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Welcome to the handsome pod.
I'm one of your hosts, Fortune Beamster.
And I'm Mae Martin.
And I am your third and final host, Tignotaro.
Hi, guys.
Hello.
Hi.
I am
so much.
Do you?
Yeah, I've been thinking about you, and now you come on here with this sexy new haircut.
Yes, yes, I did.
Yes, I did.
And your lumberjack shirt.
Yes, I did.
just looking all handsomey very kerowax now here's something interesting that i didn't know i'm in jeans a white t-shirt and a flannel yeah and somebody here in toronto i'm i'm out here filming season two of uh starfleet academy and they said thank you for wearing your canadian tuxedo is that
also
flannel yeah incorrect incorrect that's what I thought, but I
who's this dumbass Canadian?
Hey, just kidding.
There's already enough trouble between the U.S.
and Canada.
I think that's an imposter.
I think that is an American.
That's an American, yeah.
Yeah, because definitely Canadian tuxedo is double denim, right?
That's double denim.
To me, you're wearing like almost an American, iconic, classic combo.
I thought this was a dumbass American who said this.
Hey, Fortune Marie.
What?
I'm calling it like a see it.
Okay.
well, either way, I just said, yeah, and I thought, wow, I must not know something.
And I was just zipping between wardrobe and hair and all that.
And just was,
I didn't go back to do my typical thing of, I'm sorry, I didn't fully understand.
Can you go back and explain to me what, and I don't mean this as any offense, I just want to clarify.
Were you saying, I feel like that's me walking around the planet?
If anyone.
Really?
You feel like you do that, like you're like something will stay in your mind, and then you'll go, when you said on Wednesday that, oh, I can't move on.
Like, if somebody, huh?
I said, oh, really?
Are you being sarcastic?
Because I need to go back and clarify.
Are you being sarcastic?
No.
No, just if somebody says something and I don't fully understand, I have to stop and get clarification.
If anything, you look like the brawny paper towel guy.
What about just a lesbian?
Yeah.
Yeah, fortunately.
Nobody has mentioned that.
Everybody's like Jack Kerouac and Brownie.
How about
you look like a big old dyke?
Okay, Dyke.
Yeah.
Oh, man.
I think that's good to check for clarification because think about all the misunderstandings in the world that you could...
you could like carry a grudge for years just because you didn't check.
What did you mean by that?
Oh my gosh.
I am constantly just needing to understand.
And then a few times I step,
I make a misstep and I come across as more aggressive than I meant to be.
Right.
And I see you're saying,
yeah, because I didn't, I'm not meaning to be aggressive.
I'm just trying to get my point across or like go back and clarify and ask some questions.
And then, and then it's like, oh, you know, whatever.
And then I'm like, no, I did it again.
To them, it sounds like you're going, hey, can I just clarify?
Why were you such an asshole two days ago?
Right.
And I see you're back from
May.
You're no longer.
I thought about you today that you'd notice that I did come back early, but I might go back out there.
I don't believe.
I don't think you will.
I was supposed to be there till, you know, for another five days or something.
And then today, I'd been alone for three days.
Then I had friends come up and my friend was packing up her car.
like she was packing and and i suddenly thought i gotta get in that car i gotta get out.
I gotta get out of here.
And so I packed up as much as I could.
And I got, so I'm back for a couple of days.
And it's real, I gotta say, it's really nice.
Well, let me ask you this.
Did you bring all your stuff back in the Uber?
No, I brought what I could fit in my friend's car.
And then I got still stuff up there.
So I gotta go.
You do gotta go back, okay?
Or are you gonna send your assistant?
I could.
May was like, I didn't even think of that.
I never think of that.
But yeah, you're right.
I could do that.
Oh, well.
Just pay for the gas.
It is nice nice to be back.
What is so nice about being back?
Like specifically that's hitting you where you're like, ah, this feels good.
I think I just have like a creeping sense of guilt about being like on vacation.
Like just, and not that I'm doing work up there.
Like I'm going to do all the same things here, but it's just nice.
And all my little objects, it's nice to know.
I can get my forks not there.
That's a bad example, but like stuff that's mine, you know?
And what are you working on currently?
I'm working on a pitch for a new series that I'm pitching soon.
And then all kinds of things.
Oh, because Wayward is just a.
It's like a limited series.
Yeah.
It's eight apps.
But man, I had a good time up there, guys.
And I'm going to go back.
And I had my friends from grade eight come and visit.
Did I tell you about that?
No.
Up there in the woods?
So these are friends who, if I'm being honest, we weren't even that close in grade eight.
I appreciate that honesty.
Gotta be.
But we were friends in middle school, and then they had come to shows in the past couple of years.
And then I hear myself go to one of them about three months ago.
I go, you should come to this cottage that I rented.
And she even was like, you don't know me.
And she goes, what are we going to talk about?
Like people from grade eight?
And I was like, exactly.
Were you interested in her at all?
No, no.
These are two old friends.
Yeah.
Both, no, not both married, but two old friends.
So they, one of them flew from San Francisco, one from Vancouver.
