Cancelled with Brooke Schofield: Wednesday, May 8th, 2024

Good morning, millennials.

Welcome back to the shows and happy Wednesday.

It is Hump Day, an amazing day always, but an especially great day here because I am joined by somebody who I literally bullied into coming on the show.

And that's why it's fine to bully other people because I have Brooke Schofield and I wouldn't have gotten you if I didn't basically force you to.

So thank you for being here.

Not true at all.

I was already, I came in ready to fight you on this because I, well, here's the thing.

Knowing you right now is just not a good thing.

Don't say that.

No, I am ignoring every person in my life so heavy i love that i'm not even looking at my phone i can't because it's like i just feel like if i look at it then i have to respond to it so i just was ignoring everything and that unfortunately at some point included you but i tell you all my friends from home literally put me in a group chat and they were like are you fucking stupid well i was coming from a place of insecurity because i literally reached out to jake shane who we both know and i was like listen please help me get broke on the toast i'm coming to the to l a to do a week of toast shows and he was like sure no problem so easy put us in a group chat and i was like fuck yes Literally a year ago, I came to LA and I did a week of episodes and I texted my friend Josh Peck and I said, can you please put me in a group chat with Tana Mojo?

I really want her on the podcast.

Put me in a group chat and you two literally did the same thing.

Tana was like, oh, fuck yes, let's do it.

And I was like, hey, Tana, tear to here.

Like, let me know what day works.

And she never answered.

And I was like, you know what?

I'm not letting Brooke go.

So I used my platform and I said, where are Brooke's home friends?

And Brooke's home friends got to you.

And I just want to say, shout out to the home friends.

They did.

Shout out Sarah and Ali.

They got me on here.

And I was always going to come on.

I just didn't, I didn't understand the sense of urgency.

And now that I know that you do an episode a day, I realize that you are just really on top of your stuff, which I'm not.

I'm incredibly annoying.

And I own that.

But at the end of the day, I'm sitting down with Brooke Schofield.

The listeners know you're coming on.

They're so excited.

You are just a marvel.

Like, if I didn't like you so much, I would be jealous because you're living the dream, you know, like viral, TikTok, everything.

And I need to start at the beginning because, and I did a good amount of research on you, but I really wanted to hear from you.

Like, it really feels for me as a huge internet consumer, like you just blew up like a couple of months ago.

What is the journey?

What is the timeline?

I feel almost the opposite of that.

I feel like it's been a very like slow burn, but I think maybe just right now, like everybody else is starting to notice, see it, but

the podcast I've had since I think we started it in 2022.

Okay.

And that's where I started social media.

I never really did social media before then.

And so everything has come from that.

And you host, it's a podcast.

It's called Cancel with Tana Moja, which is why I brought her up.

How did you two meet?

We met at a party.

Okay.

And I knew who she was, obviously, because she's a huge legendary.

Yeah, she's a legendary.

And I would, like, I saw her in everyone's videos.

I followed her already on Instagram.

So, like, I knew her, but we just, like, hung out at that party.

And after that, we were.

You're friends for life.

Yeah.

And your podcast is really, I feel, it's so interesting.

It reminds me, like, your dynamic, a lot of me and Jackie, who I usually host the show with, she is so different than me.

And you and Tana feel so different.

And I think that's why it's like a magical connection.

How from the second the podcast started, people just loved it.

And you guys just went on this tour and it was so major.

But you guys really, like on a personality level, are not so similar, correct?

I don't know if I agree with that.

I feel like in a lot of ways, people think we're different.

We aren't.

Like people think I have it a lot more like together than her sometimes.

And I'm like, I just don't think that's true.

That's the contrast.

You know what I mean?

Yeah, yeah.

And she's a little more abrasive like publicly.

I like to do it like BTS.

And what were you doing work-wise before?

I worked at a restaurant.

I actually worked right next door at Cat.

No No way.

Okay, so you're working at a restaurant, and then how long before you quit that job since when the podcast started?

I got fired before

I ever started with the podcast.

I got fired like randomly during COVID.

That's rude.

And it wasn't random at all.

It was like completely my fault.

And I deserved it, but fired nonetheless.

And I was at Tana's when I got fired.

So she was like, oh, shit, like, what are we going to do?

And then it was like...

almost a whole year after that that we started the podcast.

Oh really?

And what did you do for that year?

Just scavenging for everything.

Anything and everything i love that well the podcast is so good and you went on a huge tour and one of the most iconic things and i know we were just talking about this prior so if you i i i happen to think um a lot of the girls who listen to our show aren't familiar with some of the the major moments in your career and your personal life in the last couple of years and one of them is you dating matt rife yeah we really it's funny story we actually like we weren't dating really it was just like well i thought we were dating but apparently he didn't think we were dating.

Correct, correct.

And you did this sort of like iconic sleigh at one of your live shows where you brought out a bunch of girls.

Yeah.

Who he was talking to at the same time?

What was the context?

Yeah, so all of us thought we were like exclusively seeing him at the same time, but we were all

overlapping each other.

Cereal energy.

Yeah.

And we obviously found out about it.

Like I found out about it long after like when he was long gone and I hadn't talked to him in forever.

But once I figured it out, I was like, this is hilarious.

No, so funny.

We all started talking to each other.

We got like super close.

And then we were like, we should all go to Nashville or something.

And I was like, I don't know how funny would it be if I brought you to DC.

And did the girls lose their minds?

Oh, they were so excited.

That's the thing.

I like really did it for like the canceled listeners because for sure we just knew that that would like they would eat that up especially in DC because he was like that's where and your relationship with him

preceded his like kind of blowing blowing up like when when he had his Netflix special you had dated before that crack he he got his Netflix special like long after I got it and seeing you know what goes up must come down, like ability is a prison.

He had this sort of viral moment, this, you know, amazing, whatever success.

And then, you know, the people really turned on him.

He had this big scandal with, you know, the TikTok.

How did that make you feel?

Because I am a person who like holds grudges.

I have enemies and I want the worst for them at all times.

Are you, were you at a place in your life where you had healed and you wanted good things for him?

You loved to see it.

Well, the thing is, it came before I knew.

So before, like, when I saw him getting canceled and stuff, I was going on canceled or on my show and being like, oh my God, no, he's so nice.

You're lying.

No, that's how it, that's why I got so upset about it.

Cause I was like, I was defending him.

I was like, that's not his character.

He's, that's not who he is.

He's so sweet.

He's so nice.

And then girls started messaging me like, um, sister.

That's not true.

Wrong.

Oh my God.

That's true.

I was so embarrassed.

So that's why I like really went hard about it because otherwise I probably would have never brought it up.

