"The Book Of Questions" (w/ Matt & Bowen)

December 04, 2024 1h 12m Explicit

In one of the scariest episodes yet, Matt & Bowen plunge into THE BOOK OF QUESTIONS. Are you ready for this jelly (vulnerability)? Get into these topics: Would you be comfortable in the role of grim reaper? Will *you* die with regrets? Would you eat a bowl of crickets for 40 thousand dollars? Much to think about. And RPKF's, after this episode? We're not really strangers...

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well, yes, you are. Come on.

And they were very disappointed

that you did not go last year.

Not to put you on blast. I know.

I know. You know, it's okay.

It's okay. Atlanta, I'll see you this weekend.

Don't be upset. Don't be upset.

How was your Atlanta experience?

They call it, when you were there,

are you at Atlanta?

I'm at Atlanta. You know, it was good.
It was great. Took the nieces to see Wicked.
They loved, you know, put together some Legos. We did a, they had a chic Lego set where it's Wicked.
I got them a Wicked Lego set where it's the dorm room. It's Glinda, it's Glinda and Elphaba's dorm room, but it opens up into this diorama of the dorm room, but it closes into Oh girl, I'm not touching that.
Matt just pulled out a little pre-roll. Honey.
Honey. Tell you a little story about the diorama.
Oh no, no, no. It's over basically.
So you basically saw an incredible Lego diorama with the girls. This Ellie girl is very quick on the Legos.
She put it together in no time. What is it called? No time flat? No time flat.
Is that what it is? In zero seconds flat. Zero to hero.
No time flat. Woo.
Woo. Now here's a question that I have for you, because a lot of discourse

about whether or not Wicked is actually

for kids. Were they

scared of the film?

The scary parts have to do

with chistery, I would say.

Yes, certainly. And that's the

only really scary thing. And then, you know, there's

fire, there's bullying,

which is always scary, no matter what age

you are. Yeah, no, that was really scary.

But to speak on Chistery,

would you say the film glorifies animal

abuse? And would you say that

this is your opportunity to speak out

against the film for the glorification

of animal abuse in the film

Wicked? Glorifies it?

No, it shines a light on it.

No, the star of the movie Oh my God. is an animal abuser.
Wicked. Glorifies it? No, it shines a light on it.
No, the star of the movie Oh my god. is an animal abuser.
Wicked. Alpha.
What do you mean? No, you're believing the wizard's lies and Morrible's lies. If I come on here and I'm explicitly alt-right from now on.
This movie is sick. They're taking...
People like liberal elite, Bo and Yang, are taking very young children to this movie that glorifies animal abuse. And it stars queer people in lead roles.
And it's normalizing. Yeah.
And it's... It should never be normal.
I'm not normal. Don't normalize me.
Define normal. I have a pitch for what this episode could be.
Yes, yes, yes. We just did a big culture catch up, right? Yeah, and I thought about this.
I was like, what will we even talk about? Nothing has happened. I bought this book.
This used book. Used up? And from what I can tell, it came out in the late 80s, early 90s.
Okay. But I'm going to reveal it to you now.
Sure. It's called The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, PhD.
And I forget who recommended this. It was on some video of like What's in My Bag and some chic celebrity had this.
And she's like, you know, you're on set or something. And like rather than be on your phone, you just flip through.
This is an old book that you flip through and you just ask each other. Some of these questions are not super fun.
They're a little too deep, but should we just flip through? Can I tell you something? Sometimes it's not the question that needs to be fun. It's about the answer.
It's actually rule of culture number 10. Sometimes it's not about the question that needs to be fun.
It's about the answer. More value on answers over questions.
How about that? Oh, yeah. I mean, there are no stupid questions.
There are certainly stupid answers. Baby.
I'm into this. So you're saying this episode is called The Book of Questions and we should ask each other from it? We should ask each other from it.
And then I think we just have to pick a number from one to 217. Maybe producer Becca can help us with the number selection to randomize it.
But should I just read the back cover for everyone to get a sense of what this is about to be? Let us know what we can expect from this episode of Las Coltureistas. Okay.
Big Head says, ask yourself, period. Okay.
Ask your friends, ask your parents, ask someone you hardly know. The book of questions gives you permission to ask those things that are too bold, too embarrassing, or just too difficult to ask by yourself.
You will find questions of integrity, of sex, of what you would do for money, even things too personal to talk about out loud. This is perfect.
This is perfect. One more little paragraph, may I? Yeah, oh, please, please.
Whether you use it as a tool for self-discovery or as a provocative way to stimulate conversation, this book constantly challenges attitudes, morals, beliefs, and it challenges you. I'm'm speechless i'm ready to embark on this i'm speechless becca get in the chat get in the chat becca okay you need an active role in this episode okay oh she's already given us a number okay what does she say number 11 all right okay let's hear from bow and yang this is

can we and can we get a sound effect we don't we won't know what the sound effect is until later

but when after bowen says number 11 and before he reads the question we need some sound effect

yes we are not going to weigh in on what it is whatever whatever our incredible engineers and

editors doug and mo choose is what we're going to go with. Yeah, Doug and Mo have fun with this or don't.
Just, you know, get it out of the way. This is a big ask.
We're throwing this at you last minute. Yeah.
Feel free for this to be something that you just check right off the list. Yeah.
And if it's no sound, then that's also okay too.

If you're slammed, don't worry about it.

But we're giving you an opening here.

Carte Blanche.

My favorite line from Public Affair by Jessica Simpson.

Ready, set, go.

Does she sing Carte Blanche in the song?

She says Carte Blanche.

You need to write a single called Carte Blanche.

Carte Blanche is a really good title for a Christmas song. Carte blanche.
Oh, that's good. Okay, I'm ruminating on that.
You should ruminate, honey. Alright.
By the way, oh my god, can I just, before we get started on number 11, congratulations to my move in silence sister, Matt Rodders, on the new single Santa Boy.

It is fantastic, triple A pop song craft.

Well done.

Well, thanks.

I didn't know about this.

You didn't tell me about this.

I was moving in silence about it.

I was moving in total silence about it.