And it was so fun.
And they brought their yearbooks.
And we went through, we talked about every single teacher and student.
We talked about where they are now.
We talked like
to shed light on their middle school experience, too.
It was incredible.
That's really interesting.
I can't believe they came with somebody that you barely have talked to.
I know.
And it was the best.
It was like.
It was like picking up where we left off.
And I do have, so Amy brought her old grade seven diary, so she was 13, and we weren't even that close.
So, I was like, Oh, there won't be anything about me in there.
Can I read you guys this please toxic diary entry?
Yeah, I guess, okay, Claire and I, there's Amy and Claire.
Claire and I had beef because she made out with Mark Raven's Emla.
Oh, I had heard about that, yeah, yeah, yeah, everybody, everybody heard about it, yeah, yeah.
Okay, so that's referenced in this diary, so okay, so this is what Amy wrote, and she presented it to me.
She goes, Oh my god, this is so funny.
Like, you, and, and I'm hearing it going, I'm, I'm toxic in this.
Like, I am so clearly in love with this guy, Will Smythe.
And I've invited over Claire and Amy to Will's house.
Will smythe.
Yeah, Will Smythe.
Not to be confused with Will Smith.
Yeah, he's the knockoff, do-it-yourself version.
Yeah.
The DIY Will Smith.
Okay.
So picture me, braces, acne.
I'm friends with a boy, which I'm excited about.
I'm at his house.
And I think I've decided I'm going to invite over these two other girls to just show them I have friends or show them I'm friends with a cool boy.
That's my interpretation.
Okay.
May called me from Will's house and invited me over.
Oh, and by the way, I'm just, I'm in this dire entry.
I'm she, her, and I'm just going to do that.
Oh, because I really.
I mean, picture that.
Because you're going back to that time.
Yeah, yeah.
You couldn't have been more what?
More she, her in that moment.
Like braces, acne, long hair, obsessed with Will.
Okay.
Okay, Will Smythe.
Will Smythe.
Okay, May called me from Will's house and invited me over.
So I went to his house.
Claire was there too.
Claire was flirting so much with Will, and he was reacting, even though May hates Claire and Will is good friends with May.
May didn't like it at all.
So then
we kind of played broken telephone between the three of us with me being in the middle.
So I'm saying to Amy, can you tell Claire this?
Because I'm not speaking to Claire, even though I've invited them over.
So May asked if Claire liked Will, and Claire said no.
Then May said, still through me,
that she was leading him on and it was bad.
Then Claire just
leading on Will.
Also, what's how is it my business?
I'm like, you're leading him on.
Like, just because I love him, right?
Like, clearly, I'm in love with him.
And you weren't getting a vibe from him?
No, all I remember about him is people would say, oh, you guys are like Ross and Rachel.
Like, will they, won't they?
And I was like, they will.
Trust me.
And then he
was not interested.
Okay, then this is so dramatic.
But maybe now that you've had top surgery.
You think then Will would be into it?
Maybe, maybe he'd be like, hey, you know, that's all I was looking for: a little short hair, top surgery.
You know what I mean?
Because that is, you before was not what he was looking for.
You don't have acne, you got short hair, got top surgery.
What I'm getting from this is that Will is wildly interested in everyone else but me.
Okay, this is, it's almost over, but it gets dramatic.
So, oh, then Claire just stood up and sat as far away as possible from us.
I felt really bad because I was the one who said it, and I think Claire was kind of mad at me, but then everything was okay.
Later on in the night, get this: Will was flirting with me, she says.
So now Will starts flirting with Amy.
Oh my gosh, this is crazy.
My plan is backfired, right?
This is blowing my mind.
Thank you, Tig.
Yeah, and all Will wants is to get blown, right?
Fortune Marie.
What?
For the whole end of the movie, we were watching Road Trip, classic.
Will had his head in my lap and his arm around my lower back.
Whoa.
So imagine me fuming at this, right?
Oh, for sure.
Steam is blowing out of your ears.
This is so bad.
It says, while he was like that, May whispered to me asking if I liked him.
I said, I don't know.
Then she said, he liked me.
So I told her I liked him.
And this is so embarrassing.
For the rest of the night, May kept taking us aside one at a time.
No.
To talk about this.
Yeah, May kept taking us aside one at a time.
And then at the end of the night, she said that Will's going to camp this weekend for two months anyway.
So that's why he doesn't want to ask me out.
I was like, okay, but it was so embarrassing to be me.
The end.
Oh my God.
And do you have any recollection of this?
There's some distant memory of being at his house and and being excited maybe he was like can we invite some other people over this is boring and i i start calling through my class list and i get amy and claire over and just and were they just inseparable they were pretty close but not besties no oh so the fact that the three of us were there and then the three of us have now found each other at this cottage oh my god 20 years later love you pulling everyone aside you're like we need to talk about this how controlling really needed to get information over and over again I'm just like trying to establish who likes Will, does Will like them back?
And then I want to let them know, listen, he's going to camp anyway.
So you're not going to have him.
This is that perfect example in life where it's like, get over it now because you're going to eventually get over it.