But I was like, you will not have me publicly defending you looking stupid when there are other people who know that they were seeing you at the same time as me.

A thousand percent.

So you really just found out that he had been seeing other people at the same time.

Yeah, which is totally fine, but don't say you're not.

Is it totally fine?

I actually don't think it's fine.

No, I personally am someone who like, I, I'm so,

you only are with me.

Literally.

Obviously.

No, I don't think that's even asking all of you.

I know.

The bar is so low.

You would think so, but it's hard to find, I swear.

Well, you're not from LA.

Where are you from?

I'm from Arizona.

Okay, and when did you move to LA?

2018.

So for the majority of like your young adult dating life, you've been dating in LA.

And I imagine that's difficult.

It's hard, but it's not harder than it was in college, you know?

Yeah.

Same energy, like frat boy.

A frat boy is like the same thing as like in a Los Angeles.

That's a good way of looking at it.

Artist or whatever it is.

I feel like

you share so much.

And I think for a lot of the things you share in your podcast, you're like not.

wanting to tell, wanting people to find out who you're talking about.

Yeah.

And you share a lot, but I imagine, I just feel like you're one of those girls that like, there is so much we don't know.

Like I would seriously give my life savings to look through your DMs.

Honestly, my DMs are not exciting.

And it's really sad because I want them to be.

Honestly, if if you're listening and you want to DM me, please do because I read them and I respond.

Do you slide into other people's DMs like celebrities?

I really try.

And I don't do it so much now because I think...

Like if somebody were to, I don't know how I would feel about like a guy sliding in my DMs.

I'd be like, oh, you must do that often.

So I don't want a guy to think I'm just doing that.

But I feel like it's a thing a lot of people, like a lot of girls like to do.

And I think there's a method to it.

I've never done it.

I've been married for 100 years, but I think that there's like a correct way of doing it.

Do you have tips for like the girlies if you want to dm a celebrity like what's a way to get their attention because there's a lot of people like get in line i don't know i like i really don't know i'm not that successful in it so it's hard to give advice but i always just say like hi or something because if i go a little crazier than that then i get embarrassed because i'm like i don't want them to think i'm totally desperate but i am and oh by the way i'm so open to desperation i think it's so i feel like you know if we were businesswomen at a conference they would just call us you know networkers yeah thirsty you know what oh sabrina carpenter's new song she says like i don't relate to desperation.

I'm like, I do relate to desperation.

I wish I didn't.

I desperately do.

I, oh, it's the worst.

It's my least favorite quality about myself.

So when you brought those girlies on stage, you had so many viral moments from your tour, which is so, I mean, ideal marketing-wise, this is a business.

We're selling tickets.

The bringing of girls onto the stage, and I actually had spoken about this on the toast because you had like some fucking freak like storm the stage.

Yeah, we actually had a few.

Tell me about that.

There was one who really made it on stage.

Like most of them got stopped before they were even like really visible to everybody else.

But

one of them got all the way, like, into my lap before anyone even noticed.

And the video went so viral, one, because it's so crazy.

It was just strange.

She was, like, deranged.

You know, she wasn't drunk.

Oh, that's good.

No, it's not.

No, of course not.

Oh, yeah, that's true.

That's literally frightening.

If she had been drunk, it'd be like, oh, like hilarious.

Like, she was so blacked out.

Right.

She was dead, sober.

She was in a manic episode, which makes it like way.

Yeah, that's like so sad and sad.

And like, I have obviously sympathy for her, but also.

But your safety is your safety.

Who is she with?

And why didn't they Strangle her.

Oh my God.

Well, the moment went so viral, obviously, because it's a crazy thing, but the way you and Tana both reacted on stage was completely different, like polar opposite reactions.

And I think it really reflected how certain people, there are two ways of handling like a panic situation, freezing

and fleeing.

Tana ran and you didn't move.

She ran, but honest to God, here's the difference.

The real difference is that I was drunk and she wasn't.

So I was literally like, oh, who's this?

Like,

I thought someone was bringing me a water bottle or something.

She's in all black.

She like was middle-aged.

so I was like she's not a fanless she's harmless like she thought she like worked for the venue or something or they were like bringing something up to us I don't know what I thought but I did nothing so crazy but and by the way I

do you when you guys go on tour do you make it a point to is it helpful to you to drink before you perform or to not drink I have to well I don't have to of course I don't have to but it really helps me and I still get so nervous do you if I don't yeah and I just like personality wise I just feel like I'm I'm it takes the edge off and I'm more

exciting and I'm funnier.

Or maybe I just think I'm funnier, but it really doesn't matter.

Yeah, it doesn't matter.

So the Matt Rife thing was like sort of, for me, I feel like that's how you came across my radar.

And I was like, oh my god, this girl is so pretty and so cool.

Like, need to follow her.

And I feel like that's when I followed you because it was such an iconic thing to do.

And I think a lot of people also, it's just like a lesson in how to handle things.

That's like, you know, finding out a guy you dated was talking to multiple girls and like dating them at the same time.

Like that could seriously like upset someone.

And the fact that you made it into this like positive thing, I actually think was like an awesome way for like people to see that.

Like for other girls, like don't get like down on it.

Like let's make fun of it.

It's crazy and it's funny yeah and it is lighthearted i feel like some like a lot of people are like she beat it into the ground and i do kind of agree with that but it's like

you know what i there's so many times it's happened to me separately and i would never talk about it online but it was just the fact that i was publicly no you had to do it to the finger i was like no no no no no but i feel like you're this type of person and correct me if i'm wrong where

Bizarre things happen to you.

You don't, you know, seek out these crazy things.

But, and the stories that we know, which I'm sure that you haven't shared all of them, the ones that we know are fucking crazy.

Yeah.

And, well, the thing is, I'm the common denominator in all of those situations.

So it's like, I don't, like, what am I doing to seek these people out?

That's very self-aware of you, but like, I also feel like we're victim blaming here.

Like, you are the victim.

Like, and then when I went on this rabbit hole, when I first found you on TikTok, I then fell into the Clinton Kane of it all.

Ugh.

Yeah, he's a lizard.

And let me tell you, I was shocked, honey.

I was in tears.

First of all, that you dated this man, just visually.

Not to be mean.

I would know you can be as mean as you want about that man he was horrible and you would know it's also

a classic tideless beauty well thank you and

you know he's different looking and i was shocked first of all in a visual i'm a shallow person well but here's the thing if he had been like a good guy i would i would be so like I do not care if somebody's ugly.

And I've had plenty of uglies to go around.

You know what I mean?

Yes.

And, you know, so long as they're good and nice.

