We're Not Really Strangers: Weird Dreams & Empath Problems

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Speaker 1 Well, it's Wednesday and you know what that means.

Speaker 1 And a new episode of K and Ty Break It Down.

Speaker 2 Baxter, it's okay. We have the dog on Kate's lap.
So if you hear like a random growl or he's right here because

Speaker 2 Chihuahuas. And he's still getting used to everything.

Speaker 1 Yeah, any noises.

Speaker 1 He hates Tyler's niece.

Speaker 2 I don't know what it is.

Speaker 2 I think she works on a dog groomer. So she comes in here and I swear that's what it is.
See, you hear him growling.

Speaker 1 So she smells like 50 million dogs.

Speaker 2 That's got to be why.

Speaker 1 He's sitting here shaking right now. And every time she comes here, he's like,

Speaker 1 I even went downstairs to grab my phone and she's like, look, he's barking and he can't even see me.

Speaker 1 And I'm like, yeah, because he can smell you and all the 50 million dogs that you bathe a day, you know?

Speaker 1 So, yeah, well, Baxter's been with us, I don't know, what is probably two weeks?

Speaker 2 Yeah, two weeks. So

Speaker 2 he's still getting used to everything. And he's a petrified PDSD.
This dog be having post-traumatic everything.

Speaker 2 Listen.

Speaker 1 He definitely has post-traumatic stress disorder.

Speaker 2 I've never seen a dog shake and tremble as much as this dog or like have any

Speaker 2 like you can't even go behind him too fast or also crouch down and he'll yelp like you don't even touch him and he yells yeah so he's i don't know man yeah so i don't know if like previous owners like spanked him on his rear end or what but we're still just in the you said rear end oh i did yeah

Speaker 1 spanked him on his

Speaker 2 ass butt whatever i never heard you say rear end It's just a bad thing.

Speaker 1 What we talked about is rear-end.

Speaker 2 Wow, it sounded so professional.

Speaker 1 Very, uh, yeah, yeah, professional, classy,

Speaker 1 very classy, which I supposedly we lack.

Speaker 2 Oh, we definitely lack class. No, I'm not even gonna pretend that we have it.
I can go to a classy restaurant. Totally.

Speaker 2 Yeah. I mean, Hill Bills and still go to a classy restaurant.
You shine them up, spit on them, and there you go.

Speaker 2 Put some nice shoes on, then some gel on their hair, give them a bath, and they're ready to go.

Speaker 2 Whatever. But to pretend that we had class would be a lie.

Speaker 2 What? You think we're classy?

Speaker 1 I think we have a volume of class.

Speaker 2 No, no, okay. All right.

Speaker 2 Definitely. We have a volume of class.

Speaker 2 Where are we at? We got the mine coal miners. We got the, you know.

Speaker 1 What are you trying to say about coal miners?

Speaker 2 No, I'm saying, I'm thinking of old Western. We got the coal miner.
We got the

Speaker 2 shopkeeper. We got the, you know,

Speaker 2 tanner with all the hides.

Speaker 1 I mean, I would say like aristocrats.

Speaker 1 I would say that we are like

Speaker 2 like we're classy, but rough-edged classy. Like, I don't know what that means.

Speaker 1 Like, like, we're not dirty people.

Speaker 1 We're not, like,

Speaker 1 I don't know, like, we cuss and stuff, yeah, but

Speaker 2 I don't know shitters.

Speaker 1 I don't know. Like,

Speaker 1 I don't know. I guess I don't know.

Speaker 2 Well, I'm going to tell you right now, and for my opinion, I don't think we're very classy at all. I think.

Speaker 1 What's your definition of classy?

Speaker 2 Classy is like yacht clubs and, you know, a whole bunch of little, like, nice cars driving with the, you know what I mean? We got very normal cars. We got, you know,

Speaker 2 nice cars. I'm not wearing no Versace, Dolce Gabbana.
That's right. So that's class, in your opinion.
Class. Like, but I guess that doesn't mean anything.
Right. I don't know what I'm trying to say.

Speaker 2 All I know is I think we're just came from white trash

Speaker 2 trailer park people.

Speaker 1 I mean, yeah, I guess.

Speaker 2 You know?

Speaker 1 But it's weird because I feel like some people, like,

Speaker 1 I don't know, some people's definition of white trash is like dirty, gross, yeah, no, I agree, scummy, and it's like, no, we weren't dirty and scummy.

Speaker 2 No, I get it.

Speaker 2 You know, I guess, yeah, because when I think of white trash, I mean, I think of like there's garbage all over, yeah, and there's like, you know, the kids are wearing three XL shirts because, you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 There's mama smoking meth in the bathroom, you know.

Speaker 2 I mean, I mean, I don't know.

Speaker 2 I don't, I don't know. But anyway, I just thought that was funny because you said that, And then I'm like, wait, what do you think we are class-wise? I think we're.
I think we're normal. Yeah.

Speaker 2 I guess.

Speaker 2 Whatever your definition of normal. I'm not talking about like money-wise, I guess.

Speaker 2 No, right. I'm just talking about how we live and what we wear and how it is.

Speaker 2 I think we're,

Speaker 2 I think we just got above the white trash trailer party. Wow, you have low status for us.

Speaker 2 I don't think it's low. I think it's smart as hell.
I mean, think about it. When we got out of school, we were young and we got got the trailer.
We were still, I mean, that's smart. Get a trailer.

Speaker 2 We were an apartment first. Yeah, I know.
What do we do? We got a trailer. It's cheap.
Absolutely. $8,000, guys.
I loved my trailer. I mean, I mean, listen, or we redid it.
Yeah, we painted it.

Speaker 2 I put, I added baseboard trim. That made a big difference.
Didn't it, though? Yeah. I said, what we, I said, what you do.
I was like, how do you doctor up a trailer? I'll tell you how you do it.

Speaker 2 You go get the MDF cheap baseboards that are wobbly and kind of like they're not, it's MDF. It's not real wood.
You don't spend that, you know, get cheap cheap shit.

Speaker 2 And you border it out, you paint the paneling, and then you trim out the windows with the same MDF.

Speaker 1 Oh, right, yeah, we did trim out the windows. We did, yeah.

Speaker 2 And it gives, I'm telling you.

Speaker 1 We painted everything. We put the floors in there.

Speaker 2 The carpet makes it feel,

Speaker 2 you know?

Speaker 1 Yeah, and it was a single wide. And so after a while, it was like, you're sick and tired of just walking back and forth.
You can't really walk.

Speaker 1 Yeah, you can't really walk width-wise. But hey, I mean.

Speaker 2 How long did we stay there for? We were there for a few years. Yeah, I mean.

Speaker 1 up until we got Caesar, which was our Doberman. And then they were like, you can't have Dobermans here.
And I was like, he's a minpin.

Speaker 2 Liar.

Speaker 1 Well, we were in the process of buying a house.

Speaker 2 That's true.

Speaker 1 And so I was just, I was like, whatever.

Speaker 2 You know what's cool is that we left the trailer and we literally were like, all right, we're just going to buy a house. Cash.
Yeah. We were, what, 19 years old? It was 2000 and trying to think.

Speaker 2 Oh, Lord.

Speaker 2 I'm trying to think. 2010?

Speaker 1 Maybe.

Speaker 2 Housing was crap. Everything was cheap.

Speaker 1 It was like, well, it was a super, super cheap house.

Speaker 2 Very, very cheap. Like, dirt cheap.

Speaker 1 You ain't finding that ever again.

Speaker 2 You know, you ain't finding that house.

Speaker 1 But, yeah, and we were blessed to be able to do that for sure. Very blessed.

Speaker 2 I remember, remember, we got in our first house and we literally had to plan to get the floor sanded, but we didn't care.

