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Good morning, Millennials, and welcome back to the toast.

Happy Thursday.

Hope everyone's having a great day.

It's a great day.

Jax is back in the studio wearing a curdigan that I gave to her that apparently she doesn't hate.

It's a curdigan.

Yes, she gave me this cardigan in the second wave.

The second wave of curdigans.

That one's giving like college professor at a New England Ivy League.

Oh no, they're not nearly this fabulous turdy.

No, but it's giving like older gentlemen.

I think it's giving student.

I think it's giving college student as an perhaps it's giving TA on the track to professor.

No.

It's a little collegiate.

Collegiate.

For sure.

In the student category, I think.

Okay.

I mean, it's mine.

I'm not insulting.

It's not insulting if it's mine, but you look great.

Thanks.

And you're giving like 2018 toast.

What do you mean, 2018?

It's right here.

No, I know, but like, I just feel like I'm used to looking at this every day, but when I see the print in action, I'm like, those were the days.

Forgive me for trying to create synergy, as this is from one of our sponsors today that I will be discussing in the latter half of the show.

So it's like, if you were to stand in front of the wall, you'll disappear.

Because I'm so tiny.

It's because you're so tiny.

Yeah.

Today's Thursday.

It's our last in-studio episode of the week.

Tomorrow's episode is audio only.

Kind of our version of a Summer Friday, if you will.

It is, because it's a holiday weekend, and the sweater's also giving a little July 4th.

A little, yes, it is.

A little red, white, and blue.

Ah, the best weekend of the year.

And today, this year it falls on a Tuesday, which is interesting.

Yeah, because they have to give us like 12 days off.

Right.

They have no choice.

So there's like,

if you have a summer Friday, a lot of people work from home on Friday.

So you get like Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday.

But you're not going to go into work on Monday when July 4th is Tuesday.

What a waste.

But then next year, very interesting.

I think the best possible day for the, you know, the working woman that July 4th could fall on is a Wednesday because either you go Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, or Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.

You know, you could do the back half or the front half.

For sure, but like everyone kind of has to be in agreement on what we're going to do.

We'll figure it out next year.

I'm leaning towards Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

I would agree.

And then also that means you get a little of the Tuesday before July 4th Eve.

Nobody's working on the July 4th Eve.

It's interesting.

It sucks when a holiday falls on like a Saturday.

It's so not worth it.

That'll happen in like five years.

Yeah, but you know what?

There's two sevenths of times where it falls on the weekend.

There's five sevenths of times where it falls.

There's two sevenths.

But kind of three sevenths, because it falls on a Friday.

It's not like amazing.

It's just Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

I could talk endlessly about holidays.

Like add it to Claudia's list of favorite things.

I wonder if there's like a committee or a department in government that like

does holiday logistics.

I think it's us.

Like the way we talk about it, we should be paid for our time.

We spend so much time thinking about it.

I feel like literally everyone with a job does.

Like they're always thinking about what holiday is coming up and like how to maximize the time off.

Yeah.

I think that's why Thanksgiving is such a great holiday because it's like a dedicated day.

There's always Thursday.

And you know you're getting four days plus a little Wednesday night.

Yeah.

And you can count on that.

And Thanksgiving, I mean, let's keep talking about holidays.

Thanksgiving is just an amazing holiday.

Like, I don't have one complaint about Thanksgiving.

I love the time of year.

I love the aesthetic.

It's like very autumnal folklore vibes.

I love Thanksgiving.

It's one of my favorites.

Yeah, I agree.

So I guess you could say like a holiday falling on a Thursday is good too.

Yeah, you could say that.

So Friday is the only dicey day.

Saturday and Sunday too.

That sucks.

Like imagine if Thanksgiving was on a Saturday and like it just wasn't special.

No.

I'd like to meet the man and shake his hand who decided thursdays would be i think it's because thanksgiving thursday we're thankful throwback thursday thanksgiving i think it was kind of like a branding thing which i love in alliteration i wouldn't mind if it was wanksgiving though

because then

we'd get wednesday off too yeah and tuesday night you know

and while we're at it thanksgiving what about thanksgiving it wouldn't work because then we'd only have monday off and we have so many holidays like that which are nice, Memorial Day.

Right, but they're not complaining.

But they're no Wanksgiving.

They're no Thanksgiving either.

No, that's for damn, sure.

Yeah, but it's funny how they don't have a federal holiday that's always on a Wednesday.

Right.

And maybe if everybody started celebrating Wanksgiving, we could talk about it.

Maybe

Friendsgiving could become

an official holiday.

But we're already off.

Oh, it's the Friday before.

No, Thanksgivings are always the week, like the Thursday before.

People do it like the week before.

Oh, is there really that much

and

rules?

Yeah, like, yeah, there is.

People change.

Structure.

People take Frank's Giving really seriously.

Maybe I'm just bitter because I don't have any friends.

Friendsgiving is giving Galentines.

Sadness.

Friendsgiving is giving Galentines.

And I'm good.

As much as I want more holidays, I don't want those.

No, I completely agree.

Don't invite me to your gals 10 times.

Galentine's birthday.

Birthday.

I can't talk.

But don't invite her to your Galentine's birthday.

Don't, don't.

My birthday is coming up.

I haven't even really been speaking about it.

I'm so mature.

You haven't been speaking on it?

No, I haven't.

Do you want to come on here today to talk about it?

No, but speaking of people who like came on to talk about, do we have a story today about Colleen?

No, because

I like it.

No, because it's like...

Just so confusing.

It's deep interaction.

I am not versed enough in her history and then like all the stuff that's happening now.

I've seen some things.

I've read some articles.

You've sent me some videos, but I still not enough for me to like form an opinion about this person.

I don't know her.

No, same.

I don't really know what the backstory is, but all I know is that Colleen, who does like Miranda Sings, she's like an OG YouTuber, is like found herself in like some sort of scandal.

And as YouTubers do, they went online to make a video about it.

And she took a different approach.

It definitely feels like something I might do, where she sat down with a ukulele and sang her.

apology slash non-apology.

It wasn't an apology.

She was addressing things.

Right.