That's what you ever say a word.

Say a lot.

Like people's outsides are reflective of their insides.

And so like you could be whatever, traditionally not good looking, but if you're like such a sweetheart, precious gem of a man, like you're hot to me.

Yeah.

And that's what I kind of thought was going on

until I found out otherwise.

So you, I don't want to paraphrase, please, for the listeners who might not understand,

probably, is this the craziest thing that's ever happened to you?

I hope.

Yeah.

Oh, yeah.

I hope so.

Yeah.

So yeah, I was dating this guy.

I had started dating him.

I was a fan of his.

He was a singer.

Singer.

Sings like love songs, like people's wedding

and stuff like that.

And I started dating him almost immediately.

Major love bombing situation.

He was like immediately super affectionate, like buying me things, doing everything.

Anything good?

I mean, trips and just like stuff like that.

He was definitely a spender.

Like, I loved that.

Nice dinners and stuff.

And he was just like, you know, he was

a love bomber.

And I love love bombing.

That's one thing about me is please love bomb me.

I just love it.

And so.

Yeah, I got carried away.

And honest to God, I wasn't interested in the beginning, but I was like, you know what?

I'm going to choose a nice guy guy this one time.

Like, I'm going to go for the guy who actually likes me and wants to date me.

So I did.

And you know what happened?

He faked the death of his entire family and he pretended to be Australian our whole relationship.

So that's why you don't choose the nice guy.

Always choose the one

who wants to die.

But wait, that is so crazy.

Yeah.

So when you met him, it was just like a part of his background.

Yeah, we like, first night we ever met, we like went out to this diner and he like cried to me about how his family had all died.

Oh, my.

And I was like blown away.

I'm like, I cannot believe he's been through all of this.

And he's like touring a year later.

Like, that's amazing.

I knew I was like, God, like, talk about resilience.

Oh, my God.

I'm cracking up.

And just, it was such a theme of our relationship.

Like, every single thing like came back to that.

Like, if I would upset him, or if I was doing something he didn't like, he'd be like, you're reminding me of my mother.

Oh, my God.

That's really fucking crazy.

I just hung up the phone too fast.

He'd be like, my mom used to do that.

It's so traumatizing for me.

It's such a trigger.

Like, she's alive.

Like, call her.

Oh, that's mentally ill energy.

That's so crazy.

That's so so bad or I'd be like busy working or whatever it was and he'd be like are you kidding me?

You know what I've been through like and you're not gonna come meet me right now like have me drop what I was doing like it was so manipulative and it wasn't real like they are just fully kicking and I don't know if you get backlash for like sharing but I love that you did especially like with this specific situation like naming names.

Well, it took so long.

I didn't talk want to talk about it for so long because I still like

the person you loved.

Yeah, that and it's like you have to assume something's very, very wrong with somebody if they're capable of doing that and so I was like from like the mental illness side of it I was like oh my god He needs to get help and like I didn't want his career to be ruined and stuff but like the further I got away from it I was like oh my god like that was a horrible thing he did to me.

That's what I love about your podcast and you specifically is like

You know, every now and then I feel like everyone on the internet is like always talking in code like I met a girl.

She should fucking say it Fucking say it.

I mean the Clinton Kane thing like it was such a seriously like psychotic thing to do and in the words of Taylor Swift like you are what you did and people should know because he's gonna have to you know date more people And it's just a quick Google is so helpful.

Well, that's crazy.

You know, he had a, he had dated a girl before me, and I'm the one who ended up telling her.

And so, no, listen to how crazy this is.

She was like, I guess I'm in love is about her.

Like, that's his biggest song.

She was with him for like nine months or something, but he killed his family off while they were together.

He killed his family off.

So, like, he, that story came about when she, they were actively in a relationship.

So, she flew.

They were long distance.

She flew from New York and stayed with him for months.

Wait, did she go to his funeral while he grieved oh he it was during covet he went to his the funerals on zoom okay your whole family dies like I don't give a fuck if it's COVID like you're going to the funeral oh you can find video footage of him everywhere talking about the funeral what it's like what he did how he felt

and what funeral wait no this is so crazy that you ended up telling the previous girlfriend that she hadn't even known no she had no not a clue i told her and she was crushed because she it's like she helped him grieve of course and it was like oh god it had to have been worse for her because she literally flew

for months.

And like he literally actively was like, my mom died yesterday.

Oh my God.

Where does one get that kind of idea?

Like it's so crazy.

I think.

I think because he had a song that like did really well and he said it was about his mom and that like made everybody love it.

So I think then he was like, oh, I should kill her.

Oh my God, by the way, the price of fame.

You're so right.

But like a little bit of attention cares about you.

No, that's really fucking nuts.

Yeah.

And also, it's like, if you look up anything, it's like Australian, Norwegian singer.

Like, no one's from Norway.

No one's from Australia.

I'm glad you brought up Australia.

How did he talk?

Did I?

He had like some remnants of an Australian accent, but he also like, he went in and out of it, but he would tell me like, oh, I lived in, you know,

Europe and I lived like all these places.

It's getting to rate.

I know, but yeah.

So I was like just confused.

I'm like, well, he's got something.

Right, right.

Oh, my God.

That is so crazy.

Are you okay?

It took me a second.

Did it?

Oh, it took me, oh, God.

No, it's like funny joke about it now.

Like, I can be lighthearted and like joke about him being a lizard and stuff, but I was like

not okay.

No, that's really crazy.

How long had you guys dated?

Not even long.

We dated like seven months or something, but I was just, I felt like my boyfriend died.

So I created this imaginary.

You should start telling people your boyfriend died.

Oh, I did.

Yeah, he's married Clinton Kane of you.

My Australian boyfriend is dead.

Wait, and so that was the reason you broke up.

Did you have a conversation with him?

What was his sort of reasoning for killing his family?

Oh, he, well, he still won't admit it.

Oh,

he will not say he did that.

Oh, wow, oh.

I mean, he like he did in not so many words.

He was like, I'm going to tell you, I'm going to explain to you why.

And then obviously never did.

Right.

I never saw him again.

Oh, my God.

If you ever ran into him, what would you say?

I cursed the day you ran out of the house.

Oh, I would hit him for sure.

You would.

No doubt.

I support women's rights and I support women's wrongs.

I think you should hit him.

I would hit him and everybody would give me a pass.

A thousand percent.

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Oh my God.

Okay.

You're like the most interesting person in the world.

Tell me about like your life growing up.

And now that you have this like newfound fame and I'm sure you're making a lot of money.

Like how different is that from the way you grew up?

Is it taking like some sort of adjustment for you?