Speaker 2 We went in the only bedroom that had carpet and got an air mattress and put it in there.

Speaker 1 I think we only did redid the bottom floor, though. Yeah, we did.
Yeah. So we were upstairs.
Yeah. Oh, yeah.
We were sleeping in that house while the the floors were getting done.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah. We had to.
Never forget it. Because I remember you couldn't step on the floors downstairs.
So you had to go down.

Speaker 1 You had to like stop at the very base of the stairs and then hop out the front door.

Speaker 1 Because you couldn't touch the floors that were getting ready.

Speaker 2 They're like, you might want to just move in after the floors are done. We were so excited.
We're like, we can't. No.

Speaker 1 We're so excited.

Speaker 2 Yep. Air mattress in the bedroom.

Speaker 1 Yeah, we've, I mean, shoot, I remember people, I'm sure people remember the scene too, even when we moved into our apartment and we got your mattress on your mom's minivan minivan and we didn't have tie-downs.

Speaker 1 What did we use? Was that an extension cord?

Speaker 2 It was extension cords, right?

Speaker 1 And I had to hold it down in the back

Speaker 2 in a certain way. I was like, oh,

Speaker 2 if you hold this, if you keep tension on this extension cord that has no was it an extension cord? Oh, yeah, it's an extension cord.

Speaker 2 I didn't have no bungees, and I was like, you know, we're getting this shit, moving it on the van. Yep, yep.

Speaker 1 Oh my god, that was funny. Cause we were, and

Speaker 1 it's our first place that we had to literally, like, we didn't have a couch, it was a uh, a futon futon mattress yeah like a futon couch that turned into a bed because i think that was my bed it was it was a lower yeah and it didn't even have feet yeah like we literally had it

Speaker 1 yeah we literally had it on milk crates sitting on milk crates yes angled up like a couch and my grandma my grandma took uh took me we went garage sale in and that's where we got like our microwave and she took me to uh like the resale shops we got pots and pans and stuff like that.

Speaker 2 And yeah, do you remember though when we were sitting there and we were like, oh, yeah, this is so great. I love this new apartment.
And then we're like, oh, oh, I'm going to start sweeping.

Speaker 2 I was like, oh, we don't got a, we don't got a broom. Right.
Just the little, dude, I was like, we don't have a fucking broom. The little thing.
Holy shit. Yeah, the little thing.

Speaker 1 It's like the, it's like when you first move in, like move out on your own. Yeah, you don't realize all the little tiny things that you need.
I know. You know, crazy.

Speaker 1 But I was like, oh, wait, I don't have a, uh,

Speaker 1 I don't even know. Like the most random shit.

Speaker 2 I started thinking about the broom. I was like, man, this is insane.
Yeah, you gotta buy a vacuum. I was not ready for this.
I was like, that's when it all hit me.

Speaker 2 I said, I'm, I'm, uh, what is it called? Imposter syndrome. I said, dude, I don't, I'm not old enough.
I'm not mature enough. I don't even have a broom.
Who moves out of the house without a broom?

Speaker 2 Who's out of the house without proper pots and pans? Yep. We had one frying pan.

Speaker 1 Well, you know,

Speaker 2 we had to do what we had to do, you know?

Speaker 1 It was like, I need to get out. And then you were just coming.
I was going to be out regardless. But

Speaker 2 yeah, I was coming. My mom was pissed.
Oh, yeah.

Speaker 1 She was, she was mad.

Speaker 1 I'll never forget that. That anxiety that I felt when she was like, you need to tell him no.
And I was like, uh,

Speaker 2 do I please the mom? Do I tell my wife right now?

Speaker 1 And I was just kind of like, I can't, you need to tell him no. Like, how, what, why am I telling him no?

Speaker 2 Well, I guess that now that I think about it, too, is that I was 17. So I'm trying to think that now as a parent, like, all right, 17 is still like, you're still my kid in my house at 17.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 So I don't know if Noah moved out at 17. I mean, I guess, yeah, sure.

Speaker 2 I wouldn't be mad about it. I wouldn't be mad about it.
I would just be like, I mean, as long as you go to school and don't be stupid.

Speaker 1 Yeah, and I think that's what your mom's fears were.

Speaker 1 And it's funny because we lived on this, like, like one of the main corners in our town. So, like, you had to take specific roads.

Speaker 2 That's where all the trucks came.

Speaker 1 Yeah, but you had to take like specific roads to get to the freeway every day. And I know, like, Ty's mom, one of her biggest things was like, you have to go to school every day.

Speaker 1 And so, you know, when she would drive to work every day, I mean, she always had to pass by our apartment complex. And I'll never forget the one and only time

Speaker 1 we decided not to go to school the one day.

Speaker 1 And she stopped. She actually stopped at our apartment complex because she said she would always drive by and see if like the smoke was coming from our car, you know.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 And she literally stopped and she just banged on our window.

Speaker 2 Our bedroom window. Like, she didn't even knock on the door or rock the door.
She knew we were sleeping. She knew we were going to be.

Speaker 2 Boom, boom, boom. Yeah.
Bro.

Speaker 1 And it's like, we've been going to school every day. The one day that we're like, man, we're not going to go today out of

Speaker 1 all the days that we've gone.

Speaker 2 I was like, you know what? And I remember I think in my head, I'm like, dude, I'm living on my own. If I want to skip school one fucking day, I'm playing hooky today.
Right.

Speaker 2 And the one day I do it, my mom banging on my window.

Speaker 1 Oh, yeah, because that was one of her biggest fears. Was like, you know, you have to finish school.
You have to finish school. You You have to finish school.

Speaker 1 Yeah, and we did, but I can understand as a parent, like, being fearful, but I can understand that. I mean, you know what I mean? Like, you're out on your own.

Speaker 1 You think you know the world and all the things. And yeah, and plus, we were so really young.

Speaker 2 I'm not looking at it now that we're this age, though. Like, I mean, I remember being that age.

Speaker 2 I'm growing everything, my you get.

Speaker 1 And then now you think you are.

Speaker 2 And now I'm being our age. Now I'm like, dude, little 17-year-olds.
Oh, my dude. I'm like, dude, you don't know.
You know what I mean? Like, now,

Speaker 2 now I get why. Yeah, I get get it, mom.
I understand.

Speaker 1 Well, that's even like your niece, the nephew, and stuff when they say stuff. And I'm like, oh, God, you have no clue.

Speaker 2 I know. You know? You'll just kind of be like, oh, you just nod your head.
Yep. Oh, okay.

Speaker 2 All right.

Speaker 1 Got it. You know?

Speaker 2 Let me know how that goes.

Speaker 1 But also, I remember, like, I hated one of the things that I, okay, so I hated living in an apartment just because, like, we didn't even really, like, know her.

Speaker 1 I didn't even, I don't even remember seeing any of our neighbors.

Speaker 1 But that was, like, back in the day when we were, like, like young and just crazy and dumb or whatever and um i'll never for like i used to smoke weed back in that day oh yes yeah you did yeah i did but i remember being so paranoid because you can smell it everywhere you walk in the front door you know how the old if everyone knows the old cheap apartments you walk in the front door and it's got a door to the left door to the right stairs door to the left door to the right i mean that's like a it's like a shared landing area shared staircase area yeah

Speaker 2 i used to get so paranoid like shoving towels towels in the door? Stupid as fuck.

Speaker 2 When really it's like, if we're old enough to pay our own bills, I'm old enough to smoke a joint in my living room.

Speaker 2 Calm down. Let me do it, man.
Let me smoke my dube. You know? Yeah.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yep.

Speaker 2 You would get pan right in the middle.

Speaker 1 Yeah, dude. And then I'll never forget, too, when we, so we ended up buying our trailer.