100%.
That would have felt so intense to me in the moment.
Uh-huh.
And yeah, I have no memory of it.
And does anyone know where Will is?
No, I actually just looked for him on Instagram.
I couldn't, I mean, there's a lot of Will Smythes.
He's getting jiggy with it.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Get it?
Thank you.
I'll be here all day.
Willie.
How insane to take people aside one at a time.
Uh-huh.
You got to get that information, baby.
That's how you do it.
Hey, and
do you connect with that part of yourself still?
That you're like, even if it's not totally exactly what you're reading, are you like, that is a little bit like that?
Yeah, that's what I'm hating.
Is that, yeah, it does.
Well,
the like almost limerence, like I, that I'm,
I'm just into someone.
I got blinders on, and I'm like,
I don't know, I'm getting myself in a mess about it.
And I'm, and I'm,
I can just feel the emotional energy, like, radiating off me.
Yeah.
Yeah.
What do you think would have happened if it was the three of us and Will?
You'd have him.
You would totally get Will.
Do you think?
Oh, he, yes, I do.
What would we have done with Will?
Well, Fortune and I would have been cuddling.
That's true.
That's true.
I would have been combing Tig's hair.
Put a lotion
on her arms.
That was my go-to move.
I just wanted to touch someone.
People mainly women.
And did you announce that beforehand?
I just want to touch someone.
Your arms look dry.
Are you serious?
Yeah, yeah.
This is my signature move.
Your arms look dry.
Do you want me to put some lotion on them?
They're like, sure.
There had to have been an entire school of
girls talking behind your back, going, oh my God,
she put lotion on my arms, too.
She said my boobs look dry, too.
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I kept it to lotion and I would just touch.
I would just, it kept it to the arm
right here, the forearm.
The forearm.
And it was the arm is connected to the boob, though.
Didn't touch a single boob.
I don't believe you.
I promise you.
I think you were putting lotion on dry boobs.
I was too scared of women to try any sexual thing.
Lotion was as far as I got.
But did you, you didn't even know then that you were.
No, I had no clue, but I mean, there's a couple friendships I had in high school that were clearly so gay.
Yeah.
So
without any kissing.
Yeah.
But it was like writing notes to each other, leaving them
in each other's car, in the lockers, being so intense when they would like have a date, going over to their house and like
spooning and cuddling and
just like so intense about each other.
I'm like, this was so gay.
Were you like, let me spoon you?
No, we just did it.
We just like, were cuddling.
And there, I remember this one girl's mom kind of looking at us like, What is happening?
And we were like hugging on each other all the time, and like, it was,
yeah,
I wasn't affectionate at all.
I love affection.
I'm a
I enjoy it now.
I'm just saying, at that age, I was not, I, if somebody was going to cuddle me or you wouldn't have liked it, no, I would have been like, you know, what
freeze up?
So, would I feel like your move might have been, would you like kind of make fun of people as you're flirting?
Like, your move, you'd focus in on somebody you didn't even know you were flirting, but you were just like, I always make fun of that one girl because I like how she laughs when I do it.
I had that.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
I mean, definitely.
And I had this one friendship.
I guess I had two,
maybe three friendships where
there definitely was a gay vibe, and I definitely felt like they saw me as like their boyfriend or something.
Yeah.
And I would easily upset them.
And they were, I had one of them,
her boyfriend came up to me and asked me to stop spending as much time with her.
Oh, my God, funny.
Yeah.
So, but I was clueless.
I was just like, I didn't know.
It's that thing that it's just naturally there between people and the connection is kind of crushy, romantic.
Yeah.
But you're young and yeah, it was confusing.
Yeah.
For sure.
But I wasn't putting lotion on anyone.
I didn't have a crush on every single girl I was good friends with, but there was a handful where it was Crush City.
And have you talked about it now as an adult?
Have you been like, yeah, I had a crush on you?
I don't think so.
I I don't think I've ever.
A couple of them I've not, I don't talk to them anymore.
Yeah.
And a couple I do, but it was never a thing.
Well, let me recommend like getting your old middle school friends together to just shed light on like
that time.
Like there was so many details that I'd forgotten and weird scandals in the class and grade eight and things that I'd forgotten.
And it was so, it was so nice.
I love it.
I love how dramatic people are when they're young.
Especially middle school.
It's just like crazy.
And then the people that are so dramatic now, imagine what they were like in middle school.
I mean, because there are still those people now that is, I cannot, I cannot believe how dramatic and
stirring stuff up.
Yeah.
And then thinking about them as a kid, it's like, whew,
igbly.
Ibbly.
igbly.
So, you're in Toronto, Tig, yeah, and I want to say one last thing about that.
I've had a couple of people that I grew up with saying,
did you have a crush on me?
Or my friend thought you had a crush on me, like after they found out I was gay.
Yeah, I did not have any knowledge of any crush on anybody, yeah, you know, and always the people that ask you are never the people that you had a crush on.
Yeah,
where you're like,
no, no, no, no, no.
But yeah, I'm in Toronto.
We've been on vacation for a long time and then got back.
