit in my head for long enough to even think about writing it in a comment.

Right.

It passed.

I'm like, oh, that was a little weird.

But I don't say them.

And like, I don't dwell on it.

Like, and kindness is so easy where you just, you just go, wow, that must be harder.

I don't understand

that

uh

well and if so let me learn about it or whatever i don't know just

and if culture doesn't change when it comes to like people sharing diagnoses men like speaking about mental health even all the things then the stigma is always going to be there then we're always going to have people taking their own lives because they're too nervous scared to be judged by people it's like all of the things like the stigma around everything will always stand if people can't just be kind or learn to shut the fuck up.

And I'm not saying just be, and we need to do more than just be kind.

You need to call out, which that's what I mean when I say social justice warrior.

You need to call out when you see the unnecessary cruelty happen in front of you

or online stuff.

Yeah.

Be that person.

And yeah, you may get a lot of

understand that hate is really loud right now for some reason.

Hate is louder than love right now.

I don't know why.

I don't know what's going on.

I think it has a lot to do with just, like I said, it's a fucking culture war.

I don't know.

So as a culture, we're in a war.

You're a warrior.

You're a fucking soldier.

Get out there.

You need to do more than just be kind.

You need to call out the cruelty when you see it.

Right.

I agree.

And show the mirror in front of people.

Like,

you didn't have to leave this comment.

And I think people kind of like they separate social media people or internet famous people or quote-unquote famous celebrities.

They separate them from real people.

Because it's like, yeah, dude.

When you comment something

really mean and negative or whatever, and then someone goes, wow, that was really,

someone calls you out, one of those social justice warriors says, hey, that was really cruel and mean.

Try some empathy.

They go, well, they put the lies out there for us to judge, and that's what I'm doing.

It's like, bro.

You can still choose fucking empathy.

Hey, I'm not saying anything at all.

You're right.

I am putting my life publicly out there to be scrutinized.

to a point.

Right.

But that's not the only reason I'm doing this.

And also, why do you want and desire to be a part of that scrutiny?

Why do you want

to?

Because they're miserable themselves.

It's just like bullies in school.

You're projecting.

You have to be.

There's no explanation.

That's like when you know when you're in elementary school, middle school, and you're being bullied.

It's like, you know, like people always say, you know, that that kid has either got something going on at home, he doesn't love himself, she

maybe doesn't have the best home life, whatever it is, there's always something going on.

You know what I mean?

And they're bullies.

Because I'll be honest with you, truly healed people don't spend their time on TikTok criticizing and bashing other people or anything.

Truly secure,

healed people

do not leave unnecessarily cruel comments on public posts.

Right.

No, I agree.

Healed,

you know,

people who are secure do not go on random forum pages and just bathe in hatred and judgment.

They don't do that.

No, you're right.

I don't do that.

I'm a very healed individual.

I have a lot of healing to do.

We're continuing this journey, whatever.

I'm a human being, whatever.

I probably never done.

It's a lifelong journey.

It's a lifelong journey, whatever.

But I am a secure, healing individual.

And I have yet to this day go on anyone's public post and be unnecessarily critical

or a forum or start a, whatever the fuck.

I haven't started any hate, you know, snark pages, none of that stuff.

So it's like, I know we can all do it.

Yeah.

I know everyone's capable of doing it.

Some people just don't want to grow up and learn and change.

And there's always going to be.

I want to know.

I almost want to get a psychologist and say, what is this like, what is the social, like, what is a social study about

people

coming together, not for a good cause, but just to hate work.

They're common.

I think maybe it's like they didn't have a community or maybe like close friendships until they start doing these things, like forums and talking about specific people.

That's a good point.

And then when people start feeding into that, they're like, oh, I I agree, it makes them feel like, oh, I have a sense of community now, they all believe me too.

And it's like, whatever, yeah, but they, but to know that your whole friend group is based off of your common shared hatred, yeah, it's strange.

I know, it's strange, very, very weird.

It is very, yeah, it's toxic.

It is, it's got to be that's what I said.

I'm like, how do you live every day?

Like, you know, like it's oh my god, it blows my mind.

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Anyway, I just thought that was really interesting because, and I also felt really bad reading some of the comments because I know that there's people, I've had private messages of people writing me saying, you know, thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this diagnosis, you know, publicly and talking about it and just getting people talking about

autism.

Because it needs to be talked about.

And

those people who are writing me and they're saying stuff like, oh, my son just got diagnosed, my sister was diagnosed, all these people that

they're like, oh, I just got diagnosed myself.

They're reading this stuff.

Right.

So So you're not just commenting on me.

Like, please understand that you're really making it very difficult for anyone to come forward and be vulnerable and talk about it.