Oh yeah.

I grew up with my grandparents.

I grew up, well, I grew up with my parents until I was like nine.

And then I went with my grandparents from that time on.

And yeah, my life is definitely very different now.

But are your grandparents still with us?

They are.

My grandma is like has really bad dementia.

So she's like...

That's hard.

She's not, but she is.

She's physically here.

Yeah, it's horrible.

And your grandfather?

My grandpa's amazing.

I talk to him all the time.

And what does he make of your life?

He loves it.

He's so sweet.

He, like, he wrote down all of my tour dates in his like notebook by hand so that he would know where he was every single night.

Did you do a show in where Phoenix, right?

I haven't done a show in Phoenix, but I, I mean, he wouldn't be able to go if I were.

Oh my god, that is so sweet.

I love that.

So supportive, and he'll like, he'll message me and be like, okay, well, I saw the show last night.

He's so nice.

Oh my God, he's perfect.

That's awesome.

Has Tanna met your grandparents?

She hasn't, but I wish she could.

That you need to vlog it.

Your vlogs, like, are

blogging is really hard.

I love vlogging.

It's my favorite, I think, like social media thing.

Oh, well, I love

to, but, but I find vlogging, like, long form to be.

Very laborious

in terms of editing and uploading.

Like, I feel like it's the most work in terms of social content.

But I feel like it's the easiest way to, like, show your actual personality.

I feel like, yeah, I mean, podcasting helps too.

Anything long form to me is like more indicative of like who you are.

A thousand percent.

But I feel like vlogging and your vlog vlog specifically, it's hard to get people to watch.

Like building a YouTube channel and building a YouTube presence, I feel like it's like one of the hardest platforms to build.

And people love your vlogs.

Well, thank you, but I think I'm cheating.

This is, it's like, I think it's just like autoplay after canceled.

No way, no.

Don't clown on yourself.

Like, I think for a lot of people, you've become like a, like a comfort.

And I think also it's like the, the age we're currently living in in YouTube.

Like long gone are like the girlies who we all used to watch, like no more.

You know, Jeffrey doesn't post anymore.

Emma Chamberlain, like all the girlies are gone.

And I think people are looking for new comfort creators, and you are one of them.

It was kind of like my thought process, too.

I was like, okay, well, this is like the time because everybody who

like there's kind of like a gap.

No one wants to do YouTube right now because it's so much easier to do TikTok.

Is it weird for you to have so many people commenting on all facets of your life?

I feel like a lot of your content, but also a lot of like...

your comments and stuff are about your dating life.

But like your looks, like people, that's just the nature of the internet.

Is that strange for you?

Yeah, I don't, yeah.

I definitely don't love that aspect of it.

Sometimes it's like, it depends on what it it is because sometimes I love it and I love the attention and stuff.

Of course, if any social media personality in general like loves the attention and they're lying if they say they don't.

I'll live for it.

But

when it's negative attention, of course, I'm like, okay, well, how do I turn it off?

Are you the type of person who like lets that stuff get to you?

Yes.

Yeah.

Like you read comments.

For sure.

And I'm very aware of what people think about me at all times, which is like, it sucks because then I start behaving a certain way because I think I'm supposed to.

Okay, I was just doing a podcast yesterday with Jake Shane talking about this and he was saying he was getting so like bogged down.

He accidentally like read this Reddit thread about it.

No, we've been fighting about that.

Him and I do yelled at him so hard.

And I was like, because when you start changing how you act to appease critics, you've lost the plot completely.

And then people can tell you're not being yourself.

And then that's a whole additional thing for them to comment on and hate on and whatever.

And then you'll get to a place, like I've been doing this for so long.

You will get to a place where not only do you like act differently online to appease your critics, you will start to make different life choices like in your personal life because you are like always considering what people will think of you.

And that is a place where you let like haters or commentary from the internet affect like your actual life because this isn't real.

Then you're in a really bad place and you need to cut it off like seriously at the balls like immediately.

I'm, I'm such a big fan of just like, fuck it, like fuck it, you know?

I know, it's, it's just so much harder.

Like, I don't know, I'm still so new to it too.

Like Tana's so good at being like, I was going to say fuck, like, but I'm so, I don't know.

I feel like Jake is in the same boat.

Him and I talk about it all the time because we'll be like, he talks to me about Reddit because I've notoriously been a Reddit reader.

Oh, about yourself?

Oh, yeah.

It was like self-harm.

I was doing it for so much.

It was self-harm.

It is.

But that's exactly what it is.

And especially somebody who's like a little off her rock or like me, it's like I'm spiraling.

So obviously I'm going to go in and read this like enormous group chat with fucking 60,000 people.

Make it worse who are talking like horribly about you.

Dig the abyss.

No, you have to make a conscious effort.

And let me tell you, I don't look at it ever.

Well, I had to stop on tour because touring, like,

it's already so emotionally hard and like demanding and stuff.

It's like I could not handle if I thought that like it was being received poorly.

So I could not be on Reddit during that time.

And now I'm like, oh my God, my life is so much better.

Once you're clean.

Yes.

That's what it is.

It gets easier.

It's like a vape.

It's like a vape.

It's like this one comment on TikTok where people are like, you know what I get?

I get a lot of,

don't listen to the people on Reddit.

And I'm like, oh, fuck, whatever.

I wasn't going to.

Yeah.

Or like, like, it's, I don't care if Reddit hates you.

I'm like, fuck, they hate me.

You know what I mean?

I'm like, oh, no, now I know.

And now I got to go check.

I see your podcast clips a lot.

I know Tana vapes.

Do you vape?

No.

Tell me about that decision.

I've, honest to God, I've tried to get into it and I can't.

I like, I literally wanted to be a vapor and I like, no, by the way, I'm like five months off the vape.

It's the best thing I've ever done quitting.

Do not start.

Like, seriously, it'll ruin your fucking life.

I know.

I don't have like an addictive personality when it comes to like drugs, alcohol, or like any of those vices.

It's like, for me, it's like food and boys.

Juzen.

What is up with those things?

Like, I'm serious.

What is that?

Is that like like the...

No.

Yes.

Are you still doing that?

Oh, my God.

Are girls doing that?

Everyone is the they's, the themes, the girls, the boys, like, gay, straight, everyone.

It's going to be stopped.

No, it's so bad for you.

And I think it's like the new, it's very Gen Z.

The Gen Z's are over the vape.

They said the vape isn't cool.

We're doing Zen.

None of it's cool.

Get in the car.

We're getting mouth cancer.

Seriously.

Isn't that crazy?

Yeah.

See, I'm, no, no, no, no.

I'm not into it.

