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Speaker 1 I'm one of your hosts, Mae Martin.

Speaker 2 And I am another host, and my name is Tig Notaro. And I am Fortune Peamster.

Speaker 2 This is all true. This is true.
So far, everything is true. We're on a real hot streak here.

Speaker 1 I'm sitting on this butch leather sofa. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Feeling butch.

Speaker 2 Look at it. Thank you.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 I've been cutting my own hair though a lot and it's got into a weird shape and very thick and kind of

Speaker 1 I don't know why I do it.

Speaker 2 Do you know how to cut hair?

Speaker 1 No.

Speaker 2 So you just clearly. Yeah.
You do. I have noticed a lot in life you're always doing this with your hair.
What you do this.

Speaker 2 You do a little circle.

Speaker 1 No, I do. Okay, I'll show you.

Speaker 2 Yeah, show it.

Speaker 1 Okay, so it's this. The fingers go into it and then it kind of then I kind of pull out to give it some texture.
But

Speaker 1 my friend was like, well, that's a stim. That's autism.

Speaker 2 Oh, really?

Speaker 1 Because I do it all the time, and I can't stop.

Speaker 2 So am I up to this?

Speaker 2 Is stimming just an autism thing or is it like anxiety?

Speaker 1 It could be, yeah, who fucking knows? It could be like an OCD thing.

Speaker 2 I don't know, but I am constantly like, I do things with my fingers.

Speaker 2 Oh, you do? Stuff like this sometimes. Yeah.

Speaker 1 There's like whole blooper reels during filming of me doing that in scenes or using the cameras. Using my reflection.

Speaker 2 Do you see your blooper?

Speaker 2 Is touching your hair? I mean, they do. You should see my bloopers.
Is it you just... Messing up lines? I mean, the gibberish that comes out of my mouth on Star Trek.
I love a blooper. Oh, yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah, they edited together a montage of me using... my reflection in the camera to fix my hair and then doing it in character.

Speaker 2 And when they play it for the cast and crew, does everyone laugh so hard at your blooper?

Speaker 1 Sort of, everyone's like, oh, that's old May. And then I'm sort of laughing at first, and then my face slowly falls as I see myself reflect.

Speaker 1 You know? Yeah.

Speaker 2 Yeah, this has started out sad. Yeah, this has started out melancholic.
If it's helpful at all, your hair looks the same to me. Would you say May's hair looks the same?

Speaker 2 Yeah, I mean, we don't notice the change, but I think it matters to you

Speaker 1 more than anything on this earth.

Speaker 2 Well, you know, it's funny we're talking about this because tonight I'm giving my little cubs a haircut.

Speaker 1 Oh, my God. Are you excited? Because you're good.
You have the whole kit and everything.

Speaker 2 I have the whole kit. I have the cape that goes around the neck.
Oh, my God. Yeah, I have buzzers, clippers, everything.

Speaker 2 That's fun. I have been doing this since the pandemic.
I love it so much.

Speaker 1 Will you make like banter as if you're a hairdresser while you do it?

Speaker 2 No, because Max and Finn are like, Are we finished yet? Right.

Speaker 2 And it's like every few seconds. I'm like, guys, guys,

Speaker 2 please, if we were, you know, we would have to get in the car, we'd have to drive to the barber shop. We have to wait.

Speaker 2 You know, this is much faster.

Speaker 1 Yeah, you're saving time.

Speaker 2 Yeah, and money, okay? We are. We are saving our cash.
Oh, yeah, you are. And

Speaker 2 so I cut their hair, and then I cut Stephanie's dad, Papa Grande, cut his hair. And he does saddle up like he's at an actual barber shop.
And he's like, well, you know, today

Speaker 2 I was going down the 101. And, you know,

Speaker 2 he wants the full experience. Yeah, he wants.

Speaker 1 He should, like, for men who have difficulty talking about their feelings, they should set up like a little barber shop. Like it gives them the space to talk, to open up,

Speaker 2 say what's on their mind. Yeah.
I might. Oh, go on.
No, no, go on. No, please.
No. I'll say my hair is like a three-hour process.
You said I could go. Oh, sorry.

Speaker 2 No, you go. No, fortune, it's your turn.
My hair is like a three-hour process. What? That? Yeah, because I have to.
Oh, you mean cutting it? Cutting it. No, they meant styling it.
No, cutting it.

Speaker 2 It's three hours. That is your style.
No, because you know, I sun-kiss my hair, so that takes forever. Yeah.
How do you sun-kiss your hair? They put in highlights and lowlights. That is adorable.

Speaker 2 So you sit in one of those little chairs with

Speaker 2 the helmet over your head? Yeah.

Speaker 2 Oh, my God. Can you tell us when you're having that done again? Are you going to tell us? Yeah, we put it on the list.

Speaker 2 So you go to the salon and you sit under the thing. Yeah, with the foils.
The foils, mom. I'll take a picture.

Speaker 2 No, you're going to take a picture. Oh, you're going to

Speaker 2 be my gosh. Oh, my God.
Yes. In the salon, and you just hear you guys come tromping in.

Speaker 2 Look at Fortune trying to keep it handsome over there. Uh-huh.
It takes a village. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Do you play games on your phone while you sit and wait?

Speaker 2 You play best scenes?

Speaker 2 I do. Well, the person who I've found to do it, she's been doing it in the last year.

Speaker 2 It's fun to talk to. Okay.
So we talk a lot. Why is she fun to talk to? She's just like easygoing and easy to talk to.
More fun than me?

Speaker 2 No. Thank you.
Who is? Exactly. And then while the thing's on, you can't really talk because it's loud.
Yeah. So then I'll play games on my phone with.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 What kind of games do you play on your phone? Best Finns.

Speaker 1 Fiends.

Speaker 2 Best Finns. They ruined my life forever.
I know.

Speaker 1 It's a dick to be. I stopped playing it.

Speaker 2 Although, some people say it's called Best Finns. I don't know.

Speaker 1 Gotta be Fiends.

Speaker 2 I think

Speaker 2 it's a better name, too. Best Finns? Best Finns? And Max's.

Speaker 2 What's that? Best Finns and Max's. Yeah.

Speaker 1 What's N Max's?

Speaker 2 My other son. Oh, Finns.
Gotcha.

Speaker 2 I just went, yeah. Yeah, you're like, yeah.

Speaker 1 Well, my new like passing the time thing is the capital cities, and I'm at 130. If anyone was like following my progress and wanted to know, because I know the countries, and now I'm at 130.