That's that,

which holds that stigma.

And, you know,

you're contributing to people.

You're contributing to people possibly killing themselves

and doing permanent harm.

Like that one girl who got, who killed herself and she had kids, right?

Yeah.

And her husband and just, I think we talked about it before, but yeah, that story really hit me.

It's like, dude, this is what your unnecessarily cruel cruelty is doing to people you don't know what people are going through you know I just mind blow I actually didn't think that there would be that much like criticism on me coming out and saying that I was diagnosed autistically I'm I'm shocked I'm like still reading so like wow dude why are you reading it though no I'm well because it's interesting to me it is well why it looks very interesting you and I are so different because it's like literally my pages are like

if I don't follow you you can't comment it because I'm like I ain't giving you the time of fucking day or the platform You can message me all you want, and I see lots of messages and shit.

No, I get your approach.

I think my approach is more from a studying perspective.

I like to see autism.

Like, I'll be honest.

Let me study these people.

Let me figure it out.

Because I think, listen, literally, last night I came upstairs and he's like, I was plugging in our tablet so we could record them around.

And he's like, Did you know?

And I'm like, Here, it goes.

And he's like, Did you know that cold water has negative calories?

And I'm I'm like, what?

I'm like, what are I like?

I'm like, so what about hot water?

I'm like, does that have no calories?

No, at first, you're like, how does water?

I thought water has zero calories.

I'm like, yeah, it does have zero calories.

Cold, ice cold water has negative calories.

And you're like, what?

I know.

And it's like, well, it's negative calories.

Your body spends calories

burning calories to regulate the cold water temperature to your body.

It's not interesting.

Am I the only one that thinks that's interesting?

No, it's interesting, but it's so fucking funny because if people could ever know, like, we just have to, we might have to create a spot of the podcast where it's like Tyler's did you know

because

he says it so many times a week.

And no, a lot of them are still.

This is why I love you because you tolerate me.

Well, yeah, and that's shit that I've never known.

I'm like, oh, wow, that's actually really interesting.

But it's so funny because, and it's the most random fucking times of the day, night.

You know, we could be almost going to bed like blank calling, hey, did you know?

And I'm like, where the fuck did that come from?

You know, you do, though, don't you?

I know.

It's because, guys, when I get new information and I learn something, I'm like, whoa, I don't know.

Yeah, you want to share it.

You want to share it.

I'm like a little kid with candy.

You want to share the candy.

Come here.

Oh, you know what I mean?

That's how it feels for me.

I'm like, dude.

Dude, but, and it's funny because I noticed Nova does the same shit.

I love it.

She'll teach me things.

Hey, mom, did you know that?

And I'm like, no, I did not.

Like, she told me the one day.

She's like, did you know that it's that the kiwi birds should actually be extinct?

And I was like, no, why?

And she's like, because when they have their eggs, their eggs are actually the complete size of their bodies.

And so when they push out the eggs, she's like, basically, they should just be killing themselves.

Like, she teaches me things all the time.

And I'll look at stuff up on Google.

And I'm like, oh my God, she's right.

Yeah.

She's her father.

Did you know?

No, but I also welcome it too.

Cause if I say something and it's like, oh, yeah, I welcome it.

Please, like, I want to learn more about it.

So if you go on Google and find something contradictory to what I'm saying, please let me know.

I would love to same thing with Nova, and I'll be like, oh, well, actually, like, you were almost right, but this is how it happens, you know?

And she's like, oh, okay, you know, like, because you know, if it happens that she's only partially right about something, I want her to know, be, you know, like, I just learned the other day that hyenas pretty much give birth through a giant clit.

Yeah, I saw that.

Did you see it too?

Yeah.

Like, actually, it's like the most excruciating.

Yeah, it's the most excruciating thing.

So their clit just like comes out of their body?

No, they're a giant clit pee-hole clit hole thing.

Comes out like a penis, like a clitene.

It's a giant, yeah.

And it's very like to pass through, yeah, it's a whole thing, dude.

Why doesn't it just come out their vagina?

They don't really have one, really, to what extent

they have a clit, yeah.

It's like a giant.

So don't they have sex that goes in their clit, too?

Oh, I don't know.

Or their asshole.

Well, they got a clit hole, mostly a real clit on a human, like, whatever, doesn't have a hole.

Well, it's just the urethra, right?

Well, the urethra is below the clit.

Well, what then?

What then?

There's no hole in the clitoris.

No, honey, there's no hole in the clitoris.

You're fucking lying.

I'm not lying.

Did you know?

Did you know that the clit does not have a hole?

I did not.

Really?

Where did you think the pee comes from?

You thought it came out of your clit?

Yeah, like.

What?

