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Welcome Welcome to the handsome pod.

I'm one of your hosts, May Martin.

Join.

It's so lovely to see you guys, as always.

Bye, joined by.

I'm Fortune Feemster.

And I'm Tignotaro.

Hi, friends.

Hi, friends.

Hi.

May, wherever you are is gorgeous.

Thank you.

Looks like you're in a

greenhouse.

I'm in...

Lake Arrowhead.

It's happening.

My weird solo

meditative excursion.

Where you were inviting a bunch of people up?

Well, yeah.

Yeah, what happened with that?

Well, okay, I've been up here five days and

like three of those days I've been by myself, like sleeping by in the quiet house in the woods, so isolated.

I have no car.

I have no Uber Eats.

I have no Uber Blacks.

I have no Uber.

My goodness.

How'd you get there?

How'd you get there?

Uber.

You Uber.

Uber Black.

Yeah, I was like, Uber black.

Lake Arrowhead?

Yes.

With so much stuff in the Uber.

I packed up so much stuff.

And then I'm on the road and I was thinking, well, okay, then what the hell is all that other stuff in my house?

Because I have everything I need.

I mean, I've got multiple suitcases, paints, instruments, cameras,

facial products, weights.

Like I brought my fake mustaches.

You brought weights?

I brought weights.

That Uber driver was probably like, the fuck is happening?

I know.

I know.

Wow.

I really need you to pass your driving test.

You have to start being able to rent a car.

I need you to not because I enjoy hearing about this ridiculousness.

Now, tell us, how is it, how it's going?

Is it feeling good?

Is it

what you're hoping?

Are you really challenging yourself with this time?

Yes, I need to challenge myself more, maybe, but I'm like,

I just realized when I got up here, I'd, I kind of, I've been craving this for years, like maybe 10 years, I feel like I've been talking about wanting to do this and bringing on books and stuff.

And I am just realizing like I forgot kind of how to, or maybe I never knew how to be a human being.

Like it's been so long since I cooked three meals a day for myself and did the dishes after and read a book and went to bed.

I'm like, oh my God,

I get why people do this.

And so what do do you do?

You just order food in and then throw that away.

And then the waste.

And I'm so, I just am so busy and I don't love my kitchen.

And I, I don't, I don't know.

So I've been, I made a pasta up here.

I did make one meal.

Actually, maybe we can post a picture of it.

Should I, should I find the picture and show you guys?

This is when I thought I'd need to challenge myself more.

Okay.

Let's see it.

Maybe you guys can kind of psychoanalyze what this says about me.

We could maybe post this picture, but this was a meal that I had high hopes for.

I thought, I'm up in the woods.

What are you eating the woods?

You're not naked in this photo, are you?

No,

would you have stopped May from showing this picture, if so?

I just wanted to let our YouTube viewers know that you

might be seeing May.

In the nude.

Whether that's good or bad news, I just want you to know.

I didn't know if May was trying to trick us into seeing them naked.

You know, I've been trying to do that.

I think people would very much enjoy it.

Is that what you're wanting, Fortune?

You want to see May naked?

Everybody wants it.

Come on.

Actually,

on that topic,

someone recently said to me, you know,

it's weird how you shave your calves, but not your...

thighs.

And I thought, everybody does that, don't they?

And then I realized that's just me.

And it's like I'm wearing fur shorts.

I have these smooth, hairless, womanly thighs.

And then I have these manly, like

hairy, or sorry, womanly calves.

Reverse, reverse, hairy thighs.

And I just thought everyone.

I thought you're not supposed to shave your thighs because it grows back darker.

But anyways, the point is

that I have these calves anymore.

They're not?

Uh-uh, so I don't have to shave them.

You don't have any hair on your thighs.

No, I just shave my legs.

My gams.

I see.

I have little prickly hairs coming out of my knees and stuff like that.

So I shave all that.

Fortune, you're just shaving your calves?

I'm just shaving my calves, but if my thighs were hairy, I probably would shave them.

Okay, well, I think my solution, I'm up in the woods, I'm like, just not going to shave.

any of my legs.

You know, I like keeping my gams smooth because I got to show off those muscles.

Yes, you do.

Okay, this is the meal that i cooked and i thought i'm i'm gonna make hot dogs i'm gonna grill them i'm gonna do this was what i nice alone time meal what a fancy meal oh goodness that is

is there have you seen a sider happening here it's a hot dog on a bun one plain hot dog and one chip and two pickles two doritos and two pickles and i thought

I don't know.

In my mind, it was going to be this, I don't know, summery disgour meal.

So I can't tell if you're having a good time or if you're too lonely.

I'm having a good time.

I'm having a really good time.

But you're also not.

You're counting the days to get out of there.

Look.

I have to load your weights and your hot dogs back in the Uber.

You're miserable.

Let's talk, honestly.

This is great.

I'm reading books and I'm chilling and I made a hot dog and

somebody about shaking me with maps.

Have you invited any friends to come up?

I currently have two friends here, and then I have two more friends coming.

And yeah, so there, but for the most part, I'm going to be by myself with the beautiful creatures of the forest.

I've seen four raccoons, I've seen blue jays, or I think they're blue jays.

They're blue.

About right?