Speaker 2 Have I already told you you should talk to Finn about this? Yeah, he's into geography and maps. Oh, even beyond the U.S.
I mean, it's like

Speaker 2 so

Speaker 2 and flags.

Speaker 1 I'm stressed because I didn't know each state in America has a capital city.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Yes.
I didn't know that. That is adorable.
So now I got to know.

Speaker 2 Welcome.

Speaker 2 Yeah, thank you. I like it here.
Welcome. When are you getting your license, by the way? Well, I've had a lesson recently.
Okay.

Speaker 1 But after the lesson, I've learned that my learner's permit's expired. So I have to do the written test again.

Speaker 1 Oh, I know. But as soon as I'm done that,

Speaker 1 I swear to God, you guys, I'm going to get the license. By the end of the summer, it's happening.

Speaker 2 It's got it. Where are you going to go?

Speaker 1 I'm going to drive around the block.

Speaker 1 I'm going to go. Oh, my God.
Every morning I could go anywhere. I could go to the desert.

Speaker 2 You can, yeah, every morning I could go.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I could go to Ohio. I don't have a car.
You don't?

Speaker 2 No.

Speaker 2 So, how do you get around? Oh, we're a one-car family. Oh, yeah.
So, that counts as your real? Y'all have to ride together everywhere? Well, we live in a very walkable area

Speaker 2 and I don't go anywhere. Oh, I just shuffle around my neighborhood and have coffee and snacks.

Speaker 2 Picture you in a robe. Shuffling around in a robe that is nice to be able to walk to coffee

Speaker 2 like that or i'll uber like i uber here oh you didn't take a stretch limousine uber like you well i guess if you don't go many places then it doesn't make sense to have two cars no stephanie wants me to get one oh yeah she's tired of

Speaker 2 she's tired of me being like oh you don't you don't need the car today i'm gonna take that and um yeah but we'll work that out

Speaker 2 my better driver you or stephanie well that's up for debate

Speaker 2 Stephanie would swear if she is. Is she faster? No.
Really? Okay, okay. No.
No.

Speaker 2 And she has a car

Speaker 2 that famously goes fast.

Speaker 2 And I'm like, why do we even have this? Right. You know? Yeah.
And she's just buckled in going the speed limit.

Speaker 1 I'm going to go the speed limit all the time. It's too scary.

Speaker 2 Well, at least while you're still getting comfortable. Yeah.

Speaker 2 It's

Speaker 2 getting comfortable. Look at Biggie.
Yeah, Biggie. Biggie's getting very comfortable.

Speaker 1 Guys, tonight

Speaker 1 I'm already feeling nervous because tonight I'm going to see a scary movie. Okay.
And this is, you know, Brett Goldstein, my friend Brett.

Speaker 2 So he, I think some. We're friends with him too.
Yeah, he's your buddy. And he.
You say our friend, Brett. You know, our mutual friend, Brett.

Speaker 1 Of course, he's our friend. Someone, you got like a screener of a movie because the guys are going to come on his podcast or something.
And they're the guys that made that movie talk to me.

Speaker 1 and can I just read you this is what the reviews said because it hasn't come out yet and then I googled it do you get swayed by reviews no normally I don't read them but I'm I don't like all scary movies I like like a thriller and I like a slasher movie but this is okay

Speaker 1 extremely gnarly with no pulled punches. This film has such an evil presence from the get-go.

Speaker 1 Even before the studio logo's hit, you're hit with this disturbing imagery that makes you feel gross and unsafe.

Speaker 1 Deeply upsetting. I'd even go so far as to say this is an evil film.

Speaker 2 Oh.

Speaker 1 Like it feels like it haunted me, like I'm going to die in seven days.

Speaker 2 Oh, no. This is going to be like a bear.
Is this like a professional reviewer or is it somebody writing a comment in their underwear in the middle of the night? I think it's that.

Speaker 2 I know it was someone on Rotten Tomatoes. You're going to be haunted by this movie.

Speaker 1 I know. I'm scared.

Speaker 2 You're going with Brett. Is that what you were saying?

Speaker 1 Yeah, I know.

Speaker 1 I don't normally like supernatural horror movies.

Speaker 2 They freak me out. Yeah.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 I don't, for some reason, I don't mind a

Speaker 1 crazy guy with a knife.

Speaker 2 You can always fall asleep during it.

Speaker 2 That's true. It'll just drag up to brat.

Speaker 2 Who cuts Biggie's hair? Jax does. Okay.
Yeah. Because I see some pieces that need to be evened out with clips.

Speaker 2 He's been all over the place lately.

Speaker 2 Well, he's beautiful, of course, but I just see some little edges that need to be evened out. I'm happy to do that.
Yeah, again. And would you like me to cut your hair? Give that kid out.

Speaker 2 You would let me cut your hair?

Speaker 1 Yeah, I would, yeah. You would tidy up the back inside.

Speaker 2 Oh, my gosh.

Speaker 1 Because look at the back, just this chunk.

Speaker 2 Oh, bless you. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 Oh, no. I don't even know this pattern.
Well, I wouldn't notice it if you didn't tell us to look, but it's just like a diagonal right now. Should I show the camera? Yeah, why not?

Speaker 2 I wouldn't want to show that. Oh, there's scissors right there.
Oh, my God. You're going to have a handsome haircut.

Speaker 1 Do you think you could even it out with just big old chunky scissors?

Speaker 2 Big old chunky scissors. You know, scissors.
And the pencil. And the big old chunky scissors.

Speaker 2 You heard this long before?

Speaker 2 Some of you have some horror films.

Speaker 2 Big old chunky scissors.

Speaker 2 Big old chunky scissors.

Speaker 1 Oh, hi, and bye.

Speaker 2 That's your friend now. Yes.
Okay. We're scared.
This has turned into a horror film. Tig gave Biggie some apple earlier, so I see that you're in one picture.

Speaker 1 What if there was a horror movie where the killer sang big old chunky scissors?

Speaker 2 That's how I started is I cut Max and Finn's hair with big old kid scissors. Oh, no way.
Yes, it did look good.

Speaker 2 But here's the thing. It took me five years.

Speaker 2 We don't have to do that. No, no, no.
I can't do it right now. No, no, no.
No, no, no. No, no, no.

Speaker 2 It took me five years to now be

Speaker 2 real quick. Like, I can do it.

Speaker 1 Oh, you're snips himself.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I'm just like, this is a snip.