And it was truly one of of the weirdest things i've ever seen it was like a 10 minute song and she was also like acting and then she like stopped but then she started again and i commend her because you know the apology addressing video it's it's a tale as old as time it's almost formulaic at this point where it doesn't feel like the person is really

Like they're just doing it to do it.

They're a hostage.

Right.

In a crisis.

So I commend her for taking a different route.

If it didn't send a chill of cringe down my spine, I would commend her more.

But I think, I actually, I like the approach that she took.

One, because she's trying something new.

different

and two because it really it's a pretty smart tactic It's very distracting and now we're just talking about like the cringe what a weird video not what she did.

That's actually very true.

Allegedly.

That's very true.

So I like it because why

I like it.

And I like that we have a great show today.

We didn't do deer toasters yesterday because we had a guest and I just wanted the guests to be able to like, you know.

Speak their truth.

Yeah.

And so we have deer toasters today.

We've got great stories and it's just like a gorgeous Thursday.

Except on my way to work today, I walked and there was all this like a kerfuffle on the corner.

And I was like, what is going on?

You always find yourself in the kerfuffle.

I know.

I'm kind of like a woman of the streets.

You're in the farthest gump of kerfuffles.

100%.

I run towards drama and there were all these people and there were fire trucks.

And then I turned the corner and I saw that Tiffany's, the iconic Fifth Avenue location, the flagship store, which has been under renovation for like three years and just reopened like their new fancy facility was literally in flames.

There was like tons of fire trucks, smoke pouring out everywhere.

Everyone was standing around filming.

So

yeah, sorry to them.

Hope everyone's okay.

I hope everyone's okay.

But like, my God, they literally just...

No, actually.

Just smoke.

Just smoke.

But they did open a restaurant in the new, they redid the whole thing, revamped it.

It took many years, and now they have a restaurant.

I have to imagine that perhaps it started in the restaurant.

That's a good theory.

Unless anyone was just like striking matches in the jewelry display section.

Maybe someone lit a cigarette.

Well, you heard it here first.

Tiffany is ablaze.

Yeah, they're still working on it.

Oh, you when you got?

Yeah, I had to, I was rerouted.

That took me forever to get here.

Crazy times, news.

And I couldn't, like, get out and walk.

Because of the smoke.

No, because I'm not like in walking form.

Form.

100%.

So.

Crazy.

You heard it here first.

Woman on the streets.

I got interviews with everyone.

And what were they saying?

Did you get the cause?

No, everyone was really standing around filming.

Like, it was so

ridiculous.

It is, but, like, I was too.

And I felt like so dumb.

How long did you stay there to film?

10 seconds.

Okay, then that's fine.

It's like, it's like the kind of thing I'm like, oh my God, everyone was filming.

And then I was like, damn, wait, the people need to know.

Got to film.

But like, I have an audience of people.

Like, I'm different.

I do have a duty because I had coffee for breakfast.

You have a duty to do.

I have a duty to do, dadoo, which is what we're about to do, dadoo.

How is do, dadu?

Theo's doing well, really doing well,

putting the family on his back,

being a ray of sunshine.

It takes its toll.

It does, but he handles it with such grace, you would never know the pressures that he's under.

You would never know what's going on behind the scenes.

Yeah, I saw him yesterday.

I saw Bruno yesterday.

And he was looking fine as ever.

Yeah, those walks, when he goes out on his walks, that's like me time for Theo.

Like he recharges his battery so that he can continue to give and give and give, and we can continue to take and take and take.

Yeah, that's beautiful.

Yeah, it's the cycle of life.

It's beautiful.

Should we dive in?

I guess so.

Stories are, there's a lot to know today, but it's like, I don't know that it's going to be like

hot take central.

You know what I mean?

That's what I mean.

They're stories.

Well, I haven't heard them yet, so I'll see what I can come up with.

No, you'll see.

You'll see.

It's just like news, you know?

Yeah.

So without further ado, did it do, here are the fast five stories that are news that you need to know.

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Thank you, Claudia.

You're welcome.

Also, not to get sidetracked because I know the stories are waiting for us, but you had your book club last night.

I did.

It was a great success.

It was so, we drove.

You know, I've been talking about that for like

how were the dynamics in the car?

Well, they were really good until Abe got in the car and we realized he was so quiet.

And I turn around and he's reading because he didn't finish the book, which is like a big no-no.

You know, come on, like, finish the book.

And I understand it was 700 pages.

And if I can finish it, anyone can.

That's true.

Also, just reading in a car is a crazy thing to do.

I read in cars.

I could never.

I wish I could.

I'd be so much more well-read.

Yeah, I read like all the time in cars.

And I mean, you could have put on the audio tape for him and could have all listened.

Why?

Like, we had to do it.

You have to do it.

You know, it was every man for themselves.

Yeah, but how did the book go over?

Without a hit, without a.

Oh, the book went over.

The group was divided.

Mixed reviews.

Well, we were operating on a smaller book club.

Two of our members couldn't come.

So So five out of seven.

And three of us loved, two of us did not like,

which sparked interesting debate.

Yeah.

But something crazy happened.

We went to the suburbs.

One of our members lives in New Jersey.

We crossed interstate lines.

And the craziest thing happened.

So we all left.

Me and

Abe are like close to the car in the driveway.

And Margo and Rachel are like saying goodbye to Raquel, whose house it was.

So they're like in the yard.

I would say there's about 20 feet between us

and literally it's pitch black

right behind Rachel and Margo probably three feet behind them the biggest deer you've ever seen in your life but it was behind them they didn't know I literally you know when you're so like freaked you can't say I'm like Rachel

like I couldn't speak deer And they turn around and the deer is chilling like nothing.

Deer are supposed to be afraid of human.

No, they're walking.

He's getting closer.

Margo and Rachel are beelining.

They made it to the car safely.

No one seemed like as scared as I was, and I wasn't even in imminent danger, which is so crazy.

It's so dirty.

And then I ended up having a nightmare about a lion

near Olivia's house who was like obsessed with me and kept like breaking into their house to like cuddle with me.

It was definitely connected to the deer incident.

For sure, but maybe like sprinkled with a bit of Theo's subconscious.

Yeah, actually, the way the lion kind of circled and then plopped down on my legs was Theo to a a tee.

I was like giving Theo.