Stephanie and Max and Finn went home and I went to Toronto.
And it's that weird feeling of I immediately miss my family when we said goodbye at the airport.
And this is no offense to anybody in my immediate family, but there was something nice to just check in to where I'm staying in Toronto and just decompress and settle because we have been traveling non-stop for the past couple of months yeah and
yeah yeah it's it feels nice and it feels good to be back at Star Trek everybody's so nice and I did
almost four hours of ADR today
for the entire first season where they just added more lines in and I redid a few of my old lines
where there was audio glitches or I didn't deliver it well.
But they also just added so many and
like full plot lines that are just on the back of your head.
Yeah, no, but I have to say, like, it looks really good.
I'm really excited.
And I had talked to my friend Alex, who is the creator and runs the whole Star Trek universe, and he was like, Tig, it's so
good.
I mean,
of course, you know, as we've, we know, Holly Hunter is the, the lead, but also the young cadets on the show, every actor on this show, I'm just like, wow,
you're good.
You're good.
You're good.
You are good.
How do you find it watching yourself?
Are you you're used to it by now?
I'm used to it, but I'm
more still kind of in the, it's still fun to see myself in the Star Trek world where I'm like in like high stress explosion, you know, that kind of thing.
And I'm just not normally in that, obviously.
You're seeing it with all the with all the special effects done and everything?
No, not necessarily, but the sh the
you like rock and
get knocked over and
know, just that kind of stuff.
So fun.
But just to see myself so intense, like trying to get us out of situations and telling everybody what to do as a commander.
And I don't know.
It's fun.
I remain happy and proud to be a part of the Star Trek universe.
Is it the same crew?
Like the same
people on
the same makeup and hair and stuff?
Oh, oh, oh.
There's some people that came over from Star Trek Discovery,
but there's also some new ones, and they're all just talented, nice, great, all of those things.
And it's true.
I'm pumped to go to Toronto.
I'm jealous that you're there.
Yeah.
I'm going to be there soon.
I think we're going to miss each other, though.
I spent two summers there.
It's so weird not knowing I'm not going back.
No more foobar.
I know.
How do you feel?
I saw that.
And how do you feel?
And I'm so sorry about that.
That's all good.
Oh, did you, did you post something on, I guess, on Instagram?
No, it just, it just they didn't renew it.
Oh, okay.
That's so tough because did you like when you end one season, if you think it's coming back, you don't really do all your goodbyes properly.
Yeah, I mean, a lot of the a lot of them live in LA.
So it's just like, well, like Tig's hair person is the same one I had.
Yeah.
So it's so crazy.
Like, I miss so many of the crew.
It's weird not to get to say bye to them.
But you can.
I can tell her goodbye for you, please.
Yes, yes, my sweet Sherlann.
Um,
I, yeah, there's like some not closure to it, and you kind of mentally go, Well, I, because we thought we'd maybe have three seasons and that I'd have one more
hurrah in Toronto, but it all worked out.
I, I booked a new show
that starts in a couple weeks, and I'm excited about it.
Wow, that's quick.
Yeah, it's a Will Farrell.
Um, I thought you were gonna say it's like a Will Smythe situation,
it's just like uh Will Smythe, where I kept whispering if people like him, but where you you know, you can you're sad about one thing for a minute and then something else comes along, and um, yeah, I mean, honestly, I could, I wouldn't have been able to do this one if that had been renewed.
So, it's like one door closes, this other cool opportunity opens.
Will, I love Will Farrell, he's like my
and and it's Will Farrell and Molly Shannon.
So you talk about when I was in high school, I worshipped
them.
They were my SNL cast, like that I just, I told him the other day the other day, I said, I watched your sketches and I memorized them and I performed them for my friends.
Were they like, can we see it?
Yeah.
And to like have this full circle moment where I'm like with the two of them is nuts.
And yeah it's a fun show it's about uh he's a golfer and i play his caddy um but i'm like his mini me i'm like his shadow like throughout the show so it's a trip i'll be playing off of him for this entire show so i'm i'm really excited for it what is it on uh netflix oh nice i'm so excited to see that comedy dynamic, whatever it is between you and him.
Like, yeah.
And our hair is the same.
What?
And so is it just the three of you or are there other cast members?
There's a couple other people, yeah.
But it's a small, it's a smaller cast.
Uh-huh.
That's awesome.
I mean, I, my fantasy is always getting people to laugh.
Like, if you get to crack up Will and Ruin and Take, that would be the dream.
I know.
I mean, I got to, I did these two other movies with him, but like, really only like a
short scene in one and then the other movie I did with him recently, he and I didn't have scenes together.
Um, but I just doing the one scene with him in that first movie, I was like, this is like the dream.
And then the scene got cut.
So it feels like, okay, that was just like a fun practice to this.
Yeah, this makes up for all of that.
Yeah, and the way that it's written is it's going to lend itself to a ton of improv and a ton of bouncing.