Speaker 2 Oh, that's nice. Stephanie said, I give her dad the best haircut she's ever seen him have

Speaker 2 since she's known it. That's amazing.

Speaker 1 I had a hairdresser in England, not Debbie, but this guy who I remember one day he was like, I'm pretty nervous because in a couple months I'm going on Britain's Got Talent.

Speaker 2 I think, yeah.

Speaker 1 Or the X Factor, one of those.

Speaker 1 But it was Simon Cowell judging, and he was so nervous. And he had a piano in the shop, and he'd practice playing and stuff.
And I was like, I hope this goes well for him.

Speaker 1 He was pinning everything on it. And then I remember him coming back after the audition like the next month being like daddy they didn't like it

Speaker 2 next time but

Speaker 2 man it takes balls to go on those shows yeah my cousin went and auditioned for really one of those shows and she was laughing so hard at like how she did not have like a story a compelling story is that oh yeah yeah the same as yeah pretty much like they yeah you you need a compelling story to get yeah right right right um have you ever done those comedy competitions when you started out?

Speaker 2 I did Last Comedy Sanders. Did you? Oh, you did that too.

Speaker 1 Did you? Is that televised?

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 2 How'd you do? Six. I won every year.

Speaker 2 It was my first TV thing, so for me, it was great.

Speaker 1 It's so scary when you've got like three minutes.

Speaker 2 I know.

Speaker 2 It takes me to the next one. And then they edit.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Edit all the flow.

Speaker 2 Fully edit. Yeah.
Oh, well, you know what I'm about to do with my mom? What? Speaking of hair, I'm going gonna take her wig shopping no way yeah

Speaker 2 and i'm wondering if i should get her a wig that looks like my hair oh that would be good we should get her a wig of each of our hair including thomas's yeah and mustache and she could change uh change wigs

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Speaker 2 So, fill us in. Maybe some people don't know what's going on.

Speaker 2 Oh, my mom has cancer.

Speaker 2 I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 I can't.

Speaker 2 I'm it's uncomfortable. I laugh and I'm uncomfortable.
Yeah, I understand the laugh. Um it's not funny.
No. But yes, so well, she didn't know about this when we saw her at

Speaker 2 the Ryman.

Speaker 1 I know we just saw her.

Speaker 2 Yeah, you just seen her, which I'm so glad we've had some like really cool experiences lately. Not that she's going anywhere, hopefully.

Speaker 2 Yes, my mom got diagnosed like a month ago with

Speaker 2 I can't say the long name, but it's bile duct cancer. It's in the bile ducts in her liver.
And it's a very rare cancer, very aggressive. It's stage two.
She randomly found it.

Speaker 2 She went to urgent care for shortness of breath. And they didn't see any.
She thought she might have a blood clot. They didn't see any.
And

Speaker 2 they

Speaker 2 said, we can do this other test with... dye, but you don't need it.
And for whatever reason, she's like, no, I want it.

Speaker 2 And they did it. And she had a mass about the size of an orange.
An orange.

Speaker 2 A small orange on her liver. And they were like,

Speaker 2 this is not good. They set up the time stage four because it was so big.
And

Speaker 2 she had a bunch of tests. And so she has this.
It's not great.

Speaker 2 It is not curable,

Speaker 2 but it can be treated.

Speaker 2 The prognosis, who knows, it could... anywhere from a year to six years, some people longer.
Or even longer. Yeah, it could be 12, 15.

Speaker 2 So we're just

Speaker 1 in that phase of like an onslaught of information and like wading through it.

Speaker 2 She didn't want to talk about it for the first month, though.

Speaker 2 So I kept it to myself. And

Speaker 2 then it was funny. Like she started to slowly want to talk about it to people.
And I went home to visit her.

Speaker 2 You know, she'd been saying she didn't want to talk about it. And someone said,

Speaker 2 and, you know, hey, Ginger, good to see you. How are you doing? I have cancer, and I was like, Wait, what just happened?

Speaker 2 And so then she told me to share the story because she just needed help and information. And especially because it's such a rare, it's rare, and all these people have rallied around her.

Speaker 2 And she's got all these great people in her hometown, like saying they'll take her to any appointment. She's got a, she's starting chemo, or by this time, has started chemo.

Speaker 2 Um,

Speaker 2 and

Speaker 2 uh, we got her

Speaker 2 set up a a great doctor at Emory. We're going to see what happens there.

Speaker 2 I and I don't know. All these people, I I'm trying to compartmentalize right now.
Yeah, and how is how is she

Speaker 2 with

Speaker 2 I mean, with my own experience of having cancer, it's so overwhelming and there's so much information, like you're saying. And so is she bringing somebody to her appointments with her? Yeah.

Speaker 2 She takes notes and all that. Yeah, she went to one appointment the other day by herself and started crying.
And

Speaker 2 yeah yeah

Speaker 2 yeah

Speaker 2 oh

Speaker 2 ginge it's tough

Speaker 2 yeah so um I'm glad she's got you and and yeah people are rallying around yeah so she said she wasn't gonna do that again she's gonna take some have somebody go with her so

Speaker 2 like we have great family down that way that have reached out and a lot of people said they'd go with her

Speaker 1 well if anyone can rock a wig it's gonna be

Speaker 2 Well, some people are like, oh, it doesn't have, not everyone loses hair, but pretty much every doctor is like, with what you have, you're going to lose hair.

Speaker 2 You know, she's just, she's scared, and, um, but has

Speaker 2 got that fighter mentality. And,

Speaker 2 yeah, just unexpected, did not see this coming. And life is a bit crazy right now, and a lot of changes are happening, but just focused on her and getting her better.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I mean, and it makes you so grateful that, yeah, you have all these insane experiences together, like all these clips of you guys on stage together, and then and then, like, that we were all just hanging.

Speaker 2 I know, yeah, yeah, I was glad we went on a cruise together earlier this year.

Speaker 2 These cool experiences. The good thing is that you know, I'll be able to go pop into North Carolina and more and spend time with everyone.

Speaker 2 It's like, you know, make sure you spend a lot of time together. And

Speaker 2 I mean, hopefully, this, you know, the treatments help her live much longer life than

Speaker 2 that, you know,

Speaker 2 if it were stage two

Speaker 2 by getting those scans done now, there's, I think, hope for, you know, keeping it at bay for a while. A lot of people don't find it until stage four because it's so undetectable.