Me neither.

Also, you brought up Jake, you guys doing Pilates together.

I have a question that I think seriously everyone is wondering.

What the fuck is the Aloe gym?

And like, what is it?

And where is it?

And do you pay for it?

Like, we want to tell us everything.

It's so crazy.

I wanted to get in there so bad.

Like,

it's basically Aloe headquarters.

It's in Beverly Hills.

It's like a mall.

Like, you walk in there and it's like this like seven-story building and there's like people walking around on all the aisles.

Like, it's literally like something you've never seen before.

And there's just racks of brand new aloe clothes everywhere.

And like, you see, like, Nuna Dobrev walking around.

It's just the craziest thing ever.

And like I see so many people hating on it and I completely get it because it's like, what do you mean?

There's this like the exclusive gym.

No, they're hating on it because they can't get in.

Yeah, and so was I until they let me in.

So I completely get it.

But is it a gym you pay for?

You don't pay for it.

You get invited.

Okay.

So.

Like you get invited to become a member.

You get invited like once.

New, it's not like a membership, but basically like, so I had never been invited and I was trying to get invited so bad.

I was like, literally, every single person I met from Aloe like headquarters, I would like try to befriend.

I could not get in there.

Okay.

She's,

I'm not kidding.

I had to be invited as like an outsider

in, or it was like a YSL Beauty had like a an event there.

Okay.

And so that was like my in.

So I just did my big one when I was in there.

I was like chit-chatting like with everybody and I finally met the right girl, the girl who makes the list.

Oh my God, where is she?

And she's so, she's actually, she's like one of my best friends now.

Like, I love her.

Very smart, cozying up to the boss.

We love that honestly yes i would love her separately but like it's so beneficial i just love it so much because she'll text and be like do you want to come in tomorrow like pilates at two with brett or like or she'll be like and so do you belong to a gym now or that has become your gym and i you couldn't get me to the gym if i wasn't doing that so it's been like a a good thing for you oh yeah we're cutting costs we love that yeah it's amazing okay i'm so glad we cleared that up because i honestly i was wondering it and when i told everyone that you were coming on I asked them if there's anything they wanted me to ask you.

And there were a couple of things.

And the first thing is people want to know like if there's been any sort of update or movement in your relationship with fibula and i guess is that a thing about you that you have a big crush on fibula because you know who's extremely close with fibula who this girl you are so i could put in a good word well here's the thing if there was any like good words that could be put in like it's just not possible because that's insane to me no offense and fibula is like very hot and cute yeah i get it like it's insane to me that there's anyone on the planet that you would want to date that wouldn't want to date you back no

You would not believe how many of those people there are.

That's so crazy to me.

You are so pretty and like so sweet.

He's so nice, but you you think I'm crazy.

But he doesn't even know that yet.

So I don't really know what's going on just to be like, know you have a crush on me?

Of course he does.

Are you kidding me?

I talk about it so openly on every single podcast.

I've publicly stated.

One time I was sitting next to him at a dinner and I posted on my Instagram story: like, the love of my life is sitting next to me.

Okay.

And he saw it.

No.

I'm podcasting with Brooke Schofield right now.

Do you know her question mark?

I feel like you guys would be a good couple.

Can I please?

You can.

He already knows.

Done.

No, he, by the way, that I feel like is a really good crush for you.

He's so sweet.

He's like a good guy.

He's so cute.

I love him.

Who's your celebrity crush besides Fibula?

Um, Matthew McConaughey.

He's a little old for me.

Okay.

That's like kind of a weird celebrity crush, but I have a weird one too.

Yeah, I don't.

That's not, that's the most common celebrity crush.

Okay, are you saying current Matthew McConaughey or like even

Matthew McConaughey?

Even Matthew McConaughey 30 years from now.

Okay, I mean, my celebrity crush is weird too, so like I really shouldn't be judging you.

It's not John Manjanielo.

Manjanielo.

I just think it's like weird.

I wouldn't have expected you to say that.

Wait, is yours?

Is he the guy from the True Blood?

Oh, no, I'm not thinking.

I'm thinking Joe Santogato.

Who the hell is that?

Santiago?

Who is that?

What am I talking about?

I'm talking about the guy who was married to Sophia Vergara.

Oh, so hot.

Magic Mike.

Magic Mike.

That's not a weird one either.

Who's telling you that's weird?

Everyone.

Like, it's just kind of random.

He's also

hot.

Have you ever seen True Blood?

No.

That's what, like, I think launched his career, and he's so handsome in it.

I love like a, like, getting attached to a character like Damon Salvatore and Dan Pradarius.

I would do anything for that man.

Now, speaking of character, I mean, you brought it up, so I wasn't going to bring it up, but speaking of characters that we're all obsessed with, there's like a pretty substantial rumor online that you're dating like the love of all of our lives.

And I just want to say.

I think you started it.

No, I fucking didn't.

Are you kidding me?

It was all on your TikTok.

Did I start it?

Oh man, I'm really sorry.

No, you didn't.

No.

I saw it, and I was just like, the thing is, that's how I knew like you were a woman of taste because

it's really hard to see people living your dream.

But if it's not going to be me, I'm glad that it was you.

That should be me.

And seriously, Maddie McKibben, I know he's a real name.

It's Bo.

Yes.

And there was a TikTok floating around that, you know, he was like on tour with you.

And I think a lot of people thought he was like your emotional support boyfriend.

He was my emotional support friend.

Friend.

Okay.

So you're not dating?

We're not dating.

Fuck.

Okay.

Well, that's good for us, girlies.

Let's go, girls.

He's available No, the thing is, is like that's such a deep cut for so many of us.

Like that should be.

No, he He was my, oh my gosh, there's like tweets of me in like

2012 being like, Maddie McKibben, I will die for you.

I know, I seriously, like, there was a time in my life where I would have like laid out on the street for Maddie McKibben, like, and let a car run me.

Me, too.

I would have done anything.

So, it's fun.

So, that's why I was just letting everybody speculate.

Because one thing about me is, I'm not going to shoot down a dating rumor if you're shipping me with somebody sexy.

Also, somebody famous.

Like, this is a business.

Well, right now, I think people, there's like people talking about me dating Glenn Powell.

I've never even met him.

And I'm like, it's because of the aloe gym.

gym.

I'm not kidding.

I'm like, I absolutely am.

Interesting.

Me and Glenn.

I kind of love that.

I do ship, but you and Glenn as well.

I should be with anyone because you're just like so lovely.

Thank you.

And I feel like there's a lot of people who

come into the space and either, you know,

it's a slow burn, they're success or it's overnight success, but they just become assholes.