And I just decided, okay, now's the time to put it out. I wanted to put out one more fun song before we embarked on the Prince of Christmas tour because I felt we were missing a true dance bop.
And I want to see all the RPKF shaking ass to this song. Oh, yeah.
By the way, just to set things up, get there on time if you're coming because I'm not waiting like 10, 15 minutes to go on because it's standing room and it's going to be like a music show and we don't want to keep people who get there early standing so if you're coming to the show get there on time i'll get you out of there in less than 80 minutes how about that 80 90 minutes wow that's the perfect goldilocks zone well done shout out to henry kaperski and ethan christopher who this is his first song he ever co-wrote we wrote wrote it together. Ethan! And of course, Leland and Gabe Lopez fucked it up.
They absolutely went so hard on the track. Way too hard.
Way harder than I think I deserve. But I'm so happy.
No, come on. It is what you deserve.
It is what we deserve. Leland, Gabe, Ethan, Henry, Matt Rogers.
Bravo. Bravissimo.
Santa Boy. Streamer.
Thank you. My absolute number one.
I love you. To say nothing of number 11, which is, I guess, where we're headed.
Should I read it? Yes. Number 11.
You are given the power to kill people simply by thinking of their deaths and twice repeating the word goodbye. People would die a natural death and no one would suspect you.
Are there any situations in which you would use this power? No, I'm not killing anybody. Oh yeah, sure.
I'll kill like... Don't say that.
We have to cut that. We'll cut out i would kill i would kill people certain people

who um abuse power by the way this has gone already so left in such a direction i didn't see

the questions will really run the gamut would i kill anyone you know what if i saw in a moment

someone trying to physically harm someone i deeply cared about i would do it then but i would never

I'm sorry. anyone you know what if i saw in a moment someone trying to physically harm someone i deeply cared about i would do it then but i would never like premeditate i would use this power of number 11 as self-defense and i would just want to say going forward if it ever does come to light that i've quote-unquote killed someone just know it was self-defense i would never premeditated to kill someone i'm'm not a killer.
I don't identify as a killer. Whenever I even see movies where there is a killer, I never understand them.
I don't identify with any of these girls. How could you snuff out human life? It's so crazy.
I just don't think it's your responsibility. So you're saying that you would only use it if you were in a situation where you saw someone harming your friend like if I saw someone rushing you if I saw someone rushing you I can fend for myself don't worry Bowen no you can't not if you're back in turn yes I can first of all don't make into a...
I'm trying to save your fucking life. Bitch.

So get Ben. You know what?

Just get him. Go get him.
He doesn't want my help. Go get him.
Oh, so you'll kill

me. You won't use

the power so that I will die.

Oh, no. He's making

a face. He's making

a evil face. I'm doing it now.

What's the thing I'm supposed to say?

Goodbye. You're just twice repeating the he lives you were just it didn't happen a pelican didn't fly through the window and its beak didn't impale his skull like i thought hold on oh it's natural causes that is whatever i guess it's a natural cause you just gave 11 stranger things down millie Bobby could never about to get a nosebleed I did think when I saw that character I thought should be me should be me I mean not no so what about you now now you yeah you don't feel comfortable you would do it I would do it for you just said you wouldn't snuff out human life um there are absolutely situations where someone's death would be helpful to the greater good honestly yeah it's like that question that they asked right like if they gave you a baby and put it in your hands and you said what's the baby's name and they said ad.
This is Adolf Hitler. And the baby in your arms was Adolf Hitler? WWJD.
I mean, that's one of the questions I asked. WWJ.
Jesus? Jesus Christ. I don't know.
That's a tough one. That's a really tough one.
I would use that. One option is you could run away with the baby and put it in a nice atmosphere you know what i mean yeah but it's this is about current day matt rogers in the year 2024 if you were given the power to kill people simply by thinking of their deaths and twice repeating the word goodbye would you do it depends on the day probably likely no no one would suspect you you just have to live with

you just have to live with... Because I would live with...
That's the thing. My brain works over time and I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt.
And I don't think neither could you. I definitely would have a hard time.
I just think certain deaths could be good.

I hear you.

I hear you there.

I think, how about this?

If this power ever happens to either of us, let's tell each other.

Yes.

And if something comes up where it feels like someone should, let's just talk it through.

But then it's a one-to-one vote. Like, there needs to be an odd number here.
Let's also say, Becca, Becca needs to weigh in if we were to have the power. And that includes you, Becca, if you were to have the power.
Becca, what do you think? Okay, so, just to be clear, the power is to kill anybody no one would would know. And it would be no one would know that a natural death, natural death.
Oh, it would be, I missed that part. Okay.
Like a heart attack. They would just die.
And no one would know. I think the whole thing is less fun.
That's only by brutal, only by brutal. I mean, like if, if we're going to kill someone, at least let's have fun doing it.
Like, I want, like, honestly, when I was just 11-ing, well, that's kind of funny that her name is 11 and this was question 11. Oh, my God.
I was truly thinking about it. This is one of the spookiest episodes yet.
And I thought it was December, not October, but this actually is one of the scariest episodes we've ever done so far. Period.
First line of the one of the scariest episodes yet yeah comma matt and bowen yeah go through the book of questions unleash the power okay becca okay the fire sign in me like my double fire big three is like yeah absolutely like i can think of specifically like two people on top of my head that I'm like, they're gone.

But I think the guilt would riddle me.

Of course.

I couldn't sit being the only person who knew that.

If that makes sense.

What is the emotional, what is the interiority of knowing that you have the power?

Even if you don't use it, you're like, I have the power.

Ooh, that I feel like would weigh on me because like it's just like life or death is in your hands. It's like whatever death note kind of vibe, you know? Yeah.
It's death note. Yeah.
I deeply just want my own little positive life. You know what I mean? Like, I don't want, I don't even want to think about it.
That's what I think is the worst part because it is very heavy on you. It's like you carry darkness.
You essentially are

the Grim Reaper. Are you comfortable

with that? If you're comfortable with

the knowledge that you

Becca Ramos are the Grim Reaper

I don't know.

I don't know about that.

I don't know how I sleep at night as the Grim Reaper.

What if you have the wrong thought

and then someone just dies? You were just having a bad day.