Yeah.

Sounds like a blue jay.

A woodpecker.

I saw a vulture.

A lot of squirrels.

And then one squirrel that is his own breed or something.

He's like the size of a dog and he

is so muscular and big.

And I sound like I have a crush on him, but I don't.

Now, can I recommend something if you do want people to visit you?

Yeah.

Send them a picture of your hot dogs.

You guys, I'm making some good meals up here.

Cooking up a storm.

Is it any better better with your friends there?

Yeah.

Listen, I'm having a good time.

No, no, no.

Totally.

Totally.

They cooked me a steak last night.

That was good.

Is there a hot tub?

Yeah, there's a hot tub.

And there's a lot of now we're talking.

There's no real, like this whole lake is private docks.

And so one night I snuck onto.

a stranger's dock and I jumped in at the sunset.

In a horse suit?

I was in a horse suit.

It was a horse in the water.

I bet.

Yeah, but it's been good.

I mean, you know, we'll check in and see how my mental health's holding up.

I've definitely been getting a little weird.

We'll check in five minutes after we end this Zoom.

Yeah, for the real Zoom.

We'll see.

Yeah.

How long are you there?

I booked it for three weeks.

Whoa, that's a long time.

Okay, but wait, Fortune, did you notice what just happened?

You said, how long are you there?

And May said, I booked it for three weeks.

That is somebody who is not committing to staying for three weeks.

That is May saying, This is how much time it's for, but probably not how much time I'll be there for.

Maybe be honest.

I'm thinking about making some little trips to LA just to check in.

That's a lot of fun.

A lot of Uber relax.

Yes,

a lot of Uber rides.

Oh, my God.

Yeah, you have to like, you have to really like the woods and nature and

not having a lot to do to go up there.

But also, let's be honest, May is indoors.

It's not like May is living off the land.

Excuse me.

I'm out there.

I'm sitting at night.

I'm feeling the stars, hearing the stars.

You know what I was thinking though?

To all these animals.

This is like a bustling metropolis where they're like, morning, morning.

And then in the city, they must feel like it's a ghostland where they like hear a noise and they're like, maybe it's an owl.

And then it's just a night bus bus or something so I'm in there I'm in the big city for them yeah night buses I have to say I just took a trip that was

very relaxing I went to Iceland yes

and my best friend Andrea shout out of 20 years she went with me and

we had We had not taken a friend trip in many, many years.

And it just was so fun.

And I've never been to Iceland before.

It was amazing.

I'm so jealous.

Oh, my God.

The food is so fresh, so good.

We went to this lesbian-owned restaurant.

Yes.

Helga is the chef.

Of course.

She's incredible.

I had ate all kinds of things I never thought I would eat.

I mean, all Icelandic women are sturdy.

Just picture that.

I feel

very well.

You're a sturdy little lady?

I'm a sturdy sturdy little lady.

It was the one country I did not get called sir in.

I've tried to push you over before, and it's nearly impossible.

I'm sturdy.

I'm a sturdy gal.

So, this restaurant, I can't say in Icelandic, but it just stands for food and drink.

Helga just gets right to the point.

Yeah.

No frills, just sturdy names.

But she's like,

she's like experimented with flavors

so much that she has just figured out how to put things together that you'd never think of.

And it's incredible.

Like hot dogs and pickles.

Like classic hell kind of things.

And my friend is a vegetarian and they did stuff for her that she loved.

And so that was amazing.

And we went to a bunch of lagoons

where you just sit and water.

Andrea Kanzler.

Shout out to my friend.

She sat in a spa in a lagoon with me for seven hours.

What?

What?

Yes.

Were you drunk?

No, neither one of us.

We were so tired and like, but we were both on the same page of just wanting to chill

that like we just were like,

oh, she just texted me.

Oh my God, it's like we're still, it's empatico.

Oh my god, are you in love?

Who knows?

She's like my sister.

Girl.

I don't know what you're up to.

Can you get your friend Andrea to come up to Lake Arrowhead?

Can she hang out with me?

Well, she lives in Nashville now, but you would love her company.

We met her.

We hung out with her in Nashville.

That's right.

Y'all met her at the Rhyme.

She's great.

But yeah, it was like, you know, one of those days when you're like, you're both on the same page.

You're like, we don't want to be on our phones.

We want to be in the little lagoon.

We got massages on a float in the water.

It's like you're in Lake Arrowhead.

Yeah.

We got a massage in the water, on a float.

What?

For the first time.

I know y'all didn't seem impressed.

Is the masseuse treading water while they massage the water with you?

And it's it's just are they hanging onto your raft going, oh hold on.

They're like

turning you around.

Oh, they're standing.

They're not treading.

Yeah, they're not treading.

That would be hard.

Yeah.

I wonder how they get the traction to like

push down without drowning you or pushing you away.

They are magical, sturdy, I see.

Not your monkey,

not your circus.

Yeah.

Not my monkey, not my circus.

So that was amazing.

And then we did get reprimanded after our massages because we were floating in the water and we thought everyone had left.

We looked around the lagoon and we didn't see anybody.

So we started pretending to be Icelandic women

who were lesbians.

And we were going like,

I'm going to cut wood and eat root vegetables.