I'm sure you have a ton of experience with that too.

You for sure probably have my moment.

No, but I think for the most part, like that really comes through.

And I think that's why so many people love the podcast and love your content.

It's because you really seem like a joy, like a delight.

Well, thank you.

Just a girlie from Phoenix.

That's so much fun.

I can be really horrible.

I think we all can, but as long as it's, you know, not documented, nobody has anything.

Yeah, that's what I try to do.

I try to keep that under wraps.

Again, behind the scenes.

How long do you have to be dating someone before you like really let them see like the real you?

Obviously, like we're all playing apart for a couple of months.

Oh, I don't know.

Depends.

Cause I love, again, I love a love-bombing relationship.

So I love to like literally be dating before you know anything about me.

That's so crazy.

But it never really works.

That's why it never works out.

And then maybe they find out I'm crazy.

What's the craziest way you've been like love-bombed?

Well, definitely the Clinton situation.

The trips, the things of that nature.

Yeah.

And just like, like, he said, I love you, like, three days after we met.

Oh, that's really fucking crazy.

Yeah, but I was like, he's a, he's a singer.

No, and it's like, of course he loves me.

Also, why would you not love me after three days?

No, and it's like, finally, somebody gets it.

Like, I'm amazing.

I love you too.

I was literally like, and also, it was like, I thought he was like you know kind of punching up so it's like maybe he was like trying

no that's honestly so sweet should you take him back no i'm kidding could you

where is he now actually ever since i like started stalking you on social media he has now infiltrated my timeline it's funny how the algorithm works so i do believe he's out there shaking that thing but nothing shaking something not in any meaningful way

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How many episodes a week do you guys do of your podcast?

We do usually one or two.

And the title of the podcast is called Canceled.

As somebody who has like actually been canceled, have you?

No.

I've been, I've like

dipped my toes in the water.

And do you feel like I've gone through a podcast that attracts that energy or deters it?

I feel like putting it out there is like, no, we can't get canceled.

Our podcast is called canceled.

Well, it like it kind of helps that I, you know, Tana thought of that like when she was it's a very smart title.

It's so that people, when people search like Tana Mojo, canceled, that's what comes up.

Oh my god, queen of SEO.

She's a genius.

That is really smart.

But yeah, I think, I mean, people probably give us a little more grace than a lot of other people because people just expect us to be controversial.

But yeah, I don't know.

I'm trying not anything I could be like canceled for is kind of like maybe when I was like a teenager or whatever, which is understandable.

Agreed.

And

you do guest episodes, but you also just do episodes, the two of you.

Which do you prefer?

I love just the two of us, really.

No one likes the guest episodes, really, unless it's like somebody that people really love.

That's so funny.

That's like kind of a thing that I think a lot of podcasters deal with is like they say the best way, and it's true, the best way to grow your podcast is to have guests on and go on other people's podcasts.

Like that's the way to grow.

But your your audience, like your core audience, excuse me, they hate it.

Yeah, because it's like you don't want to hear an interview of somebody you don't care about or you don't know how to balance like that, you know, growth with like wanting to give your audience what they want because they're the ones listening and they're the ones, you know, paying the bills.

Yeah, so we feel guilty because it's like, well, also, we run out of things to talk about, the two of us.

And I, you must not relate to that because I can't even imagine doing as many episodes as you do.

But like, the difference is my co-host every normally, not this week, but normally is my sister.

And I just feel like it's a different level because we're, we've had the, like, literally had the same life experience.

Like, we can, we've never run out of anything.

Yeah, that's true.

You don't like, I don't, we only have like a few years to pull for exactly, exactly.

But I feel like what you guys do in a few years, people do in a lifetime.

Yeah, well, we do a lot.

I also like, it's kind of tricky too, because I am trying not to share too much about my personal life and stuff.

And like, that's what the podcast is.

So if we did more than one episode a week, I would be toast.

Yeah.

How do you toast?

I know.

I took it on for.

Yeah.

How do you balance that?

Like, with obviously when the more you share, the more people love.

Like that whole Mindy thing like everybody died for, but that obviously takes a toll, you know?

Yeah.

How do you balance?

I don't know.

I try to kind of keep everything separate because.

Because you got to live.

Yeah.

And it just messes up like everything, relationships, friendships, and stuff.

Try to have like a whole separate life, kind of.

I saw, I heard you on a podcast where you were talking about like telling stories about your life and that you'll give like clues.

Like you'll say like he or she or blonde or brunette, but you're like leading people astray.

Like

I'm fully lying.

I think it's brilliant.

I have to because it's like, I want to still tell honest stories and stuff, but I don't, it's so, no matter how many times you tell people to stop, they'll go and find them and they'll message them or they'll post about it and post TikToks about it and speculate and whatever it is.

So I'm like, oh, God, I want to share, but I can't.

No, that's actually really funny that you do that.

And I think it's really smart.

I have to.

So I'll like say like one thing about them that's just like absolutely not true.

Yeah, like a redhead.

Yeah.

That's so funny.

Do you guys do advice on your podcast?

Kind of.

We probably shouldn't.

No one should take advice from the canceled canceled podcast.

That's for sure.

One time I told people to use a magic eraser to get their self-tanner off and I gave people chemical burns.

Wait, I kind of feel like that would be a good idea.

No?

I thought so.

Had you done it?

Uh-huh.

But I guess I don't have sensitive skin.

I don't either.

That's so interesting.

So at your own risk.

Well, in that vein, every Wednesday we do do, doo-doo.

I was already getting ready to laugh about it.

We do a segment called Deer Toasters where people write in.

And I've chosen three, and they're all a little relationship-based because I feel like you have a lot of experience in relationships.

And if you guys want to write in, of course, it's deartoas at gmail.com or head to the toastpodcast.com to submit.

It is completely anonymous.

And if it's okay with you, I think the girlies would love to get some advice from you, okay?

I would love to.

I can't promise it's going to be good advice.

But we're also, you know, we're different.

And I think maybe it's good to have two, you know, different spectrums of advice.

I agree.

Hello.

I am a huge toaster.

I have a unique dilemma.

And for context of the story, please know that I am severely allergic to peanuts.

If someone eats peanuts and then like 12 hours later kisses me, I will go into anaphylactic shock.

So she's, it's very serious.

Oh, no.

I recently was looking at my husband's credit card statement, something which I don't normally do, and I found something horrifying.

A hotel reservation in our city when he was supposed to be gone for work.

When I confronted him about it, he was embarrassed, but said every once in a couple of months, he goes to a hotel,

eats tubs of peanut butter, Reese's, peanut butter, and jellies, et cetera.