Like, we're basically going to be like,
you know, a duo
for a good chunk of it i mean he's the star but like i'm like
the person that he keeps coming back to
so it's a trip you guys are going to become one of those famous comedy duos feryl and fortune feral and fortune feral and seamster him and molly are so upset that the table read just watching the two of them is hilarious does she have a caddy in it can we sign up can me and tig be her caddies She's not a golfer in this, but
you never know where it will be.
But that would be even funnier if she had two caddies and she's not a golfer.
Well, tell the writers.
Let's call them up.
Well,
let's get to our question.
Today's question asker is a Screen Actress Guild and Writers Guild award-winning actor, comedian, musician, and writer who played Andy Bernard in The Office and Stu in the Hangover movie trilogy.
He co-created and starred in Rutherford Falls and recently published a book titled Snafu.
Ed Helms is asking today's question.
Nice.
Oh, hello, handsome.
How are you?
I am traveling.
As you can see, I'm in a car.
I just landed in Chicago and I'm on my way to my hotel.
And
It's so funny when you're traveling.
I'm actually on my book tour right now, by the way.
I'm going shamelessly plug it the book is called snafu the definitive guide to history's greatest screw-ups read it it will make you smarter it will make you funnier and it will make you a killer at dinner parties so
there's that and yes I'm on the road and and I keep
when when you when you're traveling you just keep running into these like little frustrations these tiny little things that these hiccups things that go wrong or are are you you know that just moving through airports there's there's like slow people in front of you or and you're in a hurry or like you get to the hotel and like there's no there's no soap or there's no towel or something like that just all these weird little annoying things that are super frustrating uh and it's just it's it just made me laugh like how passionate we get about things that don't really matter that much things that don't really have that big of an impact on the universe, but but those are some of the things that we just get so like intense about.
So, my question
is
what
is
a really
mundane hill that you will die on?
What is something that is basically meaningless, but you have just an incredibly strong opinion about?
All right.
I better have one of these.
First of all, Ed's so funny.
He plays the banjo.
Yeah.
And that's such a fun instrument that I really wish I could play.
It's so, like, I don't know in what world I would have, as a kid, been like, I want to play the banjo.
Me and Steve Martin both play the banjo really well.
Yeah.
Also,
that book sounds like my dream book.
It's like interesting facts about history.
It's like for he also has a podcast called Snafu.
Yeah, it's Snafu, the podcast.
Oh, I'm going to listen to
all these things right now on audio.
Especially when he said
you'll be a hit at dinner parties.
I was like, ooh, I can plan my human interactions.
He also had me moderate his QA for his Snafu
book thing in Los Angeles.
I just remembered.
Oh, right.
Yeah, it was.
It was a funny night.
It was a funny night.
People are still so obsessed with the office.
It's wild.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Deeply.
I was on the office for one episode.
Oh, really?
And yeah.
And people
will be, they know me from nothing else but the office.
And they'll just be like, are you from the office?
And I'm like, I mean, I guess.
Yes,
it went off Netflix, but when it was on Netflix, it was like their most watched show of like all time, I think.
Like
it is one of those ones that you can just just have on in your house while you're like, it's so soothing and so funny and never ages.
It's there's so many of those seasons I've never seen.
Really?
Ed is also one of those really
just sincere,
nice guys,
you know, that his
comedy can just sneak up on you, which makes it all the more hilarious.
Yeah.
Like,
aside, like, I did this independent film with him years ago, and I had never, aside from being in the office, I had never worked with him really.
And I was stunned by, of course, he's funny.
He's on a show where you improv.
But like,
I just kept saying to him, your stupid face, like, because it made me laugh every time I looked at him.
And he had a million.
I guess I'm just explaining improv to two people that know improv and do improv, but I just, I was so, you know how not everyone is nailing it with improv.
Okay.
Yeah.
Ed Helms nailing it, nailing it, nailing it.
Just such a funny guy.
And to this day, he is like, yeah, man, my stupid face.
Just a callback from that.
But
he's so kind of unassuming, you know?
Yeah.
Except he's walking around airports irate about
meaningless things.
And he's from the office and a bunch of other things, the hangover, so he's not terribly unassuming.
Yeah.
Fortune, did you have a thing that I have a hill I will die on?
It's not travel related, though it happens a lot when I travel for sure.
Because I will say in general, most things slide right off my back.
I think I can say, and my friends would agree, that I'm pretty easygoing for the most part.
I will get worked up for sure, like anybody.
But in life in general,
pretty chill.
You're a cool cucumber, yeah.
I'm a cool cucumber.
So if things go awry, eh, whatever.
But for whatever reason, I am so
obsessed with my coffee order.
Are you familiar with the comedian Henry Phillips?
No.
He has an an internet, a video.
He's so funny.
He has a video series called You and Your Fucking Coffee.
He would be annoyed by me.
Look up.
Well, it's just all of those situations where people are particular and outraged.
Yeah, outraged.
Check him out, Henry Phillips.
It's the one thing I'm very particular about.
So here's my coffee drink of choice.
It is espresso on ice with a little bit of oat milk.
So, technically, it would be considered like an iced version of a cortado.
Cortado, yeah.
Okay.
I'm going to remember that for we both have to write that down, Tig.