And we're going to make sweet love by the fire

on a pelt.

And the police came?

No, and we didn't know that all these people were being massaged behind us and they had to come back.

We're trying to relax.

They said, Can you guys please be quiet?

And we were like shaking, laughing.

Oh, my God.

And then we did saunas, and dry saunas, and cold plunges, and masks, and scrubs.

Amazing.

Laid by the fireplace, sushi lunch.

Best time of our life.

Girl, you deserve it.

I mean, best time of my life.

But I will give a shout-out.

If anyone goes to Iceland, here's what I will say.

It's super gay-friendly there.

They are all allies.

It isn't even a thing.

They have gay flags everywhere.

It's such a welcoming place.

But there's this travel company, Pink Iceland, that not only do they do travel tours for people, gay and straight, they also

put on weddings for people.

And they have a lot of people come to Iceland who, like, are from different countries where it's not okay to, like, some of their families don't know they're gay or like it's not okay to be gay where they are.

And they will put on these beautiful weddings for them, even if it's just the two of them or two of them.

This company is

two lesbians and a gay man who run it.

And they have the biggest hearts.

They took such good care of us.

They're amazing.

If you ever go there, look them up.

They are the company that will take good care of you.

And you saw the Northern Lights, right?

I saw the Northern Lights, which is wild.

Yeah,

we went to their, they have this,

their office is five floors up, and we went and we were just chatting with them, and they go, oh, they're the Northern Lights.

And to the naked eye, it's kind of hard to see them.

They're like, it's just like.

if you're not familiar with them, but when you take a picture of it, it's like so obvious.

It's the Northern Lights.

And they go, we've had friends visit for years and never seen them.

Yeah, like it's supposed to be a good omen.

That's very auspicious.

That's like the Icelandic gods were

smiling on you.

It's just a very healing trip at a time that I really need to needed some rest and some healing.

Of course.

How great.

Yeah.

Good for you.

Thank you.

You're in New York.

I am, and I'm terribly uncomfortable.

Oh, boy.

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Hey, hold on one second.

I really liked your Icelandic character.

We're going to cut wood.

I don't even know.

It's like part German, part

of Icelandic.

Yeah.

I don't, I haven't nailed accents, truth be told.

You're like, we know.

In all honesty, when we were doing these Icelandic women characters, I was being a little dirty.

Okay, the truth comes out.

The truth comes out.

But

I can't repeat to you what I was saying.

It was that dirty?

It was dirty.

And

we were crying, laughing, and then got scolded and were laughing even more because what I was saying was ridiculous.

Okay, the truth comes out.

Now I really want to know what you were saying.

I can't say it on the pot, I can tell you.

This is like, I got reprimanded.

Text it to me.

Yeah, text it to me right now.

I mean, I can tell you right now, but Thomas has to beep it or cut it out or plug his ears.

I said, um,

I was saying,

we're going to cut wood and make root vegetables, and then I'm going to you in the

fortunate.

What I'd like to say, okay, hopefully that's beeped out and you can imagine it, but what I'll say about it is that it was so direct.

Like, what I was anticipating is

direct, that it was very direct.

They're sturdy.

It's because the lesbians that we were meeting that were in a couple, they loved each other.

They'd been together for years and were so into each other still.

And I loved it.

So we were saying that the Icelandic, that's how they talk to each other.

Yeah, I like that.

I like that.

I think

this is the answer for life is to be out of the city in nature with your sturdy woman eating root vegetables.

I'm in the city.

You're in the city.

Yeah, with my entire family.

And we've had root vegetables.

And how were they?

They were great.

They were great.

Iceland's known for the root vegetables.

They don't have any fruits there.

Yeah, they have to grow everything in greenhouses, basically, right?

Yeah, they don't have the eat your morning fruits song because they don't have a lot of fruits.

Do you think they sing eat your morning fruits?

Eat your morning fruits.

Good one, babe.

Morning fruits.

Morning fruits.

But

y'all know how much I love sitting in water

for hours at a time.

But in Iceland,

it's so common.

Like, that's part of their culture, just being in water and being in saunas.

And I love all of this.

Yeah.

And their water comes from

their, like, it's natural.

Yeah, geothermal.

They're like, yeah, it's geothermal and it's hot.

And their water bills are like non-existent there.

That's another good reason.

I'll challenge you to a hot tub sitting competition.

Really?

Because I could sit in a hot tub for hours.

Same.

Same.

My family is blown away.

I will sit alone in a hot tub for four hours.

Same.

And just stare off and think

and do nothing.

And Stephanie will be like, are you okay?

And I'm like, I'm great.

Same, bud.

I could sit forever.

I'm picturing like the sun goes down, everyone's in bed, and just looking out the window and seeing your little silhouette tig in the hot tub, just contemplating life and yeah

and sometimes barely even having a thought at all I think you would love Iceland I have wanted to go for years

you can like just rent a cottage there that and it comes with a hot tub and a sauna come on go look at it and a root vegetable get in touch with pink height pink Iceland those ladies would Give you so much great information.

They're incredible.

All right.

Tig, what are you up to in New York?

We are just

traveling along, a little family.

We went to the Yankees game last night.

That's huge for Max and Finn, right?

Yes, yes, it was massive.