Exactly. And that would happen to me.
We've all had bad days. My best friend's ex thought about it too hard.
Of course. It's over.
Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye. Plus, it's better for those people to live.
Better for them to live and see you thrive. I want to know they're miserable in every lifetime.
Yes. There's an asterisk at the end of this question and I look to the back okay and there's an additional follow-up question and i think we i think we're all in agreement with this but i'll read it if you can imagine yourself killing someone indirectly could you still see doing so if you had to look into the person's eyes and stab the person to death have you ever genuinely wanted to kill someone or wish someone dead no no that not an impulse I have.
If someone answers yes to number 11 asterisk, that's concerning. The book of questions is crazy.
When was this published? I just want to make sure everybody, over 1 million in print. This is like the dark version of We're Not Really Strangers.
This was published in 1985. What's We're Not Really Strangers? Oh my god, you guys don't know? No.
I am the queen of We're Not Really Strangers. Okay, so it is, I'm like, do I go grab it? It is this card game that is kind of intimate, and they have different versions of it now.
They have like a friendship version and a family version, but the whole point is that it is three sections of cards, and you go through them one-on-one with somebody and they kind of get more deep as you go and at the end because you do like about six to eight cards per round like yes the question and they ask you a question and you answer them kind of like this book and then as you get to the end you then write a little note uh about your experience with this person and you give it to them and they read it oh it is very intimate but i love it that's a lot friends and family that is a lot i make everyone play it i'm like you want to get close to me we're playing we're not really strangers right now i thought you were gonna say that like this was like a light version of that new york times questionnaire where like you ask these questions and you fall in love with the person which does not work by the way oh it does not work um but this sounds even more intense yes it is pretty intense especially because they have now all these expansion packs like they have like the early dating expansion pack which i do recommend if you're like on a date three with somebody bringing that out to be like are we worth dating any further no no i was just gonna say the craziest people in america are doing this on dates yes not the craziest person's doing the big one on the first date that is like oh no that's absurd that's we need i i would think number 11 about those types of people because literally i'm like you're like i don't know you we don't need to be having this conversation no like a long-termterm relationship one. Oh, sure.
They have a family one. They have a deep friendships one.
People you've been friends with. You guys for years.
If you're Snowden with your significant other, perfect game to play. It's cute like that.
Snowden with significant other, you bring out... What's it called? We're Not Really Str strangers.
We're not really strangers. And that's a rule of culture.
Number 72. Snowden with a significant other, you bring out we're not really strangers.
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Should we do the next question? Yes, Becca. Now give us another number.
Okay. Um, three.

Three.

She's staying on the low end.

Oh my God, another.

Okay, this is another really intense one.

I mean, I guess this is the book of questions.

Do it, do it.

That's the book of questions.

Number three.

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone,

what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet? Oh my God. Oh my God.
This is so crazy. We can't answer this.
I mean, I think we have to. We have to do this.
Oh. My brain goes one place.
Like, it's parental. Yeah, it's about the parents.
Oh, wow. This episode went so hard into the book of questions.
I don't even like putting this out there, but if someone in your immediate family were to go without you... Girl, this is so fucking crazy.
Without you being like, thank you for, you know,

pouring everything you had into raising me

and giving me a good family,

a good foundation.

Like, I respect and love you so much.

Like, you know what I mean?

Like, that is something that I think

is so worth it to share with parents.

But the thing is,

I think that there is no more intimate relationship than if you really think about it, like the one between parent and child. You know what I mean? Hopefully, if all works out, yeah.
Well, yes. But I mean, when that relationship exists, that is the most intimate thing.
And I think it's so intimate that it's like the true base of your emotions is revealed in that expression of

gratitude for being on this planet. You know what I mean? Like that is very intimate, that

acknowledgement and that, you know, it's especially when, you know, you're someone who grows up and

like anyone, I would imagine that there's strife between parents and children. You know, everyone

has those issues and those blocks, but that for for that reason, is probably my answer to this question, is why haven't you told them yet? Because it's very hard to, like, I don't know, access that, all that. I know.
I always want to go beyond the moment of telling either of my parents that I love them, which I do all the time. And they get very vulnerable kind of cut right to like the heart of something where they're like yes i'm like whoa like all right like this is not the right time or place for this conversation and i wish i killed that instinct a little bit more of theirs of mine to be like to like i don't shut it down but i kind of dismiss it and i'm like no i should i should let that play let that breathe like it's there's a reason they're communicating this and yes yeah like for all the hardships that like my parents and i have had like now it's so beautiful and lovely and it's and it's always been in a way and and i just want to tell them like none of this would have been possible without you and um they gave me an opportunity even though they did not by like literally moving out of china so that i could have been born and moving to the u.s and making sure i was okay for the most part even though they didn't understand what i was doing like that is a huge thing for them and can you imagine moving to a place where you don't speak the language, where you are immediately a different, like you're immediately marked in the society as someone who's different and someone who, whose assumptions are created about you.
Like, I mean, the sacrifice is immense. Yes.
They tell me this all the time and it's not to guilt me, but it's like intern they want me to internalize that and i have and it's just but no amount of thought about it will ever like make that unremarkable it's so remarkable yeah also the totality of so basically i don't know if you notice this i'm sure you do and i'm sure that's part of you're getting at. But my father has become so much more emotional as time goes on.
I think it's because the estrogen starts popping in men as they get older. And I just think about your father.
And to understand and really wrap your mind around what that sacrifice ended up doing in a macro sense in a cosmic sense like he moved to this country well countries you know what i mean like made it work so much so that his son is a superstar and not but but here's the thing i going to say it. You're shying away from it.
But wow, if you could go back in time and be like, you might not even understand this later, but your son is going to be able to literally pursue his dream in America and become so brilliant at it that it's inspiring and changes things for other people. I mean, I just hope that part of what they're experiencing when they are trying to say that to you is that they acknowledge that, how successful they were.
That's just something that I think is truly an incredible story. It is an incredible story.
They had one outfit per year that my grandma basically sewed her six children pants yeah but she hemmed the pants to like short little pants right and then as they got older they had one pair of pants their entire childhood into their teenage years and then every year as they grew she would take the hem out and then just roll it down like they had one outfit for their entire and they would sleep together in the same room yeah huddled together in the cold of inner mongolia with no light like it's like my grandma had her feet bound two generations ago my My illiterate grandmother was raising six kids with her feet bound. And like that practice had been illegal for like 20 years in China.
But then she didn't know about it until someone from the coastal cities like went into the landlocked parts of that country. And they were like, take the binding off.
Wow. It's crazy.
It is crazy. And I think that that idea is so big.
And there's complicated feelings with people. Even though those sacrifices have been made, there's of course just that.
Because then you are an American child growing up. And you know what I mean? There is something about, I think I experienced with this with my father too.
I remember one time it came up that I was going to have to go to work one day in high school to my busboy job, and it was raining. And I said like I hope they call me off work because it would I could use my time better being at home like studying or something or like doing something else and I don't want to go to work because we'll make no money and my dad lost his mind on me and he was like you go to work and we had this crazy fight and I did go to work made no money came back early

but later he knocked on my door and he was very tearful and he was like I'm really sorry I overreacted I just sometimes wish your grandfather was an influence in your life and that's when I realized he was like really going through something and thinking about his own father and it was like obviously like baggage that was coming out but there's this idea that like when you think about your history and your lineage there is a guilt because people didn't have options in terms of comfort in terms of you know trajectory of their life like it was just you woke up and you did it and you put your head down and i think generationally that is difficult for people to wrap their heads around like someone who is a baby boomer like in america you know what i mean like have a different idea of what it means to like go about things and i think i was experiencing that that in that moment. And it's like from you to your father,

to his father,

those are three completely different abject realities.