I already knew it.
I said that on you guys.
If I get that wrong, okay, yeah.
So, um,
here's the problem.
Back in my other times in life, I would drink a latte.
And then I went on this diet where you could, you had to pull out out all like the sugars and the creams and stuff, and I just drank straight espresso.
So, during that time, I learned to really love just espresso.
But it's a lot.
You need to cut it with some milk, you know, because otherwise it can be kind of bitter.
So, it made me be very
cognizant of how much milk is in a latte.
And a latte is essentially an entire cup of milk
with a dollop of espresso.
So it's almost white.
So when you order a latte, you're drinking a cup of milk.
Yeah.
And I don't want a cup of milk as a grown-ass woman.
I want to taste the espresso because I love the taste of espresso.
So I will go to a coffee shop.
Now you need to settle down because we didn't do your order wrong.
Okay, but don't take it out on us.
This is how passionate
about it.
But he's up.
It's the hill I'm dying on.
You're gesturing like you're running for office.
People are like
emphasizing it.
People are better about it now.
But in early days of ordering this, I would say to people, can I get an iced Cortado?
And they go, Cortados aren't iced.
And I would say,
but it's just a Cortado.
And you put ice in it.
And there were baristas that would fight with me.
Yeah.
They're not iced.
And I'd go, fine.
Can I order a Cortado?
And can I buy a cup of ice?
Now, it's more work for them because now they've got to go foam the milk.
You don't got to foam the milk in an iced Cortado.
You just pour the milk into this resso, bloop, there it is.
So they would do all this stuff, foam the milk, heat it up, put it in a, and then put it in a warm Cortado cup, hand me the ice, and I would literally take the Cortado and pour it into the ice.
Did you do it like making eye contact?
Yeah, no, I was wasting
cups, even though I paid for the ice.
It's so you're not, they are, they are, and it would drive me nuts.
So, I stopped asking for an ice cortado because they'd so many people, you know, ice cortado.
Oh, wait, where are you getting your coffee that they're talking like that?
There are coffee places where the burrises are real sonati.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So now, so the sweet spot that I've landed on now is I say, I would like to order an espresso on ice with a little bit of oat milk, and there's no problem.
Yeah.
Guys, it's literally just an iced cortado.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But you had to describe each ingredient in order to get the thing that you wanted.
I had to just say it all because then sometimes people would give me an iced Americano and then put milk in that.
And I go, and I can taste it right away.
I'm like, oh, there's water in this.
Right.
You don't want it.
And they're like, oh, yeah, you don't want water in it.
No, I don't.
And so
what?
Now, if someone gets it wrong,
I am scared.
Now, if someone gets it wrong and you're in a hurry or they give you shit about it, like, are you talking, are you telling them the way you just told us?
Like, yeah, I will say, can I get espresso on ice with a little bit of oat milk?
Some baristas are so lovely that they'll make the espresso, put it in the ice, and they'll hand me the oat milk and go, here, do it yourself.
And I go, thank you.
Oh, you like that?
Love it.
Okay.
Because I need, here's where you want to land with your drink.
It needs to be like a caramel color.
You don't want it too dark because that's not enough milk.
You don't want it white because
that's too much milk.
That's for babies.
Say it for babies.
You want like a caramel colored drink.
So I do it just enough.
I look at the color and I go, perfect.
When I'm at a restaurant and I'm ordering dessert, I usually like something a little chocolatey.
Okay.
And I like to have just espresso.
I love just straight espresso and chocolate.
Are you not into that?
I like an at the end of like a nice Italian meal.
Love it.
Yeah.
But to start my day, to start my day, I want the milk in there.
Yeah, okay, but you can also order a macchiato.
That's a espresso shop with just a little dollop.
I have a question.
So, you're against you don't want water in your drink, but what happens as the ice melts?
Like, do you have to drink it fast so that the ice doesn't dilute?
I have to say extra ice.
You'd say extra ice.
How much ice are we talking?
That was my next question.
Fill up the cup, baby.
How much?
Fill up the cup.
How big is it?
Some of it's gonna melt so that's why you don't want extra water because some of it some of the ice will melt there's so many but when there's so much ice in there it keeps it nice and cold and it doesn't melt it as it doesn't melt as fast right i see but are we talking like a small coffee cup are we talking
yeah like yeah like a no no no a small because you don't need all the milk yeah yeah
a small cup and i'm such a snob about it the taste of of it.
Even if they get it right,
if I walk out of a coffee, again, I'm not a waster of money.
I appreciate the value of a dollar.
I work hard for it.
If I take a sip of it and it's disgusting, I will toss it in the trash can and drive to another coffee shop.
Whoa,
but you're not going back in there going.
I'm not going back in there, no.
No, but you're tossing that in there.
That's just the bean then sucks.
Well, this morning, how do you feel about that?
Even though, well, you like your ice, your ice
situation.
But when I was waiting for my ride to go to work this morning, I walked over to this coffee shop and guess what?
What?
My drink was room temperature.
Oh.
Didn't ask for that.
No, that infuriate I wanted it hot.