Speaker 2 Like, I think we lived there.

Speaker 2 I don't even know if that's fine. Probably less than eight.

Speaker 1 Wasn't it?

Speaker 2 So I know it was for a fact he got older. He was a little dog to big dog.
So it had him at least a year.

Speaker 1 No, but I'm saying the apartment.

Speaker 2 Oh, the apartment was eight months, I think.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I was going to say, I think we left before a year.

Speaker 1 And, but I'll never forget because we left. And this freaking slum lord, dude, he took us to court because he wanted us to pay like the last few months of the rent and stuff.

Speaker 1 And I was like, hell no, because I remember I kept all my receipts that I paid for rent, all the things. And I had it documented so many times.

Speaker 1 Like the reason why we moved into this specific apartment was because it came with all the appliances. It had a dishwasher, it had a washer and dryer, fridge, stove, all of that.

Speaker 1 Yeah, because all the other apartments we looked at, it was like you had to buy your own appliances. And we didn't have that, you know.

Speaker 1 And so, and I'll never forget the dishwasher never worked one time while we were there.

Speaker 2 And it had sitting water in it.

Speaker 1 And it was disgusting.

Speaker 2 And I filmed it. I mean, I got over it.
I filmed it. I wanted to make sure I had it documented, but I didn't.

Speaker 1 Well, after I reached out so many freaking times, I'm like, yeah.

Speaker 1 And then he took us to court and his lawyer was like, well, you need to pay, you know, if you, you need to pay the last months of rent or something like that.

Speaker 1 And I was like, I said, well, I have proof. And I was, thankfully, we were smart and documented all the times that we reached out to him and all the things.

Speaker 1 And, um, and I was like, it was the old school flip cam days, you know? And so I was like, I have videos of the standing water and the mold and this dishwasher.

Speaker 1 And all the times that I have asked him to do.

Speaker 2 Reached out to him and said, hey, can you please fix your dishwasher? Yeah, I'll do it. Yeah.
Oh, my God.

Speaker 2 Remember the sink was, okay, fix the sink. You know, I'm like, all right.
So many things.

Speaker 2 So many things that, and then I'll never forget sliding that flip camera across the table to the attorney i said here look it yeah and he looked at it and he closed it and he's like i'll be right back yeah and then he came back and then he came back he came back

Speaker 1 dismissal whatever well no but he was like he came back and he said uh just pay one month

Speaker 1 and i was like that's fine

Speaker 2 but you know leave in the mid in the beginning of the month and we said oh i'm not gonna pay or in the middle of the month yeah and i remember thinking when i was younger back then i was like oh i'm not gonna pay you know for a full month when i left halfway through the month right but that's not yeah that's not how it looks how adults look i was in two two weeks, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 So, anyway, yeah, but yeah, then his lawyer came back and was like, oh, okay, well, you know what, just pay a month or whatever.

Speaker 1 And you know what's funny is, too, is like when we live in that apartment, our blinds in our bedroom had like a whole square cut out of it.

Speaker 1 And we would drive by that apartment conflicts for

Speaker 2 years.

Speaker 1 And it was the same fucking blinds with the same cutout.

Speaker 2 Remember, I wrote, I wrote him, I said, hey, like, just for, I was trying to be nice and like suggestions. Yeah.
I wasn't like, hey, you know, like, just a new blind thing, whatever.

Speaker 2 He was weird.

Speaker 2 I mean, I guess I could have got my own new blinds, but I remember thinking in my head, like, no, man, I picked this apartment because

Speaker 1 you're supposed to have

Speaker 1 it.

Speaker 2 Anyway, yeah.

Speaker 1 But I remember, yeah, driving by for years, and I'm like, dude, this blindness still got to cut out.

Speaker 2 Like, what?

Speaker 1 That's crazy to me.

Speaker 2 Isn't it?

Speaker 1 Yeah. I feel like we're all over the place.
Sorry, guys. I know.

Speaker 2 Talking about old shit. But it just made me laugh.

Speaker 1 It was funny.

Speaker 1 But so we actually were going to Ty's mom's house this weekend, taking the kids trick-or-treating so that'll be fun can't wait yeah um they always love her like her like i don't know

Speaker 1 campground place does like uh early trick-or-treating and stuff like that um so we get to go camping with the kids this weekend and that'll be fun and then it's only like less than two weeks till we go to disney disney and i'm just praying that nobody gets sick

Speaker 1 What I'm praying that nobody gets sick.

Speaker 2 Okay, no one's gonna get sick. Oh, I sure shit.

Speaker 1 Hope not.

Speaker 2 No one's getting sick. And if they are, then we're sick.

Speaker 2 We're doing it.

Speaker 2 Give them some

Speaker 2 medicine. Sure.
Nah. Nah.
What are we going to do? We can't just skip out of Disney.

Speaker 1 Oh, somebody's going to have to stay home with the sick kid. I don't know.

Speaker 2 It ain't going to be us.

Speaker 2 But wait my whole life for this.

Speaker 1 No, because I'm just like, oh, my God. My brother, my mom's house, I guess, just tested positive for.
two very two different types of COVID. Like he's got two types of COVID right now.

Speaker 1 What does that mean? At the same time. Oh, at the same time?

Speaker 2 Yes. Oh, I thought, oh, what? Yeah.
And I guess it can happen. He had something and he had something.

Speaker 1 No, he's got, I guess he tested positive for two different variants, and he's got it both right now.

Speaker 1 And I'm just thinking in my head, I'm like, bro, it can take like days until somebody else tests positive for it.

Speaker 1 And then if you're out there fucking spreading it, and then you give it to us, and then we're at fucking Disney, and everybody's got COVID. Could you imagine?

Speaker 2 Knock out what? No, yeah, please. I don't understand why you even say this out loud.
Oh. Don't even say this out loud.
The universe doesn't even know what's going on.

Speaker 1 I retract all of my statements.

Speaker 2 Retract, retract.

Speaker 1 I retract them all.

Speaker 2 Nothing's happening. It's gonna be the best time ever.
Woohoo!

Speaker 1 I know. I'm excited.
I'm excited for it. I can't wait to go.

Speaker 1 I asked my dad if he would, I told him actually.

Speaker 2 I was like, I'll fly you out if he'll drive up there.

Speaker 1 But I guess he's just like, we're just really, things are really tight right now.

Speaker 2 Oh, okay. All right.
I'm sorry. I mean, it's a long, he's not like, it's not, we're going down here in Florida and he's all the way up there.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I know.

Speaker 1 But I was like, I'll fly you guys out. Like, even just like for the weekend weekend or whatever.
But yeah, he said things are really tight right now for him, um,

Speaker 1 even working like on the weekends, too.

Speaker 2 So, I don't know, yeah, well, yeah, whatever, it's a whole different, yeah, I know, but I would really like to see my dad.

Speaker 1 I'm mad that I didn't go out there this summer like I wanted to.

Speaker 2 We can still go out there, or you could go out there, whatever.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I would just obviously they would like to see the kids too.

Speaker 2 I know, I feel like it's almost mean. It is I show up and your dad's like, what?

Speaker 1 His wife would be like, Where's Raya?

Speaker 2 Where are the kids? Where's Raya?

Speaker 1 i know you're right yeah um but i did i got these little cards out again because i thought i thought that they were fine they were the last time that we did them um and i think a few of these what are right i just wanted to take those ones out because

Speaker 1 i don't even know if we told people um so we got they're actually the cards are called we're not really strangers

Speaker 2 um

Speaker 1 And it's like, what's more romantic than being understood?

Speaker 2 Ooh. No, I'm just kidding.

Speaker 1 All right. So I figured we could pull a couple of these too.
Unless you have anything else to talk about, too.