Totally.

Of course there's going to be like lack of understanding.

But for you,

it's like from your father to his father,

it's like the through line there.

And I hope,

I'm sure you were impacted by that overreaction on his end,

but it's like,

that is like you getting this work ethic that like,

I'll see you were impacted by that overreaction on his end. But it's like, yeah, that is like you getting this work ethic that like no one works harder than you.
No one works harder than you. Well, that's very nice of you to say.
I would point to yourself. But I mean, like I remember if it was so unfair at the time that I was being treated this way.
I'm sure you know what it's what I'm talking about when it's like this is is something that my father is just wrong about. I know you know.
But it's like, now looking back, I'm like, I do understand it. I have compassion and empathy for it.
My dad used to tell me when I was very little, very little, one of his famous lines was, I know everything and if you ever have a question, you ask me. And I actually believe that.
Yeah, and I understand what he's trying to do i don't know if i i don't know if i would do it well my you know my dad is my dad you know what i mean like he's he's very similar to me like we both have very performative personalities we're both you know gravitate towards being the center of attention and i think that like he would say something like that because he doesn't want me to value someone else's opinion or knowledge in the world over his. He's my father.
But then when they reveal themselves to be human beings later, that is when you as a son, there is a moment of like, you almost feel frustrated about it. Not that you were lied to, but that it almost feels like, oh, you didn't know everything.

You're a human being just like everyone else. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.
You second guess everything. But it does become like a core belief.
But then it's great to know that your parents are human. You would want to say all of this and more to your parents to answer the question.
I mean, yeah, right? Like, it's hard. Like, I've we've had moments where it really does happen more with my dad and like it happens less with my mom but i think he becomes more emotional as he gets older and i think you're recognizing that as well right absolutely and as we're talking about this like to go back to going to atlanta for thanksgiving like I just know for a fact i got so stressed out because the kids you know had moments as they should their kids they had moments where they were distressed and well chistery was being abused chistery was being abused and there was a whole bunch of stuff going on you know every every other hour there was just some kind of mini meltdown and and i realized that that's normal but for me i was like this is more

stress than i've ever felt than i felt in the last two months of yeah work and wicked press and like all that stuff i'm like this is more anytime someone's like i don't know how you do it i'm like no that's easy like what's hard for me is watching these beautiful children get stressed out and then my sister and my brother-in-law having to handle it and my mom having to handle it but i'm like shout out to the parents this is my thing i could never do it and my brother-in-law having to handle it and my mom having to handle it. But I'm like, shout out to the parents.
This is my thing. I could never do it.
And my thing is, like anytime someone asks me what your drag name would be, anytime someone asks me like, what would your like restaurant be called or whatever? I'm like, I don't know the answer to that because I have too much respect for the thing to know that I would never be in that situation. Right, exactly.
I will never, I will never. I have such reverence for my parents, for your parents, for any parent who does their best.
And drag artists. And drag artists and restaurateur who pours their heart and soul into this thing.
Like, I could never. Literally, I could never.
Well, I feel like a couple of our group chats have been active. And because it's the holidays and people be texting.
So everyone is saying the same thing, which is, I'm never having kids. I'm never having kids.
It's so bad. Like, even the people that wanted kids in our life are suddenly like, turned around and be like, like, it's tough.
It is tough. Wow.
The book of questions. The book of questions is popping off.
Okay, Becca, give us another number. One through 217.
Yeah, come on. Let's get deep.
Not that we haven't. Deep in the numbers, you mean.
I mean, deeper than numerically. Okay, she says 152.
Okay. Okay, here we go.
This is... I like this number.
152. Oh, this is simple.
Okay. What do you value most in a relationship? And I guess this is open-ended.
I guess this could be romantic. This could be acquaintanceship, friendship, whatever.
In a relationship. I'm going to say, I'm going to interpret this as romantic, I guess.
Yeah. Let's choose to interpret it romantically.
What do you value most in a romantic relationship? I'm'm gonna say something that's kind of like an eye roll maybe yeah but comfort i think comfort is an incredible thing to look for and it's so valuable everything else falls into place yes i think once you're comfortable i think that's literally i mean that's where vulnerability comes from that's where understanding comes from think that's obviously what I'm going to say comes from this, which is trust, which

I think is so different than honesty.

Yeah.

It's so different than all those things.

Trust.

Like, it really hurts when someone breaks your trust.

Yeah.

Totally.

I mean, that's like betrayal. I mean's yeah i don't know you can trust me and then turning around and being untrustworthy that's true villain behavior that's evil ass it is a mutual sort of buy-in right in a way it's like you trust the person and so therefore what dictates your behavior around that person is to make sure that you build that trust with them and that they trust you in return.
And then when that is violated, it is so painful. It's not so good.
But then in terms of comfort too, it's just like you know what? I've been like dating a lot and Something I'm trying to find now is instant comfort. It's going to be some kind of sign.
Me too. But that is, that's bad.
If you feel instantly comfortable, that's when your guard is down. That's when you start looking the other way.
That's when you ignoring things and I also think comfort at least for me is also based in a little bit of sexual attraction it's like oh I'm comfortable here I think I could ultimately potentially use my body in a certain way with this person and I think that that maybe I'm just thinking about my own past but that is what makes you ignore red flags both in the other person and yourself it's just important that I just don't want to get fooled totally that's trust I feel like that's trust too like I trust you to I trust you enough that I'm going to use my to use your words use. No, no.
My, I don't think so honey later is about a certain thing, but cause that, I guess we're kind of saying the same thing. Ultimately, like I want to be able to be really available to you and not be sorry later.
Totally. I guess the subtle difference in our answers is i'm thinking of comfort in terms of like internal comfort like between the two people or whatever and then outer comfort which is to say that like which is the classic thing of like can this person like can i leave this person alone at a party yeah not that that's like the thing that i value the most it's just like a good sign it's that that's a sign of comfort that's a manifestation of comfort to me can i i have this scenario i'm like this is so eye roll but i'm like can this person hang in the fire island house of like me you josh aaron patrick wit you know like everyone is that what you would want i also think about this i sometimes think about would you want your sigo to be around all the time i don't know i don't know yet yeah i think i've had versions of both and yeah and what would you prefer one i actually i have no idea because i mean out of everything i've been in like i clearly still don know what's the best thing for me.
That's kind of what I'm still

looking for. I don't know.

But to use Henry Kapursky as an example

like a sigo who was around

a lot. All the time.
Yeah.

And everyone was thrilled

about that. Absolutely.
And now

look at you guys. You're like still

you still have a wonderful friendship.