That infuriates me.
And then I don't realize it's room temperature until I get in the car to go to my job.
And then I'm like, oh my God, I'm drinking a room temperature.
That's irritating, but I'm not trying to jump on your coffee.
No, listen, there's things you, there's just things you like a certain way.
And that's literally the only thing I'm so particular about to like an annoying level.
I'm glad that you're owning it.
You deserve that specificity.
Brissiving your fucking coffee.
Henry Phillips.
Look him up.
That's my thing, y'all.
I've been trying to think what, if I have a thing.
Tig, do you have one?
What I
appreciate
very much is if I'm out to eat,
I really appreciate if somebody asks before they take my plate.
Oh, yeah.
I just really appreciate that.
I've worked in restaurants, and it doesn't matter if what kind of restaurant, if it's nice, casual, it's not hard to just say, may I take this for you?
Are you finished with your meal?
Because a lot of times people will just grab the plate when they see like
three french fries on there.
Guess what?
I was going to eat them.
And it's just, it's always awkward to like grab the plate or
be like, oh, I was going to eat that.
Or, you know what I mean?
Yeah, yeah.
I mean, I can let three french fries go.
I just, I just, I think also it probably comes from my first boss when I worked in a restaurant saying that you should ask, like, can I refill your water or may I take your plate?
Right.
And I guess, you know, people are probably just busy and running around.
They just want to get the job done, which I understand.
But
yeah, consideration and then also people doing their job well to make things run smoothly.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sometimes with a drink too, like an alcohol, like an old-fashioned, sure.
They're small, like the content's small.
You love a tiny drink i know i do i like a tiny drink but sometimes there's like a third of the drink left and you'll grab it and you're like what like that's what i'm talking about it's like with drinks or meals that all it takes is may i take this for you yeah are you finished
yeah that's all it's from restauranting restauranting
anything for you may nothing irritates you everything irritates me everything irritates me but I, yeah, I feel like we all should have really, like, because this is sort of stand-up in a way is like, doesn't it get your goat when this happens?
But all of us are like, well, some people are going to be able to do that.
We don't really do that type of stand up.
Some people just naturally rant about everything.
Yeah.
Well, one thing that bugs me is, this is so specific, but if you're, let's say I'm getting in an Uber, which I often am, with a friend.
And I go to one side and I open the back seat door to get in.
And the friend behind me, instead of going around to get into the other other seat, just stands behind me.
I'm just gonna scooch over, yeah.
And I'm like, I often go, okay, I'll go around, and then I end up going around.
I'm like, I'm getting in the seat, just go around and open the other seat, or or vice versa.
Yeah, I don't know.
You're like, no, scooching, no scooching, no scooching necessary,
it's not necessary.
Or if they're getting in first and I go around, and then when I open the door on the other side, they've scooched.
Oh, they scooch, they scooch, and you have to scooch.
No, let's be civilized.
Also, mayonnaise on burgers and mayonnaise in general.
I don't like.
So
if you were given a burger and it had mayo on it,
you eat it.
Would you still eat it?
I'd be really stressed.
And I'd be like, why didn't they say that on the menu?
Mayonnaise to me has no flavor of its own.
It's just like a lubricant.
Extra calories for no reason.
Just oily and greasy.
And I'm sorry, what do you mean a lubricant?
It just lubes up the food.
Okay.
What does it taste like?
Whiteness?
I don't know.
I eat veganaise.
Eggy, olive oil.
I really like veganaise more than regular mayonnaise.
I just, yeah, don't put it anywhere near a burger.
And don't eat your burger with a knife and fork.
Just
don't do that.
Don't do it with pizza and animal.
Yeah.
Oh, you know, I have one more thing.
Speaking of cars, this actually irritates the hell out of me.
When I am in a car and I am backing out of a parking spot and somebody just inserts themselves behind me and starts going you're good you're good just keep coming back you're good where I'm like who are you get the hell out from behind my car
you know what I mean like I get they're trying to be nice but just like assuming that somebody
Yeah, again, I guess it's the assumption that somebody doesn't say, do you want me to, do you need help?
You look in your rearview mirror and there's a stranger going, all right, back it up, back it, you're good, you're good.
Two more feet, two more.
I'm like, shut up.
They think you're a pretty little lady that's in distress.
Yeah,
unsolicited advice, unsolicited feedback from.
male comics in green rooms when you're first starting out.
You get on stage and they're going, yeah, that was pretty good.
Yeah.
You should do a tag of this and you're like, did you say this to any of the other comedians?
Like, yeah, I don't like that.
And I don't like when comedians are on stage and it's not going well and so they start almost punishing the audience like and they're like oh yeah they almost go into this performance art of like
well you just don't get it or like i'm like people paid to come like like don't punish them you know what i mean what is the performance art though of you don't get it it's like people in forgetting that their job is to make it work so they're they're doing bits that aren't going well and they start blaming the audience there and they start doubling down, or they're milking the silence, and in a perverse way, they're enjoying that they're bombing.
And I'm like, just
the joke didn't go well.
You can make fun of yourself or address that it didn't go well, but don't be like, you're wrong.