Speaker 2 No, no, I was saying I wanted to get to this because this is what people really liked last time. Oh.

Speaker 2 They liked the little questions.

Speaker 1 I'm going to do one first.

Speaker 1 I think it's like level one. And then, you know, level two.

Speaker 2 Let's start with level one. It's level one.
What? Is it lame?

Speaker 1 Is it lame? What assumption

Speaker 1 did you make about me that turned out to be right?

Speaker 2 What assumption did I make about you that turned out to be right? Yeah. Well, that you're being a good mom.

Speaker 1 Oh, thanks. That's sweet.
Yep.

Speaker 2 That was, I mean, that's one thing.

Speaker 1 Hmm. An assumption that I made about you.

Speaker 2 An assumption.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I'm like, wait, what?

Speaker 1 An assumption that I made about you. I could also say the good dad thing too, but that I always knew that you would be a very good.

Speaker 1 I made the assumption that you'd be a very good partner, husband.

Speaker 2 Oh, there you go. And you are.
That was easy.

Speaker 1 That's a weird question.

Speaker 2 But I feel like you knew before I ever did. I did.
So I don't know, man. I I think you manifested that you put you put some weird ass kind of spell out there in the world.
And

Speaker 1 no, I don't know. I just, I, the moment I met, I was like, I'm gonna marry him and have his babies.

Speaker 2 I just knew. And then your dreams were so weird.
Yeah, yeah, I had weird dreams.

Speaker 1 Yeah, it's because I'm a fucking psychic, girl.

Speaker 1 Watch out. I'm fucking psychic.
My dreams tell me shit. Like the one today, dude.

Speaker 2 Nah, bro. That dream

Speaker 2 is literally

Speaker 2 weird as

Speaker 2 You had the weirdest dreams. I swear, it's like, what is it? What the fuck? Dude.
Dude, yeah.

Speaker 1 And it had to do with our friend Ray, and she's like a lesbian and married, has a wife, and shit.

Speaker 1 He wasn't doing anything with her.

Speaker 2 Now you're going to talk about it. Now you have to explain yourself.
Now you have to explain yourself.

Speaker 2 Okay, go, guys. Explain it.
What was your dream? Oh, my God.

Speaker 2 What's the dream? Go ahead.

Speaker 1 So I had a dream this morning that i saw i saw a video that tyler took of himself

Speaker 1 go ahead go ahead yeah yeah yeah he was in our spare bedroom downstairs laying on the bed so in this video he's so i'm like seeing a video that he took of himself in your dream yeah in my dream

Speaker 1 And so he was like shooting a video of himself from the waist down. Like he was laying in the spare bed, and he was, like, naked from the waist down.

Speaker 1 But, you know, have you ever seen a guy when they tucked?

Speaker 2 They do a tuck a badge. Tuck a badge.
And they tuck it and get a badge.

Speaker 2 They tuck their vagina. They tuck a tag.

Speaker 2 All the guys out there have done it. You know, it's funny as hell.
You know, you joke around. You take all your shit.
So in the video. He's like, you tucked in your legs and I'm a girl.

Speaker 1 Yeah, he was like shooting a video and it was like the waist down

Speaker 1 and he was completely naked, but he had his dick tucked, you know, so like you couldn't see his dick.

Speaker 2 Tuck a vadge. Tuck a badge.

Speaker 1 And he's shooting this video.

Speaker 2 And then my mom was in the room.

Speaker 2 Her mom, everyone, if you didn't hear, her mom in the drain was in her room.

Speaker 2 In the room with you. With me.

Speaker 1 While you're taking the video.

Speaker 2 My tuck a vadge video. All right?

Speaker 2 Just put it in context for everybody.

Speaker 2 Trying to keep them up.

Speaker 1 And my mom said, well, she said something to the effect of like, well, it's okay if it's broken. You can get a new one.

Speaker 2 Of course it's broken. I'm tucking it.

Speaker 1 It's done. And in my dream, it was like, I'm seeing this video because he sent this video to my friend Ray.

Speaker 1 And I remember in my dream, I was pissed off because I'm like, why the fuck are you sending this video to Ray? Like.

Speaker 1 Half naked fucking video. Like, that's fucked up.
And I guess in my dream, supposedly, should I even say this part?

Speaker 2 Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 I guess in my dream, the reason why my mom said, well, it's okay if it's broken, you can get a new one.

Speaker 2 See, it's okay if it's broken, you can get a new one. You didn't tell him that part.
It's like the mom says, like, hey.

Speaker 1 In the video, she's like, while I tell her students the video of it, my mom's standing in the corner of the room in the video, and she says, it's okay if it's broken, you can get a new one.

Speaker 1 And I guess the reason why she said that was because I guess supposedly I was like trying to get him hard for six hours and it wasn't working.

Speaker 1 But I just, in my dream, I was like, I just remember being so mad that you sent a half-naked, I guess half naked because your dick was tucked, a half-naked video to my friend Ray.

Speaker 1 And then this morning, Tyler was like, how come you're not more upset that your mom was in your room?

Speaker 2 She's like, well, I don't know why you're doing this video. I was like, bro, it wasn't even a real dick.
It was a tuck-a-badge. It's like, it's a skin for one.
So you shouldn't be mad.

Speaker 2 You should be more mad that your mom's in the motherfucking room while I'm filming a tuck-a-badge video.

Speaker 1 It was the most random fucking dream I've ever had in my life, and I've had some weird ones.

Speaker 2 No, you've had some very strange dreams.

Speaker 1 I have had some really weird ones, yeah.

Speaker 2 No, but you have, I will say, I don't know, okay, I don't know how often this is about how people, but you, I feel like you have a lot of sex dreams, more than I've ever heard of anyone ever having.

Speaker 2 A lot. You have at least

Speaker 2 two a month. Uh, not that much.
Well, that's what it feels like. I think every other times that, hey, I had a gym.
I'm always like, was it me? Oh, and it is. It is, which is crazy.

Speaker 1 Yeah, but that was just a fun. I just remember waking up this morning.
I was like, that is a fucking weird dream.

Speaker 2 You have some weird ass dreams.

Speaker 1 And I know for a fact, it wouldn't take me six hours.

Speaker 2 You're in your own dream land, like, hmm, how the hell is this happening?

Speaker 1 Yeah, but for my mom, it was a dream.

Speaker 2 It's okay if it's broken.

Speaker 1 We just can't get a new one. Like, did she mean like a new man? A new, like...

Speaker 2 Of course not what she meant. You know what I mean? We'll take it as a bad thing.
And why would you

Speaker 2 send it to Ray?

Speaker 1 Like, sorry, Ray, if you're hearing this. I don't know why.
Some fucking weird shit, bro.

Speaker 1 And maybe that's why it was a tuck-a-batch because you're gay, like lesbian.

Speaker 2 Oh, maybe.

Speaker 1 Maybe like subconscious.

Speaker 1 Yeah, you're right. Like subconscious, you know, something playing in my dream.
I don't fucking know, but I have had some dreams that like.

Speaker 2 I'm like rumors with real life and then weird shit. Oh my god.

Speaker 2 Damn. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Why was my mom there? No, there's actually people who like study dreams.

Speaker 1 I mean, I've had dreams that have been like they have came true. Like the exact thing that has played out in my dream happened.
which is trippy telling you because i'm fucking psychic bro

Speaker 1 so ray if he ever texts you a picture of his tongue

Speaker 2 better tell me girl no just kidding um but no i have have had like dreams that have actually happened and like played out exactly to detail so i have never had dreams that have played out exactly to detail but i have literally sat in an experience and let it go as long as it could go oh in a dream yeah and i knew and i just like it's repeating itself it's this i this is it.