Speaker 2 It's so hard to find and no symptom, usually no symptoms. I mean,

Speaker 2 it's unbelievable that she found it. Yeah.
So. And

Speaker 2 but but she does I know people are saying, Oh, I can go with her, but does she has like

Speaker 2 I'm gonna go with this person or I I have this plan because

Speaker 2 I just I would hate for that to sneak up on her again where she doesn't like uh

Speaker 2 that's not planned. And I don't know if that if if you have family friends that

Speaker 2 you could reach out to or maybe

Speaker 2 I think so. Yeah.
I think that's the part that's been tough lately is just like

Speaker 2 there's so many people reaching out and so many people wanting to help that I'm I'm kind of shutting down a little bit and I'm trying to like I know I can't, I have to face it, but I'm just trying to like be like, give me a minute to like

Speaker 2 sort this out and um once I can just kinda wrap my head around everything and what needs to be done, I can help facilitate that stuff.

Speaker 2 'Cause I have cousins and stuff being like, Let me talk to you or let me reach and I'm just like, Give me a minute, you know.

Speaker 2 That's the thing about the cancer situation that I just never realized was

Speaker 2 all these people reaching out, saying how much,

Speaker 2 how many tasks there are to do

Speaker 2 for the person that has the cancer. It's a full-time job for the person with cancer and the community surrounding.
Yeah. Because, I mean, I was one of the very lucky people that had

Speaker 2 rides everywhere I went,

Speaker 2 People staying with me, making food for me.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 I just don't, and I was so at a point in my life where

Speaker 2 I was such a different person. It's crazy to think about, but I was just like, I could do everything on my own.
I didn't need, you know what I mean?

Speaker 2 Like, even after surgery, I was like, I didn't.

Speaker 2 My friends were like, we're going to stay with you. And I was like, I'm fine.
Like at my place alone with the open

Speaker 2 these incisions in my chest and they're like you can't even lift your arms

Speaker 2 like no I'm fine I'm good but it's you know it really makes you realize like and I'm like that's it you kind of need a medical degree to understand everything and maybe it would be good aside from even taking notes to just

Speaker 2 I don't know, like a voice memo, like record

Speaker 2 that's what people said, record the record the

Speaker 2 appointments, but for sure sure, for the emotional support to have somebody there with her

Speaker 2 because it is so overwhelming. And while you're taking in all of this crazy information, then your emotions come over you

Speaker 2 and it'll it's it's all it's so much, you know.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I mean, she's at the age where most of her friends are retired, you know, so that's helpful.

Speaker 2 Yeah, so a lot of them are out when our church had made a whole list of like people signing up to volunteer. Oh, great.

Speaker 2 So I think she'll

Speaker 2 be in good hands. And my brothers are out that way too.
And

Speaker 2 their wives.

Speaker 2 How far away are they?

Speaker 2 One's 45 minutes and one's six hours. Okay.

Speaker 2 So

Speaker 1 you must be too. Like everyone knows someone who's had cancer or has had some encounter with cancer in their life.
And so everybody has different, I'm sure, like tips and thoughts on it.

Speaker 1 Like everyone has different opinions.

Speaker 2 Yeah, it's pretty overwhelming. I will say it's pretty incredible.

Speaker 2 Fortune. Love you, bud.

Speaker 2 Sorry.

Speaker 2 No.

Speaker 2 I think, you know, there's, like you said, there's so much going on right now. Yeah.
And this is like

Speaker 2 no joke. Yeah.
And you need support. I was just trying to say, like,

Speaker 2 it's been pretty crazy in a good way

Speaker 2 how many

Speaker 2 people people have shown up

Speaker 2 for me and for her.

Speaker 2 And people I don't even know that well. Yeah.
You know,

Speaker 2 I've been really

Speaker 2 pretty amazed, actually,

Speaker 2 just like how many people just care and want to help.

Speaker 2 People just

Speaker 2 instinctually want to help, I think.

Speaker 2 And of course, knowing her

Speaker 2 and people, I mean,

Speaker 2 of course, people want to help her. And that's, I hope she's somebody that's open to help.

Speaker 2 Very much. So that's why she had me finally tell people about it because she was like, I need help.
Yeah. And

Speaker 2 I've just been like really grateful for everybody who's, I mean, even my good friends are like just calling her. Yeah.
Yeah. And like talking with her.
And like,

Speaker 2 I don't know. That part just like really.

Speaker 2 And this, and I, and I've made new friends who've been like, what can I do? How can I help? Like people, strangers that I don't know.

Speaker 2 I mean, this woman that saw the post, like reached out to this unbelievable, you know, cancer doctor in Atlanta to like

Speaker 2 please help and look at her information. I mean, just like

Speaker 2 friends sending like, here are the things to eat and don't eat. You know, here are the things to do.
Here's tips. I mean,

Speaker 2 it's been

Speaker 2 like, I hate that it's under these circumstances, but just seeing people

Speaker 2 come together like that.

Speaker 2 I mean, it's hard to remember.

Speaker 1 Like, remember and feel that you have that support network

Speaker 1 day to day. And then, when something happens and everyone comes out of the woodwork like that, and you're like, Yeah, I guess that was there all along, and I didn't know that people

Speaker 2 haven't back here. I've been

Speaker 2 wanting my hand off of you. No,

Speaker 2 I love it.

Speaker 2 I've been, uh, this year has been a, it has tested me in many ways, um, but people have, um, just freaking showed up for me in in

Speaker 2 ways I could have never expected. So it's like just the,

Speaker 2 it's what's gotten me through it. Yeah.

Speaker 2 So, yeah. You know, she's going to fight it.
Yeah. We're going to do everything we can.
And

Speaker 2 she'll fight it. And then she's like,

Speaker 2 you know. She'll fight it.
But as you said, she has an entire army behind her. Yeah.
I mean, of

Speaker 2 course, family, friends, neighbors,

Speaker 2 townies,

Speaker 2 strangers, every, I mean,

Speaker 2 yeah.

Speaker 2 And to be hooked up with such an incredible doctor.

Speaker 2 And I have the means to go, you know, like this, this weekend, I last minute, I was like, I'm just going to go fly out there, you know, I'll go see her. And

Speaker 2 it's not the journey. It's funny, I've this year, just from things going on with me, I've talked to her every day and

Speaker 2 before we even knew about the cancer, and we've we've just gotten so we've always been close,

Speaker 2 and especially in my adult years,

Speaker 2 but we've just talked every day, and she's gotten me through some tough times.

Speaker 2 And so, I entering into this phase of my life where I'm at right now, I was like, oh, we're gonna go do fun things, and you know, and have some fun mom-daughter times.