But I'll say this and this is not revealing

anything because I think he would say this

he wasn't always comfortable with it.

Oh of course. So you know what I mean Thank you.
you still have a wonderful friendship. But I'll say this, and this is not revealing anything, because I think he would say this,

he wasn't always comfortable with it.

Oh, of course.

So you know what I mean?

It's like,

it's a lot to be around a lot of people

who are like,

you know,

whatever comedians and like,

on all the time.

Oh my God.

It's interesting.

It's a little bit of like an ask,

you know,

when,

not that I feel like it's an ask to date me, but I get why someone wouldn't want to. Oh, it's a huge asterisk.
Yeah. It's a risk.
Just so you know, it's a lot. It's a lot.
I don't know. It's just a lot of energy That goes in and goes out.
That's what it's about. Yeah.

Anyway.

Okay.

I love that question too.

Great question. Comfort and trust.

I'm sure people will agree.

Some people out there are going to be real horndogs.

Just like a good dick.

Yeah.

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Code CULTURISTAS. Let's go with another question, Becca.
Give it 206. Okay, you're really playing the extremes and the polls I like it okay number 206 would you be willing to eat a bowl of live crickets for $40,000 yes a bowl of live crickets for $30,000 I'm chomping down on them thereby killing them I've had bugs in the past totally fine kind of flavorless it's just a texture thing and it's a mental thing of like oh I'm swallowing a bug and that's but once you get past that it's like oh it's fine yeah I think I might need to see the crickets the bowl here okay let's google let's google a bowl of crickets becca says if no tax yes like cash money crazy answer like so you would do it for 40 000 but not what 32 000 sure becca no that's you never know okay when i think about the right, and how people are like broke after they win the lottery

or like when you get those cars on Oprah

and then you're in debt,

like I want to see like a trunk of cash

and they're like, here you go, babe.

No ifs, ands, or buts.

Yeah, yeah.

Those crickets, here's a catch.

Yeah.

But if there's work for me after I eat those crickets.

There's no catch.

Let's just assume there's no catch.

I mean, I am going to say.

Yeah, I'm thinking.

Now that I'm looking at them. Show the bowl of crickets.
Can you scream quickly? Yeah, I'm circling about a bowl of crickets I put it in the chat oh see I don't know this bowl of crickets is so crazy looking it's a big ball yeah that's what I'm saying I would need to see the bowl because suddenly it's like $40,000 seems not enough money for

this. This is

probably not only

physically difficult, but

digestionally impossible to take

all these crickets to the tum.

Can I actually modify

this question a little bit?

Can you? It's the book of questions.

Yes, yes, yes. Well, look, it was published in 1985.

$40,000 in 1985 is the equivalent to $115,000 now. Okay, now let's look at this cricket bowl again.
And that's what I'm paying. No tax? $100,000 for a K? 100K? Sure.
Can I make an addendum on the question? Yeah. Can I put buffalo sauce on this? Yeah.
They didn't say you couldn't yeah then I'll still do it for 40 I love buffalo sauce I'll put it on anything yeah put it on anything I would do barbecue that's what the difference is that's what no I love buffalo too you know I love buffalo yeah come on. Anyone who's not a Buffalo fan, I could not

date them then. That might be close to the

top of the list. Things you're looking for,

the traits, that other question.

Buffalo lover. I need

a Buffalo lover for show.

Toss me in it. Toss me in it.

Alright. Becca, new

number. New number.

They were clearly running out of ideas. They started

so hot at 3 and 11 and then they were

like, would you eat a bowl of crickets?

69. Oh my god, this absolute

I'm not going to do it. number new number they were clearly running out of ideas they started so hot at 3 and 11 and then they were like would you eat a bowl of crickets 69 oh my god this absolute freak for sex 69 can somebody match becca's freak number 69 if a friend were almost always late would you resent it or simply allow for it can you be counted on to be on time okay i've had conversations with people even after they were like 45 minutes late once yeah i'm like that wasn't okay i'm generally i i have i have my moments like today i was late i asked to push our you know zoom back five ten minutes not that late i mean you asked for five and then I said ten.
That's not late.

I'm not going to say that I'm always on time.

I try to be.

Okay, can I... And let me also throw out there, for me, personally,

ten minutes late is

not late. It's not late.
Like, ten minutes

late is not late. I don't

really care. You text me and be like,

hey, I'm just running ten behind.

I know you're on your way. Ten minutes

in the grand scheme of life, I can sit there.

Becca says thirty plus

Let's see. don't really care.
You text me and be like, hey, I'm just running 10 behind. I know you're on your way.
10 minutes in the grand scheme of life, I can sit there.

Becca says 30 plus

minutes is late. Agree.
That's late.

If someone were almost always

late, that would be an issue.

If you're over

30 minutes late all the time,

it's definitely an issue because

why should I take on

the responsibility of navigating my own shit around the fact that you're always late because then guess what we can't i can't say it out loud i can't have an honest conversation with you i can't honestly be like okay well you said two i'm gonna show up at 2 30 because you're you ha ha ha because then you're gonna show up at three right And now we're an hour after when we want it to hang.

So I don't know.

Just understand like that chronic lateness like that.

RuPaul says that's being addicted to the feeling of being late.

That's an addiction actually.

Whoa.

Totally.

And I also am like, if you can't be dependable with other people, then there's something about you that is not dependable to yourself. Yeah.
Well, first of all, I think one of the reasons why there aren't people in my life that I have this problem with is because if you have displayed this behavior, I wrote you off already. Unfortunately, yes.
Kind of. I will never forget one time years ago