Yeah, but I was pretty scarved.

So what you're saying is the deer run this town.

Yeah, well, in New Jersey.

In New York, the rats run this town.

I guess in New Jersey, the deer run this town.

Doesn't sound so bad.

It was kind of a beautiful deer.

Yeah.

But it was just like this huge animal.

It was crazy.

Wow.

Yeah.

So so much drama.

The book club is always causing drama.

Don't they always?

Yeah.

And it's kind of like the point of a book club.

I feel like people join a book club.

They think it's like, you know, a nice

awesome social activity.

But like book clubs, they're just just also looking for a bit of drama i feel like it's really the whole point yeah it's our book

our book club doesn't have like actual drama but i'm always trying to find an angle you know yeah well you should choose a book that would be really divisive yeah find like the weak spot of the book club and exploit it yeah i just really why i love my book club It's because I always eat good.

Last night we had like such a good home cooked meal.

We had spaghetti, we had salmon, we had

potatoes.

So when you have it at your place, what do you guys eat?

So actually, I haven't hosted yet.

Everyone loves to host.

It's not like, oh, who's hosting this month?

That's why we call ourselves the Bala Busta Book Club because we're all like real homemakers except for me.

So there's never been like, oh, damn, where are we going to do it this month?

You know, next month we've got two people fighting.

Oh.

Natalie wants to do it and Abe wants to do it.

So until there's like a drought, then I'll be like, okay, I'll do it.

But so far, it's not.

Slim piggins.

What would you cook?

Would you have Ben prepare something?

It depends.

It depends on like where I'm at that week, like busy-wise.

Either I would have Ben cook, I would have like a caterer, or I would just order in kosher food.

Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah.

I thought you were gonna say, or you would try and cook.

Fuck no.

It's like literally not even an option.

No.

No, I would have like pre-prepared from like a Park East or like a kosher grocer.

Yeah.

Yeah, no, I'm not cooking.

Beautiful.

But so far, nobody's asked.

Okay.

I also love the book club because it gives me such good fodder for the podcast.

Totally.

That's like the Redheads.

New episode drops next week.

I feel like it's been so long since there's been a Redheads.

It has been because the first Thursday of July is like in the

July 6th, I think, because maybe the first day is like a Wednesday.

That happens sometimes.

And it's really nice.

We get a lot of extra time.

And we recorded our June episode a week early because of Memorial Day.

So we literally have like six weeks in between episodes.

I've never read so many books.

We always share at the end like how many books we read in the off season.

I've never had this many.

Like I'm a little embarrassed.

There's no way.

We do that in our book club too.

It's like at the end.

We're like, what else did everyone read this month?

I read eight books this month.

Oh my god, I read nine.

It's crazy.

It's crazy.

Also, those fucking Frida McFaddens sneak up on you.

She's also so quick.

Yeah, like I have three Frida McFaddens.

Yep.

What can you do?

Nothing.

Nothing.

So let's get into the stories.

The top story of the day is that Madonna was rushed to the hospital.

She's been intubated in the ICU after being found unresponsive.

Now, what does intubated mean?

Like in a tube?

Oh, a tube.

Yeah, like she's held breathing.

Oh, man.

I was thinking like a hyperbaric chamber.

No, no.

Oh, a tube.

Intubated.

That's like what they put COVID patients on.

Right.

Oh, like respirator vibes?

Vibes, but I think it's more for the lungs.

Damn.

Yeah.

And did they say why?

There's like some things going on.

Her

manager had said that she developed a serious bacterial infection, which led to a several days stay in the ICU.

I saw a headline that she's been rehearsing for her tour.

She had like 12 days of like non-stop

going

and practicing and whatnot.

but to be intubated that sounds like the exhaustion right you get like dehydration you go for like a you can go to the hospital but it's not like I see you right and she was found unresponsive damn

and then taken to the hospital so it sounds very serious it does but also they obviously kept this under wraps because

she's like now it it's not like I feel like sometimes we get the news it's like Madonna found unresponsive and then we wait days to hear what happened.

Yeah.

Like she was able to keep this private and then her manager was able to tell everyone when they were sort of out of the woods.

Yeah, because it was Saturday that she was rushed to the hospital.

Oh, and today's what?

Thursday.

So, yeah.

So she's now out of the ICU, but she's still under medical care and a full recovery is expected.

I wonder if she'll still go on tour.

It depends what happened.

Like what actually happened.

Yeah.

I wouldn't.

be surprised if there's more to the story than what they feel comfortable sharing and that's totally fine.

But that's really scary.

Quick question question about speaking about tours.

Do we have Lizzo as a story today?

No, some things got cut.

Some there are stories on the cutting room floor.

I do quickly want to talk about it.

Did you see what happened with Lizzo?

I saw, no,

I saw a headline.

Lizzo went to see Beyonce, and then she, like, of course, was like so like obsessed.

She went on her Instagram or her TikTok and made like a couple of videos just about how amazing it was.

And the real key message of what she had said was like, what Beyonce's doing is so

like incomprehensible.

And she's not even going to be like appreciated in her own time.

Like years and years in the future, like we will be able to really understand what Beyonce was doing.

Like the most popular thing right now pales in comparison to Beyonce's tour.

And it did feel, you know, very pointed because Beyonce and Taylor are really on the same tour right now.

They're playing the same venues in the same countries at the same level with the same amount of people.

But Taylor's tour has really overtaken the narrative.

I don't really see like a ton of stories or

chatter about Beyonce's tour.

It's like they're both equally as impressive, but something about Taylor's tour has just gotten, you know, the media and the fans talking more.

And so it was, it felt like what Lizzo was saying was definitely like a little bit of a slight at Taylor, the most popular person right now, like won't even compare to what we all really, when we all finally understand what Beyonce is doing.

So it felt pointed.

Did she say what Beyonce is doing or just

vaguely doing?

Yeah, yeah.

She was speaking vaguely.

Okay.

And then I do believe she had to end up deactivating her Twitter because the Swifties came after her.

And, you know, the Swifties can be deeply unwell.

And they were like, you know, being inappropriate about her body.

And I think it got like racist.

So

it was an interesting saga.