Speaker 2 This is it. Like, I, and it's weird because I make sure to try to almost like, I try to like not ruin it.
Because I don't want to like admit to myself that's actually happening.

Speaker 2 So I'll be like, oh, that thing's going on again. Let's just see what happens.
That thing ding over there? It dings over there.

Speaker 1 There's like people that say that too. You shouldn't say it out loud.

Speaker 2 No, I actually try to ignore it. I'm like, oh my God, I feel this happening before.
Don't even think about it. Oh, let's just experience the thing.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 But I can't help it because now I'm like, if this thing dings or something stupid, ding. I'm like, oh my God, it's happening.

Speaker 1 So it's like the same repetitive dream?

Speaker 2 No, it's not repetitive. I'm talking like, I guess you call it deja vu.
Yeah. Or something.
Of a dream. No, it's not a dream.
I'm like living in real life.

Speaker 2 And all of a sudden, all of a sudden, it's like.

Speaker 1 Oh, so you mean like you let you try to let deja vu play out? Yeah.

Speaker 2 I try to ignore that it's happening. But like, for instance, like, oh my God, you know, something happens over here.
Like, he barks. I'm like, I knew he was in a bark.
Right. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2 Deja vu is trippy. Dude.

Speaker 2 It freaks me out a little bit. Yeah.
It happens to me.

Speaker 1 It is weird. I don't know.

Speaker 2 I just feel really weird when it happens and I'm like, what's going on? And

Speaker 1 I wonder if it's because your soul

Speaker 1 has experienced the same thing, but in a different time.

Speaker 2 So for a different life? Yeah, no, that's what I'm saying. Because there's no way.

Speaker 1 Like, how do they even explain deja vu?

Speaker 2 How?

Speaker 2 How? I know. I know, and it's really weird.

Speaker 1 I haven't had deja vu in a long time. I have it all the time.
Oh, it's trippy.

Speaker 2 It is trippy. Yeah, and I remember when I was younger, I remember feeling like really, um,

Speaker 2 you ever heard of like derealization where you feel like you're literally, it's not that I'm the Truman Truman show, but like I'm trying like you know that but it's just nothing is real.

Speaker 2 This is all fake. Like, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 Like nothing. Is that come from autism?

Speaker 2 I don't fucking know. Maybe.
I don't want to know. Or a good thing to look at.
I don't know. But

Speaker 2 derealization, it's like, for me, at least, it's literally like everything is fake.

Speaker 2 You should look up the mental health. And then it'll go on a little bit where it gets really scary.

Speaker 2 It gets kind of freaky. You know what I mean? Like, eerie feeling.
Okay. So then I try to be like, I'll literally be like, oh, leaf.
Like, the leaf is real. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2 Like, isn't that weird? I know. I'll probably tell you a freaking nut.

Speaker 1 So do I, saying that I have dreams that play out. And, you know, my mom's saying.

Speaker 2 I swear, dude, it's really weird.

Speaker 1 So what, I'm going to say, what is, what is it?

Speaker 2 Derealization.

Speaker 1 Realization. Oh.

Speaker 2 It was the closest thing I could ever get to what it is.

Speaker 1 It's a mental health condition that causes people to feel detached from the world around them.

Speaker 2 Mental health condition?

Speaker 1 Or to perceive it as a distorted unreal.

Speaker 1 Yeah, it's a type of dissociation which is a disconnect between a person's self sense of self thoughts and body symptoms include distorted perception objects may appear the wrong size or color or surroundings may seem blurry or colorless okay nothing seems bigger or out of order but i will say that it feels like i'm slowly

Speaker 1 that's what it says right

Speaker 2 here almost a drain you know how a pool if you took a pool and it starts tornadoing yeah and it starts going down that drain yeah it feels like nothing is bigger than it's supposed supposed to be, but I do feel a sense of like I'm going down.

Speaker 1 I know I sound crazy, but well, no, but it says it feels like an out-of-body sensation from your surroundings, foggy or detached. People,

Speaker 1 objects, and time and time may seem distorted. Yeah.
It's like a dreamlike state.

Speaker 2 Well, I'll be honest with you. I didn't know it was a mental condition.
I'm not saying I have no, it makes sense.

Speaker 1 Well, no, because when you were talking about it, it explains what it feels like. But when you were talking about it, that's what it reminded me of: was like dissociation.

Speaker 2 Yeah, yeah, right, right. I guess, yeah, dissociation.
Yeah, right.

Speaker 1 Does that happen to you often?

Speaker 2 No, not often, but when it does happen,

Speaker 2 you'll never know what happens. I guess I gotta tell you afterward, but hey, I just had a detailed decision moment.

Speaker 2 But, like, no, I mean, I've always kept it to myself.

Speaker 1 Oh my god, does that happen to you often?

Speaker 2 I mean, I remember being a kid and being,

Speaker 2 it would freak me out a little bit. Like, I'd feel scared.
I guess scared's the wrong word. I knew I was safe technically, but it just felt

Speaker 2 like freaky, you know, like creepy.

Speaker 1 That's weird. Yeah.

Speaker 1 I wonder if it's dissociation, though, and not really derealization.

Speaker 2 Dude, I'm freaking myself out. I'm sorry.
Don't do that.

Speaker 2 I'm just thinking out loud here. I don't know.
When I didn't really know what, I mean, I just, I remember being a kid and looking it up, and that was the closest thing I got. I was like, I don't know.

Speaker 2 I remember typing in, like, feeling like... I'm not feeling like life's not real.
I'm an object in a weird thing that I'm not. My object doesn't have any relation to this realness realness around me.

Speaker 2 That's autism. Dude, literally, I don't know.
Anyway, let's see where we get on track.

Speaker 1 Sorry.

Speaker 2 No, you should probably talk to a therapist about that. What, dude? What?

Speaker 1 I don't know. I'm just thinking.
I feel like I need to talk to a therapist too.

Speaker 2 We're just the nutty.

Speaker 1 I don't know.

Speaker 2 Anyway, probably shouldn't have said that out loud.

Speaker 2 Fuck it.

Speaker 2 Whatever. I'm not, I'm real, guys.
This is what you're getting. You know, I'm no, no, uh, no filters here with this.

Speaker 1 No, I feel like since the kids, I feel like since the kids have been in school, I'm like, I feel like I have more anxiety. I don't know if it's because of things going on in the world per se.

Speaker 2 You know what I mean?

Speaker 2 Do you? Yeah, like, I feel just a sense of, ah, it's just

Speaker 2 feels a lot of energy shifting and swirling and kind of just heavy. It feels heavy.

Speaker 1 I was thinking about it today. I'm like, is it

Speaker 1 because they're all in school and I don't know what to do with myself? Or is it because of just everything going on in the world?

Speaker 1 But the one morning where I got up with them and took them all to school and stuff, I was like,

Speaker 1 not like panic attack, but definitely like high anxiety.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 But that was just right after all that craziness that happened in Colorado and, you know, just

Speaker 2 everything.

Speaker 2 Did it.

Speaker 2 Did it feel different

Speaker 2 as the morning went on? Or did it alleviate when you dropped them off? You know what I mean?

Speaker 1 Like, when when did no, no, it lasted a lot of the day.

Speaker 2 Oh, okay. So it was one of those days.
Yeah, but like, not like overtaking you, but it was just like, oh.

Speaker 1 And I still have been feeling a little bit of anxiety. And I think it is just because of the world and,

Speaker 1 you know, not

Speaker 1 feeling, I don't know, 100% safe sending your kids to school, which is fucked up. Yeah.
You know?

Speaker 2 But

Speaker 2 I think you just take on a lot of, I think you're just feeling everything. Yeah, I don't like it.
Yeah, well, I mean, yeah, I don't think anybody does. Yay, empath.
Woo!