And some friends of ours with really, really spectacular seats

hooked us up.

And they had...

I mean, one of the best nights and days of their lives because they got to go to batting practice.

They got to be down on the field with the players.

Whoa.

Like it was the chef cooked us like our own vegan personal menu.

What?

It was

a fancy friends.

It was so over the top and it was so generous of our friends to give us these tickets.

Yeah.

And anyway, and we're going to go see Wicked.

Aw.

Yeah, and there's a vegan restaurant that we've been excited to try out here.

So we're gonna go to that.

How do Max and Finn show their excitement like at a baseball game like that where it's like their dream experience?

Are they like chatty or are they kind of stunned wide-eyed?

Like

well

they're very chatty just in general.

They're very they're not shy kids and so a lot of people comment on how they seem like little men because, you know, Finn has all of his stats and he knows the history of all the different stadiums.

and and so somebody will say something casually like oh yeah you like the whatever well my team is this and he's like oh yeah well you know now they got that bigger budget and then they use the money on blah blah blah player and so that really

you know and the guy's like wow yeah that's true

I don't know if they got a bigger budget I don't know the terminology or how to talk like that but

but yeah they when we were at the restaurant, they were talking to everybody near us and our white staff.

And, you know, they're just, they're just very engaged.

Yeah.

Is what I will say.

Can you imagine if you went back in time and I told you, like, your future kids that haven't been born yet, they're going to be these two

twin boys who are baseball aficionados and love to chat.

Like, it's so specific and you can't predict those things, what kids will be into and what they'll like.

It's so wild.

And it's also so wild that my life is

baseball and sports all the time.

Like, and we're on travel teams.

So like my weekends, when I'm home, I'm driving with Stephanie and Max and Finn everywhere.

And we're gone every weekend.

And we're sitting in bleachers.

And then during the weekdays, we are at baseball practice.

And when we're home, we're watching baseball.

And we're,

it's a lot.

Yeah, my

nephew is on a travel baseball team, and all my brother and his wife do is travel.

Yeah, it's really something.

But, you know, it's like

there's definitely

days where you're like, oh my gosh, I do not feel like going to baseball practice or a baseball game three hours away or whatever.

But

really,

it's like pretty great that they are interested and out doing stuff, you know?

that's the really positive thing.

And we, we also, we were, we just came from Denver.

We went to Andrea's,

Andrea Gibson's memorial, which was at this place.

It used to be called the Mercury Cafe,

and it's been around for decades.

And it is,

it's been the heart of

artists in Denver.

Painters, poets, musicians, comedians, people just always going there, having food, performing, watching others perform.

And it's where Andrea first started

poetry.

It's now called the Pearl, but it is, they haven't really changed it a bit.

And it's just so, such an incredible place.

And LA and New York and so many places are known for their artists and creativity.

But I'm telling you, the people I came up with in Colorado are some of the most incredible,

incredible artists.

And

Andrea being one of them, and it was so beautiful because there was a private memorial at the Mercury, or as people call it the Merck, at the Merck.

Different friends spoke, and

then they opened the doors, and

it was

open to the public.

And poets from every corner of

everywhere came

to town.

It's incredible.

And they, and every it went all night for hours, just different poets doing Andrea's truly greatest hits.

And that is what is so wild.

As I was sitting there going, oh my gosh, these are hit poems.

And the audience, it was over capacity.

They're, you know, saying the poems poems along with Andrea's friends and other poets that came in town.

And it was just really so beautiful.

And the talent, I cannot express enough.

The talent

in not just

the poetry world, but

in Colorado, in Denver, older, those areas.

I just, I'm so proud to.

to know these people.

And

Andrea has made so many tremendous friends.

I just feel like it's amazing to have a poet like Andrea

break through.

I feel like recently there haven't been a lot of contemporary poets that are like, because it used to be like the beat poets or in the olden times, poets were the coolest, the most

sort of.

Stephanie said the other day,

she was like, you know, it's wild is not many poets

are known by name.

Yeah.

And she was like,

and

from now on, Andrea Gibson has become and will continue to become a poet that you know by name.

And it is just

phenomenal to me.

Yeah.

The reaction to that episode that we did was so amazing online.

Yeah.

And oh my gosh, when I walked through, I mean, so many places that I've been,

but especially in Denver and Boulder and at the Mercury Cafe also known as the Pearl now people came up to me and just really expressed how appreciative they were that we really got into that and that it was helpful for their grieving and

so that just meant a lot because it was a very authentic moment that we accidentally deep dove into.

So I really appreciate all of the kind thoughts and words and expressions.

And

so, yeah, very handsome community.

Very handsome.

It's so interesting, like,

you know, gathering in that way for this unfortunate situation, but what a magical night

that

Andrea

Andrea and Andrea's legacy brought together such an amazing group of people it was so it was such a beautiful beautiful night we should do a show in colorado

i've never been i'd love to go and and oh my gosh yeah

oh my gosh we would be slammed we would be slammed you know i like getting slammed we should do it we should figure it out then let's try

we should and it would be incredible to include some poets in the show heck yeah anyway that's what i've been up to And

we're all having very

healing summers.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

Absolutely.