Speaker 2 And this is just not really the journey I thought.

Speaker 2 She didn't think this either, but that she'd be on it at the moment. So that's just life, though.
But yeah.

Speaker 2 One of my favorite things in the world, and I know I've said it on this podcast, and I say it to everybody in times like these, but what's so amazing is

Speaker 2 one of my favorite things that Ram Das has ever said is that we're all just walking each other home. Oh, yeah.
And I just love it so much because it's like

Speaker 2 everybody and

Speaker 2 home just meaning any point in your life. Just

Speaker 2 like I

Speaker 2 experienced that outreach and it changed my life like I really don't know who I was before I was so sick.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 man

Speaker 2 were people walking me home.

Speaker 2 And man, do I want to help people walk home.

Speaker 2 You know, it's just like.

Speaker 2 No, I'm going

Speaker 2 that's nice

Speaker 2 it's true like when you look around whether it's strangers or your family or friends and it's just like

Speaker 2 it's such a beautiful thing and it it is

Speaker 2 yeah but I'm I'm I'm relieved to know that she has so many people

Speaker 2 I'm very grateful she's from we're from a small town where everybody really looks out for each other so So

Speaker 2 that makes me feel much better. Yeah.
Yeah. But that her facing this is not going to be alone.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 Yeah. That's very reassuring.
What a year.

Speaker 2 I mean, if we were on a like a month. If we were on like a talk show or something, we'd go to a commercial break right now.
Yeah, but we can't. We can't.
So we go. Yeah.

Speaker 2 They decide when our commercial breaks are from

Speaker 2 laughing awkwardly to meanwhile like a little baby. Biggie doesn't know what the hell.
Biggie's just enjoying his life.

Speaker 2 Just thinking about the apple piece I gave him. That's right.

Speaker 2 Well, Fortune, we are here for you. We are.
We love you.

Speaker 1 We're sending Ginger so much love and support.

Speaker 2 And we're here for walking home. Thank you for that.
I appreciate it.

Speaker 2 We'll just rally behind her, get her through this. Absolutely, we will.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 Isn't that right, Biggie?

Speaker 2 Biggie can't talk.

Speaker 2 What a podcast. We go from being ridiculous and insane to look at us sharing feelings.
What a podcast.

Speaker 2 What a podcast. You know, I'm like hungry for the real stuff.

Speaker 1 Like, I'm good to get earnest sometimes.

Speaker 2 It is, but

Speaker 2 why do I laugh at being so uncomfortable? Well, that dick did a stand-up thing if I have cancer.

Speaker 1 Like, it's a natural kind of thing. I think like almost the absurdity of just the shocks of life.

Speaker 2 Well, that was what my whole special was. Yeah.
like,

Speaker 2 because, you know, in my run of months that that stuff happened, it was like, it was hell upon hell. Like, you know, my mother tripping and dying, and my breakup, and all the diseases I had.

Speaker 2 And then I was like, gee, like, it just seemed

Speaker 2 relentless. And then when the doctor was like, you have invasive cancer, I was like,

Speaker 2 what?

Speaker 2 I was like, but it can't happen like this. I'm like, I'm in hell.
I can't eat food and my mother's gone and my girlfriend's gone. I was like, how can I possibly have cancer?

Speaker 2 And I don't know if I've shared this on the show, but Ira Glass from This American Life, he was saying, you know, people think random means

Speaker 2 sporadic and

Speaker 2 spread out. And he said, sometimes random can be all things in one cluster.
Yeah, yeah. Cluster.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that really stuck with me because I thought,

Speaker 2 like, in the first three things that happened in those four or five months, I was like, well,

Speaker 2 life's just going to be smooth sailing now because I've gone through everything. Right.
And then it just, and I don't mean to say that like

Speaker 2 there's more for sure coming, but it's just, it's like, there's no gauge. There's no,

Speaker 2 it's just

Speaker 2 random. Random.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 And you think, oh, it won't be me or, oh, it won't be my loved one. It won't be my relationships or my health or whatever it is.
And it's like, it's all of us. Yeah.
And look at you now, though.

Speaker 2 Exactly. Look at me now.
Yeah. I mean,

Speaker 2 I mean, life is good, but I still have many challenges like everybody does.

Speaker 2 But I have a very solid foundation in my life with my health and my marriage and my kids and all that work and whatever. But within those areas, there's still always

Speaker 2 rough spots. Yeah,

Speaker 2 for sure. But

Speaker 2 yeah, I'm very thankful.

Speaker 2 Very, deeply thankful.

Speaker 1 So.

Speaker 1 You let us know what's helpful.

Speaker 2 I will. Okay.
I just wanted to touch Tig back

Speaker 2 up the shoulder. That feels a little different.

Speaker 2 Is that a Buck Mason t-shirt?

Speaker 2 It's ragged and bone. Ragnarok, yeah.
Yeah. Sorry to say that.
No, no, no. Oh, that took it out of me.

Speaker 2 Oh, yeah. You take a break.
Portion you, sip your beverage. Let's go to commercial.
Yeah, we'll go to commercial. I don't even drink soda.
What am I?

Speaker 2 Oh, yeah. I don't drink soda.

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Speaker 2 But you feel good, like aside from any sort of emotional turmoil? Um,

Speaker 2 I

Speaker 2 don't know. I don't know.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 I'm, uh,

Speaker 2 I'm not terrible. I'm not great.

Speaker 2 I have

Speaker 2 compartmentalized a little bit

Speaker 2 just because there's things going on in my life, but um, just like day, day by day.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I think I'm just trying to find the light, you know, like uh focus on the happy things and yeah, what are the what are the good things in my life and and focusing on that, yeah, you know, throwing myself into work a bit, but not to the point where like I'm ignoring everything and just pretending like everything's good.

Speaker 2 I'm I'm, you know, talk to a therapist and

Speaker 2 um

Speaker 2 just trying to like feel the things when it comes up and

Speaker 2 you know,

Speaker 1 lucky that we love what we do. Like, can you imagine if you had all this going on and you hated your job or something?

Speaker 2 Yeah, we're, yeah, like, I mean, it's tricky, it is tricky, like being on tour,

Speaker 2 having all this stuff going on, and just and then been like, okay, here we go. Yeah, yeah, yeah, be silly, but I'm not forcing myself to.
I don't go out there and going, well, you gotta do this.

Speaker 2 Right. I genuinely am so happy to see everybody.
Yeah. And to make people laugh makes me feel good.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 So that having that in my life is probably what's getting me through. It's just like being in those theaters, feeling that love.
Yeah, the community. People are so kind.