No, girl.

Dude.

No.

The urethra is very close.

It's below the clit.

Below it.

It's called the U-spot.

You know the erogenous zones of the vulva?

We're not ultimately.

That's one of them.

Okay.

Okay, well, look at it.

It's a fucking U-spot.

It's called a U-spot.

Some girls really

get turned on by you messing around through urethra hole hole or that area.

Oh.

Whatever.

Hmm.

Okay.

Interesting.

I don't know.

Anyway, yeah.

So, no, your clit does not have a fucking hole.

But I think hyenas, they do, because it's like a...

Yeah, now I'm intrigued.

I'm like, what?

Yeah, look it up.

Because they literally, yeah, they're supposed to.

Do they have a vagina or just a clit, I wonder?

They do.

Right?

They do.

But they,

but the canal isn't, they don't give it, you know.

That is weird.

I know.

It's a whole, I don't even, just look it up, man.

I don't know, man.

We're talking about hyena clits and shit.

No, not a human clip.

I'm shocked.

I can't believe you didn't.

I can't believe you, as a woman, thought that the clip has a fucking hole.

I know a lot about my own vagina.

So, you know, we've had many conversations about, you know, but actually, it's proven that a lot of women don't even really know a lot about their own vaginas.

Yeah, it is.

They don't know about, they don't know.

They're volvas, right?

That's actually, there you go.

Ding ding.

It's a volva.

Ding ding.

Ding ding.

But yeah.

Indian for people to think you're gay and you know so much shit about the volva of a woman.

Girl, yo, you only knew, you know what I'm saying?

I got a master's degree in that.

No, but I.

But it's because it's very interesting to me that I think the female body is

one of the most divine creations

ever made.

And I think in another life, I was probably

like a,

I guess not an OB.

That's a little weird.

But I don't know.

It's very interesting, though.

The women's reproductive system and everything about it.

The fact that...

Maybe you were a scientist or something.

Yeah, but the fact that

you have an organ designed for pleasure.

The clip doesn't do anything for you right no reproductive purpose at all right so what the fuck multiple orgasms girls can have those you know what I'm saying yeah it's crazy yeah we are I think the scientific theory is correct about the clip used to be inside of the canal maybe because you used to walk on all fours but evolution now it's outside of the canal so it back there's a theory that when we were all on all fours and we were you know closer to the primate whatever whatever uh that the woman would have to have an orgasm in order for the egg to drop drop.

And they're like, because what?

There's no.

It should still be that.

Yeah, that's what you're talking about.

I was like, yo, listen, if

girls were, or women were required to have an orgasm in order for an egg to drop and be fertilized,

the birth rate would be a lot motherfucking lower.

Right, because some guys are lazy as fuck.

They're lazy as hell.

I don't understand.

So, but I think it's interesting.

I'm like, wow, that's really weird.

But that's the theory is that once we started standing up, evolution to gold, and once we started standing up on all twos or all twos.

All twos.

Once we started standing up upright and walking, the click gradually grew outside of the canal and closer to the

up.

Yeah.

That is strange, isn't it?

And so in a way, it's like, how cool would that be, though, if society was so like that?

Because then it's like, hey, either you're good at this or you're not.

And if you ain't good at it,

you don't work your damn distance.

No, you're not.

It makes you think,

what has that done to evolution?

Well, like you said, when we had this conversation a couple days ago, like you said, who knows, maybe it would have made us closer to being extinct.

True.

Even, you know, you don't know.

But evolution is usually always on the side of, you know, keeping us alive and going.

But yeah.

But also,

so,

also this week, we

adopted a new dog.

Oh, yeah.

Yep.

Baxter.

Yeah, he's kind of snuggling next to me right now.

They can't see him.

You don't think so.

Come up.

Oh, okay.

Here, hold my mic.

For all the audio listeners, stand by.

Oh, Baxter.

Look at him.

He's just scared.

He's like four years old.

I'm pretty sure he was not treated very well because he's very skittish and scared, but he's getting used to us.

Oh, Baxter.

We rescued a dog.

Yeah, we rescued him.

We also rescued our Remy, our bigger dog that we have.

And Baxter is definitely

working on like building confidence and trust.

He's very, very scared.

Absolutely, it is sad.

Yeah,

so we don't really know much about like his home lives.

I know that we are his third home, so I think it's harder for him to like build trust because so many, but trust me, this is his third and his final home, yeah.

But I, and I feel bad because I think so many people, you know, he probably gets trust with these people and lets loose, and then he's given away, and then he has to do it all over again.

Like, that's sad.

I know, it is sad.

Um, and we're still

having a couple problems with him, like, just not wanting to go outside to use a bathroom.