And he showed me a video of the peanut haul.

I flew off the handles, and he said I was overreacting.

Do I have the right to be furious, or am I the one overreacting?

Wait, she's just mad that he ate peanuts?

Honestly,

when he's not with her?

Like, I think he kind of sounds amazing like i mean he's going that's really out of his way really nice of him to wait until you're wait so is he out of town like are i mean she says it's in his town and he's spending the night having a peanut staycation

a peanut staycation

oh but he took pictures like i believe that that's what he's using the hotel for do you think it's more nephritising

he's like wait let me do a quick little peanut mukbang i mean men really aren't that smart to like come up with a diversion video But then why would you not just say, like, I'm craving peanuts.

Can I please go to the W for the night?

It's, you know what?

You're 100% right.

It's never the crime.

It's the cover-up.

Like, the lying about it now makes me think.

Well, you, yeah, that's the thing.

If you're really just eating peanuts, why can't you tell me about it?

Because it's like, if I, if I know that I'm allergic to peanuts and I know my boyfriend loves peanut butter, like, yeah, sure, spend the night.

Yeah, I think you're, you are overreacting if he's telling the truth.

And you can, you can gauge, like, what does your gut say.

If you think he's lying and there's more to it, then no, of course not.

You're obviously not.

Maybe she's mad that he's coming home maybe not within 12 hours maybe she she feels he's being reckless perhaps with the allergy oh that could be that could be it too which i do understand and people with allergies like do you have allergies like serious me neither i'm not allergic to anything so i can't relate but people with allergies are really really serious and i imagine it's very frustrating when someone especially your life partner it's not being as serious when it comes to sort of protecting your allergies as truth too.

Yeah, if you can die from it.

I know.

Isn't that so crazy that you can die from so scared?

Like, oh my God, I can't imagine something worse now, especially because peanuts are everywhere.

I know.

Well, I'm scared.

Not anymore.

Thanks allergies.

When I was in,

like, when I was a young kid, and I've actually recently discovered, you see that little girl on TikTok who tries new food every day?

She's like, I am living with ARFID and I am trying pepperoni pizza today.

I haven't seen it.

Okay, well, so I saw her videos and I realized that I have, I have had ARFID my whole life.

It's an, I don't know, like, I haven't been diagnosed, but it's an acute restrictive food intake disorder.

When I tell you, like, you would die if you knew what I ate, like I'm so so particular so picky like that of a five-year-old actually like a five-year-old has a more I was like that growing up I wouldn't eat anything but macaroni and like same I would only eat chicken literally still to this day I have chicken for every meal like grilled chicken that's all I eat and

Where was I going with my story about our food?

We were talking about it.

People with allergies are super serious.

People with allergies are super serious.

It's getting better this year.

Thank you, Christiana.

Okay, yeah.

So all I used to eat as a kid was peanut butter and jelly.

And then there was this little shit in my like third grade class who had like a crazy allergy and I couldn't bring peanut butter and jelly to school anymore.

No, literally.

And I went through like literally taste testing all these alternatives like almond butter or whatever they had back in the day.

So disgusting.

Like my life was ruined by this kid's allergy.

So I understand where this girl's coming from.

No,

I understand where she's coming from.

I understand where the husband's coming from.

Like sometimes you just got to get your fix.

I agree.

I don't think I could ever, oh my God, I couldn't be with somebody who was allergic to peanut.

Really?

That's very hard.

Like the love of your life was allergic to like chicken and you couldn't have chicken.

That's a good question because like I need chicken to live.

I have it every meal i had it for lunch and i'll probably have that's how i feel like i couldn't marry someone allergic to cats because there's never going to be a time in my life where i don't have a cat wait

wait wait what you like cats oh my god you're you were perfect wait oh you look were you gonna tell me i

hate like literally would kill one if i could

i would literally kill a cat if he touched me are you kidding me no no no i think cats are like seriously the scariest most disgusting things on the planet i hate you no no no i hate you too you can go wait what are you talking about maybe me cats never chosen chosen you.

Or maybe cats.

I have dogs.

I know that you're horrible.

I have dogs.

Do you have dogs?

I don't have dogs.

I love dogs.

I love dogs, but I just.

You so don't give me cat energy.

I didn't have, I never really cared for cats.

I was indifferent about cats until I had like one cat that I met that I loved so much.

And changed you.

I just was like, I have to get one tomorrow.

So you have one like at your house right now.

Yeah.

Her name is Murphy.

Her name is Murphy.

And what is she like?

She looks exactly like Bella Hadid.

She's perfect.

She's hypoallergenic and she's just just like sassy.

She doesn't, she's cuddly.

She's not like.

Okay, what if you like fell in love with a guy?

He was perfect, like completely perfect, but he was like me.

Like hate

cats.

Wow, really?

My one non-negotiable.

Like

he's gone.

Deal breaker?

Yes.

What if he's a billionaire with a B?

Seriously?

Doesn't care.

Really?

Do not care.

But he could build your cat like its own house, its own mansion, or a wing

in your own house for the cat.

Yeah, can I spend five days a week in it?

And you still have to be in a relationship with the person.

No.

Oh my god, I'm in shock.

Because I want to have seven of them.

Damn.

And I think that you haven't met the right cat because nobody hate.

That's like, that's, you can't say that.

I actually like, I haven't met a cat.

Like, I won't even go near one.

I didn't.

What?

No, no, like, seriously, I did cat yoga once.

Like, I was forced.

Do you know what cat yoga is?

Yeah, but I don't, I can't imagine that that would be even a good experience for anyone.

No, I'm not going to be afraid.

That was like horrifying.

But even before that, I was like so afraid of cats.

Well, are you, is it a fear?

Yes, yes, yes.

Oh, okay.

Well, that's understandable.

Cats, Cats, like, a lot of cats are mean.

And they're mean to people who are like, don't like descendants of like the lion, you know?

Like, and that's living in your life.

That was so fucking amazing to me.

It's like, because I was just watching like Our Planet the other day, and I'm not kidding.

I was like, love Our Planet.

And I was watching this,

the cheetah on there, her name is Martini.

And I'm thinking about it, and I'm like, I have one.

I have a

tiny one of those in my house.

Like, imagine you had a tiny elephant that you could have in your backyard.

No, that's pretty sick.

I like that when you put it like that.

That is so cool.

And their instincts, everything about them is the same.

Also, cats, you know, they're just born knowing what to do.

They know what to eat.

They know to go in a litter box.

Like, you don't have to do anything.

As somebody with a cleaner.

She cleans herself.

She does the bathroom herself.

That's huge.

I don't have to take her out.

It's the easiest thing ever.