I already unfortunately yes kind of i mean like if you're saying i will never forget one time years ago i let katherine cohen sit at a diner for 40 minutes waiting for me i will never forget it i always feel bad about it the guilt and i could tell she was annoyed and she should have been but like she also sat with me still and gave me 45 minutes of lunch at the diner that I did not deserve because 40 minutes late is crazy. And it haunts me the one time.
If this was something about me, like that was a reliable thing. The only reliable thing about me is that you're unreliable.
Oop, that's not gonna work. That's not gonna work.
Hmm. All right.
I feel like so far, this is a nice sampling of questions. This has been a roller coaster ride.
Okay, should we do a few more? Yes. Let's do three more.
Three more. Okay.
34. Our freaking age.
Oh my God. Hell yeah.
Hell yeah. Number 34.
What was your most enjoyable dream? Your worst nightmare? I think I have my worst nightmare for sure. Okay.
And it's really dark. And it's really vulnerable that I'm sharing this with everybody.
But I'm happy to. But I have a dream that i from childhood that i still think about which is crazy so maybe i'll go there go there whatever you whatever you feel comfortable with is this the vulnerable one no i mean they're both kind of they're both like random and weird their dreams i know my nightmare but i'm still thinking on my dream okay my dream I had this when I was like seven and for some reason it was I woke up in the most euphoric state and I still think about it and I don't know why but it was basically like it was a dream that turned into a nightmare so it was that I was like on the phone before FaceTime it was like I was on like a video call so like as a seven-year-old like with technology did not exist back then so it blew my mind yeah that i was talking to like a class full of girls my age but just a bunch of cute girls uh-huh for some reason it thrilled me that i was talking to all these cute girls who were like we love you bowen my gay adult ass for so i don't know what this means subconsciously but like there was something about that dream where i was just in heaven talking to all these people who like adored me uh and it was like attention or something i don't know but then the call ended with them being like oh no the bully is here the bully is here and then i was like i'll protect you and then somehow fast forward i'm on a bed jumping up and down the bed fighting fist fighting the bully while we're both jumping up and down on this bed and then i woke up from the dream but i still think about this is so random what age were you when you had this seven seven wow I still think about like oh my god the thrill of just like talking to like cute people like cute girls you know who those girls represented? the Katie's oh my god Katie's let's do a FaceTime and you guys tell me who the bully is and I will fight them.
We need to find out who the bully is because they have to go. It was just literally have to go.
It was like a big kid. And I was like a small scrawny guy.
Hundo. Okay.
So that's my most enjoyable dream. Do you have one? So I am going to share this one that I've had, not had, had a dream when I was little.

And this one always stuck with me because it really was scary and sort of surreal and twisted. I remember I was dreaming that I was with a bunch of my friends like in some sort of cave, but we were all Muppet babies.
so me and my friends were

Muppet babies and we were like in this cave

like sort of But we were all Muppet babies. So me and my friends were Muppet babies.

And we were like in this cave, like sort of aware of the fact that there was a monster.

And then I remember like coming around a corner and then being in my childhood kitchen.

And my mother was making food in the kitchen. And I was calling out to her like, Mom, I think there's a monster.
But she couldn't hear me. And I was Muppet baby sized.
Were you just a generic Muppet baby? Or were you like a specific Muppet baby? I don't really remember. But like, that's what we were.
You were a cute little puppet. I was like a little animated muppet baby oh and so then i'm in my kitchen i'm like mom there's a monster coming and she can't hear me and she's like i'm putting something in the oven the oven is involved so then the monster comes around the corner and it's it actually he was like you know that mcdonald's character which is like a

bunch of strings he's like yeah yeah you know what i mean like grimace i think no grimace is purple the the little um the fry the fry guys god what was there were the little they're little pom-poms or Google McDonald's Fry Guys.

Fry Guys.

Yeah.

Literally a lot like this. That's scary.
But tall and orange and very scary. Another Muppet in a way.
Yeah. So he comes over to me, picks me up, puts me in the oven and closes the door.
And I looked out the oven at my mother and was yelling, mom,, mom and she still couldn't hear me and I remember like just the the idea that I wasn't heard when I was screaming for help from this monster and that I was too small to get anyone's attention like that stayed with me for a really long time and it's one of the very few dreams from my childhood that I remember because it really shook me. That's a nightmare.
That's your worst nightmare. Yeah.
And then a dream, I don't know, anyone where I had sex. I love any of my dreams.
And if you know, you know, when you have a full-blown narrative in it. Sometimes I'll feel like i woke up from a dream and i feel like i started lord of the rings like when you whenever you have a dream that's like an rpg bitch you can play them in real life maybe i should sounds like a dream to me oh i think you would like some girl girl my nightmare is really bad Wait you don't want to it involves me like killing someone i like this is the death episode on in a way who did you get out of in your dream this i was at a grocery store and then like i just i didn't shop i didn't steal anything but i was like leaving the grocery store pushing my cart and then this woman chases after me she's like you took you to you stole this and i was like no i didn't and she was like she was about to kill me and then i like picked up my cart and swung it and just kept hitting her with my cart it's so dark my worst nightmare is like my own action and my the violence that i was capable of in that moment very calling back to number 11 well yeah that's what's disturbing to me but meanwhile i'm i'm answering number 11 saying yeah i would i would do it but like there's something about the power of murder of killing someone that like what breaks breaks your soul yeah absolutely i mean And that is a horrible feeling to have to sit with.
I'm sorry that's your worst nightmare. Anyway, it's such an easy answer.
I was like, that is the most disturbed I've ever felt. I need to start writing down my dreams more.
I think that would be interesting. Like taking a dream journal.
Do you ever do that? Have you ever done it? The times that I have the wherewithal to like grab my phone or whatever and type the dream in. Yeah.
I don't know. I got so inspired by Kirsten Dunst, like her using her dreams as like acting sort of like guidelines.
I tried that for a thing and I don't know if it really helped. For what? Wedding? Banquet? No, for, I forget.
Something. I guess we'll have to see in your upcoming performances, which one feels the most dream inspired.
Subconsciously informed. Okay.
Let's get another number. I feel really sort of naked in a good way.
Like I feel like everyone's really getting to know me. 217.
The last this is very interesting let's hear it number 217

if you were guaranteed honest responses to any three questions oh who would you question and

what would you ask i guess i can't okay let's skip it no honestly like i know who i would ask and i i think i know what the three questions were but and i think i have asked them but i just don't know if they were honest answers the thing is like this is a deep one and this is gonna take me me a while to answer too. Yeah.
Yeah.

This is,

this one's tough.

There's an interesting reason why this one's last.

It's an expansive question.

Yeah.

They really kind of,

I don't know.

This almost feels like cheating.

They ate with that.

They really,

they,

they definitely.

Hmm.

Okay.

Becca's saying number one Oh three.

Number one Oh three.

Does the fact that you have never done something before increase or decrease its appeal to you oh decrease i think decrease come yeah at this point yeah yeah at this point in my life this is this goes back to the comfort of it all. I'm like, I have felt thrills.

Yeah.

Of all kinds.

I'm good with something even.

I'm good with boring.

I was actually just thinking the other day, like, about, I don't think my sister's having kids.

I'm not having kids, probably.

Like, I was thinking about my parents again, being like, oh, they won't get to be grandparents.