I think the conversation, though, like, I do think, I actually do think that Lizzo doesn't like Taylor Swift because there's like been one other time she was on live with Sizza and Taylor came up.

And it was right after the Grammys

and Sizza was like kind of gushing about Taylor because Taylor's like a big fan of Sizza and I think Taylor like beelined for Sizza at the Grammys to like you know fawn over her and Lizzo just like stayed quiet like literally just stayed quiet that's so interesting and I do feel like if they did get along there would be examples that we could cite of like you know them interacting interacting but you know what not everyone has to get along agreed and and in real life a lot of people don't get along so when celebrities are like so phony like they get along with everyone.

It's phony.

It's phony.

So I'm totally fine with them not getting along.

It does feel like a pointed message, but I also feel like Taylor is doing all the things that she's doing.

And of course, people are obsessed with her, but she also knows how to

market and drive headlines and everything.

Even the two different songs, every it's a marketing thing.

Yeah, it's marketing.

And that's what she does.

And like they're just different.

Like her and Beyonce are just different people.

Like Beyonce's just like doing her show.

Also, Beyonce started her tour internationally, and Taylor started her store, her tour in America.

And then they're literally going to swap.

Like, next year is when Beyonce comes in.

I'm sure you're going to be hearing all about Beyonce's tour.

And like, all the people that you follow are going to Beyonce's tour.

And all the celebrities are going to be going.

Right.

It's, yeah, I think they're going to swap in terms.

And I'm sure it was done on purpose.

Like, I'm sure Taylor knew that Beyonce was planning a tour and Beyonce knew that Taylor was planning a tour.

And they probably had to fight for dates.

So one of them choosing to start internationally was clearly like a decision.

Yeah.

So, I just think it's interesting.

And like, when Taylor's international, like, I don't think we're going to be talking about like every single secret song and all the guests.

Yeah.

So, while I think the Swifties really need to calm down, like,

I do wonder, like, what Lizzo's thing with Taylor is.

Yeah.

Because that like live stream with her and SZZA, like, she was literally, she just shot, like, Lizzo, Sizza was saying, did I say Lizza?

No, but you almost did.

Sizza was just like, like, gushing over Taylor, and Lizzo did not move.

That's funny.

Or respond.

Interesting factoid.

Yeah.

Are you ready for our next story?

A little more medical news.

Pete Davidson is in rehab, but is expected out pretty soon.

So, Pete Davidson has checked into treatment.

People has confirmed a source close to the SNL alum tells people he's in rehab, but he should be getting out pretty soon.

He's said to be receiving inpatient therapy to address issues related to post-traumatic traumatic stress disorder and his prior borderline personality disorder diagnosis, according to the initial report by page six a source close to him said pete will often check himself into rehab to work on these issues his friends and family have been supportive during this time he's been very open about his mental health yeah struggles um

and we've reported he's had some not great moments moments and uh the car crash behavior recently so i think this comes the voicemail What voicemail?

That he left for PETA.

Oh, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like, it was funny, but it was unhinged.

Mostly, the car crash was just bizarre.

Very bizarre.

So, I'm glad he's getting the help that he needs.

It seems like he goes to rehab, like, it's like a tune-up for him.

Yeah.

It's something that he'll constantly have to keep doing.

Keep up with.

Because it did seem like he was not in his best place.

Yeah, but it also feels like for the last few weeks, like, since the PETA thing, he's been very quiet.

So, like, him getting treatment like makes sense timeline-wise.

Yeah.

If he's almost done.

Yeah, I don't know how long treatment me neither.

But wishing him well.

I wonder if him and Chase Suey Wonders are still together.

I think that they are.

This article still calls her his girlfriend.

And they've been together for like a long time.

Yeah.

And she's not the typical girl like he's been seen with back-to-back over the last few years.

He always went with someone like older, more famous, kind of buzzy.

And she, I think they worked on something together.

She's not like crazy famous at all.

Yeah.

And I think they're probably really well suited for each other.

They're both like low-key.

Well, I don't know her very well, but I hope that she's a good influence on him and what she does in her personal life.

So true.

That's so true.

Good call.

So wishing him well.

Everyone is, you know,

fallen, ill.

I know.

That's what the stories are.

Yeah.

That's what I'm saying.

Yeah.

Are you ready for our next story?

Oh, you don't have a hot take on Pete going to rehab?

No.

I don't think he needs it.

That I do think that he needs it or I think he doesn't need it.

You think that he should stay spiraling?

No.

Is that your hot take?

No.

No.

I've said, like, I'm glad he's catching it before it gets, like, there was obviously some erratic behavior happening and now he's getting help.

Yeah, yeah.

yeah.

I'm happy for him.

Know how take?

Know how to take.

I support him.

You do.

As a person.

Like I want the best for him.

Yeah.

You know?

Yeah.

Are you ready for our next story?

Yeah.

Which is some really sweet family news because John Legend has shared a photo with his four kids after Chrissy Teigen revealed yesterday that they welcomed secretly another baby via surrogate.

By the way, the story was so confusing to me at first because I'm like, yeah, we know.

She just had a baby.

I got like people notification.

Chrissy Teigen welcomes a new child.

I'm like, yeah, we know people.

We know.

But no.

So Chrissy Teigen had a baby five months ago.

And then I guess just this week, they welcomed a baby via surrogate on June 19th.

Okay, so 10 days ago,

named Wren, a son.

And then they still have their two older children.

So now I'm going to be.

Miles Luna.

What was the

30?

Cute.

And Ren.

Cute.

So family of four now.

And she put like a whole statement on her Instagram explaining, like, they had, after she lost her baby, they did a surrogate and it didn't take she wanted twins she really always wanted four kids and it didn't take but then she did IVF like there was a million things going on at once and two things actually happened to stick and I think that like they loved this surrogate that they had met and I think their baby's middle name is actually for the surrogate Ren Alexandra or Alexander and then the surrogate's name is Alexandra which is really sweet um

so that's so nice for them so nice for them and you know what I had an interesting thought because Chrissy has a five-month-old and I think she's breastfeeding.

And so I wonder if she'll be able to breastfeed the new baby.

For sure.

How nice is that?

That is nice.

Like little life hack.

Yeah.

By the way, definitely.

If she wants, oh, did she say she's breastfeeding?