And then she just cuddles up on my pillow at night and she gives me serotonin.

And she's literally on a trip.

Like, does anybody need to watch your cat?

100%.

I will not leave her alone for even eight hours.

Who's watching her right now?

Well, I'm not gone for eight hours.

Oh, right.

Okay.

Okay.

I mean, I don't know how long I'll keep you here.

Are you ready for another deer toaster submission?

Yes.

Long time listener, love you both so much.

So, I have a situation coming up, and I'm curious to hear your thoughts on how you'd approach it.

My husband and I have been together for seven years, and we'll be going to a wedding in a few weeks.

We will be seeing a girl that he admitted to cheating on me with.

This happened four years ago, and immediately after it happened, my husband remorsefully admitted to blackout drunkenly making out with his high school friend.

We've moved on from it since.

However, how would you approach interacting with the girl your husband made out with?

The thought of seeing her makes me want to throw up.

Please share any advice for interacting with her since I know I'll have to say hi to her.

Would you just try to look your best not acknowledge her love you and will confidently take your advice that's really hard really hard because in my head i want to be like throw a drink on her of course but but your husband was the problem in that particular scenario so if you can go hand in hand with your husband to the wedding you can probably give her a little head nod yeah i also feel like if you were looking for a reason to not go to this wedding now you have one i'm always looking for a reason to like get out of the way what are you gonna do send your husband to the wedding alone oh no we're both not going oh good like if it depends on whose wedding is it i'm not sending you to a wedding with your girlfriend like no yeah like do you have to go to the like?

Is it how close are you guys?

Right.

And sometimes, like, I really don't want to go to something, and I'll really search for a reason.

And this, like, it's kind of right in front of you.

So, if you didn't want to go, like, you don't have a dress already, and you're just kind of dreading it, I feel like you don't have to go.

Well, it sounds like it's his wedding, too, because it's like his high school friend.

So it's like it must be someone related to him.

Yeah, and I feel like you guys shouldn't go.

Like, and that's your husband's punishment, seriously, for you.

But weddings are so fun.

And sometimes, like, well, it depends.

Like, if can you look really good?

And the girl, like, hates you.

I know, but it's, like, still just, like, so units, you know what it is?

It's just fucking unfortunate.

And if you, I imagine you will go and I would just be like quiet and nice.

It's always best to kill him with kindness.

Yeah, and like watched me before you and they did that.

He like showed up to the wedding.

Correct.

Just

respond.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Like it's fine.

It's not like the biggest deal.

Also, when you said your husband cheated on her, obviously I thought they fucked.

Yeah.

And obviously making out is wrong, but it's a different level of cheating than like sleeping with someone.

So I think you're going to be okay.

Just look really pretty and be really nice.

You never regret being nice.

That's the thing.

And keep your eye on him, seriously.

Oh, for sure.

Yeah.

And like i i it's it's nice that like you're you gave him grace you're a stronger woman than i am um but you know what they say

once a cheater always a cheater so just keep that in mind i do say that just keep it in mind i'm sure he's amazing we love him but just keep that in mind always keep it in the back of your head our third and final one I need your guys' advice because I can't tell anyone.

I know they will judge me.

I went snooping in my boyfriend's closet and I found an engagement ring and I just feel like it's way too small.

I know I can hear how bratty I sound, but I really want something bigger and I absolutely know that we can afford something bigger.

It also does not fit me.

Like it doesn't even go over my knuckle.

So how do I subtly tell him my ring size so he knows to get a resize before proposing?

And how do I make it known that size does matter?

That's really awkward.

Maybe it's not for you.

Oh my god.

I don't know what I'm even talking about.

No, by the way, facts.

Like why would anyone seriously buy a ring without knowing for sure the person's size?

It's such an expensive thing.

I would also be just like kind of hurt if...

Yeah, exactly, if somebody didn't take into account what I wanted.

Like or ask my friends or something and none of of my friends is going to let a guy buy me a baby.

An ugly, yeah, and this is literally that episode of Sex in the City where Aiden, Carrie finds a ring, and it's literally so fucking ugly, and she doesn't know what to do.

And she talks to her friends, and Miranda was like, Wait, you don't like it?

I picked it out.

And then she's like struggling, and then he proposes, and the ring is gorgeous.

And it was because Samantha stepped in.

It was like, oh, get rid of that.

So that's what you need.

You need to send in a friend.

Learn from Samantha Jones.

Send in a friend.

That's the genius idea.

Honest to God.

And have the friend be the one who is kind of a brat about it.

Because

you don't have to be ungrateful.

And this is something like, if it's really bothering you, like, it's so expensive.

Why spend so much money on something you actually hate?

Like, you're actually doing him a favor.

See, I would be screwed.

I'd be stuck with a ring on my hand that I hated.

Are you like a people pleaser in that sense?

Well, yeah, I would never like tell somebody I didn't like a gift they gave me ever, even if it's an engagement ring.

I would be like, this is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

And I would want to do it.

What's your dream engagement ring?

Oh, I don't know.

I've never really thought about it.

I don't think a lot about marriage.

I was going to ask, do you want to get married in this life?

Yes.

Oh, you do.

I would love to see you.

What kind of marriage?

Why would you see yourself as?

I don't know.

I think it depends on who I would be marrying because

how

all my relationships have been, they're just so different based on like who it is.

Do you have a type?

None of them are the same.

I feel like a lot of your boyfriends look different.

Yeah.

No.

Damn.

But I'm so excited to see what's in store for you.

I know me too.

I'm like, Glenn Powell.

Perhaps Glenn Powell is.

Oh, let me say if Fibula texts me back.

Oh my God, I'm going to kill myself.

No, like for real, I feel like you and Fibs.

He knows already, though.

That's the embarrassing part.

It's like he literally already knows.

She's fucking awesome.

We had a blast the last time we hung out.

Stop.

I'm kind of obsessed.

Well, he knows you're with me right now, so of course he's going to be nice.

And then as soon as I leave, he's going to be like, oh, God, she's so annoying.

Oh, stop.

He's so sweet.

And I feel like actually that's what I'm doing.

I heard she doesn't date.

Okay.

Well, that's helped.

So that helped.

Honestly, I thought maybe somebody was telling it, like, me, that for my ego.

To make you feel better.

But I'm going to like sleep on that and honestly just think like, oh, he's just not interested in dating.

But I love that you put it out there and you manifested.

You never regret shooting your shot.

At all.

At all.

And I love to just like say out loud who I love.

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Where can people find it?

Um, it's on YouTube and obviously all streaming streaming platforms, but we prefer YouTube.

And we drop on Fridays.

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