And then I thought to myself, well, not everyone gets to have every experience and that is okay. And also, I don't know.
I also related to like skiing. It's like, maybe there's a reason I haven't done it yet.
Cause my leg gets half in half. I don't know.
It's just, I think that that's like, this is like, this question is scarcity mindset. You know what I mean? It's like, I don't, it's just i think that that's like this is like this question is scarcity

mindset you know what i mean it's like i i don't i'm not self-conscious about experiences i have plenty i'm all about an interpersonal thrill like i don't have to have it be this like activity, activity. I love activity.
I just don't know if that's, like, the gradient that I'm thinking about necessarily. I agree.
I agree. I mean, I think, like, I've done things to do them already.
Yeah. I mean, there are things that I've done that i want to explore further yeah because

i've already done them and i'm like i liked that like i want to go like i want to hike more intentionally and intensely i want to like learn new languages i want to like do i just i don't know i want to like do stuff that i already know that i enjoy yeah and that there's a wide expansive horizon for

more to come, you know?

Agree. Agree.

Okay.

New question. a wide expansive horizon for more to come, you know?

Agree.

Okay.

New question.

Let's do one more.

One more,

and then we'll do

I don't think so, honey.

22.

Oh my God,

I'm so happy you said 22.

That's my lucky number.

This is going to be

a great question to end on.

Oh, okay.

Interesting.

Number 22.

If you could use, this is kind of similar to the first all right if you could use a voodoo doll to hurt anyone you chose would you see yeah this is very similar it's very similar it's not 11 and 22 they got lazy they got lazy it's not killing someone. Beck is saying she might do that.
No, because you know what? Like, putting someone in pain, this is even worse than the other one because the other one is like, you'll think of someone and they'll die of a peaceful death, natural causes. This is like wanting to cause someone pain.
It makes me even more uncomfortable. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
This book is so cursed. The book of questions.
The cursed book. Who wrote this? Gregory Stiles? Gregory Stocks says, if you could use a voodoo doll to hurt anyone you chose, would you? Okay, so your answer is no.
I honor that. I don't want to hurt people.
I really don't. And I hate...
I know. I don't have that kind of ill will.
Yeah, no. I don't want anyone to be in any pain I just I really don't like that's I don't know like when people are like are people born good or evil I'm like good interesting what if it was no I don't want her in pain I don't want her to be in really no you're not going to want this in the episode okay yeah we'll take it out well okay becca's asking what if it was a bad migraine once a month i don't want people to feel nauseous and in pain because of me they're gonna feel pain no matter what going to feel pain no matter what.
Life is suffering. Have you seen Mad Men? But I have.
That doesn't mean that you should be the person to explicitly contribute to that physical suffering. You guys are scaring me with your devil's advocacy.
I'm not kidding. I've not been a devil's advocate.
I've been mostly aligned with you, except for the first and the last question. That would kill and cause pain.
No, actually, we are aligned on the first question. It's not worth the guilt.
But I would have guilt about giving someone a migraine. I wouldn't.
Oh my god. Migraines are awful.
They are awful. They are debilitating.
I knew a waitress named Crystal. She had to leave work.
And her dad had told her, you have to go to work. She had to leave work.
And she had to go home and face her father, who no doubt was like, if your grandfather was around, he'd be so disappointed in you. While she clutches her temple, nauseous in pain from a migraine, debilitated, unable unable to see out of one eye I wouldn't wish a migraine on my worst enemy I swear and trust and believe a lot of these questions about causing someone pain on my worst day maybe I get a little edgy in terms of this question but on today no it is December I is December.
I'm the prince of Christmas. I can't be giving people migraines.
I gotta give gifts. You have a title to uphold.
That would be bad for business, Bo. Oh, I know.
Worse than coal, a migraine. I feel like people have made up their minds about me at this point.
And I'm like, well, I can kind of do whatever I want. This is what makes you Elphaba and me, Glenda.
You realize this. Yeah.
Although, I would say Glenda would align herself with power. I guess neither of us are doing that.
It would be... No.
Trust me. Glenda would never give someone a migraine on purpose.
No way. Elphaba wouldn't give someone a migraine on purpose.
What are you trying to say? Yes, she would. No, she wouldn't.
The Wizard of Oz. No.
No, she wouldn't. And no, let me quote her.
Her father? Nobody in all of Oz, no wizard that there is or was, is ever going to bring me down. That's protective, bro.
She's not saying fuck the wizard. So you don't think in order to protect, she would give him a migraine? You forget that she...
Can I say something? There is so much revisionist history here, and the Wicked film not only glorifies animal abuse, but also erases the fact that Elphaba, if she loved Fierro so much, why did she set him on fire in the Wizard of Oz movie? There's a huge plot hole. Huge plot hole.
The timelines are different. It's silver slippers, not ruby.
It's like, come on. Come on, we're not doing this.
No, no, no. In the Wizard of...
Watch the Wizard of Oz again. I've seen it, and I know what you're referring to.
Excuse me. You've spoken a lot, and you've got to speak in many lines in the film Wicked, but I didn't get my opportunity.
So I want to enter the Wicked universe and say, there's something wrong here. There's something really wrong here in Oz.
You're anti-wicked because

you think it's about

it glorifies animal

abuse.

It glorifies animal abuse.

And I believe it's revisionist about

Elphaba's physical abuse.

This is not

chatting up.

I've had it. We've done the Wicked

Press Tour, okay? Now here's my real feelings. I feel it's not PETA.
Wicked thinks it's PETA. It's not PETA.
It's like how Crash thought it was anti-racist. And it was racist.
Wicked thinks it's saving the animals. Last I checked, I'm watching this movie and a monkey was in agony.
What they had to do to that monkey on set. Yeah, that was not a good day.
That gorgeous little deer, that's our Tandy Newton. In Crash.
Now you're all this woman in the deep. That movie fucking sucks.

God, it's terrible. It's a crazy ass movie.
One of the craziest movies ever in American history and it won best picture at the Academy Awards. Sorry, Ang.
Lee. Sorry, Ang.
Sorry, beautiful art. Sorry, beautiful Heath.
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Now let's move on to I Don't Think So, Honey. Yeah.
Okay. I have a good one, actually.
Okay. This is Matt Rogers' I Don't Think So, Honey.
Well, first of all, I Don't Think So, Honey is our one-minute segment where we take one minute to rail against something in culture. Matt Rogers has something.
This is Matt Rogers' I Don't think so. Any time starts now.
I don't think so, honey. If you're going to send a sexy DM and it's fisting, you have to say that beforehand.
Well, no, I am so on board with, with people out there. If they want to send me their sexy DMs, like you want to send me a dick pic on DM, like truly my DMs are open.
You want to send a little sneaky ass. You want to send whatever it is.
If you're empowered to send me this type of material, I support you. I embrace you.
I do think so, honey. I don't, however, think so, honey.
If you're going to send them, this is not a kink shame. I swear to God.
Everyone do whatever it is you're going to do consensually with your partner or partners. I don't care.
But if I open my DM and it is something that is going to sexually shock, disturb, and turn me off, I have to know beforehand. That feels like animal abuse.
When I'm an animal, a human is an

animal, and you send me just straight

up fisting out of nowhere, I don't think so, honey.