No, I didn't see anything about it.

I was just like thinking about it.

Because also like there's this photo of her breastfeeding Esti.

Oh, so Esti's five months.

I don't know how old the baby is here, not five months.

Right, but if she is still breastfeeding, she can breastfeed.

I'm sure she thought about that.

It's called tandem feeding.

that's

insane

each breast a kid on each titty uh-huh damn if you were still breastfeeding Harry which you're not but like some people do go what is he 15 months 16 yeah like some people do you know we all saw Game of Thrones so would you tandem what do you mean oh if Harry was still breastfeeding so well it's also complicated to breastfeed during a pregnancy like oh is it yeah um Typically, like you can do it and people do it and I have no

like if you're doing it, I think that's awesome.

but um some doctors recommend like stopping at a certain point because it can like induce labor oh to you know some people actually like you will use their breast pump if they're trying to go into labor like it's like one of the things you know like walking spicy food stuff having sex yeah doing that interesting I mean Harry's teeth are literally the craziest thing I've ever seen in my life.

They're so fucking sharp.

Yeah.

One time he accidentally bit me.

I swear to God, I had to go to the hospital.

Like their fangs, I would not let that near your nipple.

Yeah.

So, would I tandem feed, like, at the same time, probably not logistically, it would be too hard, especially with like a newborn.

They're so like tiny and Harry's enormous.

Right.

And

maybe I would like do it once to like just

a new experience.

But also, Harry being as old as he is, he would probably, if he were still breastfeeding, would only be like once or twice a day, whereas the baby would be eating like eight times a day.

So it's just like it's not gonna work.

No, I'm okay.

But that's like when you have twins, that's what you do.

Right.

Right.

You know, the twins is the dream for me.

Even though I know like the year, maybe two years like after, like, would be the worst and like the hardest.

And I was thinking, like, okay, do you need two different nurseries when you have twins?

Because, like, what if one of them wakes up and starts crying and then the other one wakes up?

Yeah, so.

Like, no, you don't need two different nurseries.

I do wonder about them waking each other up, but like, you have to remember, like, they've been together for 10 months.

Like, to separate them, it's giving three identical strangers.

But you can't put two twins in the the same bassinet or the same crib i think people i don't know how people sleep the how the twins actually sleep but like i've seen photos on instagram of like two twins in the crib napping right like this town is big enough for the two of us but it might just be like because it looks nice and it sounds nice but right but like the american pediatric association says no i think you do wind up getting like two bassinets and then when they're bigger you get two cribs but maybe like they hang out in the same bassinet because you want that warmth of your twin.

I used to like, I think like when I was a kid and I was like very self-absorbed, I used to think like being a twin was the worst thing that could have, like if I was a twin, like I would not be okay like sharing everything, sharing the spotlight.

But now as an adult who like is gonna have children, one, it's awesome for the mom.

And two, like what's better

than having like a built-in frame built-in best friend.

Yeah.

Like two of my best friends, one who's in the book club, Ana doesn't read, but Rachel does.

They are like best friends.

They live in the same building.

They like are, one of them has a baby, another one's having a baby.

Like it's so, they work together.

Like, what's better?

sounds like us it does sound like us so I feel like you've had a lot of the twin experience and I do feel like if you were an actual twin like a born twin like you wouldn't you couldn't see it the way no no no no not at all you couldn't possibly be as like

lively as you are like because you would

you share more so like balancing off another person yeah I just think like every new life experience would be so much easier.

Not that they came off as saying like twins aren't lively, but like, you know what I mean?

I know what you mean.

You know what I mean?

Like, you would always be a half.

Yeah.

Of a unit.

Of a unit.

Which has enormous benefits.

Yes.

Like going to a new school, starting camp.

Like, you have a friend.

Like, you're not, like, feeling awkward.

Yeah.

And then on another level, because it's also like siblings.

I felt that way so many times like with Olivia.

Yeah, but like even with you and Olivia, like starting a new camp or starting a new school, like you're different grades.

Yes, no when we started a new school, we were different grades.

That was actually hard.

But when we started a new camp, we just like requested each other on our like, you know, when they started.

And they put you in the same bunk.

Do you know anyone?

And so I was like, Malivia.

And they put us in the same bunk, which was crazy because I think you were twins.

Yes.

Before we came to camp, they were like, oh, the two Asha girls had her in the same bunk.

Like, they're two twins.

Probably twins.

Yeah.

And we were not.

But it worked out nice.

Yeah.

Very nice.

Yeah.

I still want to have twins.

I'll take quintuplets.

Okay, but I've been sending you, I get like, I know.

Oh, did you see what I sent you?

Yeah, like the actual stomach.

No, and then also like the after effects.

Like it's really hard.

It moves all your organs and like your abdominal wall.

And that woman that I sent you, she was in a lot of pain.

Damn.

Years later.

Oh.

And then

she wasn't, I forget where she was from, but her captions weren't in English.

And so I was reading them via translate.

And didn't translate it.

I didn't understand everything, but she said, like, there's a surgery for it, but like sometimes the surgery, like, it's still painful.

Damn.

Like, nobody talks about that.

Yeah, she was going to be on, like, if she was like Swedish or something, she was going to be on a TV program about it.

How exciting.

Yeah.

First time I was ever on television was on a Swedish TV program.

It sounds like they have great programming.

Sounds like they do.

Interesting stuff.

Anyways, congratulations to the Legend Tegan family.

Yeah, that's really nice.

It's so crazy how like literally in a few months you go from being a family of three to a family of five.

In a few months, you go from being a family of, oh, sorry.

Yeah.

I thought you meant kids-wise.

Except two to four.

No, sorry, family of four to a family of six.

Yeah.

That's crazy.

Yeah.

Hmm.

I'm happy to them.

That's crazy to have a sibling that would be five years, five months younger than you.

Oh, you're in the same grade, but you're not twins.

Yeah.

That's crazy.

They would call that Irish twins, but this is not Irish twins.

What's Irish twins?

When they would be from the same gestational carrier, same mother.

But they do have the same mother.

But like getting pregnant and then getting pregnant like immediately after and having two kids within one year.

Okay, that's not the same.

And not the same as this.