Speaker 1 Love it for me.

Speaker 2 Let me just take all your heavy burden emotions and I'll just put them on myself.

Speaker 1 And feel them.

Speaker 2 I do have to remember, though, because I remember,

Speaker 1 so I listened to Teresa Caputo's podcast a lot.

Speaker 1 And I need her, she says this thing, which I love is like, when you aren't an empath and stuff, and you're feeling thing is like, a lot of the times you need to talk to yourself and say, like, be gone, gone, you are not of me.

Speaker 1 Like, you are somebody, like, you have to kind of talk to yourself and be like, You are not of me, you're somebody else's feelings and emotions, and whatever.

Speaker 2 Like, you have to, like, I don't know, talk to your body or whatever. No,

Speaker 2 separate yourself from it.

Speaker 2 You can get like, kind of like drowning in it.

Speaker 1 And I remember the first time she said that, I was like, Oh my god, I love like the way she said it, which was so powerful.

Speaker 1 And I'm like, Dude, yes, because as empaths, like we feel everything going on in the world and people's emotions, you are not of me, be gone, you are not of me. Yeah, be gone, you are not of me.

Speaker 1 You are not my feelings. I am feeling the world's feelings or somebody else's or whatever.

Speaker 2 But yeah. Woo.

Speaker 1 Love being an empath for me.

Speaker 2 It's weird because I don't think I'm, I don't even know what I would classify myself as.

Speaker 2 I don't know what I am. I don't know.
I'm definitely an empath. I can feel people.

Speaker 2 My question is: what are the different categories? There's empathy. Like, what is it? Oh, you know what I'm saying? What would that be considered? Google.
I don't know.

Speaker 2 Would that be considered a

Speaker 2 like? What is it?

Speaker 1 What else is there besides empath? Let's say that. What else is there besides being an empath?

Speaker 2 I don't really know.

Speaker 1 Let's see.

Speaker 1 Four emotional. Oh, so there's four.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 Okay. What are they?

Speaker 1 Okay, besides an empath, there are many other personal personality traits, roles, and paths.

Speaker 1 So being an intellectual, I feel like that's you.

Speaker 2 A rock. I will say when my therapist told me that intellectual, I intellectualize as a coping mechanism.
That was like

Speaker 2 blew my mind

Speaker 2 actually, because that's exactly what I do.

Speaker 1 God, there's so many different types I empaths to. What the fuck?

Speaker 2 Okay, so intellectual, a rock, a gush. A what?

Speaker 2 Or an apathy type?

Speaker 1 A gush. The intellectual, this type often focuses on logical thinking and can be more detached from emotions.

Speaker 2 The rock.

Speaker 1 This person tends to be a stable and supportive individual for others, remaining grounded. The gusher, this type is expressive and open, often sharing their emotions and feelings readily.

Speaker 2 I feel like I'm all of of them mashing together, right? Yeah. Oh no.

Speaker 1 That's weird. See, like, I'm definitely a conventional, I feel like highly sensitive to emotions and energies, sometimes absorbing others' feelings without a filter.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I think I agree because I even watch old clips sometimes, and I can see, like, I know you so well now that I look at yourself when you're like with your mom and she's going through all her shit.

Speaker 2 And you can see you can, well, I don't know about anyone else. I can literally see your body shift into a different position mode.

Speaker 2 Your eyes, your brow gets different, and you can like, I can tell that you're going to say something really,

Speaker 2 you're not going to argue. It's just going to be like very like, mm-hmm.
Okay, yeah. Like, you're just like, I don't know.
You're just taking the brunt to that.

Speaker 2 I can literally see it in your body when you do it.

Speaker 1 Yeah. No.

Speaker 2 It's really trippy.

Speaker 1 Yeah. I mean, I'm the type of person.
I can like literally, I can, even with you, I can tell off rip when you're in a bad mood.

Speaker 2 No words spoken.

Speaker 1 Yeah, oh, I

Speaker 1 feel it. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Which I think that's honestly probably a part of like, I mean, you probably just had to do that for survival. Probably.
You know what I'm saying? Yeah.

Speaker 1 I was wired to be an empath.

Speaker 2 Literally, because you're, I mean, she's unpredictable.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I don't know. Nova's an empath, too, though.
She's very, our, she's very, our,

Speaker 1 she is our

Speaker 1 sensitive, you know. I showed her this video yesterday.

Speaker 2 What?

Speaker 1 I sent it to her phone because it made me think of her.

Speaker 2 What was it?

Speaker 1 And then I look at her in the car because I was like, did you see what I sent you or whatever? And she's like, no, I didn't. And so I showed her.
And then she started crying.

Speaker 1 And then I started crying. And then I gave her a hug in the car.
And I was like, I was like, it just made me think of you.

Speaker 2 Yeah. That's cute.
It was cute. Should I play it? What? What is it? I don't want to cry.
What is it, honey? What is it? Because I'll tell you what, I was, you see me last night?

Speaker 2 I was a stupid wreck from that old man. I was a rat.
That's sad. I was a rat.
I mean, when old people cry, people said, think about her smile. And he goes, oh.
And

Speaker 2 he lit up.

Speaker 1 So it was this one.

Speaker 2 Let me see. Oh, it's a poem.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 3 Not the longest, not the easiest, but the kind that wraps itself around your heart and never lets go.

Speaker 3 I blinked, and the newborn I rocked to sleep turned into a toddler with scraped knees and wild opinions.

Speaker 3 You used to reach for me with tiny hands and sleepy eyes, and now you're running ahead, already needing me a little less. And I know that's the goal.
To raise you up, not hold you back.

Speaker 3 But some days I miss the weight of you pressed against my chest, your breath sinking with mine like the world stopped spinning just for us. I missed the firsts.

Speaker 3 First giggle, first steps, first time you said mama like it was the only word that mattered. And still, every phase has brought its own kind of magic.

Speaker 3 New laughs, new lessons, new versions of you that I get the honor of meeting. Being your mother has stretched me, changed me, made me softer in places that used to be guarded.

Speaker 3 And I know, someday you'll be too big to carry, too cool for bedtime kisses, too busy for Saturday morning pancakes, but I'll never stop showing up, never stop cheering you on.

Speaker 3 I'll never stop being your safe place. because being your mom is the kind of blessing that only grows with time.
And I'll spend the rest of my life grateful that I got to be yours.

Speaker 2 Oh, I know. There you go, honey.

Speaker 1 I know. So all of a sudden, so she like put my vault, she looked at me, she's like,

Speaker 2 and I was like, oh, you're crying.

Speaker 2 She cries, you're crying, I guarantee you. Oh, for sure.

Speaker 1 And I was like, it just made me think of you. Like, you know, you are.
You're getting bigger. And

Speaker 1 all those little things, you know, and I was just, when I saw it, I was like crying on the couch to myself in the house. You were in the garage putting stupid bike seat on the bike.

Speaker 1 I'm watching stupid TikTok got me fucking crying.

Speaker 1 Well, anytime old men cry or old people, period. It's fucking sad.

Speaker 2 I know, but Hunter Prosper. If you don't know him, go on Instagram.
Hunter Prosper. He posts these, he'll just like stories from strangers, secrets from strangers.

Speaker 2 And, oh, dude, this guy, man.

Speaker 2 Oh, he was talking about his wife that just died. And he's...
Oh, it's horrible. It's horrible.
What are you doing? What? What are you doing?

Speaker 1 what are you doing dad

Speaker 1 what i'm recording actually right now what are you oh hi dad

Speaker 1 my podcast dad says hi

Speaker 1 i'll call you back later on you're not busy all right i love you

Speaker 1 no he said i got him a new pet I know that's why that's why I froze.