Speaker 2 That is what's moving me forward. Yeah.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 That's true. And just spending time, you know, with my mom.
And

Speaker 2 yeah, I'm focusing on I've you know, had s re I've always had my friends, but just reconnecting with them in a way that's meaningful.

Speaker 2 I've had some really meaningful meaningful conversations with a lot of people lately, deep, deep ones that I just hadn't had in a while.

Speaker 2 Everything had been kind of surfaced for a bit just because I was so busy that I've really allowed myself to

Speaker 2 connect and

Speaker 2 just

Speaker 2 get to it. Yeah,

Speaker 2 those are the best. Those conversations.

Speaker 1 Kind of like when we all talk about Ponty something.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Just like that.

Speaker 1 And to pop it.

Speaker 2 Just cutting the shit

Speaker 2 sharing what's important, I think. Yeah.
That's where I'm at right now. Yeah.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 So, yeah, I'm going to be okay.

Speaker 1 More than okay.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 2 And I was just thinking when I was

Speaker 2 when you were emotional and I reached out to touch you, I'm very curious.

Speaker 2 You know, some people don't like to be touched when they're emotional, and then other people do. Where do you guys stand on that? I want to be curled up.
Held like a baby.

Speaker 1 And held like a baby.

Speaker 2 Like if I was sitting next to you,

Speaker 2 or Fortune Was, or Thomas, you'd want us to snuggle you, like, hold you. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 Or like touch me in some way for sure, I think.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Such a natural human being.

Speaker 2 Like, were you like, oh boy, this is awkward when I touched your arm.

Speaker 2 Okay. No, no, no.
And then, was there a part of you that was like, why isn't she holding me? Why isn't she scroning me? Well, I knew Biggie was getting in the way of that.

Speaker 2 Otherwise, I would be in your lap

Speaker 2 with you brushing my hair.

Speaker 2 But it is so interesting. Yeah.
You know?

Speaker 1 If I'm throwing up, I don't want anyone touching me.

Speaker 2 Good to know.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that would probably be. I don't need that.

Speaker 1 I don't need someone holding my hair.

Speaker 2 But I'm a physical touch person for sure.

Speaker 2 So this was okay. It wasn't too much, too little.
It was perfect.

Speaker 1 Could you feel me wanting to

Speaker 2 totally feel it? And could you feel biggie not knowing anything? I feel the love from all of you. Thank you for letting me be vulnerable.
Of course thanks for sharing that yeah

Speaker 2 um

Speaker 2 yeah there's been a lot going on and and just trying to move through life as

Speaker 2 yes as a person and through work and and um

Speaker 1 i think that's part of why people like podcasts because because

Speaker 1 Yeah, even though,

Speaker 1 yeah, you have to kind of go with someone through all the ups and downs of their life. And yeah, even in a subtle way.
and yeah it's a really long-term relation

Speaker 2 yeah there's other stuff going on that I'll talk about in time but yeah yeah yeah

Speaker 2 one

Speaker 2 one day at a time I need this sun kiss to keep drink that palm one trauma at a time yeah I saw I read a quote that was like um

Speaker 1 it's like I was so scared that if I let the dam burst, like it would just, everything would keep flowing out of me. And then I realized like, what's like, what's wrong with being a river?

Speaker 2 Like, so nice. Yeah.
Let it flow out. Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah.
Let it flow. Let it flow.

Speaker 1 Gosh, should we get to our questions?

Speaker 2 Let's get to our question.

Speaker 2 I'm actually very excited about today's question asker because she is a dear friend of mine. We're on the show Fubar together that will be out, or it's already out.
It's on Netflix right now.

Speaker 2 Today's question ask her, she's an actress who was nominated for a freaking Oscar

Speaker 2 this past year for her role as Joan Baez in the Bob Dylan biopic, A Complete Unknown.

Speaker 2 And she's also been

Speaker 2 Top Gun Maverick. She was the female fighter pilot.
Yeah. And, of course, Fubar.

Speaker 2 So Monica Barbara is asking today's question. Let's hear it, Monica.

Speaker 1 I would have so many questions for her. I want to know about playing Joan Baez.
Did she get to hang out with Joan Baez? I want to know, did she fight?

Speaker 2 They did meet. Really? I will say, Monica blows me away.

Speaker 2 She's so wonderful, such a lovely human,

Speaker 2 but she's so talented. She was

Speaker 2 a ballet dancer at Tish.

Speaker 2 Tidge?

Speaker 2 What's Tidge?

Speaker 2 What is that?

Speaker 2 The NYU, right?

Speaker 2 Yeah, NYU. And,

Speaker 2 like, for Fubar, she

Speaker 2 does all these crazy stunts. Top Ga Maverick, she had to, like,

Speaker 2 be in the planes and catching G's or whatever it's called. Like, you pass out and throw up and all this shit.
She was doing all that.

Speaker 2 You had to train your, they trained their bodies for like a year and a half for that. What about that? So she filmed that.
And then

Speaker 2 for Joan Baez,

Speaker 2 she had to learn 11 songs, did not play the guitar, had to teach herself to play guitar. Whoa.
And she sang all those songs.

Speaker 2 So there's nothing that girl can't do. And this is just the beginning for her.
She has got, she's going many places,

Speaker 2 and I love her. She's such a good friend.
Love it.

Speaker 4 Hey, guys.

Speaker 4 Really exciting to get to be a part of your amazing podcast.

Speaker 4 Okay, so my question is:

Speaker 4 if you woke up and discovered you had

Speaker 4 the ability to talk to animals,

Speaker 2 what would you you do?

Speaker 4 And

Speaker 4 bonus points, if you have an answer in addition to probably talk to your pets.

Speaker 2 Okay. My pet right away.
Okay. Well, I don't have pets.

Speaker 1 So my first thought was

Speaker 1 there's been a lot of conspiracies lately about what's going on with the orca, the dolphin, the whale.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 1 Because they...

Speaker 2 Oh, they're communicating.

Speaker 1 They're communicating.

Speaker 2 And they're rising up. They're rising up.

Speaker 1 And I think there's something that's come out that's like

Speaker 1 places have made it illegal to communicate with dolphins. I'm like, what don't they want us to know? Like, what are they trying to tell us? And maybe there's aliens under the water.

Speaker 1 I want to talk to the dolphins, the whales, and the orca.

Speaker 2 And ask them what's up.

Speaker 1 Ask them what the hell is going on.