Except for that hot dog, which

I left the remnants outside because I was hoping it would lure the raccoons.

Oh, you don't want to lure the raccoons in.

I want to get a photo of a raccoon by the time I leave on my film camera.

And I've positioned the cameras by all the windows in case I see one.

But won't there be like eight of them?

I want want that.

All the better.

But the point is, I know that's irresponsible.

What if bears come?

But the point is,

in the morning, not a single animal had touched that hot dog, and it just made me realize it's plastic.

There's no real food in that.

Oh my gosh.

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I have to say, it didn't look like a great hot dog.

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Oh my gosh, you guys, this is.

I'm sorry to jump right back really quickly.

I just remembered this thing.

So many people wrote so many incredible, beautiful things, but I just

keep thinking about

Andrea's friend Buddy, who was living with Andrea

in the end to help.

He was an EMT previously, but also an incredible poet.

He wrote about how there was this marathon.

in Boulder that he and Andrea stumbled upon one day and um, and they were cheering on all of the runners like that were trailing behind.

And he was saying, like, we had no idea that this was our passion in life, was to like cheer on exhausted runners.

And the way he wrote this, in fact, I want to reach out to him and get a copy of it.

It was so beautiful, but he just told this beautiful story.

And in the end, he said that was ultimately what Andrea did in life was cheer on exhausted runners in this world.

Oh, I love that.

Oh my God, it was so beautiful.

Anyway, I just had to acknowledge that.

It just popped in my mind.

Yeah.

It was really, really beautiful.

Should we get to our question?

Let's do it.

Yeah, why not?

I'm very excited.

Today's question ask her: we've wanted to have her ask a question for so long.

I'm so excited.

She's a comedian, actor, writer, and producer who co-created and starred in Broad City.

She also co-created and starred in the TV adaptation of A League of Their Own, which was so good and so steamy.

And starred in No Good Deed on Netflix.

She also directed my stand-up special, SAP.

Abby Jacobson is asking today's question.

Okay, here we go.

Okay, I'm curious.

Do you guys feel like you've found like

a personal style?

and

I'm asking this because, like, sometimes I see someone, I'm like, God, they just really tapped into their look and their vibe, and they clearly feel really good and confident in what they're wearing.

And

you know, it's like it's a thing that like exudes from them.

Do you guys feel like you have that?

And if so, like, what is it?

When did you find it?

Yeah,

great question.

Personal style.

By the way, the Broad City show

that Abby and Alana created and started, one of my favorite shows of all time.

Yeah, agreed.

It is so funny to the point where I actually want to go back and start it again

and watch it all over again.

It used to make me cackle.

It's so funny.

Rewatch shows.

Yeah.

It was ridiculous and so good.

I think Abby has a personal style.

I'm interested to hear her answer, but what do you?

I think other people looking at the three of us would say we have a very distinct personal style, but I don't know if I feel that or do you guys feel that?

I feel like as far as personal style,

lesbian?

Right.

Yeah.

I just feel like

I would have that style too.

Yeah, I always tell people that if I ever go missing, I'm scared I'll never be found again because I'm like 5'5,

brown hair, brown eye, I mean, graying, and just look like a generic lesbian.

I always am surprised when people recognize me because I'm like, how did anybody recognize me?

I look like the most generic lesbian

wandering around.

No, I don't think you were like generic at all.

That chisel jot, that's what I wanted to hear.

Chisel jot, Tom Cruise, wearing kind of simple, masculine staples, good quality cottons.

Quality cottons, yes.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, and I think I like earth tones.

Yeah, you like a brown and a green.

That's another reason you wouldn't be found if you were lost.

You'd wander off in the forest and you'd play in.

You know, the wild animals are feeding off of my carcass.

But anyway, that's my style.

Better that than the hot dog.

Anything but that hot dog.

That giant squirrel that's around here,

he could eat in one sitting.

Now, to go back to your meal in quotes, please.

Why two pieces of, why two Doritos?

I've also left out the most embarrassing part of the meal, which was that I did have a

sort of date up here who I was trying to impress.

Oh, no, that was the meal for the date.

That's what I served her.

So it was like a garnish, two Doritos?

It was a garnish.

Oh, May, that is.

That would have been a time to make the pasta.

I know.

Because I've been making pasta.

I don't know.

I panicked.

What are we doing having a hot dog date?

I thought I might look good on the grill.

Was this a lady, a man, or a baby?

This is a lady who I thought I'm going to just stand and grill these hot dogs that couldn't get the grill working, had to do it in a frying pan.

Only had these weird flavored chips.

They weren't even Doritos.

They were like no-name brand.

And then these two little Gherkins.

But you knew this day

was happening?

Yeah, and then I got overwhelmed with like meal prep.

I had a big plan for the meal.

And then I thought, this was prepped?

Yeah, I was going to say, that's overwhelmed.

This meal was prepped?

Yeah,

I just don't know.

I would have had to open the bag of Doritos.

No,

I thought it would be a simple and nostalgic,

you know, summer meal.

You didn't even steam the buns.

Hello, who's to say Mae didn't steam the buns?

You know, I steamed the buns.

I don't know.

May, did you steam the buns?

What I actually did is I put the buns on top of the toaster.