Speaker 2 I was like, oh man, your dad has to get a new pet. My dad was frozen.
That's crazy. Yeah.

Speaker 1 No, he actually, I talked to him the other day, and he was like, so he's like, like, we have these big, like, skinks down here.

Speaker 2 They're like, what?

Speaker 1 It's like lizards.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 1 They're like purple and like yellow and all these different colors. He's like, I don't really know how I would ship one to Nova.

Speaker 2 What? No. No, Dad.
Hey, hey, hey, Dad. Hey, Dad, keep the damn lizards, amphibians, and everything like that in Florida.
I don't know. No.

Speaker 2 No.

Speaker 2 You can't do it. That's funny.

Speaker 1 Oh, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 Well, because

Speaker 1 it leads to other conversations.

Speaker 2 We can't pull these cards when we do it.

Speaker 1 Sorry, because it leads to other things.

Speaker 2 I know, I guess you're right. Let's say.
If you think they're stupid, discard.

Speaker 1 I don't know if it's stupid or not. What's one small thing I do that tells you everything you need to know about me?

Speaker 2 Oh,

Speaker 2 damn. That's a hard one.
Tell me one small thing that lets you know everything you need to know about me.

Speaker 2 One small thing?

Speaker 1 I would say the way that you, for me, I would say the way that you play with our girls tells me everything about you.

Speaker 2 Oh.

Speaker 1 I would say because the how it tells me everything about you was like because

Speaker 1 when you play with our girls and stuff and like you're just doing like they're laughing and doing all those things I'm like, oh my god, look at him being a dad that he didn't have.

Speaker 2 Yeah, you know what I mean? It was funny because I was gonna say now when you said that the one small thing is just how you have the kids stuff lined up in the morning.

Speaker 2 Oh, and you're and you're you're uh the lunch like you have everything so like and that that because your care you just love you love so endlessly and so just your capacity for it. It's endless.

Speaker 2 And I can, you can see it. You can see it.
Yeah,

Speaker 2 I mean, it's, it's a small thing, but it's a big thing. That's, I, I guess

Speaker 2 my

Speaker 2 that's what I got from that question. Yeah, but right.

Speaker 1 Yeah. Yeah.
Definitely with me, it's like more structure thing. Everything's got to be in its place, laid out.

Speaker 2 Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. It shows because, you know, it's like you're, you're a caring, not even just mother, but just that shows what's, that's my opinion.

Speaker 1 Picture days tomorrow. Oh,

Speaker 2 shit.

Speaker 1 Yep, tomorrow.

Speaker 2 Well,

Speaker 2 I told Noah, though. Yeah, shower night anyway, so it's

Speaker 1 hers is it's Vada's.

Speaker 2 Oh, it's Vada's. All right.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Do you think I have any unconventional views on love?

Speaker 2 Unconvention. No.
I don't think you do. No, no, no.

Speaker 2 I think our views are pretty normal. I mean,

Speaker 1 maybe not to some people. I believe love is love, and everybody should be able to love whoever they want to love.

Speaker 2 And I also think, like, well, I will say unconventional on love. I think what might be considered unconventional is that a lot of people are like, oh, I don't need anyone to be happy.

Speaker 2 And it's like, I believe that. I'm not saying

Speaker 2 shit. See what I'm saying? I'm not saying I don't believe you when you're telling me that, oh, I don't need to be with someone to be happy.
And I believe that, and I think that's great.

Speaker 2 But I really do think that our lives and our cycle that we're here for,

Speaker 2 like love makes it better. Love makes the whole

Speaker 2 thing. That's what makes this little slice of journey that you're having,

Speaker 2 you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 More fun, or I don't know.

Speaker 2 Just share it with somebody. I think you owe it to yourself to not give up on it and just

Speaker 2 find it. Try to find it.
Because once you do, you're going to like that one guy said, 67 years wasn't enough. He said,

Speaker 2 He said, What we had, 67 years wasn't enough.

Speaker 1 What's that? 67 years.

Speaker 2 He said, Because it got better every time. It got better.

Speaker 2 Anyway.

Speaker 1 Yeah, he said because he was like, so what did he say? He's like, 65 was better than year one.

Speaker 2 He said, yeah, 65 was better than year one. Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 Oh, damn. What about me first stood out to you physically?

Speaker 2 related. Oh, that's.
We already answered. I already told you.
My boots. Yeah, your titties.
I mean, I was in the seventh grade.

Speaker 2 Dick? No,

Speaker 2 that was your answer.

Speaker 1 No, I'm just kidding.

Speaker 2 I never even saw the dick for a long time.

Speaker 2 She was actually, guys. She was.

Speaker 1 Oh, you want to pull one?

Speaker 2 Oh, yeah.

Speaker 1 I was a prude. Yeah, you were.
Well, had to make sure you were going to stick around.

Speaker 2 Okay, yeah.

Speaker 2 Have I ever betrayed your trust

Speaker 2 in

Speaker 2 any way, big or small?

Speaker 2 What would help rebuild that trust?

Speaker 1 Jesus. Well, we've already rebuilt trust for sure.

Speaker 2 Um,

Speaker 1 I think the only thing for me,

Speaker 1 which God, we've been together so long, it's like over with now.

Speaker 1 But I think the only thing that really hurt me was back in the day when you dumped me for another girl because she said that I was cheating on you when it wasn't true or accurate. Right.

Speaker 1 And then you ended up dating her. And yeah, she was not a very nice person.

Speaker 2 No. No, she wasn't.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 Okay, next one. What fight of ours did you struggle with most? What felt particularly hard for you about it?

Speaker 1 Mine would be,

Speaker 1 which we've talked about this on a previous episode, but I would have to say the time when we quote unquote, I guess, separated.

Speaker 2 That was the hardest for me. Yeah, we didn't really separate anything.

Speaker 1 But yeah, I think that was the hardest for me, especially just like being pregnant and having all these feelings and emotions. I'm like, oh my God, he doesn't, does he not want to be with me?

Speaker 1 We're going to get divorced.

Speaker 2 Yeah, all that shit. Uh,

Speaker 2 I had to say when we were younger, yeah, all that stuff from Florida stuff just was killing me,

Speaker 2 yeah, killed me. Okay,

Speaker 2 oh, I don't know what this means.

Speaker 1 What does it say?

Speaker 2 Wild card. Oh, between the two of us, who apologizes first after a fight? Me, write down their name and compare answers.
Oh, I get it. If you're supposed to do something,

Speaker 2 I feel like I apologize first. I apologize.

Speaker 2 You don't mean I apologize? Um,

Speaker 1 you do,

Speaker 1 but I feel like I apologize more.

Speaker 2 I mean,

Speaker 2 okay, yes, you definitely apologize more than me.

Speaker 2 What question felt most vulnerable for you to ask? That's dumb. Nothing.
Yeah, that's dumb.

Speaker 1 Reflection.

Speaker 2 No more wild cards. Why? What is this one? I don't know.

Speaker 1 Rate each other's cooking skills on a scale of one to ten.

Speaker 2 Oh, oh, I would say you are definitely a solid

Speaker 2 7.5. Oh, okay.
I was going to say 8.

Speaker 2 I almost said 8, but then I'm like, yeah, no, I would say 8. I would say 8.
I would say 8.

Speaker 1 Yeah. I would, yeah.

Speaker 2 Okay. You're all about seasoning.
Rate each other's cuddling skills on a scale of 1 to 10. Oh, 10.
10.

Speaker 1 He's always the big spoon.

Speaker 2 We fit together like

Speaker 1 P B and J.

Speaker 2 Listen, listen, dead arm, one arm under the head. You know what you got? Dead arm if you're guy.
I mean, the big spoon, I guess, whatever.