Speaker 2 There's got to be a lot of secrets in the ocean.

Speaker 1 100% there's gauss.

Speaker 2 There is big

Speaker 2 hot gauss. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Who's fucking who?

Speaker 1 But those orca are so well organized and they're like taking down boats boats and stuff.

Speaker 2 They're like breaching the water and just slamming these boats

Speaker 2 everywhere.

Speaker 2 They've had it with all the pollution and all that. Yeah, they're done.
You're done. Yeah.

Speaker 2 That's a good one. Yeah, I'm amazed we haven't yet, with AI, figured out how to like translate their software what they're saying.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 I mean, I only have ever thought about talking with Biggie. Yeah.
I don't know if I'd get much out of him, though. I don't think you would.
Don't you think he's kind of simple? He's a simple man.

Speaker 2 Like, I'm hungry. Yeah.
Now I'm thirsty. Yeah.
Now I want you to give me a rub on my belly. And now I want to go on a ride in the car so I can sleep.
What about, like,

Speaker 1 around your house, you got squirrels, possums?

Speaker 2 Oh. Good question, May.
Thanks. I don't.
No.

Speaker 2 I don't. There's nothing animals around.
So I don't have... There's some birds I wouldn't mind.

Speaker 2 Not the squawky ones that are so annoying, but like those really beautiful birds with like a little bit of red in them. They pop around sometimes.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I want to know, like,

Speaker 2 what they're about. I have had, I have friends who have, like,

Speaker 2 in their hippy-dippy way, have thought a loved one was coming to them via a bird. Yeah.
I would be interested to know from those birds if that's the case.

Speaker 1 Yeah, like, does that ever happen?

Speaker 1 And they're like, oh, yeah, it was someone's on call or whatever.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 But I definitely want, I would like some information from Biggie.

Speaker 1 What do you need to know?

Speaker 2 I just want to know, like,

Speaker 2 how much he loves me. Yeah, right.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 I just want him to tell me. Yeah.
And if there's. But if he just spread his paws out like this

Speaker 2 much. Yeah.

Speaker 2 That would be cute, too.

Speaker 2 But I also want to know if there's anything he wants that he doesn't have. Right.

Speaker 2 I can answer that for him.

Speaker 2 Is there any needs

Speaker 2 that aren't being met? No, he's fine. Maybe he needs pants.
I don't know. Maybe, because sometimes little jeans? Yeah, little jeans would be cute.

Speaker 2 But he could tell us if he doesn't like them. Yeah.
See, that was partly what I wanted when I had kids.

Speaker 2 Dress them up.

Speaker 2 I was like, when I told Stephanie, I was like, I just want to put little pants on them. Yeah.
Like, that is what I want. I just want to have kids so I can put little pants on them.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 And we don't anymore. They put their own pants on.

Speaker 2 But we did for a while, and it was really cool. I love it when kids

Speaker 2 dress up in little suits. oh yeah

Speaker 2 oh my gosh if you love that I mean I know my kids are eight but I can show you some little ties and suits and what have you little ties and suits yes would you be talking to Kitty City pretty much no I I think I know what's going on there yeah you know you get the interpersonal dynamics yeah yeah yeah

Speaker 2 fluff is like just the raging bitch in town that keeps everyone in order and just

Speaker 2 and um linus and Skip are just you know kind of tiptoeing around her but they all travel in a group you know but she just really whips everyone into shape and leads the way I would be more curious to see what apes say about us evolving

Speaker 2 yeah from apes well do you think they know that well that's why i'd want to ask

Speaker 2 what what what i mean do you think possible do you think yeah i mean i don't know do these these birds know anything? I mean, I don't know. Yeah.

Speaker 2 But I'm curious,

Speaker 2 you know, all the humans like, yeah, we came from apes. No, we didn't.
Well, let's talk to an ape. Yeah.
See what's the, what do they think?

Speaker 2 Yeah. What's their theory?

Speaker 1 But they can sign language a lot, right?

Speaker 2 Really? Yeah, well, Coco, the gorilla

Speaker 1 was so.

Speaker 1 But mainly it seems like they're. Yeah, they're just boning and boning and living in little communities and fighting.
And

Speaker 1 I wonder if they'd be like, Yeah, how come you had to overcomplicate things? Like, they'd be like, Our life is pretty good.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Yeah.
And, like, if they've been a you know, if they were like, oh, yeah, when my grandmother was alive, she told me about, like, her neighbor that she saw actually become human.

Speaker 2 You know what I mean? Like,

Speaker 2 you know, my grandmother was alive during that time. Right.
You know, or my great, great, great-grandmother. I didn't

Speaker 2 see a lot of greats. That's a graph of

Speaker 2 I haven't really thought about communicating with any other animals. I don't know.
I feel like you would be in good standing with most of the animals because you're a vegan. Yeah, that's pretty true.

Speaker 2 Yeah. They'd have a word

Speaker 2 with me. They'd have a word with me.

Speaker 1 Although they're eating each other.

Speaker 2 Fair point. Sometimes.

Speaker 2 I don't know, but it would be kind of cool to hear from the animals like the Lion King. Yeah.
We can hear what they're saying.

Speaker 1 When I was really little, my mom read me Charlotte's Web.

Speaker 2 Yeah. But I was like two.

Speaker 1 Like, I could barely talk yet. And then she tells the story that she like finished the book and I she wasn't even sure if I was following it.
And I just started bawling and bawling.

Speaker 1 But I think that's because the way she was reading it was probably really sad. Like her tone of voice was probably like, and then

Speaker 2 Charlotte died. Like,

Speaker 2 you know, but yeah,

Speaker 1 I always then used to think about spiders talking and pig pigs, babe.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Did you just call Fortune babe?

Speaker 2 babe. I've been thinking about pigs, babe.

Speaker 1 I've never called anyone babe.

Speaker 2 I have. You haven't? I like nicknames.
Babe, love, shug.

Speaker 1 See, none of those three I could do.

Speaker 2 I said baby. I do baby.
I don't do baby. Really?

Speaker 1 Not even like in bed?

Speaker 2 I say I say to Stephanie my love. I say, how are you, my love? That's nice.
Yeah. I say my love to friends, though, too.
Oh, well. Look at you just throwing it around.
Yeah, my love. Yeah, my love.

Speaker 2 How are you, my love?

Speaker 1 Please start texting me that.

Speaker 2 That's like, I think, a southern thing. We always go, hey, Shug.

Speaker 1 Do you say that to your bros, too?