I balanced

on top of the toaster slats i turned the toaster on thinking it would toast the buns gently it burned them black yeah and it'll smoke coming off then i had to do it again and watch them

and so what did this lady um eat your offering we picked at it we you know she took a picture of it uh did she have a sense of humor about it um oh yeah was she like oh this is adorable how you prepped for this and this is all i got she was uh suitably appalled i think but also it's a good it's a good anecdote with the photo evidence of how bleak it was did you leave her with a t-shirt that said i went on a date with may martin and all i got was this hot dog oh i was trying to justify the presentation i was like how cool is it that a hot dog can be the main and also a side like you got an extra wiener

on the side.

Yeah, you did a hot dog and a bun and then a side of hot dog.

Yeah.

Anyway,

my personal style, even a burger, even a burger would have been a better.

Oh, of course.

Anything or a charcuterie board?

Like, hot dog falls on the bottom of the barrel

list of things to serve on a date.

Like, we were at the Yankees game and we didn't even have hot dogs.

Like, like, you had a full meal.

Yeah.

It's like making someone a grilled cheese, which that might have even been better.

I love a grilled cheese.

Then you should have done grilled cheese.

I know.

I know.

know.

Did you?

You should have done grilled cheese.

I don't know if.

Are we allowed to ask?

Did you at least smooch?

Did you get

a fortune that's so private?

You know, May doesn't give me

to know.

I needed to know if this hot dog led to something.

It was more like the hot dog came at the end of a day of stuff.

So it was like I was exhausted.

I was super worn out.

We'd run out of time to prep the meal.

You know, that was more the situation.

Oh, you got the smooching in first?

Yeah, so if I had more of a smoondra,

it wasn't like I needed the meal to seal the deal, you know.

Then

the deal was sealed

before

the meal.

You were too exhausted to even make something proper.

Got it.

Well, that's the difference.

And do you want to see this person again?

Yeah, listen, off the pod.

Yeah, listen.

Yeah, you know, let's

personal style.

My personal style.

Yeah, that's your personality.

Well, I've had this haircut my whole life, except for

two years, 13 to 15, when I went high femme, like grew my hair out.

So I feel like I do have a distinctive look, but clothes I really struggled with.

And I held on to skinny jeans for a long time after everyone else had moved on.

And now I feel like I'm just settling into like

yeah good nice jeans nice simple things anyway how is that

boring answer you love a white tea and a black tea and black jeans yeah white tea black jeans black tea blue jeans and you definitely have a distinct style with your hair for sure i'm going back blonder i'm i'm using sun in that spray from the 90s that you you know you spray it yeah this is what i was my friend said you're using sun and does it work and i said yeah you it's you're just spraying bleach on your head.

And then I kind of heard what I just said: like, I'm spraying bleach onto my head.

Yeah, that can't be good.

I don't know if you guys saw, you know, we received some incredible fan art

for the show.

Let's see.

And our socials posted some of that.

They periodically post this fan art.

And all three of our hairs, our hairs,

head of hairs, what would you call this?

Heads of hair.

Heads of hair.

All three of our heads of hairs.

Hairdos.

Was put on a vibrator with top.

Oh, I saw this.

On a like a wand.

Yes, I saw that.

So I would say we are pretty distinct because I didn't know who everyone was.

You knew which vibrator was who.

I didn't know which vibrator was.

It was your hair on a vibrator.

There it is.

Thomas Marie.

Come vibe with us.

It's so funny.

Our listeners are so creative.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That's good.

So we, yeah, the hairstyles are styling.

Fortune, you are a fan of a wait.

I have to go back.

Yeah, go back, Tig.

Don't leave any stone unturned.

No, I still wear skinny jeans.

What do I do about this?

Is it a problem, May?

How skinny are they?

I don't know.

I mean, Tig is skinny.

I think you

pull it off.

I think to TI, they're just called jeans.

Right.

I just started getting a lot of flack of people saying you can't wear those anymore.

It's a straight leg or even if you're boldly hipster.

You're wearing the baggy jeans right now.

Yeah, so baggy, too baggy.

I think you can't.

I don't want baggy jeans.

Yeah,

what if I just want to just go ahead and wear the pants I already have?

I think you can, Tig.

Okay.

This is what I need to learn from you.

It's the way that you own it and are confident about it.

It's like people can pick up that I'm like, is it okay that I wear these jeans are still skinny?

And then they go, no, you got to change.

And I go, okay.

But if I just went, hey, I love my jeans, maybe people will be like, where'd you get them?

I got to get some.

I think you owning your own thing will be helpful.

Because I, yeah, I don't really care if people like what I'm wearing or not.

Yeah.

You got your holes covered.

I'm worn some horrific outfits.

What did I do with my favorite?

You got your holes covered.

She said, you got your holes covered.

That's all I'm going to free.

But I guess in Adam and Eve times,

that's all they did, right?

Covered holes.

Cover the holes, cover the nips.

Yeah.

Free the nip.

Let's see them titais.

My son Max wrote a poem the other day called

Big Feet and One Purple Nipple.

That's what's up.

I'm sorry.

What?

In Andrea's memory, yesterday was Andrea's 50th, it would have been Andrea's 50th birthday.

And we were,

you know, doing some Andrea-style poetry, but with silly topics.