I mean, I can walk out there for a half hour and walk in all these different spots, and he just doesn't go.

And he has had a couple accidents in the house.

And then I'm like Googling stuff because I'm like, oh, my God.

I think it might be a nervous system thing.

He just noticed that.

They said that.

I looked it up and it said, you know, a lot of, because he's not really eating much either.

I offer food all the time.

He more or less will drink water, but he's been having the runs and he's just not wanting to eat a lot.

And so I'm thinking, just this, because this is day four.

Do you think we should get some Xanax, maybe?

Right?

Like, no, seriously, I know that because you can use it, like, to like, like, I know some people use it for their dogs to even go to sleep.

Yeah.

Like, help sleep because they're so hyper or crazy.

I'm like, yeah, but I did, I was doing some research too, and they said, like, rescue dogs, like, they, there is a higher tendency of them having accidents because they're just stressed and nervous and scared.

Yeah.

And I don't know.

He's like super, super scared.

Yeah, I've actually never met a dog this scared before.

Yeah.

It's sad.

It's heartbreaking.

But then when we leave to like go get the kids or like, you know, and then we come home, then he's like, this past yesterday and today, we come home and he's like actually wagging his tail.

Like his tail's not locked in between his legs.

He's licking his tail, whining, giving kisses.

And I'm like, okay, so I can see it in him.

We just gotta, it's just gonna take some time.

Yeah, but he'll get there.

But he's so cute.

He reminds me so much of Caddy.

When I first saw him, when I went in there, I cried.

I couldn't help it because I was like, oh my God.

Like,

remember, you kept showing us pictures too.

And all.

Like,

people don't hate me for this, but I can't stand certain dogs.

You know what I'm saying?

Oh, yeah.

And I, and I feel you on the whole, like,

not all chihuahuas are cute.

No, they're not.

Yeah.

They're not.

They're ugly ass, weird-shaped chihuahuas, bro.

And honestly,

I just don't like any dogs that have smush faces, wrinkles, droopy eyes.

That's how he was very picky.

Mouth, drool.

He's picky.

I don't like any pinky, pinky skin.

I don't like any albino-looking pink nose, pink ears, pink eyelids.

I know you're weird.

And I don't like any drooling dogs.

I I don't like any wrinkle dogs.

I don't like any dogs that have smushed snouts and stuff.

And anyway, so yeah, so I'm picky, I guess.

You kept showing me pictures.

I'm like,

you know,

you're cute.

So after we adopted Remy, we said, like, this will be the way that we go about it every time, you know, because there's so many just like people.

There's so many dogs sitting in these places that want forever-loving homes.

And that's what we're going to do, you know, from here on out.

Like we said, I'm not going to give money to a breeder that has puppies when we have tons of dogs, like really sad, like just wanting to be loved in a forever home.

So, I mean, if anybody is out there listening and say your home is ready for a dog or another one, like, please go look at your shelters, go on Pet Finder.

Like, if you're willing to drive two hours, four hours, whatever, like, go on Pet Finder.

You can talk to the people.

Yeah, you can talk to the people.

You can, you can, you know, you can filter about what kind of animals you want, all of the things.

And honestly, it's been the best thing that we've ever done.

Like, Remy has been the best dog ever.

We're still building confidence up with this guy, but it's only like day four.

But yeah, definitely look into

adopting.

And like a lot of adoption places too, like they do their due diligence.

Like we had to have background checks done.

We had to have

FaceTime meetings.

They wanted to.

We had to have a home tour.

Yeah.

I had to show them my home.

I had to show them my outside asked me, what do I do?

Because I don't have a fenced-in yard.

And

we use halo colors.

And like, they wanted to

know all the things because it's important to them, too.

Like, they don't want him bouncing around from place to place to place.

They want these animals to find their forever homes, too.

And so, yeah, it's just, it's, I like it, it's rewarding.

Especially when you can build their trust and they realize that they're not going anywhere and that you love them.

Then it's like, yeah.

Even better, yeah.

But,

and also, before we end today's episode, too, like me and Ty were talking today, like remember to be kind to people.

Or if you see somebody saying something negative, and you don't have to be negative in return, but just stand up for people, no matter what it is or what you see, all the things.

Be kind and maybe just take

a moment of this weekend, even just to say something kind to a stranger.

I feel like that's very important.

To someone, yeah, because it's important.

It is very important.

The world needs more of it.

Yeah, we do.

We need more kindness and empathy and empathy and sympathy for sure.

Especially all the keyboard social media

warriors out there.

True that.

But that's all we have this week for you guys, and we'll be talking to you guys next week.

Remember to

keep liking, rating, and reviewing our show.

Don't forget our Patreon that drops a week after.

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