Speaker 2 Like, would you text?

Speaker 2 Yeah, my guy friend. I've had a number of like broy guy friends have texted me, you know, about my mom or whatever.
And I'm just like, thanks, love. Oh, that's nice.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 That's nice.

Speaker 2 Don't worry. I'll get you.
Yeah, I'll get you, boo. Yeah.
Look at that.

Speaker 2 I'll get you, boo.

Speaker 1 My friend Joe, who's staying with me, calls me all kinds of things. Good old Joe.
He calls me like cheeky baby.

Speaker 2 You just like affection, right? Both physical and verbal. Give it all to me.
Yeah. That's what I want.

Speaker 2 Oh, your love language.

Speaker 1 I like giving it too.

Speaker 2 Your love language is actually love language. Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 Should we hear Monica's answer? Yeah, let's do it. I don't think we should.
Yeah, you know what? Actually,

Speaker 2 just kidding.

Speaker 2 Monica, we want to hear but before you answer do i look like tom cruise oh yeah yes monica would have a hard time monica uh not knowing that you aren't aren't her co-star you really do hearing that training for top con really was like insane yeah i mean what they had to do

Speaker 2 i could never be cast in a movie like that it's insane

Speaker 2 yeah you'd do it you'd fly on those planes no problem

Speaker 2 puking passing out puking and passing out. You have to train your body to be able to take it.
That's insane. I can't even fly on a commercial flight without being like, okay, my mother's out.

Speaker 2 She's a badass, though. I'm telling you.
And then Foobar,

Speaker 2 you guys should check it out. Foobar on Netflix.
It's a fun, silly show.

Speaker 2 It's one of those things you can watch and not take too seriously. But it's like good, fun entertainment with Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Speaker 2 I get to shoot guns and I get in fights. Yeah, you do.
Run from explosions.

Speaker 1 I just saw the trailer and it looked hilarious for the new season.

Speaker 2 Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 I was in Epsom salt bass a lot in the first couple months.

Speaker 2 But yeah, it's action comedy, so it's not meant to be taken seriously.

Speaker 1 I'm going to take it totally seriously.

Speaker 4 Okay, so first of all, I think I'd have a really long heart-to-heart with my dog, try to really understand where he's coming from and what happened to him before I adopted him.

Speaker 4 Oh, yeah, that's a good question. Because I think that would inform a lot for me.

Speaker 1 And then

Speaker 4 also,

Speaker 4 you know, I'd have to hear him out, but I really think I'd try to

Speaker 4 get him to understand that when I leave him at the house, it's never forever.

Speaker 4 Yeah, he seems very confused about that every single time I leave, and then every single time I come home, um, he seems to have at some point

Speaker 4 thought he was being abandoned for life. Um, and I'd love to just ease his fears if you know, in any way

Speaker 2 possible.

Speaker 4 And just like chat,

Speaker 4 I'm so curious what

Speaker 4 he thinks day to day. I think, I think I'm curious about it.
Okay, beyond pets,

Speaker 2 I

Speaker 2 would

Speaker 2 really

Speaker 4 love to swim in the ocean and talk to humpback whales. Yeah.

Speaker 2 There you go.

Speaker 4 That I think, I think that would be.

Speaker 2 Or an octopus. Oh, because that would be really, they're brilliant.
Yeah. So, um,

Speaker 2 it's all about the octopus.

Speaker 4 I think it would be a really fascinating conversation.

Speaker 4 I don't know why, but

Speaker 4 that's what I think.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I used to.

Speaker 2 There's her doggy. This is sweet.

Speaker 1 Oh, my God. Come on.

Speaker 2 What would you say?

Speaker 2 I used to think that my cat,

Speaker 2 pre-Kitty City, this other cat I had,

Speaker 2 I was convinced that she thought that when I left for the day, I used to do this as a joke, but it was true, that when I left for the day, that I was just standing on the other side of the door for 12 hours.

Speaker 2 Right. It's actually just like that.
And then I'd just come back inside. And then when I'd come back inside, she'd be like terrified and do that sideways crab walk that cats do when they're scared.

Speaker 2 Yeah. So, but that's, that was a really good answer.

Speaker 1 Well, yeah, and it made me think about that Greenland shark that they found that is 400 years old. It's been around since the 1700s.
Yeah. This shark, like since Napoleon times.

Speaker 1 You'd want to talk to that guy.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah, just blind and just floating through the ocean. It's so old.

Speaker 2 Still alive? Yeah, I think so.

Speaker 1 They tagged it and everything.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Those are good questions.
I would. Both of what she said of the pets, I would want to know.
I would love to know where he, what his story was because he was found found on the street.

Speaker 2 How on earth would anyone leave this dog on the street? He had no tags and he was not chipped. Wow.
So I would love to know what happened. And did you find him and snatch him?

Speaker 2 No, the Humane Society found him.

Speaker 2 And then we found him there.

Speaker 2 But I doubt he was out there long. He's so cute.
He probably got snatched pretty quick. And then same, he cries and cannot

Speaker 2 settle down when we're not home.

Speaker 2 And it stresses him out. And I hate that.
I do wish I could just be like, just sleep. I promise.
Yeah, you're okay and we're coming back. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 Poor little pup. I know.
I'll look at the cameras and he'll just be like, you can see his head going back like he's howling.

Speaker 2 Oh, no.

Speaker 2 It breaks my heart. Oh, my.

Speaker 1 But what if you actually got the sound of the cameras and he was just going,

Speaker 2 and he's just singing it.

Speaker 2 Or if he got a hold of the cameras, the audio, and he was like, woohoo! Yeah.

Speaker 2 House to myself.

Speaker 2 Yeah, he does not like being alone.

Speaker 2 Do any of us?

Speaker 1 Some people do, actually. I do like being alone if it's late at night and everyone's asleep and I'm in my house and I know everyone in the city is asleep and I'm playing my guitar.

Speaker 2 I like that a lot. Yeah.

Speaker 1 But in the daytime, I get a little

Speaker 2 really, yeah, I don't like to be alone. I'm not being alone too much.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 I guess a nice mix is good. A nice mix is good.
Let's land there.

Speaker 2 Balance. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Man.

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Sorry I wasn't silly today. Never apologize.
No. Never apologize.
It was nice talking with you guys. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Always a pleasure.

Speaker 2 Yeah. Always a pleas.

Speaker 2 What if I started talking like that? Always a pleas. See, it didn't even sound weird to you.
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Speaker 2 You were. I'm really sorry.
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