And that's what Max came up with, this

big feet and one purple nipple.

And then he ended it with y'all, which is how Andrea would do.

But anyway, Andrea would have loved that.

Absolutely.

I let Meg know and she was thrilled.

Aw.

Any hoodles.

Do squirrels have nipples?

Oh.

Thomas, can you Google, please?

What if it said squirrels have one big purple nipple?

Yes, they have nipples.

Thank God we got to the bottom of that.

So what's your style, Fortune?

Well, yeah, because you wear a lot of t-shirts with

phrases on them.

Yeah.

Look at this.

Des Moines.

Hell yeah.

Okay.

Hell yes.

I love Iowa.

This is just someone from Des Moines gave me this shirt, and it's super comfortable, and therefore I wear it.

That's your style.

That's my style.

That's your style.

Yeah.

You wear what fans send.

Yeah.

As long as it's, as long as it's comfortable, if it's a scratchy, you know those thick scratchy tees?

I don't wear those.

Okay.

Right.

So if anyone gives me one of those, thank you, but I'm not going to wear it.

But if it's like a nice, cozy, like soft cotton tea,

I will wear that for sure.

We should come up with some weird to put on the t-shirt because we know you'll wear a free

what it says.

It says Des Moines hell yes.

Is that part of it that because you're you're good with money?

Do you like do you like shopping or not like it?

And you're just like, oh, so it's easier to wear.

I have in the last year really been enjoying wearing suits.

Yes.

So when I've had to elevate for something, like I hosted the, you know, Jimmy Kimmel show

and I wore three really fun suits and I really enjoyed that process of yeah with his the show stylist

that they each had fun colors and the shirts were like vibrant I like so I've been enjoying experimenting with suits and colors and patterns that's been a real treat now I don't wear a suit obviously in everyday life.

I'm not like Paul Feig.

But I

just, when there's an event or something that requires me dressing up, I'm really into suits right now.

Yeah, good to know.

Yeah.

I once had a suit made, like tailored, and I thought that would be good.

And then he said, Do you want to embroider like a secret message to yourself on the pocket inside?

And I wasn't prepared for the question.

And I went, yeah, let it be.

I'm so embarrassed when I go, it's so corny.

Let it be.

Let it be.

Why is that corny?

I don't know.

It's like the most obvious Beatles-y thing.

I should have gone,

you know.

I am the walrus.

Yeah, I'm the walrus.

Cuckoo.

Or cuckoo cachoo.

Cuckoo cachoo.

Yeah.

I said cuckoo careoo.

Really?

You say cuckoo curo.

I don't listen to the Beatles very much.

Okay, clearly.

But yeah, my style is just being comfortable.

Yeah.

Where to tig is is being lesbian, I'm being comfortable.

Same deal.

And my hair,

like you said, May, my hair has been this style and cut for probably

23 years.

Wow.

I like how specifically

roughly it was like

around college.

23 and a half years.

My hair was trying,

kind of was a triangle a little bit in high school.

And then I learned about layers.

Wait, did nobody else around you know about layers?

No, nobody told me.

Hey, girl, you're like Gilda Radner's character, triangle head, a thick triangle.

Yeah, and uh, amazing.

Once I discovered layers, I was like, I like this, let's stick with it.

But, like, what else would my hair even be?

I don't, the pigtails

are so like what it is, you know.

Curly hair is hard, right?

Yeah, people straightened it.

I look insane.

Well, I'm picturing your character, Brenda, has straight hair, right?

That's a wig.

That's a wig, right?

Because

I was straightening it, straightening it to do that character, and I was like, this is not going to fly.

I cannot do this every time I do this character, so I just got a wig.

I wonder if any of us have like a big style makeover in our future, or have we landed pretty much where we're at to like.

is that

like if some of you're done looks very different but like yeah also I think Take's done I'm done I'm just getting more gorgeous as I as the older I get so that I can't help

yeah

right

no you are sorry

that's a sincere yeah

yeah I wonder

like in the old days like in the 60s people wore such colorful fun things and now it feels like pretty pretty norm core.

I just love that of all people weighing in on style, us.

I mean, we are handsome, we're so handsome for sure.

Influencers

wearing

though on our

picture for our podcast, we do look very handsome.

Yes, we do.

So, when we

when the three of us actually try,

we can really turn it out.

My hair is looking way grayer than when we first started the podcast.

Should I dye my hair?

No, don't dye it.

You're rocking it.

Okay.

Yeah, that's cool.

All right, everyone, calm down.

I think if you dyed it, it would be like a solid block color.

And this is many dimensions.

Well, I just, I'm having...

These moments where I, and I've talked about this before, how, you know, working with different actors, they've clearly had Botox or different work done.

And I just thought, wouldn't it be fun if I just showed up with my hair dyed, Botox in my forehead, and got my teeth dyed, bleached white?

My teeth dyed.

Whatever.

But get my

teeth bleached.

My teeth dyed.

Purple teeth.

I just thought it would be so funny to show up with just dark hair, white teeth, and Botox in my forehead.

And like lip filler and cheekbone.

Oh, I would love to see you with a little,

nothing too extreme, but just something where I'm kind of keeping up, you know, with

Kim Kardashian.