That's funny.
So often I've heard people say, that's really funny, and you're wrong.
And it's like, well, maybe you didn't say it right.
I don't know.
Try to share.
I had this show years ago, some terrible one-nighter gig
in a beach town in Northern California.
And I tanked so
hard.
And I was tanking so hard.
And I just decided to stop.
And I sat on a stool and I analyzed my set in front of the audience.
And that they were confused at first and then they started to come around.
That I love.
Okay, because I was was like, I am so confused.
I've been on tour.
I'm having a terrible night, and I need to figure out what this is that thing, like in the beginning of the podcast, where I'm like, I have to go back and get clarification.
I did it in the middle of my set where I analyzed my set, and the audience got so much on my side that they were laughing at me analyzing.
And I did like a whole other set analyzing the bombing.
I was like,
okay, because I was going to say, you might have,
I did that also once in Florida when I was bombing, and I walked off stage and I sat down with a couple at one of those like round top tables and was just like, What do you suppose is happening?
Why?
That's hilarious.
That's like
you've turned it around, you're adjusting in the moment, you're responding to what's happening.
I can't, I mean, I am thinking of one specific example of this that
got my goat, which was it's a charity night.
You know, people people are doing their sets.
There's people that have to go on after this guy, and he goes on, and his stuff was sort of
borderline offensive, and just not that fun.
And then he, he, so he sat down on the stage and he started singing something, but he kept saying, oh, all the comics in the back are loving this.
Like, you guys are just dumb.
You don't get it, basically.
And none of the comics were laughing either.
And it was like, he milked it for, he went way over his time.
And it was just like, oh my God, that's when it becomes like almost,
I think in his mind he was doing this avant-garde like
yeah fuck it these you know they don't get it I don't know anyway no anyway that's interesting to hear because when you're saying that I've thought I was thinking like well I feel like I've done some things like that
that could
be something where you'd be like yeah I'm not into that or but you're doing it with with love almost like like with like a scientist like what is going wrong here and then you're pivoting and you're improvising and it's funny and it's not like I'm right and you're wrong.
Like, no, I always assume they are
fully right.
Fully, fully right.
Yeah.
Well, should we hear Ed's answer?
Yeah.
Oh, shit.
Let's do it.
All right.
I made it to my hotel here in Chicago and I have an amazing view of
pickleball courts.
All right.
That's so funny.
I know nothing about pickleball except that people are passionate about it.
I don't know.
It's kind of polarizing.
The courts are adorable.
But hey, I got to answer this question.
So my answer to the question, I know that
I sort of conjured the question in the context of like travel frustrations and whatnot.
That's what kind of got me thinking about it.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized my...
The mundane hill that I will die on is not travel related.
It is food related.
Now, the other crazy thing about my answer is that I
actually say the opposite in the book that I just wrote so hear me out
the mundane hill that I will die on is that pizza is better with pineapple pineapple belongs on pizza that's right yeah you heard me that's right now I made the opposite claim in a little aside in my in the book.
I'm just I realized I just, I was talking about terrible things and snafus and I made the easy joke that, like, you know, that, that pineapple on pizza is a national tragedy.
I only said that because I know that's how most people feel.
And honestly, I was pandering.
I was pandering to the reader.
But the truth is, I love pineapple on pizza.
And you should too, because it is perfection.
The tanginess of the cheese, the saltiness of the cheese, and the crunch of the crust is juxtaposed so perfectly with the sweetness and the tenderness of a little yellow ring of pineapple.
It's also aesthetically beautiful on anything.
So it's just such a lovely thing to add to any dish.
But I have to say, it is, it is the, it creates, pineapple on pizza creates the perfect culinary manifestation of yin and yang, the salty and the sweet the triangle of the slice and the circle of the pineapple that is a mundane hill i will die on
all right i agree i love his poetry i love pineapple on pizza and i love his passion for it yeah i have no problem with a pineapple on my pizza You're coming down,
but you're neither here nor there.
I'm just, I'm fine with it.
I like pizza.
Stephanie, max and finn live i' live for pizza and i'm like this is good and my father he used to be a an assistant manager at a pizza restaurant
and so um i had my fill of pizza and um don't you know i'm just like yeah it's good and throw whatever on it i'm fine i'm with ed and that was great That was awesome.
Yeah.
What a treat.
I love Ed Helms.
I love Edelman.
What do you guys have coming up?
September 9th is the day today of my premiere of Wayward at Tiff at the Film Festival.
But the show doesn't come out until September 25th.
Everybody, watch it.
Everybody, watch it.
I'm doing all that.
But then also September 17th, I'm at Largo in LA with very special guests.
So come hang out and yeah, just get pumped for Wayward.
How about you guys?
Well, I'm going to be a dynasty typewriter in Los Angeles on September 21st.
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If you are in Biloxi, Mississippi on September 27th or anywhere nearby or even nearby the state of Mississippi, I hope you come on out because people, I am from Mississippi, and so people are always like, Why don't you do Mississippi?
I'm doing Mississippi, and I have done Mississippi.
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