Speaker 2 One arm under the head, other hand, titty.

Speaker 2 Perfectly fit like a little spoon.

Speaker 2 Compy 10, 10 out of 10, 11 out of 10. Yeah, love cuddles.

Speaker 1 So we're gonna fucking fall asleep last night. Fucking life.

Speaker 2 What title would you give this chapter of our sex life?

Speaker 2 Wait, what? Title? Yeah, title. Yeah, that's what it said.

Speaker 2 What title would you give this chapter?

Speaker 1 No fucks given.

Speaker 2 Ah!

Speaker 2 Yeah, no fucks given.

Speaker 2 I don't know. That's just what came to my mind.

Speaker 2 No, that's actually exactly. Even the one night time was like, I thought we were.
I thought, like, don't you care about being quiet anymore? I know, dude. I was like, what's going on?

Speaker 2 I thought we were like, bro, like, I'm not.

Speaker 2 And we have to be because she's right there. Okay, well, you murdered her yourself then, dude.
I'm over here, like, having a great time.

Speaker 2 And I'm looking, I'm like, but I'm also like, hey, man, I'm we need to switch her room.

Speaker 1 She needs to go downstairs.

Speaker 2 Because I'm like, you, what, what, tonight you don't care? Like, what's going on?

Speaker 2 I'm like, whatever. I don't care.
Traumatize each other. I don't give a shit.

Speaker 2 Traumatizes children. You're like, listen, we'll pay for therapy later, but this moment is mine.
And you're claiming it. I guess.
Hey, whatever.

Speaker 2 Fucking Ellie.

Speaker 2 Good.

Speaker 1 That's so funny.

Speaker 2 Hello.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Share a house.

Speaker 1 You've got to switch rooms.

Speaker 2 That's stupid.

Speaker 2 When during this game, did you feel connected?

Speaker 2 We don't care about that.

Speaker 2 In what ways is the relationship unlike any other before?

Speaker 2 Well, you're not a hoe, and you didn't cheat on me, so that's good. You're not a drug addict.

Speaker 1 You don't have a big nose.

Speaker 2 It's fucked up. That's fucked up.

Speaker 2 I don't know what else to think of.

Speaker 2 Oh, my God. You said big nose.

Speaker 1 Do your best impersonation of each other?

Speaker 1 Did you know?

Speaker 2 Did you know that that

Speaker 1 our bodies are 99.9% stardust?

Speaker 1 Oh, also, and it's like 10.30 at night, you know, and you're laying in bed. Did you know?

Speaker 2 No, listen, be honest because I'm telling you, I know there are times when I'm speaking or I'll be like,

Speaker 2 and you're just like,

Speaker 2 you are just like.

Speaker 1 Sometimes I just don't want to think.

Speaker 2 I always want to think. Yeah, I don't think it sounds like.

Speaker 1 No, sometimes I don't want to think because I think all day.

Speaker 2 Okay. Well,

Speaker 1 and I'm overstimulated all day.

Speaker 2 It seems like you're not thinking a lot. Or trying not to think a lot.
All day? No, not all day. I'm saying

Speaker 2 you're saying, like, you're at nighttime.

Speaker 1 I'm like.

Speaker 2 Moments at time, and I'm like,

Speaker 2 saying something. I look over, I can just tell, and you're just, I'm like,

Speaker 2 she can't listen. Some, some, all right, but listen.
Can you just look at me and say, I didn't hear anything you just said?

Speaker 1 Yeah, I heard. No, I hear what you say.

Speaker 1 Yes, I do. I do.
I hear what you say.

Speaker 2 Yes. You hear what I say, but you're just like, uh,

Speaker 2 or what? You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 I don't know. Sometimes I'm just.

Speaker 2 I got to be annoying. I understand this.

Speaker 1 No, it's not annoying. I feel like sometimes.

Speaker 2 Listen, guys, don't let her fool you. I know.
I'm in my mind. I know.

Speaker 1 I feel like sometimes at the end of the day, I have been so overstimulated all day. I want to sit and not think about nothing.

Speaker 2 No, it happens not even at nighttime.

Speaker 2 Middle of the day. When you're on the phone, I can see you on your phone.
You're on something. You're doing whatever.
And I'm like, uh,

Speaker 1 please, Mr.

Speaker 2 Scroller, scroller, scroller, scroller, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll.

Speaker 2 I'm saying, in the moments that I'm looking, you know what I mean? I'll be like, yeah, say something. And then I can see you, and you're just like,

Speaker 2 I can tell.

Speaker 2 I'm like, yeah, she's doing that.

Speaker 1 Here's Ty with his. Did you know?

Speaker 2 I'm just kidding. But why not just say, I don't want to hear anything right now.
That's rude as fuck. Is it really? Yeah.
Is that rude?

Speaker 2 I don't want to talk right now. Or

Speaker 2 not, not not right now. Or what?

Speaker 2 How do you do it?

Speaker 1 How would you do it? Not right now.

Speaker 2 Well, see, when you, I'm very honest, Anna, I can't, like, if I'm doing something,

Speaker 2 I'm like, ah.

Speaker 1 I can't. I know.
Yeah, you don't. No, you don't even answer.
You just ignore. And I'm like, hello.

Speaker 2 Because I had to make a choice.

Speaker 1 So you ignore me, but listen.

Speaker 2 But you, I'm here. You ignore me, but you just attach to the phone.
No, no, no. No.

Speaker 2 That's what happens. Usually when I'm writing or I'm reading, if I'm reading, bro, it's really hard.
I cannot stop. Because if I stop reading, now, I'm going to lose a place

Speaker 2 for the tempo.

Speaker 2 Yeah, but like, yeah, it's usually when that happens, and then I, but I say, I can't talk right now, I can't, I don't hear what you're saying, or I'll say, uh, I don't know what you just said, I don't know what you just said, or you'll go, eh, yeah,

Speaker 1 okay, what

Speaker 2 yeah, you fucking short circuit,

Speaker 2 I get like I'm reading, or whatever, I don't know.

Speaker 1 Oh, shit, I gotta go get these kids.

Speaker 2 Oh, okay, oh, wait, it's 226. Oh, shh, Okay.
Oh, my God. I'm so sorry, guys.
We are. What a sloppy episode.

Speaker 1 We're just all over the place. Sorry.
All right. What's one way our relationship has gotten better over time?

Speaker 2 What's one way it's gotten better? Yeah. I honestly, in every way I could think.

Speaker 1 I'll say, I feel like year.

Speaker 2 Everything, communication, everything, just all of it. I mean, just all of it.
I would,

Speaker 2 yeah.

Speaker 1 Like that old guy said.

Speaker 2 Oh, 67 years is never enough.

Speaker 1 He says 65 was better than year one.

Speaker 2 It was better than year one, and it just kept getting better. And 67 years wasn't enough for what we were experiencing with each other.
That's what he said. I don't say that.
Bro, that quote.

Speaker 2 But, dude.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Yeah, I was crying in mid last night like a little bitch.

Speaker 1 No, it is sad.

Speaker 1 Even the old guy that was crying on the, there was an old guy crying on the news this morning.

Speaker 2 I'm like, oh, no, no, no, no. Don't cry because I'm going to cry.

Speaker 1 Listen.

Speaker 1 Listen, Linda.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 2 Thanks for being with us while we're just sloppy.

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Speaker 1 not classy, but I'm super excited. We have some guests coming up in the future that I'm super excited for you guys to hear.

Speaker 2 Yeah, you've been busy planning and kind of getting the whole thing.

Speaker 1 Yes,

Speaker 1 we get to recording with all those people in like two weeks.

Speaker 1 Actually, less than two weeks.

Speaker 2 Yes, less than two weeks, yeah.

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