This is crazy.

Like they're going to be in the same grade and everything, but they won't be twins.

Yeah, that's crazy.

But like if if you gave birth and then, like, say, a month later got pregnant again, and then, like, that I know.

That's Irish twins.

I get it.

Cool.

Yeah.

Are you ready for our next story?

Yeah.

Bravo is planning a Vanner Pump Rule spin-off with Jax, Kristen, and Brittany, says a report.

So, Bravo is reportedly working on a Vanner Pump Rule spin-off.

According to a deadline report published on Wednesday, the new show is said to include former cast members Jax Taylor, Brittany Cartwright, and Kristen Doty.

While deals have yet not been confirmed, the Owl reported that the new reality series will feature an eight-episode season.

That's so little.

Yeah, I guess it's a test.

Yeah, I mean, I think people have been talking about this for so long.

There was before everyone got fired, there was like a lot of rumors about Valley Village becoming its own show and everyone having kids, maybe like all the moms being on one show.

And I do think with the new like kind of renaissance of Vanderpump rules, the more content, the better.

But I do think this particular show really needs Stasi.

Yeah.

Do you talk to her about it a little bit?

On the toast, I don't think that I did.

I talked about her return to reality TV.

And she said it depends on the show.

I asked her if it was completely off the table and she said no.

Like she does miss it.

And she's so like built for it.

And she still has this huge fan base.

And I don't know if that means like her own show, but I do think like this would probably be a good return for her.

And there is like drama there, like between her, Jackson Brittany, and her and Bo.

We like never really got a lot of Bo and Bo's such like an integral part of her podcast and her tour and her fans love him.

So I actually feel like this is probably like the right move for her, but I don't know if she'll do it.

Yeah,

I agree with them.

Especially now they have like all have kids.

They need like the show sounds good, but they need more.

Of course, it can't just be the three of them.

I'm sure they're trying to get other people who we know, and then maybe some people that we don't know.

Yeah, like we knew of friends of theirs who have maybe also like have kids and live in the valley, yeah.

And then, like, do you think that I guess Sheena and Lala

at one point might have like jump-shipped?

At one point, yes, but no, even though like Lala's so close to like stasi

and i think she's close with britney too yeah lala really like does fit on this new format yeah but no not you know what you would never leave if they didn't leave the sinking ship they're certainly not gonna leave you know the royal caribbean right

yeah i don't know and we knew this was coming and i think there's been so many like rumors about this over the years even before you know skandball and then he just But there's so many rumors about Vanderpump Pros in general that I don't really pay much mind to.

I think what had happened was like before COVID and before everyone got fired and they were like working with like Charlie and the new girls they did think about making this spin-off show for like all the married older like OG castmates then when everyone got fired I think it was like whatever and then with the renaissance of Vanderpump Rules with Scandival they were like wait look at look how many people were tuning into these podcasts with Jax Brittany Stasi Kristen like there was so much Fanfare and hype for them that now it makes sense to bring the like I think the idea has always been there and it's been on the table then off the table now I think it's back on the table yeah

I'm here for it me too like say what you want about Jax, but that man is made for television.

And also, now all of these people are watching old seasons of Vanderpump Rules for the first time.

They're falling in love with Stasi and Kristen and

just feeling really passionate about these characters.

Like there's an audience for them.

That's so true.

Now it's like the second wave.

Yeah.

I think it's good.

I would watch it.

100%.

Are you ready for our fifth and final story?

Yeah.

It's a little submersible update.

It's been a few days since we've had one, but presumed human remains have been recovered from the Titan sub-wreckage, the Coast Guard says.

So crews have recovered presumed human remains while searching through the wreckage of the Titan submersible, according to the U.S.

Coast Guard.

Medical professionals will conduct a formal analysis of what is believed to be human remains that were carefully recovered within the wreckage at the site of the incident, the Coast Guard said in a news release.

The Coast Guard also said that the Marine Board of Investigation intends to transport the evidence aboard a U.S.

Coast Guard and cutter to a port in the U.S.

where they'll be able to facilitate further analysis and testing.

Yeah, they got like paparazzi footage of them like loading out all the different pieces of the submersible.

And I have to imagine

like it was sealed.

So even when it like combusts, there's probably like body parts in there, no?

Yeah, I didn't, when they announced like that they had found like debris on the ocean floor and that the thing imploded, like I did not imagine that the pieces would be this big.

Yeah, well, at first they said it like exploded, whatever, but then like I saw a bunch of experts being like, because of the pressure, it actually probably

like compounded like I don't know what the right word is

folded into like shrunk almost like so and everyone would have just like instantly been

so that tracks with what I saw but no way I don't think it exploded like to bits I was thinking to bits and for me like the word debris like we we have some conversations what debris means but to me it meant bits.

Yeah, like shrapnel.

Yeah.

Like

and then it's like how do you even recover that on the ocean floor?

So yeah, this, like, I mean, I'm sure this will bring some more peace to the families to like have their remains found and give a proper burial.

Perhaps.

I can't really imagine like what condition

people's bodies are in.

No, but like

it brings peace.

It's like, and closure.

Right.

Like you can like physically lay someone to rest.

Yeah.

So sad.

Like this whole

saga.

I guess it like it really did end in one of the better possibilities, like, in terms of, like, they were, like, they were dead, but all of the ways that they could have died, or, or maybe we never even found out, like, of all the ways, like, this is one of the better ones, like, in terms of like peace of mind.

Yes.

But it's like the saddest thing.

Yeah.

Oh, and I saw this morning that the company, Titan, plans on, like, continuing these sort of excavations.

Will there be any changes?

I'm sure, but I can't imagine a singular person would go now, like knowing what we all know.

Yeah.

Like, I imagine that the people who went this time and all previous times, like, really imagined it was a safe excursion.

But, like, now we know it's not.

So, anybody going has that understanding?

Like, this was so sad because these people went on what they thought was like a routine, totally safe, people had done it before, made it even scarier.

But, like, now we all know.

So, if anyone's going, like, first of all, what are you doing?

And second of all, like, you know now.

Yeah.

Like, you have the knowledge of you might not come back because other people haven't.

Yeah, but I think for some thrill seekers and adventurers and explorers, that's always a risk.