I feel animally abused.

That's one minute. And there's something very

nuanced here, which is this is not a kink-shaming

moment. It is a

moment of

there's no sort of like

gut check either way about it.

You have to ask someone if they're okay with certain things. Period.
Here's the thing. The person that sent me this, we have had an exchange nudes relationship in the past, but this was a jump forward to the point where it was like, if your intent was to test me and see what my limits are, truly just ask.
I will tell you. Totally.
Very positive, forward person. When that is on the table, I will talk about it.
Let's get into it. That's literally communication.
100%. And whoa.
Gay guys, slow it down when this is the deal. I mean, shook about it there's some good ones out there gay guys some of my favorite people some of my favorite people but when they get on DM I mean listen it's a spectrum gay guy is a spectrum it's actually real culture number 30 gay guy is a spectrum but i have to say and i kind of now my my perspective on this one gay guy has to change a little bit because i feel i was like animally abused through the phone it's just the worst medium for animal be like hey are you into this that the other then we can actually get into it so that when you send me this, I'm not on Lost Coach being like, I don't think so, honey, your actions.
Hey, I have a video of me fisting, getting fisted. Is it okay if I send this? Correct.
You can say no. I would be like, I'm going to respectfully decline.
I politely decline. And then you would have still maintained that nude sharing relationship, friendship.
That could have grown into something else. Or I go, yes.
And then I can't complain when I see it and it upsets me. You know what I mean? But give me an opportunity to have a say in my experience here.
Because you can't see what it's going to be when it's one of those DMs that goes away. You know? That is my I don't think so, honey.
It's okay, Bo. I survive.
Yeah. I wouldn't give that person a migraine.
Yeah. You ready? Yeah.
I feel like this is going to be a rehash of something that I've surely talked about before. But there's a new sort of resonance to it for some reason.
It'll be fresh, new, brand new, different. sure i'm sure pertinent here we go this is bow and yanks i don't think so honey as time starts now i don't think so honey tiktok or at least my experience of it because it's not even the algorithm anymore it's for me my experience of tiktok is i log on and 20 of my notifications are of someone who thinks they're being cute tagging me saying oh my god this person looks just like bow and yang it's an asian person it's a little asian baby dancing around in like a little elephant costume trust me i've seen it you guys can stop tagging me in that no thank you it makes me not want to use the platform which i guess is not my it's just like i'm not missing out on too much um i'm happy

to get the detritus on reels uh weeks later but i'm saying like i guess that's just not gonna go away i guess i have to accept this as part of my life but like even if i even still get asian people who make the jolt can booster jokes which are rude joke and i'm like y'all what five seconds What's with that i don't know like it's just a weird thing and i hate the internet because of it i think this is a great reason to leave i i mean i think that here's the thing last week i was in therapy and i was talking about how i was i for the first not the first time in a while but lately i've been feeling really good and the only times i feel bad are when i log on oh yeah what people like have to say and so i would say for you it's probably not going to change it's not going to change because if they haven't heard you at this point to not do this or whatever it's, and also there's like unlimited people out there that can all,

like,

you know what I'm saying?

Like these people who like,

don't see a lot of Asian people in their everyday lives.

I'm top of mind to them.

And so they see an Asian person on the internet.

They go,

Oh my God,

that's Bowen Yang.

Bowen Yang should do a sketch,

a skit on SNL where he plays this little baby who's dancing.

I'm like,

listen to yourself. Do you think that could happen? Do you think I'm over here thinking I'm going to do that? I don't know what they think.
Something about, and I listen, what a huge honor to be in this movie that is, you know, I'm being appreciated by so many people. I am receiving an uptick of the most lobotomized people you have,

you didn't even think were out there in this world.

I'm,

I am,

I love everybody.

And this is not related to me wanting to voodoo doll,

potentially kill anybody if I had the power,

but I am over here thinking,

wow,

like human beings,

man,

our brains are small. We are a stupid species.
We are dumb, myself included. I think that also people that act that way online are like they if they saw you in person, they would obviously never say those things, which makes me feel like that's not even a reflection of an actual human being.
That's a reflection of a human being's base in things. You know what I mean? It's like these people online, quote-unquote people online, if you think of them as not people but as online opportunities for people, you know what I mean? Because you're not actually talking to a human being online online you're talking to an avatar and an attitude that is put on and constructed so it's just like that makes you want to take the whole thing less seriously to begin with because it's like these these aren't people online even if they are operated by a human being this is not a reflection of reality.
It's a distorted

extension of the way their

minds work, which is

never going to agree with me. I can't control what they

think. I'm not out here saying

I don't think so, honey.

I'm not saying

you better not do it.

Yeah. And then they

can't see you as a person either

because they have their own thing in their own head. Yeah, I mean, social media is bad.
Internet is bad. Breaking news! God bless Australia.
That little social media ban. Are they doing that? Love.
Is that happening? Anyone under 16. They don't know how they're going to...
People are like, how are they going to enforce this? But I'm just glad it's out there. Yeah.
I'm glad the intention is there. I knew the intention was there.
I wasn't sure if it was actually being enacted, which, you know. They get a couple shootings, they go, no more guns.
Yeah, exactly. I'm like, God.
Imagine that. Imagine that.
And imagine an episode that took you to highs and lows like this one. Wow.
Lost Coach really is a podcast that continues to grow and inspire. Thank you to Gregory Stock, PhD in what? I don't know.
In being a mess? In being a messy hoe? Messy hoe vibes, but also got to give him thought provoking. gotta give him thought provoking I mean this man was writing the book of questions before we had these little fallen love we're not really strangers girls stepped onto the world stage yeah oh my god well maybe we'll do another episode of this maybe hey look out for another episode, look out for another episode, The Book of Questions 2, like Wicked 2.
Or Book of Shadows, Blair Witch. And I want to say something.
I take back everything I said about Wicked. Those animals were CGI.
I know that they just looked incredibly real, but that's just, you know, a testament to the power of filmmaking and what we call movie magic. And can I say, I could have never convinced you that they were not real.
You had to arrive at that yourself. Something has changed within me.
Something is not the same. I love her performance in that moment.
So good. We end every episode with the song.
I'm through with playing by the rules of someone else's game. Too late for second guessing.
Too late to go back to sleep. It's time to trust my instincts.

Close my eyes.

And leap.

It's time to try.

You know, the soundtrack is out.

Bye.

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