Yeah.

I'm always trying to keep up with that one.

You should suddenly have a

big old ass

get an ass implant.

Yes.

You You never know.

I have a pretty good idea.

Yeah,

you feel like you're set.

So

dumpster tits over there is set.

Don't call me that.

Should we hear what Abby has to say?

Yes, please.

Okay.

I'm going to answer the question.

May told me I have to answer the question, which I didn't realize

until now.

I think I asked this question because I'm really curious

when people find their style because I struggle with it.

And sometimes I feel like I got it.

And sometimes I'm like, what the fuck did I,

what was I wearing there?

What was I thinking?

You know?

I think the moments...

I'm so sorry.

I'm like truly like walking around New York.

The moments where I felt most confident were like when I stick to like a classic sort of basic and when I've sort of found a uniform for myself

oh I'm rambling I don't know if I have it I think this is a never-ending question and something that is sort of always evolving as we change because like our styles change and like the way we we

feel most comfortable

and confident changes right whoa so did I ask a question that can't be answered I'm sorry it is always evolving and I'm glad she didn't get run over by a car Yeah,

that felt like an episode of Broad Cities.

It did feel like that.

Yeah.

I definitely have gone back and seen pictures online that I'm horrified by what I'm wearing.

I know I went through a sweater vest phase.

That wasn't great.

Yes.

And I went through a vest phase.

That wasn't great.

Sweater vests.

What was the other one that was that great?

Sweater vests and vests.

Vests are great.

Sweater vests are great.

Said the one that dresses like a lesbian.

There was a period of time where my t-shirts were a little too short.

I like a cropped tee.

I want to get

wearing a cropped tee.

Supposed.

What is supposed?

Were you wearing a cropped tee to like pick up a dude?

Were you like, hey?

Was it in those days?

Me?

Yeah.

I was never picking up dudes.

But when you thought you were straight, is that when you were drawn?

Dudes were interested.

They certainly didn't want me in a cropped tee.

But I'm saying, is that why why you were wearing one?

No, I wasn't purposely wearing a crop tee.

I wore t-shirts that were just too short.

It was an accident.

Okay.

It wasn't like I was like, it wasn't like this.

It was like just shy of my belly.

Like,

my belly was poking out.

We're all doing our best.

You know, you know.

So, yeah, I don't love to Google myself from the past because some of those outfits, especially, and on red carpets, too, where I knew my picture was being taken, I looked horrible.

It's good to have a couple of friends who are brutally honest with you.

And

I was about to do a red carpet for my friend's show, and I was with her, and she said, Is that what you're wearing?

And it was a big swing, like a kind of Harry Styles-esque, like floral jacket.

And I was like, No, you're right.

This is insane.

And then just wore a white t-shirt, felt much better.

See, back to your style.

I was on a red carpet with Rhys Witherspoon one time, and she is really good at uh giving me a hard time and i happen to be wearing a long black coat on the carpet

and she turns while we're being interviewed and points out cat hair all over my um black jacket

she's like is this cat hair I was like, probably.

Yes, it probably is.

It's from Kitty City.

Yeah, Kitty City made its way out here.

Well, our podcast is all about handsome being whatever it is to you.

That's right, Fortune, Marie.

Yeah, handsome is in the eye of the beholder as well.

You're handsome to people for different reasons, and you're handsome to yourself for different reasons.

And your style can be whatever it is you want.

As long as you feel,

Fortune.

That's right.

That's what being handsome is.

Yeah.

We're a handsome trio.

And

thanks, Abby, for the question.

Yeah, thanks, Abby.

We're all very confused about our own styles, even

Abby.

That's what it seems like.

I will say, I was at Abby's wedding, and she looked stunning in what she chose to wear.

And weddings are hard,

yeah.

And I always think Abby looks very stylish.

It's yeah, the classics.

It's yeah, it's interesting when you

see that

certain people that you think look great doubt how they look.

I know.

You're like,

you look like a million bucks, kid.

You look like a million bucks.

You look like a million bucks, kid.

Oh, hello.

Well, that was

a delightful episode.

I'm going to tell you what I'm up to, folks.

I am going to be at Dynasty Typewriter in Los Angeles on September 21st.

And then I'm going to be at the Beaux Revange Resort and Casino September 27th in Biloxi, Mississippi.

Check Tignotaro.com for more dates because

the road goes on forever.

This weekend, I'm in Spokane, Washington at the Great Outdoors Comedy Festival.

Then I have San Antonio and Houston, Texas, and then Norfolk and Richmond, Virginia, Washington, D.C., Portland, Maine, Boston, Mobile, Alabama, New Orleans, and Atlanta, a bunch of other stuff, Salt Lake, Chicago, Fresno,

San Jose, tickets at my website, Fortunefeamster.com.

I have a Largo show in LA on September 17th.

Yeah, and I really want people to come.

It's going to be a really fun, special one.

And then Wayward is coming out on Netflix September 25th.

So I just want to get started.

Yeah, the trailer looks so good.

Thanks, man.

Oh, also, if anybody's interested in seeing the Andrea Gibson documentary called Come See Me in the Good Light, that will be premiering on Apple TV on November 14th.

So please tell your friends.

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