Yeah.

But they.

But I didn't feel like this particular group of people was like thrill-seeking.

You know, they were like older.

Not necessarily thrill-seeking, but explorers is the right word.

I guess they were just like businessmen.

No, but like Hamish had done adventures like this before.

To the, I think the father and son.

Not the son, but the father and then the French naval expert were both really big Titanic fanatics.

Right.

Damn.

And then the son was supporting his dad.

Yeah.

Terrible.

Really terrible.

Well, but glad to have some closure.

Yeah, it's like a wrap on that.

Yeah.

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Mm-hmm.

Dear Jackson Claude, every Sunday, my husband and his 70-year-old best friend go on long bike rides.

Post-bike ride, my husband makes his friend breakfast at our home.

Breakfast usually lasts about two hours.

Here's my issue.

During the breakfast portion of their Sundays, the 70-year-old is walking around my house and eating breakfast with his shirt off, wearing only small, tight biking shorts.

I've explained to my husband that it's really disgusting and neither one of us knows how to approach a situation without hurting the elderly man's feelings.

Any advice would be wonderful.

So I have to imagine that his shirt is sweaty, right?

That's why he took it off.

So imagine your husband just offer him an old t-shirt.

But maybe he's also sweaty and like wants to dry off.

No, I get it, but like the thing is, like you're really never going to change a 70-year-old habit.

And you can't and you, it's honestly disrespectful to try.

Mmm, hot take.

Yeah.

She said she wasn't going to have many hot takes, but she does.

I said that's a story.

Yeah.

Like at 70 years old, like you have to let them be.

You have to earn the right to do things the way that he wants.

I do feel for you because this would bother me as well.

Could they eat outside, perhaps?

That's nice.

Do you have a patio or a balcony?

Alfresco dining.

And then in the winter, he'll be so cold he'll put it on a jacket.

Okay, so that's a good option.

Suggest eating outside.

I also don't think it would hurt to be like, hey, I'm going to grab a clean shirt.

Want one?

You know, like, ask.

Yeah.

What's wrong with you?

Media is a crazy thing to do.

I'm not saying this is like...

It's something only a 70-year-old can get away with.

Yeah.

And it's gross, like chest hair, like it's gross.

We're eating.

We're in the kitchen.

He just worked out.

And then you're sitting on my chair.

Like, trust me, I'm with you.

We empathize.

But at some point, like, 70-year-olds are going to do their thing.

And, like, you really can't change their habits.

You know, they are who they are at this point.

Yeah.

That's really a perk of getting older.

People stop asking so much of you because you're old.

You are who you are.

Right.

Try these two options.

And if it doesn't work, like, let go and let God.

Like, it is what it is.

Maybe they should start going out for breakfast.

Love that.

Alfresco dining has potential.

Depends where do you live.

Yeah.

You're writing in from Alaska, you know?

Or Arizona?

Both have alfresco dining.

Alaska?

Yeah, in the summer?

Right, but Arizona you can eat outside year-round.

But I have to imagine if they were like, if they had like an outdoor setup, like this wouldn't have been, you know, this would have been an option months ago.

Yeah.

But try, just try.

All right, ready?

Hey, girlies.

So I invited my single friend out to go to a concert with my husband and a group of our friends.

We are all close with one of the couples in the group.

Our daughters are best friends with them.

We see them every week for play dates.

But long story short, the wife of this couple couldn't get into the concert because she was too drunk.

So her husband sent her home in an Uber and her husband still went to the concert.

He ended up fucking my single friend by the end of the night on my couch.

Then they proceeded to meet up for breakfast the next day, or sorry, not the next day, the following Monday.

What would you guys do?

Should I tell my friend, aka the wife, should I keep this to myself?

Should I move on?

Oh my God.

I just want to say, like, I know it's not the point here, but like, if I was ever too drunk to get somewhere and Ben sent me home, like, bitch, take me home.

You're not sending me in a random Uber.

Clearly, this couple is not

in the most stable relationship right now.

But I, and I have like a, you know, typically like you mind your own business, whatever.

But like, really, if this were you, like, think about if it were you.

Let me think of like, okay, I have a single friend.

Got it.

And you have a couple friend.

Okay.

Okay.

Like, they're not your best friends, but like they're in your life.

Yep, I'm picturing it.

And the girl went home drunk.

And the husband hooked up with your friend.

What would you do?

I guess in this situation, my allegiance is to my friend.

Right.

Like couple friends are different than like a friend.

You know what I mean?

Yeah, but like a friend who would do this, like I don't want a friend like that, honestly.

Yeah, no, it's, it's deplorable.

I don't know.

I don't know.

The thing is, though, they're, it just, I feel like their relationship is not in a great place.

And like, maybe she doesn't know that they cheat.

Right.

Like, maybe they have an arrangement.

Because like, he's kind of brazen going for breakfast on Monday.

Yeah, you don't just like meet a girl at a concert and like hook up with her on your friend's couch in plain view for the first time of having an affair.

Right, like when everyone knows, like you're not really doing a good job at keeping a secret, it's like you don't really have a lot to lose.

So either therefore your relationship is in a really bad place or you have some sort of arrangement.

So would you tell the friend?

Fuck, I don't know.

I think I would force the husband, who I know as a couple friend, be like, you tell your wife.

Because if you don't, I will.

And honestly, that might be a bluff, but like you just have to, like, it's his problem.

Like, he shit the bed.

And why are you cleaning it up?

I think what I would do in practice, like, really trying to put myself in the situation, is like I would try and talk to the wife and get a better understanding of like their relationship, maybe get her to be.

Like, maybe that's between them, and she's not going to share it with you, and that's not indicative of what's actually going on.

No, no, but like I might poke around first to see what this information might do.

Would it be new news?

This is like a hot potato.

Like, you don't want it.

Like, give it to someone else.

Yeah, but I feel like if it were me, I wouldn't be close enough with the husband to be like, you go tell her.

But you know what?

Like, you have to be assertive.

Like, you're now in this shit situation.

Your single friend, she don't give a fuck.

Like, it's not her relationship.

It's really on the husband.

Of course it is.

But, like, he also had an affair.

Like, why are we expecting?

Yeah, maybe, okay.

Maybe you tell your husband, toaster, tell your husband to talk to the husband who cheated.

Say, you got to tell your wife or else my wife will.

Okay.

I think that's good.

Okay.

It's horrible, especially with the situation I'm thinking in my mind.

And none of these people would do it.

I swear, like none of these people, the single girl in my mind who I thought is like one of my best friends from middle school, I would never think she would, but I just needed like a person, you know?

Yeah.

And this couple love each other.

They would never get never.

But putting myself in the situation, it's it's no bueno.

No, I really feel for you.

Me too.

But I don't think this is one of the situations where you can do nothing.

Cause if they found out, if the wife found out that you knew, oh my God, like you look, you look like an asshole.

No, and also like you have to put yourself in her situation.

Like, would you want to know, like, everyone knows this information except for her?

I would want someone to tell me.

Right.

You look stupid with, with everyone just like talking about it and not telling you.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's true.

So I would want someone to tell me for sure.

Okay.

Here's our third and final.

Hey, Jackson Charity, obsessed with both of you beyond.

I've never laughed as much, so much listening to your podcast and truly feel like y'all are my friends while I'm working from home.

My good thing.

Here's my dilemma.

I've been in my job for a little over a year.

When I took this job, I really wanted the opportunity, but my boss told me during my final interview interview that she was nervous to hire me because I haven't stayed at a job longer than two years.

This was my third job out of college.

I'm in my mid-20s.

I told her just that I'm young.

I'd been working my way up in the industry, taking new opportunities as they come to learn as much as possible.

I did end up getting the job, but I've been waiting over a year at this new job now.

I've been waiting for it to become exciting to me.

I feel very bored, not stimulated.

I just want, I was just offered a new job.

That is such an amazing opportunity in my industry.

It has a 20% pay increase from my current role.

I really want to take the new opportunity, but I'm nervous for future employers thinking that I can't stay at a job for too long.

I don't want it to reflect poorly on my resume.

I really want to take this new opportunity, but I need your thoughts slash validation on taking the new opportunities.

As such established businesswomen, what are your thoughts on this?

Is it bad to like have like to like hop around jobs?

Obviously, three, four, five months are bad, but like a year?

Yeah, I didn't feel like that was such a red flag, but I do feel, yeah, if you're hiring somebody.

Do you know what?

Her boss ended up being right.

I actually was going to say that.

Like, I feel like she's a little bit right.

And so are you.

But if you're hiring someone and you see they only stayed a job for like one, two years, even though that feels like a long time, it's like, I don't wanna be hiring again for this position in two years.

Like, I want someone who's like gonna grow with the company.

Now, since you already have another job lined up, like, I would say go and take it.

Because if you didn't have a job, I would say, don't leave your job and look for a job.

Cause yeah, the two years, the one year, and it does sound a little bit like, admittedly, you're always looking for like the next shiny big thing.

Yeah, you're not easily stimulated.

And it is a job, like a J-O-B, and it's not always going to be exciting.

And you thought this last opportunity a year ago was going to be the opportunity, and now you have another one.

And now I see maybe your boss was onto something.

But if this is a better job with a pay increase and you like, I don't see why.

And you already got it.

And you already got it.

Like, I don't see why not to do it.

And if you're worried about the next job,

thinking that you are a short-term employee, stay at this next job for many years.

Yes, that.

And I feel like you can always finagle a little bit the dates on your resume, like by like a couple months, you know?

Yeah, but a couple months like won't make a big difference but I did think at first like your boss was being like kind of critical you're you too in your mid-20s you're figuring yourself out two years is a long time I agree it's not nothing so but now I'm like oh maybe she's a sooth she was on to something maybe she's a soothsayer because yeah it's then you're saying exactly what she was worried you were gonna say like it's not that interesting or stimulating Jackie's 100% right though like this isn't a problem right now like you have a job offer you got it with more money with a bigger role so you take it but if you can manage to stay at this particular job for for like three years, I think you've eradicated the problem.

Yeah.

Yeah.

You like,

I just, I never know if it's like a good or a bad thing if someone's resume has like a million different jobs.

It's like, well, were you the problem?

And like you, or

are you just like trying to snatch up as much opportunity as possible?

You know, it's good and it's bad.

Yeah, I think that's a question you ask in an interview.

And I think that there are right answers and wrong answers.

You know, like

you are young, maybe you're still trying to find like exactly what you want to do.

but then it leaves it open to being like okay well maybe this job isn't what you want to do either and we're going to be screwed in a few months yeah um

but that's why there's references right can't you call and ask past employers yeah but also take the job take the job unequivocally take the job take the job but definitely keep this in the back of your head like you don't want to be perceived as like a homie hopper yeah

So, and I think honestly her giving you that perspective is really helpful.

Helpful.

Yeah.

Because I would never have really thought of that.

Me neither.

So take the job.

Congratulations.

And also realize, like, not every job every day is going to be exciting and stimulating.

And like,

yeah, a job is all of those things.

It's important to always remember, like, you don't, you work for someone else.

Like, a job is a means to an end.

It's how you go on vacation and enjoy your life and go out for drinks with your friends.

It is not.

Some people it is.

Some people, it's their purpose.

But if it's not, like, that is okay.

Like, having a nine-to-five job that you don't love, but that like affords you the luxury to pay your rent, to live a life that you, that's okay.

Yeah.

It's amazing when you find a passion, but I think people like look down on it if you don't.

And I actually don't.

Like if you, if your job just gets you by, that is a blessing.

And not everyone has that.

Like I think that that's okay too.

Yeah.

I totally agree.

So don't forget that.

I think if you're expecting something from jobs in general

that might not ever come, you're always going to be like looking to the next and the next and not just like blooming where you're planted and being like, listen, I have a good situation.

A salary.

I'm going to make the most of it.

I'm not going to, you know, be finding my joy and my passion and my excitement here, but that's okay.

And that's what the week in my personal life.

And hobbies and side hustles are for.

That's what five to nine is for.

Exactly.

Yeah.

Well, take the job.

Congrats on your new job.

Yeah.

And thank you for writing into Dear Toasters, our weekly advice segment where we do our best to help girlies in need from work, from wedding, from cheating things.

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